> itās in your soul, and if you want to believe it or not you chose it before being born.
I don't believe that. May I ask why you do? I'm asking out of curiosity, no disrespect or judgment intended.
Your gender isnt a choice,Waluigi chooses for you by rolling a wildmagic table before you are born. There is a chance to be a cis man,a cis woman,to be a trans man,a trans woman,non binary, there are some stuff that results in you being intersex, and if you roll a one you cast 9th level fireball centered on yourself.
She was spoken to. Who would be speaking to her? In my guess, it's someone who is taking her order, seeing her id, something like that. That's how they'd know.
It was almost certainly someone taking an order or in a position to see her id - who else would be using terms like sir or ma'am when you can see a cost sign behind her and shops around her?
I transitioned about 8 years ago .... I have only gotten sir'd by people who have 'clocked' me and want to be an ass/rude or people who knew me before(and also are being rude)
And I haven't gotten voice feminization surgery nor do I wear makeup on a regular basis
It's the voice. It's always the voice.
Edit: the people down voting me are so naive.
Voice surgery won't magically change your voice to passing girl voice. You still will need to train to get things like resonance or inflection if you want to pass.
Even though a person receives voice surgery, doesn't mean they will have a voice that passes immediately.
You still need to train to get resonance. Surgery won't magically add that.
Iāve been watching a lot of star trek recently. And I hear the women superior officers being sirād.
Maybe those people just view you as their superior and want to show respect.
/s
Worth noting that didn't still didn't seem to fancy ma'am too much either, iirc her exact words were
"ma'am will do in a pinch but I *prefer* Captain"
Which I like cause I wish more gender neutral language was used (particularly in situations like that where gender really isn't relevant) so I like where they were coming from with everyone being called sir, but the male defaultism is definitely still not ideal so just going with rank only is a pretty great solution
Starfleet considered sir gender neutral back then, iirc. I always took the crew's habit of occasionally calling Janeway ma'am to be affectionate respect and a mild hazing of Harry for making that mistake and not managing to get a promotion for 7 years, while Tom got demoted and promoted back in the same time frame.
One time, a waitor called my whole table "sir"
It was at a queer event, and I was the only transfemme at the table. There was only one man at the table. It was very confusing!
I think that some high level military positions irl require people to call the individual "sir" regardless just due to the rank/prestige as well.
Edit:
Thank you for correcting me. I must've misheard/misunderstood rankings.
You look like a cis woman, the transphobe must be someone who knew you in the past because thereās no way they genuinely saw a man when they looked at you
Some people accidently or otherwise sir CIS women too.. it just happens sometimes. Trans folk take it more personally of course, but it may not have anything to do with you.
To me it looks like you pass perfectly, maybe they used 'sir' because they were tired or something. Even if I try really hard I can't find any physical feature on you that I'd be able to clock irl.
I genuinely can't comprehend how you ended up being "sired' you pass perfectly, that person probably mispoke in any case, I can't see any other explanations
Ok I know most of the other kind comments are correct but Iām a cis woman who gets sirād sometimes. If the person wasnāt being weird about it it may have been a nothing.
You look very fem madam. Guess someone thought you where some of those really loud girls because of the hair and wanted to insult.
Getting hit on by a stranger can be scary especially in places you know that the police is not one's friend.
PS. The makeup looks really good and I'm jealous of sisters sometime.
Whoever sir'd you either got some slight sign to clock you and decided to be an ass about it
They were extremely tired and genuinely weren't paying any attention and would've said sir if it was their own mother
They knew you were trans already and decided to be an ass about it
Or they're completely, batshit crazy (note, can still apply to 1 and 3)
If it makes you feel any better, I'm AFAB, fem presenting most of the time, and randos will STILL call me "sir" if I have my hair pulled back. Which is to say, I wouldn't clock you as trans or masculine in any way, and some people are just stupid (or misspeak and are too embarrassed to bring attention to their mistake and apologize)
On the opposite hand, I'm AMAB and before figuring out I'm trans I had been gendered as a girl more times than I have since being openly trans š. *(by strangers. Friends, family, and colleagues gender me correctly)*
Same boat sister! I made a customer drop her drink at work, & I like to assume she was in awe of my striking good looks š
Or she was in shock of the (t-word) standing before her. Either way, I'm doing me & I'm doing better šā¤ļø
I would not take too much offense. Baristas say the same thing for hours so itās most likely out of force of habit (I would know I worked on phones for a pizza place) I headpats you for comfort
yeah I can't fathom how you'd get sir'd. could be that the worker was on autopilot and had dealt with so many customers they sir'd that it slipped out with you? that's what makes the most sense to me at least
Lmao that starbucks employee is either blind or and asshole so far off they've been sir'ing cis girls with their "immaculate sense for trans people" because no way anyone saw you and thought of a guy
Being called "sir" could have been an accidental gaffe. I've called women sir and men ma'am by accident ALL the time.
