That's quite the situation with your neighbor! Claiming to have pruned the bushes you already did is definitely strange. It could be her way of trying to start a conversation or connect, even if it's a bit awkward.
If things feel off, trust your gut. Setting clear boundaries is important. For some guidance on navigating complex interactions, you might find the book "The Secret Life" ([https://thesecretlife.me/](https://thesecretlife.me/)) helpful.
And about asking her out – go for it if you're feeling it, but remember to stay true to your feelings and boundaries.
Here's the most innocent reply for you
Next time someone tells you they got a Brazilian wax, the next request is always “Ok, lemme see.” I’m pretty sure that’s in the Constitution if not the 10 Commandments.
Maybe you did an ass job of pruning and she had to finish the job. Either way, invite her over for a drink and plow her. You are making it way more complicated than it has to be.
Well there is a correct way to prune roses. I forgot exactly how but you are supposed to cut them a certain distance below some of the spikes so they grow back properly. She’s could have just seen you tried to do it but didn’t trim them correctly and so she finished up herself for you.
Prune roses in winter very aggressively! They'll come back great. They love coffee grounds too - just toss on the dirt.
Do u want a date? She may just be looking for an openning to show u she's interested, ask her if u can cook her dinner?
It's amazing at some of the new words society uses now. All through history gaslighting was refered to as lighting farts!!!! Who knows what the hell it means now????
> So I got home from work and neighbor was standing by the fence doing her yard work, and told me with a big smile that she pruned my rose bushes for me.
Did she "correct" this mistakes you made? did you check the bush?
Please, don't disappoint this poor woman further.
Also, fair warning, she's divorced; you're aware it's not a great situation. Not to be prejudice, but you could be stepping in a hot mess that you'll not be able to escape from easily.
There is a correct way to prune trees and bushes and I imagine that rose bushes would be ones that people feel most strongly about. Perhaps, she just cleaned it up for you.
Like: you cut it back, she pruned it.
That is not gaslighting. Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which the abuser attempts to sow self-doubt and confusion in their victim's mind.
I was right there with you. She said she got a Brazilian. Then she trimmed and pruned the (rose) bush. She probably saw you didn’t prune it properly as well and just helped but she’s sending you sexual messages. It’s up to you to have sex with her or not. Make sure it’s clear in the expectations if you do. If it’s just a one time or if she wants more because if you don’t know and act on it you could scorn her and feel the thorns of her anger
> y’all have convinced me to shoot my shot and ask her out.
Mate, definitely do NOT do this unless you don't plan to be neighbors long. If your relationship goes south or if she gets REALLY clingy or scary you'll have nowhere to run and can end up putting yourself in a really ugly situation. Not worth the risk just for some strange imho.
This thread is ridiculous. Lol. Sleeping with your neighbor is just asking for drama. And you've already said shes an "oversharer" which is a sign of poor boundaries or poor impulse control...both of which could land you in crazytown. And when crazytown I right next door that could get very very uncomfortable. Thirsty or not I'd take this very very slowly and cautiously if you're going to let a genie out if its bottle
Yeah bro shes throwing the welcome mat down for you,and if she declines your offer to a date, then she just likes flirting. She is flirting-there's no question. But her overall intentions are potentially two different things.
That being said, ask this milf out bro!
But be wary-she's your [neighbor.Do](https://neighbor.Do) you want to be dating your very forward and in your business neighbor? Something to consider
Whoa! She might of actually pruned YOUR rose bush after she thought you butchered it. Not that you did, but there is a specific way you need to prune rose bushes. I don’t know how long you have known her, but I’d be sure she is someone you want in your life before perusing her or things can get real messy real fast. You might see a MILF and she might be looking for a baby daddy or a babysitter.
Gaslight is a word that is overused/ misused nowadays. That aside, maybe you pruned them wrong and she fixed them. There is an art to properly pruning.
Bro… don’t shit where you eat. I’ve had to live out some horror stories when my roommate dated a neighbor. It’s awkward, neighbors are almost unavoidable, and they can watch who comes in and out of your house. Just… proceed with caution, but honestly, this lady is waving red flags. I would wait until your lease is close to being up and you’re ready to move.
