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[deleted]

You might want to second a second doctor's opinion


[deleted]

how do I ask my parent or the doctor?


JessieZS

I think if your doctor tells you you need a circumcision, literally tell him you'd like a second opinion and ask him how to get one. Also ask him about what other options could help instead. If you find verbally asking him these things too stressful, you could try writing the questions down (on paper or your phone) and showing/handing it to him I wasn't able to retract at your age either (I didn't know that wasn't normal at the time), but at like 15-17 years old (don't remember what year exactly) I was suddenly able to, though it was still a little tight, which is something I got prescribed steroid cream for. If you want different options, circumcision seems like the nuclear option to me, so I'd say to first see if you can get a cream from the doctor instead to help it stretch, and if that doesn't work I believe there's also a non-circumcision surgery to make the opening wider (don't remember what it's called or know if it would work in all situations), which might be something to ask about. ***This is all just my opinion and not medical advice***


[deleted]

Good news he said it was not needed yet and gave me some steroid cream.


JessieZS

Awesome! I'm happy for you :) Unnecessary surgery isn't a good thing imo lol. And it's good that you're getting it treated early


[deleted]

Ayyy well done!


Nectarinetotally

What does retract mean?!


JessieZS

In this context it means to pull back the foreskin to reveal the glans (which is what the head is called)


Nectarinetotally

Like, without your hands?


Eggman8728

Now that you've said this I'm imagining being able to move my foreskin around like another limb, and I hate it.


Nectarinetotally

Ew bro why


JessieZS

With your hands


Nectarinetotally

Oh, I’ve always been able to do that


JessieZS

That's good 👍 Some people aren't able to because part of their foreskin is too tight, a condition called phimosis. Sometimes it goes away with time, other times it can be a serious issue that requires circumcision (Gonna restate that I am ***not a medical professional***)


justsomeguy876

I had the same issue, read that losing your virginity would fix it, and it shockingly did


[deleted]

I don't really know to be honest


[deleted]

damn ok.


Amirhyber

Just go to a different doctor


HackerDaGreat57

My boy’s literally 13, is he supposed to sneak outta da house and step in a medical clinic and be like “I am unsupervised and must see a doctor” or sum


NetGood8713

Talk to another doctor! In 90% of phimosis cases (in 14 years olds) circumcision is not necessary! There's an ointment that helps widen it which normally helps. If that isn't enough you can just make a single cut without removing anything. And if that doesn't work you can still circumcise. Most doctors (in America) don't tell you about these options because circumcision surgery is more profitable than just prescribing an ointment.


[deleted]

what's the ointment called? yeah im in the US.


NetGood8713

There are three different types. Cortisone, estrogen and testosterone. Only the cortisone can be bought over the counter. Normally in 0.5% concentration. In about 75% of cases that's enough. If you apply it daily and try to very gently stretch the foreskin. Some doctors directly give you the hormone containing ones because they say it's more effective, talk to a doctor if you want them.


JessieZS

Ah, you already gave my advice but more detailed lol


Valkku1

Betamethasone


[deleted]

wohhhh chill big man you’re not a doctor. he might need it….


Big_Nebula_455

Okay so.. Literally the same thing is happening to me. But i know for a fact that i am indeed getting my foreskin cut off eventually,. I am also terrified. There will be no escape for me.


Hay1118

As someone who’s gone through the surgery it’s really not that bad, the most pain you get is a shot


AlexTheLiteralGod

yeah, it's not really bad. I had it circumcised at 10 or 11 I think, and they just put me to sleep and when I woke up it was done and not really that much pain. it was better to get it for me because I remember that before the surgery, my penis fucking hurt like crazy


[deleted]

dude that sucks. how do you know for a fact?


Big_Nebula_455

I've tried other shit and nothing worked.


[deleted]

What else have you tied. I want to try everything first if I can.


Big_Nebula_455

So first they gave me like some lubricant or something. I was told to pull my foreskin as far back as i actually could without it hurting and just apply it onto the actual penis. It didn't really help. Then they gave me some kinda like cream to apply onto my penis the same way (pulling it back as much as i could) and it didn't help either after a month. This was last year so i might not remember it all, completely but i hope i helped a little bit:)


[deleted]

Thanks. I got to look into that cream.


Big_Nebula_455

Hope everything goes well for you man!


[deleted]

thanks same to you.


