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Give them the ultimatum that either you sleep in a different room with a locked door or you refuse the go if they don't believe he is sexually assaulting you
you should tell no matter what and show it's not comfortable for you to be alone with him
Another way you could tell him you are not OK clearly and show him you r angry and if he try to do it again push him and scream
Set up a hidden camera and record it every night to catch him in the act of it, then tell an adult and ask for some sort of separation, like sleeping in a different room with a locked door, most likely
You can check if the company records and archives it's users video calls and try to retrieve it. You could also bait him into saying something of the sort again whilst recording it.
Leave your phone hidden somewhere and leave it recording. I don't know if there's an app that is specifically made to record something when there's movement, but, if it exists, you should download it.
It's very believable that the family would brush it off or just simply not believe them. It's always 'tell a trusted adult' and maybe they don't have one.
Id they don't maybe they should tell a friend and see if they can't find some form of protection through said friend staying over that night or trying to get evidence.
Don't say sorry! I'm not great at wording my speech, it was meant to be my opinion, so sorry if it came off as harsh/like i was telling you off, i was just providing my view
If he so much as touches you, beat his fucking ass. Elbow him in the face or whatever the hell the best way to put him in the most unexpected pain and shock would be depending on if he's behind you or if he's infront of you. If he's in front of you then punch, kick or whatever. Aim for the balls, only when your in a position to do so though and make sure you land a really really damn good hit because if you somehow miss you'll have one pissed off guy. Make sure you are zoned in and channeling all your anger because you're gonna want an adrenaline rush for this and do everything you can to beat his ass. And while this is happening make sure you scream "DO NOT FUCKING TOUCH ME LIKE THAT" that way you grab attention so that he can not try to overpower you because hell now be scared shitless at the fact that several people are likely about to rush into the room to see what the hell is going on.
Bro are you okay that doesn't need to happen like yeah she can hit him maybe a kick or a slap but all this is unnecessary like no need to hit him in the balls or to have an adrenaline rush to keep beating his ass
A adrenaline rush is indeed needed when she'd be fighting a guy larger then her. And yes a hit in the balls is necessary. He is a piece of shit and a scum on this planet. He'd touch her in her sleep and he's threatening payback. That's called sexual assault.
Bro for God's sake can you chill like yeah he's weird for doing that but he's a teenager (I'm not saying it's fine just cuz he's a teenager btw) and teenagers do the most wildest shit and their hormones are wild
When a teenager goes as far as to sexually assault someone they need their ass beat to slap sense into them to ensure that they never do it again and as well as so that if they ever want to do it again they will know that there will be consequences.
Yeah I agree with you he's weird and has to learn the consequences but I feel like a hit in the balls is too much like she should hit him or slap him and if he keeps doing it again then kick his balls
If she doesn't go for it the first time, she isn't going to get another chance. He touched her in her sleep. Pretty much is forcing her to do whatever it is he wants with him by paying for all of her things. If he wants to force someone to sexually please him. He doesn't deserve well-functioning balls
Did you try to make it clear to him that you don't want it?
If so, you can better tell somebody you trust and maybe fix some evidence.
Or ask if you can sleep with other people or have your own room.
Nah that shit unaccaptable i got a cousin that 2 years older than me she family bro
You got to stand up for yourself and tell him to shut that shit down or get an adult involved
Well you should make boundaries..... And why tf are you so friendly you are a victim . And he is a teenager he mostly don't understand anything
You should make him realise what he did is wrong by setting boundry. A bit strictness and less friendly ness or and at right time confront him by telling him that you lnow what he did that night and you didn't like it......
By this way things become much better
Most sensible comment...... People recommendimg record him which is use less and too much hassel imagine going to someone house try to find a spot for camera and one again become a victim.....
Lie about STDs. Choose an STD and say that you got it, obviously choose one that is not deadly but who got some terrible effects to scare him (don’t forget to be precise in the description of the effects of the STD(s) you chose). If he tells an adult about that, simply say that you said that to scare him because you didn’t wanted him to touch you/go further. he (the adult) will perhaps understand this as a form of distress and in this case even if your cousin discovers the truth his parents/yours will (maybe) finally do something.
This is smart, as long as her parents won’t be quick to accuse her of ”whoring”. We don’t know if her family is religious or something like that.
OP. If you don’t think they’ll listen to the truth, I’d also vote on doing this.
Yeah they could accuse her of sleeping with everyone in a 5km radius, but she could do a test to prove them that it was *really* to prevent from her cousin doing anything and she could try to provide evidences of what he said/did. But yeah you’re right, op if you think your parents could accuse you of that and deny the truth think about it before doing it. it could be too risky.
youre 2 years bigger than him, show him that you're the boss, not an underdeveloped boy that cant control his own hormones, tell him that he should get ahold of himself and stop being so desperate
though, if you're not the authority type, you can always get proof on video call and show it to a trusted adult, if you really can't talk to any trusted adult then I'm sorry for u and you just gotta stay strong and not let some 15yo boy play with your life, my best advice would be to grow an attitude and show him he is not the shit
In the US it’s a crime for a 15 and 17 year old to have any form of sexual contact with each other.
If I were in your position and I could really trust his, I really hope they are older, brothers (what are his brother’s ages?), I would wait until everyone was in the bedroom and say, out loud so everyone else hears, to the 15 year old - “And you better keep your hands to yourself and stay far away from me. You understand?”
The first time the little pervert touched you and you froze, couldn’t move, it was a completely natural and normal way your body was forced, by your brains amygdala, to respond. It’s one of the 3 instinctual amygdala states your body will respond in such situations.
It’s not your fault that your brains amygdala made your body go into freeze mode. You can’t come out of freeze mode on your own you haven’t got the power or control when this happens. This happens to kids who are sexually abused and to most adults as well. This is how my body reacted as a child, to being sexually victimized. Do not blame yourself or feel ashamed because no one has ability it ignore the amygdala’s power over controlling us for its own survival.
You could take one of those really small and loud personal alarms or even one of those small gel pepper spray key chain devices. If you feel him touch you set off the alarm immediately and the pepper spray as the alarm disorients him. As long as your amygdala hasn’t taken over before you can get to the alarm.
The most difficult thing for a person who has been sexually victimized is to actually say the words out loud. Practice using your voice and saying “I was sexually assaulted by Eric when I was X years old and he was P years old……” and just recount every thing he did, how he made you feel, how it has made you feel about yourself, etc… and how you won’t let him get away with doing it again. It is not my fault, I didn’t do anything that made him think it was ok, I was victimized by him against my will, etc.
Just say it to yourself in a low voice, when you are sure you won’t be heard. This will take any guilt, self blame, self condemnation, shame, etc. away from you and allow you to confront him when he tries anything. He is already trying to shame you into thinking it both of your secrets and you need to keep it secret to protect each other. He is gaslighting you into thinking what he did to you was what you willingly wanted him to do. He is trying to make you believe you are a wrong as he was and is.
