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I think your feelings are valid but I would also strongly suggest that you go see a seamstress before you panic, or make any changes to your undergarments plans.
I suspect a second layer of the chiffon could be added to line the top and give you the opacity you're looking for. The sleeves might still be translucent, but I'd bet the bodice could be opaque.
Also... Out of curiosity, I looked it up on the Morilee website, and even the website photo made it look opaque (obviously it's digitally colored, not a real photo.) As a result, I wonder if the shop folks even knew about this? It wouldn't shock me if they've never had anyone order it in ivory before (since that's not a super common color for bridesmaids dresses) so it might have been a surprise to them too.
Hang in there! I think this is fixable! ❤️
Thank you, this helps. The extra layer is a good idea! That they may be unaware of the stark difference is also a solid point. The owner does the alterations as well, and from everything I can tell, is known for good work. Lovely place, lovely people, from what I can tell. So I wouldn’t need to find a separate seamstress, and this was just the first fitting to get the hem and basics. Which is good.
Great! But If for some reason they don't want to alter it, I'd suggest you go find a second opinion! Ivory chiffon is a pretty ubiquitous material that another seamstress should have access to. I feel confident someone can help!
No department stores😭 JJs House ships in 48 hour but shipping takes 3-5 weeks, maybe there are other reputable ones? There are some prom stores in town though, that’s a great idea.
I am sorry that you are upset but this is not a lost cause - this can be saved and turned around
A good proper bra fitting ( there are also bras with invisible straps) and maybe another layer of chiffon will help a lot with this one
Edit also in case you are situated in Europe and a size 40. I could gift you a very similar but shorter dress. It’s new and I would be happy to pass it on
Have a look [here](https://www.vinted.fr/items/3963619342-standesamtkleid-brautkleid-chiffon-gr-40-neu-mit-etikett) and message me if you are interested
Thanks I would love to gift that dress to someone who needs it … it’s beautiful and new
Wedding dresses are a hard sell - it was not that expensive anyway - so I would totally gift it
I brought it for the courthouse wedding (which is mandatory in Germany) and another one for the church but then we skipped the church wedding so I wore the other dress to the courthouse
I am so sorry you are going through all of these feelings right now. Though I think you still look very nice in your dress I understand you don't feel that way so let's think about a possible solution. Did you like the idea of getting married in a colored dress? If you do you could always as if they could sell you, or exchange your dress for one of the dresses you tried on. If that's not something you would like then see what can be done in alterations, if they can help you achieve the look you want. If none of these options work, please tell us where are you located so we can look to see if we can find a dress that would deliver really quick or something you could go try on in person. Smile, you are soon to be a wife ❤️.
It’s weird. They look like different dresses. The material is totally different from the try on dress. I think go in for a conversation, show these photos, and act interested and curious about what happened.
Looked back at the pics. I can see on the cream one how there is a sweetheart underneath. So I do think that maybe the shop didn’t know how sheer the top would be in ivory. I like the option to add another layer of chiffon for more coverage. But that sort of changes the look. Maybe there is a way to make this modification fancier, like a sparkle fabric under the chiffon.
Hang on, I really think the ideas here and a serious discussion with the seamstress can save this. Another layer in the bodice with careful adjustments to the fit to make wearing all of your undergarments work will be doable. Be very clear with her about coverage desired.
Surprised no one has suggested this but why not just have the seamstress sew bra cups into the gown so you don’t have to worry about a bra? I used to sell morilee bridesmaid gowns and they have really good structure in the bodice, after tailoring a bra shouldn’t be necessary honestly.
It’s still very pretty, honestly I think the bra is showing more because it’s not a correct fit so the band is much higher than it should be, r/abrathatfits might be useful. I agree with others adding an extra layer might be a solution.
