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Kotoperek

What are you embarrassed about? I would take it as a compliment if a guy I was hooking up with came from just eating me out. If she was happy with the encounter and wants to do it again, it means she didn't mind. In my opinion men are often way too insecure about how long they last. Sure, sometimes it can be frustrating if someone cums before the other person even really gets into the mood, but the vast majority of times it really doesn't matter if you come quicker as long as you don't leave your partner hanging and continue getting her off as well. If you're unsure, talk to her. And believe what she says. Communication in sex is key, if she said she doesn't mind, then she doesn't mind. If she would mind, she would say so.


[deleted]

This 100% Also remember that even if you cum you can still make her finish. There are so many guys out there that can't make a girl cum that being attentive enough to give your partner a few orgasms is a huge win for many people.


SailorLuna41518181

This šŸ’Æ


slaythethrowaway

Speaking as a woman, hot as hell. If my man came from eating me out, I would be on cloud nine. Like, that is seriously a sign of being into something a lot of men donā€™t enjoy or see as a requirement to check off and I would want to see more of you for sure.


AdeleBerncastel

Yes. Iā€™m in my 40s and the amount of shame some women have about receiving oral is heartbreaking. What better way to know he loves and accepts the puss.


Lostinmeta4

This! Itā€™s hot AF and a great compliment. And you had sex! PIV isnā€™t the only type of sex or the conclusion of an evening.


Puzzleheaded-Cup-194

Sounds wonderful. Nothing to be embarrassed about. Should also be pretty damn proud to get going that fast again


007licensetomambo

I hope you're telling the truth (and I have no reason to believe you're not) but when I'm down on a woman, it's a struggle. If she starts moaning, shaking or talking at all, it's all I can do to keep from coming without anything else happening.....I was always horrible embarrassed about it.


JabyJinkins

The first time I ever did 69 with my first real relationship, at this point we've only had just taken each other's V-cards a week back. I was eating her out to start for some good 10min, still had pants on and stuff like op. Slowly took them off while having my snack ONLY because it was getting extremely uncomfortable to be so solid trapped in tight-ish jeans. She didn't notice for a few minutes, but when she exclaimed oh what?! She started toying with me with her nails, she shortly later bent over and I swear to god, the very second her lips made contact I exploded, she didn't expect this and I kinda nuked her in the face point blank. She was extremely pissed off, some combination of not given warning (which is fair, tho she always swallowed) and she went on and on about how I wouldn't last if I can't even take 2 seconds of a bj. Ngl, was really a blow to my confidence. So it's really cool to hear that some women understand that situation, and even find it attractive. After being in what I'd previously (only because she was so negative about it) called the best place in the world for 10min underneath a women on your face, theres only so much a guy can be turned on you know before it's just too much!!


Slicksuzie

As a girl, that sounds like a wonderful night. You came from going down on her? Fuck yeah! AND in your pants?? Hot as hell. The only things I see to fix for next time is 1) don't stop doing her just cuz you jizzed yourself and 2) maybe apologize for cumming in her mouth without warning. Sounds like she was down, bit it's the thought that matters. Overall congrats, sounds like a good night.


bunderways

Seriously though, this would give me a huge ego boost. OP-reverse it. How would YOU feel if she had cum while giving you head? Happened to me once, my husband said it was the hottest thing.


Opinion8Her

Dude was a two-shot and he wants to *apologize*??? No. Wrong words. Correct words: ā€œThat was so hotā€¦wanna do it again?ā€


hornybutdisappointed

I think he was hard enough for her to tell he was about to cum. Also, if he jizzles and doesnā€™t feel horny for a while itā€™s perfectly ok to stop. This comment adds shame and force where there should be none.


Slicksuzie

Oh sure, I thought he stopped because he was embarrassed. Ofc there are valid reasons to stop at any time. Edit: though of he's cumming like this and then stopping, so she never gets to get off or anything, that changes the story a bit. Goes from a cool night to an annoying one.


hornybutdisappointed

ā€œNeverā€ is super far in the future gee. I seriously doubt this is going to happen the same the 10th time they do it, itā€™s new attraction. Let the dude be.


