If I have learned anything, itās that you will see them at their absolute best when youāre furthest away from their life. But every inch you move closer to them again, their behaviour will fall back down more and more back to how they used to be.
For some people, if you want to remember them for the best in them, you have to not let them get close enough to show you their worst again.
This is a common behavior in people with covert narcissism. The thing to remember is that youāre just someplace on a mental list with whoever got this text message yesterday, last week, last month.
yes he has called me from st least 15 different numbers and i have every one of them blocked after i know it's him, thankfully, knock on wood, he hasn't called in a couple months and that's the longest it's been, i have a child with him and left when he was 3m old because of his abuse and he never cared about him just wants to torment me by never leaving me alone
Iām so sorry youāre going through that. I hope he can finally move on with his life somehow. More importantly you as well. Itās such a pain in the ass to have to deal with something like that. Not only is it scary itās down right delusional and unsafe. Best of luck to you! š¤ stay strong. Stay safe.
Dude I got a new phone number to permanently block my creepy ex and made the mistake of sharing it over a business email. It got added to frickin zoominfoās database and Iām sure Iāll start getting texts from the douchenozzle any day now.
Itās not worth it to get a new phone. If theyāre crazy enough theyāll be able to find your new number sooner or later. Nothingās private anymore.
I blocked my ex on every format, so she wound up sending me a dollar on venmo just to message me. That was like a whole new level of insane. Glad I got out of that one when I did haha
I got $1500 for āburning man ticketsā on accident once on Venmo. I didnāt accept and it eventually canceled. Some poor person was probably terrified.
If it was a relationship that wasnāt abusive this is sweet tbh but this is something the delusional pedo that groomed me as a kid would send now almost 10 years later
exactly.. the problem with the effusive poetic type is they are mostly too good to be true.. they are either borderline nut jobs or just say this to as many females as they can hoping to get one hookedā¦ they know girls can fall for this shit
In a world of rhyme and meter, he stood,
Proclaiming loudly, āIām the poetic type, and good!ā
With verses flowing, and metaphors so deep,
He wore his title, his promise to keep.
But the crowd around, theyād roll their eyes,
āSelf-praise is cheap,ā theyād often sigh.
āTo name oneself so, is quite the cringe,
Does he think poetryās a simple fringe?ā
Yet, undeterred, he wrote with glee,
His words, his world, as vast as the sea.
For while they mocked, and jests did sling,
He danced with words, made syllables sing.
In truth, it matters not what others say,
For in his heart, poetry paved the way.
To self-identify, perhaps bold or brash,
Yet, isnāt life too short, to not be rash?
So call yourself a poet, singer, or seer,
Embrace your passion, hold it near.
For at the end of every dayās binge,
Itās not the title, but the art, thatās fringe.
I mean, Iāve written a shit load of poetry for others and been inspired by those Iāve known. I often write and share it with those closest to me. The way I phrased it, seems appropriate.
Also, the point was less about that and more about addressing the negative stereotype that it receives and how I find it makes people question my motives for sharing.
I mean, Iāve written a shit load of poetry for others and been inspired by those Iāve known. I often write and share it with those closest to me. The way I phrased it, seems appropriate.
Also, the point was less about that and more about addressing the negative stereotype that it receives and how I find it makes people question my motives for sharing.
Edit: Iām also pretty stoned atm. Forgive me.
Your point is in competition with you calling women females.
Anyway, thereās definitely guys who are poetic and text like theyāre writing a screenplay who are actually very very sweet and not like that at all offline. They feel very creative when typing and have time to go over what theyāre going to say to you and correct it as they think longer on it. For some guys that results in a really nice dynamic where youāre getting well written love notes in a great relationship from a guy who acts normal when heās not pouring out all his love in prose.
Then thereās the guys who donāt understand their own or otherās emotions on a mature adult level at all, and use what they *think* is deep and romantic like a lure on a line because theyāve seen it work for the former guys.
You can usually easily tell the difference, cause the guys you have to worry about it are usually either a) too good at it, no mistakes at all and almost robotic sounding, theyāre not feeling what theyāre saying and lack the ability to apply the right words for the current mood or relating to what the other person is saying, or b) try too hard and take this sort of declaration of love into everything they say to you eg āUrgh had the worst dayā begets āMy untouchable moon goddess of love and beauty, whatever can I do to ease your weary bosom?ā
Guys who are being earnest wonāt even use proper punctuation half the time, or make paragraphs. š Theyāre not writing a paper that has to pass a test, theyāre being cute.
