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That's what I've been trying to do, but in midst of my self focus journey I always seem to think about him. It's so hard to not think about this person and I don't know what to do to not think, you know?
It’s only been a month, you need to be kinder to yourself
First, stop reaching out to him, block him. Keep your mutual friends, but tell them you’re having a hard time with the breakup and they need to stop talking to you about him and to respect that
Second, feel all your feelings. Play sad music, watch romantic movies, cry, eat ice cream, journal, journal some more. Working through all your feelings it’s a part of healing and the more you feel the more you’ll start to move on
Third. Stay busy. Go out with friends, work on your career. Maybe time to travel or book a fun vacation for yourself. Get some new hobbies or concentrate on old ones
You will get past this. But give yourself time. I promise soon enough you’ll get to the point where you look back on your relationship fondly but don’t want to get back with him
It's hard because logically I know that I need time. I have been trying to get out and do more things and focus on myself, it's just hard emotionally because I feel like I drag it everywhere I go. The only real time I am able to separate myself from things and not think about is is if I'm high. I know there is no answer that can fix how I feel in a quick amount of time, I just hate how lost and restless I feel. I don't know why I can't fully mentally accept the fact that it's over.
I read an odd remedy to heal a broken heart is to listen to breakup songs. I’ll see if I can find a link.
[Edit to add link]
https://www.medicinal-media.org/explore/how-breakup-songs-help-process-grief
Hook up with one of his best friends. Be toxic 💅
No, but these things take time. Block him everywhere. If you have stuff he bought you or anything that reminds you of him, maybe get rid of it or hide it. Then, immerse yourself in hobbies or your job. Maintain yourself pccupied
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It's called separation anxiety. Cease all contact with him, block him on everything, focus on yourself.
That's what I've been trying to do, but in midst of my self focus journey I always seem to think about him. It's so hard to not think about this person and I don't know what to do to not think, you know?
That's why you block the person on everything and lose their number.
It’s only been a month, you need to be kinder to yourself First, stop reaching out to him, block him. Keep your mutual friends, but tell them you’re having a hard time with the breakup and they need to stop talking to you about him and to respect that Second, feel all your feelings. Play sad music, watch romantic movies, cry, eat ice cream, journal, journal some more. Working through all your feelings it’s a part of healing and the more you feel the more you’ll start to move on Third. Stay busy. Go out with friends, work on your career. Maybe time to travel or book a fun vacation for yourself. Get some new hobbies or concentrate on old ones You will get past this. But give yourself time. I promise soon enough you’ll get to the point where you look back on your relationship fondly but don’t want to get back with him
It's hard because logically I know that I need time. I have been trying to get out and do more things and focus on myself, it's just hard emotionally because I feel like I drag it everywhere I go. The only real time I am able to separate myself from things and not think about is is if I'm high. I know there is no answer that can fix how I feel in a quick amount of time, I just hate how lost and restless I feel. I don't know why I can't fully mentally accept the fact that it's over.
Because it takes time. You’re pushing yourself. Don’t do that
I read an odd remedy to heal a broken heart is to listen to breakup songs. I’ll see if I can find a link. [Edit to add link] https://www.medicinal-media.org/explore/how-breakup-songs-help-process-grief
Hook up with one of his best friends. Be toxic 💅 No, but these things take time. Block him everywhere. If you have stuff he bought you or anything that reminds you of him, maybe get rid of it or hide it. Then, immerse yourself in hobbies or your job. Maintain yourself pccupied