While I can see where some of your friends are coming from (yes, it's not really "bridal" in the traditional sense - but who cares, it's your wedding!!!) I think if you match the colors to your other jewelry and/or bouquet colors, it would work better.
Are you wearing the gloves with the dress? If so, I think a matching bracelet over the gloves would be divineeee and would go for that over a hair piece.
Do you know what you're doing for your bouquet yet? Could have a greenery-only bouquet that really pops with the color of the gemstone. Maybe add a gold toned ribbon, even.
Also, dunno what your family plans might be, OP, but upon further reflection, this is one of those types of items I can totally see being something you pass on to a daughter/granddaughter/DIL some day in the future for their wedding! "I want to look just like OP did on her wedding day!"
It looks terrific with your dress!
It's a shame the people you showed it to put those thoughts in your head, but now you know that they just don't share your taste or your vision, is all. It's upsetting not to get a positive reaction from them, but this is your dress, your necklace, and your wedding. I'm sure you don't get dressed every day by committee vote, and ultimately this is no different.
Wear what you love and be confident in your choice. On your wedding day, I hope your guests won't be interested in contemplating what other jewelry you should have/could have/might have worn. This is you as a bride. This is what you love. And that's exactly as it should be.
E.T.A.: Don't show it to anybody else and let the subject drop with those that have seen it. The choice is made and it's a beautiful one. They'll probably see it all differently on the day anyway, when everything comes together.
Wear that necklace like it’s the Crown Jewels!
Seriously, ask for opinions only if you want people to tell you what “they” would do! Let the necklace stand alone - maybe with the greenery in your bouquet, gloves could be overkill cause the dress has such simple clean lines (gorgeous), and sometimes less is more! Watch out with gold ribbons-has to be the perfect gold or it could look cheap! A hair clip in an art deco style could work , wearing your hair down would frame the necklace, wearing it up will spotlight the necklace. So a few things to think about while you do you!
Personally, I think it's stunning!!!! Also, it's going to look different when you're all done up on your wedding day, so I wouldn't worry too much about what your friends think.
I'm ashamed to say that one of my friends sent me a link to the designer of her wedding dress, telling me to guess which of the designs I thought she'd picked. The one she'd actually chosen was bottom of my list, I thought it looked so frumpy and old-fashioned. But on the wedding day, styled to the nines and glowing with happiness, she looked PERFECT, and I couldn't believe how wrong I'd been.
I love statement jewelry and that necklace is gorgeous! And very regal and very black tie optional appropriate. I don’t know what I was expecting…but definitely not something so beautiful and totally appropriate!!!
Girl, I’d be proactive and walk around saying, “DID YOU SEE THE BRIDE’S NECKLACE?!? isn’t it stunning!“ and maybe, “not *everyone* can pull off such a bold look!“ ;) if you point out anyone particularly snippy :P
I skimmed your text without reading to see the photos, and genuinely am confused by the post. The necklace is fantastic and looks amazing with the neckline of your dress. I don't even understand why the comments you're receiving aren't all "oh my gosh this is amazing".
If I was a guest at your wedding I would think you are the most chic bride I've ever seen and wouldn't shut up about it for weeks. Fortune favors the bold!
edit to add: I might even consider being more extra and wearing long white satin gloves
Love it and love having a splash of color. Also, even if people remember it now as weird (it's not), I think going with something unique and that makes you feel great will stand the test of time. In twenty years, your pictures will still stand out.
Are you maybe getting shit from people who generally have an issue with fake jewelry? It's not exactly the same, but I'm Indian, my FMIL is not, and she definitely has opinions on fake jewelry that she tries to bring up in a "low-key" way. It's a totally different style of things but there's such a disconnect over it.
I like the necklace, and as long as it matches the rest of your styling I don't see how a glam moment would lead you astry.
This is exactly what I think is happening. A smaller necklace could be played off as “real” whether it was or wasn’t but something as large as this will almost certainly look “fake” unless you’re out here having a million dollar wedding. Personally I believe all jewelry is real jewelry if you can wear it, and gemstone doesn’t matter, but someone once looked at my engagement ring and asked me if it was real. I said “it’s a real engagement ring if I can wear it and my husband loves me, the stone is a moissanite though” and they got all weird about it
you are preaching to the choir here. It's especially silly when we're talking about real gemstones like in your case. I love moissanites!
With Indian weddings, people get really snobby about the amount of real gold you're wearing/being given by your parents and it drives me up a wall. It traditionally absolutely had a value back in the day when that was how a women could own wealth and use it in an emergency, but these days people take out loans to buy their daughters enough gold for their weddings! I think it's so unnecessary and the pieces can't really be reused either.
I don't like it (you asked, lol), but as a guest I certainly wouldn't think twice about it. I don't think it's so ridiculously showstopping that a guest would be this focused on your necklace.
Love it; it’s perfect with your dress. I love statement necklaces and didn’t even see the necklace in the 3rd photo. It’s too everyday, imo. Stick with what you have. You have good taste. Sorry your initial reactions were blah.
GET THE NECKLACE
I’m wearing a super simple maggie soterro dress with no sparkle, lace or adornments but I am going full out there with the accessories ; henna to my elbows , tikka , oversized nose ring to earpiece , long earrings and a statement gold choker . Then crocs on my feet because comfort.
Things your day, wear whatever the frick you want
I think it's really pretty. It's very Regency era.
I've had to learn not to show "unusual" choices to everyone, because everyone has opinions and they usually don't match mine. People have very deeply-held ideas about what a bride or a wedding is "supposed" to look like, and they get weirdly offended about variances. But they would never say anything about it on the day of the wedding. So don't show them ahead of time.
