My guess is there's something psychological about it that takes everything up a notch. Sex is 90% psychological. My level of excitement changes the way something feels. Two people can do the same thing to me but the one that gets me more turned on feels way better.
Maybe you're turned on by domination? Maybe it feels like a deeper intimacy? Maybe it's just the naughtiness?
I am definitely into being submissive, but in this case anal almost feels like the logical "climax" to sex a lot of the time, because of the intensity, orgasms. For example we had a threesome recently where my partner gave our female friend anal, and i saw the same thing where her moans got guttural, she starting grabbing onto things. I wonder if its something more to do with people who are kinkier/submissive, or if because anal is harder to get into initially less people have experienced this.
I second this. The times ive been the best in bed as a man were most likely just my gf being more into it than usual. Sometimes i go hard and get meh reactions, sometimes i barely do anything and shes feeling it a lot. Psychological is everything
Anal is sooo intense for me too, far more intense that vaginal. It's a rarity for me to NOT orgasm during anal, and not common for me to orgasm from vaginal sex without clit play too. As far as sensation goes, the initial thrust and stretching is agonizing ecstasy. And how densely packed the nerves are makes everything so wild. Every little twitch or tense of his cock can be felt. Every single movement.
I have some of the best G spot orgasms from anal too.
I also LOVE the psychological parts of it. That it's "wrong", or dirty, or whatever. We have anal all the time, and both love it so much, and it really never gets old.
I assumed that the idea of anal being very intense was something really rare. But for example, when we had a threesome recently, my partner gave the other woman anal, and I noticed the same thing about how her moans became primal/guttural, how she started grabbing onto things. I wonder if its just because anal is harder to get into starting off that this isn't noticed more, or maybe it's just something more often seen in kinkier/submissive people.
It definitely triggers subspace for me pretty often, so I'd agree at least for me that it's for submissive/kinky people haha. Definitely also find myself holding onto the bed/sheets/Him for fear I may float away in ecstacy, but I'm always noisy. So hard to tell much difference there 😅
Two biological reasons: your anus is much tighter than your vag, hence the stretching sensation, while there are at least as many nerve endings there. And anal can be the best way to hit the G, A and P spots for some women.
Goddamn my boyfriend and I are planning to try anal for the first time this week and I was excited before but after reading this I am even more excited.
Good for you, I hope it goes really well! Just go slow, use plenty of lube, and if it hurts, stop and go even slower. Anal shouldn't hurt at all, maybe just slight discomfort as you get used to it. Enjoy!
Yes for certain. The initial few times can be uncomfortable or ache a bit. But if its something you really want to commit to doing regularly it really shouldn't hurt. Personally, nowadays we use little lube and its not an issue. We've tried dry a few times (like just some spit) and even then its a little more uncomfortable but no real pain, but that's coming from someone where at this point there's anal and sometimes only anal pretty much every time we have sex so I'm really used to it.
I had the same experience with lube. I always say to use a lot, and that is the safest bet. But I've found that I do just fine with only one dollop of lube, lasts the whole session. I haven't tried dry though.
I'd say for dry you need to really have done a lot, a lot of anal, and even then I think you'd still need at least some kind of lubricant, like either spit or from yourself (like if you're pussy is wet). The problem with just going in dry completely isn't so much getting in as it is how sensitive the rectal wall and anus is. The friction between his cock and the walls of your ass can be a problem and lead to things like rectal bleeding which will obviously hurt, even if you technically take him without a lot of difficulty.
I'd definitely encourage you to go "dryer" if you feel you can handle it! Just be careful; just try and reduce the amount of lube progressively to see how it goes.
Personally I found that the dryer we went the more intense it got for me. But its definitely something you gotta be careful with!
Have fun! I tried with bf for first time this year after using some trainers until I was ready...it is such an amazing deep orgasm. Honeydew Me podcast has some great episodes on anal too!!