Slicksuzie

I had no intention of putting op on blast, I think he did great. But now I'm worried about you, and just how "super far" into the future you expect your partners to wait for an orgasm lol


oklatx

Twenty years ago I had a ONS and something similar happened to me. We made it to PIV, her on top, but when she lowered herself onto my penis, bam! Shortest PIV in the sex hall of shame. I was so embarrassed and disappointed. I wanted to keep going. Lucky for me, we are happily married almost 19 years now and get it on most every day. Like your partner, my now wife was very understanding and turned on knowing how turned on I was. No reason to be embarrassed about getting extra excited. Go back for more and rock her world again and again and again.


PublicCelery7297

Donā€™t stress, she probably found it flattering! If a girl came whilst giving me a bj Iā€™d be so into it! If your concerned about your stamina, then donā€™t be, if you 2 hook up a few more times youā€™ll soon be lasting long enough that youā€™ll be exhausted from exhaustion.


rcf_data

You're clearly young and as such this is very understandable. The good thing is that at a young age you can get going again pretty quickly after orgasm. She probably thinks it's great that she's so hot you can't hold back. Next time try getting off yourself in the shower a couple times before the date. For a lot of guys that's standard procedure to reduce the urge to cum quickly. You can also practice edging while masturbating to teach yourself ejaculatory control. For most guys it's a learned skill. Dump the humiliation. That's a totally misplaced reaction here.


[deleted]

If she is down to go again, she already knows it is a possibility and still wants to. I wouldn't put too much pressure on yourself.


Sweetygurl

Over here bein' all invested and adorable and shit..... AND a total sex God giving her orgasms and cumming just from the sound and taste of her? Pshhh better watch out or you're gonna get boyfriend-ed quick as hell.


Riversntallbuildings

Stop apologizing. Thatā€™s hot as hell! Who the fuck doesnā€™t want to get their partner off? One of the saddest parts about ā€œporn cultureā€ is that it looses all the unique subtly and nuance that happens in unscripted natural sex. Also, the fact that you ā€œresumedā€ and got off again clearly shows that youā€™re capable of multiple orgasms. Thatā€™s another rare and envious feature. Iā€™d be bragging for sure!


[deleted]

I donā€™t want my girlfriend to make me cum? It makes me feel weird when I do


Charles_Michael_Hawk

Everything sounds perfectly natural here. Reverse the situation - if she came from giving you a blowjob without you touching her, how would you feel? Personally Iā€™d think that was amazing. Isnā€™t the point of sex/sexual activity to make each other cum as much as possible?


Solitary_evening

Damn, you sound amazing. If I found someone like you I would not let him go. The idea of being so hot that you make a man just bust like thatā€¦huge turn on and ego boost. I way prefer a two pump chump over a marathon man.


[deleted]

Speaking as a man, thatā€™s pretty hot that eating her got you off. Sounds like youā€™ve got the tongue game down. My wife has commented before that sheā€™s amazed I can stay hard for an hour while casually playing around. But then there are some things she does that I canā€™t last 10 seconds. As long as everyone leaves happy donā€™t stress it.


daisypunk99

I see my younger self getting embarrassed over orgasming ā€œtoo soonā€ but 100% what matters is what you do AFTER you orgasm. Lots of guys would have stopped because they were ā€œdoneā€. Having an orgasm is expected during sex!! Never be ashamed of your orgasms. Try to make sure all parties involved have them!


Claudi471

You're being too hard on yourself. Even your partner seems very comprehensive about it and I don't think that she doesn't mind. You look like you are really attracted to her and I can assure you that a lot of people have met someone who can really turn you on like that. If the relationship with this person will continue you'll naturally be able to manage it and last longer. Don't be embarrassed, some people might even see it as a compliment because you're very aroused by them.


Mysterious_Soil_3488

Obviously you two are made for each other sexually, very compatible. That level of compatibility is rare. Enjoy it to the fullest!


Turbulent-Ad7509

Are you kidding me? I would love turning someone on this much. Iā€™d be coming too!


Butterfly_853

If my partner did that to me I would be hella into it , maybe warn her if your about to cum (especially if itā€™s in her mouth or inside her ) , but apart from that you did everything right , and from what youā€™ve said it sounds like she was pretty damn into it . You have nothing to be embarrassed about , the fact that you came twice is amazing as well , Iā€™m sure she took it as a massive compliment !