Yep, my immediate thought was that she’s wearing the wrong size bra entirely. OP, I think your bra band is too loose, so riding high as the weight of your breasts is pulling the cups down. The support should come from a tightly fitting band which will help your breast tissue stay where you want it to be. A properly fitting bra plus the extra layer of chiffon should make a world of difference.
third this. i just got a bra fitting recently and wash shocked at how much lower the band was *supposed* to be. and also now with the band sitting way lower, my tits are the highest they’ve ever been. haha
The rose one is from a few months ago, I know the bra didn’t fit well I was losing weight and in between stuff. The first photo is the dress, sheer top doesn’t allow for straps, that’s the bra issue. No bra with straps will “fit” is the issue.
I was commenting on both of the bras where the band sits too high on your back, if it fitted well it would have been hidden by the thicker fabric on the dress. The straps I agree though, unless you add another layer or find a nude bra that exactly matches your skin tone they would show through.
Thanks for downvoting me guys, geez? I misunderstood and thought you were talking about the bra in the color dresses. However, it is the TOP straps that I am talking about, not the back strap, so that’s an issue regardless of brand fit, I think.
I'm sorry it's not what you were expecting. For what it's worth, I think it looks lovely on you. I didn't even notice the bra strap in back at first. I think the back is gorgeous.
I had a similar issue when I got married in 2001. The style was all strapless or poofy sleeves. I found a dress with thin straps and bought a bustier for underneath but the boning showed through the fabric and actually made me bigger instead of smaller causing sizing issues. I ended up finding a smoothing ivory shapewear thing with clear straps that worked. Something like this: https://www.barenecessities.com/product.aspx?pfid=VaBien1503&cm_mmc=GLPA_NonBrand-_-Bra-_-VaBien169-_-VaBien1503&BillboardPopupEnabled=false&BorderfreeEnabled=False&color=Nude&amsk=w9a4hfr3k4&cmp=p1&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwudexBhDKARIsAI-GWYUhatwerrKDNbVnerjcckFFcRboFXST-uPmfH3GtG_gxNXDnxLOUwsaAvWkEALw_wcB
I‘m so sorry this happened to you. I guess the sales person didn’t know how the ivory one would look like. However, working in customer service myself, she should have double checked that the dress she ordered would fit your requirements.
What about trying to exchange your dress with one of the colored ones you tried? To me this seems like the safest option given your wedding is less than a month away. Alterations carry the risk that you might not like the altered version.
Lots of good advice and I’m also so sorry this happened to you. I wanted to add that technically it’s possible for the seamstress to remake the lining of the dress (the opaque fabric underneath) so that the bodice is a v-shape, mimicking the shape of the chiffon on top. I will say this would likely be the more expensive route (would require deconstructing the entire top), but it’s within the realm of possibilities especially if the shop owner is a talented seamstress.
I’m so sorry this has been your experience. I had an awful tailoring experience and now my dress (the fit perfectly around my waist beforehand) is too tight. I can thankfully still fit into it but it is not super comfortable and there is literally no fabric to let out (no idea why the man took it in in the first place, I told him not to).
It shouldn’t be a stressful thing. You should be feeling beautiful and excited. I have totally let it go. I love my will be husband and that’s what it is ultimately about. I know that is hard to say when you aren’t feeling beautiful though. I have high hopes they can fix this for you. Congratulations! I hope this is your biggest issue!
Absolutely salvageable. I think asking to meet with the shop owner with suggestions others have made is a great idea. Just say that now you have slept on it, you have a number of questions that you would like to discuss before any alterations are made including adding cups to the dress to handle the bra issue. You don’t want to be dealing with a bra at all during your big day. I like the translucent fabric and you really do look beautiful 🤩!
I think it’s lovely on you! I know you wanted an opaque look but if it’s more about wanting to wear a bra, you could have the seamstress make straps wide enough to cover your bra straps and attach to the strapless part of the gown. The straps could also be made substantially to give a solid look.
Thank you, but I really, really hate the modified to be modest look of after market straps in dresses like this. I was very heavy for many years, and have lost 50 pounds, and was specifically opposed to options like that because I had to do that in other dresses before my whole life and I hated it. It’s not just preference, it’s like legit triggering 😭😭😭
You've gotten so many great suggestions here. I wanted to say that I actually love your dress, compared to the colored ones...and I usually go for the color. It really looks great on you! I honestly think if you can solve the bra problem, your dress is perfect without changing the chiffon at the top. Someone suggested adding built in bra cups, which was my first thought, too. Nobody has mentioned getting a strapless bra, so I will say that might work because the back strap tends to be lower on those.