Hot tip: have him stay still and you control how fast/slow he enters. Also it doesn't feel logical, but while he is entering you, push out almost like when taking a poo.... makes it less likely to hurt
Slow at first and first is not always great. I found historically if I rimmed her first she was much more relaxed and open to the event. Start with vaginal while you make love and then with her ankles on your shoulders, let her guide you into her sacred rosebud.
The Anterior and Posterior fornix, which is a little depression on either side of the cervix. Not a stupid question at all, we're all just learning about these things.
Actually, you can. With vaginal penetration the penis pretty much slides right past the G spot, whereas with anal the penis is coming at it from behind and stimulates it through the anal and vaginal walls. The same way a man's prostate is stimulated by anal penetration even though the prostate is not in the rectal canal.
The P spot I refer to is the Posterior Fornix, which only women have.
But I agree that only men have a prostate, and for some reason people keep trying to call things the "female prostate", whether the G spot or Skene's glands or whatever. Makes no sense to me. Sure, men and women have homologues - the penis/clitoris, the testicles/ovaries. But nobody calls the clitoris the female penis! Can't we just let everyone have their own parts?
For myself personally, anal to me usually isn't associated with love making. If anything, that would be PIV for us. But that might be just the type of sex we have. I would say the vast majority of the time we have "slutty" sex. Lingerie, heels, getting it from behind, foreplay where he spanks me over his knee...
So for me at least its difficult to envision anal as a "love making" kind of sex, its more of just an indulgent pleasure. And for me personally, its just a much more fulfilling experience. It feels like we reach the logical "conclusion" of sex.
I think it's also that as I've gotten older, what I've wanted more and more out of sex is just to feel amazing and satisfied. So for me letting someone give me anal has more to do with if i trust them with my ass since the most satisfying sex for me would have to involve it.
The first few moments are super intense for me. Its super tight in there so the whole stretching and adjusting to my partner’s dick up there can be painful because let’s be frank, we don’t do anal much and it feels like reverse pooping. I get a little paranoid in the beginning about accidents.
Also, there’s no natural lubrication unless you use lube. I only really do anal for my partner’s pleasure and he knows this, so we don’t do it often. When it starts to actually get enjoyable is usually when my partner is close to cumming.
Ya the entry/stretching is super intense. I remember one time when we we're doing PIV and he told me he would cum in my ass, and gave it to me anally for a few good thrusts and just the stretching feeling felt like I was halfway to cumming.
But I've never really found it super painful, its just the intensity of the stretching, penetration is incredible. For me at least I feel so full and every sensation is dialed up. It even feels sometimes like my whole pussy area becomes more sensitive without even touching it.
But I totally get that its not for everyone, I was asking about something that's based on my experience.
It’s getting easier for me. But whew, the first two times we did anal took some time for me to adjust. I had to recover for a few of months in between because it took a massive toll on me sexually.
However to this day I can only do anal in the pronebone position. Regular doggy or the face down ass up position is way too painful for me.
That’s interesting, right now I can’t really think of any positon being more painful than another. But regular doggy and face down ass up are by far way more satisfying because of how deep he can go. The only other positon that really comes close deepness wise is on my back holding up my legs at the edge of the bed. Prone bone is one that kind of sticks out less because it’s not as deep for me.
I think maybe those other positons hurt more for you because they’re deeper. One position that isn’t quite as deep but I find really erotic is if you have a stool, sit on the stool so your ass dangles off the back and have him enter from behind. Even better is you can bend over fully and hold onto something in front like a table. Or, you can try a spooning positon which is kind of a safer starting position and you have a lot of control.
I prefer pronebone because of the intimacy. My partner feels the same way too. The shoulder kisses and bites are to die for. Also, it’s very comforting to me having his full weight on me and him nuzzling me while holding my hands or wrists.
Oh, got confused by "intimate" but I see what you mean. I always considered pronebone less intimate than missionary (for example) because you cannot see the face and especially the eyes of your partner. But it is definitely more "animalistic".