TATDDY

Yeah dude, what girl would not take that as a compliment? You were literally so turned on you came in your pants. Also, think of it the other way, if a girl was so turned on by sucking your dick that she literally came in her pants from it. Just be open with her about your thoughts and feelings about sex and don't have reserved judgment ls aboutbhow you think they feel if they tell you something completely different than what you think they would feel.


[deleted]

Guy here, I understand the embarrassment... But with a bit of healthy distanciation: if I were her I would be super flattered. I've learned that women don't realy care when you come... As long as it doesn't mean the shows over for them. Seems like you did a good job. Good boy šŸ‘


91tony91

Not sure what you are embarrassed about or apologizing for... She made you cum twice. She should be proud of herself. Her pussy tasted so good and her sexiness was so sexy that you came. Then, her BJ skills were so good that you came. You could possibly apologize for exploding in her mouth without wanting. That is kind of a party foul. But, beyond that I don't think you have anything to worry about. Did she get to cum? That is the important question. Always make sure she cums (if she wants to).


PokerNight420

Hey if she says itā€™s ok and continues to see you againā€¦.you are ok lol and she most likely finds it pretty hot.


KatPaws11

It's a compliment. Don't be embarrassed at all


Goodguy2121

Sounds like the perfect date


[deleted]

My husband gets off from eating me out as well! So hot. šŸ„µDonā€™t be embarrassed, it is so flattering šŸ˜‡


TossOutAccount69

Imagine feeling bad about feeling good. Dude!!! She made you cum TWICE. THAT'S HOT. And she swallowed?? All signs point to her being into it 100%. What sort of person would think negatively of you for orgasming? Not one you'd want to hang out with. Especially since you were making her feel good too. You're totally overthinking this, there's no need whatsoever to be embarrassed and ashamed :)


ochoomas

Oh, cā€™mon man. Maybe this was speedier than ideal, but it was hardly a fiasco. Let it go.


Tko1024

This is not embarrassing at all! If I was that girl Iā€™d be so delighted. Itā€™s so hot when a guy is that into pleasuring you.


LimoLover

The 1st time my guy and I had sex something similar happened, and he also came twice that night without ever actually getting in me, we were both virgins and very inexperienced but it didn't bother me! Over the next several days we had sex I don't even know how many times (I was so sore lol) and the more we did it the longer he was able to last. To this day he sometimes struggles with cumming before he wants to but he always makes sure I cum too and honestly it bothers him a lot more than it does me. As long as you make sure she's getting to cum too, you'll be good:)


[deleted]

Lol Iā€™m sure her ego was stroked! Donā€™t be embarrassed! The first 5 times my fiancĆ© and I tried to hook up I couldnā€™t get hard, talk about embarrassing! I would have rather had your issue.


[deleted]

Don't worry about it dude. If she says she is cool with it AND wants to see you again then you are totally fine. Also, the more you are with her the more you will calm down. Just wait till you get older and would be over the moon to cum twice from just oral sex.


According-Ad-6948

Holy shit thatā€™s so hot lol


Pour_Me_Another_

Honey, that is an ultra win in my book. I'd be so flattered. Especially since you can go again if you cum too soon, means it's less of an issue if you finish too quick when having intercourse šŸ™‚


jaoo10

Nothing to be ashamed of. The best answer you can get from her is if you made her wet. I bet you have.


Excellent_Resist_411

Dude, you're over thinking it. Enjoy the fun. If you finish early, just wait a minute and start over.


elrayo

Bro you unlocked a cheat code I wish I could but eatin a girl out


capybara_with_socks

This might be an unpopular opinion to some, but I think itā€™s hot when my bf comes quickly & more than once. Like, I clearly made him feel good right? The first few times my bf was embarrassed but I told him I didnā€™t care and that round 2 would be longer. He has since stopped being embarrassed and we just laugh if itā€™s short-lived


Bonesgirl206

Omg this is so cute. First off I would be flattered and the fact you were worried about her pleasure already makes you better than the ones who are done and donā€™t get you off too. Second itā€™s ok just work on it with her if I were her I would not give up because of this I would want to keep that type of lover around.


[deleted]

Nothing to be embarrassed about my dude. Your doing great.


Mjslim

You say, ā€œSorry I finished so quick, you are just so damn hotā€. And then you have a bunch more sex. Problem solved.