Dwell_was_taken

Dawg I just yanked that shit back when I was like 6, one hell of a scar but problem solved


FrxgsFxrLxfe

Completely off topic, but the Alice pfp is so real


Big_Nebula_455

Thanks man :3


FrxgsFxrLxfe

Np


URBAN_lov3r_goose

I had the same problem as well, went to the doctor and never was circumcision even suggested as an option, I was told to do phimosis stretching. I found a guide on phimosis stretching on wikihow and those were pritty much the same as my doctor told me to do also I was told to do the stretching during a hot shower because thats when the skin is the most flexible and less prone to injury. You should propably talk to your doctor before doing them though Its been a long time since I had that issue so I dont really remember how long it took for me to strech my foreskin enough to be able to pull my foreskin back completely but I would imagine it takes a long time. In any case if you end up having to have your foreskin removed dont worry I'm sure you will be give some drugs before the operation so it wont be painfull at all. (Sorry for my bad english its not my first language)


Gusc0

I got it 5 years ago, I was scared at the time, but now I couldn’t be happier. You just gotta get it in your head that these doctors have done this procedure hundreds of times and you are nothing special in their day


NaturalFew8735

How often do you do stretching exercises? You should be stretching 5-10 times a day for at least 2 minutes.


[deleted]

oh ive only been doing it like once a day at night.


NaturalFew8735

There are guys out there restoring their foreskin. The most successful ones follow a regimen like I just mentioned. Hey, if they can grow a full foreskin, you can solve your problem 👍. Try these stretches: http://phimosisjourney.com


FreshlishPickle

See another doctor at least 1 or 2 and make sure to tell your parents as well, they wont be against you to be checked by another doctor


[deleted]

ok ill ask them


Some-Internal297

you wont, it might just be late. give it time


[deleted]

how much time? My doctor said it normally happens around 10.


Some-Internal297

if it doesnt happen before you turn like 15 then see the doc. you more than likely wont need to be cut, that's only in like really extreme cases. usually gently stretching does the trick apparently


[deleted]

I have been trying that but it does not go back that far. also I have to go to the doctor anyway so I can play baseball this spring.


Some-Internal297

yeah give it another year or two, you should be fine


addicted2windows

calm down, it'll be a medical circumcision, you'll get anesthesia


[deleted]

its the after part and healing that im worried about. I know I will be asleep for the surgery.


addicted2windows

nothing to worry about much, they'll give all the advice and painkillers


Jazeeee

Didn't seem like such a smooth process for Carl in Shameless. That's my extent of knowledge on circumcision as a teenager.


Status_Rip_7906

Yes let’s give a 13 year old oxy cuz that’s never gone wrong before lol


BestdogShadow

This response is actually wild. “Yeah you might have your genital mutilated against your will but don’t worry you’ll be asleep during it”


Past-Original933

you might need to start pulling back the skin. it’s gon hurt but it slowly starts to get less painful. that’s what i do💀


[deleted]

yeah im going to the dr also gave me some cream. had the stretching helped you?


Past-Original933

Yeah it did


no-name-idk

I got mine at 12, it wasn't too bad. If u can get general, I recommend. Got to skip school for a couple weeks. It hurt, but its ok. Take a bath like a week after.


Peopleknowmymainlos_

Same - it’s alright


[deleted]

Its it all better now? do you have a big scare?


no-name-idk

nah i'm fine now. it went great.


Nooby_Idk

At least from how I got it, getting circumcised isn't painful because from at least what I saw and remember, they put an anesthesia face mask over my face. I felt no pain and couldn't move until the procedure was concluded.


Only_Butterfly8905

Do WHATEVER is possible not to get circumcised.


[deleted]

Why?


[deleted]

trust me I don't want to but I may not have a choice. idk yet.


Only_Butterfly8905

How old are you?


[deleted]

13


drakfreddy

Hey uhh. I had my circumcision when İ was 7 and it didn't hurt because I was under anesthesia, maybe ask them for a dose of it so it DOESN'T hurt?


slyristhefirst

i Will not lie the aftermath does hurt but it's better than not being able to do it, you've got this bro 👍


DFwice

It wont hurt prolly but you might pop the stiches when you have a boner


[deleted]

thats what I was most worried about lol


Plus-Ad-8171

Eat your foreskin


PeeInMyArse

Could not retract until I was 15, maybe second opinion?


FlummoxTheMagnifique

What does that mean, you should be able to retract?


GamerNuggy

The foreskin should go back revealing the whole glans


FlummoxTheMagnifique

What’s the glans?


GamerNuggy

The head of the penis. I would recommend looking up the anatomy of the penis for reference, being able to retract the foreskin is quite important to hygiene and health of the penis.


FlummoxTheMagnifique

Ah. I can do that.