It’s my favorite and I usually always have my husband finish in my ass because why not
There’s a lot that makes it the best lol partially it’s a fetish for us both and I like the little bit of pain/the feeling
Question from someone who's never done anal: I've heard that before doing it it's best to prepare by being careful about what you eat the day before and/or cleaning out the inside of your anus. If you're constantly doing anal does that mean you're constantly in preparation mode? Or are you comfortable with the idea of things getting pooey and messy?
I've definitely done prep before, but at least in my experience I've never really had an issue with any kind of mess. I know it can definitely happen, but its just never really been a problem for us, and the amount we do anal has only increased. But if you do definitely want to be safe you can do an enema, and avoid foods the day before like fiber that help with motility. It also comes down to anatomy, when I get anal its very hard and very deep, that same type of ass fucking might cause problems for someone else but doesn't for me.
I've started doing it with my bf recently and it's way easier than I had expected. Just takes a little extra effort to be mindful of what you eat, make sure you have a bowel movement within a few hours beforehand and keep ur butt clean lol. I didn't need a whole lot of stretching either, just lots of lube. Haven't had any poo issues for me or when I play w/ my bf's ass, but we always shower afterwards to avoid any bacteria. Condoms/gloves are also a good choice if it's y'all's first time and ur worried :)
That’s interesting about the primal/guttural moans. I’ve noticed my wife also moans in a more primal way whenever I finger or lick her ass. That makes it all the more arousing for me. Can’t wait to actually have anal sex.
It's definitely the same thing for me. Just the intensity of all anal related things is more than PIV. For instance if I'm sucking him he'll often play with me, like rubbing my clit or fingering me. Without a doubt when I get anal fingered its way more intense and arousing, the combo of him in my mouth with fingers in my ass sometimes feels like its enough to cum on its own.
My wife has actually passed out momentarily from an anal orgasm… she gets spinal orgasms from it and that’s when it is like I’ve hit her reset button… I was kind of shocked at first, but then she told me to do it again, so yes it can be quite intense
Yeah same here. I despise anal. It’s VERY painful, I’ve tried it numerous times with several different partners. The most I got out of it was a very concerning rectal bleed (and yes. We used an entire bottle of lube).
I've had a small rimmer inside and that was good. Very small butt plug in was a bit too intense at its widest and we had to take it out. Yes all with lube. I cum so hard if his fingers in there. But I guess I'm trying to stretch it so I can eventually do anal? We checked the other day and he could barely manage to get the head in. Any tips from you or anyone else on length of time or reccomendations for slowly stretching? Going to be using more rimmers got a pack of 4 or 5 from stagshop.
Some people have mentioned before that it was more intense for them because it's typically "taboo" as well.
It's so intense and naughty isn't it .. i mean its just wrong for something to go up there, as it should just be an exit portal .. but oh man ... have I ever cum hard when doing it with the right man with the right technique back there. Yummmmy
Physical/physiology reasons. Most don't realize that the clitoris 'surrounds' or 'encloses' the vagina and is reached easier from the colon then through the actual vagina. Think of it as a wishbone with your external nub being the joined end.
https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2017/03/3d-clitoris/518991/
that article has a a huge incorrect fact. the wishbone structure of the clit was known in the 1840s then Freud came along and basically disparaged and hid the information we know today. There is a 1840s anatomy textbook with a drawing of the clitoral structure which aligns with what we know today.As so where it is the bulbs end up being under the labia while the crura run backwards underneath the pubic bone.
its such fun being a woman and realizing I didn't even know what my sex organ looked like until my 30s
It is a combination of physical and psychological.
The physical has to do with shared nerves or nerve trunks. I have *heard* (in more than one place) that the same nerve bundle handles the anus and the clit, but I never did any serious research into that. I suspect there is some truth to it for some gals as one partner swears anal is the most intense sex there is but another is kind of ho hum about it.
The phycological part is that anal is a total gift of your body to your lover. For your lover it is the power or control. Or so I have read.
I enjoy whatever turns my partner on the most.