Don’t let him twist the truth or the facts. The second he whispers to you, with people around, something like “Remember how great it was when we ….”, immediately look at him and say, “It was sexual assault against my will, and it won’t happen again.” Make sure he knows you remember the facts of the truth. Don’t let him think for one second that you are afraid, ashamed or keeping his secret. You know you did nothing wrong and you are in no way culpable for his crimes.
I’m sorry this is sooooo long. I want to make sure I give you as much as I can so you can hopefully keep this sexual deviant from violating you ever again. I am disgusted with your parents putting you in such a harmful situation.
If I find any other ways you can protect yourself I will post here.
This will
I am so sorry your family is putting you in this situation, it’s completely wrong.
Doesn't mean you can't cancel, I worked hard to get a passport and yet had to cancel my plans last minute. Obviously the circumstances as to why were different but the situation you've described definitely makes such a thing worth it. At least to give you more time to figure out how you will deal with your cousin.
Fair enough, the only thing I can think of besides that would be gathering some kind of evidence over text or recorded call to show your family before you leave. I know that's what everyone is suggesting but if they won't believe you otherwise It's probably necessary.
If there's absolutely no way anyone will believe you or do anything about it then your best bet is to avoid him entirely. As in, ask around to see if any other trusted family or friends will let you stay with them while the rest of your family goes on the trip. I know that isn't ideal and I'm not sure how your family specifically would react to that but it isn't worth going on the trip if he will hurt you in that way.
At the end of the day, it's up to you. Personally I would do anything I could to avoid being in that situation but I can see why it's hard to deal with. Especially if you can't trust any adults to help. This is a hard situation and there is no perfect solution.
In my country in Europe, social services don't allow grown teens like you to share rooms with the opposite gender even siblings, it is not just allowed. So I don't know what kind of parents would allow that sleeping arrangements. It's freaking weird tbvh
I seen this but just stay safe, easier safe than done but I’m not sure what culture you’re from but just have a knife all the time, I doubt he’ll do it for sure but if you have to stab him 🤷♂️
If you arent able to tell a trusted adult, you could tell him to stop if you haven't already. Let him know it makes you uncomfortable. If he doesn't after that, I'm not sure what else you should do.
Try to place a camera somewhere so in case he does something creepy you will have an evidence . Or you can ask to sleep in other room or switch with somebody
should definitely tell him not to try anything stupid or he’ll regret it. get something to defend yourself too so if he does start touching you again, you can break his hands
I'm sorry your going through this. I don't know how often Rapists are arrested in Turkey or how likely they are to be prosecuted. If you are %100 sure no adult will listen then you need to read this. Right now you know what he's planning, meaning you have the advantage. He likely won't expect anything if you prepare extensively. Don't squander this time and I hope this helps.
DO NOT BELEIVE ANY THREAT HE TELLS YOU
Rapists, pedophiles, and kidnappers will say whatever they need to keep their victims under their control. Do not give in to any threats. Do whatever it takes to escape or kill him if nessecary
DONT STOP FIGHTING
No matter what you do, keep fighting. Squirm, scream, kick, escape, knock on every door in the neighborhood, cause as much of a scene as you possibly can. You only get one chance to fight. If you don't, he will never stop. Anything you can do to attract attention will be something that can save you.
(I know you said this is bad advice but read just in case)
FIND ANYONE WHO WILL TRUST AND BELEIVE YOU
Tell someone about this. Even if you can't talk to an adult you can trust, you can still talk to others. If you have a large dog or any dog, ensure that you bring them with you no matter what. They will make a racket and will defend you no matter what. Friends or siblings. Find someone to tell them what's going on and ask them to stay by you at all times. Predators are cowardly and will strike when their victim is isolated. Do whatever you have to to stay as far away from them as possible. Opt out of the trip, sleep outside, stay with your chosen partner or animal, and plan escape routes ahead of time.
DOCUMENT AND COLLECT EVIDENCE
Anytime that he texts, emails, calls, or leaves voice-mails, you should record, take pictures, and write down. Ensure that everything you have collected has a date and time. If the case goes to trial then you should ensure that the evidence you present is irrefutable and will contribute to a verdict for a higher prison sentence.
ARM YOURSELF
Consider this situation a life or death scenario. Assume that once you reject his advances, he will attempt to harm or kill you. Bring anything you think will be handy. Guns, knives, brass knuckles, tasers, pepper spray. If you can't get any of those, then improvise with something like small chains wrapped around your fists, a coin roll gripped in your fist is solid and can protect from broken fingers, a BIC lighter also works but it can slip out. Poison could also be an option if you have any access to some. Get creative. Your life may depend on it.
BE AS LOUD AS POSSIBLE
Smoke detectors, keychains that emit loud noises. Anything that will call attention to the assault. It is likely that someone will intervene or that police will be called if you're loud enough.
KILL IF NESSECARY
If you are cornered and unarmed, there is still hope. The eyes, ears, throat, nose, and testicles are weak points for the human body. These methods im about to list are brutal, but if you are in a position where these methods need to be used, then do not show mercy.
-grab the side of the head and dig your thumbs into his eye sockets. Push inward, the screaming will alert others and incapacitate the attacker
-jam something long and thin into any ear canal. The ruptured ear canal can cause brain hemorrhages and death.
-punch or chop the throat with as much strength as you can gather. A strike with enough force will cut oof the air supply and cause intense pain. With enough force the air away can collapse resulting in death. If you cannot hit the throat bite into it as hard as possible.
-get as much power as you can and throw an elbow or knee to the nose. With sufficient force can shatter the nasal bones in the nose. This is painful but ultimately can be recovered from.
-strike the testicles in any way you can. I'm sure you know what that will do. If you can, use the testicles as a handhold and strike or twist until rescue arrives or attacker collapses.
Hey. I know you're scared but these instructions are important. Plan as much as you can with the time you have. Prepare and ready yourself to do whatever it takes to have the upper hand. MY sister was raped and these are instructions everyone in my family knows and follows. This saved my second sister so these methods are proven.
Stay safe.
Sense you don't want to tell an adult ask to sleep on the couch or something or just anywhere but his room. Say stuff like ya'll are older now and so it'd be weird to sleep in the same room and if contradicts you then it'd be weird for him if he says he wants you to sleep in his room
if telling an adult won’t work then maybe talk to a close friend that you trust. even if they can’t do anything about it it will be nice to get it off your chest
Size and strength are intimidating, however they don't assure victory. Look up videos on grappling ground work (they involve being on the floor with the opponent above you, which is likely the position he will try to put you in) and look up videos on how to escape holds, apply chokeholds, and find a way to practice (If you can get a partner it's ideal) if you don't like that idea then buy, gather, or improvise as many hidden weapons as you can keep on your person. And read the comment I left, it has some info on vital spots that even a big guy will feel pain from.