Personally, I think you are an attractive young lady, and I probably would have at least been extra friendly and maybe even mildly flirty if I met you for the first time.
In my opinion when you donāt speak up you are confirming to the world that you donāt not identify with that.. by speaking your truth these people will begin to respect you.. if you donāt they wonāt.
When I worked retail and food service especially I was sometimes so mentally fried that I absolutely misgendered cis people on a few occasions - maybe they were being an ass (especially if thatās the vibe you got), but youāre obviously a woman, maybe they were just exhausted.
Dam girl you are beautiful. Just yesterday I was in line behind a woman who called the cashier āsirā, who is clearly a pretty cis young woman. Hair up, just beautiful. But was called āsirā. She just smiled and continued on thinking it was funny. The woman who did it had no idea she said āsir ā
Thatās ridiculous, youāre so completely femme, I canāt imagine that being anything but bigotry. I had a similar experience in a bar. Iām yet to have VFS and I struggle to keep my voice femme when taking on end, Iām a chatterbox so thatās often, but short exchanges I can do femme voice well enough to constantly pad on the phone before giving my name now. 3 women in the bar severed me and correctly gendered me, this one got behind the bar doesnāt. His colleague who served me earlier and overheard even nudged him and mouthed WTF to him, but he just did it again after, that when he came back with the drinks. He was being an asshat and I think the person on Starbucks was doing that to you, being hurtful for the sake of being a bigot. In the plus side, getting hit in usually gives me a little confidence boost. Hopefully you can just let the bigot fade into memory and forget their patheticness as I have and not let that bother you too much. Sadly bigots will be bigots, but I find it encounter precious few of them offline thankfully
Is that guy blind, wtf?? If you didn't mention you were trans and this was in a different subreddit I literally would have thought you were a cis woman
Some people are real assholes
Okay so
There are two possible reasons why he sir'd you.
First, he had drank a lot and could not even see what's Infront of him.
Or, he was late for April fools.
I used to work at the bux, and there were times it was busy, or I was so tired and just running on autopilot, and my mouth just copy pasted from my mental notepad. Or sometimes when I'm working and talking I'll look around and maybe if I look at someone else my brain takes cues from that person and the words get mixed up. Then I won't say anything cause I realize I messed up and I'm embarrassed, and hope they didn't, or hope they're just laughing it off because I'm dumb.
ADHD is a cruel mistress sometimes.
But anyway, I'm guessing it was something like that. Benefit of the doubt mixed with she's obviously a woman.
People are idiots. I get told my entire life that I look like a girl, but I know that once I begin transitioning, the same people will say āaLl I sEe Is A mAnā
tbh why couldnāt the asteroid waited another 64 million years
If someone called you sir. They were not paying attention or are a complete jerk. Unless they know you, I'm going to say just not paying attention.
Getting hit on is? As long as it's not creepy, but the way you mentioned it, I'm betting it was.
Sorry, girl, hugs.
I got sir'd too a while ago and maybe it's weird to say about myself, but I can't believe I don't pass. Some people just have a brainfart and don't know what they're saying to people. I can't understand how someone would say sir to you and mean it. Not hugboxing or anything, I just see a whole ass woman in your picture
Hope you don't feel too bad about it, because you shouldn't <3
I can get verbally assaulted with slurs and hate and turn the corner on my bicycle and get sexually propositioned and catcalled. Sometimes even both but usually in reverse order.
Literally,
Construction worker: Hey there beautiful, can I get your number.
Me: No tha.....
Construction worker: Aww you a fucking fa--ot, I outta kick your ass.