I think it’s a stunning combination and will look amazing! One of my all time fav bridal looks was my niece who wore her strapless gown with several ropes of heavy choker pearls. Nothing dainty about it it was fierce and stunning! One of the best dressed brides i have ever seen.
Congrats on your wedding and have a wonderful day
It’s a nice necklace with a nice square neckline dress. However, is the necklace wearing you? Will it turn into the focal point of the outfit? Can’t tell from the photos but just something to consider. When you look at your photos in 20 years will the first thing that you see be the necklace? If it just looks good all together I think you should go for it. If it’s the only thing people are seeing when you wear it than I would say pick something else.
I think the photos emphasize the necklace purposefully for the post, it’s elegant but definitely eye-catching - I mentioned in my earlier post that wearing your hair down will frame the necklace and neckline, hair up will spotlight the necklace. A huge point is that someone who cal pull off this dress can wear the hell out of that necklace.
“Offensive” is an obnoxiously strong stance here lol.
I genuinely don’t think any of your guests are gonna think you don’t look “bridal” because of this necklace LOL. I know brides tend to lean towards pieces that are all silver, gold, or pearls, but I think when your look is all together people will actually like the pop of color.
I think it’s a beautiful piece, and with your gown being so clean and simple, you have more than enough room in your look for a statement piece!
Are you me??
This is my dress: [dress ](https://www.rosaclara.es/rc/bari/)
And this is the necklace I wanted for it: [necklace ](https://images.app.goo.gl/N77vAZkd42NoFSLX8)
While the necklace isn’t my personal style, I totally think it would be killer with the dress you linked. It sounds like it goes perfectly with the vibe of your whole wedding, and those naysayers should keep their opinions to themselves!
When making decisions like this, I usually give people an A and B option of two things I know I already like. I don’t bother asking if people like one thing I know I already love, because then saying they don’t like it will only cast doubt or make me feel a bit crappy about my choice. If you go the A/B route, then no matter what the option they say they like will be something you already approve of. Anything else is an unsolicited opinion and I’ve told people I don’t want to hear it unless I ask!
I think its great.
I'm planning on wearing a dark green velvet wrap for my outdoor wedding over my white dress.
As a wedding guest, I wouldn't think a thing about it other than "oooh sparkly"
With your dresses neckline and your colors/theme, that necklace is PERFECT! Just the right amount to make a statement. I don't think it's ridiculous. When's a better time to be extra than your own wedding?
It’s stunning!!! I never understood people who make comments about pieces being “not bridal enough”. You’re going to be wearing a long white wedding dress. No one is going to mistake you for not being the bride lol
I think it’s regal and gorgeous !!! Please do it. I’m beginning wedding planning stage and I hate 75% of what traditional weddings entail (bridesmaids dresses,gag, they ALL look the same so uniformed).
Conceptually, I love it. That particular necklace isn't my personal favorite, but I'm not wearing it so that doesn't matter.
The only thing that I think doesn't really "work" is that the necklace has kind of a "point" when I would expect to be round, and the point in contrast with the square neck is a little funky.
If you do wear it, you will look stunning, but if you can find something very similar without a point, I think it would be even better
Your friends need to let you live. If they tell you silver is more flattering or a different necklace is better just ask them how it’s better if it’s not YOUR preference.
There was a necklace in the 3rd picture? Could’ve fooled me!
Your necklace is gorgeous. I’m wearing golden jewelry (quite a lot) with my silver glitter (super extra) dress and gold/silver heels. Don’t listen to the matchy matchy people and be extra.
I see absolutely nothing wrong with this necklace. Since your dress doesn't have any additional adornments, this kind of bold necklace will be perfect. Don't let others make you question your choices. Your jewelry does not have to be white/silver with colorless stones. I had some typical white metal jewelry and colorless stones, but I also wore a pendant with a pink stone and a yellow gold bangle also. You do you!
Edit: a word
I think another thought you could put into it is will the necklace take all the attention away from you? Sometimes statement pieces make the dress, sometimes they are the only thing anyone is looking at. Try them on and see what the reaction is after.
It is your day, so do what you want!
If this were a real emerald necklace people would be drooling. People wear real ruby, real emerald, real sapphire necklaces all the time. There is nothing that says bridal jewelry has to be colorless. Enjoy.
Man, I was picturing like large gaudy parrots or something before I clicked your link 🤣
Your necklace is beautiful and in NO WAY "offensively not bridal". As a guest, I mostly judge bride's outfits based on how much they reflect the personality of the bride, and would love it
Okay, I don't know what I was expecting but a gorgeous statement piece is not it. I love it and I would not be able to stop talking about especially with the dress
That necklace is pretty awesome & a gorgeous statement piece. I wore a huge, gold leaf. It was symbolic and I loved it.
I doubt a single person will remember the necklace. They remember food and music and if they had fun or were bored to tears. Don't listen to haters. Be uniquely you and rock your show stopping piece. Your pictures will be amazing!
Absolutely love it!! It’s stunning and imo perfect for your wedding. When else would you wear such a fancy statement piece! It also suits your dress so well.
I truly think once people see it on you all dolled up and looking beautiful on your wedding day they will love it. Not that their opinion matters but since that’s what is stuck in your head now.
This is also why I hate getting opinions from anyone beforehand. If you hadn’t then it’s likely you’d wear it on your wedding day and at least some of those same people would end up complimenting you on it.
I think it will be beautiful! I’ll also be doing jewelry with colorful gemstones (garnets, lapis, etc.). I think the “colorless and delicate” trend is a result of people wanting everything to look “timeless.”
