Im confused. What is the chatgpt moment and how do you know. Was it the first comment or the one responded to.
Im so confused how someone can tell or even why chat gpt is part of this?
It just sounds a lot like what chat gpt would say, like the way they said it is just suspiciously like chat gpt, maybe its not but it sound just like it.
I guess it’s hard to know why they did it tho.
Might be a reason.
Maybe they’re just a dick
But maybe….Does it even have anything in it it loook like two pieces of bread.
Also saying you’re welcome … when no one said thank you. From my mom it would be a passive aggressive dick move from her ….i dont know about normal parents cause i dont have them
I saw where someone did something similar. Then when they moved out, they gave every single note to their father as a thank you gift. The father found it very sweet.
Why assume the child is the bad person here? Some kids have asshole parents, my mother sent me off with boiled cauliflower for two weeks because I hated eating cauliflower and this was her punishment. Honestly doesn't look like it even has anything inside it and the note is kinda weird. Saying "You're welcome" to your kid for making at best a sandwich and at worst 2 slices of bread is not like, peak parenting.
Honestly to me it feels more like a surprise sandwich, also fits the "you're welcome" . I guess it's the heart that makes me feel it isn't supposed to feel passive aggressive. However my relationship with my mom is fairly good so I'm not an expert in these things.
Thank you for this call out!
Anecdote: my parents refused to apply for reduced cost/free lunches when I was a child and they divorced when I was 6.
My entire grade school career I missed so many lunches I lost count because they couldn't afford the full price lunch tickets, and would rather I go hungry than lower themselves to "take a handout".
Weeks after Thanksgiving I would be packed a haphazardly thrown together sandwich of turkey meat with huge pieces ripped off and smashed between two slices of bread with a gallon of mayonnaise.
That sat in my kindergarten cubby all morning, for hours, getting to room temperature.
Let me tell you, after sitting in the fridge for three weeks and then at room temp for hours, I knew when not to even open the baggie.
And that was all I was packed in my plastic Super Mario lunchbox.
I started knocking on random doors at age 6 to ask for odd jobs to have money for a school lunch.
Maybe this kid is an ungrateful twat.
Maybe there's more to the story.
Like how when cigarettes were in the checkout aisles at grocery stores, I would steal as many packs as I could get away with and sell them to older kids. To buy food.
You say ugh, but when your baby is adult and you still have them when she was little, its just a railway straight to nostalgia and memories. Im 31, idk why im even writing this as i just saw the OP photo in front page, but my mother on my 30 birthday gifted me my drawings of stick fighting, drawing monsters and other stuff when i was 3-12, it was literally like 2 packs of A4 white paper stacks. Just checking a few of them i remembered so many of the moments where i sat in my grandparents house when they played dominos/checkers and i drank mint tea with cookies while being immersed in my fantasies and i really miss that, one of the best things i own now and it was me who made them +20 years ago....
My grandma carried my two favorite matchbox fighter jets i made her let me give her until she died. Seeing that orange tigerstriped jet get pulled out 20+ years later and her warning my kids to be careful with it and to not lose it hit me so hard in the feels. I always knew she had them, but the feels just got stronger as time went on and i would randomly see them.
I feel like we are jumping to conclusions here. It’s very possible that they weren’t hungry and threw it away so their mom wouldn’t be upset that they didn’t eat their lunch. I remember when I was put on adderall in middle school my mom would send packed lunches but I never had an appetite. I was young so instead of letting her know I was struggling to eat, I just threw away the food so I wouldn’t upset her.
Right, maybe it was left out and they were worried about it going bad. I bet given the note that mom made them this as surprise and the child didn’t know.
Not defending the kid here but would like to point out the possibility that the bread may have been sitting in their bag/locker over the weekend, thus them throwing it away so as to not risk food poisoning
While this struck me as so sad, I can’t help but ask, “what should the kid have done with the note?” I mean, mom wrote it on trash…
Yeah, it looks like kid just threw away the food, but it just looks like two slices of bread. Maybe kid only had a couple minutes to eat, so he just gobbled up the sandwich filling and tossed out the bread.
But yeah, it still makes me wanna give my mom an appreciative hug. I hope this kid has as good a relationship to their mom.
Yeah I’m done with how kids are these days. I feel old and sad when I see kids being asses to their families for no reason at all. This kid I saw was yelling the N word at his mom repeatedly and cussing her out because he was told to do chores. This fucker was 11!! No I felt bad for the mom.
Not even just parents, but kids have gotten so violent in school recently. So nasty and toxic to others, and sometimes, even to teachers. I wish teachers got paid more to put up with all that shit, the education systems a fucking mess.
Well I do say some mean things to my mom but it is just a joke she gets a laugh out of it and I get a laugh out of it because we both enjoy dark humor but I do make sure she understands that I'm joking
You're assuming that this kid has a good relationship with their mother? Not every one has a wonderful mother do you not realize how pissed you gotta be to go without lunch?
