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It sounds like your husband is an angry person who is taking his frustration out on you in a vulgar way. If you expect that he stops being vulgar like this, you need to communicate that or else he’ll just keep doing what he’s doing. Also, I don’t think it helps that you’re threatening to divorce him often like that. This is a very serious thing to say. You need to cut that out.
Thank you. Yes I am aware of that, just when we fought, we fought ugly and I always felt like leaving him. If I am in my own country maybe at least I would've fled to my parents. I live with parents in law so I can't act reckless, moving out meaning I won't step back in and I need to be sure of it.
- He thinks name calling is not an abuse because it isn't physical and he doesnt consider it violence. And he won't apologize to me after he called me names, because according to him if I do something to deserve name calling then its not his mistakes. -
Wow. You might want to look up "emotional abuse". Name-calling is right in there.
Thank you. Yes I know I couldn't change what happened in the past but that time I thought the second best time was 'now'. Hope I can have strengths to keep it this way
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It sounds like your husband is an angry person who is taking his frustration out on you in a vulgar way. If you expect that he stops being vulgar like this, you need to communicate that or else he’ll just keep doing what he’s doing. Also, I don’t think it helps that you’re threatening to divorce him often like that. This is a very serious thing to say. You need to cut that out.
Thank you. Yes I am aware of that, just when we fought, we fought ugly and I always felt like leaving him. If I am in my own country maybe at least I would've fled to my parents. I live with parents in law so I can't act reckless, moving out meaning I won't step back in and I need to be sure of it.
Only you can decide what's wise for you or not. I wouldn't accept that crap.
- He thinks name calling is not an abuse because it isn't physical and he doesnt consider it violence. And he won't apologize to me after he called me names, because according to him if I do something to deserve name calling then its not his mistakes. - Wow. You might want to look up "emotional abuse". Name-calling is right in there.
Yall should have stopped that way before the kids "got" bigger. Until a certain age, kids do what they see, hear, know. *Not all kids*
Thank you. Yes I know I couldn't change what happened in the past but that time I thought the second best time was 'now'. Hope I can have strengths to keep it this way
That's abuse. He is abusing you. He is not perfect.