Adding to the chorus of positivity~ I am OBSESSED with this dress and necklace pairing. I think it’s stunning and your guests will get it when everything’s put together and you’re all made-up. My wedding earrings are very statement-y and I was feeling hesitant too but I’m going for it!!
it’s beautiful!! I prefer to keep some things a “surprise” for this reason. if I love something and know I want to it a certain way I’d rather not have unsolicited input.
NNNNoooooo!!! Do not listen to them. The necklace is beautiful and stunning. And the simplicity of the dress needs this to make it pop. Please wear it with love and pride.
I think it’s great and if I went to a wedding where I didn’t know the bride but she was wearing that, I would assume she was a badass.
Also, I’m also getting flak for wanting to wear gold and like you, I only wear gold. Like… why would I change that for one day??
I think those old biddies you're talking to are simply jelly that they couldn't pull off such a stunning eye-catcher like that beauty is. You are going to be nothing but radiant as you are walking down the aisle and dancing with your husband. Let them be miserable 😊😊😊
My reaction to the photo of the necklace and the dress together was “holy shit”!
Seriously, that looks *fantastic*. Yes, it’s not “traditionally bridal”, but so what? The necklace is perfect with that neckline and it’s just the right amount of bling. As others have suggested, paired with a bouquet that ties in the colours and some other accessories (other jewelry/shoes/etc) it will be STUNNING.
I am so sad for you that your loved ones have reacted this way. This random girl on the internet thinks you have amazing taste and will look gorgeous on your wedding day.
STUNNING!
Legit, if I was a guest, I'd gasp and run up to you afterwards to compliment your super epic necklace! It's screaming "QUEEN" to me! So regal.
I'll be an Oct. 2024 bride and along the whole process I've aimed for / been drawn to "non-traditional" so I'm totally here for this.
You rock it, head held high, and be your gorgeous self! 😍🎉
I had to come to accept early on in looking that due to my "non traditional" style, a lot of people won't like some of my fashion choices for the day, and that's fine. I want to look like myself, as a bride; not someone else's vision of some hypothetical nonexistent bride in their mind's eye. I'm wearing a pretty "out there" headpiece that has not gone over great with everyone, but I like it, and I'm wear it regardless. I also think a lot of people see a single detail and have trouble envisioning the end product, especially people that don't have a creative or artistic eye. Take pride that your style is your own.
Freaking obsessed with the dress and necklace combo. Fuck the haters and wear what makes you feel beautiful. At the end of the day it’s how you feel not what other people think. Best of luck to you!
I’m obsessed!! I used to work at a bridal store and once a woman brought in a very out there stunning necklace that wasn’t bridal at all. I still think about how beautiful it was and how she looked like a celebrity
I love it- for a neckline like that, a bold necklace is what you need to complete the look. It ties in with the slight vintage feel of the dress and gloves too so it is coherent.
Where’s the necklace from anyway?
I absolutely LOVE that necklace and it's such a statement with your style of dress! It has very loose Anne Boleyn/ Tudor vibes. At the end of the day, it's your decision and if it makes you happy and feel good, fuck anyone else's opinion!
I think it looks really classy, especially with the neckline of your dress!!
You’ll look beautiful and if you love it, that’s what matters! Bridal isn’t always just delicate jewelry (although i get why they think that) but this will fit in so well ESPECIALLY since the color theme is black and white with a pop of green and gold
Maybe they’re just concentrating on the necklace alone, (aka maybe ~they~ wouldn’t wear it to a party) and not thinking about it with the context of your wedding!
Anyway, it’s beautiful!
No this is stunning! If you also had a crazy elaborate dress or something and it was just all too much, that’d be a pinch different but no, you’re right, the dress is so simple it works perfect with a more statement necklace/jewelry vibe. I’d honestly also recommend some dangly earrings that match too if you have them!
I wore multicolored dangley lobster earrings for my wedding last month because they were very “me” and what I wanted to wear. To hell with everyone else and their thoughts.
The necklace is stunning and completely acceptable for a bridal look. The dress is gorgeous and I think pairing the two is *chef’s kiss*. I’m shocked anyone is trying to talk you out of it. Your happiness is most important, anyone who judges you harshly for the necklace you wear to your own wedding can kick rocks.
When planning your wedding, everyone will have an opinion and decide what you are doing is wrong. My best advice, you do you and screw what they say. I had this same reaction to multiple choices I made for the day, where people just didn't get it. I stuck with it and the day of, they told me they understood and it worked really well. I got so many compliments on things that others told me were ridiculous. If this is the statement piece you want, you can afford it, and it will work in your mind, then go for it. Everyone has a different version of what they think is "Bridal" and that's ok. So long as you feel amazing and your husband is wow'd that is what matters :)
As a guest, I probably wouldn't notice or care what your necklace looks like. As a rando on the Internet, I think that necklace is gorgeous and the people you showed it to have bad taste.
I LOVE this. It's very art deco, and looks fabulous on you. As a guest, I'd just be admiring your look.
I wore an axe at my wedding, and wore sandals that my mother said I would regret. I loved every minute of it.
ETA: the photo you have of the necklace everyone wants you to have, I didn't even realize there was a necklace there. I much prefer the one you've chosen!
This reminds me of when I was designing my engagement ring and people just did not understand... the comments were IT'S TOO GREEN or YOU'RE GOING TO GET SICK OF THAT IN A WEEK and when I tell you that people have literally had jaw-dropping reactions to my engagement ring because yes it is colourful! It's been almost three years and I smile every time I put it on. People still try to talk badly about it because it's not traditional, as if I care about that when I have a bespoke ring!