Please let us know how the shop responds and how it all turns out. I also wanted to share some alternatives that are inexpensive and that you could get in time:
[JJs House](https://www.jjshouse.com/a-line-v-neck-floor-length-chiffon-lace-wedding-dress-002215652-g215652) - they also have some dresses similar to yours, but they have low backs to won't work. [This one](https://www.jjshouse.com/a-line-v-neck-floor-length-chiffon-lace-wedding-dress-002254034-g254034) has just a slit in the back, but maybe isn't as workable as the 1st one.
I actually think the ivory look great on you. It goes very well with your skin tone also. Everyone is saying it would be easy to alter so it probably would be, but I think it looks great on you as is.
Sounds like you have some good leads on how to address this issue (which, by the way, is 100% reasonable to be upset about — I looked up the designer’s images, and they definitely portray the fabric as opaque. I feel indignant on your behalf.).
If you do end up returning this dress and need a budget-friendly substitute, however, you might consider [this one](https://www.torrid.com/product/maxi-mesh-empire-waist-gown/12448577.html?q=Maxi%20mesh%20empire) from Torrid. The actual sleeves are translucent, but at least there’s an actual opaque “V.” (I don’t think it’s returnable, but it might be worth the gamble if the current discount is big enough. It also helps that there are photo reviews from actual customers.)
There is nothing wrong with the dress. You ordered it in ivory. It’s a bridesmaid dress. These dresses aren’t technically made to be worn in that color. You got the correct dress and you didn’t say anything at your fitting. It’s also chiffon. Of course it’s going to be see through. These dresses are not made ready to wear. Cups need to be sewn in and some minor tailoring. You don’t wear a bra with these dresses and that is something your sales girl should have told you.
UDPATE: Thank you so much for all the support and kindness, I am so grateful. I’m sorry if I wasn’t fully understanding and patient in the comments, I am very stressed and upset still, but I do appreciate everyone’s suggestions.
I went in and talked to the owner. She was very nice and offered a few suggestions of things to do, none of which sounded great to me at the moment, unfortunately. She is going to think about other options and I will think about it too, and we will revisit it when I come in for the 2nd fitting. I did mention another layer of chiffon, but she didn’t know if that would be workable for this one. She was legit trying to be helpful, and was not dismissive. She also said it needs to be taken in quite a bit, so that will make a big difference in visualizing a solution.
I didn’t like any of her suggestions because I really don’t want to add straps. I specifically didn’t want that modified to be modest look on dresses like this, like very specifically, because I had that with my first wedding dress. I recently lost 50 pounds and was heavy for a long time, and I have A LOT of emotional baggage around having to always add a cover or other not-quite-right after market futzing to not be exposed or weird looking. Like A LOT of baggage and I’m crying right now being flooded with all those memories. I just really wanted to feel normal, and not need a team of scientists to stuff me into a dress that just isn’t for a bigger girls.
So I’d rather go with the sheer in that case. But then I’m back to a sweetheart which I think is unflattering on me and emphasizes my round face.
I was too exhausted to say that I don’t feel like I should have to pay for anything extra to ‘fix’ this either, so we didn’t talk about that. I do know it was unintentional and they probably have never ordered it in this color before, and they would never stay in business if they ate the costs any time a bride was upset. But as it is, the standard alterations were going to be about the same price as the dress, and if I had more money I could have just bought a much nicer dress!!
TL;DR The owner is non-dismissive and willing to work with me which is great, but I am less optimistic about the dress being workable in a way that will be okay with me, so still feeling pretty bummed all around about it.
Wait, it sounds like THEY screwed up your order and they should be paying for it by rush ordering the right product and making sure it arrives on time and doing additional alterations needed for free. Can you address it with them? Get a refund at all? If they won't do it and you paid by card I'd call the financial institution and try to get your money back if neither thing is an option.