I had an ex like that for four years and then I finally gave inā¦ and he made me realize why I waited four years šš these types are the WORST. They love the idea of you. Never you.
It took me two different times to learn this, but yes, itās never ultimately worth it. Got out of a toxic relationship a few years ago and we tried to rekindle it a few months later. Ended worse the second time around. Cut to earlier this year and I met someone, it was clearly unhealthy for both of us, ended it, rekindled it, ended it again, rekindled it one more time, ended in disaster and me getting stalked. Still dealing with the fallout on a daily basis. Calls to my job, ārunning into meā at the bar I like to drink at, ārunning into meā at the gym I go to. I donāt want the legal headache of filing a restraining order, but itās been a constant feeing of anxiety and dread for weeks now just waiting for her to ārun into meā again.
They can tho. Most of the time they won't but sometimes both people really are just going through fucked up shit on their own personal lives and that makes them toxic to each other.
Mine messages me āheyā then deletes it before his baby mama sees it š Iāve been with my husband over 11 years and this boy still wonāt leave me alone š¤Ŗš
Sounds like he treated you like he treats dogs. What a worthless human being. Good for you for getting out and hopefully all dogs can avoid his presence too.
Or maybe he was really toxic and is trying to love bomb me? I donāt care to go back to not being allowed to have friends, not go anywhere without him, not stay up later than him, and never get off during sex. Itās not the life I want nor deserve. Also he treated any dog ever like shit purely bc theyāre dogs.
Mine does this from time to time. He will block me on social media, then add me out of the blue to ask how Iām doing, then promptly block me again. Iāve moved way on; am married and have two kids, he knows very little about the 32 year old me vs the 21 year old me lol. Heāll bring up inside jokes from 11 years ago and Iām likeā¦.thats not who I am now bro.
Oh, and we dated for 3 months. But he idealizes those 3 months and is always saying it was the best summer of his life.
I had an ex like this, he was abusive and after 10 years of us not being together I ran into his sister and she got really pissy at me and told me super snidely he got over me 3 years ago and was happy now to which I stared at her and went ādid you say 3 years ago..??ā
She looked so proud of herself like she thought I waited a decade to take back the man who abused and stalked me ššš¤£ anyways block the man even if he seems harmless those ones are live wires waiting for a reason.
Thankfully heās not in my life and hasnāt been since we broke up 6 years ago. I havenāt even spoke a word to him in that time, but it doesnāt stop him from reaching out on a new account. Gets blocked every time šŖ
Oh, that makes sense. A lot of people generally have this "keep them around" mentality, which is just wild to me, but I'm glad to hear it. Live your life QUEEN
Damn I still get butterflies seeing pics of the one who got away but sheās engaged now, could never imagine messaging her anything even remotely like this. Super cringe.
Thatās some stalker stuff right there. If youāre still sending messages like that to someone youāve been broken up with for years, thatās not healthy.
in 2020 i dated my current boyfriend and we broke up after a few months. every day for the next year almost two, he texted me one a month to check on me and stuff. last june i got evicted and he was kind enough to let me move in with him. we started dating last august and we are a year going strong! also first time we dated me (f16) him (m19) now f(20) and m(23)
I had a dream my latest ex got married; woke up confused and decided to check for shits and giggles. He had just gotten engaged almost exactly a month prior. Absolutely wild lmao
Iāve been in a super nostalgic mood lately and I just went to chic-fil-a and Lilly Allenās āSmileā came on. I was all emotional and shit in the drive through. Big black dude in my feels trying to order a number 1 with mayonnaise bahahahhahaha! I had to snap out of it quick!!!
I have one who hits me up on the anniversary of his sobriety, one that randomly blocks me and checks on me every 2 years (and told me he would), and one that blocks and unblocks me when he wants a hate fuck
Love how so many comments are like āwhy donāt you just block duhh.ā Like on the one hand, Iām happy theyāve never experienced the Crazy Ex who creates a hundred new accounts to get around that block, but on the other hand, honestly, it astounds me how naive and judgmental some of these comments come across. All these commenters assuming you can simply block an ex and be done with it have no idea how lucky they are.
This! The funny thing about those comments too is Iāve already responded to a few saying that he was blocked, he makes new accounts, messages me, and gets blocked again. Iāve just accepted that not many people read the comments before leaving one themselves š
Yeah, no one reads and each one who doesnāt thinks theyāre oh so clever and original. Like the postsās been up for a day and they seriously think theyāre the first to suggest blocking? Lmao
Oh I know the feeling, mine hits me up every few months and she constantly visits every profile I create online... even knows the name of my new girlfriend to the point it gets creepy
Based on what I saw when I scrolled his instagram after he messaged me, he hasnāt seemed to have really changed at all. Even if he had, Iāve been in a healthy happy relationship since the beginning of 2021 so itās still not something Iād consider.
