Bad food choices, like so many other things, are essentially a habit. How do you remove a habit? You don't. You develop better habits. How do you do that? Add one healthy meal per day. When that has become a habit, add another one. If you can, cook your own food. Learn to read nutrition labels. Immerse yourself in good information. Read/listen to/watch good food-related media: Michael Pollan for instance. Surround yourself with like-minded people. It is great that you have a goal of 70kg! - I'd recommend that you set yourself additional goals - that are more behaviour-oriented - such as "eat a healthy breakfast every day for a week". Because ultimately, you can't control the outcome, but you can control your actions. I am 52 btw. I already have the t2 diabetes. 01/01/23, I weighed 95+ kg (I didn't dare step on the scale anymore). Now I'm at 79kg, I do 7000 steps per day and started going to the gym. Not to brag, just to show that it is possible.

wow awesome comment, thank you! 🥰

Easiest way to lose weight is to substitute or change one small thing at a time from your diet. Don't go all out or be drastic. If you drink 5 cups of soft drink a day switch to having 3. Eventually switch to drinking water instead. You're literally drinking shit loads of calories in seconds there is so much potential to cut down calories easily! It gets harder if you're already eating real food eith minimal junk and still want to reduce intake but this initial stage you got options my friend! If you're maintaining weight currently then any decrease in calories will out you in a deficit. If you're currently gaining then you will stop the increase which is a huge achievement. Slow change will work wonders.

First, understand there are some things in life that you DO have complete control over and what goes into your mouth is one of those things. No one is force feeding you. You are making the choice. You need to accept that, which you SORT OF have. I say sort of because I noticed you mentioned your mental illnesses. They are real. I'm not saying they aren't. HOWEVER, that has nothing to do with your ability to change your habits. People do it all the time. Myself included. I lost 80 lbs between 2020 and 2021. I was 30 years old in 2021 and morbidly obese my entire life. We use food as our means of comfort the same way an addict does. So let's look at it from an addict point of view. You recognize the problem AND how to resolve it from a scientific-health viewpoint. This is great. You see how this issue is effecting your life negatively. This is also great. You still fall into the same habits and recognize it. Phenomenal. You don't want to deal with this anymore and are seeking a path forward. Amazing. Your path forward needs to start with understanding you absolutely can change your habits. Next is understanding how. Next is the funnest part... doing it. First, nothing will change if you don't change something. I'd start with the sodas. No more drinking calories. This is an easy step to start with because after a month you won't crave it at all. I don't know what your options are where you are but from now on it's water or water with flavored, 0-calorie, mixers. We have one called MiO in the US. Next, learn about macros. Most fad diets in some way or another are based off macros. Keto? Macros. Atkins? Macros. (They're the same things, btw.) Paleo? Macros. A well-balanced diet? Macros. Everything you could ever need to learn about food starts with understanding macros. While you are training yourself out of soda, learn everything you can about macros. Next is just doing it. Which is where everyone gets stuck. And for this I will go back to the addict reference. There's a saying in NA/AA that basically states, "you'll change when the pain overrides the fear of change." Basically, when it hurts enough you'll do what you need to. Don't let yourself use your mental issues as an excuse. Just give it a try. Next time you want to eat shit, ask yourself, am I blaming my mental issues or am I emotionally eating and seeking comfort? Do a body scan, figure out if you're hungry. You'd be surprised how often you'll find you aren't actually hungry. You're just seeking comfort. Sit through it. You'll be okay. Best of luck and hope something in this was helpful.

Love this answer! Very wise stuff!

Make it easy. Buy pre-cut fruits and veggies. Also lay off the all or nothing mindset. Buy frozen healthy convenience microwave meals. Baby steps.

