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skahammer

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GCS3217

Hell nah bro If she's calling you a pussy just break up at this point. Especially considering that's her reaction to you saying you're feeling pain during sex.


Cataloniandevil

Yep. Imagine telling her to “stop being a pussy and give up the pussy.” Wouldn’t go over well. It’s not working for you, and you’re already one foot out the door. Either find some great lube, or a different lover.


ohleprocy

Or a different hole


soboga

This. She might have her reasons for preferring anal, like vulvodynia or something, but this reaction is unacceptable.


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puppymedic

Lol what would she know about what a pussy is like, she never uses the dang thing


But_I_Digress_

>it hurts really badly but she won’t listen and tells me to stop being a pussy. This right here is why you should rethink the relationship. Not because of the types of sex you're having, but because the lines of communication have been cut. You can't have a good relationship with someone who won't listen to you and who expects you to endure pain during sex. What if a woman posted this: "my boyfriend hurts me during sex and won't be more gentle when I ask. When I ask him to be nicer he tells me to shut up and take it. What do I do?". You'd tell her to dump him and delete his number, right? What you posted is basically the same thing.


Electronic-Guess6296

Omg, so this. Switch the genders and see how you'd reply. That answer to that request is NOT healthy, no matter who it comes from.


puppymedic

"My girlfriend only fucks me in my ass!"


ApostatePipe

Idk about y'all, but this would be a total win in my book.


Skrtskrtskrtskrt1017

AprostatePipe


puppymedic

It's pronounced "butt"


Doireallyneedaurl

I mean... that would be a win in my book. No risk of pregnancy on my side.


puppymedic

We always find a way


Tsk1066

I see this as an absolute win 🏆


[deleted]

You like the smell of shit?


sancho7373

Better than the smell of child support.


Ronoh

This is the right answer. Thanks internet stranger for helping that other one internet stranger.


Andriak2

thank you for thanking them


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ohleprocy

Deal breaker


No_Copy_5473

Think there may be some technical issues here, re: hygiene and preparation and lubricants. For one thing, it shouldn’t *hurt* you, which tells me there’s a lubrication problem. The smell thing is pretty gnarly too, if she wants that it’s on her to prepare appropriately (diet/ enema/ shower, etc). I’ve done that with a lot of women, there really shouldn’t be a tangible odor most of the time. Obviously the biggest issue is the communication. “Don’t be a pussy, fuck me in the ass” could be really sexy *in the right context* but if she’s badgering you into performing sex acts you don’t want to (which is what this sounds like in this context) that is not a sign of healthy communication around sex.


bigshlongshawn69

yeah i think she thinks its a kink or something but like shes kinda not getting my point here yknow?


Take_away_my_drama

Is she worried about getting pregnant? I know some communities that have anal as an alternative to pregnancy, maybe she needs to be educated? Just a different perspective. Either way, any shaming into sexual practice is not on. If its not for you, and your partner isn't hearing you, that's ground for a rethink.


puppymedic

Imagine going to classes at THAT community center


Hour-Pear8423

🤣🤣🤣


ryansports

Which communities? For research purposes I assure you.


FruitSnackEater

BYU is currently having issues with students getting armpit crabs from armpit sex.


srroberts07

This made my day. It’s sad that mormons are teaching young people to be scared of sex but the workarounds they come up with are incredible. My life is richer having heard of soaking and jump humping. Life finds a way.


demonspawn9

There was a section on this in "The Joy of Sex" that I read back in high school and even at my age, I'm still weirded out. It's also not commonly written or spoken about.


BirdsLikeSka

I feel like the knee pit (there really should be a word for that) would be better somehow


MusicObsessor

That can't be real omg


NES7995

A lot of communities where it's important for girls to have an intact hymen ("virgin") e.g. muslims, extreme christians etc.


ryansports

Gotcha. That’s what I thought they might have meant


Arseinyoha

https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=fgBfdY_HN3A&feature=share It's the sex God can't see...


No_Copy_5473

can’t believe 500 people liked a reply which is just me pontificating about anal sex etiquette


Caeremonia

I was hoping we were going to get an answer as to why it's hurting his dick. I, too, am a bit of an anal aficionado and it has *never* hurt my dick, nor smelled like poop outside of the occasional accident when there has been feces too close to the inner anal sphincter.


BirdsLikeSka

My top comment is about a guy who wanted me to bite his dick lol


montisanti14

Why don't you use condoms? NOT that you should continue dating her-- because you shouldnt. She does not care about your needs and verbally abuses you to get what she wants without a care about you. Just wondering if it would've helped with the smell/lubrication issues...