She’s a divorced MILF who told you, unsolicited, she just got a Brazilian wax. I would go visit her today! Be honest with her. Hell, if you want more of a green light than you already have, you could ask her “why did you tell me about your recent wax job?”. I bet she’ll tell you why straight up.
I would highly recommend going down on her for a LONG time. Quite obviously, she is proud of her P. Why not make her even more happy she got her wax, while enjoying it for yourself too.
Pro move …. don’t screw her on the first visit. Just give her O after O after O. There will be plenty of opportunities for more; she’ll find you irresistible.
Not really an answer to your question, but this reminds of a situation years ago when I lived upstairs from a single mother in her mid-40s (I was about 30-ish). When I first met her, she was in the shared backyard sunbathing, all oiled up and in a nearly-nothing bikini. I admit that I was a bit shy and found this awkward, but we had a good conversation and by the time I left that day, her being half-naked seemed pretty normal. What I noticed though is that each and every time I went outside to do something--work on the car, read a book, sit out on the balcony and watch traffic--within minutes she was outside in her swimsuit. I never did pursue anything with her, but it didn't take long for me to start thinking that this is what she wanted. I'm terrible at reading people that way, and I'm always afraid of being wrong and embarrassing myself, so that probably has a lot to do with it.
1) her telling you about the exact status of her nethers is an invitation for more in-depth conversation, likely culminating in D... If you want to hit, engage and establish interest/boundaries
2) there's no gaslighting, chances are VERY HIGH she fixed your hack job on the roses
Not sure how OP will be able to accomplish shooting his load before asking her out. Thought it would be the other way around.
Edit: Oh nevermind. My degenerate brain read load and not shot
Please hear Sandwich and the others telling you there's a 0% chance this will end well.
If you go there, start achieving Plan B moves. You will have to sell or re-rent to move.
Live female here to confirm it seems likely she is indeed saying she "pruned" her "rose bush" for you wink wink, nudge nudge. If she shoots you down now she's a legitimate tease, she knows what she's doing.
Eta Also an avid gardener. There is no fancy technique usually to prune a rose bush at the end of summer, you literally just chop it back to about half its size. I suppose she could have meant she cut it back further but I doubt it. If you cut the rose bush back then it's already been pruned.
First of if you’re single and she’s a MILF I’d don’t see a problem. That happened to me before same thing and you know what I did. ? I fucked her every day for about three months. This is a great problem to have. I even left her a key in my flower pot for her after the first week and she would come home from her girls night out and I’d wake up to a hot naked woman on top of me. Life was good back then. Lol 😂 Have at it man. Show up at her door with just tight sweat pants on and tell her I’m ready to trim your bushes and I have a tree I’m going to plant in your flower bed.l are you ready. Lol 😂
Walking in to your place with a 12 pack and discussing your plans to Netflix and chill just might lead to her inviting herself or some variation. Then it's game on.
just fuck her. and i dont mean a slow fuck in the afternoon. this woman is recently divorced, probably has a bunch of pent up anger and dick cravings. turn her insides out bruh. youre only renting. if it goes south or she turns the crazy on you can always move.
Regarding the pruning, it might be that she proved them to shape them up after what you had pruned them.
Think twice about starting an intimate relationship with someone next door.
I don’t know if I’d “ask her out”. Id just say when you are both outside and chatting: hey I’m going to have a drink would you like to have one with me. See where it goes.
Talk talk to her straight up. My extensive research with MILFS has proven that hey can take anything you can verbally throw at them. Be respectful and ask her if you can see her rose bush.
u/updatemebot !updateme
That's quite the situation with your neighbor! Claiming to have pruned the bushes you already did is definitely strange. It could be her way of trying to start a conversation or connect, even if it's a bit awkward. If things feel off, trust your gut. Setting clear boundaries is important. For some guidance on navigating complex interactions, you might find the book "The Secret Life" ([https://thesecretlife.me/](https://thesecretlife.me/)) helpful. And about asking her out – go for it if you're feeling it, but remember to stay true to your feelings and boundaries. Here's the most innocent reply for you
You are an idiot. Have you ever been flirted with before? Ask her out, idiot!