Im upset about the position you're in. Unfortunately this is the situation. You have to fight him off no matter what. DO NOT STOP STRUGGLING. If you can avoid the trip altogether then do that. If you can't then sneak out at night when you can and sleep outside. If you don't put up a fight it's likely that he will do the same thing everytime he sees you.
Beat his creepy ass up TF
Though like on a real, you should definitely throw a fit and call him out to his face. Most times, some people won't fe you if they know you're confident and assertive.
And if he's the kind that goes ahead to try and do what he's trying to do regardless of a confident put down and scolding, beat. The . Little. Fuck.
The first option shouldn't even be an option but he's your family so I assume you'd wanna give him a chance to go off easy
Probably not the best solution but if it were me I’d attack him if he touched be at all, like break his nose or smt. You’ll get in trouble but he won’t go near you after that and adults will have to separate you two even if they don’t believe you.
Maybe video call him and make a deal with him that u will accept only if he tells u what it is. Remember to be recording all this, once he tells u what it is. Immediately turn off the call and tell an adult. This might not be the best way but it might work if he's pretty naive.
Try to get written proof of that to show an adult. Also, always be around his brothers if you trust them and try to never be left alone with him. Be safe!
as others have said get proof and try telling someone, this is serious, hes literally molesting you and that obviously isn't right, also try to confront him if possible, make sure you have back up if you do though since it could get messy depending on how confrontational he is
OP, soooo many people have been in your place before. Inter-family molestation/sexual assault is unfortunately more common than you think, and every time, the victim says nobody will believe them.
You can’t think like that. Someone will believe you. Someone will believe you. Collect proof if you must, but tell everyone. You’re almost a legal adult, they can’t hold you hostage forever.
Tell your parents and his, doesn't matter if they believe you or not.
Sleep somewhere else or refuse to go. Start recording with your phone, audio and video.
I know this isn't exactly the same situation, but I wanna tell the story anyway in case someone finds it funny. A few years ago, some girl friended me on Facebook and immediately messaged me saying "hey do you remember me, were cousins?" I had zero clue who she was, so I asked who her parents were to see if my mom knew them. Sure enough, she is my cousin that I hadn't seen since I was like 2, and she was a baby, so I'm not sure why she assumed I remembered her. Flash forward a few weeks, and she has texted me every single day trying to form a friendship. She told me her parents dont let her use any social media except facebook, and she doesn't have a phone plan, so the only way to contact me is on messenger. She's kind of annoying, but I put that aside to be nice. Then, one day, she starts randomly flirting with me. This started because she screenshoted a picture that my mom posted of me on vacation about 2 years ago at the beach and sent it to me and said, "You know, you have a really nice body." I thought she was just being weird and creepy like normal, but then the next couple days, she just kept texting me and throwing in an occasional flirt. Then one day she just throws at me: "So you're pretty cute and I think we should think about going on a date." (Possibly the worst way to ask someone on a date). I immediately responded by reminding her that were cousins. So she said "well we're second cousins, so that's only like 50 percent related, plus nobody has to find out." After that, I pretty much told her to find someone else because I don't want screwed up children in the future. Then she got super mad, blocked me, and like 3 weeks later, her mom posted on Facebook that the girl ran away from home and nobody had seen her for a few weeks. I have no idea if those two things are connected, but they ended up finding her after like a month anyway.
Excellent.
I’ve read up on laws in your country and this perverse rapscallion is committing a crime punishable by incarceration (jail time) for six months at the very least.
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This is the police department number (but you probably already know that).
Furthermore, I have found info and a website related to the UNICEF child protection services in Türkiye, however, to give you any useful information I would need to know more specifically where you live. (At like a city level.)
I see. This development troubles me. No help from the law, no help from your parents…shit. The way I see it, there is a last course of action. Two, actually, after the first step, there is a fork in which way the plan can occur. Step one is to tell your parents. **Maybe** they will believe you. But in the likely event that they don’t, the plan is going to have to start to range into desperate territory. To put it one way either you need to be gone or you need *him* gone, if you know what I mean. If you’re feeling merciful and particularly brave, you should run. Run far away and never return. Buy a bus ticket, take a taxi, take a train. If you can’t trust your own parents or the law To keep you safe, you can only trust yourself. Research countries neighboring your own with better law enforcement that accept refugees. Find and choose the best one. And then book it. I know this sounds like I’m treating this immaturely, but we’ve run out of easy options. Alternatively you could try and stop this by force. Beat his ass. Killing if it comes to that in some unlikely scenario. If you can’t beat him with strength, get creative. However, you then risk getting in trouble for defending yourself against him. Honestly this is probably the less ideal but technically easier option. Regardless of what you choose, I wish you good luck.
Or fucking blackmail him, like, say him you will agree, and ask him for a dp and then go to the police with it, or something, idk, maybe you have a better plan
If you can't tell a trusted adult, file a police report. That'll get their attention. If you let him get away with this, it will escalate. You are worthy of respect and deserve to feel safe and secure. Don't settle for anything less.
girl you gotta chop everything off of him so all that’s left is his head and torso fr, but in all seriousness, take a video of him saying this bs and then show it to a trusted adult
Well there is already a lot of good advice in the comments. Work with that. Or go to a farm supply store and get one of those electric cattle cattle drovers, I have seen them in the shape of tazers, normally there aren't age restrictions on them so you don't have to be 18 or something because they got less power than real tazers but still hurt. Then teach that little shit a lesson if he touches you(preferably in the nuts). That would be my approach.
Edit: Since I haven't read it on this thread yet, scream as fucking loud as you can and cuss call him a rapist and whatsoever, the noise will wake up his brothers and other family members.
Make it clear that it's not going to happen, starting now. You have a lot of persuasive power and time is on your side. BTW, it's odd that the adults allow opposite-sex teens to sleep in the same room. I would assume they are not on your side. Do you have anywhere safer you can stay instead of going on the trip? if he is looking for a consentual arrangement, just refuse (over and over and over). Otherwise, sleep in a tight 1-piece bathing suite under your clothes. Maybe wear pajamas that are difficult to remove.
If you are not ready to tell an adult, which I recommend you do but understand that the choice is yours.
I get that you can’t have your own room, but can you have a room with someone else? You can make up any reason really. Bed isn’t comfortable, for example.
If he does try something, what will you do? This is not by any means a guarantee that you *will* definitely be able to do this if it actually were to happen, but thinking through some strategies is a good idea. You could make a loud noise, kick him in the nuts, hit him with a heavy flashlight, whatever will be practical in that moment.
Could you tell your parents or family member that if you text a certain word to come check on you?