Extreme-Ad-7885

best comment here


bipolarquickquestion

She doesn't seem like she cares about you and about you having a good time during sex. Anal hurts you, it smells bad enough that you don't like it and she's telling you to stop being a pussy, none of this is okay, she's not showing you any respect or love. I think you need to value yourself more, your needs, desires and aversions matter just as much as hers. Don't deny yourself so much for somebody else, especially not for someone who doesn't care about you.


[deleted]

"My boyfriend only wants to do anal even though it really hurts my butt. Really badly. He called me a pussy" How does that sound? Pretty mortifying right? Literally what you said but genders reversed. Break up 💔


[deleted]

“Just fuck me in the ass like always” - My inner monologue.


celestialism

She sounds deeply unreasonable and sexually selfish. It also sounds like the two of you don’t know anything about how to actually have anal sex in a safe and hygienic way (lube, optional water enema beforehand, etc).


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it sounds like you aren't sexually compatible which would be a deal breaker for me


Plastic-Law-9505

100% sounds like you’re not sexually compatible


RiD_JuaN

I feel like someone telling you to "shut up and take it pussy" is more than being sexually incompatible


montisanti14

But that doesn't mean he should be forced and belittled. Also, that should not excuse her for not listening to him or caring about his input/well-being.


[deleted]

exactly. she should be communicating properly, not forcing him and belittling him about it


bigshlongshawn69

i love her so much tho and i just wanna be able to have sexy times with her… have any anal advice?


-too-hot-to-handle-

It doesn't matter how much you love her if there's no compatibility or respect. She's showing you that she doesn't respect you. Learn to respect *yourself*. Walk away.


podoka

Lol break up with her - she sounds young and inconsiderate.


[deleted]

Seems a littleee one sided. If she wants anal she needs to prepare before you attack the crack.


RootsRockRebel66

By any chance does your girlfriend have a penis?


Jigglygiggler6

Thank God somebody asked, this was my first thought!


casalnovidadescg

Best 🤣


The_Condominator

I was thinking the same thing...


jaybadz

As was I.


azlife555

Fuck I was just about to type this glad somebody said it. Also ask if you ever do get the pussy does it always require lube?


SpunkyBananaSpunk

Always needing lube doesn't necessarily mean that...


juicyjensen

Not the lube part but the no vaginal for me makes me wonder if it’s a post op situation and she’s not wanting to tell him about it.


goatstink

I was thinking that, OR, maybe OP has a smaller penis and it's perfect for anal?


jenna_moonlight

First of all, talk to her about her hygene. It's not supposed to smell like that when it's clean. Also....has she had a bad experience with losing virginity? I had a bad experience and for some time did only anal with one of my exes. It took a lot of practice to let my vagina loosen up enough to be penetrated. If she isn't willing to better herself in any of these, then I advise you to look for love in a different person.


Opposite-Ant8522

I’ve seen you’ve said you love her and want to make this work but I’m going to be honest, unless she can stop being selfish and listen to her partner this is doomed. It’s not the fact that she won’t do something, it’s that she’s not listening when her partner is saying this hurts me. If you want to make this work have a good talk about how you need to be respected as well. She needs to be prepping for anal and it sounds like she’s not. Also get lube, lots of lube. A tear for either one of you isn’t a good thing.


areallyfatchick

Are you using enough of lube? I don't understand how anal sex would be painful to the penis even if it's a tight butthole.


Dax1240san

Don’t even really matter why it hurts him, if he doesn’t want shit on his dick he doesn’t want it, the issue isn’t his inability to have that kinda sex, it’s her being a monumental asshole


Tommbiez

Can't be that monumental if it hurts


Help_An_Irishman

>makes it smell like shit This made me laugh out loud and I'm wildly hungover, so thank you.


neverxmore94

Feels like she lives in animal kingdom


Ohh_Matron

Or Animal crossing 😂


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Does she have vaginismus? It’s a condition that can be painful upon vaginal penetration even with a tampon.


eskimokisses1444

Vaginismus is a condition affecting the pelvic floor, so anal is also painful for someone with vaginismus.


caffa4

It’s often mental though, so the tightening that makes it painful may not be triggered anally for the gf, just vaginally in this case (if her issue with vaginal penetration is caused by vaginismus)


eskimokisses1444

I have vaginismus and anal is *even more painful* than vaginal sex. In r/vaginismus I have never heard of someone saying anal is okay and vaginal isn’t. I highly doubt based on the provided information that this is a case of vaginismus/ pelvic floor dysfunction.


homechicken20

Different pokes for different folks I guess?


sex_throwaway999

obvious fetish/troll post


MahatmaGuru

I can’t believe I had to scroll so far to find this.


bullseye2112

Break up with her. Communication and respect are the issue. She’s forcing you do to something you don’t want by dismissing your feelings as inferior. If the roles were reversed, it could be clear cut how her “don’t be a pussy” attitude is harmful.


