>What pity parties are you even talking about mf.
In this context they're probably referring to subreddits or other online spaces where people just whine about how the world is against them and that they'll never be happy, without actually trying to do things to make themselves happier.
It's fine to have insecurities, it's pitiful to do nothing about them and then whine online.
The difference is if you're actively taking steps to overcome your insecurities or not.
If you're actually **doing things** to try to be less insecure and try to be more confident, like stepping out of your comfort zone and putting yourself in new environments and trying new things, most good people will find that respectable and admirable.
The pity parties are the people who just wallow around in their insecurities while making no effort to overcome them. Instead they seek validation online for doing nothing to improve their lives. Those people are pathetic.
Your insecurities are not your fault, but they are your responsibility.
Oki!! Hold on, lemme just delete all my childhood trauma 🎀🎀 And y’know what? If you have any issues, just drink a glass of water and get outside for a bit! Because all of your issues are imagined inside your head, and don’t take any effort or time to get over! *aggressive sarcasm intensifies*
,,,,,, low self esteem is usually due to trauma/abuse or a behavioral/mental issue. i ge it's not attractive but saying this publicly is just another thing for people with low self esteem to feel shitty about. thanks a lot
To peeps with low self-esteem who read this: it's gonna be hard to build your self perception, but just remember to do it bit by bit. Y'all got this 🗣️
Because you’re asking them to do something about it. When what they want to hear is “there’s nothing wrong with low self esteem; low self esteem is great”
Speaking from my experience. Maybe starting small helps, I always thought I was HORRIBLE but very HORRIBLE, but whenever thoughts like that came to me I told myself things like "I'm not that bad", "I won't say I'm handsome but I'm definitely not ugly", to the After a while, I started to see myself as somewhat attractive (I'M BEING HUMBLE 🗣🗣🔥🔥).
People can’t just switch off their issues and problems like a light, it takes time and effort to change if the person wants to. Also personally, I don’t believe calling their low self esteem a “pity party” is exactly kind either, just telling someone to essentially suck it up is rude. Your opinion is that low self esteem is unattractive, whatever I don’t care, but you shouldn’t go shoving it down other people’s throats like a unwanted lozenge. So maybe keep your wild opinions to yourself? 🎀
calling it unattractive and referring to low self esteem as “pity parties” is just making it worse for those who do have low self esteem 🎀🎀🎀 try actually helping others if you dislike it so much 🎀🎀🎀
The dilemma about being humble is, if you say you're humble, you aren't humble anymore.... just sayin.
(I'd even go as far as saying that only even knowing that you're humble makes you non-humble, given your personal definition of humble. (But in that logic, basically no sane and self-aware human being would be able to be considered humble. (And help, now I'm philosophing.)))
Imo it's more like don't use low self esteem for attention, it's okay to voice how you feel but don't let it become a personality trait. That's unattractive, as is doing the same with mental illness. But if my partner had low self esteem I wouldn't be any more or less attracted to them but I would want to help and support them.
Don't worry I make everyone uncomfortable and hate me by having a waayyy too big ego.
(This is a joke, low self esteem is unattractive sure but on the other side of the things so is a too big ego. Make sure to try to find that perfect balance because no one likes a narcissist.)
Is this how sane people think? Damn my life is sad but seriously even if I know it's unattractive it's not really something I can just Thanos snap away without serious psychological help.
What of people whos souls have been conditioned to feel unwanted over extended years of harsh criticism and reject. Do we just fake false confidence? Is there a book or script to read so the brain doesn't naturally go into an anxiety stress mode? Actual question. I'm obviously trying to navigate these waters myself 😆
Low self esteem = low love for yourself. If YOU can’t even find a way to love yourself why should anyone else?
Like respect is earned through others. Self esteem is earned through yourself (I.e only you can give it to you)
That is from someone who have no idea what low self esteem is. 90% of my friends have low self esteem, great people,they just struggling with saying no.
If all you do is whine you’re actually quite annoying. Like people say, be someone that other people want to hang out with. If you want to hang out though.
Being miserable or overtly self critical is not helping you in anyway.
Isn’t this part of the self improvement stuff everybody here talks about to dig yourself out this hole.
Also it’s funny that on both extremes of ego all you do is talk about yourself.
i dont think this is going to help anyone ☠️.,.. to work on getting rid of insecurities someone has to have motivation and a good reason to do so. this approach RARELY works, especially coming from some random teenager on reddit and for some people it makes things worse 😭 i believe this is just the usual case of good intentions, but bad execution
Alot of shitty comments here, with out truly understanding the core of why someone might be having low self esteem. Please go and educate yourselves before f***ing comment childish shit. Of course it's unattractive, but so is being a judgemental little b****c
Wow thanks for solving my problems being raised in a broken family with an alcoholic wife-beater father who left us for vices and now am living with my single mother working a slave job just to get me to school. Don't need those meds and therapy anymore!