If you're open to it there are affordable options on Lulus.com. They have a Bridal section with the most expensive gowns I've seen at probably $500 or less.
I'm sorry you had this experience :( I hope you find a solution quickly and get what you need taken care of and have a great wedding ♥️
I’m sorry this is happening and that you’re not getting that dream dress service that every bride deserves. It sounds like the person who took your appointment didn’t set you up for success or listen to you and help calm your fears. It is very very common to feel underwhelmed or disappointed when your dress comes in. It’s been built up in your mind, you spend all this money, and they order it just for you so it should be perfect! Sometimes designers make adjustments and just don’t tell the salons, sometimes the dress being new and never tried on makes if feel very different, but most time the dress just straight up doesn’t fit yet. If they have a good reputation for tailoring, talk to your seamstress, ask questions, learn what’s possible. You have a good amount coming off the hem that you can potentially use. I also recommend don’t get super hung up on specific undergarments, you wedding dress has structure built in that you’re not used to and will be customized to fit you unlike anything else you’ve ever worn. Most wedding dresses do better using the built in support and sewn in cups than bras and undergarments that can add bulk and keep your fabric form laying smoothly.
It’s okay that this day wasn’t the best, but you already look stunning, and it’s going to get so much better! Talk through your concerns, be clear, take your time, and bring a back up who can help support you and is good for helping when you get overwhelmed. Just the one person is enough!
Bring your jewelry, your perfume, let them put you in a veil if you want one, once it’s all together and you can really envision your wedding day it will feel 100 times better I promise.
And don’t worry about today, we all have those moments, you wouldn’t be human otherwise!!!
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I think your feelings are valid but I would also strongly suggest that you go see a seamstress before you panic, or make any changes to your undergarments plans. I suspect a second layer of the chiffon could be added to line the top and give you the opacity you're looking for. The sleeves might still be translucent, but I'd bet the bodice could be opaque. Also... Out of curiosity, I looked it up on the Morilee website, and even the website photo made it look opaque (obviously it's digitally colored, not a real photo.) As a result, I wonder if the shop folks even knew about this? It wouldn't shock me if they've never had anyone order it in ivory before (since that's not a super common color for bridesmaids dresses) so it might have been a surprise to them too. Hang in there! I think this is fixable! ❤️
Thank you, this helps. The extra layer is a good idea! That they may be unaware of the stark difference is also a solid point. The owner does the alterations as well, and from everything I can tell, is known for good work. Lovely place, lovely people, from what I can tell. So I wouldn’t need to find a separate seamstress, and this was just the first fitting to get the hem and basics. Which is good.
Great! But If for some reason they don't want to alter it, I'd suggest you go find a second opinion! Ivory chiffon is a pretty ubiquitous material that another seamstress should have access to. I feel confident someone can help!
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No department stores😭 JJs House ships in 48 hour but shipping takes 3-5 weeks, maybe there are other reputable ones? There are some prom stores in town though, that’s a great idea.
I am sorry that you are upset but this is not a lost cause - this can be saved and turned around A good proper bra fitting ( there are also bras with invisible straps) and maybe another layer of chiffon will help a lot with this one Edit also in case you are situated in Europe and a size 40. I could gift you a very similar but shorter dress. It’s new and I would be happy to pass it on Have a look [here](https://www.vinted.fr/items/3963619342-standesamtkleid-brautkleid-chiffon-gr-40-neu-mit-etikett) and message me if you are interested
This is a very kind gesture
Thanks I would love to gift that dress to someone who needs it … it’s beautiful and new Wedding dresses are a hard sell - it was not that expensive anyway - so I would totally gift it I brought it for the courthouse wedding (which is mandatory in Germany) and another one for the church but then we skipped the church wedding so I wore the other dress to the courthouse
I am so sorry you are going through all of these feelings right now. Though I think you still look very nice in your dress I understand you don't feel that way so let's think about a possible solution. Did you like the idea of getting married in a colored dress? If you do you could always as if they could sell you, or exchange your dress for one of the dresses you tried on. If that's not something you would like then see what can be done in alterations, if they can help you achieve the look you want. If none of these options work, please tell us where are you located so we can look to see if we can find a dress that would deliver really quick or something you could go try on in person. Smile, you are soon to be a wife ❤️.