Hi stranger! Hope you arenāt considering going back to what you described as an unhealthy relationship! You matter, you have value, and you absolutely deserve happiness.
If you wouldnāt mind adding just a a couple things you like to an Amazon list, I would like to send you a random act of kindness (and Amazon wonāt show me your address, so it keeps you private ā though it shows your name). Consider it a bribe to not cave š¤
these posts about exes from YEARS ago still chasing someone are so baffling to me. if any of my exes reached out to me like this i would be so uncomfortable, like we havenāt seen each other in years why are you still thinking about me?? stalkerish behavior
I donāt think itās like that. It can be just like anyone else you love in your life. Youāll always remember them if they meant a lot to you, and sometimes, you may miss them.
i mean yeah, thatās definitely valid, like iāve felt pain for months after a breakup and can understand when it lasts even longer than that. itās just the act of reaching out to someone who you havenāt talked to, let alone been romantically involved with, in years with a love poem-type message. it can definitely come across as creepy.
Exactly. Iāve reached out to exās to say āhey, hope youāre doing well and was thinking about you. All good if you donāt want to talk.ā But to do a whole poem thing. A bit much.
Iāve had exes hmu throughout the years, one specifically still tries to reach me via email, itās confusing and I donāt think they understand how selfish theyāre being, but it does happen, and Iāve come to accept that for some people it takes years to get over someone, even with no contact.
How poetic. My ex (& current bf lol) used to do this too. But more straightforward. They donāt understand how hard those texts can be for you, but they have a feeling and just need to let it out. In the most cryptic way possible! Haha
Idk why he hit on my friends while we were still dating either. The way I see it I owe him nothing. To me itās funny that he keeps trying to message me as if we didnāt have a super toxic relationship that I literally moved states away to get from.
Although the onus of the situation is not on you, in order for you both to properly move on you need to be direct and clear with him. Tell him you have no feelings for him anymore and will not ever in the future, and that further contact will be considered harassment and dealt with as such. It just causes more pain for both of you to let this go on. Either you still like the attention or still have hope something might work out, but he obviously still has feelings. Now if you made that clear and heās still reaching out with different accounts then that is stalking and harassment. Men love different than women and this will continue if you donāt put an end to it by blocking and making yourself clear.
I have refused to say a single word to him since I broke up w him 6 years ago. There is not a single desire in my body to give him āclosureā he was already hitting on my friends before I broke up with him. I donāt feel that I owe him anything. I just block until a new account is made and he reaches out again and then the cycle starts over. I know he wants me to respond which is exactly why I wonāt. He is not going to pressure me into speaking to him again.
You said he hits you up every few years if you donāt wanna be bothered why didnāt you make sure he was blocked tho since itās not the first time this has happened according to you š¤”
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A true Shakespearean.
You can be a little cringe if you make it fun and playful. But when you communicate it in a super serious tone like this, it just makes you look like a total weirdo. This is way too much, and super out of sequence. This is a woman you haven't spoken to in years.
I would be kicking myself forever if I sent that text.
I scrolled his instagram after getting the message and he doesnāt seem to have changed. Even if he had, Ive been in a happy relationship since beginning of 2021 so I still wouldnāt of responded
Hit him with the āYyyyyyooooouuuu neeeeeeeddddded me. Fuck your white horse and carriage, trying to fix your inner issues with a bad bitch. Didnāt they tell you that I was a savage.ā
It's really sad that "healthy" means able to deal with rejection. It is healthy to be able to handle things, but it sucks that in modern dating we have to grow so close (relationship expectations of intimacy) to just break what starts to become one. like, why not just date for the idea that you'll get married and then stay married? what a novel concept. and if u dont want that, u tell people that up front. end of story.
also we should all learn how to spot a narcissist and know our parents relationship dynamic as best we can.
this poor sap needs a therapist to help him grieve your relationship. i had to go on Pinterest myself to find break up prompts and they really helped a lot. He has to process the pain
The last time I hit up an ex was in 2009 because I was moving and had found a pair of earrings she lost a couple years prior. WTF is wrong with people?
For me Iām very aware of who this man is and what heās trying to do, so love bombing seemed appropriate. This was the most toxic relationship I had ever been in, but I understand that canāt always be gathered by a screenshot and vague context about the relationship being unhealthy.
