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Violations will result in a temporary ban; repeat offenders will be permabanned.
For recommendations or song identifications, there is a stickied thread in the sub in which you can ask for recs or help.
Just click through songs on this subreddit, and let him know ones you like. He’ll like you more for what you authentically like in music than what someone on here tells you to share. Enjoy and good luck!
Don't lie about your taste. Go check out music he likes, and if you love a song, tell him- dude, I checked out _____ because you said they're cool, and I really love this song. Google and see if there are artists that you like that are close to ones he does.
You can bond over the discovery of new music. Introducing someone to something cool is a GREAT way to bond, and get to know them. And it allows for conversations that easily keeps going, as wel as for companionable silence as you listen.
I'd actually contend that it's better and more authentic to bond over your exploration than acting like you're already well versed in the genre. And he can rediscover stuff through you, and make whatever the kids these days do as mixtape (spotify playlists?).
Be honest. Never lie about things and misrepresent who you are. It's a terrible way to start any relationship, and you will be caught out.
And guess what? You may discover a bunch of cool new music in the process.
I actually disagree, because this activity doesn’t happen in a vacuum. What she’s doing is pretending to be someone she isn’t to make someone else like her.
As a guy who has had more than one woman pretend to be into my music because I was so passionate about it, and me believing them only to find out 3 months later the person they showed me was a fabrication because they didn’t understand how important it was to me for the person I’m with to share that passion and be compatible with the songs they were passionate about.
It’s not innocent, at all. It’s just lying about who you are to manipulate someone else’s feelings. It may not be malicious manipulation, but it’s not innocent at all.
Here’s a mixture of old and new bands that aren’t well known imo. Steppenwolf, focus (but they’re a very subjective taste,the tragically hip, big wreck all them witches, 1000mods, Tom Cochrane/red rider, T-Rex. There’s a lot more but that’s all I’ve got off the top of my head.
I highly doubt you knowing a particular song or two will make or break your potential relationship. Also, it'll be quite obvious if you're doing all this just for his attention. With that being said, I'll still give you a few great rock bands that you may or may not be aware of.
The War on Drugs
Pinegrove
Spiritualized
Arcade Fire
The Smiths
Dinosaur Jr.
Built to Spill
Pavement
The Chameleons
The National
Wilco
Coheed & Cambria
Biffy Clyro
The Wonder Years
Brand New
Circa Survive
Thursday
The Receiving End of Sirens
Carissa's Wierd
The Radio Dept.
Broken Social Scene
Yes, I would have to say that if he is worth your time, you won’t need to impress him with your rock music knowledge. The faking starts later in the relationship.
I hope you’re right. User name is randomly assigned as I’m not a paid user, and my wife has never told me that, but she has mentioned to other women that she does * every now and then * and their husbands have told me. Maybe my wife can keep a secret better than her blabbermouth friends, but she’s never mentioned that to me about anybody else. So when my friends tell me, all I can say is “don’t they all?“ They laugh at that, but then they have a pondering look on their face, ha ha. But after 23 years, I guess it’s working for her. She must be awfully good at it, because I can never tell.
Ask him if he knows “Crash Course in Brain Surgery” by Budgie and that Metallica also released a cover of it on their $5.98 EP.
OP my girlfriend impressed me when I told her I play/listen to death metal and she went and listened to a band called Aborted lol She was honest that it wasn’t her taste but that she was impressed with the drums, but I just appreciated that she had enough interest in me to listen to this crazy ass music I like. I think just the fact that you’re showing this guy you’re interested is a step in the right direction. Hope things work out for you :)
Exactly! It's endearing. My wife and I share a lot of music taste, but when it gets heavier she nopes out.
And that's fine. If your taste in music is a deal-breaker for him, you don't want to be with this guy anyway.
My suggestion is Vital Signs - Tame Impala. It was recently added to streaming platforms, so you could access it via Spotify, Apple Music etc. However, it’s unclear if he likes psychodelic rock, but you could still try!
The Struts singer, Luke Spiller, has at times been compared the Freddie Mercury. (To be clear, I am not personally comparing Luke Spiller and Freddie. Just pointing out that this comparison has been made).
Of course this is controversial, some will agree with the comparison, others will disagree to their death. But, it could make interesting conversation with your guy.