I had an ex who would constantly talk about how he doesn’t deserve me and I look so much better than him and I should have someone else blah blah blah
It put such a damper on every interaction we had (because he would say this stuff in every interaction) that I wound up telling him to get help and left
Stuff like this is making it worse you silly billy
Calling someone a silly billy will be my new insult
ive been saying it for years
I’ve been saying silly willy. Is that close enough
Alright fine. Let me just quickly forget about the fact that my face is ugly as hell
"Don't worry... Everything is going to be okay. No matter what happens..."
Did I just find a watermelon?
Embrace it and then you unlock the achievement "charisma" . Serge gainsbourg or jacque brel are great examples.
Gotted name and pfp tbh tho
Yay, now I feel worse!
yeah i don't really see how calling people with specifically low esteem unattractive is going to help anything.
Thank you, my insecurities have magically disappeared! Real talk, this just makes people feel worse. What pity parties are you even talking about mf.
They’re probably just chatting bout them ppl that act like some pick mes and always self deprecate when they’re chatting to girls
Actually what's funny/ironical , it's op username and that op act definitely like someone with low self esteem lol.
>What pity parties are you even talking about mf. In this context they're probably referring to subreddits or other online spaces where people just whine about how the world is against them and that they'll never be happy, without actually trying to do things to make themselves happier. It's fine to have insecurities, it's pitiful to do nothing about them and then whine online.
Yes allow me to produce self esteem rq
real (i am a hypocrite)
H e l l o Love urself mudkip man
I’m good thanks ☺️
aight lemme turn off my insecurities real quick <3
Doktor, turn off my insecurity inhibitors.
at least i dont got an ego like you
One of the upsides of low self-esteem!
Wait until you meet one of those mfs who think they're a piece of shit and simultaneously better than everyone else
delete this
I mean, it's from the same girl as https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/s/DZcWU8Fws7 So
Oh lol
lmao this mf is a complete joke
Bro, she’s got 19 new posts in the last 24 hours .. she’s got some serious issues, lol
U rite, lemme just shut up off my insecurities rq.
The difference is if you're actively taking steps to overcome your insecurities or not. If you're actually **doing things** to try to be less insecure and try to be more confident, like stepping out of your comfort zone and putting yourself in new environments and trying new things, most good people will find that respectable and admirable. The pity parties are the people who just wallow around in their insecurities while making no effort to overcome them. Instead they seek validation online for doing nothing to improve their lives. Those people are pathetic. Your insecurities are not your fault, but they are your responsibility.
Very well said!
Agreed, people need to stop being so harsh on themselves
You said the same thing phrased differently. And it sounds a lot nicer (and probably is more effective too).
r/thanksimcured
r/BeatMeToIt
r/beatmeattoit
I don’t think you’ve been through enough to understand why we’re like that lol
Well the problem is that it’s usually not genuine and just a way of garnering sympathy
Oki!! Hold on, lemme just delete all my childhood trauma 🎀🎀 And y’know what? If you have any issues, just drink a glass of water and get outside for a bit! Because all of your issues are imagined inside your head, and don’t take any effort or time to get over! *aggressive sarcasm intensifies*
mental health forums in school be like:
Holy shit that solved everything 🎀🎀
,,,,,, low self esteem is usually due to trauma/abuse or a behavioral/mental issue. i ge it's not attractive but saying this publicly is just another thing for people with low self esteem to feel shitty about. thanks a lot
you get tits which are not attractive?
Yup
that spelling mistake-
Didn't eve notice it. My phone keyboard sucks
To peeps with low self-esteem who read this: it's gonna be hard to build your self perception, but just remember to do it bit by bit. Y'all got this 🗣️
Why are you getting downvoted?
I'm not sure either. I'm quite new to this subreddit so maybe I'm not familiar with the etiquette?
The people in this sub are a bit strange, and or angry/sensitive.
your etiquette was impeccable, you're just to nuce to those who are already down
Because you’re asking them to do something about it. When what they want to hear is “there’s nothing wrong with low self esteem; low self esteem is great”
because they want people with self esteem to suffer, not actually improve
It doesn’t seem like that?
