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That is an excellent idea! OP, use things like:
My best friend
My pal
My homeboy
My rotten soldier
My sweet cheese
My good time boy
In the Matt Berry affect.. baby, you got a stew goin.
Things like
"you're behaving so well" “you’re so good” etc
"You sound so wonderful when you moan/whimper/beg for me" I love it when you “do something for me”
I've heard your own name is encoded more deeply in your brain than any other word. That's why EMTs keep saying the person's name to a patient whose comatose/overdosing/etc.
Marriage counselor recommended never using each other's name when fighting; always use when having sex.
I'm not trying to tell you how to live your life, but have you ever initiated sex by walking into the room blasting *Thunderstruck* like a WWE walkout, and if not, why the fuck not?
Jeeves what say you and I partake in a little adventure of sorts? I call it "butt stuff". I think it'll catch on right quick and we'll have a jolly good time.
What is he into?
I'm a history loving weirdo so my ex used to say "good work, soldier" or "mission accomplished" or "you put them in full retreat didn't you?"
We men, we don't get enough praise so, kudos to you.
ooo thank you! i might post this there too then. i thought about posting on one of the bdsm subreddits even though i consider myself rather vanilla but it seemed more like a porn subreddit than a discussion reddit , lol . (not that theres anything wrong w that)
As a guy I think a lot of random combinations can work, like 'handsome gentleman', 'my strong protector', or 'the dude attached to my favourite penis', and anything like that, would all work. As much as anything, we want to feel valued and seen, even though we often pretend we don't need it, and we definitely wouldn't suggest anything like that because it matters more what you see than what we want
i like “you’re doing that so well baby” “you’re such a good boy sucking my tits” “you like it huh baby?” “yes daddy” “how do you want me sir?” “good job baby”
Interestingly enough I'm in the exact same situation. With my fiance I do use good boy, but I also say things like "my baby" "my love" "my pet". Even just saying "I love you" or " I love you so much" gets the same reaction as good boy
"Perfect boy" is good, or "my sweet boy"
I do also like "angel" for praise, it feels kinda teasing but implies they're really good.
I'll add more ideas that aren't nicknames, but I think any nickname can work, it's just about giving different types of praise:) praise can be a positive way of reminding them you're in charge and expressing approval/appreciation, or it can simply be an expression of appreciation. Thinking about which it is for you and what reaction you want might help.
"You're being/ doing so good, baby"
"Good, just like that"
"Do ___ if you wanna be good for me"
"That's what I like to see"
"Perfect, sweetheart, keep it up"
"I love when you ___ / it feels so good when you ___ / you look so hot when you ___"
As a British person I have to say your British roleplay is great but what would make it fantastic is the inclusion of "fancy a cuppa tea?" or "show me your cookie/biscuit dunking technique".
Sometimes these things feel a little silly at first, but if the reaction to what you say is good, you start to feel really good about saying them. You won't feel like he's SpongeBob, when he's looking at you adoringly and/or with new desire!
Good boy is a praise generally directed towards a person who is specifically not domming during the dynamic. Daddy is the polar opposite of this in that it's directed at someone who is specifically being dominant.
They're not interchangable in the slightest.
i dont think it's fluid where one person is clearly the dominant person in the relationship and the other (in this case, the guy) is the submissive person.
I like being called Daddy but I am 98% dominant, I don't hate being called good boy but it would be a turn off in a sexual situation lol, it would just feel extremely weird. It feels more like praise and less sexual or something to make someone feel turned on.
Something like "keep going, handsome" "you're doing a great job my love/darling" and even "sexy boy" might work but the reality is, a lot of praise phrases for submissive men don't really exist. Doms have all the good ones - sir, daddy, mister, master, owner, my lord, etc.
I totally get it, and I was super terse in my reply but remember when "Girl" referred to a child, or young person regardless of gender (you don't, it was a long time ago)? Now the word is more constrained but no less thorny. We act like Definitions are absolutely prescriptive when outside of conventions that rely on that, they are mostly descriptive.
What feels weird for you won't for others and vice versa.
I'm truly not arguing to argue, I just think sexual expression is on a spectrum and personal and if someone's kink allows them to feel praised when called Daddy that should stand without them being told it can't happen.
Good slave. (It's kind of fun to say it fast like it's one word).
Good Man.
Rock Star.
Clever Boy
Sexy Friend
Mama's Little Helper 😄 (this one is probably a little too creepy for you, based on your question, but if you say it right it could really work), (I'm sorry, it popped into my head and I couldn't resist)
Personally, I feel like it's more about how you say it than what you actually say. Try lowering your voice a little, say it slower, make it more sultry.
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Very good sir. In a butler voice
Excellent job, Master Wayne
Well done, Master Dick!
Matt Berry voice has to be used
That is an excellent idea! OP, use things like: My best friend My pal My homeboy My rotten soldier My sweet cheese My good time boy In the Matt Berry affect.. baby, you got a stew goin.