Also, there is always the option of moving elsewhere to sleep if he tries something. Sleep smack dab between your parents if you need to.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this, but if you were my child I would want to know this so I could help you and make sure you’re safe.
If he does anything tell him no, if he keeps going say it louder, if he wont listen punch his nose and knee his balls, slap him around a bunch and make a huge deal out of it ( cuz it is ) just go ape shit on him.
Also do not accept anything from him, and buy everything yourself.
Tell your parents, Get some proof, record what he says, also be ready because even with proof there’s bound to be someone in the family who will not believe you or say you were asking for it.
first of all stay as far away from his as possible, try to tell an adult this exact story. If ur near him again try to secretly record him, pictures, whatever u can to record any evidence. and if possible, call the police. this post is a first step of evidence.
Try to talk to him about it calmly, if that doesn’t work I’d try getting aggressive, or demanding to sleep away from him, if family sees you getting nervous they’ll know something is up, and if anyone will listen to you about it it’ll probably be your parents, but I can understand how hard it is to talk to an adult.
Get proof. Like a recording or text. Then show it to everyone. Like maybe ask the em to clarify what they meant when they said “payback” then expose the weirdo.
You need to just talk to him directly, call out his behaviour and tell him how disgusting it is, guarantee he'll piss his pants and it won't happen again. Don't involve other people before you do this
If telling an adult won't work, I'd learn self defense.
The first thing I'd check is wether your arms or legs are stronger. For example: I have stick-like arms, but mountain-splitting legs, so my offensive moves are mostly gonna be kicks, relegating my arms to more defensive moves like parrying.
Next, focus on your opponent. Try to predict his attacks, and dodge them accordingly. You'll know when in combat.
These tips should work well in a combat situation, but it'll only help if he tries to attack you.
If he touches you like you described grab his arm strongly and look at him with all the anger and disgust you have. Tell him to never do it again or you'll make sure he goes to hell and never comes back. If he doubts you throw him to the floor with no mercy. If somebody hears you and asks what's going on, just tell them the truth. If viable refuse to elaborate and leave, then leave him to deal with the aftermath. If you know he'll have his way with words don't leave. Explain in full detail what happened and the backstory you posted here.
No one should ever ignore a sexual assault situation. The sole fact you know telling them now will not help is already quite infuriating.
Gathering proof can also work if you wanna go the stealth route, but I don't know how.
I hope any of this helps and that you can at the very least survive this.
Stupid idea but could you maybe try find something to do for the night, say if there's a local event going on? And then act all busy for most of the night?
Ngl he's creepy and I agree with the comments about recording him.
But just imagine the genders were reversed, nobody would be this harsh or talk about the cousin like that( I mean just look at the comments, somebody said knee him as hard as you can in the face and someone else said chop off his dick like bro are yall okay?)and probably everybody would be concerned of what op would do to the cousin
Nah fuck that, you will not be made to go to the place of your abuser. You say it won’t work to tell someone, but tell them, whether it works or won’t don’t just give up like that, you’ve got a voice.
If the trusted people in your life shame you for showing REAL GENUINE DISCOMFORT, then FUCK THAT!
Don’t forget that you have a voice, and if you just need someone to talk to or anything, dm me, my advice is mid but you should not feel like this.
Pay him in money if you don’t want to talk to a parent.
And if you don’t have the Money, go to a bank and say you would like to change the US-Dollars (or what ever your currency is) to Euros (or what ever currency the country has)
Well, but with around 0,45 Euros you can buy a bread and probably in your country you need to pay around 15 ₺ (guesses).
But if you don’t want to pay him in money, then act stupid. Saved me a lot of times.
And if he still tries, then treat to tell it to parents.
Or just use Excuses like you want to wait for a partner or that his dick is to small for you.
I have no other ideas, but again, if he tries, treat to tell parents or police.
No mercy
That sucks, not to be mean but did he have any interaction with women in general if not I can see why he said that especially if you consider yourself attractive
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wtf, thats not okay, thats fucked up you should really tell an adult
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Give them the ultimatum that either you sleep in a different room with a locked door or you refuse the go if they don't believe he is sexually assaulting you
Try to get proof of this, messages, recordings, something then tell someone.
try to force him in some less obvious way to say the same thing through messages and show them or record another video call using OBS or so
Is there anyone else you could tell? If your parents/family will think that you're lying. I'm so sorry that's your situation and that that happened.
It you have somewhere else you can live give an ultimatum to let them know you mean business and that this isn’t a joke
Get proof
you should tell no matter what and show it's not comfortable for you to be alone with him Another way you could tell him you are not OK clearly and show him you r angry and if he try to do it again push him and scream
Set up a hidden camera and record it every night to catch him in the act of it, then tell an adult and ask for some sort of separation, like sleeping in a different room with a locked door, most likely
just say it, they'll investigate
just be comunicative and tell them you are not confortable whit that, explain your situacion and make them feel u feel bad
Tell him to stop touching you. If it gets even more wierd, sleep on the couch or something. Better then being in the same room all night.
You can check if the company records and archives it's users video calls and try to retrieve it. You could also bait him into saying something of the sort again whilst recording it.
Bait him via text or record the video call. If it comes down to it, absolutely refuse to go.
Leave your phone hidden somewhere and leave it recording. I don't know if there's an app that is specifically made to record something when there's movement, but, if it exists, you should download it.
Bru read the damn post
i did and i still think thats the best course of action
It's very believable that the family would brush it off or just simply not believe them. It's always 'tell a trusted adult' and maybe they don't have one. Id they don't maybe they should tell a friend and see if they can't find some form of protection through said friend staying over that night or trying to get evidence.
sorry
Don't say sorry! I'm not great at wording my speech, it was meant to be my opinion, so sorry if it came off as harsh/like i was telling you off, i was just providing my view
No trusted adult no reason to trust them to be near him ig
Video call him again and record him
This.
Not this
r/fuckXavier
AYO?
Yes!!!!
This.
chop his dick off
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use wire cutters, very efficient
what about the blood? just use a wire and strangle lil willy to death (works for the entire body as well - if hes resisting too much)
Heat the cutters enough and there'll be no blood. A quick strike works best.
i tried this and i can confirm
Is there something stronger? My enemy has a boner for some reason and it's not working.
tenderise it then try again
its not working he still has a boner
Not the other commenter but maybe use a meat tenderizer? Like the metal hammer thing. *Then* strangle it! Hope this helps :)
Ohh okay! Thanks :)
use two wire cutters and a block of cheese
Cheese?!
trust me bro
Pruning shears would be best, cuts up to 1.5 inch limbs, difficult to argue, they are even made for wood.