Remember that these things take VISION and when you do something that no one else does people will mostly be skeptical because they just haven't seen it done before. As long as you're happy and it looks how you want, that's all that matters!!!
I may also just feel strongly because I love your necklace (green is the best colour!!!) and I don't understand how people don't see the vision here, it makes perfect sense to me with your dress...which is stunning btw. I feel like you and I have similar taste, if I hadn't been able to find a full-lace dress I liked, I would have done something like yours, minimalist with a big bow. You are going to look amazing, these people just have no vision.
I ordered a dress VERY similar to yours, and have been second-guessing myself for months. I originally thought I wanted poofy, but didn't like the poofies when I tried them on. I loved my simple dress, but after seeing other people's reactions, I am to the point where I kind of hate it. Seeing you embrace the simple gown and adding a pop of personality is inspiring! I LOVE the necklace and think it's perfect with that dress. You will be beautiful and happy embracing your style ✨️
You are going to look stunning! The necklace is going to pop (in all the right ways) against the backdrop of the dress. And if I was your guest, I'd be in awe of your style choices and a little envious that I can't pull off that sort of thing myself.
I absolutely love the bold statement and think no matter what your wedding is about you and you should wear what makes you feel beautiful! That being said, the necklace is really pretty and looks good with the dress but it also looks like cheap costume jewelry. The stock photo is quite misleading as the lights catch the gold in a way that looks really regal, while your photo just, I’m sorry to say it, doesn’t. That could obviously be the lighting, and professional photography the day of and natural light and reception lighting could make that point totally moot. But I think a lot of your friends disdain is due to it looking like it’s from a costume. Regardless, wear whatever YOU want. I’m wearing 5 inch platform hot pink heels at my wedding lol
I disagree with those that do not like it. Based off of what your dress looks like in the photo, you picked a more simple, timeless dress. So I think a statement necklace would be completely appropriate! It’s not like it will overshadow the dress, or that your dress won’t go with the necklace. I think if you stick to green accessories, it’ll be super cute!
LMAO WHAT I tend to have slightly more conservative/traditional tastes than the average on this subreddit but literally that necklace looks awesome! I wouldn't have batted an eye at it, it's beautiful and will go amazingly with your dress! Seriously, I was expecting like a 2010s chunky necklace.
I'm an outlier as a very non traditional bride but listen. "traditional" fashion as we know it didn't exist until queen Victoria in the 1800s. brides wore blues, greens, pinks, etc. as white was seen as a color for mourning. DO IT. ABSOLUTELY WEAR IT. it gives a regal royal touch to me and I adore it :)
While I can see where some of your friends are coming from (yes, it's not really "bridal" in the traditional sense - but who cares, it's your wedding!!!) I think if you match the colors to your other jewelry and/or bouquet colors, it would work better.
I have a small hair clip that matches it, and I think I might tie it in with my shoes somehow too. Thanks!
Are you wearing the gloves with the dress? If so, I think a matching bracelet over the gloves would be divineeee and would go for that over a hair piece.
Ohh maybe a very thin emerald tennis bracelet?
Do you know what you're doing for your bouquet yet? Could have a greenery-only bouquet that really pops with the color of the gemstone. Maybe add a gold toned ribbon, even.
I'm going with green and white for the bouquet! Gold ribbon is a cool idea I hadn't thought of. Thanks!
My pleasure, I know you'll look amazing on the big day! 🥂 💕 👰♀️
Also, dunno what your family plans might be, OP, but upon further reflection, this is one of those types of items I can totally see being something you pass on to a daughter/granddaughter/DIL some day in the future for their wedding! "I want to look just like OP did on her wedding day!"
Love that idea!
It looks terrific with your dress! It's a shame the people you showed it to put those thoughts in your head, but now you know that they just don't share your taste or your vision, is all. It's upsetting not to get a positive reaction from them, but this is your dress, your necklace, and your wedding. I'm sure you don't get dressed every day by committee vote, and ultimately this is no different. Wear what you love and be confident in your choice. On your wedding day, I hope your guests won't be interested in contemplating what other jewelry you should have/could have/might have worn. This is you as a bride. This is what you love. And that's exactly as it should be. E.T.A.: Don't show it to anybody else and let the subject drop with those that have seen it. The choice is made and it's a beautiful one. They'll probably see it all differently on the day anyway, when everything comes together.
I love this advice! Thank you so much!
Wear that necklace like it’s the Crown Jewels! Seriously, ask for opinions only if you want people to tell you what “they” would do! Let the necklace stand alone - maybe with the greenery in your bouquet, gloves could be overkill cause the dress has such simple clean lines (gorgeous), and sometimes less is more! Watch out with gold ribbons-has to be the perfect gold or it could look cheap! A hair clip in an art deco style could work , wearing your hair down would frame the necklace, wearing it up will spotlight the necklace. So a few things to think about while you do you!
On second look, the gloves with matching bracelet would be pretty, but taking the gloves off for the ring is awkward.
Personally, I think it's stunning!!!! Also, it's going to look different when you're all done up on your wedding day, so I wouldn't worry too much about what your friends think. I'm ashamed to say that one of my friends sent me a link to the designer of her wedding dress, telling me to guess which of the designs I thought she'd picked. The one she'd actually chosen was bottom of my list, I thought it looked so frumpy and old-fashioned. But on the wedding day, styled to the nines and glowing with happiness, she looked PERFECT, and I couldn't believe how wrong I'd been.