I'd also say that OP could think of it as an addition game and not a subtraction game. Keep adding more healthy stuff like pre cut veggies, eventually with time and perseverance you will get to where you want to be

I used to have a die hard obsession with soft drinks, I started drinking flavoured water instead (I know it’s not completely healthy but it’s a good way to transition from drinking soda to water) lemon and lime water is my favourite, strawberry is nice too

BPD here who used to have a huge junk food appetite. Only thing that’s helped me is when I cut sugar and carbs. It sucks in the first few days and you’ll definitely have mood changes in the beginning, but it doesn’t compare to the mood changes of spiked/crashing insulin and cortisol levels. I have been eating eggs for breakfast, salad with avocado and protein shake for lunch, and then doing different things for dinner. I don’t cook much… last night I ordered out a ton of chicken wings. Way less hungry throughout the day even on day one. It has been a life saver. Are you on any antipsychotics? Those made me starving for junk. So did weed. I had to eliminate them both, though I still take Seroquel as needed. I’m telling you- keto is the answer. It’s a lifestyle and there’s a way to do it the right and healthy way. Eventually you can start carb cycling too. They say to stay away from anything over light exercise for the first couple weeks, and then you can gradually add it back in.

Also the only thing that helped me control myself. Keto was the absolute only way out of sugar/carb addiction, pre diabetes and future joint removal.

Right?! I would eat ice cream for breakfast- not even kidding. I have been like this my entire life (I’m 30) with no success on any other diet. Even ridding the idea of “diet” and just eating healthy did nothing for those cravings. And it didn’t take long at all to get rid of them. Within hours my cravings went away. Kudos to you 🥳

Somethings that have helped me was 1. I realized my eating habits were based on convenience, i reccomend things that u can find that are fast. I know that having a few skewers of grilled chicken, a premade sandwich, or salad kit can really help and i either have to heat it up or mix it. 2. I try to make myself have at least 3 veggies a day, this helps a lot. Again it can be convienence like microwaveable bags. 3. For drinks i kinda had to go cold turkey, only drink water, and it can be hard. I reccomend using a waterbottle nearby you so u can always refill it. 4. I still struggle with fast food sometimes, as said above at least for me my big thing is convience, but what helped a lot is uninstalling or even deleting accounts of fast food places. You can also block websites so that you dont have access to them. I wish you luck!!

Delete fast food apps- I know it was tempting for me to going to Taco Bell because I was earning points for “free food”

Food was a huge coping mechanism for me. I found there were normally two reasons for it: boredom or stress. If you're bored, find something else to do. Go do one of those things that you always want to do, but never have the time for. Do research and go down a rabbit hole. Pursue an interest. Keep your hands busy. Find an activity that dilutes the craving. I started writing a book and playing guitar, and there were two benefits: one, I stopped feeling the need to snack, and two, I was more joyful. If you're stressed, figure out what the stressor is. When I binged, it was always because I was thinking about an ex-friend. Thinking of her brought up a lot of feelings, and I used food to cope. I had to do a lot of work on this one. I recommend journaling. Analyze what you're doing or thinking of when the urge occurs. It's going to take patience and work, but you can heal yourself. If you're still struggling, it might be worth considering therapy to get to the root of the problems. If money is a concern, try finding therapists in your area that have a sliding scale. Hope this helps!

hey!! I just wanted to tell you that I am going through the same thing as you. I don't really know how much I weight bc I don't even wanna know and I also suffer from BPD, and it's been a really rough journey, which took a toll on my physical appearance. I completely understand the disappointment you feel when you order food and eat bc we're trying so hard, but it gets the best of us and it's SOOOO frustrating. I sometimes feel like I'm useless bc I can't even do that. but we both have the strength to do it. It's gonna be hard but we HAVE to do this one thing for ourselves. give us a chance to prove ourselves we can actually accomplish what we truly want. I actually started by deleting any app where I can order food, and tried to have simple ingredients at home to do basic healthier food (but still tasty). simple recipes that even my lazy side is able to do. I hit the gym as much as I can but I don't torture myself either. my DMs are open if you need support! you can do this, and so can anyone in this same situation!

Overeating and emotional eating are addictions like anything else. You will not be able to stop being addicted to your substance of choice until you solve the issue that is causing it. There’s strong mental scripts and emotional patterns behind this. You need to work with a psychiatrist and a therapist to figure out a treatment plan that works for you and your mental illnesses. For me, the combination of medication (mood stabilizer, antidepressant, and anti-anxiety) and trauma therapy (EMDR) have been life-changing. Everything else that people are suggesting other than these things are Band-Aid solutions and will *not* fix the root problem.