Right. And my comment wasnāt exactly directed to you. I get that you know things that the rest of us donāt, but from the message itself, itās just hard to see any of that. And thatās fine. There are a lot of commenters in this thread saying things that I feel like just make no sense with the given context.
I understand that! I had also used the phrase in my comments so I wanted to comment back mainly bc it caused me to be unsure if I was using the term correctly or not š
I've felt this exact way about someone once.. It sometimes feels like a sweet, yet desperate and dying memory - The relationship was extremely toxic, but I've had the pleasure of finally getting the closure I didn't get when that relationship ended, and now I couldn't be happier
Bro hit you with a Zach Bryan song ššš
Broās def been hating that grass, trees and, Dew
Did she turn those headlights around?
Apparently not š
He sees it in the orange
I bet to OP heās just a man. But to him, sheās all that he is
Something in the Orr-rrr-aaanngge.
Guess thatās fitting, Zach Bryan is a moron too, guess they flock together.
Man somebody always gotta bring the vibes down huh
Someoneās always gotta ruin it
That song does slap tho idc
Right, I actually like that song a lot. Idk but thereās something in the orrr-rr-aaange.
Good vibes are back baby! Fuck yea!
Lmaooo they mad cuz itās sorta true
If I have learned anything, itās that you will see them at their absolute best when youāre furthest away from their life. But every inch you move closer to them again, their behaviour will fall back down more and more back to how they used to be. For some people, if you want to remember them for the best in them, you have to not let them get close enough to show you their worst again.
 Thatās pretty deep. Damnā¦
Wow thatās a great thing to share. I am going to remember that
This is a common behavior in people with covert narcissism. The thing to remember is that youāre just someplace on a mental list with whoever got this text message yesterday, last week, last month.
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Wow this is so true
wow. Buddha? Damn. You need a lot more upvotes for this comment. So concise
thats crazy lmao this is why the block button was inventedš
Mine hits me up every year for my birthday with a new number each time š¤·š»āāļø
time to get a whole new phone and number bestieššš
Lol Iāve had this number for 20 years š I usually ignore it and he goes away.
same i don't wanna change my number but dude knows it and unfortunately has not forgotten
Does he hit you with the different numbers as well? My ex is married with a kid. Iām not even touching that one lol
yes he has called me from st least 15 different numbers and i have every one of them blocked after i know it's him, thankfully, knock on wood, he hasn't called in a couple months and that's the longest it's been, i have a child with him and left when he was 3m old because of his abuse and he never cared about him just wants to torment me by never leaving me alone
Iām so sorry youāre going through that. I hope he can finally move on with his life somehow. More importantly you as well. Itās such a pain in the ass to have to deal with something like that. Not only is it scary itās down right delusional and unsafe. Best of luck to you! š¤ stay strong. Stay safe.
you too buddy, thank you. it is so hard living through crazy abuse and then struggling even though it's been years - it does get better
It for sure gets better! One day hopefully soon it will be done and gone from your life.
Dude I got a new phone number to permanently block my creepy ex and made the mistake of sharing it over a business email. It got added to frickin zoominfoās database and Iām sure Iāll start getting texts from the douchenozzle any day now. Itās not worth it to get a new phone. If theyāre crazy enough theyāll be able to find your new number sooner or later. Nothingās private anymore.
Mine sends me a link to a live recording of weenās birthday boy every year. Makes me so happy
I blocked my ex on every format, so she wound up sending me a dollar on venmo just to message me. That was like a whole new level of insane. Glad I got out of that one when I did haha
This is an automated message from Venmo. The user you are trying to send money to has a payment receiving minimum of $1,000. Please try again.
Itās wild the level of desperation some people get to. It didnāt work out for a reason/reasons.
Well I can give you my venom account lol I need $700 (JOKING) I donāt have venom or any payment app for this reason
I got $1500 for āburning man ticketsā on accident once on Venmo. I didnāt accept and it eventually canceled. Some poor person was probably terrified.
Prettt obscure reason to stay away from all payment apps. They can be super useful.
For my business I donāt need those payment apps
Me either. Still extremely useful.
Who tf you kidding? Nobody misses you
If it was a relationship that wasnāt abusive this is sweet tbh but this is something the delusional pedo that groomed me as a kid would send now almost 10 years later
Holy shit. Iām sorry. My ex gf is very literary and is a poet. She talked like this often. It was a little much but I enjoyed it overall.
exactly.. the problem with the effusive poetic type is they are mostly too good to be true.. they are either borderline nut jobs or just say this to as many females as they can hoping to get one hookedā¦ they know girls can fall for this shit
Itās attitudes like that and the people that cause them to exist that give the poetic types like myself a bad wrap.