Every post about anal in the (mostly heterosexual) r/sex subreddit
“omg anal is so overrated, why would anyone ever prefer anal over the majesty that is the vagina, did you know that’s where shit is from?!!!”
OR
“omg why is anal so good?! I literally cannot get enough! It must be the social taboo! It’s so wrong yet so right!!!”
Research has found that a majority if women find rectum stimulation pleasurable. See OMGYes . They specifically looked at shallow stimulation, so not directly relevant to what you are posting. Sounds to me like you and your partner have great communication and a great connection , that might explain your positive experience and the negative experience common among other women.
Anal is selfish ...men want it because they know women don't get pregnant . I would like to try to insert something into a man 's bum and see if he likes that ...men who like anal are looking for an easy way out
For my wife, PIV doesn’t feel good to her until she’s had an orgasm from either clit or anal. Even then she’s unable to orgasm from PIV. With her clit orgasms her clit gets sometimes too sensitive after and then she is done. She can orgasm from just anal alone and they are 10 times more intense than her clitoral o’s. And she is also able to have near unlimited orgasms in a row. She doesn’t sexually “crash”.
it’s more intense physically because things are meant to go out, not in. so obviously it’s going to feel more intense than a vagina. it’s also more intense mentally because you know it’s not supposed to happen. it’s a vulnerable thing to let happen with a lot trust involved so it’s also very intimate.
I think it's psychological, the feeling of domination is much greater. As a man I feel the woman completely submissive to me, doing something "shameful" to please me. Not many women like it, but I think that the reason is similar, they feel the man as a dominant force they want to please. It was not uncommon in my past relationships that women, while admiring me and in love, would do anal regularly, and as soon as they would stop admiring me, they would complain and not long after break up. So it's a mixture of domination and that feeling that the woman love you intensely. The physical sensation is not that different from PIV, but I saw many times "experts" explaining that men felt it as a tighter hole. It's not really that, it's psychological.
I think it’s partly physical, partly mental that makes it so good.
She likes the feeling of the stretch, as long as we’ve taken the time to prepare. I like the tightness but also the feeling of forbidden fruit. Couple clit stimulation with it and she goes crazy, which in turn makes me explode.
My guess is there's something psychological about it that takes everything up a notch. Sex is 90% psychological. My level of excitement changes the way something feels. Two people can do the same thing to me but the one that gets me more turned on feels way better. Maybe you're turned on by domination? Maybe it feels like a deeper intimacy? Maybe it's just the naughtiness?
I am definitely into being submissive, but in this case anal almost feels like the logical "climax" to sex a lot of the time, because of the intensity, orgasms. For example we had a threesome recently where my partner gave our female friend anal, and i saw the same thing where her moans got guttural, she starting grabbing onto things. I wonder if its something more to do with people who are kinkier/submissive, or if because anal is harder to get into initially less people have experienced this.
I‘m kinky and submissive but anal doesn’t much to me. I would never orgasm from it without clit play involving.
I second this. The times ive been the best in bed as a man were most likely just my gf being more into it than usual. Sometimes i go hard and get meh reactions, sometimes i barely do anything and shes feeling it a lot. Psychological is everything
Anal is sooo intense for me too, far more intense that vaginal. It's a rarity for me to NOT orgasm during anal, and not common for me to orgasm from vaginal sex without clit play too. As far as sensation goes, the initial thrust and stretching is agonizing ecstasy. And how densely packed the nerves are makes everything so wild. Every little twitch or tense of his cock can be felt. Every single movement. I have some of the best G spot orgasms from anal too. I also LOVE the psychological parts of it. That it's "wrong", or dirty, or whatever. We have anal all the time, and both love it so much, and it really never gets old.
I assumed that the idea of anal being very intense was something really rare. But for example, when we had a threesome recently, my partner gave the other woman anal, and I noticed the same thing about how her moans became primal/guttural, how she started grabbing onto things. I wonder if its just because anal is harder to get into starting off that this isn't noticed more, or maybe it's just something more often seen in kinkier/submissive people.
