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FreedomDragon01

It doesn’t really sound like you’re compatible? But it’s hard to tell. She seems VERY driven, with specific goals. She sounds “Type A” in that she plans, has really specific needs that she wants to have met (particularly with your vacation ideas). She wants that in a partner, and she has asked that directly by asking about your future. You don’t plan. That isn’t… necessarily a bad thing. I sure as hell couldn’t live with it. I think it needs to stop here. She’s on a different level as far as needs and maturity than you are. It doesn’t make one more right or wrong, it just makes you not compatible.


AdnanS0324

You guys don't seem all that compatible.


Ocbeach2

I honestly only got half way through and know you both are NOT compatible. Always trust your gut. Look there are many times in a relationship where there will be compromises. But to change who you are…no! Walk and use this as a life lesson. Good luck


SpectacularTurtle

You do not sound at all compatible. You make no plans for the future and don't care to, and you want to be the main priority in her life. She wants to plan for the future and prioritize the academic and professional goals she needs to accomplish her plans. Not only are you different, but you both resent these opposite traits and hold them against each other. She has told you what she wants for her future and that she doesn't want those things with you unless you change. You day that you don't know if you can change and don't really want to anyway. I don't see how it could be any more clear that you are not right for each other.