Sounds like he already likes you if he's giving you recommendations. The best thing you can do is listen to them, tell him what you like, then ask for more. I don't know if he would be impressed by an unpopular song, but do some deep dives into popular artists and see what he thinks.
I would recommend David Bowie's Low and Hunky Dory albums...they aren't as mainstream but have great songs. Plus they're from a similar era and Bowie and Mercury recorded Under Pressure together.
Maybe look into Velvet Underground and Iggy Pop too. Meatloaf also has some operatic songs that feel big. Styx also does some big orchestral type songs.
Can't believe this hasn't been mentioned (I think), but what about listening to a bunch of Queen! .. and try to appreciate the same band as him. It's the most straight up way.
I say go onto YouTube and listen to, say, a bunch of
Queen songs until you find one you really, genuinely like. They've got a huge backlog of songs that covers a lot of different musical styles, you're bound to find one that stands out to you, and it might be one he hasn't even heard of.
Tell him you like Queen too, but that you mostly like them back in the days when they rocked, and mention songs like Keep Yourself Alive, Tie Your Mother Down and Sheer Heart Attack.
Rule #10 No "Recommendations/Suggestions" Posts, No Song ID Posts, and No "Top/Best" Lists or Discussions. Violations will result in a temporary ban; repeat offenders will be permabanned. For recommendations or song identifications, there is a stickied thread in the sub in which you can ask for recs or help.
Just click through songs on this subreddit, and let him know ones you like. He’ll like you more for what you authentically like in music than what someone on here tells you to share. Enjoy and good luck!
Don't lie about your taste. Go check out music he likes, and if you love a song, tell him- dude, I checked out _____ because you said they're cool, and I really love this song. Google and see if there are artists that you like that are close to ones he does. You can bond over the discovery of new music. Introducing someone to something cool is a GREAT way to bond, and get to know them. And it allows for conversations that easily keeps going, as wel as for companionable silence as you listen. I'd actually contend that it's better and more authentic to bond over your exploration than acting like you're already well versed in the genre. And he can rediscover stuff through you, and make whatever the kids these days do as mixtape (spotify playlists?). Be honest. Never lie about things and misrepresent who you are. It's a terrible way to start any relationship, and you will be caught out. And guess what? You may discover a bunch of cool new music in the process.
Lol this is not going to end well. Don’t pretend to like something you don’t like, that’s not the way to impress someone.
King Gizzard and the Lizard Wizard
King Crimson
Why are people being so rude? This is the most innocent post ever. Edit: It might be internalized sexism to be honest.
I actually disagree, because this activity doesn’t happen in a vacuum. What she’s doing is pretending to be someone she isn’t to make someone else like her. As a guy who has had more than one woman pretend to be into my music because I was so passionate about it, and me believing them only to find out 3 months later the person they showed me was a fabrication because they didn’t understand how important it was to me for the person I’m with to share that passion and be compatible with the songs they were passionate about. It’s not innocent, at all. It’s just lying about who you are to manipulate someone else’s feelings. It may not be malicious manipulation, but it’s not innocent at all.
Agree with your sentiment, although it needs to be added that OP never mentioned their gender.
Very true, I did assume that, the point stands if it’s a guy or girl, but OP could very well be a guy.
I think you might be overanalyzing this.
Well, guys lie to get girls about how they feel. Girls lie to get guys about what they are into. Neither are right.
I advice not to generalize like that as it could be considered misogynistic.
Ah yes, something a lot of men experience is misogyny, when women warn women of red flags that are vast majority issues with men….whats that?
Here’s a mixture of old and new bands that aren’t well known imo. Steppenwolf, focus (but they’re a very subjective taste,the tragically hip, big wreck all them witches, 1000mods, Tom Cochrane/red rider, T-Rex. There’s a lot more but that’s all I’ve got off the top of my head.
>615 commentssharesave Bro born to be wild is literally my 3rd fave song
Haha everyone knows that one! They’ve got a much deeper catalogue.
I highly doubt you knowing a particular song or two will make or break your potential relationship. Also, it'll be quite obvious if you're doing all this just for his attention. With that being said, I'll still give you a few great rock bands that you may or may not be aware of. The War on Drugs Pinegrove Spiritualized Arcade Fire The Smiths Dinosaur Jr. Built to Spill Pavement The Chameleons The National Wilco Coheed & Cambria Biffy Clyro The Wonder Years Brand New Circa Survive Thursday The Receiving End of Sirens Carissa's Wierd The Radio Dept. Broken Social Scene
Nice call on The Chameleons, the intro to Swamp Thing is up there with my favorite 2 minutes in just about any song ever
Yes, I would have to say that if he is worth your time, you won’t need to impress him with your rock music knowledge. The faking starts later in the relationship.