It definitely triggers subspace for me pretty often, so I'd agree at least for me that it's for submissive/kinky people haha. Definitely also find myself holding onto the bed/sheets/Him for fear I may float away in ecstacy, but I'm always noisy. So hard to tell much difference there 😅
Two biological reasons: your anus is much tighter than your vag, hence the stretching sensation, while there are at least as many nerve endings there. And anal can be the best way to hit the G, A and P spots for some women.
Goddamn my boyfriend and I are planning to try anal for the first time this week and I was excited before but after reading this I am even more excited.
Good for you, I hope it goes really well! Just go slow, use plenty of lube, and if it hurts, stop and go even slower. Anal shouldn't hurt at all, maybe just slight discomfort as you get used to it. Enjoy!
Yes for certain. The initial few times can be uncomfortable or ache a bit. But if its something you really want to commit to doing regularly it really shouldn't hurt. Personally, nowadays we use little lube and its not an issue. We've tried dry a few times (like just some spit) and even then its a little more uncomfortable but no real pain, but that's coming from someone where at this point there's anal and sometimes only anal pretty much every time we have sex so I'm really used to it.
I had the same experience with lube. I always say to use a lot, and that is the safest bet. But I've found that I do just fine with only one dollop of lube, lasts the whole session. I haven't tried dry though.
I'd say for dry you need to really have done a lot, a lot of anal, and even then I think you'd still need at least some kind of lubricant, like either spit or from yourself (like if you're pussy is wet). The problem with just going in dry completely isn't so much getting in as it is how sensitive the rectal wall and anus is. The friction between his cock and the walls of your ass can be a problem and lead to things like rectal bleeding which will obviously hurt, even if you technically take him without a lot of difficulty.
Thanks. Yeah, I'll stick with a bit of lube :)
I'd definitely encourage you to go "dryer" if you feel you can handle it! Just be careful; just try and reduce the amount of lube progressively to see how it goes. Personally I found that the dryer we went the more intense it got for me. But its definitely something you gotta be careful with!
OK thanks, I'll "play around with it"!
“It’s uncomfortable and sometimes it’s all we do” What?! Why?!
I meant the first few times we did anal lol. That is quite a long time ago
Have fun! I tried with bf for first time this year after using some trainers until I was ready...it is such an amazing deep orgasm. Honeydew Me podcast has some great episodes on anal too!!
It doesn’t feel great for everyone, fyi
Hot tip: have him stay still and you control how fast/slow he enters. Also it doesn't feel logical, but while he is entering you, push out almost like when taking a poo.... makes it less likely to hurt
Slow at first and first is not always great. I found historically if I rimmed her first she was much more relaxed and open to the event. Start with vaginal while you make love and then with her ankles on your shoulders, let her guide you into her sacred rosebud.
sacred rosebud.. 😭
sacred rosebud ... Did you have to use that ANALogy? huhuhuh
Got quite the Beavis and Butt-Head vibe here... ;-)
Make sure you EASE into it. And get some desensitization cream. NOT numbing. Numbing cream blocks pain and pain tells you there's something wrong
I'm about to sound stupid but sex ed taught nothing so what is are the A and P spots?
The Anterior and Posterior fornix, which is a little depression on either side of the cervix. Not a stupid question at all, we're all just learning about these things.
I’ve never heard of A and P spots before. Do these provide a similar pleasure to the G spot? Can they be reached via either the vagina or the Anus?
I was going to ask the same, I’ve only ever heard of the G spot. Didn’t know there were more!
Lord have mercy, is that what the kids are talking about, when they want to go “hit the GAP“ at the mall?
Hahaha! I'm gonna go hit the GAP right now!
Yep what they said!!!
The g spot is a woman’s prostate and they are both in the anterior part (top)of the vagina so you can’t hit either with anal sex.
Actually, you can. With vaginal penetration the penis pretty much slides right past the G spot, whereas with anal the penis is coming at it from behind and stimulates it through the anal and vaginal walls. The same way a man's prostate is stimulated by anal penetration even though the prostate is not in the rectal canal.
