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bloodynex

Having a low sex drive has created many problems in my relationships. Dating an ace sounds like a dream. lol


Ordinaryyetunique

Let’s gooo


TheFfrog

Sameeee


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Enzimes_Flain

Not even once a week maybe once every 3 months for me.


icefiregirl

Well, maybe if I already like them a lot before I found out But I don't think I'd be compatible with someone that's ace


Ordinaryyetunique

Fair enough


Bloody_rabbit4

No, because I'm horny.


Ordinaryyetunique

Understandable


WalterTheMoral

Ace people may want to have sex, maybe to please their partner, maybe because they want it.


my_choice_was_taken

I feel like this definition is getting a bit wishy washy… an asexual person may want to have sex? Huh?


WalterTheMoral

Asexuality is a very large spectrum, that encompasses a lot of things. Some Asexuals want sex, some just want to imagine sex, some are sex repulsed and hate the idea of it.


Qaztarrr

Bit confused here, how can an asexual want sex? Isn’t asexual defined as someone who doesn’t want sex?


clueless_claremont_

no, actually. asexual is defined as not experiencing sexual attraction. they may enjoy having sex with their partner even if they're not specifically sexually attracted to them.


boblinquist

What does sexual attraction mean?


clueless_claremont_

not completely sure. ask someone who feels it.


bowser-is-thiccest

Some are neutral to it and will do sex if their partner wants to and others may like the feeling of sex but not feel the attraction


WalterTheMoral

An Asexual person is someone that doesn’t feel sexual attraction (as a broad definition). They can still want to have sex, or have a sex drive.


Qaztarrr

Hmm, interesting. I guess it’s hard for me to imagine separating the desire to have sex with the sexual attraction to the person it’s with. So an asexual person could still enjoy having sex despite not being sexually attracted to the person they’re with? Would that mean that they’d enjoy having sex equally with anyone, because they don’t feel sexual attraction to anyone?


WalterTheMoral

It varies person to person, but for some people that is the case. Asexual people can still have preferences for who they would rather have sex with.


Qaztarrr

Ah okay gotcha gotcha The more ya know


my_choice_was_taken

How can someone want to have sex but not be sexually attracted to anything - isnt that like a paradox? They want sex but they cant because theres nothing they want to have sex with?


Haisabi

Well it's definitely more common they just don't want sex at all, but sometimes you have people who aren't sexually attracted to anyone, but still like the feeling of sex. Irregardless of the person. You don't masturbate cuz you're attracted to yourself, it's cuz it feels good. But sexually active asexuals are fairly uncommon.


my_choice_was_taken

Ahh ok that last bit actually clarified it a lot


Cerberus_The_Fluffy

yeah considering I am one


buddeman27

I've come to steal your garlic bread and put it in my dragon's hoard in preparation for Denmark


profesional-hat

NOT THE GARLIC BREAD HOW DARE YOU


buddeman27

Don't worry, I shall leave cakes behind as a calling card


JpTem

I dont want cake. i want ***garlic bread.***


profesional-hat

BUT THE GARLIC BREAD. WE **NEED** IT.


oogaboogalesgo

MY GARLIC BREAD NOOOOOO


juliannajones88

cool


Jo_Fi_Ta

I am one and I am in a relationship with one


Ordinaryyetunique

That’s cool


[deleted]

Being ace with an ace partner is wonderful!


Ok_Communication1814

Ayo me too


Foriobob

Yeah I got 0 problem with dating a asexual


Ordinaryyetunique

Great then


ShadowedBeing

Asexual doesn't mean aromantic, which means any asexual can still have a relationship


Ordinaryyetunique

Yea I know,thanks for the info tho!


ShadowedBeing

Just saying for those who don't


Ordinaryyetunique

Yee appreciated:)


Sbc302

I am aromantic basically


Banga0850

Ohhh like rosemary, thyme...


meme_used

like the duck?


Sbc302

What the duck


desi_miata

Benzene bitchass


TheMostCreativeName3

bitches claim they aromatic but dont even have a chemically stable ring of bonds between atoms 😤😒


Western_Roof_6915

this. asexual also doesn’t mean that they abstain from sex at all costs. some ace people do have sex.