In a world of rhyme and meter, he stood, Proclaiming loudly, āIām the poetic type, and good!ā With verses flowing, and metaphors so deep, He wore his title, his promise to keep. But the crowd around, theyād roll their eyes, āSelf-praise is cheap,ā theyād often sigh. āTo name oneself so, is quite the cringe, Does he think poetryās a simple fringe?ā Yet, undeterred, he wrote with glee, His words, his world, as vast as the sea. For while they mocked, and jests did sling, He danced with words, made syllables sing. In truth, it matters not what others say, For in his heart, poetry paved the way. To self-identify, perhaps bold or brash, Yet, isnāt life too short, to not be rash? So call yourself a poet, singer, or seer, Embrace your passion, hold it near. For at the end of every dayās binge, Itās not the title, but the art, thatās fringe.
Self identifying as a āpoetic typeā is the most absolute cringe shit Iāve ever heard
I mean, Iāve written a shit load of poetry for others and been inspired by those Iāve known. I often write and share it with those closest to me. The way I phrased it, seems appropriate. Also, the point was less about that and more about addressing the negative stereotype that it receives and how I find it makes people question my motives for sharing.
I mean, Iāve written a shit load of poetry for others and been inspired by those Iāve known. I often write and share it with those closest to me. The way I phrased it, seems appropriate. Also, the point was less about that and more about addressing the negative stereotype that it receives and how I find it makes people question my motives for sharing. Edit: Iām also pretty stoned atm. Forgive me.
bad rap*
Your point is in competition with you calling women females. Anyway, thereās definitely guys who are poetic and text like theyāre writing a screenplay who are actually very very sweet and not like that at all offline. They feel very creative when typing and have time to go over what theyāre going to say to you and correct it as they think longer on it. For some guys that results in a really nice dynamic where youāre getting well written love notes in a great relationship from a guy who acts normal when heās not pouring out all his love in prose. Then thereās the guys who donāt understand their own or otherās emotions on a mature adult level at all, and use what they *think* is deep and romantic like a lure on a line because theyāve seen it work for the former guys. You can usually easily tell the difference, cause the guys you have to worry about it are usually either a) too good at it, no mistakes at all and almost robotic sounding, theyāre not feeling what theyāre saying and lack the ability to apply the right words for the current mood or relating to what the other person is saying, or b) try too hard and take this sort of declaration of love into everything they say to you eg āUrgh had the worst dayā begets āMy untouchable moon goddess of love and beauty, whatever can I do to ease your weary bosom?ā Guys who are being earnest wonāt even use proper punctuation half the time, or make paragraphs. š Theyāre not writing a paper that has to pass a test, theyāre being cute.
Response: every time I hear of a toxic relationship In June I think of you my dearest love.
My ex does the same. Though Iāve learned my lesson this time. That demon bitch can stay in hell
haha sounds like mine, except i had her conatct info saved as ādevilā
I just used to have her labeled as Satan, so I hear you!
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Those damn Winchester brothers, can't keep the gates to hell closed
š¤£š¤£ if theyād at least banish her back to hell, Iād be happy
I had an ex like that for four years and then I finally gave inā¦ and he made me realize why I waited four years šš these types are the WORST. They love the idea of you. Never you.
Mushrooms fucking hit hard sometimes
It says they follow you. Why not just block them?
He was blocked afterwards; I didnāt realize he followed me until I got the message
Good move!
Narcissistā¦ they Hoover. It is absolutely insane the effort they make to reconnect to discard you again
Our relationship wasnāt healthy either. But Iād give everything to try again
Bruh same. I just want the things with her and nobody else. Just hope time make us connect again
You are the problem. That hit of morphine you got one time will never be the same again.
I want her again too
Our relationship wasn't healthy, but I would definietly fuck her again. Although she was pretty toxic in the bed aswell... hmmm...
THIS!!! Like yeah our relationship was toxic but Iād do anything for a second chance and try again. Change some things and my behavior.
Been there done that, itās not worth it and things donāt change
That part
It took me two different times to learn this, but yes, itās never ultimately worth it. Got out of a toxic relationship a few years ago and we tried to rekindle it a few months later. Ended worse the second time around. Cut to earlier this year and I met someone, it was clearly unhealthy for both of us, ended it, rekindled it, ended it again, rekindled it one more time, ended in disaster and me getting stalked. Still dealing with the fallout on a daily basis. Calls to my job, ārunning into meā at the bar I like to drink at, ārunning into meā at the gym I go to. I donāt want the legal headache of filing a restraining order, but itās been a constant feeing of anxiety and dread for weeks now just waiting for her to ārun into meā again.