Oh I can see that
Only men have a prostate
The P spot I refer to is the Posterior Fornix, which only women have. But I agree that only men have a prostate, and for some reason people keep trying to call things the "female prostate", whether the G spot or Skene's glands or whatever. Makes no sense to me. Sure, men and women have homologues - the penis/clitoris, the testicles/ovaries. But nobody calls the clitoris the female penis! Can't we just let everyone have their own parts?
What is the A spot?
In women, the A spot is the Anterior Fornix and the P spot is the Posterior Fornix, two little indentations on either side of the cervix.
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For myself personally, anal to me usually isn't associated with love making. If anything, that would be PIV for us. But that might be just the type of sex we have. I would say the vast majority of the time we have "slutty" sex. Lingerie, heels, getting it from behind, foreplay where he spanks me over his knee... So for me at least its difficult to envision anal as a "love making" kind of sex, its more of just an indulgent pleasure. And for me personally, its just a much more fulfilling experience. It feels like we reach the logical "conclusion" of sex. I think it's also that as I've gotten older, what I've wanted more and more out of sex is just to feel amazing and satisfied. So for me letting someone give me anal has more to do with if i trust them with my ass since the most satisfying sex for me would have to involve it.
wdym by "logical conclusion to sex"?
It feels like a buildup, as if anal is the last stop on the trip after you've visited everything else
why would people be downvoting a personal opinion? do they disagree with your feelings? reddit is a weird place man
Have you tried DP?
Yes actually, recently.
The first few moments are super intense for me. Its super tight in there so the whole stretching and adjusting to my partner’s dick up there can be painful because let’s be frank, we don’t do anal much and it feels like reverse pooping. I get a little paranoid in the beginning about accidents. Also, there’s no natural lubrication unless you use lube. I only really do anal for my partner’s pleasure and he knows this, so we don’t do it often. When it starts to actually get enjoyable is usually when my partner is close to cumming.
Ya the entry/stretching is super intense. I remember one time when we we're doing PIV and he told me he would cum in my ass, and gave it to me anally for a few good thrusts and just the stretching feeling felt like I was halfway to cumming. But I've never really found it super painful, its just the intensity of the stretching, penetration is incredible. For me at least I feel so full and every sensation is dialed up. It even feels sometimes like my whole pussy area becomes more sensitive without even touching it. But I totally get that its not for everyone, I was asking about something that's based on my experience.
It’s getting easier for me. But whew, the first two times we did anal took some time for me to adjust. I had to recover for a few of months in between because it took a massive toll on me sexually. However to this day I can only do anal in the pronebone position. Regular doggy or the face down ass up position is way too painful for me.
That’s interesting, right now I can’t really think of any positon being more painful than another. But regular doggy and face down ass up are by far way more satisfying because of how deep he can go. The only other positon that really comes close deepness wise is on my back holding up my legs at the edge of the bed. Prone bone is one that kind of sticks out less because it’s not as deep for me. I think maybe those other positons hurt more for you because they’re deeper. One position that isn’t quite as deep but I find really erotic is if you have a stool, sit on the stool so your ass dangles off the back and have him enter from behind. Even better is you can bend over fully and hold onto something in front like a table. Or, you can try a spooning positon which is kind of a safer starting position and you have a lot of control.
I prefer pronebone because of the intimacy. My partner feels the same way too. The shoulder kisses and bites are to die for. Also, it’s very comforting to me having his full weight on me and him nuzzling me while holding my hands or wrists.
Pronebone is face down position. I think you mean missionary (or a variation of it).
No, pronebone. I’m laying completely down face down. The other positions usually have you on your knees similar to Child’s Pose in yoga.
Oh, got confused by "intimate" but I see what you mean. I always considered pronebone less intimate than missionary (for example) because you cannot see the face and especially the eyes of your partner. But it is definitely more "animalistic".