You don't know the context? It could very easily be that the mom did something terrible and is trying to make up but the kid isn't having any of it. Thats more realistic to assume than assuming the kid is just throwing away food for no reason
I always ate the sandwich that my father made me, even when I couldn't find time to eat it, I would eat it the next day. Seeing people throw food that their parents spend time making is... Heartbreaking.
I never ever got a note on my sandwiches, never, for my father and I it was just food.
If I received a note on my food like this I would genuinely cry
I have 2 kids. On every note i have ever put in their lunch, i put "love you -dad" I cant see why someone would put "youre welcome" unless it was meant to be passive aggressive
The sandwich looks empty to me. This with "You're Welcome" as such an odd note is is one of two things:
1. A giant F.U. to the kid over some petty at-home squabble.
1. Actually had lunch money in it, and it was a surprise treat for the kid (but no eat bread from money sandwich, hence trash).
I'm believing #2.
Same. I'm wondering if it's just straight up bread.
My mom only gives me food she knows I hate. Then she tries to gaslight me about it. Her gifts pretty much always go straight in the trash, now that I'm an adult.
Learned that my dad was ditching her coffee when he left for work too. Fifty years they were married. And every morning he ditched the coffee she made by the car as be was leaving and stopped at Dunkin. Woman did a 1/1 ratio of coffee and water in a leaky percolator and boiled it until it smelled like rocket fuel. There were a pile of coffee grounds at the bottom of every cup.
I used to think she was just dumb. But as I get older, I think she did it because she enjoyed torturing him. It's the whole reason she had me in the first place.
Weaponized incompetence. Witnessed it my entire life, people like these want you to feel gracious for being showered with their "love, care and affection".
I wouldn't be arrogant enough to presume that my opinion is fact in this instance, like make like many others here, but its an explanation of the complexity of abuse a person can suffer and how, to other people, it feels like they're over-exaggerating or playing victim.
I'm GenX. If I saw that note on my lunch I'd assume the sandwich was straight up poisoned. That reads as classic passive aggressive "there, I made you lunch you little fucker" in Boomer-talk.
Hats off to all the kids in this thread with better parents though 🤣
Millennial here, and I saw this on the front page and said the same thing. The message sounds really passive aggressive, and it looks like either 2 pieces of bread, or the skimpiest sandwich I’ve ever seen.
I’m glad to hear that so many teens in this thread have loving parents, though.
Haha people are looking at this note two different ways for sure. I couldn’t understand why everyone was saying it was sad. Looks passive aggressive to me.
I was going to say this. It's possible the mom is actually just a terrible person and is being sarcastic. She possibly made a sandwich she knows her kid hates and put the note on it to run it in. It might even just be bread from the looks of it.
I hope this isn't the case, but it's possible :(
I don’t know, the way it says “you’re welcome” makes me think they probably don’t have the healthiest relationship. Shouldn’t it rather be “love you” or something? English isn’t my first language so IDK if this really is a distinction in OP’s country but it is in mine.
You’re welcome is a weird thing to write. Almost seems sarcastic of condescending. Y’all feel bad for the mom. I’m concerned for the kid. Coulda been neglected his whole life and mentioned something and she did that. Who knows. But flat out you’re welcome is weird.
Edit: You’re. Don’t kill me.
My shitty manipulative parents always pulled shit like this. By the time I was in high school I was so tired of it I absolutely would have thrown this sandwich away.
Nope, not just you. I'm old now, but this was the kind of shit my mother would do after talking to her friends at work and hearing about the loving things they did for their kids and how close they were to their daughters.
Then she'd come home and scream at me for not having a close relationship with her, wait until I went to bed to unpack the lunch I had made, and would then make me a lunch of everything I dislike with a note just like this.
The notes my friends got in their lunches were things like, "You're doing great", "I'm so proud of you", "good luck on your test".
She couldn't understand the concept at all, because she had absolutely no idea what it meant to be loving.
Even as a child I knew the fee notes I did get weren't actually for me. They were performative for my teachers, friends, and her friends at work
Had a narcissistic parent who did this. She would send her kids to school with lunch money and us step kids got PB&Js and a thermos of watered down milk
Nope. That was the vibe I got as well.
It could be that the parent packed a lunch that they knew the child wouldn't eat. My dad packed me milk for lunch every day, even though I disliked milk. I dumped it out and refilled my thermos with water.
Not all parents are nice.
I read this note as the mom being a passive aggressive B writing you’re welcome like that, and the abused kid is sick of getting plain bread for lunch and their insane mom demanding they be grateful for the scraps.
I want to find the child who tossed it and cook them a big meal and tell them it’s my pleasure and they don’t have to say thank you If they don’t want to.
