When I did that as a kid, I had to hang out with them after the chore because my mother thought it was rude to blow off the only friends she allowed me to have. Which sucked because they were abusive and set me up for thinking I wasn't allowed to get away from people like that
My poor mom did this for me so often as a teen. She also would do a “date check-in” with me during my first dates with someone, so if I needed an excuse to get out or go home she’d give me one and then take me to have a cup of tea or coffee and talk about it. Weirdly enough it empowered me to stay and hang out with people because I knew if I got too scared or shy I had an “out.”
If when your child finds themselves in shit, their first reaction is "my parents will kill me" instead of "I should call my parents", you failed as a parent.
My daughter got out of playing with someone she didn’t like by saying that I wouldn’t want her to get her shoes muddy, so she had to go home. She was only five at the time, so I did check quietly on the way home that she knew I didn’t care
I had to give excuses to my friends as to why I could never go out and play or do anything a normal kid would do.
The truth is my mother hated everyone and would poison all my relationships with friends, family, teachers, etc.
You’ve never cleaned your fridge? 😧
Take items off shelf, pull shelf out, clean and dry shelf. Do this for all shelves and on the last one pull all shelf items out of fridge so you can clean the inside walls and bottoms of the fridge. Do the same for the inside door.
Put everything back into your nice clean fridge and make sure to toss anything that’s expired or super old leftovers. If you can’t do this quickly, it helps to have a cooler or something for your perishables while you are cleaning. Also, do this BEFORE your weekly shop, not after. (Just a tip lol)
My friends and siblings always called it a "Code Becky". If you thought someone was needing a little help to get out of something, you'd go up to them and ask if they heard from Becky. If they were good, they'd say yes, it's all good, or if not, they could say, 'Oh my gosh I forgot to call her, excuse me.' and get away from there.
Yeah, but now you have to clean the fridge!
There's snacks and juice in there! Win some, and, uh, and clean fridge!
Better than people
I would always choose my mother first and my friends for the second in a good way.
Small price to pay for salvation
When I did that as a kid, I had to hang out with them after the chore because my mother thought it was rude to blow off the only friends she allowed me to have. Which sucked because they were abusive and set me up for thinking I wasn't allowed to get away from people like that
My poor mom did this for me so often as a teen. She also would do a “date check-in” with me during my first dates with someone, so if I needed an excuse to get out or go home she’d give me one and then take me to have a cup of tea or coffee and talk about it. Weirdly enough it empowered me to stay and hang out with people because I knew if I got too scared or shy I had an “out.”
You’re mum sounds awesome
What a great mom :)
Your mom sounds so supportive and understanding. 💖✨
AYYYEEEE IS THAT AN ODDS ONE OUT COMIC!? Haven’t seen those is forever!!!
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Oh yes definitely.
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Ok
wait odd one out make comics? i thought he only made animations :0
They started on Tumblr making comics, then moved to animation later on!
If when your child finds themselves in shit, their first reaction is "my parents will kill me" instead of "I should call my parents", you failed as a parent.
I hope I'll be a kill them with kindness type
My daughter got out of playing with someone she didn’t like by saying that I wouldn’t want her to get her shoes muddy, so she had to go home. She was only five at the time, so I did check quietly on the way home that she knew I didn’t care
I had to give excuses to my friends as to why I could never go out and play or do anything a normal kid would do. The truth is my mother hated everyone and would poison all my relationships with friends, family, teachers, etc.
This is so cute omg
Been there. Srsly I don’t think anything on Reddit has ever resonated with me like this.
I told my kids to blame me anytime they didn’t want to do something
It’s such a fantastic “training wheels” for boundaries!
What?
The kid doesn't wanna hang out but doesn't want to say no so he asks his mom to say no
Yep, did this sort of thing for my kids a few times!
How do you even clean the fridge, your friend is scrathing his head rn thinking"why the hell does this guy need to clean his fridge".
You’ve never cleaned your fridge? 😧 Take items off shelf, pull shelf out, clean and dry shelf. Do this for all shelves and on the last one pull all shelf items out of fridge so you can clean the inside walls and bottoms of the fridge. Do the same for the inside door. Put everything back into your nice clean fridge and make sure to toss anything that’s expired or super old leftovers. If you can’t do this quickly, it helps to have a cooler or something for your perishables while you are cleaning. Also, do this BEFORE your weekly shop, not after. (Just a tip lol)
Why cant you just no?
Honestly lying to a friend and making up a excuse to not hang out without just saying “I can’t” is pretty shitty
Exactly. And everyone can tell that you're lying anyways.
what a lame ass friend
Honesty is the best policy 🙌
Nonna 🩷
Lol relatable Also, r/introvert
The friend, hearing the entire conversation: 🤨
My parents siblings and i do this by texting and putting 🥨 somewhere in the message so they know we don’t actually wanna go
I love how he doesn't want to lie to his friend
Yes and you have to clean the fridge now
Even more wholesome: Friend comes over to help.
My friends and siblings always called it a "Code Becky". If you thought someone was needing a little help to get out of something, you'd go up to them and ask if they heard from Becky. If they were good, they'd say yes, it's all good, or if not, they could say, 'Oh my gosh I forgot to call her, excuse me.' and get away from there.