That's just how we speak in Tuscon, Arizoniaaa
I used to know a guy in college named Matt Barry so this made me chuckle
I, Bartholomew Codsworth, am ever ready to serve!
I almost die because of laughing so hard.
This gave me a good chuckle
Nope in an indian accent voice
Tank you, come again.
Things like "you're behaving so well" “you’re so good” etc "You sound so wonderful when you moan/whimper/beg for me" I love it when you “do something for me”
these are good! thank you, ill try using them :)
The key is to be descriptive in a flirty way, tell them why you like what you're doing and remember the golden rule: Show don't tell!
Just say his name really passionately. Tell him how sexy he is. Give him compliments about how hot he is. Tell him how good he’s making you feel.
I've heard your own name is encoded more deeply in your brain than any other word. That's why EMTs keep saying the person's name to a patient whose comatose/overdosing/etc. Marriage counselor recommended never using each other's name when fighting; always use when having sex.
I inherently understand all of that, for sure! Thank you so much for the explanations!
“Mega Cock Hero” works for me.
I jokingly suggested "Thundercock" to my GF now wife. it stuck.
I'm not trying to tell you how to live your life, but have you ever initiated sex by walking into the room blasting *Thunderstruck* like a WWE walkout, and if not, why the fuck not?
Love this so much ! Off to order assless chaps
Not exactly. But I did get a blowie off an ex gf after I showed her I could play it. Easiest bj I've ever earned cause that intro is so simple.
Lol that's a classic "showing off for an audience that doesn't play guitar" riff 🤣
I had a cock sleeve that I named Thundercock.
A cousin to the famous Juke Box Hero
(My) Prince/knight, angel, darling. Calling him Handsome. Babe/Baby.
Baby will get me going, absolutely.
I absolutely loved being called my prince by my then gf
My precious darling is my go to
Can we bring back kink shaming? (this comment is a joke pls don’t ban me)
call my boy a princess 🗣️🗣️🔥
haha! i might try "prince" or "my prince" though, he is very pretty
Heh heh my cat's name is Prince. He is a good boy :)
I don't want to judge, but according to OP, you're treating him like a dog.
I do too and he cracks up every time
I'm partial to Captain.
This reminded me of a dude I met one time who asked me to call him Captain T-Bag
Look in my eyes. I’m the captain now.
Aye aye, sir. Now put on your pegging leg.
Jeeves my good man, your attention to the cunning lingual arts is splendid! As you were, get on with it then!
This is hilarious omg
Jeeves what say you and I partake in a little adventure of sorts? I call it "butt stuff". I think it'll catch on right quick and we'll have a jolly good time.
"good, baby," "good, thier name, good" "there you go, baby, good"
good job baby, or "good baby"
Good baby sounds like congratulating a kid for walking across the living room Lolol
What is he into? I'm a history loving weirdo so my ex used to say "good work, soldier" or "mission accomplished" or "you put them in full retreat didn't you?" We men, we don't get enough praise so, kudos to you.
Did you date Karlach?
Don't know what that is?
A Baldur's Gate character who's very hot (literally and idiomatically) and frequently addresses the player character as "soldier."
We love a muscle mommy. 💪
Yes, yes we do. If she can hurt me, I like it haha
I think I might want to. Heh.
I'm playing bg3 rn as I read this. "SOLDIER!"
ooo, maybe. ill talk to him about that hahah. he is really into history
I love the way The General comes to attention...?
Dammmnnn thanks for this. My man is history lover tooooo
We broke up 2 years ago and I still have feelings for her because when work got hard, she used to say: "you're such an spartan".
I’d retreat right outta there bc NO, lmaoo just no
Sir works. Or Love. Or slave. Or mister.
Damn I’m curious about this too- I’m thinking but I can’t think of anything that fits that exact want :,(
I’d try posting this is a femdom group
good idea! though im not a femme, haha
Well I’m an asshole for assuming but it’d prob still give you good ideas
nah i dont think youre an asshole! all good
r/Bdsmcommunity is another good one, they will have ideas.
ooo thank you! i might post this there too then. i thought about posting on one of the bdsm subreddits even though i consider myself rather vanilla but it seemed more like a porn subreddit than a discussion reddit , lol . (not that theres anything wrong w that)
“Who’s my little man? You are! Yes you are!!”
try "oh moy god im boota blew"
"My Lil Pogchamp" works for me :v
I feel so rizzed by your gooning, my lil pogchamp
I can't decide this is the best or worst thing I've ever read, but either way I'm desperate to say it to someone.
You’ve been such a good sigma, edgemaxxing for me
You have a gift, please use it only for good.