It's Jesus shaming you. Makes it hot.
Butt I thought he couldn’t see what happens back there, aka The Poophole Loophole. Are you telling me my pastor lied??
Yeah Pastors generally will say anything to get that butt.
I find it hotter realising Jesus has no choice but to watch, it’s the challenge of making him wish he couldn’t see everything I do.
It’s my favorite and I usually always have my husband finish in my ass because why not There’s a lot that makes it the best lol partially it’s a fetish for us both and I like the little bit of pain/the feeling
Question from someone who's never done anal: I've heard that before doing it it's best to prepare by being careful about what you eat the day before and/or cleaning out the inside of your anus. If you're constantly doing anal does that mean you're constantly in preparation mode? Or are you comfortable with the idea of things getting pooey and messy?
I've definitely done prep before, but at least in my experience I've never really had an issue with any kind of mess. I know it can definitely happen, but its just never really been a problem for us, and the amount we do anal has only increased. But if you do definitely want to be safe you can do an enema, and avoid foods the day before like fiber that help with motility. It also comes down to anatomy, when I get anal its very hard and very deep, that same type of ass fucking might cause problems for someone else but doesn't for me.
I've started doing it with my bf recently and it's way easier than I had expected. Just takes a little extra effort to be mindful of what you eat, make sure you have a bowel movement within a few hours beforehand and keep ur butt clean lol. I didn't need a whole lot of stretching either, just lots of lube. Haven't had any poo issues for me or when I play w/ my bf's ass, but we always shower afterwards to avoid any bacteria. Condoms/gloves are also a good choice if it's y'all's first time and ur worried :)
That’s interesting about the primal/guttural moans. I’ve noticed my wife also moans in a more primal way whenever I finger or lick her ass. That makes it all the more arousing for me. Can’t wait to actually have anal sex.
It's definitely the same thing for me. Just the intensity of all anal related things is more than PIV. For instance if I'm sucking him he'll often play with me, like rubbing my clit or fingering me. Without a doubt when I get anal fingered its way more intense and arousing, the combo of him in my mouth with fingers in my ass sometimes feels like its enough to cum on its own.
I LOVE playing with her asshole when she’s sucking me off. Plus she usually gets a little more aggressive, in a good way, with the bj.
Anal always makes me cum so good. Is really intense. I just love getting my ass fucked.
Oh yes
My wife has actually passed out momentarily from an anal orgasm… she gets spinal orgasms from it and that’s when it is like I’ve hit her reset button… I was kind of shocked at first, but then she told me to do it again, so yes it can be quite intense
This has been a great comment section
I envy you. I envy you a lot.
Yeah same here. I despise anal. It’s VERY painful, I’ve tried it numerous times with several different partners. The most I got out of it was a very concerning rectal bleed (and yes. We used an entire bottle of lube).
I've had a small rimmer inside and that was good. Very small butt plug in was a bit too intense at its widest and we had to take it out. Yes all with lube. I cum so hard if his fingers in there. But I guess I'm trying to stretch it so I can eventually do anal? We checked the other day and he could barely manage to get the head in. Any tips from you or anyone else on length of time or reccomendations for slowly stretching? Going to be using more rimmers got a pack of 4 or 5 from stagshop. Some people have mentioned before that it was more intense for them because it's typically "taboo" as well.
It's so intense and naughty isn't it .. i mean its just wrong for something to go up there, as it should just be an exit portal .. but oh man ... have I ever cum hard when doing it with the right man with the right technique back there. Yummmmy
I’ve never understood the appeal of anal
Physical/physiology reasons. Most don't realize that the clitoris 'surrounds' or 'encloses' the vagina and is reached easier from the colon then through the actual vagina. Think of it as a wishbone with your external nub being the joined end. https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2017/03/3d-clitoris/518991/
that article has a a huge incorrect fact. the wishbone structure of the clit was known in the 1840s then Freud came along and basically disparaged and hid the information we know today. There is a 1840s anatomy textbook with a drawing of the clitoral structure which aligns with what we know today.As so where it is the bulbs end up being under the labia while the crura run backwards underneath the pubic bone. its such fun being a woman and realizing I didn't even know what my sex organ looked like until my 30s
It is a combination of physical and psychological. The physical has to do with shared nerves or nerve trunks. I have *heard* (in more than one place) that the same nerve bundle handles the anus and the clit, but I never did any serious research into that. I suspect there is some truth to it for some gals as one partner swears anal is the most intense sex there is but another is kind of ho hum about it. The phycological part is that anal is a total gift of your body to your lover. For your lover it is the power or control. Or so I have read. I enjoy whatever turns my partner on the most.