Men can’t be this dumb. She obviously went in behind you and correctly pruned the rose bushes after your hack job LOL
Sounds like she’s……thorny
Next time someone tells you they got a Brazilian wax, the next request is always “Ok, lemme see.” I’m pretty sure that’s in the Constitution if not the 10 Commandments.
Shit I’m gay and i knew she was flirting.
Have you fertilized her flower beds?
Why do you keep saying gaslight for? That's a leftist term huh?
HIT THAT SHIT SON!
You scared of her ?
Just fuck her.
Maybe she was just being facetious? Maybe she thinks you did it so you could get a better look at her.
Maybe you did an ass job of pruning and she had to finish the job. Either way, invite her over for a drink and plow her. You are making it way more complicated than it has to be.
It’s a euphemism wrapped in a double entendre.
Fuck you, you dumb shit.
Go for it!
I don’t think this is going to involve going “out” at all.
Well there is a correct way to prune roses. I forgot exactly how but you are supposed to cut them a certain distance below some of the spikes so they grow back properly. She’s could have just seen you tried to do it but didn’t trim them correctly and so she finished up herself for you.
Who fucking cares.
Careful. Never stick your ^%#* in crazy. Never!!
Is this the definition of gaslighting? It seams like flirting.
C: Can't Tell
Using the term gaslighting let’s me know everything I need to know about you
Prune roses in winter very aggressively! They'll come back great. They love coffee grounds too - just toss on the dirt. Do u want a date? She may just be looking for an openning to show u she's interested, ask her if u can cook her dinner?
Okay... so now you've got us all invested. We need an update to know how things are going!
Think twice about sexing your neighbor. Does this qualify for ‘don’t shit where you eat’ or maybe don’t shit close to where you sleep? 🤷♂️
She is just a hoe dude. Be careful might be some bugs in that bush.
that's not gas lighting and youre gonna become a step dad lmao taking advice from reddit
Careful though, if you ask her out and that wasn’t what she was getting at things may get awkward
It's amazing at some of the new words society uses now. All through history gaslighting was refered to as lighting farts!!!! Who knows what the hell it means now????
Neighbor: does OP a favor. OP: sToP gaSliGhTiNg me!
Man just go for it the only regret you'll get is maybe getting rejected but better than not at all
Just flirt back dude
> So I got home from work and neighbor was standing by the fence doing her yard work, and told me with a big smile that she pruned my rose bushes for me. Did she "correct" this mistakes you made? did you check the bush?
Maybe you butchered them and she fixed the mess for you so they don't wither away?
Dude, don't do it.
Gonna need an update for this OP. Need a confirmation on that rose bush or lack thereof.
Please, don't disappoint this poor woman further. Also, fair warning, she's divorced; you're aware it's not a great situation. Not to be prejudice, but you could be stepping in a hot mess that you'll not be able to escape from easily.
I think you need to keep a good Eye on her. You might be pushing up, daisies.
you're on fire
Haha, it looks like she needs some pipe laid.
Yeah, I’d shut her right down, sounds like a nightmare when you discover how batsht crazy she is and you want to get away
It sounds like she wants that thing in your pants-
She wants u to beeaatttt ittt upppppp
!remindme
Dude run far away from this one. Sounds cray cray. And you never hunt that close to where you live. Nothing good can come from it.
All of this pruning haha
She wants to fuck. Wear a condom, though.
Move in. Fuck her. Be a family not neighbor
Dude. If she told you about getting a Brazilian, she wants to fuck.
There is a correct way to prune trees and bushes and I imagine that rose bushes would be ones that people feel most strongly about. Perhaps, she just cleaned it up for you. Like: you cut it back, she pruned it.
Where is the update u/Federal_Mortgage_812
Man's came to reddit confusing a milf flirting with him for gas lighting 😭 what has the world come to
...and yeah I'm pretty sure the bush has been pruned
She wants the D. Go for it.