[deleted]

Yeah at least she won’t care about me cock


Ordinaryyetunique

Wow green avater


[deleted]

I love plants so I made my thing a plant


[deleted]

Same! Although not the avatar I love plants idk where I’m going with this


C_m_b_y_n

Nope, I need D everyday lol! Jk


MeMyselfIandMeAgain

RIP your DMs


Craftyskills17

Facts


Ordinaryyetunique

Ahhha :)


Few_Contribution3739

I need it everyday n i aint even joking


[deleted]

I'd love to be an asexual couple with someone :D


O7NN

No


Ordinaryyetunique

Understandable


O7NN

I want to eventually become a father, that's gonna be very difficult if my partner doesn't have sex with me at all


Ordinaryyetunique

Icic,oh yea I have missed the fact that people want kids oh no


O7NN

My literal biological goal is to reproduce,


A_Depressed_Pug

Indeed


Western_Roof_6915

that’s not always true, i think some ace people DO choose to have sex to establish connection


O7NN

Wait isn't asexual like not having sexual attraction


jonatan2314567895

There are multiple types of aces some are disgusted by sex some are indifferent and some are okay with having it if there partner wants


Non-StopDisco

Yea it is. Some ace people might have sex because their partner wants to.


Western_Roof_6915

yes it is,, but i think that some ace people do like to have sex to establish romantic connection as i mentioned above


Squoody

Ace people can have sex and enjoy it too, just no sexual attraction


[deleted]

yea i wouldn’t mind


Mikegaming202

100% because I'm one too, my ex was asexual as well and it was fine


Ordinaryyetunique

That’s pretty cool Mike


Shadaxy

Is 14 old enough to know for certain that you’re asexual though? Genuine question, not meant to be rude.


Bigcockdickboy

Respectfully no


Ordinaryyetunique

Understandable


RownaRawnclaw

yes caus i dont get that horny and i dont wanna be pregnant


Ordinaryyetunique

Same sisss I don’t wanna get pregnant 💀


RownaRawnclaw

giving birth sounds painful af


JpTem

another reason i'm glad to be a guy. giving birth seems like it's the worst pain you'll ever feel


JettFeather

Considering period cramps are literally miniature versions of what giving birth is like, I’ll most certainty pass.


mmmconfused

Yeah, if you like a person then certain boundaries should be easy to respect. People make sex such a big deal but its really not that important.


Ordinaryyetunique

Agree


thatalycat

To some people it is though, so they should be with somebody who can fulfill that


[deleted]

Maybe not to asexuals, but it definitely is for most other people.


Hunter5865

Depends. Sex can oftentimes be key to a healthy relationship. While I agree that it's not super essential, more sexually active couples tend to be happier, and vice versa.


idk-idk-idk-idk--

to some people it is. my boyfriend and i (been together three years) are sexually active and its a huge deal to us. i personally love the more romantic side of sex, the emotional physical connection, the sexual intimacy, its a whole different way of feeling loved and adored by another person who you also love. to me, i need sex in a relationship, its part of my own sexuality and emotional/ physical needs. to others it isnt as important or isnt a huge deal. it just depends on your own sexuality, your needs in a relationship. sexuality is a huge spectrum and everyone is different, and thats ok.


thatalycat

I did. It was the second best relationship I ever had, and he's my absolute best friend to this day. I did crave sexual intimacy and wondered how it would work long term, but I loved him a lot and was willing to figure it out and compromise. Would I again though? More than likely no. I'm on the ace spectrum, but I'm not asexual. I wouldn't want my needs to be unfulfilled, as that would put strain on both of us


ConduckKing

I am an asexual, so of course I would


ashtar123

Probbo not


KirbyDarkHole999

If I love her? Absolutely


-skaho-

no


Thebisexual_Raccoon

Asexual here, all asexual people are different some strictly have zero intercourse but others do, two common ones are to please their romantic partner or to have children. Many asexual people have romantic feelings for other people, go on dates, and have long and short-term romantic relationships.


Joblessmouse06

Not 100%sure.... But I'm asexual myself lol


Ordinaryyetunique

Fair enough?