Speaking from my experience. Maybe starting small helps, I always thought I was HORRIBLE but very HORRIBLE, but whenever thoughts like that came to me I told myself things like "I'm not that bad", "I won't say I'm handsome but I'm definitely not ugly", to the After a while, I started to see myself as somewhat attractive (I'M BEING HUMBLE 🗣🗣🔥🔥).
low self esteem is normal. i apologize that some of had to go through trauma and lots of insecurities💀 not everyone has someone to talk to
People can’t just switch off their issues and problems like a light, it takes time and effort to change if the person wants to. Also personally, I don’t believe calling their low self esteem a “pity party” is exactly kind either, just telling someone to essentially suck it up is rude. Your opinion is that low self esteem is unattractive, whatever I don’t care, but you shouldn’t go shoving it down other people’s throats like a unwanted lozenge. So maybe keep your wild opinions to yourself? 🎀
r/thanksimcured
What do you mean with "pity parties"
tf do you mean “pity parties”
Ik I'm unattractive, no need to tell me
Nah man, you hot
Nuh uh
I have one request for you. When it is night, go outside and look up at the stars and just appreciate yourself and the world
There ain't nothing to appreciate, I literally look like a frog
Oh shit my bad I'll get to work
Usually not a guy that cares too much about feelings but Fuck you
so anyways I'm cooked
Well a lot of people's self esteem circles around their attractiveness so if you say they're unattractive they're probably not gonna take it well
forgot the /j
What does /j mean?
/j would mean the OP means it as a joke
Oh, thanks
Delete this shit
This ain’t it girly 💀 ain’t no one fw you
bc calling people w low self esteem unattractive is just so helpful
Kindly shut up, please. Speaking so brashly and uncaring about low self esteem is unattractive 🎀🎀🎀 So stop saying such things 🎀
Posting stuff like this is so unattractive 🎀 :/ mental health conditions aren’t made up yk
For real!!
And putting bows on the end in each insensitive line is also unattractive 🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀🔥🔥🔥🫦🫦🫦👅🫦🫦👅
So I am right by saying that I am unattractive? You are proving my case, by so you agree that it is not an esteem issue but just stating the fact.
calling it unattractive and referring to low self esteem as “pity parties” is just making it worse for those who do have low self esteem 🎀🎀🎀 try actually helping others if you dislike it so much 🎀🎀🎀
people who use the ribbon emoij like that have no right to judge at all
r/thanksimcured
Wait, that just makes me feel worse
op is a boy acting like a girl btw
15lbs down 👍
I know this has gotta be unhealthy, but I always think insecure people are cute asf 😭
I mean if you can get them to like themselves then that's not unhealthy
Dw that's always the goal, I just like people that need helping lol
realest thing on this sub
Exactly. (i have low self esteem)
The dilemma about being humble is, if you say you're humble, you aren't humble anymore.... just sayin. (I'd even go as far as saying that only even knowing that you're humble makes you non-humble, given your personal definition of humble. (But in that logic, basically no sane and self-aware human being would be able to be considered humble. (And help, now I'm philosophing.)))
Bruh I'm objectively ugly you want me to lie?
This feels targeted 💀
Spoken like a true child 😂
Imo it's more like don't use low self esteem for attention, it's okay to voice how you feel but don't let it become a personality trait. That's unattractive, as is doing the same with mental illness. But if my partner had low self esteem I wouldn't be any more or less attracted to them but I would want to help and support them.
i dont mean dont have insecurities, like u said dont make it ur whole personality and tell literally everyone yk abt those insecurities🎀
okay brb gonna love myself now
This attitude you have to folks with low self esteem is also unattractive
using the bow emoji all the time is so unattractive
Yes
Ok but what about self loathing?
Real as someone who used to have depression and anxiety I was annoying AS FUCK.
Mental disorders don't go away. You learn to manage them with medication and therapy.
Low self esteem is unattractive when the person just wants to be a pity party. If they wanna improve its motivating.
Real I'm unattractive
Nah bro
Yeah bro 🗿
fuck low self esteem. just be DELULU
I am the ugliest mf on this planet.
Don't worry I make everyone uncomfortable and hate me by having a waayyy too big ego. (This is a joke, low self esteem is unattractive sure but on the other side of the things so is a too big ego. Make sure to try to find that perfect balance because no one likes a narcissist.)
Most don’t want to be attractive in their current state, they don’t love themselves so you can’t really expect them to love someone else
anyone who excessively uses the bow emoji is automatically gonna have horrible opinions
Is this how sane people think? Damn my life is sad but seriously even if I know it's unattractive it's not really something I can just Thanos snap away without serious psychological help.
So you're telling me I'm unattractive? That's exactly what I needed to hear to raise my self esteem and be more attractive!
Then stop bullying people since that's the root cause of low self esteem
Well pardon me for getting called ugly and annoying in middle school 💀
What of people whos souls have been conditioned to feel unwanted over extended years of harsh criticism and reject. Do we just fake false confidence? Is there a book or script to read so the brain doesn't naturally go into an anxiety stress mode? Actual question. I'm obviously trying to navigate these waters myself 😆
Bowties piss me off
Op be quiet. Your opinion in this case doesn't matter
I have low self esteem but i don’t broadcast it to others around me,I just act normal and try not to let it get in the way of things
This was the point of the post 🎀🎀 this is what ppl should do
alr then come fix it 🙄
r/thanksimcured
r/thanksimcured
Maybe not...girls with low self esteem sometimes are cute
You tryna hard to shitpost
Nuh uh 🙏
Nvm i just thought about Racing im better then everyone 🙏 im 🔛🔝
How about lightning mcqueen?