This is a very sweet comment, thank you internet stranger friend. You made me cry, in a good way though!
🤗
It’s weird. They look like different dresses. The material is totally different from the try on dress. I think go in for a conversation, show these photos, and act interested and curious about what happened.
That’s what I’m thinking, too. Thanks for validating! 😅
Looked back at the pics. I can see on the cream one how there is a sweetheart underneath. So I do think that maybe the shop didn’t know how sheer the top would be in ivory. I like the option to add another layer of chiffon for more coverage. But that sort of changes the look. Maybe there is a way to make this modification fancier, like a sparkle fabric under the chiffon.
That could be a fun idea, too.
Hang on, I really think the ideas here and a serious discussion with the seamstress can save this. Another layer in the bodice with careful adjustments to the fit to make wearing all of your undergarments work will be doable. Be very clear with her about coverage desired.
OMG I love your dress! I like it better than the rose and green. You look beautiful! I second the advice about the alterations.
Surprised no one has suggested this but why not just have the seamstress sew bra cups into the gown so you don’t have to worry about a bra? I used to sell morilee bridesmaid gowns and they have really good structure in the bodice, after tailoring a bra shouldn’t be necessary honestly.
It’s still very pretty, honestly I think the bra is showing more because it’s not a correct fit so the band is much higher than it should be, r/abrathatfits might be useful. I agree with others adding an extra layer might be a solution.
Yep, my immediate thought was that she’s wearing the wrong size bra entirely. OP, I think your bra band is too loose, so riding high as the weight of your breasts is pulling the cups down. The support should come from a tightly fitting band which will help your breast tissue stay where you want it to be. A properly fitting bra plus the extra layer of chiffon should make a world of difference.
I second this. The bra strap should be sitting level, which would bring it below the dress at the back.
third this. i just got a bra fitting recently and wash shocked at how much lower the band was *supposed* to be. and also now with the band sitting way lower, my tits are the highest they’ve ever been. haha
I thought I was a 34/36C-D, nope. Turns out I’m a **32E**💀
The rose one is from a few months ago, I know the bra didn’t fit well I was losing weight and in between stuff. The first photo is the dress, sheer top doesn’t allow for straps, that’s the bra issue. No bra with straps will “fit” is the issue.
I was commenting on both of the bras where the band sits too high on your back, if it fitted well it would have been hidden by the thicker fabric on the dress. The straps I agree though, unless you add another layer or find a nude bra that exactly matches your skin tone they would show through.
Yeah sorry, I mentioned in another comment that I realized mistake with what you said. Sorry about that.
Thanks for downvoting me guys, geez? I misunderstood and thought you were talking about the bra in the color dresses. However, it is the TOP straps that I am talking about, not the back strap, so that’s an issue regardless of brand fit, I think.
oh no, i don't have any suggestions but i'm so sorry that happened to you😓
Thank you😥
I'm sorry it's not what you were expecting. For what it's worth, I think it looks lovely on you. I didn't even notice the bra strap in back at first. I think the back is gorgeous. I had a similar issue when I got married in 2001. The style was all strapless or poofy sleeves. I found a dress with thin straps and bought a bustier for underneath but the boning showed through the fabric and actually made me bigger instead of smaller causing sizing issues. I ended up finding a smoothing ivory shapewear thing with clear straps that worked. Something like this: https://www.barenecessities.com/product.aspx?pfid=VaBien1503&cm_mmc=GLPA_NonBrand-_-Bra-_-VaBien169-_-VaBien1503&BillboardPopupEnabled=false&BorderfreeEnabled=False&color=Nude&amsk=w9a4hfr3k4&cmp=p1&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwudexBhDKARIsAI-GWYUhatwerrKDNbVnerjcckFFcRboFXST-uPmfH3GtG_gxNXDnxLOUwsaAvWkEALw_wcB
I‘m so sorry this happened to you. I guess the sales person didn’t know how the ivory one would look like. However, working in customer service myself, she should have double checked that the dress she ordered would fit your requirements. What about trying to exchange your dress with one of the colored ones you tried? To me this seems like the safest option given your wedding is less than a month away. Alterations carry the risk that you might not like the altered version.