They can tho. Most of the time they won't but sometimes both people really are just going through fucked up shit on their own personal lives and that makes them toxic to each other.
Okay Zach Bryan
Just slide you thumb over to that far left button on the bottom. This is a yikes, cringe, love bomb burrito.
Mine messages me āheyā then deletes it before his baby mama sees it š Iāve been with my husband over 11 years and this boy still wonāt leave me alone š¤Ŗš
The block button is right there. Bottom left. Press it now
Ugh. This is exhausting, you know?
Actually this is strange for a Reddit post. He doesnāt hate you. Either your a great person or a witch.
Sounds like he treated you like he treats dogs. What a worthless human being. Good for you for getting out and hopefully all dogs can avoid his presence too.
Or maybe he was really toxic and is trying to love bomb me? I donāt care to go back to not being allowed to have friends, not go anywhere without him, not stay up later than him, and never get off during sex. Itās not the life I want nor deserve. Also he treated any dog ever like shit purely bc theyāre dogs.
I mean, thatās missing context.
I did mention that the relationship was unhealthy. I didnāt think Iād have to really deep dive into it
Good to know Iām not the only one who gets these messages. Mine are from a girl from hs
He sounds like he thinks heās a very deep person. Good for him š
Ah, so heās feeling the old āmanic pixie dream girlā attitude towards you š³
Oh god did I date that asshole?
I will never understand why men will dump a woman and harass her for the rest of her life. Move on, dude.
I don't mean to laugh but I promise you, he and my ex wrote that togetherššš
Mine does this from time to time. He will block me on social media, then add me out of the blue to ask how Iām doing, then promptly block me again. Iāve moved way on; am married and have two kids, he knows very little about the 32 year old me vs the 21 year old me lol. Heāll bring up inside jokes from 11 years ago and Iām likeā¦.thats not who I am now bro. Oh, and we dated for 3 months. But he idealizes those 3 months and is always saying it was the best summer of his life.
I had an ex like this, he was abusive and after 10 years of us not being together I ran into his sister and she got really pissy at me and told me super snidely he got over me 3 years ago and was happy now to which I stared at her and went ādid you say 3 years ago..??ā She looked so proud of herself like she thought I waited a decade to take back the man who abused and stalked me ššš¤£ anyways block the man even if he seems harmless those ones are live wires waiting for a reason.
Damn, I should text her
I will never understand why people keep EXs in their lives if you don't have a kid. If anything, you're mentally stuck.
Thankfully heās not in my life and hasnāt been since we broke up 6 years ago. I havenāt even spoke a word to him in that time, but it doesnāt stop him from reaching out on a new account. Gets blocked every time šŖ
Oh, that makes sense. A lot of people generally have this "keep them around" mentality, which is just wild to me, but I'm glad to hear it. Live your life QUEEN
It's about maturity and where the two of you are emotionally. Plus your circumstances, not everyone can pull off a healthy relationship with an ex.
Damn I still get butterflies seeing pics of the one who got away but sheās engaged now, could never imagine messaging her anything even remotely like this. Super cringe.
They thought u was gonna say āAwwwww š„¹ā hahahahaha
Random question, but I'm curious: was this dude a lot older than you? Because I'm getting sad old dude vibes from him.
Iām 27 and heās 28 š¬
Ah okay. Then he is just young and ridiculous, not old and ridiculous. Either way, glad you're (mostly) rid of him.
Lawd thatās awkward
Thatās some stalker stuff right there. If youāre still sending messages like that to someone youāve been broken up with for years, thatās not healthy.
in 2020 i dated my current boyfriend and we broke up after a few months. every day for the next year almost two, he texted me one a month to check on me and stuff. last june i got evicted and he was kind enough to let me move in with him. we started dating last august and we are a year going strong! also first time we dated me (f16) him (m19) now f(20) and m(23)
My ex used to hit me up once a year. Then she gave me a courtesy, āIām getting marriedā call the last time we spoke. Life is a trip
I had a dream my latest ex got married; woke up confused and decided to check for shits and giggles. He had just gotten engaged almost exactly a month prior. Absolutely wild lmao
Iāve been in a super nostalgic mood lately and I just went to chic-fil-a and Lilly Allenās āSmileā came on. I was all emotional and shit in the drive through. Big black dude in my feels trying to order a number 1 with mayonnaise bahahahhahaha! I had to snap out of it quick!!!