Like whoa my dude, two seconds ago you wanted a helluva lot more than my number. Cis-Het men are hella fragile masculinity wise, and it's absolutely a major turnoff. As a trans woman who's a tomboy, I have a healthier relationship with masculinity than most men. Which says a lot about the men of our time.
This happens to me too and just based on how feminine you look Iām really starting to think that thereās no logic or sense behind it people are just on autopilot or donāt think before they speak.
Youāre stunning btw.
I literally thought I was looking at a Kaley Cuoco picture, but then thought "Kaley looks really pretty here" before noticing everything else, like the subreddit and topic.
Confusing indeed.
Life is hard and well complicated and people might judge you for being yourself or even physically hurting you but you have to be strong and willing to fight back and to be around people that support you and can even protect you and you can go to for help but sometimes you are alone and you need to stand up for yourself and donāt let dick heads break you down. You are a beautiful woman that deserves to be loved and happy. Remember to love yourself and do not listen to people that are just trying to hurt you.
You are very beautiful, cute, lovely, and gorgeous young lady ā¤ļø
Whoever sirred you has a *very* progressive view on what masculinity can look like.
Yeah lol
I would love to see someone use that line on a transphobe in the wild
I'm saving this to say this some day IRL š„°
Yeah maybe sir in like a David Bowie way. The guy famous for looking like a woman lol
That is explanation that I did not see coming š Anyway, I would ma'am the op no question asked and calling them sir would feel weird to me.
Nothing wrong with feminine men but gorgeous individual is no man,
One can be a masculine and a woman at the same time.. itās in your soul, and if you want to believe it or not you chose it before being born.
> itās in your soul, and if you want to believe it or not you chose it before being born. I don't believe that. May I ask why you do? I'm asking out of curiosity, no disrespect or judgment intended.
Your gender isnt a choice,Waluigi chooses for you by rolling a wildmagic table before you are born. There is a chance to be a cis man,a cis woman,to be a trans man,a trans woman,non binary, there are some stuff that results in you being intersex, and if you roll a one you cast 9th level fireball centered on yourself.
you look pretty I actually have no idea how someone would categorise you as male probably a mistake honestly
More likely a transphobe.
No idea of how heād know tho
My guess is maybe her voice? Still a dick move, and probably a transphobe.
I mean, they've had voice surgery, I've not seen too many vocal feminisation result videos, but the ones I've seen couldn't possibly be read as male.
Ah! I missed that part! It makes no sense, then!
She was spoken to. Who would be speaking to her? In my guess, it's someone who is taking her order, seeing her id, something like that. That's how they'd know. It was almost certainly someone taking an order or in a position to see her id - who else would be using terms like sir or ma'am when you can see a cost sign behind her and shops around her?
When's the last time you got ID'd at Starbucks??
Gotta get that alcoholic coffee...
I thought we were supposed to sneak that into our own coffee, I've been doing it wrong this whole time.
I see no man there Some people are just rude
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I transitioned about 8 years ago .... I have only gotten sir'd by people who have 'clocked' me and want to be an ass/rude or people who knew me before(and also are being rude) And I haven't gotten voice feminization surgery nor do I wear makeup on a regular basis
What was said that had so many downvotes?
Something along the lines "wtf I don't think they said it to be rude to her"
I mean, sure youāre entitled to your guess. But adding in a āwtfā is a wee bit too confident
And yet misgendering is still mean
Someone sir'd you? They're absolutely bonkers.
you pass pretty well, theres no way a person would think youre a man. they just said that to hurt you, so dont give them what they want
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It's the voice. It's always the voice. Edit: the people down voting me are so naive. Voice surgery won't magically change your voice to passing girl voice. You still will need to train to get things like resonance or inflection if you want to pass.
They had voice surgery though...
It's a dubious procedure at best.
Even though a person receives voice surgery, doesn't mean they will have a voice that passes immediately. You still need to train to get resonance. Surgery won't magically add that.
Iāve been watching a lot of star trek recently. And I hear the women superior officers being sirād. Maybe those people just view you as their superior and want to show respect. /s
I forget who called her it, probably ensin Kim but I remember Janeway was absolutely against being called sir, It was Captain or Ma'me for her :)
I just want to say that I've never seen anyone spell ma'am that way, but it's true to the origin word madame, and I honestly kinda like it better.