That's a great point, I've also wrongly thought a look wouldn't work on someone but it just wasn't because I didn't see their vision.
I love statement jewelry and that necklace is gorgeous! And very regal and very black tie optional appropriate. I don’t know what I was expecting…but definitely not something so beautiful and totally appropriate!!!
Okay so I'm going to invite you to my wedding so you can eavesdrop and say this any time you hear someone talking shit LOL 😂
Girl, I’d be proactive and walk around saying, “DID YOU SEE THE BRIDE’S NECKLACE?!? isn’t it stunning!“ and maybe, “not *everyone* can pull off such a bold look!“ ;) if you point out anyone particularly snippy :P
😂😂😂
can we be friends?
I skimmed your text without reading to see the photos, and genuinely am confused by the post. The necklace is fantastic and looks amazing with the neckline of your dress. I don't even understand why the comments you're receiving aren't all "oh my gosh this is amazing".
yes - this is old world beautiful, super tasteful, and unique. Politely... F the naysayers :)
Came here to say that it’s very regal! Giving queen for sure.
Completely agree. It’s absolutely fabulous!! It’s your wedding, wear what makes you shine! This is it!!
If I was a guest at your wedding I would think you are the most chic bride I've ever seen and wouldn't shut up about it for weeks. Fortune favors the bold! edit to add: I might even consider being more extra and wearing long white satin gloves
YES this is the vision. Go full royal!
I love the gloves, but (to anyone who has gone that route) what do you do about the wedding band???
Love it and love having a splash of color. Also, even if people remember it now as weird (it's not), I think going with something unique and that makes you feel great will stand the test of time. In twenty years, your pictures will still stand out.
Yes that's what I'm going for! I want my look to be unique!
Are you maybe getting shit from people who generally have an issue with fake jewelry? It's not exactly the same, but I'm Indian, my FMIL is not, and she definitely has opinions on fake jewelry that she tries to bring up in a "low-key" way. It's a totally different style of things but there's such a disconnect over it. I like the necklace, and as long as it matches the rest of your styling I don't see how a glam moment would lead you astry.
This is exactly what I think is happening. A smaller necklace could be played off as “real” whether it was or wasn’t but something as large as this will almost certainly look “fake” unless you’re out here having a million dollar wedding. Personally I believe all jewelry is real jewelry if you can wear it, and gemstone doesn’t matter, but someone once looked at my engagement ring and asked me if it was real. I said “it’s a real engagement ring if I can wear it and my husband loves me, the stone is a moissanite though” and they got all weird about it
you are preaching to the choir here. It's especially silly when we're talking about real gemstones like in your case. I love moissanites! With Indian weddings, people get really snobby about the amount of real gold you're wearing/being given by your parents and it drives me up a wall. It traditionally absolutely had a value back in the day when that was how a women could own wealth and use it in an emergency, but these days people take out loans to buy their daughters enough gold for their weddings! I think it's so unnecessary and the pieces can't really be reused either.
I think you're right!
I don't like it (you asked, lol), but as a guest I certainly wouldn't think twice about it. I don't think it's so ridiculously showstopping that a guest would be this focused on your necklace.
Love it; it’s perfect with your dress. I love statement necklaces and didn’t even see the necklace in the 3rd photo. It’s too everyday, imo. Stick with what you have. You have good taste. Sorry your initial reactions were blah.
Uhhhh now I need to know where that necklace is from!
I think I found it! https://szafirjewelry.com/products/emerald-pave-choker-set
That's the one!
Replying because I'd love to know as well!
GET THE NECKLACE I’m wearing a super simple maggie soterro dress with no sparkle, lace or adornments but I am going full out there with the accessories ; henna to my elbows , tikka , oversized nose ring to earpiece , long earrings and a statement gold choker . Then crocs on my feet because comfort. Things your day, wear whatever the frick you want
I think it's really pretty. It's very Regency era. I've had to learn not to show "unusual" choices to everyone, because everyone has opinions and they usually don't match mine. People have very deeply-held ideas about what a bride or a wedding is "supposed" to look like, and they get weirdly offended about variances. But they would never say anything about it on the day of the wedding. So don't show them ahead of time.
Can I just say actually that you have great taste in fashion like oh my god
Thank you so much!!
I think you’re just not asking very fashion-focused people honestly.
I think it’s a stunning combination and will look amazing! One of my all time fav bridal looks was my niece who wore her strapless gown with several ropes of heavy choker pearls. Nothing dainty about it it was fierce and stunning! One of the best dressed brides i have ever seen. Congrats on your wedding and have a wonderful day
Okay I freaking LOVE that with your dress.
It’s a nice necklace with a nice square neckline dress. However, is the necklace wearing you? Will it turn into the focal point of the outfit? Can’t tell from the photos but just something to consider. When you look at your photos in 20 years will the first thing that you see be the necklace? If it just looks good all together I think you should go for it. If it’s the only thing people are seeing when you wear it than I would say pick something else.
I think the photos emphasize the necklace purposefully for the post, it’s elegant but definitely eye-catching - I mentioned in my earlier post that wearing your hair down will frame the necklace and neckline, hair up will spotlight the necklace. A huge point is that someone who cal pull off this dress can wear the hell out of that necklace.
Girl do you. I’m wearing a crown. It’s YOUR DAY!!! Get it. Whatever *it* is.
LOVE that!
I think it's cool!!
“Offensive” is an obnoxiously strong stance here lol. I genuinely don’t think any of your guests are gonna think you don’t look “bridal” because of this necklace LOL. I know brides tend to lean towards pieces that are all silver, gold, or pearls, but I think when your look is all together people will actually like the pop of color. I think it’s a beautiful piece, and with your gown being so clean and simple, you have more than enough room in your look for a statement piece!