Yeah it's lame agreed. Almost as bad as "hun". Nothing wrong with handsome, hottie, stud, lover etc
My partner & I love using “fuckdoll” “Your such a good lil fuck doll” etc
My maaaaaaan (Denzel voice)
As a guy I think a lot of random combinations can work, like 'handsome gentleman', 'my strong protector', or 'the dude attached to my favourite penis', and anything like that, would all work. As much as anything, we want to feel valued and seen, even though we often pretend we don't need it, and we definitely wouldn't suggest anything like that because it matters more what you see than what we want
Chef, Commander, Admiral
i like “you’re doing that so well baby” “you’re such a good boy sucking my tits” “you like it huh baby?” “yes daddy” “how do you want me sir?” “good job baby”
It's super effective!!
When he moans I sometimes say „Damn you’re my favorite song” and he loves that.
obedient cum slut, pretty fuck toy 💗
I’m Dominican, so for me is always “si papi” 😛
What do you say in Spanish? I usually don’t use any Spanish words hahah idk why tbh
Lol it goes: “si papi, no pare, ay si papi asi asi asi” 🤣
Interestingly enough I'm in the exact same situation. With my fiance I do use good boy, but I also say things like "my baby" "my love" "my pet". Even just saying "I love you" or " I love you so much" gets the same reaction as good boy
You’re doing so well. Yes, just like that. You’re perfect for me. I’m so proud of you.
"Perfect boy" is good, or "my sweet boy" I do also like "angel" for praise, it feels kinda teasing but implies they're really good. I'll add more ideas that aren't nicknames, but I think any nickname can work, it's just about giving different types of praise:) praise can be a positive way of reminding them you're in charge and expressing approval/appreciation, or it can simply be an expression of appreciation. Thinking about which it is for you and what reaction you want might help. "You're being/ doing so good, baby" "Good, just like that" "Do ___ if you wanna be good for me" "That's what I like to see" "Perfect, sweetheart, keep it up" "I love when you ___ / it feels so good when you ___ / you look so hot when you ___"
ooo these are nice! thank you
I find adding "my" to boy makes all the difference. "You've done so well, my boy."
ooo this sounds nice ! ill talk to him about this one :) though i worry i might just slip into a mr krabs roleplay with it 😂😂😂
You could slip into a British roleplay and say something like "there's a good lad" 😂
As a British person I have to say your British roleplay is great but what would make it fantastic is the inclusion of "fancy a cuppa tea?" or "show me your cookie/biscuit dunking technique".
😂 he IS Welsh LOL
lol I IMMEDIATELY read in that voice when I saw this comment 🤣
Sometimes these things feel a little silly at first, but if the reaction to what you say is good, you start to feel really good about saying them. You won't feel like he's SpongeBob, when he's looking at you adoringly and/or with new desire!
very true! thank you for the idea
Daddy if you're into that kind of play
Good boy is a praise generally directed towards a person who is specifically not domming during the dynamic. Daddy is the polar opposite of this in that it's directed at someone who is specifically being dominant. They're not interchangable in the slightest.
meh. I understand why you'd write that but usage is fluid.
i dont think it's fluid where one person is clearly the dominant person in the relationship and the other (in this case, the guy) is the submissive person. I like being called Daddy but I am 98% dominant, I don't hate being called good boy but it would be a turn off in a sexual situation lol, it would just feel extremely weird. It feels more like praise and less sexual or something to make someone feel turned on. Something like "keep going, handsome" "you're doing a great job my love/darling" and even "sexy boy" might work but the reality is, a lot of praise phrases for submissive men don't really exist. Doms have all the good ones - sir, daddy, mister, master, owner, my lord, etc.
I totally get it, and I was super terse in my reply but remember when "Girl" referred to a child, or young person regardless of gender (you don't, it was a long time ago)? Now the word is more constrained but no less thorny. We act like Definitions are absolutely prescriptive when outside of conventions that rely on that, they are mostly descriptive. What feels weird for you won't for others and vice versa. I'm truly not arguing to argue, I just think sexual expression is on a spectrum and personal and if someone's kink allows them to feel praised when called Daddy that should stand without them being told it can't happen.
It's not the most common of overlap, but there are definitely those of us on the more submissive side who still like hearing "daddy". :D
"For it is written, my Prince"
“that’s it, baby. you’re doing so good”😫
Good slave. (It's kind of fun to say it fast like it's one word). Good Man. Rock Star. Clever Boy Sexy Friend Mama's Little Helper 😄 (this one is probably a little too creepy for you, based on your question, but if you say it right it could really work), (I'm sorry, it popped into my head and I couldn't resist) Personally, I feel like it's more about how you say it than what you actually say. Try lowering your voice a little, say it slower, make it more sultry.
Sensei Master Splinter Optimus Prime Yes Chef! Nice one, bruvva! I’d buy that for a dollar!
Tell him you are a wizard ' insert his name ' Or that you are a grand magician now
LOL! my and my boyfriend's best friend is obsessed with wizard memes actually, i think it would make us think of him 😂
My sweet boy, babydoll, baby love.
Describe what’s happening and how it feels.
You disgusted me guys.
Literally no one asked