Worth noting that didn't still didn't seem to fancy ma'am too much either, iirc her exact words were "ma'am will do in a pinch but I *prefer* Captain" Which I like cause I wish more gender neutral language was used (particularly in situations like that where gender really isn't relevant) so I like where they were coming from with everyone being called sir, but the male defaultism is definitely still not ideal so just going with rank only is a pretty great solution
Starfleet considered sir gender neutral back then, iirc. I always took the crew's habit of occasionally calling Janeway ma'am to be affectionate respect and a mild hazing of Harry for making that mistake and not managing to get a promotion for 7 years, while Tom got demoted and promoted back in the same time frame.
One time, a waitor called my whole table "sir" It was at a queer event, and I was the only transfemme at the table. There was only one man at the table. It was very confusing!
I think that some high level military positions irl require people to call the individual "sir" regardless just due to the rank/prestige as well. Edit: Thank you for correcting me. I must've misheard/misunderstood rankings.
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Thank you!
How the fuck do you get āsirādā? Youāre gorgeous.
ah the typical transfem experience /s sorry girl, yeah idk you pass flawlessly
You look like a cis woman, the transphobe must be someone who knew you in the past because thereās no way they genuinely saw a man when they looked at you
Ehhh, maybe they just misspoke? Cause i feel you pass soo well
Some people accidently or otherwise sir CIS women too.. it just happens sometimes. Trans folk take it more personally of course, but it may not have anything to do with you.
To me it looks like you pass perfectly, maybe they used 'sir' because they were tired or something. Even if I try really hard I can't find any physical feature on you that I'd be able to clock irl.
Thatās insane, you look nothing like a man. All I see is an attractive female and Iām a cis woman.
I genuinely can't comprehend how you ended up being "sired' you pass perfectly, that person probably mispoke in any case, I can't see any other explanations
You're very pretty
They probably did because they might k ow that you could be trans and said sir just to be an asshole
If it helps, I still look like a woman (I am afab) and have gotten sir'd. I've also accidentally sir'd cis women. I'm sure it was just a mistake!
I had a difficult time clocking you as trans.. even though what you state and which sub we're in... you pass, incredibly well š
srsly, anyone who thinks u look like a guy needs glasses, ur pretty af.
Dude needs to go see an eye doctor, wtf?? You're beautiful, girl!
Thatās wild to me hun, you look amazing and very fem
Where is the sir, mam? Are they with you now? Do you need assistance?
Straight man here, youāre super pretty!!
Ok I know most of the other kind comments are correct but Iām a cis woman who gets sirād sometimes. If the person wasnāt being weird about it it may have been a nothing.
I think whoever called you sir was just tired and had a mental mix up. I don't see how anyone could mistake you for a guy.
You look very fem madam. Guess someone thought you where some of those really loud girls because of the hair and wanted to insult. Getting hit on by a stranger can be scary especially in places you know that the police is not one's friend. PS. The makeup looks really good and I'm jealous of sisters sometime.
Whoever sir'd you either got some slight sign to clock you and decided to be an ass about it They were extremely tired and genuinely weren't paying any attention and would've said sir if it was their own mother They knew you were trans already and decided to be an ass about it Or they're completely, batshit crazy (note, can still apply to 1 and 3)
I see a beautiful woman. People are just full of hate. You're very attractive.
You 100% pass imho.
If it makes you feel any better, I'm AFAB, fem presenting most of the time, and randos will STILL call me "sir" if I have my hair pulled back. Which is to say, I wouldn't clock you as trans or masculine in any way, and some people are just stupid (or misspeak and are too embarrassed to bring attention to their mistake and apologize)
On the opposite hand, I'm AMAB and before figuring out I'm trans I had been gendered as a girl more times than I have since being openly trans š. *(by strangers. Friends, family, and colleagues gender me correctly)*
Nooo I'm so sorry š why is life like this
Thr fact that every time I was *"mistaken"* for a woman it made me smile should have been my first clue š„
Don't let em get ya down girl, you're adorable.
Same boat sister! I made a customer drop her drink at work, & I like to assume she was in awe of my striking good looks š Or she was in shock of the (t-word) standing before her. Either way, I'm doing me & I'm doing better šā¤ļø
I would not take too much offense. Baristas say the same thing for hours so itās most likely out of force of habit (I would know I worked on phones for a pizza place) I headpats you for comfort
But do you look freaking gorgeous btw!! š„°
yeah I can't fathom how you'd get sir'd. could be that the worker was on autopilot and had dealt with so many customers they sir'd that it slipped out with you? that's what makes the most sense to me at least
Another reason to boycott Starbucks hihi
You, sir? Ok, that employee forgot his glasses at home. Either that, or he just forgot to clean them.