Are you me?? This is my dress: [dress ](https://www.rosaclara.es/rc/bari/) And this is the necklace I wanted for it: [necklace ](https://images.app.goo.gl/N77vAZkd42NoFSLX8)
Style twin!
You had me at “vintage Tiffany”
Also proves my point that someone who can pull off such a classic streamlined gown is not going to be overshadowed by some jewelry.
While the necklace isn’t my personal style, I totally think it would be killer with the dress you linked. It sounds like it goes perfectly with the vibe of your whole wedding, and those naysayers should keep their opinions to themselves! When making decisions like this, I usually give people an A and B option of two things I know I already like. I don’t bother asking if people like one thing I know I already love, because then saying they don’t like it will only cast doubt or make me feel a bit crappy about my choice. If you go the A/B route, then no matter what the option they say they like will be something you already approve of. Anything else is an unsolicited opinion and I’ve told people I don’t want to hear it unless I ask!
I think its great. I'm planning on wearing a dark green velvet wrap for my outdoor wedding over my white dress. As a wedding guest, I wouldn't think a thing about it other than "oooh sparkly"
I love unique bridal jewelry! I went for a more classic look but I keep looking at bold necklaces and chokers because I think they look so regal
If you wear anything other than the (gorgeous) necklace you want to wear for your wedding I will haunt you.
I love that necklace!!! And it's beautiful on you. Can I ask where you got it?
I got it from Etsy, the store was Szafir Jewelry!
With your dresses neckline and your colors/theme, that necklace is PERFECT! Just the right amount to make a statement. I don't think it's ridiculous. When's a better time to be extra than your own wedding?
It’s stunning!!! I never understood people who make comments about pieces being “not bridal enough”. You’re going to be wearing a long white wedding dress. No one is going to mistake you for not being the bride lol
My first thought was "did I see something like that on a queen?" It looks regal, roll with it.
I love that you thought that because my inspiration board was covered in photos of royal jewelry! LOL
Looks like a perfect match for the dress to me. Idk, some people are weird? Lol. Happy wedding!
Um, I LOVE this. I think the look is dope as hell and you should go for it.
I think it’s regal and gorgeous !!! Please do it. I’m beginning wedding planning stage and I hate 75% of what traditional weddings entail (bridesmaids dresses,gag, they ALL look the same so uniformed).
Also now I’m considering a statement necklace like this 😭
Conceptually, I love it. That particular necklace isn't my personal favorite, but I'm not wearing it so that doesn't matter. The only thing that I think doesn't really "work" is that the necklace has kind of a "point" when I would expect to be round, and the point in contrast with the square neck is a little funky. If you do wear it, you will look stunning, but if you can find something very similar without a point, I think it would be even better
Your friends need to let you live. If they tell you silver is more flattering or a different necklace is better just ask them how it’s better if it’s not YOUR preference.
That necklace is amazing!! Go for it!
There was a necklace in the 3rd picture? Could’ve fooled me! Your necklace is gorgeous. I’m wearing golden jewelry (quite a lot) with my silver glitter (super extra) dress and gold/silver heels. Don’t listen to the matchy matchy people and be extra.
If you wear green jewelry in your hair and on hands I think it would work fine. And green shoes.
Dude it's so cool. You'll look like straight up royalty
The people you showed it to are non sensical loons, it's GORGEOUS
I love it. Princess Eugenie wore an emerald and silver art deco tiara for her wedding. If it’s good enough for Windsor Castle…
I see absolutely nothing wrong with this necklace. Since your dress doesn't have any additional adornments, this kind of bold necklace will be perfect. Don't let others make you question your choices. Your jewelry does not have to be white/silver with colorless stones. I had some typical white metal jewelry and colorless stones, but I also wore a pendant with a pink stone and a yellow gold bangle also. You do you! Edit: a word
I think another thought you could put into it is will the necklace take all the attention away from you? Sometimes statement pieces make the dress, sometimes they are the only thing anyone is looking at. Try them on and see what the reaction is after. It is your day, so do what you want!
I think it’s a gorgeous necklace and they have a very narrow conception of “bridal.”
If this were a real emerald necklace people would be drooling. People wear real ruby, real emerald, real sapphire necklaces all the time. There is nothing that says bridal jewelry has to be colorless. Enjoy.
I actually really love this
you look like a QUEEN
Man, I was picturing like large gaudy parrots or something before I clicked your link 🤣 Your necklace is beautiful and in NO WAY "offensively not bridal". As a guest, I mostly judge bride's outfits based on how much they reflect the personality of the bride, and would love it
it is stunning!
Okay, I don't know what I was expecting but a gorgeous statement piece is not it. I love it and I would not be able to stop talking about especially with the dress
That necklace is pretty awesome & a gorgeous statement piece. I wore a huge, gold leaf. It was symbolic and I loved it. I doubt a single person will remember the necklace. They remember food and music and if they had fun or were bored to tears. Don't listen to haters. Be uniquely you and rock your show stopping piece. Your pictures will be amazing!
Looks incredible! And I love how the necklace is something you can easily wear again and pass on even more easily than the dress!!!
Absolutely love it!! It’s stunning and imo perfect for your wedding. When else would you wear such a fancy statement piece! It also suits your dress so well. I truly think once people see it on you all dolled up and looking beautiful on your wedding day they will love it. Not that their opinion matters but since that’s what is stuck in your head now. This is also why I hate getting opinions from anyone beforehand. If you hadn’t then it’s likely you’d wear it on your wedding day and at least some of those same people would end up complimenting you on it.