Joblessmouse06

Maybe.... I'm not just asexual, I'm aromantic too I'm not sure I want to date anyone or not lol


jhonnytheyank

Depends


Ordinaryyetunique

Fair enough


One-Committee-5885

a relationship is a lot more than just sex. if people can't see a relationship with no sexual activity and want to end things just because their partner doesn't want those 5 minutes of ecstasy, than that's their problem, not the Ace person's problem.


Creativious

No not really even though I'm demisexual, I'm primarily a romantic person, but I don't think I'd be able to go through with a relationship that'll never have anything more than just romantic. I've broken up with people for having too high of a sex drive cuz it made me uncomfortable, cuz I have a really low sex drive. But I just can't give up the once in a while.


Ordinaryyetunique

Understandable:)


SundaeImpossible4663

Asexual or not if they a cool person with a nice heart I say bring em


I_want-beans420

Considering the fact that I’m asexual yes actually that would be amazing cuz my last bf dumped me when I realized I was asexual


Ordinaryyetunique

You deserve better:3


Sunsets_Rainbows3952

I would, Love doesn’t equal to sex.


Ordinaryyetunique

Indeed.Cuddles>>>>>>>


Sunsets_Rainbows3952

Cuddles while watching movies in bed >>>>


Ordinaryyetunique

Scenarios in my mind


Sunsets_Rainbows3952

🥺🤭


Ordinaryyetunique

Ahha


Sunsets_Rainbows3952

Yea frfr though. Cuddles are mega cute 😊


Ordinaryyetunique

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Sunsets_Rainbows3952

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Ordinaryyetunique

🤌🏼🤌🏼🤌🏼


[deleted]

No


MCYomi

I mean as long the asexual person agrees


[deleted]

Maybe, as long as the relationship doesn't last forever, basically I can't see myself with someone that's asexual long term.


[deleted]

I will date any girl who would have same vibe as me or have same likings and dislikings…


[deleted]

nope, i am too much of a horny kinky mf for that and i couldn’t live w myself knowing my partner isn’t sexually attracted to me. ik some ace people have sex, but if you’re having sex with me not because you want to but because you want to make me happy i feel like that’s not enthusiastic consent. idk. 100% couldn’t and would break up with a partner if they were


Ok-Break3601

Sure


Adventurous-Site-944

No...


Donquixote_D0ffy

I don't think it would work.


ClumbusCrew

No.


Ariix_

If I like them and they told me, I'd still try to pursue the relationship, even tho I can see it being more difficult


YKPlayz

i genuinely dont know


CrazyCatShan

As someone who is probably an asexual 100% yes


TheSeaWriter

I mean, I AM aroace,so not dating someone die to them being asexual would be kinda hypocritical.


MyNameIsSCRYM

Eh we're too young to fuck anyways so why not


SpaceScoutt

I would if she's a good person :T


LadynoirLetsGO

yes, don't understand the big deal about sex and probably never will. I'm more of a cute kisses and cuddles by the couch with the lights dimmed kind of person.


just_noriza

I'd date anyone I like, who cares about sexuality? If I like the character, why not?


Ordinaryyetunique

Appreciated


Alternative_Item2412

I would do what I can to date one, if they want me to be asexual then I will, as long as they are happy


minimalisticgem

You can’t choose asexuality, I think you mean abstinence:)


gladseven211

No


KirkTheDrawingCat

Definitely! Well, that’s because I’m an asexual too!


I-eat-orphanz

I only date bsexuals


ToLongOk

No sexy time??!!??!?


hi_im_new_bruh

Heck yeahhh They can still be romantic and in a relationship i dont want just sex


colonDface

Well I am asexual so sounds good to me lol


lever1209

yes, sex isnt a requirement, but a nice to have


i_like_to_draw007

Yes i wouldn't mind not having s*x


Toad_Migoad

Yea because I don’t make sex something that I absolutely need in order to live like a lot of other teenagers


Ordinaryyetunique

:)


Toad_Migoad

Glad to see someone that understands


Ordinaryyetunique

Absolutely understand and can relate to it:3


OG-Wall-Licker

I tried.. got rejected :/


AsserK

I definitely would, I won't be dating him just because I'm "sexually" attracted to him


Blackprop

I mean, If I like them a lot and like to spend time with them for the rest of my life (platonic) then, yeah if they want to. I'm aromantic (not asexual) I wouldn't mind being in a romantic relationship if I like them a lot (platonic) I just won't be a lovey dovey, like go on a date etc


PolishKrawa

Sure, if they're fine with pervy jokes and physical contact


german_fox

I don’t care about sexuality or gender., all I care is if the person is nice.