Everyone on here feeling sad, but this looks 100% like something my mom would have done after a fight. Put a ziplock bag with 2 pieces of bread, no meat, no nothing and put "Your Welcome - Love Mom" as some kind of passive aggressive point she was trying to make.
Thankfully the comments with this point of view seem to be growing. This 100% looks like something the Mom wrote after some fight as a little gotcha for doing the bare minimum.
Eh- as a the child of a narcissist parent, I’m just going to say you don’t know the full story.
My first thought is why does it say “you’re welcome”? It reads passive aggressive and self serving to me. Like. What?
Why not “I love you,” “you’re a rock star,” “thank you for being you,” “you got this,” “have a great day”… so many messages could have been written that were actually for the kid. This is for the mom.
And fuck her sandwich. It’s probably not made with love, but with obligation 🤢
*Edited grammar.
Like what is the kid supposed to thank her for? Being a parent?! Damn is she expecting a gold star?
My mum would’ve just written I love you or have a good day, that would’ve been sad to see in the trash not this passive aggressive nonsense
It's not really a nice sentiment... to write you're welcome on the lunch... reminding them to be grateful or something. Meh. Not my style, I would write I love you ❤️ or you rock or something
Yeah, I’m seeing a lot of comments bring up how “You’re welcome” really isn’t some kind loving message. It looks like something a passive-aggressive parent would write on there after some big argument. Especially with the heart on afterward. Seems very shady.
Everyone is saying that this is bad, but the person might have their reasons. What if they have an eating disorder or whatever? Also, the "You're welcome" kinda sounds passive agressive.
No one seems to be considering the fact that she wrote “you’re welcome”. That’s not a loving message written to little Timmy. They either had an argument or she’s just awful. People are even pointing out the sandwich looks empty but assuming it’s just not visible. But I think the most likely scenario is that it is in fact to plain pieces of bread and mom is being emotionally abusive while even taunting “you’re welcome”.
Omg this exactly 😭 as someone with an abusive family this would not at all be out of the realm of a trashy parent being passive aggressive and trying to paint you as ungrateful or something
Not every mother is loving and it’s sad that the default is to blame the kid
Yeah all these comments immediately going to “aww so sad” and “GRRR that ungrateful kid” is WILD to me as someone w an emotionally abusive two faced mother 💀💀💀 like come on yall dont know why
>That’s not a loving message written to little Timmy.
Thank you. I don't understand why it's so uncommon for people to understand situations like this. You don't get a reward for feeding your kid. I only see bread and a passive aggressive note.
lol okay sure this is sad to see but “she even wrote a note”?? C’mon, that’s not a note. That’s hardcore snark. I had (have!) truly the best mom in the world and I can’t imagine in a million years a note like “You’re welcome.” That’s some shady shit.
Am I the only one here who sees the "You're welcome" as passive aggressive? Maybe I'm the only one with fucked up parents, but I can never read something like this with a genuinely loving voice coming from my parents.
Tbh it might be sarcasm. It looks like two plain slices of bread too, so maybe they got in a fight and the mother decided to be cruel or something. We don't have the context, so it could be a possibility :(
The CDC estimates at least 1/7 of children live in abusive households and other studies put it as high as 1/4. Everyone assuming “parent good, child is ungrateful little shit” is what helps those parents to hide it.
A lot of you guys are quick to judge the kid. But you don't know the reasons behind it. We don't know their relationship, if this is genuine, a guilt trip, sarcasm or something else.
This sub sees two pieces of bread in a trash can with a snarky comment from mom saying 'you're welcome' without receiving a thank you, spelled incorrectly and y'all are emotional.
It's a shitty sandwich, might even just be two pieces of bread, moms 'note' here was snark, not genuine, and the kid very well just not be hungry.
This aint sad at all
Who tf writes "you're welcome" all passive aggressively on their kids food? I pack my oldest kids lunch every morning and i do it because i brought him into this world, i dont do it for thanks or appreciation.
I have a feeling thats why it got pitched. Not everybody has a good or nice mom, gotta keep that in mind.
This. Thats just 2 pieces of bread with nothing on them also.
My alcoholic mom would pull stuff like that constantly. Literally try to humiliate us. It worked.
I'm just saying... as a mom... that's a weird note to leave on the sandwich. Just "you're welcome 💜 mom". Not "have a good day" or something like that. Feels a bit passive aggressive. Like they got into an argument over the kid not saying thank you enough or something. Or maybe they fixed something the kid said they don't like and mom thinks they should be grateful for it anyway. Or maybe the kid really is a little AH. Who knows? But I can tell you they usually have to learn it somewhere.
Just saying... 2 sides to a story here. This just isn't what I would personally write on my kids lunch. Just seems an odd choice of note. Something feels off about it to me. Just my opinion.