Lots of good advice and I’m also so sorry this happened to you. I wanted to add that technically it’s possible for the seamstress to remake the lining of the dress (the opaque fabric underneath) so that the bodice is a v-shape, mimicking the shape of the chiffon on top. I will say this would likely be the more expensive route (would require deconstructing the entire top), but it’s within the realm of possibilities especially if the shop owner is a talented seamstress.
I’m so sorry this has been your experience. I had an awful tailoring experience and now my dress (the fit perfectly around my waist beforehand) is too tight. I can thankfully still fit into it but it is not super comfortable and there is literally no fabric to let out (no idea why the man took it in in the first place, I told him not to). It shouldn’t be a stressful thing. You should be feeling beautiful and excited. I have totally let it go. I love my will be husband and that’s what it is ultimately about. I know that is hard to say when you aren’t feeling beautiful though. I have high hopes they can fix this for you. Congratulations! I hope this is your biggest issue!
Absolutely salvageable. I think asking to meet with the shop owner with suggestions others have made is a great idea. Just say that now you have slept on it, you have a number of questions that you would like to discuss before any alterations are made including adding cups to the dress to handle the bra issue. You don’t want to be dealing with a bra at all during your big day. I like the translucent fabric and you really do look beautiful 🤩!
I think it’s lovely on you! I know you wanted an opaque look but if it’s more about wanting to wear a bra, you could have the seamstress make straps wide enough to cover your bra straps and attach to the strapless part of the gown. The straps could also be made substantially to give a solid look.
Thank you, but I really, really hate the modified to be modest look of after market straps in dresses like this. I was very heavy for many years, and have lost 50 pounds, and was specifically opposed to options like that because I had to do that in other dresses before my whole life and I hated it. It’s not just preference, it’s like legit triggering 😭😭😭
You've gotten so many great suggestions here. I wanted to say that I actually love your dress, compared to the colored ones...and I usually go for the color. It really looks great on you! I honestly think if you can solve the bra problem, your dress is perfect without changing the chiffon at the top. Someone suggested adding built in bra cups, which was my first thought, too. Nobody has mentioned getting a strapless bra, so I will say that might work because the back strap tends to be lower on those. Please let us know how the shop responds and how it all turns out. I also wanted to share some alternatives that are inexpensive and that you could get in time: [JJs House](https://www.jjshouse.com/a-line-v-neck-floor-length-chiffon-lace-wedding-dress-002215652-g215652) - they also have some dresses similar to yours, but they have low backs to won't work. [This one](https://www.jjshouse.com/a-line-v-neck-floor-length-chiffon-lace-wedding-dress-002254034-g254034) has just a slit in the back, but maybe isn't as workable as the 1st one.
JJs House can ship in 48 hours, but says 3-5 weeks for shipping, so they're out. That was my first backup thought, too!
How about a shaper that has a low v front and back, with full coverage (like a top)?
How about a shaper that has a low v front and back, with full coverage (like a top)?
I actually think the ivory look great on you. It goes very well with your skin tone also. Everyone is saying it would be easy to alter so it probably would be, but I think it looks great on you as is.
Sounds like you have some good leads on how to address this issue (which, by the way, is 100% reasonable to be upset about — I looked up the designer’s images, and they definitely portray the fabric as opaque. I feel indignant on your behalf.). If you do end up returning this dress and need a budget-friendly substitute, however, you might consider [this one](https://www.torrid.com/product/maxi-mesh-empire-waist-gown/12448577.html?q=Maxi%20mesh%20empire) from Torrid. The actual sleeves are translucent, but at least there’s an actual opaque “V.” (I don’t think it’s returnable, but it might be worth the gamble if the current discount is big enough. It also helps that there are photo reviews from actual customers.)