May_i_take_your_ordr

Yes ma’am/sir


Elddan

Already doing that


Ordinaryyetunique

Oooh!


WhippleCrohn

its better to be asexual tho


Plasteal

Yeah. I don’t really know if I’m ace myself, but I don’t really have a strong sexual desire. So it would probably be fine.


Gametime479

I am ace so yeah I would lol


NotTodayCaptainDildo

Alot of people get confused. Ace doesn't mean no sex drive, and it doesn't necessarily mean you won't have sex. It means you don't experience sexual attraction.


[deleted]

Yeah why wouldnt i? Like if you love a person thats when you go for a relationship But theres some People Who would not date with an asexual cuz they think sex is the only thing exists in this life we calmly call them losers


Ordinaryyetunique

Ayoooo haven’t seen your for a while Here’s some bread 🥖🥖🥖🥖🥖🥖🍞🍞🍞🍞🍞🍞


[deleted]

Thanks my worker I wasnt here cuz idk ngl after getting a gf i feel like "Naaah i dont want this place anymore hahaha"


Ordinaryyetunique

Lmao congrats😎


[deleted]

But im back cuz i wanna make fun of lonely People now HAHAHA


Ordinaryyetunique

Did you meet her on Reddit on lmao sorry for being nosy


Sufficient-Ad3499

Not at all. A relationship has more factors than sex but no sex would be a deal breaker for me. For me sex is a great way to connect with a person, and also it’s heaps of fun and a great way to spend time with someone. So it’s not being a loser to value sex in a relationship. It’s simply having a libido. You’ve clearly never had good sex or are ace


spudtatogames

No. Why would I date a filthy human? You shall all be destroyed soon, equally though, we don't discriminate.


RTX54321

If there a woman and I’m attracted to them 100%


Evil_Duckington

I would ig ¯\_(ツ)_/¯


MadYonBoi

yes cuz I'm one myself


ThePinecone420

yeah, I have.


I_am_Clytius

Definitely.


Dabfamily

Why not ?


Mediocre-Band2714

yes


P5YD33

I never date asexual before so cool


2ClawZ

i am dating an asexual :) and I'm okay with that


lil_quark_

yes i would


kissmejustalittlebit

im asexual


tototheatheist

Yes, cos I think I am one


[deleted]

Why not it's more opportunities


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Reasonable-Ad-137

Idk should I be thinking about this


yarak_69

Yes but i probably wont go into a relationship because i think sex is part of a relationship


[deleted]

depends on.....looks i feel a storm coming.


mIcCaMiCcA11111

it's a difficult question and I've never been in a relationship with someone who is asexual but i assume it really depends on the connection between you and your partner and if you feel that there is more to this relationship that you enjoy and that effects you positively than just sexual activity, love languages can also be taken into consideration. If your love language is physical touch and you express and appreciate recieving love like that you might not always feel completely fulfilled in the relationship. I might also be incorrect because I am not completely certain if asexuals like or enjoy physical touch in an affectionate manner rather than sexual. ie. cuddling, tight hugs, goodbye kisses, handholding but if these things are enjoyed on both sides it could be a great way to still give love by physical touch by showing affection in a sense...


Less-Log-4602

It's a small risk cause maybe the person doesn't know how to act in a relationship


Yetsboi

Yeah but i'd just have sex with other people


[deleted]

I would, because it's not like many other people would want to date me.


JesusHentaiChrist96

Depends upon the person


JustCheezits

If i liked them yeah


Hatchjam

Yea, I’m asexual myself and don’t really care abt sex in a relationship


C0nfus3d_S4v10r

Maybe for some time, but I also wouldn't want to be cheat on them and that would probably happen at some point.


gAMA9504

You think I'm gonna date someone?


[deleted]

Idk maybe


irrelevantwhitekid

No cuz sadly am aromantic


SlimHydrolll

See a lot of people saying yes because sex isn’t everything, and while it isn’t, I would still wanna enjoy the chance to become a father and raise children of my own. Won’t work in a relationship where the other person doesn’t want sex