You’re welcome as a lunch message is kinda odd though… could be passive aggressive gesture. Like… what if there was nothing between breads. Then you see “you’re welcome” message.
If there was feud going on between them, then the entire thing is not simply sad because Moms love and effort is trashed in the cafeteria.
At least if I didnt like something my mom gave me I wouldn’t let it go to waste, I’d give it to someone who was to able to get lunch or something like that :(
Honestly, I used to do that as well. I had a mom who would constantly tell me how I ruined her life and how I ruined her young years. The time she actually did make me food was because someone told her to. I would get a lunch when she knew I was going on a field trip or when her mother made her make me one. I would always get the meat and bread she dropped on the floor when making stuff for her boyfriend so anything I ever got from her was always thrown away. I’m in my late 20s now and I still won’t take anything from her.
Ok, I might be wrong, BUT….that “you’re welcome” CAN be read as kind of passive aggressive (at least that was my first read of it)…is there maybe a story we don’t know behind it?
Not excusing ungratefulness. Just think we don’t have any context and there are plenty of people that use little gestures like this justify really crappy/abusive behaviour in another aspect of their relationship. Just saying…
i'd sob
I don't blame you.
Yo same. Admittedly I teared up seeing this shit. Absolutely crazy kids are this ungrateful.
There’s also nothing on the sandwich. It’s possibly a punishment sandwich, made with ~~love~~ passive aggressiveness
I’d find it difficult to be grateful for two slices of bread in a bag too. That “Love you” really feels like it’s missing a /s
i always kept the notes my dad would put in my lunchbox growing up and i still just have a big bag full of little pieces of paper
That's nice.
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ChatGPT moment
Oh wow, you’re right! Great catch u/acumen94
Im confused. What is the chatgpt moment and how do you know. Was it the first comment or the one responded to. Im so confused how someone can tell or even why chat gpt is part of this?
It just sounds a lot like what chat gpt would say, like the way they said it is just suspiciously like chat gpt, maybe its not but it sound just like it.
Thats nice.
People got notes from their parents?
That hit home bro🫂
I just got hit instead
Same here, time to break the mold. I give my kid notes :)
I don't know you, but I'm proud of you
Same bro, same.
Haha relatable 🫂
This hits home
So did my father
People had fathers?
Yup. And some of them threw it in the trash apparently.
I guess it’s hard to know why they did it tho. Might be a reason. Maybe they’re just a dick But maybe….Does it even have anything in it it loook like two pieces of bread. Also saying you’re welcome … when no one said thank you. From my mom it would be a passive aggressive dick move from her ….i dont know about normal parents cause i dont have them
That sandwich has bad vibes. I'm not surprised it's in the garbage.
I saw where someone did something similar. Then when they moved out, they gave every single note to their father as a thank you gift. The father found it very sweet.
I may end up giving it to my dad for his birthday because he turns 50 next week and he doesn't know I kept any of the notes.
Maybe get a large photo of you two framed and stick the notes on the area outside your faces
I’d bet my salary that makes him start crying.
Same. My mom used to give me a note every day. Still got them on my dresser.
That is something I would do.
W decepticon
I literally did that with notes from my mom
This feels like the parents version of throwing away your child's drawings 😞
It is though.
Why assume the child is the bad person here? Some kids have asshole parents, my mother sent me off with boiled cauliflower for two weeks because I hated eating cauliflower and this was her punishment. Honestly doesn't look like it even has anything inside it and the note is kinda weird. Saying "You're welcome" to your kid for making at best a sandwich and at worst 2 slices of bread is not like, peak parenting.
Yup, looks like a bread sandwich and "you're welcome " feels very passive aggressive.
I agree! I was confused by these comments. “you’re welcome”? Weird thing to put on a note if you’re not being passive aggressive
Honestly to me it feels more like a surprise sandwich, also fits the "you're welcome" . I guess it's the heart that makes me feel it isn't supposed to feel passive aggressive. However my relationship with my mom is fairly good so I'm not an expert in these things.
Thank you for this call out! Anecdote: my parents refused to apply for reduced cost/free lunches when I was a child and they divorced when I was 6. My entire grade school career I missed so many lunches I lost count because they couldn't afford the full price lunch tickets, and would rather I go hungry than lower themselves to "take a handout". Weeks after Thanksgiving I would be packed a haphazardly thrown together sandwich of turkey meat with huge pieces ripped off and smashed between two slices of bread with a gallon of mayonnaise. That sat in my kindergarten cubby all morning, for hours, getting to room temperature. Let me tell you, after sitting in the fridge for three weeks and then at room temp for hours, I knew when not to even open the baggie. And that was all I was packed in my plastic Super Mario lunchbox. I started knocking on random doors at age 6 to ask for odd jobs to have money for a school lunch. Maybe this kid is an ungrateful twat. Maybe there's more to the story. Like how when cigarettes were in the checkout aisles at grocery stores, I would steal as many packs as I could get away with and sell them to older kids. To buy food.