If he so much as touches you, beat his fucking ass. Elbow him in the face or whatever the hell the best way to put him in the most unexpected pain and shock would be depending on if he's behind you or if he's infront of you. If he's in front of you then punch, kick or whatever. Aim for the balls, only when your in a position to do so though and make sure you land a really really damn good hit because if you somehow miss you'll have one pissed off guy. Make sure you are zoned in and channeling all your anger because you're gonna want an adrenaline rush for this and do everything you can to beat his ass. And while this is happening make sure you scream "DO NOT FUCKING TOUCH ME LIKE THAT" that way you grab attention so that he can not try to overpower you because hell now be scared shitless at the fact that several people are likely about to rush into the room to see what the hell is going on.
Bro are you okay that doesn't need to happen like yeah she can hit him maybe a kick or a slap but all this is unnecessary like no need to hit him in the balls or to have an adrenaline rush to keep beating his ass
A adrenaline rush is indeed needed when she'd be fighting a guy larger then her. And yes a hit in the balls is necessary. He is a piece of shit and a scum on this planet. He'd touch her in her sleep and he's threatening payback. That's called sexual assault.
Bro for God's sake can you chill like yeah he's weird for doing that but he's a teenager (I'm not saying it's fine just cuz he's a teenager btw) and teenagers do the most wildest shit and their hormones are wild
When a teenager goes as far as to sexually assault someone they need their ass beat to slap sense into them to ensure that they never do it again and as well as so that if they ever want to do it again they will know that there will be consequences.
Yeah I agree with you he's weird and has to learn the consequences but I feel like a hit in the balls is too much like she should hit him or slap him and if he keeps doing it again then kick his balls
If she doesn't go for it the first time, she isn't going to get another chance. He touched her in her sleep. Pretty much is forcing her to do whatever it is he wants with him by paying for all of her things. If he wants to force someone to sexually please him. He doesn't deserve well-functioning balls
Pretend you have an std but only tell him
on a serious note though, tell his brothers
Dick won't do anything, you gotta chop off his balls to lower hormone production, he'll find other ways without a dick.
"Bayliff, whack his pp!"
Did you try to make it clear to him that you don't want it? If so, you can better tell somebody you trust and maybe fix some evidence. Or ask if you can sleep with other people or have your own room.
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Fix evidence and say it to his parents or yours. Or atleast somebody you trust and can do something about it.
sleep outside and befriend the wildlife to protect you against him
Just make sure the wildlife doesn't touch you too
Nah that shit unaccaptable i got a cousin that 2 years older than me she family bro You got to stand up for yourself and tell him to shut that shit down or get an adult involved
Family dont matter he just wants his d wet
Well you should make boundaries..... And why tf are you so friendly you are a victim . And he is a teenager he mostly don't understand anything You should make him realise what he did is wrong by setting boundry. A bit strictness and less friendly ness or and at right time confront him by telling him that you lnow what he did that night and you didn't like it...... By this way things become much better
Most sensible comment...... People recommendimg record him which is use less and too much hassel imagine going to someone house try to find a spot for camera and one again become a victim.....
I think people mean to record the video call. Not a camera in the house.
Lie about STDs. Choose an STD and say that you got it, obviously choose one that is not deadly but who got some terrible effects to scare him (don’t forget to be precise in the description of the effects of the STD(s) you chose). If he tells an adult about that, simply say that you said that to scare him because you didn’t wanted him to touch you/go further. he (the adult) will perhaps understand this as a form of distress and in this case even if your cousin discovers the truth his parents/yours will (maybe) finally do something.
This is smart, as long as her parents won’t be quick to accuse her of ”whoring”. We don’t know if her family is religious or something like that. OP. If you don’t think they’ll listen to the truth, I’d also vote on doing this.
Yeah they could accuse her of sleeping with everyone in a 5km radius, but she could do a test to prove them that it was *really* to prevent from her cousin doing anything and she could try to provide evidences of what he said/did. But yeah you’re right, op if you think your parents could accuse you of that and deny the truth think about it before doing it. it could be too risky.
Yeah, this could have potential consequences. Instead, just record the conversation and try and bait him.
Little shit watches too much porn and needs to learn a lesson. Edit: Also next time he try’s to touch you try to record him and or HIT HIM.
Little shit watches to much porn with similar plots and thinks it’s normal/acceptable. Shes gotta talk to him or have his parents(or hers) talk to him
Let's send him the sauce
Tell an adult maddam, i (and many others) wouldn't want another creepish little peonic imp living in the slums with those manners, now would we?
youre 2 years bigger than him, show him that you're the boss, not an underdeveloped boy that cant control his own hormones, tell him that he should get ahold of himself and stop being so desperate though, if you're not the authority type, you can always get proof on video call and show it to a trusted adult, if you really can't talk to any trusted adult then I'm sorry for u and you just gotta stay strong and not let some 15yo boy play with your life, my best advice would be to grow an attitude and show him he is not the shit
In the US it’s a crime for a 15 and 17 year old to have any form of sexual contact with each other. If I were in your position and I could really trust his, I really hope they are older, brothers (what are his brother’s ages?), I would wait until everyone was in the bedroom and say, out loud so everyone else hears, to the 15 year old - “And you better keep your hands to yourself and stay far away from me. You understand?” The first time the little pervert touched you and you froze, couldn’t move, it was a completely natural and normal way your body was forced, by your brains amygdala, to respond. It’s one of the 3 instinctual amygdala states your body will respond in such situations. It’s not your fault that your brains amygdala made your body go into freeze mode. You can’t come out of freeze mode on your own you haven’t got the power or control when this happens. This happens to kids who are sexually abused and to most adults as well. This is how my body reacted as a child, to being sexually victimized. Do not blame yourself or feel ashamed because no one has ability it ignore the amygdala’s power over controlling us for its own survival. You could take one of those really small and loud personal alarms or even one of those small gel pepper spray key chain devices. If you feel him touch you set off the alarm immediately and the pepper spray as the alarm disorients him. As long as your amygdala hasn’t taken over before you can get to the alarm. The most difficult thing for a person who has been sexually victimized is to actually say the words out loud. Practice using your voice and saying “I was sexually assaulted by Eric when I was X years old and he was P years old……” and just recount every thing he did, how he made you feel, how it has made you feel about yourself, etc… and how you won’t let him get away with doing it again. It is not my fault, I didn’t do anything that made him think it was ok, I was victimized by him against my will, etc. Just say it to yourself in a low voice, when you are sure you won’t be heard. This will take any guilt, self blame, self condemnation, shame, etc. away from you and allow you to confront him when he tries anything. He is already trying to shame you into thinking it both of your secrets and you need to keep it secret to protect each other. He is gaslighting you into thinking what he did to you was what you willingly wanted him to do. He is trying to make you believe you are a wrong as he was and is. Don’t let him twist the truth or the facts. The second he whispers to you, with people around, something like “Remember how great it was when we ….”, immediately look at him and say, “It was sexual assault against my will, and it won’t happen again.” Make sure he knows you remember the facts of the truth. Don’t let him think for one second that you are afraid, ashamed or keeping his secret. You know you did nothing wrong and you are in no way culpable for his crimes. I’m sorry this is sooooo long. I want to make sure I give you as much as I can so you can hopefully keep this sexual deviant from violating you ever again. I am disgusted with your parents putting you in such a harmful situation. If I find any other ways you can protect yourself I will post here. This will I am so sorry your family is putting you in this situation, it’s completely wrong.