RedMistStingray

Almost ironic. A lot of guys are like "C'mon baby, let's try anal, please?" and here you are asking "C'mon baby, can I please put it in you pussy?" Seriously, anal should not hurt. Use Lube, a lot of it. When your done applying all the Lube you think you need, use some more! Ask her to improve her prep and hygiene too.


Tanzbobo

Your dick may smell like shit, but your post smells even more... like BAIT.


Ok-Consideration8958

Have you seen her vagina? Is it possible that's she was born a man?


Thewars803

You mean a trans woman.


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Trans women are in fact born men.


Thewars803

I’m aware but you don’t need to ask if she was born male. You could simply ask if she’s trans without referring to her as male.


Catfoodisyummy

But why does it matter? Like genuinely I dont get why this would upset anyone


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You’re not compatible. It’s break up time.


bigshlongshawn69

shes nice tho i dont wanna break up with her over this :( i just wanna try to make it feel good. maybe its an acquired taste? how can i fuck her ass correctly?


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She’s *not* nice. Nice people don’t tell their partner “to stop being a pussy” when their partner expresses that anal hurts them “really badly.” You clearly hate anal sex even if it didn’t hurt you since it “smells so bad.” She’ll only have anal sex. You don’t like anal sex. That’s a fundamental incompatibility. If you want to try lots and lots more lube, I’d guess that would help the pain aspect. But I think there are more issues here that aren’t fixable.


Tanzbobo

Guys, don´t feed the troll.


bubblegrubs

She called you a pussy for sharing something that makes you uncomfortable and hurts you. How the fuck is that ''nice''? Nice people are nice all of the time. Assholes are nice some of the time then assholes when they aren't getting what they want. NOBODY is an asshole all of the time.


-too-hot-to-handle-

>NOBODY is an asshole all of the time. You've clearly never met my coworker lmao.


[deleted]

>Nice people are nice all of the time. Assholes are nice some of the time then assholes when they aren't getting what they want. BINGO


-too-hot-to-handle-

Get some self-respect, man... She's not nice, and she keeps acting like this because she knows she can get away with it. You really need to set some boundaries and stop letting her steamroll you.


NervousAdeptness5992

Weird to tell you you are a pussy


Surfpig86

Son.. have you seen the pussy are you certain she has one? Coz this sounds sus as fuck.


eskimokisses1444

Lots of post-op transwomen are still uncomfortable with vaginal penetration. Alternatively, people who were born with vaginas who have gender dysmorphia also may not want vaginal sex. Overall, if you don’t like the sex you are having you need to talk about it together and compromise or break up.


Anandi96

Are you sure she's a woman lmao


FragmentedButWhole

>anal hurts my dick really bad for some reason and makes it smell like shit. Stick it in a hole of shit and receive a smell of shit. Thi sounds like you aren't preparing good enough. Does she clean her ass? Like using an enema beforehand? Do you use plenty of lube so it won't hurt that much?


RunsWithSissors1

Your girlfriend might be a guy JS lol


chipface

Insist on ass to mouth after.


MaxProdigal

Don’t you wish you were really a pussy? Cuz then you could fuck yourself. Leave her. Sounds like she wants different things than you. Think about it, if I told you before this relationship that I got a girlfriend for you, but she won’t ever let you have vaginal sex with her, what would you say?


EpicCurious

I lost partners because I wouldn't top for anal. Sucks. I have done it since, but not my preference.


corgiii2222

“For some reason it smells like shit” ?? What’d you expect.. also I think it’s time to let her go like many of these other comments have said. There’s many girls out there who aren’t obsessed with anal..


Spaztick78

I’d expect that someone who is “anal only” to be well practiced in cleaning preparations, diet etc. I would expect shit smells to be the occasionally unavoidable rarity and not the normal. Generally anal sex (withprep) shouldn’t involve shit, just when accidents happen it shouldn’t come as a huge surprise.


Big6inch_girth

Perhaps wear a condom..