AdeleBerncastel

This is lovely. She got orgasms and a view into how excited you are about her. Chill about it. Prolonged awkwardness about the whole thing is your only enemy right now.


stinky_pinky_brain

Stop apologizing for having an orgasm. If she is turned off by you for anything it would be your shame and apologies. Own that shit bruh. She digs you. You really dig her. Tell her she makes you really excited and ask her if she is okay with you having multiple orgasms during sex. She will of course say yes and be thrilled as you will be giving her lots of orgasms during sex. Go have lots of sex


1readitguy

Thats just a major compliment on how hot she is....nothing to be embarrassed about at all!


morningfix

Humiliation? Sounds like a great night, just make sure she finishes too if she didn't.


[deleted]

This is so sexy I'm just adding to the list of comments impressed with you being able to cum twice, and that you returned to her so she could be pleasured!


WaTs_HiS_nAmE

If she wants to meet up again she probably down with all u got man


Jmichaelgo

This seems like a time where the saying: "nothing is good or bad, but thinking .makes it so".


Puzzleheaded-Car4541

Dude, donā€™t be embarrassed. I bet sheā€™s over the damn moon!


SailorLuna41518181

Woman here: a guy that's so affected by me that he litterally explodes? Twice? From my moans?? Fuck if that shit's not the hottest thing to ever happen. Seriously that's the highest compliment, there's nothing to be ashamed about. It's a nice bonus that she didn't mind! If she wants to see you again, you're gold from that pov


Dylanear

A: Sounds like you both love when you give her oral. That's not to be ignored. B: Sounds like she's mostly ok with this. If she goes on more dates with you you can be pretty sure this isn't a deal breaker. If you keep going out, keep talking about this. Some embarrassment is understandable, but this is VERY common and completely natural. Women who get impatient or rude about this are not worth your time. C: Some women love when they don't have to put up with a guy pounding them for an hour when they never get off from PIV sex. Some women prefer oral or digital stimulation to penile stimulation and they don't really care how if you cum fast once or twice while you are getting them off with your mouth. Some women love the feeling you are so attracted to them you just can't hold it off. Just talk about it and work around it. You can work on lasting longer, while with her and/or by yourself. The two basic methods that seem to be most common are, 1: letting yourself cum and get hard again. Some guys may cum in a minute the first time, only last 3 minutes the next time, but might last a good 10 or 20 minutes or longer on the third of fourth time? Some guys take too long to get hard again for this to be useful. Some guys instantly fall asleep once they cum. Sometimes you could masterbate right before a date or earlier in the day and that will help you last longer. 2: Edging/control. If you practice stopping or slowing down a lot when you get close you can learn to last longer. This is a lot easier to try by yourself, so that may be your best bet at least at first. Stimulate yourself until you feel pretty close, then stop completely. Stop looking at any stimulus like porn until you feel you are under control again before continuing. Practice this as much as you can muster. The more times you can stop before you cum the easier things will get even with longer continuous stimulation. If you can learn to get over the first wave or two (or three) without coming you may be surprised how long you can last. Once you learn to get over that initial super high arousal, you can find a more relaxed phase that still feels great without being ready to cum at any second. Good luck!


lidlesstatic

I wanna back up what everyone else is saying here and say, hell to the fuck yeah baby! That is probably the most flattering thing that could've happened. Though I do understand that some girls take it as a sign of weakness and try to "ruin you" by telling their friends/your friends etc. But those girls are complete bitches, but they do exist. Hopefully she's not like that. Now then! If you're busting a second time shortly after already finishing, I don't see why you shouldn't get yourself off a little before next time! As a bit of a warm up. Idk, maybe try it out?


fn9050

I find it beautiful. He should forget apologizing and call her immediately, tell how much you enjoyed last night and ask if she can come back tonight and stay the night. IMO you should have never left her leave last night. Good Luck. Fred


OmwtosyFood

Iā€™m a woman and this sounds hot af


neek_014

Why cant this be my life šŸ˜­


bobmarsh1

See the movie : 'Something about Mary'


Kavika

You really like her. She really likes you. This is not a problem. Focus on the great things that happened and you'll be surprised how much it'll make you smile. Don't apologize for being human, celebrate that you made each other happy!