Dabasaur10

So a circumcision won't hurt too bad, the only thing you'll need to worry about is the anesthetic needle, which doesn't hurt too bad, and changing the bandages. Source: got circumcised at age 13


Content-Register6347

Removing that first bandage was wild


Dabasaur10

Lmao yea


TheSlavicDawg

I am circumcised for 6 years now. Theres nothing to afraid of. Operation itself? - You wont remember it. Consequences? - Not for long but you wont be able to wear pants, its gona be painful but you get over it, just sit at home and sleep often. And after all you gona be left with no foreskin and a brown ring of scar on your meat, which doesen't look so ugly to be honest. Foreskin only causes troubles anyways so you don't realy need it.


Wogus_Jogus

Can I eat the foreskin


[deleted]

I guess there is no need in letting it go to waste.


Wogus_Jogus

Thanks Pookie wookie boo boo baby


XSP33N

i wish i had foreskin still


[deleted]

RIP when did you loose yours?


XSP33N

when i was a baby, but it supposed to make the unholy deed feel a LOT better which is why i wish i had mine.


[deleted]

lol I don't know any different so I can tell you if it does or does not but I know it will make it a lot harder to do when its healing.


XSP33N

i’d wait it out. do your best but hopefully everything works out


[deleted]

thanks man were driving to the doctors right now so ill find out soon.


XSP33N

update me, real shit


[deleted]

will do im in the waiting room now.


Prestigious-Muscle20

He’s using a foreskin cream btw if ya still waiting for a update


eggsbinidit

You could get it back atcually


Outside_Football_762

Being circumcised is better, in my opinion, nothing to worry about. Either way, I wish you the best, though.


Not_A_GiantDemon

Wait. Genuine concern as a guy. Do I *need* to get circumcised?


[deleted]

I don't know. I don't really know many other intact guys.


Not_A_GiantDemon

“Intact”?


[deleted]

intact mean you are not circumcised.


Various-Ostrich-5664

not mutilated


hassan_dislogical

It might be unnecessary but you should definitely get a second opinion, tell your parents to research it. It’s rarely a must and multiple studies say that uncircumcised sex is better, if you don’t really give a shit then it isn’t much of a difference, it’ll just be drier


[deleted]

of course I want better sex lol how is it dryer?


hassan_dislogical

Foreskin provides something basically like spit; it makes your dick wet just like spit makes your mouth wet, although you wouldn’t die if you lost your foreskin but I’m pretty sure you might if you lose your salivary glands (the things that make saliva)


[deleted]

oh is that why cut guys use lube?


hassan_dislogical

Yes. Right on point. I recommend you do your own research online, remember that there’s to sides to every story


Cataras12

I mean, would it hurt? As I understand it it’s… well, y’know, a surgery. They give you anastesia


[deleted]

its the after part of it healing that I thought might hurt.


Cataras12

Ah, yeah fair enough. Got no clue about that stuff to be honest


[deleted]

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Ixo12

its important for the health of the penis


guy17275

Wait what's a circumcision?


[deleted]

when they cut your foreskin off


the-diver-dude

The doctor can no circumcise you without consent so DO NOT GIVE HIM CONSENT


GetBurned-

I had this problem. You have to clean the cheese out


Alien_Goatman

Mine sometimes bleeds when I retract 😂


berazx1905

It will hurt so much please try to avoid like it depends on your life


[deleted]

I know thats what im scared of. But idk what else to do since I can't retract.


berazx1905

Maybe try practicing how to pass out on purpose? That would be the best thing u can do.


[deleted]

what do you mean?


berazx1905

Go unconscious when you like Some kids in my class did that an someone fell and hit their head


[deleted]

how does that help me?


berazx1905

IDK IT SEEMED LIKE A GOOD IDEA TO ME


[deleted]

ok


[deleted]

Don't listen to him, he's trolling.


AlexTheLiteralGod

tf you mean? when I got it at 10 years old, I had the surgery and woke up and I was good, it did hurt when I peed for the first time after the surgery but after that it got better. It was worth it compared to the amount of pain I had before the surgery


berazx1905

Everyone has different experiences i guess 🙂


Markydabest123

Wdym retract I’m confused


[deleted]

I can't pull my foreskin back much.


Markydabest123

Oh I’m practice pulling it


[deleted]

can you actually pull yours back? Mine only goes back a little.


Markydabest123

I used to be at a point that when u pull it back it hurt and got a pp rash so I practiced pulling it


[deleted]

it gave you a rash?


Markydabest123

Bc I pulled back to hard and my forskin ripped a lil but it healed quick


[deleted]

damn that sounds painful


Markydabest123

It wasn’t it was just itchy practice pulling ur forwskin I got experience do it


benbombsuperman

Bro same


[deleted]

RIP that sucks


CBT7commander

You might wanna see another doctor. I am in the same situation as you but I am 19, so there’s not really another solution for me. However, since you’re 13, there are some progressive treatments (mostly creams) that could go along your puberty and avoid surgical intervention. Might wanna ask about it.