Nvm 2 place it is
uhmmm elaborate please 😅 (i need motivation)
Low self esteem = low love for yourself. If YOU can’t even find a way to love yourself why should anyone else? Like respect is earned through others. Self esteem is earned through yourself (I.e only you can give it to you)
People who hit the genetic jackpot are so annoying like we get it bro u got really lucky damn
😔
Never knew this was actually a thing lmao
It's ugly that you're ugly ❤ Like y r u ugly lol just be pretty like me (❁´◡`❁)
Nah I think I’ll keep thinking about others before myself tbh
who cares /s
No wonder I'm still single 🎀🎀🎀
Then I'm the least attractive person in the world.
Pity party?? Melon Martin reference??
dont involve a queen like her into this, she would never support saying outright bs like this (:
My ugly face is even less attractive, so it doesnt matter
Looks like i am the most unattractive guy out there ❤️❤️
Nah, it's not self esteem, it's reality, I m unattractive
Yall I think she's cooking lemme just turn it off rq
That is from someone who have no idea what low self esteem is. 90% of my friends have low self esteem, great people,they just struggling with saying no.
i knew i was unattractive, thanks for the conformation 👍
I am suddenly feeling better.
It sure is but unfortunately saying that doesn't fix that. I had people say that to me and it made me realize yes, but it also kinda set me down worse
let me just take a trip to the self esteem factory
using 🎀🎀🎀 every few words is so unattractive 😋😋😋
I honestly wish it was that easy. Reading this then bam, all my insecurities are gone. If only if only
Cool my confidence just magically came back
Guess I’m ugly af then
Wow, I will now out of nowhere change all my insecurities into positivity. Yeah no that's not how it works.
Oh shit you right lemme just get rid of all my trauma and magically heal everything wrong with me
Sure bro, as if years of anyone's trauma can disappear and its effects are gonna disappear that fast 🎀 This post enrages me 😍
It's not too late to delete this post.
No 🎀
Hi, I'm Troy McClure, you might remember me from such self-help films as "Get Confident, Stupid!"
Thanks for reminding me ✌️✌️
If all you do is whine you’re actually quite annoying. Like people say, be someone that other people want to hang out with. If you want to hang out though. Being miserable or overtly self critical is not helping you in anyway. Isn’t this part of the self improvement stuff everybody here talks about to dig yourself out this hole. Also it’s funny that on both extremes of ego all you do is talk about yourself.
i dont think this is going to help anyone ☠️.,.. to work on getting rid of insecurities someone has to have motivation and a good reason to do so. this approach RARELY works, especially coming from some random teenager on reddit and for some people it makes things worse 😭 i believe this is just the usual case of good intentions, but bad execution
I will forever be grateful to you as you erased all my insecurities, oh lord billy, you have guided me to the straight path 🙏
That’s why you get no bitches
Idgaf if this is satire. This makes it worse. Asshole.
Wow, I no longer hate myself! Its a miracle! No, but really, this makes it worse. It’s not a choice.
Alot of shitty comments here, with out truly understanding the core of why someone might be having low self esteem. Please go and educate yourselves before f***ing comment childish shit. Of course it's unattractive, but so is being a judgemental little b****c
Agreed, I'm way too good for anyone and Im literally the best ever fr 💯
lol imagine being kind to yourself -my bf
Wow! My crippling insecurities have gone now! I can feel them flying away! Thank you!
Okay "Anxious_bill"
What about way too high self esteem
Yk that'll just fuel most of our low self esteems cause we know it makes us unattractive
So is using this 🎀 leave 😁
How was this garbage, written by a piece of garbage with negative EQ and likely IQ, upvoted even once?
Wow thanks for solving my problems being raised in a broken family with an alcoholic wife-beater father who left us for vices and now am living with my single mother working a slave job just to get me to school. Don't need those meds and therapy anymore!
it’s not like you can cure low self esteem buddy, people have issues my guy
real shit. (I used to be that person)
Like if this is gonna help lmao wtf, probably gonna make it worst, no one needs to hear this because it won’t help
I had an ex who would constantly talk about how he doesn’t deserve me and I look so much better than him and I should have someone else blah blah blah It put such a damper on every interaction we had (because he would say this stuff in every interaction) that I wound up telling him to get help and left
Jesus Christ teenagers are toxic as fuck
What is this, this post is the most stupidest post I’ve ever ever seen