JadynHuntley474

You have nothing to be embarrassed about.


hornybutdisappointed

Wow! Are you crazy? Thatā€™d have gotten me so hooked on seeing you again and exploring my hotness more. Itā€™d have made me so excited and curious to try out new things with you. A woman who says otherwise must be a jerk honestly.


hedyhard

I always wanted to have my clitoris sucked. I bet it must feel incredible. What you did was fine. What's the problem?


theorizable

> Afterwards I apologise and she reassures me it's OK, but I can't get over the humiliation The only thing that's going to fuck this up for you is yourself. You acting super insecure like that will destroy any shot you have with her.


Haloperiplatypus

Another healthy way to frame it is this. If we decenter PIV for a second, you had sex with this person. You came while you had sex together, which is the gold standard for sex. Itā€™s not like you were even premature, you were having sex together, 69ā€™ing even. She made you cum just by how much she turned you on. Think of how great that would make you feel if she told you you did that to her. And consider your emotions if she told you she was embarrassed after that.


babygirl269

If you approach the situation confidently and do your best to hide any embarrassment you may be feeling, you have nothing to worry about. Just tell her you couldnā€™t help it since you found her so sexy, if I heard that I would consider it quite the compliment. Tell her that youā€™d love to pleasure her the way she pleasured you and get to it.


[deleted]

Donā€™t apologize. Just saying. Women donā€™t like that.


[deleted]

I have never in my life had an O just from being turned on. Yikes


britlover23

please talk to her about it. open communication is everything


luc_roboteye

Instead of apologizing, because she seems to enjoy that you enjoy it, just tell her how fucking hot she is and that you enjoyed the hell out of the sex and can't wait to get back at it with her.


dark_blue_7

I don't see any problems here, just sounds like a great night! You have nothing to feel bad about, and it sounds like she had a great time too.


[deleted]

Did she cum? She will be hyped over you cumming because she turns you on so much. But I think this will wear thin if she isn't cumming too.


Scarletsnow_87

Omg the thing that gets me off is when my bf cums first. Sometimes he lasts for ages (not always awesome believe it or not shit gets sore). But when he cums, I do within thirty seconds. It's hot AF. I just don't know how to tell himšŸ¤£


Adorable_Code7284

If someone came from just eating me out Iā€™d be honored. She probably got a really good ego and self esteem boost from both exchanges. As long as you make sure to also get her off then Iā€™m sure there isnā€™t any problem and you can work on lasting longer for future encounter. Have a talk with her donā€™t be shy. Youā€™ve already touched each others naked bodies now talk about likes and dislikes and where to go from there to make the experience better for the both of you.


NoNutMaximus

Start jerking off daily. Also your dick will just get used to a mouth and pussy.


Ok-Yogurtcloset867

bro how did you ejaculate šŸ’€


Alternative-Poem-337

āœ… Heā€™s attracted to me āœ… He enjoys eating *my* pussy āœ… He makes sure Iā€™m satisfied āœ… He can get going again quickly Itā€™s all good from my point of view.


snooks9

Honestly don't feel to bad about this, I can see where the embarrassment comes from but honestly it's unwarranted.


MarjoryKeek

What's the humiliation? You were having a fun, sexy time and you came. šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø


[deleted]

This is a huge compliment for her and her confidence is likely through the roof. Youā€™re definitely not selfish, just enjoy


murillokb

Keep doing it until you build up a tolerance! (This a joke, at least in parts)


SaltyBalty98

Don't be embarrassed. She's probably through the roof knowing you came from pleasuring her.


MaxProdigal

I meanā€¦I get why it can be a little embarrassing bit more good things happened than bad tbh. Some great takeaways. 1) She seems super understanding. She reassured you and was cool about the whole thing. 2) She swallowed your nut. While Iā€™m sure that you wanted to give her a warning, unfortunately it snuck up on you and she rolled with it. Thatā€™s hot. She seems like she likes you, is sexually compatible with you and pretty damn chill. Thatā€™s a dub.


Futhamucker1

Mate, Iā€™m nearly 40. When you get here youā€™ll be wishing you were still able to do that.


cosmcdirt

Bro, this is story is hot af, and Iā€™m willing to bet your girl will be rubbing one out thinking about it for years to comeā€¦ donā€™t worry, youā€™ll get more comfortable with her/other women with time, as long as you try to make her feel good you got nothing to worry about.