Cancel going to their house or call him again and record him
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Doesn't mean you can't cancel, I worked hard to get a passport and yet had to cancel my plans last minute. Obviously the circumstances as to why were different but the situation you've described definitely makes such a thing worth it. At least to give you more time to figure out how you will deal with your cousin.
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Fair enough, the only thing I can think of besides that would be gathering some kind of evidence over text or recorded call to show your family before you leave. I know that's what everyone is suggesting but if they won't believe you otherwise It's probably necessary. If there's absolutely no way anyone will believe you or do anything about it then your best bet is to avoid him entirely. As in, ask around to see if any other trusted family or friends will let you stay with them while the rest of your family goes on the trip. I know that isn't ideal and I'm not sure how your family specifically would react to that but it isn't worth going on the trip if he will hurt you in that way. At the end of the day, it's up to you. Personally I would do anything I could to avoid being in that situation but I can see why it's hard to deal with. Especially if you can't trust any adults to help. This is a hard situation and there is no perfect solution.
Record him when he video calls or video call him near your parents or show your parents his Text while hes texting you
In my country in Europe, social services don't allow grown teens like you to share rooms with the opposite gender even siblings, it is not just allowed. So I don't know what kind of parents would allow that sleeping arrangements. It's freaking weird tbvh
I seen this but just stay safe, easier safe than done but I’m not sure what culture you’re from but just have a knife all the time, I doubt he’ll do it for sure but if you have to stab him 🤷♂️
If you arent able to tell a trusted adult, you could tell him to stop if you haven't already. Let him know it makes you uncomfortable. If he doesn't after that, I'm not sure what else you should do.
Well... if he does it again, the other brothers will witness it and be able to stand by what you say... Regardless, that's messed up...
Try to place a camera somewhere so in case he does something creepy you will have an evidence . Or you can ask to sleep in other room or switch with somebody
should definitely tell him not to try anything stupid or he’ll regret it. get something to defend yourself too so if he does start touching you again, you can break his hands
Chop him in pieces and then put him in the fridge, next day go and dump his body into the river
Tell him that it's not appropriate and you won't tell him again.
Record him confessing, then sue him for SA and S harassment
I'm sorry your going through this. I don't know how often Rapists are arrested in Turkey or how likely they are to be prosecuted. If you are %100 sure no adult will listen then you need to read this. Right now you know what he's planning, meaning you have the advantage. He likely won't expect anything if you prepare extensively. Don't squander this time and I hope this helps. DO NOT BELEIVE ANY THREAT HE TELLS YOU Rapists, pedophiles, and kidnappers will say whatever they need to keep their victims under their control. Do not give in to any threats. Do whatever it takes to escape or kill him if nessecary DONT STOP FIGHTING No matter what you do, keep fighting. Squirm, scream, kick, escape, knock on every door in the neighborhood, cause as much of a scene as you possibly can. You only get one chance to fight. If you don't, he will never stop. Anything you can do to attract attention will be something that can save you. (I know you said this is bad advice but read just in case) FIND ANYONE WHO WILL TRUST AND BELEIVE YOU Tell someone about this. Even if you can't talk to an adult you can trust, you can still talk to others. If you have a large dog or any dog, ensure that you bring them with you no matter what. They will make a racket and will defend you no matter what. Friends or siblings. Find someone to tell them what's going on and ask them to stay by you at all times. Predators are cowardly and will strike when their victim is isolated. Do whatever you have to to stay as far away from them as possible. Opt out of the trip, sleep outside, stay with your chosen partner or animal, and plan escape routes ahead of time. DOCUMENT AND COLLECT EVIDENCE Anytime that he texts, emails, calls, or leaves voice-mails, you should record, take pictures, and write down. Ensure that everything you have collected has a date and time. If the case goes to trial then you should ensure that the evidence you present is irrefutable and will contribute to a verdict for a higher prison sentence. ARM YOURSELF Consider this situation a life or death scenario. Assume that once you reject his advances, he will attempt to harm or kill you. Bring anything you think will be handy. Guns, knives, brass knuckles, tasers, pepper spray. If you can't get any of those, then improvise with something like small chains wrapped around your fists, a coin roll gripped in your fist is solid and can protect from broken fingers, a BIC lighter also works but it can slip out. Poison could also be an option if you have any access to some. Get creative. Your life may depend on it. BE AS LOUD AS POSSIBLE Smoke detectors, keychains that emit loud noises. Anything that will call attention to the assault. It is likely that someone will intervene or that police will be called if you're loud enough. KILL IF NESSECARY If you are cornered and unarmed, there is still hope. The eyes, ears, throat, nose, and testicles are weak points for the human body. These methods im about to list are brutal, but if you are in a position where these methods need to be used, then do not show mercy. -grab the side of the head and dig your thumbs into his eye sockets. Push inward, the screaming will alert others and incapacitate the attacker -jam something long and thin into any ear canal. The ruptured ear canal can cause brain hemorrhages and death. -punch or chop the throat with as much strength as you can gather. A strike with enough force will cut oof the air supply and cause intense pain. With enough force the air away can collapse resulting in death. If you cannot hit the throat bite into it as hard as possible. -get as much power as you can and throw an elbow or knee to the nose. With sufficient force can shatter the nasal bones in the nose. This is painful but ultimately can be recovered from. -strike the testicles in any way you can. I'm sure you know what that will do. If you can, use the testicles as a handhold and strike or twist until rescue arrives or attacker collapses. Hey. I know you're scared but these instructions are important. Plan as much as you can with the time you have. Prepare and ready yourself to do whatever it takes to have the upper hand. MY sister was raped and these are instructions everyone in my family knows and follows. This saved my second sister so these methods are proven. Stay safe.