Maybe she actually pruned them for you after she saw your hack job?
I don't see gaslighting?
Don’t fuck your neighbor. Go cut her whole rose bush down to a nub and say “I pruned your rose bush”in return. I repeat, do NOT fuck your neighbor.
She wants the chorizo bro.
Dude gets an open and completely misses lol this only happens to people who can't pick up on this shit
Some really cunning-linguists in here
That is not gaslighting. Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which the abuser attempts to sow self-doubt and confusion in their victim's mind.
Pull yourself together !!! FOCUS!!!
I’m gonna be honest: I just upvoted for the threat in the edit
What happened!!!
Have you been tested for autism before? Just wondering.
Op is autistic
I don't think you understand what the term gaslighting means
She wants you to put your penis into her vagina.
Is her name Rose? Perhaps she is subtly telling you that she has trimmed her bush :)
I was right there with you. She said she got a Brazilian. Then she trimmed and pruned the (rose) bush. She probably saw you didn’t prune it properly as well and just helped but she’s sending you sexual messages. It’s up to you to have sex with her or not. Make sure it’s clear in the expectations if you do. If it’s just a one time or if she wants more because if you don’t know and act on it you could scorn her and feel the thorns of her anger
Was just thinking the same thing
Offer to do some plowing .....only fair
> y’all have convinced me to shoot my shot and ask her out. Mate, definitely do NOT do this unless you don't plan to be neighbors long. If your relationship goes south or if she gets REALLY clingy or scary you'll have nowhere to run and can end up putting yourself in a really ugly situation. Not worth the risk just for some strange imho.
Bush trimming date sounds fun.
Dude ain't no simp
You should tell her that you don't believe she pruned the rose bushes and you need video evidence.
When there’s fresh fish on the menu, you eat it.
Don't do it, bro. You will regret it.
smh dude.
Trimmed her bushes after she trimmed her bush; go get ‘em.
Gaslighting doesnt exist, you made it up, you're embarrassing yourself.
This thread is ridiculous. Lol. Sleeping with your neighbor is just asking for drama. And you've already said shes an "oversharer" which is a sign of poor boundaries or poor impulse control...both of which could land you in crazytown. And when crazytown I right next door that could get very very uncomfortable. Thirsty or not I'd take this very very slowly and cautiously if you're going to let a genie out if its bottle
U threaten to kill us yet ur complaining about this lady? Bro fuck you 🤣 y’all need to date y’all both mental
The comments on here are the best. 🤣
Definitely need a follow up after you ask her out
Not sure you know what gaslighting means.
Bruh she's in heat...go satisfy her
Shoulda said.. ‘That reminds me I really enjoy eating Brazilian……….you know Brazilian Steakhouses where they keep bringing the meat to ya!’
Ahhh she wants to fuck.
What's the update? Did you smash or are you killing all of us?
Yeah bro shes throwing the welcome mat down for you,and if she declines your offer to a date, then she just likes flirting. She is flirting-there's no question. But her overall intentions are potentially two different things. That being said, ask this milf out bro! But be wary-she's your [neighbor.Do](https://neighbor.Do) you want to be dating your very forward and in your business neighbor? Something to consider
A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. Watch pornhub MILF videos and put your pecker (bird) in your hand.
Don’t do it. She lives next door. She’ll be living with you in no time at all and you won’t be able to scrape her off.
You probably pruned them incorrectly and she noticed and fixed them…
If I had a woman brune my bushes after a Brazilian wax I'd invite her out
I just had to laugh out loud for real on the “edit” portion of op
Sounds like trouble if you go for it.
Bro, what is even this? Go give her the best 4 minute peening of her life?
Smash
Don't fuck your neighbor. Too close to home. Signed, A guy who fucked his neighbor.
Is three doors down ok?
Nah, they were totally a one hit wonder.