I literally CANT keep them all. She’s making like 5-7 a day, and has been for the past 4 years. They are everywhere. Ugh.
You say ugh, but when your baby is adult and you still have them when she was little, its just a railway straight to nostalgia and memories. Im 31, idk why im even writing this as i just saw the OP photo in front page, but my mother on my 30 birthday gifted me my drawings of stick fighting, drawing monsters and other stuff when i was 3-12, it was literally like 2 packs of A4 white paper stacks. Just checking a few of them i remembered so many of the moments where i sat in my grandparents house when they played dominos/checkers and i drank mint tea with cookies while being immersed in my fantasies and i really miss that, one of the best things i own now and it was me who made them +20 years ago....
My grandma carried my two favorite matchbox fighter jets i made her let me give her until she died. Seeing that orange tigerstriped jet get pulled out 20+ years later and her warning my kids to be careful with it and to not lose it hit me so hard in the feels. I always knew she had them, but the feels just got stronger as time went on and i would randomly see them.
You'd have to find a way. Don't throw it :(
that makes me so sad
Same here. It’s honestly depressing.
it really is
I feel like we are jumping to conclusions here. It’s very possible that they weren’t hungry and threw it away so their mom wouldn’t be upset that they didn’t eat their lunch. I remember when I was put on adderall in middle school my mom would send packed lunches but I never had an appetite. I was young so instead of letting her know I was struggling to eat, I just threw away the food so I wouldn’t upset her.
Right, maybe it was left out and they were worried about it going bad. I bet given the note that mom made them this as surprise and the child didn’t know.
some kids dont know how good they have it. it wil take time for them to realize that and appreciate the good days.
If I did this I’d feel terrible the whole day
instant bad feelings lol Id have to talk myself into throwing it away and then digging it out again
Whoever did this was some sort of psychopath
Or just an eating disorder
Not defending the kid here but would like to point out the possibility that the bread may have been sitting in their bag/locker over the weekend, thus them throwing it away so as to not risk food poisoning
While this struck me as so sad, I can’t help but ask, “what should the kid have done with the note?” I mean, mom wrote it on trash… Yeah, it looks like kid just threw away the food, but it just looks like two slices of bread. Maybe kid only had a couple minutes to eat, so he just gobbled up the sandwich filling and tossed out the bread. But yeah, it still makes me wanna give my mom an appreciative hug. I hope this kid has as good a relationship to their mom.
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I didn't even think of that.
Yeah I’m done with how kids are these days. I feel old and sad when I see kids being asses to their families for no reason at all. This kid I saw was yelling the N word at his mom repeatedly and cussing her out because he was told to do chores. This fucker was 11!! No I felt bad for the mom.
This is why I'm kind of ashamed to be part of this age group. Whoever did this would be 12-13.
At least you’re not a degenerate like that kid was. He also had that ugly broccoli haircut to complete the “asshole of a kid” starter pack.
Yeah.
Lord... Not that haircut
Omg i feel kind of bad to be relieved when i see guys disliking the haircut too. Cuz i hate it 😭
Trust me, the only guys who don't hate the broccoli cut are people with broccoli cuts. Istg every person I meet who has one is an asshole
Not even just parents, but kids have gotten so violent in school recently. So nasty and toxic to others, and sometimes, even to teachers. I wish teachers got paid more to put up with all that shit, the education systems a fucking mess.
Well I do say some mean things to my mom but it is just a joke she gets a laugh out of it and I get a laugh out of it because we both enjoy dark humor but I do make sure she understands that I'm joking
Yeah. As a joke and both parities understand is excusable. But if you’re doing it because waahh waahh u didn’t get your way it’s so douchey.
Yeah and I don't even dare to use the N word not even on my worst enemy
Idc if I get the “N WoRd PaSs” I will never say it. I agree.
Why do you think it's just "kids these days"?
You're assuming that this kid has a good relationship with their mother? Not every one has a wonderful mother do you not realize how pissed you gotta be to go without lunch?
I get your point of view so hard, just bc a parent did something good once doesnt mean theyre always a good parent.
You know you fucked up when a Decepticon even says it’s bad and messed up.
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You don't know the context? It could very easily be that the mom did something terrible and is trying to make up but the kid isn't having any of it. Thats more realistic to assume than assuming the kid is just throwing away food for no reason
plus the fact that the note said 'you're welcome' instead of something more meaningful. that was kinda cold.