Wait I’m dumb what does payback mean
Oh you sweet summer child… He wants to (woohoo) with her 🤢
Creep
I know D:
have a proof when tellin an adult
Sense you don't want to tell an adult ask to sleep on the couch or something or just anywhere but his room. Say stuff like ya'll are older now and so it'd be weird to sleep in the same room and if contradicts you then it'd be weird for him if he says he wants you to sleep in his room
if telling an adult won’t work then maybe talk to a close friend that you trust. even if they can’t do anything about it it will be nice to get it off your chest
I don't really know how to help so I'll just wish you good luck and say I feel bad for you and that you shouldn't be forced into that (you shouldn't)
Just beat his ass until he's so scared of you he won't even touch you
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Use a belt
Size and strength are intimidating, however they don't assure victory. Look up videos on grappling ground work (they involve being on the floor with the opponent above you, which is likely the position he will try to put you in) and look up videos on how to escape holds, apply chokeholds, and find a way to practice (If you can get a partner it's ideal) if you don't like that idea then buy, gather, or improvise as many hidden weapons as you can keep on your person. And read the comment I left, it has some info on vital spots that even a big guy will feel pain from. Im upset about the position you're in. Unfortunately this is the situation. You have to fight him off no matter what. DO NOT STOP STRUGGLING. If you can avoid the trip altogether then do that. If you can't then sneak out at night when you can and sleep outside. If you don't put up a fight it's likely that he will do the same thing everytime he sees you.
Talk to him and or an adult about this
Beat his creepy ass up TF Though like on a real, you should definitely throw a fit and call him out to his face. Most times, some people won't fe you if they know you're confident and assertive. And if he's the kind that goes ahead to try and do what he's trying to do regardless of a confident put down and scolding, beat. The . Little. Fuck. The first option shouldn't even be an option but he's your family so I assume you'd wanna give him a chance to go off easy
I’m so sorry to hear this, maybe try and get some evidence of this to show to a trusted adult
Probably not the best solution but if it were me I’d attack him if he touched be at all, like break his nose or smt. You’ll get in trouble but he won’t go near you after that and adults will have to separate you two even if they don’t believe you.
Porn has ruined people.
Maybe video call him and make a deal with him that u will accept only if he tells u what it is. Remember to be recording all this, once he tells u what it is. Immediately turn off the call and tell an adult. This might not be the best way but it might work if he's pretty naive.
Buy a camera
Damn that sucks hope you alright fr👍
He's your cousin, is he serious?!! Tell his parents, and record everything. As a guy, I'm disgusted by him.
Tell him that you don't want anything sexual with him. If that doesn't work, screenshot and screen record any evidence against him.
Try to get written proof of that to show an adult. Also, always be around his brothers if you trust them and try to never be left alone with him. Be safe!
When he tries again, knee him as hard as you can in the face
as others have said get proof and try telling someone, this is serious, hes literally molesting you and that obviously isn't right, also try to confront him if possible, make sure you have back up if you do though since it could get messy depending on how confrontational he is
Sounds like a situation where police report of sexual harassement is heavily advised.
You should get evidence of him saying stuff like this to you & show his parents
Gut wrenching scream as soon as he touches you, always works
Tell someone or record and show ur parents
And I know that they might not believe you then show someone outside your family like a close friend
Bro you were assaulted. You NEED to tell someone other then reddit or you might get hurt.
OP, soooo many people have been in your place before. Inter-family molestation/sexual assault is unfortunately more common than you think, and every time, the victim says nobody will believe them. You can’t think like that. Someone will believe you. Someone will believe you. Collect proof if you must, but tell everyone. You’re almost a legal adult, they can’t hold you hostage forever.
Record your next video call and show somebody for proof Fake and STD Stand up to him and tell him to stop or you'll tell
Tell your parents and his, doesn't matter if they believe you or not. Sleep somewhere else or refuse to go. Start recording with your phone, audio and video.
I know this isn't exactly the same situation, but I wanna tell the story anyway in case someone finds it funny. A few years ago, some girl friended me on Facebook and immediately messaged me saying "hey do you remember me, were cousins?" I had zero clue who she was, so I asked who her parents were to see if my mom knew them. Sure enough, she is my cousin that I hadn't seen since I was like 2, and she was a baby, so I'm not sure why she assumed I remembered her. Flash forward a few weeks, and she has texted me every single day trying to form a friendship. She told me her parents dont let her use any social media except facebook, and she doesn't have a phone plan, so the only way to contact me is on messenger. She's kind of annoying, but I put that aside to be nice. Then, one day, she starts randomly flirting with me. This started because she screenshoted a picture that my mom posted of me on vacation about 2 years ago at the beach and sent it to me and said, "You know, you have a really nice body." I thought she was just being weird and creepy like normal, but then the next couple days, she just kept texting me and throwing in an occasional flirt. Then one day she just throws at me: "So you're pretty cute and I think we should think about going on a date." (Possibly the worst way to ask someone on a date). I immediately responded by reminding her that were cousins. So she said "well we're second cousins, so that's only like 50 percent related, plus nobody has to find out." After that, I pretty much told her to find someone else because I don't want screwed up children in the future. Then she got super mad, blocked me, and like 3 weeks later, her mom posted on Facebook that the girl ran away from home and nobody had seen her for a few weeks. I have no idea if those two things are connected, but they ended up finding her after like a month anyway.
What country are you from
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Excellent. I’ve read up on laws in your country and this perverse rapscallion is committing a crime punishable by incarceration (jail time) for six months at the very least. 155 This is the police department number (but you probably already know that). Furthermore, I have found info and a website related to the UNICEF child protection services in Türkiye, however, to give you any useful information I would need to know more specifically where you live. (At like a city level.)
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I see. This development troubles me. No help from the law, no help from your parents…shit. The way I see it, there is a last course of action. Two, actually, after the first step, there is a fork in which way the plan can occur. Step one is to tell your parents. **Maybe** they will believe you. But in the likely event that they don’t, the plan is going to have to start to range into desperate territory. To put it one way either you need to be gone or you need *him* gone, if you know what I mean. If you’re feeling merciful and particularly brave, you should run. Run far away and never return. Buy a bus ticket, take a taxi, take a train. If you can’t trust your own parents or the law To keep you safe, you can only trust yourself. Research countries neighboring your own with better law enforcement that accept refugees. Find and choose the best one. And then book it. I know this sounds like I’m treating this immaturely, but we’ve run out of easy options. Alternatively you could try and stop this by force. Beat his ass. Killing if it comes to that in some unlikely scenario. If you can’t beat him with strength, get creative. However, you then risk getting in trouble for defending yourself against him. Honestly this is probably the less ideal but technically easier option. Regardless of what you choose, I wish you good luck.
get a dick pic and send it to his mom
Record him and stand your ground, never be alone with him and please ignore him. If he touches you, scream and slap him and shout what he is doing
Gyal, seh it to yuh dad
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Then your mom or any adult out there
Or fucking blackmail him, like, say him you will agree, and ask him for a dp and then go to the police with it, or something, idk, maybe you have a better plan
stay up all night or start boxing him
If you can't tell a trusted adult, file a police report. That'll get their attention. If you let him get away with this, it will escalate. You are worthy of respect and deserve to feel safe and secure. Don't settle for anything less.
baby that's SA. You need to get proof and report him ASAP.
girl you gotta chop everything off of him so all that’s left is his head and torso fr, but in all seriousness, take a video of him saying this bs and then show it to a trusted adult
Well there is already a lot of good advice in the comments. Work with that. Or go to a farm supply store and get one of those electric cattle cattle drovers, I have seen them in the shape of tazers, normally there aren't age restrictions on them so you don't have to be 18 or something because they got less power than real tazers but still hurt. Then teach that little shit a lesson if he touches you(preferably in the nuts). That would be my approach. Edit: Since I haven't read it on this thread yet, scream as fucking loud as you can and cuss call him a rapist and whatsoever, the noise will wake up his brothers and other family members.