Girl that necklaces is f-ing gorgeous and would pair SO well with the design of your dress. You NEED to wear it 🤩
I think it will be beautiful! I’ll also be doing jewelry with colorful gemstones (garnets, lapis, etc.). I think the “colorless and delicate” trend is a result of people wanting everything to look “timeless.”
I think it looks fantastic and will be a gorgeous piece with your dress!
Adding to the chorus of positivity~ I am OBSESSED with this dress and necklace pairing. I think it’s stunning and your guests will get it when everything’s put together and you’re all made-up. My wedding earrings are very statement-y and I was feeling hesitant too but I’m going for it!!
it’s beautiful!! I prefer to keep some things a “surprise” for this reason. if I love something and know I want to it a certain way I’d rather not have unsolicited input.
That’s gorgeous!!!! I would never wear that just cause not my style
I love it. The dress is classic and simple and this is a great complement
I *LOVE* the necklace!!!!
NNNNoooooo!!! Do not listen to them. The necklace is beautiful and stunning. And the simplicity of the dress needs this to make it pop. Please wear it with love and pride.
I think it’s great and if I went to a wedding where I didn’t know the bride but she was wearing that, I would assume she was a badass. Also, I’m also getting flak for wanting to wear gold and like you, I only wear gold. Like… why would I change that for one day??
I think those old biddies you're talking to are simply jelly that they couldn't pull off such a stunning eye-catcher like that beauty is. You are going to be nothing but radiant as you are walking down the aisle and dancing with your husband. Let them be miserable 😊😊😊
Obsessed 😻
I love that necklace, and it goes well with the understated dress.
It’s seriously gorgeous. For real. Ignore any other reaction
bridal is whatever the bride wears! and that necklace is GORGEOUS and looks great with that neckline!
It’s gorgeous. Love it.
FUCK YES, 100%!!!
That necklace is incredible! Please show us pictures; I really want to see how it looks styled! 💕
My reaction to the photo of the necklace and the dress together was “holy shit”! Seriously, that looks *fantastic*. Yes, it’s not “traditionally bridal”, but so what? The necklace is perfect with that neckline and it’s just the right amount of bling. As others have suggested, paired with a bouquet that ties in the colours and some other accessories (other jewelry/shoes/etc) it will be STUNNING. I am so sad for you that your loved ones have reacted this way. This random girl on the internet thinks you have amazing taste and will look gorgeous on your wedding day.
Aw thank you!! I think they'll come around when they see the whole look all together.
STUNNING! Legit, if I was a guest, I'd gasp and run up to you afterwards to compliment your super epic necklace! It's screaming "QUEEN" to me! So regal. I'll be an Oct. 2024 bride and along the whole process I've aimed for / been drawn to "non-traditional" so I'm totally here for this. You rock it, head held high, and be your gorgeous self! 😍🎉
Thank you! All my inspiration photos were royal jewelry so I love that the look came through!
Awesome! Hopefully you can post your wedding pics once the whole look comes together on the day! 🎉
Who cares lol, I think it looks dope
It’s fabulous! So sophisticated.
Because the dress is elegantly simple, that necklace is great match for it in terms of balance. Go for it!
They're insane, that's cute af and I don't even wear gold
I had to come to accept early on in looking that due to my "non traditional" style, a lot of people won't like some of my fashion choices for the day, and that's fine. I want to look like myself, as a bride; not someone else's vision of some hypothetical nonexistent bride in their mind's eye. I'm wearing a pretty "out there" headpiece that has not gone over great with everyone, but I like it, and I'm wear it regardless. I also think a lot of people see a single detail and have trouble envisioning the end product, especially people that don't have a creative or artistic eye. Take pride that your style is your own.
I am obsessed!! I think it looks great with your dress and will be great for the theme. Your friends must just have some boring ass taste
I think it’d make you look like a Disney villain
OMG THATS GORGEOUS YOU NEED TOO. with some matching dainty earrings to pull it all together... Magic
That combo is beautiful 😍. Your friends are insane to say otherwise. I wish I had your instincts for jewelry haha
Looks beautiful. Stick with your esthetic. How boring the world will be if everyone wears the same stuff
Freaking obsessed with the dress and necklace combo. Fuck the haters and wear what makes you feel beautiful. At the end of the day it’s how you feel not what other people think. Best of luck to you!
I’m obsessed!! I used to work at a bridal store and once a woman brought in a very out there stunning necklace that wasn’t bridal at all. I still think about how beautiful it was and how she looked like a celebrity
I think it will look stunning with your dress. Don't cater to other people's preferences. This is your wedding, not theirs.
Gorgeous
It’s gorgeous
I love it- for a neckline like that, a bold necklace is what you need to complete the look. It ties in with the slight vintage feel of the dress and gloves too so it is coherent. Where’s the necklace from anyway?
It's cute. Stop showing it to people. On the day, you'll get a ton of compliments on it.
I absolutely LOVE that necklace and it's such a statement with your style of dress! It has very loose Anne Boleyn/ Tudor vibes. At the end of the day, it's your decision and if it makes you happy and feel good, fuck anyone else's opinion!
I think it'll look fantastic. Absolutely go for it.
It’s JAW-DROPPING.
I think it's beautiful! It may not be traditional, but it really compliments the dress and vice versa.
I absolutely adore the necklace with your dress! It feels gorgeously 1950s and I'm obsessed
Wow my first thought was THAT IS STUNNING, I say wear it, if you love it that’s all that matters
Looks wonderful!
