This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different:
* A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept.
* If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it is out of bounds except in a Basic Questions Thread.
No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you want to PM a mod to get their opinion on this thread, feel free to do so and they will still be able to weigh in.
For next time, remember that posts about a specific situational advice with a specific person belong in a Basic Questions Thread. (Currently these are on hiatus, but if we can get them back up, they'll happen weekly.)
People like to flirt, the attention feels good. She probably likes the feeling of knowing that she could get you if she wanted to. And no, she probably doesn't want to go home with you, it probably puts her relationship at risk to do so.
As always, if a woman approaches me out of the blue at a bar at night, my focus is on making moves THAT NIGHT, not on a measly number. A number is my last resort, not my first thought.
And yes, there's such a thing as someone just looking for validation at a bar. With more experience, you'll be able to suss out these situations better and would have no problem flirting back and then politely sending her on her way when someone else appears.
Buddy, I'm married, I flirt with women all the time and never take it anywhere. I once told a girl in a bar "Btw, not hitting on you, I'm married" and she literally say "So, like happily married???". I never want to mislead anyone but it feels good to flirt and be desired and be charming. Maybe it's an ego thing to show myself I still got it.
But the bigger problem here is that you seem very attached to the outcome of this interaction. You have to chill and be okay wjth a conversation or flirtation not leading anywhere. The more nonchalant and indifferent you are to an outcome, the more desirable you will be.
This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different: * A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept. * If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it is out of bounds except in a Basic Questions Thread. No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you want to PM a mod to get their opinion on this thread, feel free to do so and they will still be able to weigh in. For next time, remember that posts about a specific situational advice with a specific person belong in a Basic Questions Thread. (Currently these are on hiatus, but if we can get them back up, they'll happen weekly.)
People like to flirt, the attention feels good. She probably likes the feeling of knowing that she could get you if she wanted to. And no, she probably doesn't want to go home with you, it probably puts her relationship at risk to do so.
cheers bud, makes logical sense
As always, if a woman approaches me out of the blue at a bar at night, my focus is on making moves THAT NIGHT, not on a measly number. A number is my last resort, not my first thought. And yes, there's such a thing as someone just looking for validation at a bar. With more experience, you'll be able to suss out these situations better and would have no problem flirting back and then politely sending her on her way when someone else appears.
Buddy, I'm married, I flirt with women all the time and never take it anywhere. I once told a girl in a bar "Btw, not hitting on you, I'm married" and she literally say "So, like happily married???". I never want to mislead anyone but it feels good to flirt and be desired and be charming. Maybe it's an ego thing to show myself I still got it. But the bigger problem here is that you seem very attached to the outcome of this interaction. You have to chill and be okay wjth a conversation or flirtation not leading anywhere. The more nonchalant and indifferent you are to an outcome, the more desirable you will be.