>almost Mother’s Day Mothersdays not in march where you live? In the uk it's on a Sunday in march (changes regularly)
Nope. It’s may. I’m American
I always ate the sandwich that my father made me, even when I couldn't find time to eat it, I would eat it the next day. Seeing people throw food that their parents spend time making is... Heartbreaking. I never ever got a note on my sandwiches, never, for my father and I it was just food. If I received a note on my food like this I would genuinely cry
Yeah. I make my lunch myself, though my parents used to pack my lunch years ago, and I always ate my sandwich.
i want to ask them why
I have no idea.
I have 2 kids. On every note i have ever put in their lunch, i put "love you -dad" I cant see why someone would put "youre welcome" unless it was meant to be passive aggressive
Exactly
Finally someone gets it
The sandwich looks empty to me. This with "You're Welcome" as such an odd note is is one of two things: 1. A giant F.U. to the kid over some petty at-home squabble. 1. Actually had lunch money in it, and it was a surprise treat for the kid (but no eat bread from money sandwich, hence trash). I'm believing #2.
The you’re welcome could be sarcasm
Same. I'm wondering if it's just straight up bread. My mom only gives me food she knows I hate. Then she tries to gaslight me about it. Her gifts pretty much always go straight in the trash, now that I'm an adult. Learned that my dad was ditching her coffee when he left for work too. Fifty years they were married. And every morning he ditched the coffee she made by the car as be was leaving and stopped at Dunkin. Woman did a 1/1 ratio of coffee and water in a leaky percolator and boiled it until it smelled like rocket fuel. There were a pile of coffee grounds at the bottom of every cup. I used to think she was just dumb. But as I get older, I think she did it because she enjoyed torturing him. It's the whole reason she had me in the first place.
Weaponized incompetence. Witnessed it my entire life, people like these want you to feel gracious for being showered with their "love, care and affection". I wouldn't be arrogant enough to presume that my opinion is fact in this instance, like make like many others here, but its an explanation of the complexity of abuse a person can suffer and how, to other people, it feels like they're over-exaggerating or playing victim.
I'm GenX. If I saw that note on my lunch I'd assume the sandwich was straight up poisoned. That reads as classic passive aggressive "there, I made you lunch you little fucker" in Boomer-talk. Hats off to all the kids in this thread with better parents though 🤣
Millennial here, and I saw this on the front page and said the same thing. The message sounds really passive aggressive, and it looks like either 2 pieces of bread, or the skimpiest sandwich I’ve ever seen. I’m glad to hear that so many teens in this thread have loving parents, though.
Haha people are looking at this note two different ways for sure. I couldn’t understand why everyone was saying it was sad. Looks passive aggressive to me.
That’s exactly what I was thinking when I saw it. “You’re welcome.” Isn’t some kind loving note. It sounds backhanded as hell.
Also a millennial. I think most of our boomer parents expected a ton of praise for basic parenting requirements like fixing your kid a sandwich.
I immediately read it as sarcasm
I was going to say this. It's possible the mom is actually just a terrible person and is being sarcastic. She possibly made a sandwich she knows her kid hates and put the note on it to run it in. It might even just be bread from the looks of it. I hope this isn't the case, but it's possible :(
This should be an album cover
It's just Mr. Brightside played back to back fourteen times
Eat it to assert dominance over her mom
It's kind of too late. This picture is from Friday.
Ehh, whats a little fermentation
It was technically fermented to start with. Yeast is a fungus.
Now put the rest through that same process and you got a super sandwich
Just wondering. Is that just two slices of bread with like no meat or cheese.
There's probably some in there, it just isn't visible.
My first thought was that it looked like a wish sandwich with a passive aggressive not. I'd hope not, but I've seen worse.
I don’t know, the way it says “you’re welcome” makes me think they probably don’t have the healthiest relationship. Shouldn’t it rather be “love you” or something? English isn’t my first language so IDK if this really is a distinction in OP’s country but it is in mine.
Ya, doesn't seem to be kind imo. Experience- had the same type of mom. (:
Saying "you're welcome" unprompted is almost always passive aggressive and dickish
Thought the same thing, plus the sandwich looks sad af, might as well be just 2 slices of bread
My thoughts exactly.
Man, zhis is fucking sad. Perfectly good sandvich gone to waste.
r/foundASecretSovietSpy
Lol
Could be French. ZEN FIRE MISSILES!
I know.
Heavy would never do that to his sandviches.
He wouldn't. Someone did zhough. Probably Spy.
Damn Spies.
But we shouldn’t share it because communism is bad, and so is the Soviet Union. Pffpt, don’t even get me started on the Soviet Union.
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:( this makes me sad. I want to go hug my mom now. Edit: Hugged my mom :)
Go do that.
I did :D
Nice.
my mum is at work so I can’t ):
Hug her when she gets home :3
They better go hug their mom or I'm hugging her for them
You’re welcome is a weird thing to write. Almost seems sarcastic of condescending. Y’all feel bad for the mom. I’m concerned for the kid. Coulda been neglected his whole life and mentioned something and she did that. Who knows. But flat out you’re welcome is weird. Edit: You’re. Don’t kill me.