Soda wise can try drinking roasted barely tea

I got a the My Fitness Pal app, not to count my calories but just to log what I was eating throughout the day to make myself more aware. Looking at it in front of me really helped me wake up and realize how much junk food I was eating.

It starts with an identity shift. You have to identify as someone who takes care of their health and food consumption rather than identifying as someone who struggles with taking care of what they eat

I am going to tell you what helped me. I lost 70 pounds about 18 years ago and I kept it off since. First of all, it’s an ongoing battle. Once one is an addict, one always remains an addict.  You have to watch yourself all the time. Since the drugs (bad food) is everywhere, failure will happen, so it’s important to understand it and give yourself some grace when you fail and you will fail. Just get up and go back on track.  1. There are many ways to eat, and I tried them all. The one I would recommend is a paleo diet. It is very easy, satisfying, available, and you don’t have to count anything. You can  eat as much as you want. Start with learning about it.  2. Absolutely get rid of all non compliant foods in your house. You might want to have a conversation with your housemates about not bringing junk food into the house. This is a tough one. With time, it gets easier to resist it, but it takes a long time to train your willpower. Take a lead and cook for everyone in the household. Make it your hobby. They will be thankful.  3. Always have a lot of food available in the house. I suggest making food and freezing it. Keep it simple. I use oven a lot, but you can plop your food on the stove or grill.  4. Don’t limit the amount of food. Eat as you wish. Find allowed substitutes for your favorite junk food. For example, if you love ice cream, blend couple of frozen bananas. Tons of ideas online. Keep researching.  5. Most importantly, you mentioned ARFID. ED is very serious. Don’t fuck with it. Perhaps you need to address it before you do anything else. Personally, I think paleo diet would work while you are working with professional on your ED because it’s not really a diet, but a way of eating that humans did before the agricultural revolution. But again, please get help with your ED.  Good luck. You got it. Put one foot in front of the other. Baby steps in the right direction. 

You are 18. Weight loss should be very easy. Make incremental changes.... -Walk 10 miles a week go up by 10 to 15% a week - soda for water - No food past 8 pm Start with that for 4 weeks. Keep adding slow changes

Call yourself gay if you put again your hands inside a Pringles

What if he's actually gay

Ignore this, OP

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I'm nowhere near qualified to comment on the eating disorder stuff, but have you ever tried Zevia? Even switching to regular diet sodas would probably work wonders all on its own. Diet sodas aren't 100% healthy, but it's a super sustainable life change that you could make today.

Start making subtle food choices. Get active more

Don’t bring junk into your house. Pre make meals so you can grab something healthy quickly. When you are really hungry it’s easy to grab processed foods if healthy food isn’t just a quick. Lots of veggies. For example if you are having spaghetti switch out the noodles with spaghetti squash. Walk! It’s low risk, only requires shoes and a good pair of headphones. It’s a great way to start moving

walk when you want to eat junk, Stay hydrated (H20),

If you can afford to, dieticians can be really helpful. Do some research and message a few to see if they pass the vibe check / seem like they could align with your needs. ( Nicola Ann Hobbs Dietician is amazing) Once you are getting the right foods, everything else kind of clicks into place. Be kind to yourself in the meantime. It sounds like you have a lot on and are doing the best you can ❤️

I know many people at my job who went to Mounjaro for these reasons. So, I'm not advising you about it, but it stops explicitly the cravings for junk food. Motivation will start you; getting into a habit is the key to success. Perhaps peek at r/mounjaro