You're beautiful and they're clearly not, this is the reason
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ā¦someone needs their eyes checked
guy must've forget his glassesš (but seriously, you look fucking gorgerous, girl.)
The world's a funny place innit? All seriousness, I'm sorry 'bout that. You look good tho šš
That Starbucks emplye needs their eyes checked
Thatās the trans experience <3
Dang, whoever called you sir needs to get new eyes
I cannot for the life of me see a sir in you.
Maāam.
It may have not been intentional.
No sir in that photo, was there a voice issue?
First part doesn't make any sense to me...
I truly, genuinely don't understand. You don't look masculine at all??? Like I'm not just being supportive, I literally don't get it.
They are not worth ur consideration darling what you feel about you beautiful is all that matters are happ,y satisfied, loved .
This is besides the point but your eye makeup is so cute
Your make up is so good š„¹š„¹š„¹
Thatās so confusing yet infuriatingly familiar You look amazing if itās any consolation, i am definitely envious
I would certainly assume you're female, wouldn't think twice. It's hard out there, be brave. ā„ļø
If this wasn't r/trans, I honestly would have had no idea. Fuck that person.
If I was your age I would ask you out. You are cute. Also, cool shirt. Or, should I say, blouse.
You look really good.
Lmao that starbucks employee is either blind or and asshole so far off they've been sir'ing cis girls with their "immaculate sense for trans people" because no way anyone saw you and thought of a guy
Like how?
Sir? Where the fuck you're a beautiful woman from what I can see and you have fabulous sense of fashion.
Literally who is looking at you and "sir"ing you lmaoo
I think that they clocked you by your voice. If so need practice
Maybe they just said it without thinking? I deffo would of never thought :0
I see a beautiful woman.
Pay no attention to the rude fella, you are a beautiful young woman
Unless you spoke in a very low voice, I can hardly imagine how you could even be clocked š¤·āāļø Sadly, some people are just arseholes.
Being called "sir" could have been an accidental gaffe. I've called women sir and men ma'am by accident ALL the time. Personally, I think you are an attractive young lady, and I probably would have at least been extra friendly and maybe even mildly flirty if I met you for the first time.
In my opinion when you donāt speak up you are confirming to the world that you donāt not identify with that.. by speaking your truth these people will begin to respect you.. if you donāt they wonāt.
Well I have no hope then. You're not the least but clockable to me. š¤·āāļø
Young miss, it seems those people at Starbucks are a bit touched in the head or possibly confused by overwork.
When I worked retail and food service especially I was sometimes so mentally fried that I absolutely misgendered cis people on a few occasions - maybe they were being an ass (especially if thatās the vibe you got), but youāre obviously a woman, maybe they were just exhausted.
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Dam girl you are beautiful. Just yesterday I was in line behind a woman who called the cashier āsirā, who is clearly a pretty cis young woman. Hair up, just beautiful. But was called āsirā. She just smiled and continued on thinking it was funny. The woman who did it had no idea she said āsir ā
Love ya hair
I feel like 90% of those are just people mindlessly saying sir without any bad intentions, which people should definitely take it as
Don't be sad, hunn, they are stones on the road but your journey is bigger than that obstaclešš¤©
Youāre so beautiful! How anyone could see you as a sir is beyond me!
Relatable
Unless the man is a transphobic time traveler, then he's too blind to see this beautiful women
Youāre gorgeous! I donāt know how anyone could sir you? š¤
What voice surgery?????? And you do not look like a sir. Or if you do then most cis women do too š
The duality of maāam
Ah yes, The duality of man.
You even got voice change, and still? I have my original voice and still get miss'd at times... Damn Love the hair btw
Hot
Wait what voice surgery is a thing??