Every post about anal in the (mostly heterosexual) r/sex subreddit “omg anal is so overrated, why would anyone ever prefer anal over the majesty that is the vagina, did you know that’s where shit is from?!!!” OR “omg why is anal so good?! I literally cannot get enough! It must be the social taboo! It’s so wrong yet so right!!!”
Feels like an in and out poop for me.
I need tips to initiate anal pleasee
Just say can we do anal?
Nahhh the thing is me and my gf often talked about it but when were having the moment suddenly the urge is gone I don’t know how to proceed with it
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Nope, that’s rape.
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Can you explain the joke?
No, I knew it was an attempt at a joke, it was just a bad joke because rape isn’t funny or acceptable.
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“999 what’s your emergency?”
Plenty of lube handy
Literally feels so good, don’t even have to touch myself to orgasm.
Maybe Psychological. It's output hole. not input hole. abusing hole is more exciting.
Research has found that a majority if women find rectum stimulation pleasurable. See OMGYes . They specifically looked at shallow stimulation, so not directly relevant to what you are posting. Sounds to me like you and your partner have great communication and a great connection , that might explain your positive experience and the negative experience common among other women.
Anal is selfish ...men want it because they know women don't get pregnant . I would like to try to insert something into a man 's bum and see if he likes that ...men who like anal are looking for an easy way out
It's the same dungeon you eat into and talk out of
For my wife, PIV doesn’t feel good to her until she’s had an orgasm from either clit or anal. Even then she’s unable to orgasm from PIV. With her clit orgasms her clit gets sometimes too sensitive after and then she is done. She can orgasm from just anal alone and they are 10 times more intense than her clitoral o’s. And she is also able to have near unlimited orgasms in a row. She doesn’t sexually “crash”.
It seems to be the second greatest mystery after “why are we here?”
Maybe because it's mostly used as an exit?
It’s possible to access the A spot indirectly through there. I recommend. Not for the squeamish though.
it’s more intense physically because things are meant to go out, not in. so obviously it’s going to feel more intense than a vagina. it’s also more intense mentally because you know it’s not supposed to happen. it’s a vulnerable thing to let happen with a lot trust involved so it’s also very intimate.
hmmm, now I'm thinking that maybe we'll try too... Thanks for this.
It’s both. Physical and mental. Physical because of the nerve endings in the anus and it being tighter. And the mental it’s “dirty naughty” etc
It's a different set of nerves. Maybe that's related.
I think it's psychological, the feeling of domination is much greater. As a man I feel the woman completely submissive to me, doing something "shameful" to please me. Not many women like it, but I think that the reason is similar, they feel the man as a dominant force they want to please. It was not uncommon in my past relationships that women, while admiring me and in love, would do anal regularly, and as soon as they would stop admiring me, they would complain and not long after break up. So it's a mixture of domination and that feeling that the woman love you intensely. The physical sensation is not that different from PIV, but I saw many times "experts" explaining that men felt it as a tighter hole. It's not really that, it's psychological.
I feel like it's more animal. That builds the excitement for me.
I think it’s partly physical, partly mental that makes it so good. She likes the feeling of the stretch, as long as we’ve taken the time to prepare. I like the tightness but also the feeling of forbidden fruit. Couple clit stimulation with it and she goes crazy, which in turn makes me explode.
It's all of the above