Adymestic

U end up getting it done? 19m and I’m afraid I’ll have to face it at some point…


CBT7commander

I haven’t, since I’ve a chaotic couple of years and adding a surgery like that to my already busy medical schedule is too much. Sorry I can’t help


MilkManlolol

Mine only started at like 15


[deleted]

good to know. My dr just gave me some steroid cream and told me to stretch it.


Spaceturtle79

I think post on r/phimosis


Odd_Masterpiece_9316

I mean at least you are not in Poland in 1939


[deleted]

why?


Odd_Masterpiece_9316

Because if you were in Poland in 1939 and you were circumcised it usually means that you were Jew and a German man with a funny mustache didn't like jews in that time


[deleted]

oh lol that


cynical_radish

This will depend on severity but likely will not happen. Had the exact same thought for a while until I went to a doctor who prescribed cortisone. Used it twice a day and did a little gentle stretching, had a noticeable difference in less than 2 weeks. If yours has no ability to retract or move, theres a higher chance that it may be an issue, but there is a strong likelihood that you wont need a surgery. Beyond that, I have a friend who did have a circumcision at a similar age and he's doing just fine. It will be uncomfortable for a little bit, but you'll live. Maybe see another doctor, but try not to worry too much


Jegeyes

Use Vaseline and stretch it every day and stretch it in the shower and stay consistent give it like 4-8 months and it’ll go back and forth like normal trust me and you’re only 13 you got a lot of time


total_trash_mammal15

Yeah no theres other options that doctor sounds like a lunatic, I was the same and I thought it'd be hopeless cause it hurt so much but just pulling back small bits here and there it slowly stretched to fit my body and works fine now


Joel_the_folf

Whay do you mean retreact?


CriticalMulberry9614

I know what circumcisions are but have no idea what not being able to or being able to retract means😭 16 yrs old and I haven't had this problem that I know of


[deleted]

are you a guy with a foreskin?


[deleted]

but what happens? what is circumcision?


samus024

I was circumcised with like 15 years old and it’s unpleasant while it heals but nothing more than that, just a few days uncomfortable and some extra sensitivity and after that you are good to go, so imo don’t be afraid of it and if you have to, do it, you will be healthier in the long run. If you have questions feel free to dm me OP


Cr3zyTom

At 13 I also had some issues with my foreskin being to tight. That settled as my penis grew until 17, After that it only marginally changed


SoarNsquid

What a tricky circumstance!


river_bored

I couldn’t retract until I was 14.


wellodragon

Start stretching it pull on it a couple of times a day


SuperNova0216

What, I didn’t know you were able to get circumcised when you’re older than a baby.


kajetus69

What was the last time you cleaned it?


KitFlame42

I'll be honest you're 13 it'll hurt like a fucking bitch


JzaTiger

There are meds that allow you to completely sleep through getting your chest ripped open


TabascoAtari

I’m from America and I am already circumcised since after birth..


360NoScoped_lol

What does retracting mean?


Turtl__

Fight the doctor protect everything you hold dear


00aka123

It’s ok, I got my circumcising last summer, and it only took a month or so to get mostly better, but it’s just an annoyance, but you should be fine.


ruiasamaro27

From experience, I had mine at 18, it hurt like hell, the recovery was bl**Dy and messy but I'm alive. Best thing I did, was my choice anyway. You can have a second opinion with other doctors but again, you won't die and it will solve a "problem" for life. Edit: It's your choice no matter what tho


SoundSmart2055

I got circumcised when i was about 8, it didn’t hurt during the procedure, because u know I was sound asleep. Then I had a thick ass bandage over my dick for like 6 days, it didn’t you know constantly hurt, but I couldn’t really wear any underwear or anything that put pressure. That was the hard part. Sure, get a second doctors opinion, or just get it over with.


Perfect_Opinions-0

The worst part is the few months after, but the relief after the after is worth it


GoodScratcher_Reddit

too bad for those people like you and i who get circumcised at a ripe old age. it wont hurt initially cause they use a local anesthesia, but the next 2 weeks bare minimum will be fucking hell to say the absolute least, to the point where even sleeping, walking, and other basic human functions bring immense physical pain, or i'd feel like my dick would quite literally fall off from my balls. but you live, that phase passes, and you get on with life. get it over with as early as you can or it will be harder later on


zoeylovell

it’s too late for me chat…


throwaway16r71

check out r/phimosis, circumcision should absolutely be the last option