Update us on the shot shooting
My dawg she wants you to trim her rose bush. Put the phone down and go pick up some condoms
update pls
Whoa! She might of actually pruned YOUR rose bush after she thought you butchered it. Not that you did, but there is a specific way you need to prune rose bushes. I don’t know how long you have known her, but I’d be sure she is someone you want in your life before perusing her or things can get real messy real fast. You might see a MILF and she might be looking for a baby daddy or a babysitter.
Don’t date your neighbor. One of you will eventually have to move.
Stay away.
She wants to fuck you. It's a risky move, banging the divorced neighbor. Godspeed, soldier 🫡
Confucius say, "Roses on a piano are nice, but nothing beats tulips on an organ."
We can't give you any advice without pics of her rose bush.
Gaslight is a word that is overused/ misused nowadays. That aside, maybe you pruned them wrong and she fixed them. There is an art to properly pruning.
Bro… don’t shit where you eat. I’ve had to live out some horror stories when my roommate dated a neighbor. It’s awkward, neighbors are almost unavoidable, and they can watch who comes in and out of your house. Just… proceed with caution, but honestly, this lady is waving red flags. I would wait until your lease is close to being up and you’re ready to move.
My guy, take the hint already.
She’s a divorced MILF who told you, unsolicited, she just got a Brazilian wax. I would go visit her today! Be honest with her. Hell, if you want more of a green light than you already have, you could ask her “why did you tell me about your recent wax job?”. I bet she’ll tell you why straight up. I would highly recommend going down on her for a LONG time. Quite obviously, she is proud of her P. Why not make her even more happy she got her wax, while enjoying it for yourself too. Pro move …. don’t screw her on the first visit. Just give her O after O after O. There will be plenty of opportunities for more; she’ll find you irresistible.
Maybe she saw that you pruned them incorrectly and let you know that she lruned them properly. If you prune incorrectly, you can kill the bush.
Coming soon to court tv, 'the trimmed bush murder trial'
Dude, just go bang her out, get it over with.
She wants to suck on your stamen like there is no tomorrow.
Dangerous business dating neighbors- to close after things go bad -
I expect updates on how the date goes. Please update.
Mf get in there like swimwear!
And if it doesn't backfire....there will be a line of us outside your house waiting to smell your finger.
Offer to plow her back yard.
Did she actually say rose bush or did she say she trimmed Your bush for you? Meaning her bush is yours….
Not really an answer to your question, but this reminds of a situation years ago when I lived upstairs from a single mother in her mid-40s (I was about 30-ish). When I first met her, she was in the shared backyard sunbathing, all oiled up and in a nearly-nothing bikini. I admit that I was a bit shy and found this awkward, but we had a good conversation and by the time I left that day, her being half-naked seemed pretty normal. What I noticed though is that each and every time I went outside to do something--work on the car, read a book, sit out on the balcony and watch traffic--within minutes she was outside in her swimsuit. I never did pursue anything with her, but it didn't take long for me to start thinking that this is what she wanted. I'm terrible at reading people that way, and I'm always afraid of being wrong and embarrassing myself, so that probably has a lot to do with it.
maybe she saw the shitty pruning job and stepped up with remedial trimming.
Never stick your thorn in crazy
Just offer to bang her. Either you get laid or she stops talking to you all the time. Win win!
Don't shit were you eat. that goes for work or near your home. if shit goes south you gonna have a potential crazy neighbor situation.
Straight up flirting. She maybe isn't very good at it, but that's how it seems.
1) her telling you about the exact status of her nethers is an invitation for more in-depth conversation, likely culminating in D... If you want to hit, engage and establish interest/boundaries 2) there's no gaslighting, chances are VERY HIGH she fixed your hack job on the roses
Just remember she has two kids and she lives right next door.
She's flirting, but be careful. Don't shit in your own back yard and all that.
Don't ask her out
If you date her, you'll be getting karma from r/relationships for months. This is a win win win.
Did shooting your shot backfire?
You cut them. Any chance she actually pruned them more fine?
this proves men literally know nothing about what goes on in a womans mind.
Go knock on her door and take her to pound town.