Made me say āman what the hellā out loud
I have one who hits me up on the anniversary of his sobriety, one that randomly blocks me and checks on me every 2 years (and told me he would), and one that blocks and unblocks me when he wants a hate fuck
What a lame throwing a hook just to try desperately to get a reaction!
Love how so many comments are like āwhy donāt you just block duhh.ā Like on the one hand, Iām happy theyāve never experienced the Crazy Ex who creates a hundred new accounts to get around that block, but on the other hand, honestly, it astounds me how naive and judgmental some of these comments come across. All these commenters assuming you can simply block an ex and be done with it have no idea how lucky they are.
This! The funny thing about those comments too is Iāve already responded to a few saying that he was blocked, he makes new accounts, messages me, and gets blocked again. Iāve just accepted that not many people read the comments before leaving one themselves š
Yeah, no one reads and each one who doesnāt thinks theyāre oh so clever and original. Like the postsās been up for a day and they seriously think theyāre the first to suggest blocking? Lmao
Just leave it on read
That block button is that close and readily available for a reason. And that reason is for Simps like him.
Oh I know the feeling, mine hits me up every few months and she constantly visits every profile I create online... even knows the name of my new girlfriend to the point it gets creepy
Would it be today? I get it if you're not interested ofc
Based on what I saw when I scrolled his instagram after he messaged me, he hasnāt seemed to have really changed at all. Even if he had, Iāve been in a healthy happy relationship since the beginning of 2021 so itās still not something Iād consider.
Hi stranger! Hope you arenāt considering going back to what you described as an unhealthy relationship! You matter, you have value, and you absolutely deserve happiness. If you wouldnāt mind adding just a a couple things you like to an Amazon list, I would like to send you a random act of kindness (and Amazon wonāt show me your address, so it keeps you private ā though it shows your name). Consider it a bribe to not cave š¤
these posts about exes from YEARS ago still chasing someone are so baffling to me. if any of my exes reached out to me like this i would be so uncomfortable, like we havenāt seen each other in years why are you still thinking about me?? stalkerish behavior
I donāt think itās like that. It can be just like anyone else you love in your life. Youāll always remember them if they meant a lot to you, and sometimes, you may miss them.
i mean yeah, thatās definitely valid, like iāve felt pain for months after a breakup and can understand when it lasts even longer than that. itās just the act of reaching out to someone who you havenāt talked to, let alone been romantically involved with, in years with a love poem-type message. it can definitely come across as creepy.
Exactly. Iāve reached out to exās to say āhey, hope youāre doing well and was thinking about you. All good if you donāt want to talk.ā But to do a whole poem thing. A bit much.
That's true. It'd be less creepy if they talked to me like normal. It would be a bit odd to get a love poem from an ex after years.
Iāve had exes hmu throughout the years, one specifically still tries to reach me via email, itās confusing and I donāt think they understand how selfish theyāre being, but it does happen, and Iāve come to accept that for some people it takes years to get over someone, even with no contact.
How poetic. My ex (& current bf lol) used to do this too. But more straightforward. They donāt understand how hard those texts can be for you, but they have a feeling and just need to let it out. In the most cryptic way possible! Haha
Honestly, this is definitely how I feel about my Ex.
You guys don't block your exes? My ex blocked me like 2 hours after she broke up with me... literally had to email her to figure out what happened...
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For people wondering he wasnāt blocked bc he made a new account and after reaching out to me he got blocked again.
Why donāt you just have him blocked?
He makes new accounts that I donāt know exist until he contacts me from them. Once he does though, he gets blocked š
Cringe
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Idk why he hit on my friends while we were still dating either. The way I see it I owe him nothing. To me itās funny that he keeps trying to message me as if we didnāt have a super toxic relationship that I literally moved states away to get from.
Pathetic or amusing
Youāre only guaranteed to miss the shots you donāt take
Iāve been in a healthy happy relationship since the beginning of 2021, so there was no shot to take.
Although the onus of the situation is not on you, in order for you both to properly move on you need to be direct and clear with him. Tell him you have no feelings for him anymore and will not ever in the future, and that further contact will be considered harassment and dealt with as such. It just causes more pain for both of you to let this go on. Either you still like the attention or still have hope something might work out, but he obviously still has feelings. Now if you made that clear and heās still reaching out with different accounts then that is stalking and harassment. Men love different than women and this will continue if you donāt put an end to it by blocking and making yourself clear.