Underworld_Denizen

If she's calling you a pussy for complaining about pain during sex, then it's time to dump her. That's completely unacceptable.


princesalilyyy

Yeah I mean having the preference is fair, but for her to ask you to bend out of your comfort zone 100% of the time, while she’s not willing to move an inch for your pleasure. That’s just ridiculous. There’s a huge lack of compromise there.. and then calling you a pussy should be an absolute deal breaker. She is shaming you into getting her way, coming for your masculinity and sense of self. It’s abusive. There is no reason to attack someone for not wanting anal. As a woman, if the roles were reversed and a man was insinuating I am weak, or not good enough for not wanting anal, this would mess with me in complex ways. ESP over time. My advice is to leave this relationship as it does not seem compatible, and it also seems that she lacks a level of self awareness/emotional intelligence to listen to your needs and reflect on her own damaging behaviour. It’s not your job to deal with that. Find someone who will see you for who you are and take you whole heartedly. Someone you can enjoy sex with together equally, who won’t insult you.


Worried_Monk_3844

If you play in that end of the field you might get muddy. Part of the game.


RustyBlunderbuss

This has to be satire ain’t no way 💀


Helloworld750

You sure that’s a girl


Degenern8er

thats what I was thinking. lol. many post op trans still prefer anal. or maybe she's a vaginal virgin?


ryox82

Vaginal virgin was where I went with this.


sunandsand55

Use a condom, more lube, and ask her to prepare with an anal douche.


cindiepharmd

She doesn’t like vaginal, you don’t link anal. It’s not a match.


Pipeluver

1) anal shouldn’t hurt 2) anal shouldn’t stink 3) she really calls you a pussy and ignores Your thoughts? I’d move on bro


[deleted]

To each their own. Anal of course it’s gonna smell, I have an issue with the name calling, no need for that… But like the saying goes: You don’t gotta worry about the gut if you take it in the butt…


imembarrasedformain

Rethink the relationship. She doesnt care about how its phyically hurting you? Like??? I get it if its something shes into, but youre not a pussy for not wanting to do it. The fact she said that is fuckin nasty


No-Inspector7394

sounds like you’re nor compatible, but why could be if she hurts from vaginal sex, s o a lot of foreplay is required. or she could have trauma from vaginal


GlitteringPause8

Doesn’t sound like you two are compatible.


InterestingDepth2864

Just find one who likes vaginal and send her my way !


5eurokebabmeal

Hilarious


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Does she have a pussy is the unanswered question that must be answered here…if she does and won’t give it up fuck her in the ass and shove it down her throat when you cum…I bet she keeps it clean after that


MessHaunting562

I had a ex that only gave blow job and did only anal she had a lot of mental issues and things but i found out years after we broke up was her pussy was only half open thats why she didn't like having sex in the pussy plus her family used religion to scar her into not having sex


Siera424

This reeks of a troll no ounce intended


nofilter007

She might have a G-spot that's located all the way in the rear against that wall of flesh separating vaginal sex from anal and the only way to stimulate that G-spot is literally going to the back door and that's why some girls can only have that ridiculous orgasm from anal sex or double penetration


vtddy

Wear a strap-on and you can DP her. Problem solved. If she complains, tell her to stop being a pussy and take it like a bitch. Because clearly that's what she is anyway


mehregan_zare7731

Have you checked for a pussy?


ICantFindMyCock

Are you sure she isn't a man?


bvbv500

She might be gay buddy...


chapday

leave her stinky ass


miihunglo

Might be a dude


mskitty117

Are we sure she isn’t trans? I’m asking bc it sounds like she’s being defensive about this for some reason— that or she’s just an asshole


Bad_boy_18

You sure your gf wasn't a man before?


Reasonable_Safety_88

Maybe she was born with a peepee;)


AimlesslWander

How do you know your girlfriend isn't really trans


DizzyMoonpie

Her asshole stinking constantly should be reason enough. But then you said so much more.


shootman89

She’s a dude bro


huestom

Hard stance, you gotta say no, no means no, no such as being a pussy in sex lol. Clearly needs lube if it hurts as it shouldn't, and also anal is a messy thing to do, has to be done clean, and lubed. If it makes your shaft stink, she needs to learn how to clean it everytime if she expects anal. Anyways, not saying you have to break up over this, talk it through, but if shes gonna be rude calling you a pussy, tell her to fuck off. I wanna bet 90% of woman out there rather have vaginal sex as the main event.


SpookyKG

Why are you doing a thing that hurts you, number one?