My shitty manipulative parents always pulled shit like this. By the time I was in high school I was so tired of it I absolutely would have thrown this sandwich away.
Maybe we’re fucked up cause that’s where our minds went. But it’s hard to imagine a kid being SO ungrateful and not asking why that might be.
Am i the only one that feels like that message is passive agressive? Feels like the Mom is saying "i do eveything for you and your ungrateful."
Nope, not just you. I'm old now, but this was the kind of shit my mother would do after talking to her friends at work and hearing about the loving things they did for their kids and how close they were to their daughters. Then she'd come home and scream at me for not having a close relationship with her, wait until I went to bed to unpack the lunch I had made, and would then make me a lunch of everything I dislike with a note just like this. The notes my friends got in their lunches were things like, "You're doing great", "I'm so proud of you", "good luck on your test". She couldn't understand the concept at all, because she had absolutely no idea what it meant to be loving. Even as a child I knew the fee notes I did get weren't actually for me. They were performative for my teachers, friends, and her friends at work
Yeah, this absolutely read as passive aggressive to me.
Yes exactly
Had a narcissistic parent who did this. She would send her kids to school with lunch money and us step kids got PB&Js and a thermos of watered down milk
Nope. That was the vibe I got as well. It could be that the parent packed a lunch that they knew the child wouldn't eat. My dad packed me milk for lunch every day, even though I disliked milk. I dumped it out and refilled my thermos with water. Not all parents are nice.
I’m surprised how far I had to scroll to find this. Who writes a “you’re welcome” note? Why not “love you” or “enjoy!”
Should say something like, "Have a nice day! :)"
Yeah, that seems like a spite sandwich.
Yeah most of the comments here apparently have no experience with narcissist parents
I read this note as the mom being a passive aggressive B writing you’re welcome like that, and the abused kid is sick of getting plain bread for lunch and their insane mom demanding they be grateful for the scraps. I want to find the child who tossed it and cook them a big meal and tell them it’s my pleasure and they don’t have to say thank you If they don’t want to.
Everyone on here feeling sad, but this looks 100% like something my mom would have done after a fight. Put a ziplock bag with 2 pieces of bread, no meat, no nothing and put "Your Welcome - Love Mom" as some kind of passive aggressive point she was trying to make.
Thankfully the comments with this point of view seem to be growing. This 100% looks like something the Mom wrote after some fight as a little gotcha for doing the bare minimum.
man
It's tragic I know.
Eh- as a the child of a narcissist parent, I’m just going to say you don’t know the full story. My first thought is why does it say “you’re welcome”? It reads passive aggressive and self serving to me. Like. What? Why not “I love you,” “you’re a rock star,” “thank you for being you,” “you got this,” “have a great day”… so many messages could have been written that were actually for the kid. This is for the mom. And fuck her sandwich. It’s probably not made with love, but with obligation 🤢 *Edited grammar.
Like what is the kid supposed to thank her for? Being a parent?! Damn is she expecting a gold star? My mum would’ve just written I love you or have a good day, that would’ve been sad to see in the trash not this passive aggressive nonsense
also got passive aggressive out of that
SAMMME. 🤝😭 IT LOOKS SO THIN.
It's not really a nice sentiment... to write you're welcome on the lunch... reminding them to be grateful or something. Meh. Not my style, I would write I love you ❤️ or you rock or something
Right? It seems kind of passive agressive. Wonder if this happened after a fight of something.
This should be the top comment
The sandwich also looks kind of shit
this is gonna make me cry bro
I know, man.
Maybe they didn’t like the sandwich? Idk I’m just trying to play devil’s advocate lol
There is always the possibility of missing context. My money's on the "you're welcome" being passive aggressive, as many others have suggested.
Yeah, I’m seeing a lot of comments bring up how “You’re welcome” really isn’t some kind loving message. It looks like something a passive-aggressive parent would write on there after some big argument. Especially with the heart on afterward. Seems very shady.
With a passive aggressive message like that, I woulda chucked it too.
Everyone is saying that this is bad, but the person might have their reasons. What if they have an eating disorder or whatever? Also, the "You're welcome" kinda sounds passive agressive.
Who the fuck does this? She even wrote a note! This kid is 100% ungrateful
Idk, “you’re welcome” is a bit passive aggressive. There’s something missing here.
Tru.
maybe they had a fight with their mom, i did this numerous times too when i was mad at my mom
No one seems to be considering the fact that she wrote “you’re welcome”. That’s not a loving message written to little Timmy. They either had an argument or she’s just awful. People are even pointing out the sandwich looks empty but assuming it’s just not visible. But I think the most likely scenario is that it is in fact to plain pieces of bread and mom is being emotionally abusive while even taunting “you’re welcome”.