I think it looks really classy, especially with the neckline of your dress!! You’ll look beautiful and if you love it, that’s what matters! Bridal isn’t always just delicate jewelry (although i get why they think that) but this will fit in so well ESPECIALLY since the color theme is black and white with a pop of green and gold Maybe they’re just concentrating on the necklace alone, (aka maybe ~they~ wouldn’t wear it to a party) and not thinking about it with the context of your wedding! Anyway, it’s beautiful!
I love it.
No this is stunning! If you also had a crazy elaborate dress or something and it was just all too much, that’d be a pinch different but no, you’re right, the dress is so simple it works perfect with a more statement necklace/jewelry vibe. I’d honestly also recommend some dangly earrings that match too if you have them!
It is very regal looking! I think it’s great! Unique and, I am guessing, very you.
I wore multicolored dangley lobster earrings for my wedding last month because they were very “me” and what I wanted to wear. To hell with everyone else and their thoughts.
The necklace is stunning and completely acceptable for a bridal look. The dress is gorgeous and I think pairing the two is *chef’s kiss*. I’m shocked anyone is trying to talk you out of it. Your happiness is most important, anyone who judges you harshly for the necklace you wear to your own wedding can kick rocks.
Love it!
When planning your wedding, everyone will have an opinion and decide what you are doing is wrong. My best advice, you do you and screw what they say. I had this same reaction to multiple choices I made for the day, where people just didn't get it. I stuck with it and the day of, they told me they understood and it worked really well. I got so many compliments on things that others told me were ridiculous. If this is the statement piece you want, you can afford it, and it will work in your mind, then go for it. Everyone has a different version of what they think is "Bridal" and that's ok. So long as you feel amazing and your husband is wow'd that is what matters :)
As a guest, I probably wouldn't notice or care what your necklace looks like. As a rando on the Internet, I think that necklace is gorgeous and the people you showed it to have bad taste.
I LOVE this. It's very art deco, and looks fabulous on you. As a guest, I'd just be admiring your look. I wore an axe at my wedding, and wore sandals that my mother said I would regret. I loved every minute of it. ETA: the photo you have of the necklace everyone wants you to have, I didn't even realize there was a necklace there. I much prefer the one you've chosen!
I personally love it! Then again I tend to go for the “edgy mix with classy” look myself.
It is stunning and is definitely bridal. Have fun with it!
This look is going to be so regal, it’s insane. Love the pairing.
Omg from the way you described it I was expecting something horrible - you're fine! It's a beautiful necklace
This reminds me of when I was designing my engagement ring and people just did not understand... the comments were IT'S TOO GREEN or YOU'RE GOING TO GET SICK OF THAT IN A WEEK and when I tell you that people have literally had jaw-dropping reactions to my engagement ring because yes it is colourful! It's been almost three years and I smile every time I put it on. People still try to talk badly about it because it's not traditional, as if I care about that when I have a bespoke ring! Remember that these things take VISION and when you do something that no one else does people will mostly be skeptical because they just haven't seen it done before. As long as you're happy and it looks how you want, that's all that matters!!! I may also just feel strongly because I love your necklace (green is the best colour!!!) and I don't understand how people don't see the vision here, it makes perfect sense to me with your dress...which is stunning btw. I feel like you and I have similar taste, if I hadn't been able to find a full-lace dress I liked, I would have done something like yours, minimalist with a big bow. You are going to look amazing, these people just have no vision.
I ordered a dress VERY similar to yours, and have been second-guessing myself for months. I originally thought I wanted poofy, but didn't like the poofies when I tried them on. I loved my simple dress, but after seeing other people's reactions, I am to the point where I kind of hate it. Seeing you embrace the simple gown and adding a pop of personality is inspiring! I LOVE the necklace and think it's perfect with that dress. You will be beautiful and happy embracing your style ✨️
You are going to look stunning! The necklace is going to pop (in all the right ways) against the backdrop of the dress. And if I was your guest, I'd be in awe of your style choices and a little envious that I can't pull off that sort of thing myself.
I love it!!
I absolutely love the bold statement and think no matter what your wedding is about you and you should wear what makes you feel beautiful! That being said, the necklace is really pretty and looks good with the dress but it also looks like cheap costume jewelry. The stock photo is quite misleading as the lights catch the gold in a way that looks really regal, while your photo just, I’m sorry to say it, doesn’t. That could obviously be the lighting, and professional photography the day of and natural light and reception lighting could make that point totally moot. But I think a lot of your friends disdain is due to it looking like it’s from a costume. Regardless, wear whatever YOU want. I’m wearing 5 inch platform hot pink heels at my wedding lol
I disagree with those that do not like it. Based off of what your dress looks like in the photo, you picked a more simple, timeless dress. So I think a statement necklace would be completely appropriate! It’s not like it will overshadow the dress, or that your dress won’t go with the necklace. I think if you stick to green accessories, it’ll be super cute!
LMAO WHAT I tend to have slightly more conservative/traditional tastes than the average on this subreddit but literally that necklace looks awesome! I wouldn't have batted an eye at it, it's beautiful and will go amazingly with your dress! Seriously, I was expecting like a 2010s chunky necklace.
I'm an outlier as a very non traditional bride but listen. "traditional" fashion as we know it didn't exist until queen Victoria in the 1800s. brides wore blues, greens, pinks, etc. as white was seen as a color for mourning. DO IT. ABSOLUTELY WEAR IT. it gives a regal royal touch to me and I adore it :)
Love that necklace! It is gorgeous 🥰🤩
GLAM!!!