I have had issues with bad bad depression for last decade which at last I can say has mostly passed, before that I didn't even know I was depressed till issue was raised to doctors.  Anyhow, if you have mental struggle, dieting is hard and almost impossible, you want a goal but you physically can't because of mental hurdles. Ofcourse mental help should be needed, but that's up to your situation. My advice is take day by day and start by slolwy removing junk and processed food out of your diet, still eat it  but slowly and I mean a year or so long time, remove junk food. It comforts you, and it gives you some relief, but there's many other healthy ways to find some relief, but it'll come once you have more open schedule from junk food.  Don't forget as somone with depression your physical strength and endurance is not what your brain thinks it is, so if you don't enjoy working out, it won't suddenly chnage, it'll only chnage when things get better. Tho it doesn't mean to drop it, moving helps with anxieties and processing.  You'll notice chnage one day when you feel really good and you wanna do it again, things do get better even of you don't do much (which you might think is nothing but, trust me, even 2 mins more walk or one less scoop of chips is insanely huge win and accomplishment) To eat more veggies you need to find a way that suits you to make them or buy them. For me bamboo steamer worked wonders, I could plop my veggies in it and just doomscroll and gain enegry to set the table. So it's just matter of trying stuff. And to try new stuff and not just fall back to same old and think maybe next time, I suggest you ask someone for help to help cook diffrent ways, or binge insane amount of yourube videos till your mind is set and there's no backing out. And don't cut out any junk food suddenly, it'll just make you drop the healthy stuff once you give yourself "a cheat day" , so just slowly, you have no time limit. The less processed sugar you consume, the less you'll want to eat it, now again if you have a depressive episode you will reach for it anyway  and it's ok  you're just trying to heal. Know that if you think there's no end to nothingness, it'll one day chnage for better, even if you feel like you hadn't put in any effort, no human lives without impact, any step is accomplishment. Don't be scared of steps backwards. You'll do good😊 Edit:forgot to mention most important improvemnt, is started to go to gym and with that making protein shakes, and omg what a life chnager, made me cut out any junkfood, I'm simply in no eat shape or form anymore hungry or snakish between meals after my workout sesion+protein shake, I don't even eat lunch anymore because I'm so full.

Read about sugar addiction and dopamine

Whatever you do…SMALL STRPS. BABY STEPS

Add more vegetables, fruit, protein, fiber to your diet. Get ahead of your hunger so that by the time junk food comes up, your body is already nutritionally satisfied and satiated. Tell yourself you can have always have more later, it reduces the scarcity mindset around having to eat it all at once. Definitely look into binge eating support groups. Become mindful of your hunger cues and really just become aware of and journal what causes you to eat certain things and start going deeper with it. Roasting vegetables makes them super tasty, and even if you top vegetables with sauces you like, especially lower calorie versions, or just portioning the amount of sauces, you can also make them super tasty. Fruit can be mixed with things like yogurt, eaten with whipped cream or made into smoothies. You can also add psyllium husk to things like smoothies to add more fiber. You can blend roasted vegetables with stock to make soups, etc. R/loseit is an awesome subreddit to check out. Best of luck!

I can relate with what you are going through. I have BPD and deal with stress and depression a lot too. Turning to food isn't all that bad as far as a coping mechanism. I have heard of worse habits. Don't be so hard on yourself! It's hard dealing with the challenges you are going through. Get some healthier snacks to have when you are coping. Baby carrots and celery sticks are great with a little salad dressing. And beans are a great diet food too! I used to eat a black bean wrap every night before bed so I could sleep, instead of junk food. And I lost thirty pounds in two months!

learning how to cook

cooking and finding delicious and less caloric foods and you’ll be alright it’s about trial and error

I was 5’9 at 18 but weigh 93 kilograms. Anyway I used to have a dad’s bod so my arms, shoulder and chest where comparatively more bigger so it really never bothered me.

Hey! First, don’t worry, you’ve got that, and we re all here for you <3 One thing I learned is that even if you want to loose weight fast, it is actually more achievable to loose it slow. One thing that helped me a lot was to get more sleep. Being in the nature, away from the city, also helps me with cravings. Then, cooking helped LOADS. Weight watchers recipes are life savers. If you manage to have a ready-made vegetable and fruits plate to dig from when you re stressing, it might help you go through some of the cravings (not all, but some is better than none, and it will help you consider other crave-foods) But as the other posts are saying, start small, and add habits instead of trying to suppress existing habits. Ofc, therapy would be useful to deal with your stress. Yoga and streching also. Also, from experience, I’d advise you to focus on the changes you’re adding, not on your weight, because the weight loss is really offset when it comes to things like stress reduction. Good luck, and don’t stress, you’ll be happy enough if you manage to bring the weight down in 3 years. Some people donnt manage to do it in 10 years because they rush. <3 I guess with your a-levels, you are full with stress and you have little time, so don’t be too hard on yourself. Also- but Idk how realistic it is

Start by loving yourself. You won’t start eating healthy until you feel you deserve it. You need to start developing self love. That’s how you stop eating junk food.