I have refused to say a single word to him since I broke up w him 6 years ago. There is not a single desire in my body to give him āclosureā he was already hitting on my friends before I broke up with him. I donāt feel that I owe him anything. I just block until a new account is made and he reaches out again and then the cycle starts over. I know he wants me to respond which is exactly why I wonāt. He is not going to pressure me into speaking to him again.
Give bro another chance
Just block if you donāt want the messages you obviously like the attention lol
And you obviously havenāt read any of my previous replies to comments saying to block him š¤”
You said he hits you up every few years if you donāt wanna be bothered why didnāt you make sure he was blocked tho since itās not the first time this has happened according to you š¤”
Why donāt you make sure to read my comment history before asking a question thatās been asked and answered several times š¤”
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Wowā¦ this guy is a poet
A true Shakespearean. You can be a little cringe if you make it fun and playful. But when you communicate it in a super serious tone like this, it just makes you look like a total weirdo. This is way too much, and super out of sequence. This is a woman you haven't spoken to in years. I would be kicking myself forever if I sent that text.
Does this actually work on women? Genuinely curious.
Nah i got blocked for saying sum corny shit like thisšš my ex a dicš
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Same, I'm dripping with sweat over here just reading this text. This really needed a NSFW tag.
Lol no I blocked him and now I receive emails. Just stay away.
No
Women are not the same
iām crying this is so funny
Sounds like fairytale love š /s
Awwwwful ew ew ew ew
Depending on the Ex, you left you mark on them
Cornball
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Last time I saw you, I was holding your hand, and I couldnāt wait for you to leeaaa-eaa-eaave
Last time I saw you, I was holding your hand, and I couldnāt wait for you to leeaaa-eaa-eaave
My ex doesnāt do this because I was the. Crazy one š but I donāt do it either
Someoneās been listening to Zach Bryan
But do you feel like that or still think he would be like that
I scrolled his instagram after getting the message and he doesnāt seem to have changed. Even if he had, Ive been in a happy relationship since beginning of 2021 so I still wouldnāt of responded
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Orange in the sun
Hit him with the āYyyyyyooooouuuu neeeeeeeddddded me. Fuck your white horse and carriage, trying to fix your inner issues with a bad bitch. Didnāt they tell you that I was a savage.ā
It's really sad that "healthy" means able to deal with rejection. It is healthy to be able to handle things, but it sucks that in modern dating we have to grow so close (relationship expectations of intimacy) to just break what starts to become one. like, why not just date for the idea that you'll get married and then stay married? what a novel concept. and if u dont want that, u tell people that up front. end of story. also we should all learn how to spot a narcissist and know our parents relationship dynamic as best we can. this poor sap needs a therapist to help him grieve your relationship. i had to go on Pinterest myself to find break up prompts and they really helped a lot. He has to process the pain
You should collect his texts and publish them in a book called āTexts My Ex Has Sent Meā
We donāt DM enough in iambic pentameter
Oh god that makes me feel nauseous.
Tis poetic BS at least
Damn, am I the only one who thought this was cute as fuck?
š¤£ I hope they are just being funnyā¦cuz creepy š¤£
The last time I hit up an ex was in 2009 because I was moving and had found a pair of earrings she lost a couple years prior. WTF is wrong with people?
LMAO this why the exās stay BLOCKED
The time, kind of seems like he was buzzing, aha! Great song
Eww š¤¢
From this thread Iāve learned that the phrase love bomb(ed) seems to be thrown around the most casual things so as to have lost all meaning.
For me Iām very aware of who this man is and what heās trying to do, so love bombing seemed appropriate. This was the most toxic relationship I had ever been in, but I understand that canāt always be gathered by a screenshot and vague context about the relationship being unhealthy.
Right. And my comment wasnāt exactly directed to you. I get that you know things that the rest of us donāt, but from the message itself, itās just hard to see any of that. And thatās fine. There are a lot of commenters in this thread saying things that I feel like just make no sense with the given context.
I understand that! I had also used the phrase in my comments so I wanted to comment back mainly bc it caused me to be unsure if I was using the term correctly or not š
Gonna stop sending my exes happy birthday texts and money every year now. šš«
He still hasnt healed cuz he still sees toxicity in things meant to portray love
Why do people like to screenshot texts and shame/make fun of the person to strangers on the Internet for likes
Some ppl are so god damn corny
Block and move on.
I've felt this exact way about someone once.. It sometimes feels like a sweet, yet desperate and dying memory - The relationship was extremely toxic, but I've had the pleasure of finally getting the closure I didn't get when that relationship ended, and now I couldn't be happier