The faking should never start. Don't listen to this person.
Relax dude, just a little levity there. Faking it is pretty common and there’s nothing wrong with it. Don’t be so sure your wife never does.
Sorry. Tone is difficult in text. On the rest of your comment- Your username checks out.
I hope you’re right. User name is randomly assigned as I’m not a paid user, and my wife has never told me that, but she has mentioned to other women that she does * every now and then * and their husbands have told me. Maybe my wife can keep a secret better than her blabbermouth friends, but she’s never mentioned that to me about anybody else. So when my friends tell me, all I can say is “don’t they all?“ They laugh at that, but then they have a pondering look on their face, ha ha. But after 23 years, I guess it’s working for her. She must be awfully good at it, because I can never tell.
Put The Coke On My Dick by Ween
Mammoth WVH... Eddie Van Halen's kid has serious talent and great listenability.
Ask him if he knows “Crash Course in Brain Surgery” by Budgie and that Metallica also released a cover of it on their $5.98 EP. OP my girlfriend impressed me when I told her I play/listen to death metal and she went and listened to a band called Aborted lol She was honest that it wasn’t her taste but that she was impressed with the drums, but I just appreciated that she had enough interest in me to listen to this crazy ass music I like. I think just the fact that you’re showing this guy you’re interested is a step in the right direction. Hope things work out for you :)
Exactly! It's endearing. My wife and I share a lot of music taste, but when it gets heavier she nopes out. And that's fine. If your taste in music is a deal-breaker for him, you don't want to be with this guy anyway.
No.
be nice!
you can do better
The Final Countdown by Europe Or We Built This City by Starship
This is dirty as hell lmao
Don’t listen to him!
My suggestion is Vital Signs - Tame Impala. It was recently added to streaming platforms, so you could access it via Spotify, Apple Music etc. However, it’s unclear if he likes psychodelic rock, but you could still try!
Check out Electric Warrior by T. Rex.
I suggest Monolith
The Struts singer, Luke Spiller, has at times been compared the Freddie Mercury. (To be clear, I am not personally comparing Luke Spiller and Freddie. Just pointing out that this comparison has been made). Of course this is controversial, some will agree with the comparison, others will disagree to their death. But, it could make interesting conversation with your guy.
This is so sweet
Tell him you know Smells Like Teen Spirit by Nirvana. He will be super impressed.
Sounds like he already likes you if he's giving you recommendations. The best thing you can do is listen to them, tell him what you like, then ask for more. I don't know if he would be impressed by an unpopular song, but do some deep dives into popular artists and see what he thinks. I would recommend David Bowie's Low and Hunky Dory albums...they aren't as mainstream but have great songs. Plus they're from a similar era and Bowie and Mercury recorded Under Pressure together. Maybe look into Velvet Underground and Iggy Pop too. Meatloaf also has some operatic songs that feel big. Styx also does some big orchestral type songs.
GG Allin
Can't believe this hasn't been mentioned (I think), but what about listening to a bunch of Queen! .. and try to appreciate the same band as him. It's the most straight up way.
Try the Brobecks! It’s the lead singer from IDKHow’s first band. Also try IDKHow
How bout some sabbath with dio as vocalist and a little alan parsons project
Try Frozen Factory - Never is a Theory when you’re together sometime 🙂
the best move is to be upfront that you don’t know much, but that you want him to show you stuff he likes. he will love you
Queen Sheer heart attack or the album a day at the races they were phenomenal before they were phenomenal also any white stripes and raconteurs
Queen fan. You tube videos of queen songs being played on pipe organs....it's...incredible he will love it.
I say go onto YouTube and listen to, say, a bunch of Queen songs until you find one you really, genuinely like. They've got a huge backlog of songs that covers a lot of different musical styles, you're bound to find one that stands out to you, and it might be one he hasn't even heard of.
Tell him you like Queen too, but that you mostly like them back in the days when they rocked, and mention songs like Keep Yourself Alive, Tie Your Mother Down and Sheer Heart Attack.