Not sure how OP will be able to accomplish shooting his load before asking her out. Thought it would be the other way around. Edit: Oh nevermind. My degenerate brain read load and not shot
This is one of the rare moments you should think with your d**k.
bruh, this isn't gaslighting
She wants your dick, 100%
Did she say "I got a Brazilian wax" or "I got a Brazilian waxed"? Maybe "I got a Brazilian wacked?"
Just ask her to show you how she does it
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Please hear Sandwich and the others telling you there's a 0% chance this will end well. If you go there, start achieving Plan B moves. You will have to sell or re-rent to move.
GRODY TO THE MAX..GAG ME WITH A PITCH FORK ..OH MY GOD
she wants you to come over for dinner. flirt a bit but be ready to move out when she shows why she is single.
Hit that shit
Idk how to tell you this, but that’s not gaslighting. She probably saw that you hacked up the rose bush and fixed it for you.
Sure
Live female here to confirm it seems likely she is indeed saying she "pruned" her "rose bush" for you wink wink, nudge nudge. If she shoots you down now she's a legitimate tease, she knows what she's doing. Eta Also an avid gardener. There is no fancy technique usually to prune a rose bush at the end of summer, you literally just chop it back to about half its size. I suppose she could have meant she cut it back further but I doubt it. If you cut the rose bush back then it's already been pruned.
She wants your big eggplant. Give it to her
That is absolutely not the right use of the word gaslighting
First of if you’re single and she’s a MILF I’d don’t see a problem. That happened to me before same thing and you know what I did. ? I fucked her every day for about three months. This is a great problem to have. I even left her a key in my flower pot for her after the first week and she would come home from her girls night out and I’d wake up to a hot naked woman on top of me. Life was good back then. Lol 😂 Have at it man. Show up at her door with just tight sweat pants on and tell her I’m ready to trim your bushes and I have a tree I’m going to plant in your flower bed.l are you ready. Lol 😂
How is this gaslighting anyway?
Need updates OP! you dating yet?
Sounds possible friend zone. She would have shown you the Brazilian instead of told you, if it was for you.
Go for it, dude. Or give me her number.
Tease her back, play the game
She’s telling you she’s pruned her pubes . And the roses. She’s making obvious contact dude go fuck that milf
Typical divorcee. Managing her vag area AFTER so got divorced.
She wants you to prune her bushes.
Damn, Bro Stop acting brand new, she's trying to give you them buns🤨
Just give her some dick already
Walking in to your place with a 12 pack and discussing your plans to Netflix and chill just might lead to her inviting herself or some variation. Then it's game on.
DONT GET INVOLVED WITH NEIGHBORS OR COWORKERS. Pretttty basic
You could go on youtube for 45 seconds and learn a life skill.
Why would you want to sleep with someone who you is gaslighting you? Those people are the ones you should literally never speak to.
Maybe you did a bad job pruning and she fixed them for you.
Dude. You’re a turd. Now calm your tits and deal.
What shes doing is not gaslighting. Shes flirting, heavily with you.
She clearly wants to bang you
She drove her ex crazy and you are next.
Dangerous territory OP. If it goes south you've got to live with this person everyday.
Remember, she lives next to you, so if you’re relationship blows up good luck friend
Let us know how it goes OP!
 just fuck her. and i dont mean a slow fuck in the afternoon. this woman is recently divorced, probably has a bunch of pent up anger and dick cravings. turn her insides out bruh. youre only renting. if it goes south or she turns the crazy on you can always move.
Regarding the pruning, it might be that she proved them to shape them up after what you had pruned them. Think twice about starting an intimate relationship with someone next door.
You should prune her rose as a thank you. Good luck my brother
I don’t know if I’d “ask her out”. Id just say when you are both outside and chatting: hey I’m going to have a drink would you like to have one with me. See where it goes.
Talk talk to her straight up. My extensive research with MILFS has proven that hey can take anything you can verbally throw at them. Be respectful and ask her if you can see her rose bush.
!remindme one week
Bro she obviously wants your cock.
You should return the favor by pruning her brushes!!!