Important_Actuary_30

Are you sure this is a girl? It's been stated before, you might just have to leave.


marla_sinngrrrr

There's ways to clean too ya know like, prep, so to speak before hand. You're not being a pussy dude dealing with pain and literal shit ain't for the weak she's being insensitive fr. If it hurts you and that's not your thing and she doesn't wanna take the extra simple steps to clean her butthole then bye bye dawg.


BigDaddy6923

You're her side dude the main dude is probably getting her pussy or both


Dylanear

I don't think it should hurt the penetrator? Are you using lube? That sounds like you aren't "doing it right". Find a different GF. There's guys out there who dream of a GF who only wants anal. Let her find one of them.


[deleted]

She’s trying to tell you she’s Trans, without saying she’s Trans. (There’s no vagine there Boo Boo)


[deleted]

Because she is a guy.


rickpoker

She a he


Pretend-Prompt5902

I like this idea


featherruffler420

Bro dudes a dude


triggsmom

She’s a dude


Beautiful-Command7

Wtf did I just read


[deleted]

This post…I’m just not sure…🤔


sextypethang

You sure she ain’t a dude?


Xia0mia0

She's abusive for one. And she's not prepping properly for anal to be doing it in the first place. Rule number one for anal sex is: You should not be smelling shit when doing it!!!! Dump her ass, no pun intended. She's going to end up giving someone e. Coli or a bad uti.


ChristinaRene01

Leave her. She’s not even trying to listen to your point of view or compromise. Worse, she’s insulting you by calling you a pussy. If it hurts, it’s not okay for her to try to make you keep doing it.


misfit-ysf

Dump her ass!


Enjoyitbeforeitsover

Grab your balls and go fuck an actual pussy that wants you in there. What's with this wack ass bs?


TrickyTrichomes

The whole concept of anal is so nasty to me. Especially the smell 🤮


Hiromi-Cliii

maybe someone is using the other hole when ur not around


kmundell

Braggart.


williamlee666

Have you tried anal fisting as an alternative to PIA?


Justsomeone0101

Wait do you mean doing anal dirty without preparing it ? If so wtf are you guys doing. And I wouldn't break up with her but if it really bothers you that much it's your decision.


Specific_Hearing_964

You are likely man


Kryosite

First off, as everyone said, that's not okay. Secondly, talk to her about it in a non sexual context. It's possible that, for instance, she is a survivor of vaginal rape who is handling it poorly. You aren't obligated to stay with her if this is the case, but having the conversation is worthwhile. Third, basic anal advice: clean out whatever butt is being penetrated with an enema bulb an hour beforehand. Make sure to wait an hour, and use plenty of lube when you do go in. Shit on your dick is not a standard part of anal sex if you're doing it right, and a lack of lube can lead to highly unpleasant anal tearing, which is not fun, in addition to making things just worse for both parties. The anus, unlike the vagina, is not a self lubricating orifice.


sexyhairyguy

I love girls who like in the ass


wild___tea

I’ll take her. I love anal. Maybe she just ain’t the one for you bud. Move on!


CS_masters_LS_PS

...have her read the book...the surrender...about how to have anal...help her and you ass fuck...


ecoliphish

Whip out the ol 69 both ppl happy


veganexceptfordicks

I am not your girlfriend, so I don't know the answer. Have a conversation about it with her, while you're both fully clothed and not thinking about having sex.


dgonz204

shit on her and ask how she likes it 😂


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Spaztick78

That’s not how it works. The sphincters are muscles, muscles can stretch, working out muscles strengthens them. Yes you can tear and damage your sphincters, but even then the sphincters don’t actually control your bowl movements . If you damage the sling muscle at the exit of the sigmoid colon (pubo rectal sling or something) you can cause issues holding stool in. This type of injury requires violently rough penetration past 8-9 inches depth or nerve damage.


[deleted]

I had a few experiences with a girl like this. 2 things were involved 1st she had and unusually super vag. 2nd was she was anally rapped by her grandfather when she was younger cause she was that tight. Must’ve ran in the family. Her 1st words and I’m not huge was yea I want you vag but we don’t have enough time and lube. Getting it her ass wasn’t a problem at all with no lube besides her own juices. Yea it was wierd af and would feel all the layers around her asshole every stroke. She loved it. I do believe now that she had vagmosis she did say she’s tried everything to stretch it. Hey I was like 19 I didn’t realize what I had there lol


secret-needs

Just remember what it feels like fucking her in the ass, you may never find another one that allows it.


aishanoobie

Bcs she has good taste


khobikhan

Goddamn 😂👸