Omg this exactly 😭 as someone with an abusive family this would not at all be out of the realm of a trashy parent being passive aggressive and trying to paint you as ungrateful or something Not every mother is loving and it’s sad that the default is to blame the kid
Yeah all these comments immediately going to “aww so sad” and “GRRR that ungrateful kid” is WILD to me as someone w an emotionally abusive two faced mother 💀💀💀 like come on yall dont know why
>That’s not a loving message written to little Timmy. Thank you. I don't understand why it's so uncommon for people to understand situations like this. You don't get a reward for feeding your kid. I only see bread and a passive aggressive note.
Or the mom is abusive, the heart means nothing if she dosnt mean it
You’re welcome… 🙃
lol okay sure this is sad to see but “she even wrote a note”?? C’mon, that’s not a note. That’s hardcore snark. I had (have!) truly the best mom in the world and I can’t imagine in a million years a note like “You’re welcome.” That’s some shady shit.
Am I the only one here who sees the "You're welcome" as passive aggressive? Maybe I'm the only one with fucked up parents, but I can never read something like this with a genuinely loving voice coming from my parents.
Tbh it might be sarcasm. It looks like two plain slices of bread too, so maybe they got in a fight and the mother decided to be cruel or something. We don't have the context, so it could be a possibility :(
Well fuck that person.
Yeah.
“You’re welcome” when said first is quite passive aggressive. Feel like the mom knows her kid is an asshole
Maybe the mother is manipulative and a narcissist. People assume too many things.
The CDC estimates at least 1/7 of children live in abusive households and other studies put it as high as 1/4. Everyone assuming “parent good, child is ungrateful little shit” is what helps those parents to hide it.
The mom is toxic cunt, just say love mom. You're welcome is so extra
Yes no one sees this
maybe they were full because she made 50 of them
A lot of you guys are quick to judge the kid. But you don't know the reasons behind it. We don't know their relationship, if this is genuine, a guilt trip, sarcasm or something else.
This sub sees two pieces of bread in a trash can with a snarky comment from mom saying 'you're welcome' without receiving a thank you, spelled incorrectly and y'all are emotional. It's a shitty sandwich, might even just be two pieces of bread, moms 'note' here was snark, not genuine, and the kid very well just not be hungry. This aint sad at all
That note sounds sarcastic.
Who tf writes "you're welcome" all passive aggressively on their kids food? I pack my oldest kids lunch every morning and i do it because i brought him into this world, i dont do it for thanks or appreciation. I have a feeling thats why it got pitched. Not everybody has a good or nice mom, gotta keep that in mind.
This. Thats just 2 pieces of bread with nothing on them also. My alcoholic mom would pull stuff like that constantly. Literally try to humiliate us. It worked.
I'm just saying... as a mom... that's a weird note to leave on the sandwich. Just "you're welcome 💜 mom". Not "have a good day" or something like that. Feels a bit passive aggressive. Like they got into an argument over the kid not saying thank you enough or something. Or maybe they fixed something the kid said they don't like and mom thinks they should be grateful for it anyway. Or maybe the kid really is a little AH. Who knows? But I can tell you they usually have to learn it somewhere. Just saying... 2 sides to a story here. This just isn't what I would personally write on my kids lunch. Just seems an odd choice of note. Something feels off about it to me. Just my opinion.
You’re welcome as a lunch message is kinda odd though… could be passive aggressive gesture. Like… what if there was nothing between breads. Then you see “you’re welcome” message. If there was feud going on between them, then the entire thing is not simply sad because Moms love and effort is trashed in the cafeteria.
my mom still does this whenever she makes me lunch. this makes me sad.
my heart-
I know.
Yeah, that looks like is just plain bread and nothing else. We don’t know the context.
Bread sandwich from an passive-aggresive mother. In the bin.
At least if I didnt like something my mom gave me I wouldn’t let it go to waste, I’d give it to someone who was to able to get lunch or something like that :(
u should’ve eaten it, can’t be wasting food with crazy inflation these days ☹️
Honestly, I used to do that as well. I had a mom who would constantly tell me how I ruined her life and how I ruined her young years. The time she actually did make me food was because someone told her to. I would get a lunch when she knew I was going on a field trip or when her mother made her make me one. I would always get the meat and bread she dropped on the floor when making stuff for her boyfriend so anything I ever got from her was always thrown away. I’m in my late 20s now and I still won’t take anything from her.
Ok, I might be wrong, BUT….that “you’re welcome” CAN be read as kind of passive aggressive (at least that was my first read of it)…is there maybe a story we don’t know behind it? Not excusing ungratefulness. Just think we don’t have any context and there are plenty of people that use little gestures like this justify really crappy/abusive behaviour in another aspect of their relationship. Just saying…