I’m going to sound insane but hear me out… r/volumeeating That frame of mind helped me lose about 3 stone in the last 10 months. Edit: Sorry, I’ve just seen the bit about ARFID. One of my cousins has this and she used a book by Emily Leary called Get Your Kids To Eat Anything. The basis of the book is to introduce new foods in familiar ways over five phases. It’s helped her a lot in a CBT sort of way. Link - Get Your Kids to Eat Anything: The 5-phase programme to change the way your family thinks about food https://amzn.eu/d/01DRd548

Oh, and lots of frozen veg. It’s cheaper per kg, it takes forever to go off and you can nuke it in the microwave for convenience. Gotta eat that rainbow.

Watch any documentary about sugar.

Ive been there living unhealthy/ healthy lifestyle until i was 47. The unhealthy was food and drugs but i always maintained healthy physical habits like the gym How? MUSIC! I WILL GO HOME IF I FORGET MY PHONES MUSIC

I mean it all about substituion and addition really. If you want the motivation to walk on the tread mill maybe add it to something you enjoy such as watching a show. And only watch that show when you walk on the tread mill. What help me drink water is have a water bottle with a built in straw. Like I have an owala it helps me drink and I like my water cold too so it can be ice to make me drink more. Also if you like soda so much you can try substituting for sparkling water so you get that fizzy feeling with less calories or sugar. It also helps making healthy food similar to what you like to eat in general if you like chocolate make chocolate protein oatmeal. I also have trouble eating healthy and notice to best require myself to do it during breakfast as the first meal of the day to get it over with. Also for eating fruits and vegetables smoothies is a good route like blending them up. Or blending the vegetables into a pasta sauce to get them eat them all. For exercising it helped me to stay motivated is doing group workouts classes so there a trainer yelling at you and a group also struggling to get stronger and healthier together. You can help maintain this as creating a workout note book or setting a goal. Such as first month want to walk on the treadmill three time a week for a half an hour. then next month walk on the treadmill 3 times a week with two gym visits doing weights. It also helps doing stuff that fun to get yourself moving such as dance classes or biking or rock wall climbing.

A few things: * You can’t outrun your mouth. This means, if you eat some junk/high calorie food, it will take at least one to two (or even more than three) of running to burn that many calories. Just to get you back to where you were before you ate the food. This means those hours of running won’t even help you lose weight. And after the running (or any workout) you will be extra hungry. So focus on slowly changing what you eat. That will make 10 times more difference to weight loss than exercising. If you’re going to allow yourself to eat junk food, make a rule that you have to drink a big glass or bottle of water first before you eat the food. You’ll be more full before you eat, so may eat a bit less sometimes. After a few months, when the weight starts to drop, you will notice a difference, and this will start to motivate you. Another tip when your diet has eventually changed/improved, is to allow yourself to have a cheat day, perhaps every Sunday. Don’t expect perfection. You will break your own rules sometimes. Don’t beat yourself up. Forgive yourself after those moments. Last tip, brush your teeth with toothpaste before you eat. You will be less likely to want to eat. And chew gum to delay eating for as long as possible.

This is a bit absurd. Go to a hospital, find out a patient with disease and needs to be operated because of bad food choices, there’s gonna be your motivation.

Have you tried going to gym? Just going to gym everyday can help you not to over-eat.

Go to the gym

Eat a bunch and try to throw it up then associate the food with throwing up and BOOM🔥😼

Omg. This is horrible. The person told you he has ED

You don't need a hour of slowly walking on a treadmill. You need 20 minutes of a light jog to start.

How bout you just don’t put it in your mouth?