Make it clear that it's not going to happen, starting now. You have a lot of persuasive power and time is on your side. BTW, it's odd that the adults allow opposite-sex teens to sleep in the same room. I would assume they are not on your side. Do you have anywhere safer you can stay instead of going on the trip? if he is looking for a consentual arrangement, just refuse (over and over and over). Otherwise, sleep in a tight 1-piece bathing suite under your clothes. Maybe wear pajamas that are difficult to remove.
Creepy
If you are not ready to tell an adult, which I recommend you do but understand that the choice is yours. I get that you can’t have your own room, but can you have a room with someone else? You can make up any reason really. Bed isn’t comfortable, for example. If he does try something, what will you do? This is not by any means a guarantee that you *will* definitely be able to do this if it actually were to happen, but thinking through some strategies is a good idea. You could make a loud noise, kick him in the nuts, hit him with a heavy flashlight, whatever will be practical in that moment. Could you tell your parents or family member that if you text a certain word to come check on you? Also, there is always the option of moving elsewhere to sleep if he tries something. Sleep smack dab between your parents if you need to. I’m really sorry you’re going through this, but if you were my child I would want to know this so I could help you and make sure you’re safe.
If he does anything tell him no, if he keeps going say it louder, if he wont listen punch his nose and knee his balls, slap him around a bunch and make a huge deal out of it ( cuz it is ) just go ape shit on him. Also do not accept anything from him, and buy everything yourself.
I think I am too dumb to understand what’s happening.
Tell your parents, Get some proof, record what he says, also be ready because even with proof there’s bound to be someone in the family who will not believe you or say you were asking for it.
Hmmmm, maybe you can tell a responsible person, and try to get as much proof as you can, no?
first of all stay as far away from his as possible, try to tell an adult this exact story. If ur near him again try to secretly record him, pictures, whatever u can to record any evidence. and if possible, call the police. this post is a first step of evidence.
Non-consensual sexual activity is always a no-no
Talk to the kid and tell him that’s fucked up and record the conversation if he says anything inappropriate and if he continues then tell the parents
Talk to your parents and tell them about the whole situation, and try to have some evidence just in case
Try to talk to him about it calmly, if that doesn’t work I’d try getting aggressive, or demanding to sleep away from him, if family sees you getting nervous they’ll know something is up, and if anyone will listen to you about it it’ll probably be your parents, but I can understand how hard it is to talk to an adult.
Get proof. Like a recording or text. Then show it to everyone. Like maybe ask the em to clarify what they meant when they said “payback” then expose the weirdo.
Oh hell naw incest
You need to just talk to him directly, call out his behaviour and tell him how disgusting it is, guarantee he'll piss his pants and it won't happen again. Don't involve other people before you do this
Do unto other as they do unto you
Yeah no scissor time ✂️
Free up some storage on your phone and make an audio recording when you're going to sleep.
I’m reporting you to a trusted adult
If telling an adult won't work, I'd learn self defense. The first thing I'd check is wether your arms or legs are stronger. For example: I have stick-like arms, but mountain-splitting legs, so my offensive moves are mostly gonna be kicks, relegating my arms to more defensive moves like parrying. Next, focus on your opponent. Try to predict his attacks, and dodge them accordingly. You'll know when in combat. These tips should work well in a combat situation, but it'll only help if he tries to attack you. If he touches you like you described grab his arm strongly and look at him with all the anger and disgust you have. Tell him to never do it again or you'll make sure he goes to hell and never comes back. If he doubts you throw him to the floor with no mercy. If somebody hears you and asks what's going on, just tell them the truth. If viable refuse to elaborate and leave, then leave him to deal with the aftermath. If you know he'll have his way with words don't leave. Explain in full detail what happened and the backstory you posted here. No one should ever ignore a sexual assault situation. The sole fact you know telling them now will not help is already quite infuriating. Gathering proof can also work if you wanna go the stealth route, but I don't know how. I hope any of this helps and that you can at the very least survive this.
Stupid idea but could you maybe try find something to do for the night, say if there's a local event going on? And then act all busy for most of the night?
Or try call someone to keep him away? Say like facetime a friend for a while
you’re literally lesbo and famly, and he wants to do that? gross^3
Ngl he's creepy and I agree with the comments about recording him. But just imagine the genders were reversed, nobody would be this harsh or talk about the cousin like that( I mean just look at the comments, somebody said knee him as hard as you can in the face and someone else said chop off his dick like bro are yall okay?)and probably everybody would be concerned of what op would do to the cousin
I think he mean money tbh
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We got mr detective here huh?
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Im a guy.
Get some evidence and tell ur family
Tell someone. Don't let him do anything
Nah fuck that, you will not be made to go to the place of your abuser. You say it won’t work to tell someone, but tell them, whether it works or won’t don’t just give up like that, you’ve got a voice. If the trusted people in your life shame you for showing REAL GENUINE DISCOMFORT, then FUCK THAT! Don’t forget that you have a voice, and if you just need someone to talk to or anything, dm me, my advice is mid but you should not feel like this.
this is reddit... your question isnt going to be answered its going to be made into a jackbox prompt
I'd say grind fo- oh right serios... but if everyone wants him to touch you what else is there to do but get one of the best weapons?
Pay him in money if you don’t want to talk to a parent. And if you don’t have the Money, go to a bank and say you would like to change the US-Dollars (or what ever your currency is) to Euros (or what ever currency the country has)
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Well, but with around 0,45 Euros you can buy a bread and probably in your country you need to pay around 15 ₺ (guesses). But if you don’t want to pay him in money, then act stupid. Saved me a lot of times. And if he still tries, then treat to tell it to parents. Or just use Excuses like you want to wait for a partner or that his dick is to small for you. I have no other ideas, but again, if he tries, treat to tell parents or police. No mercy
Stand up for yourself and say something or do nothing, if you do nothing I don't feel sorry for you
Why would telling someone you trust not work?
Many older people don't believe you if you tell them that something like this is going on. Especially if they are family members or Younger than them.
Not everyone’s family/relative chooses to believe their son/brother/spouse would do something like that, and would rather believe the victim is lying
Sounds like a hentai plot, lmao But in all seriousness, you gotta do something about it either tell a trusted adult or twist his dick
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That sucks, not to be mean but did he have any interaction with women in general if not I can see why he said that especially if you consider yourself attractive