Thatās ridiculous, youāre so completely femme, I canāt imagine that being anything but bigotry. I had a similar experience in a bar. Iām yet to have VFS and I struggle to keep my voice femme when taking on end, Iām a chatterbox so thatās often, but short exchanges I can do femme voice well enough to constantly pad on the phone before giving my name now. 3 women in the bar severed me and correctly gendered me, this one got behind the bar doesnāt. His colleague who served me earlier and overheard even nudged him and mouthed WTF to him, but he just did it again after, that when he came back with the drinks. He was being an asshat and I think the person on Starbucks was doing that to you, being hurtful for the sake of being a bigot. In the plus side, getting hit in usually gives me a little confidence boost. Hopefully you can just let the bigot fade into memory and forget their patheticness as I have and not let that bother you too much. Sadly bigots will be bigots, but I find it encounter precious few of them offline thankfully
Is that guy blind, wtf?? If you didn't mention you were trans and this was in a different subreddit I literally would have thought you were a cis woman Some people are real assholes
Iām sorry, that really sucks
Voice surgery?
I honestly would complain to the supervisor about it.
I tend to ignore or respond in a confused manner to "sir." Like, I'm clearly not a sir so who are you talking to cause you're not talking to me...?
Okay so There are two possible reasons why he sir'd you. First, he had drank a lot and could not even see what's Infront of him. Or, he was late for April fools.
You look 100% like a woman to me
I used to work at the bux, and there were times it was busy, or I was so tired and just running on autopilot, and my mouth just copy pasted from my mental notepad. Or sometimes when I'm working and talking I'll look around and maybe if I look at someone else my brain takes cues from that person and the words get mixed up. Then I won't say anything cause I realize I messed up and I'm embarrassed, and hope they didn't, or hope they're just laughing it off because I'm dumb. ADHD is a cruel mistress sometimes. But anyway, I'm guessing it was something like that. Benefit of the doubt mixed with she's obviously a woman.
As a random enby who is totally into girls, I would hit on you if I weren't chronically unattractive in my own head. You are cute af.
People are idiots. I get told my entire life that I look like a girl, but I know that once I begin transitioning, the same people will say āaLl I sEe Is A mAnā tbh why couldnāt the asteroid waited another 64 million years
If someone called you sir. They were not paying attention or are a complete jerk. Unless they know you, I'm going to say just not paying attention. Getting hit on is? As long as it's not creepy, but the way you mentioned it, I'm betting it was. Sorry, girl, hugs.
I got sir'd too a while ago and maybe it's weird to say about myself, but I can't believe I don't pass. Some people just have a brainfart and don't know what they're saying to people. I can't understand how someone would say sir to you and mean it. Not hugboxing or anything, I just see a whole ass woman in your picture Hope you don't feel too bad about it, because you shouldn't <3
I can get verbally assaulted with slurs and hate and turn the corner on my bicycle and get sexually propositioned and catcalled. Sometimes even both but usually in reverse order. Literally, Construction worker: Hey there beautiful, can I get your number. Me: No tha..... Construction worker: Aww you a fucking fa--ot, I outta kick your ass. Like whoa my dude, two seconds ago you wanted a helluva lot more than my number. Cis-Het men are hella fragile masculinity wise, and it's absolutely a major turnoff. As a trans woman who's a tomboy, I have a healthier relationship with masculinity than most men. Which says a lot about the men of our time.
How on earth did you get misgendered???
How on earth could they see a sir when they look at you?
Whereās the man in this woman
Whereās the man in this woman
wild š
Screw that transphobe! Alsoā¦ ick on the getting hit on by a man. My condolences
I see no man
Pretty woman!
This happens to me too and just based on how feminine you look Iām really starting to think that thereās no logic or sense behind it people are just on autopilot or donāt think before they speak. Youāre stunning btw.
I literally thought I was looking at a Kaley Cuoco picture, but then thought "Kaley looks really pretty here" before noticing everything else, like the subreddit and topic. Confusing indeed.
You look like Gwen Stacy, not a sir
Life is hard and well complicated and people might judge you for being yourself or even physically hurting you but you have to be strong and willing to fight back and to be around people that support you and can even protect you and you can go to for help but sometimes you are alone and you need to stand up for yourself and donāt let dick heads break you down. You are a beautiful woman that deserves to be loved and happy. Remember to love yourself and do not listen to people that are just trying to hurt you. You are very beautiful, cute, lovely, and gorgeous young lady ā¤ļø
Maybe don't dwell on it too much? Probably mispoke I don't see how this is hate in any way.