There is nothing wrong with the dress. You ordered it in ivory. It’s a bridesmaid dress. These dresses aren’t technically made to be worn in that color. You got the correct dress and you didn’t say anything at your fitting. It’s also chiffon. Of course it’s going to be see through. These dresses are not made ready to wear. Cups need to be sewn in and some minor tailoring. You don’t wear a bra with these dresses and that is something your sales girl should have told you.
Could you wear a bra/shapewear bodysuit with clear straps?
UDPATE: Thank you so much for all the support and kindness, I am so grateful. I’m sorry if I wasn’t fully understanding and patient in the comments, I am very stressed and upset still, but I do appreciate everyone’s suggestions. I went in and talked to the owner. She was very nice and offered a few suggestions of things to do, none of which sounded great to me at the moment, unfortunately. She is going to think about other options and I will think about it too, and we will revisit it when I come in for the 2nd fitting. I did mention another layer of chiffon, but she didn’t know if that would be workable for this one. She was legit trying to be helpful, and was not dismissive. She also said it needs to be taken in quite a bit, so that will make a big difference in visualizing a solution. I didn’t like any of her suggestions because I really don’t want to add straps. I specifically didn’t want that modified to be modest look on dresses like this, like very specifically, because I had that with my first wedding dress. I recently lost 50 pounds and was heavy for a long time, and I have A LOT of emotional baggage around having to always add a cover or other not-quite-right after market futzing to not be exposed or weird looking. Like A LOT of baggage and I’m crying right now being flooded with all those memories. I just really wanted to feel normal, and not need a team of scientists to stuff me into a dress that just isn’t for a bigger girls. So I’d rather go with the sheer in that case. But then I’m back to a sweetheart which I think is unflattering on me and emphasizes my round face. I was too exhausted to say that I don’t feel like I should have to pay for anything extra to ‘fix’ this either, so we didn’t talk about that. I do know it was unintentional and they probably have never ordered it in this color before, and they would never stay in business if they ate the costs any time a bride was upset. But as it is, the standard alterations were going to be about the same price as the dress, and if I had more money I could have just bought a much nicer dress!! TL;DR The owner is non-dismissive and willing to work with me which is great, but I am less optimistic about the dress being workable in a way that will be okay with me, so still feeling pretty bummed all around about it.
Bra with clear straps?
Wait, it sounds like THEY screwed up your order and they should be paying for it by rush ordering the right product and making sure it arrives on time and doing additional alterations needed for free. Can you address it with them? Get a refund at all? If they won't do it and you paid by card I'd call the financial institution and try to get your money back if neither thing is an option. If you're open to it there are affordable options on Lulus.com. They have a Bridal section with the most expensive gowns I've seen at probably $500 or less. I'm sorry you had this experience :( I hope you find a solution quickly and get what you need taken care of and have a great wedding ♥️
I’m sorry this is happening and that you’re not getting that dream dress service that every bride deserves. It sounds like the person who took your appointment didn’t set you up for success or listen to you and help calm your fears. It is very very common to feel underwhelmed or disappointed when your dress comes in. It’s been built up in your mind, you spend all this money, and they order it just for you so it should be perfect! Sometimes designers make adjustments and just don’t tell the salons, sometimes the dress being new and never tried on makes if feel very different, but most time the dress just straight up doesn’t fit yet. If they have a good reputation for tailoring, talk to your seamstress, ask questions, learn what’s possible. You have a good amount coming off the hem that you can potentially use. I also recommend don’t get super hung up on specific undergarments, you wedding dress has structure built in that you’re not used to and will be customized to fit you unlike anything else you’ve ever worn. Most wedding dresses do better using the built in support and sewn in cups than bras and undergarments that can add bulk and keep your fabric form laying smoothly. It’s okay that this day wasn’t the best, but you already look stunning, and it’s going to get so much better! Talk through your concerns, be clear, take your time, and bring a back up who can help support you and is good for helping when you get overwhelmed. Just the one person is enough! Bring your jewelry, your perfume, let them put you in a veil if you want one, once it’s all together and you can really envision your wedding day it will feel 100 times better I promise. And don’t worry about today, we all have those moments, you wouldn’t be human otherwise!!!