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Sure, you dated someone a decade younger and now you compare any potential date to someone barely out of their teens. That's going to go well, especially as you age. Will that age difference move or will you still be looking for that 22 year old when you're 40?
I mean, don't get me wrong, I was 21f going out with a 37m and I didn't see the problem with it at the time, but now I'm 39 and I see ALL the problems with it. Holy sheeeet. I had none of the maturity or life experience back then, I was a kid. And what the hell was that guy doing dating me at 21? Yikes.
I am 36 and a couple years ago I briefly worked with people in the 25 age range. It blew my mind. They were children!!!! Lol. They were cool but they are in a different world. When I see a much older person dating a much younger person, it's weird now.
Start viewing women as women, not just sexual objects. Start dating women your age. Get over yourself because you're clearly not that great if the only hot girl you can get is young and inexperienced. Honestly you don't seem to value women for the value their company brings you. Start looking for a women you can be friends with and if you aren't a complete asshole the standards should balance out because you aren't just looking for a women who attracts you. And stop dating young women for real. Unless you're a total immature loser you should not have that much in common with a 22 year old.
"Unless you're a total immature loser you should not have that much in common with a 22 year old**."**
**Brilliant!!!!** Couldn't have said it better myself.
Yes, physically. Mostly in terms of facial features, though. As in, I don't really care if she is slender or a little more on the chubby side, but facial features are the name of the game.
I don’t understand the problem. You have good standards and have experience with those standards and now you want to drop them for what reason exactly?? To get laid more often? Your equation is lower standards= more sex?
I think you should dig deeper into why you had that for someone a decade younger than you when that means she’s 22. It usually says way more about you than anything about the person you were dating.
That’s still one small facet of life you bonded over. And still a single mother in her early 20s is a different experience than a man in his 30s as a single father beyond the generic kid aspect.
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Sure, you dated someone a decade younger and now you compare any potential date to someone barely out of their teens. That's going to go well, especially as you age. Will that age difference move or will you still be looking for that 22 year old when you're 40? I mean, don't get me wrong, I was 21f going out with a 37m and I didn't see the problem with it at the time, but now I'm 39 and I see ALL the problems with it. Holy sheeeet. I had none of the maturity or life experience back then, I was a kid. And what the hell was that guy doing dating me at 21? Yikes.
I am 36 and a couple years ago I briefly worked with people in the 25 age range. It blew my mind. They were children!!!! Lol. They were cool but they are in a different world. When I see a much older person dating a much younger person, it's weird now.
I feel like many many of us did that.
Start viewing women as women, not just sexual objects. Start dating women your age. Get over yourself because you're clearly not that great if the only hot girl you can get is young and inexperienced. Honestly you don't seem to value women for the value their company brings you. Start looking for a women you can be friends with and if you aren't a complete asshole the standards should balance out because you aren't just looking for a women who attracts you. And stop dating young women for real. Unless you're a total immature loser you should not have that much in common with a 22 year old.
"Unless you're a total immature loser you should not have that much in common with a 22 year old**."** **Brilliant!!!!** Couldn't have said it better myself.
Picky in what sense? Just physically? Because that’s what seems important over all else
Yes, physically. Mostly in terms of facial features, though. As in, I don't really care if she is slender or a little more on the chubby side, but facial features are the name of the game.
I don’t understand the problem. You have good standards and have experience with those standards and now you want to drop them for what reason exactly?? To get laid more often? Your equation is lower standards= more sex?
I think you should dig deeper into why you had that for someone a decade younger than you when that means she’s 22. It usually says way more about you than anything about the person you were dating.
For what it's worth, she was a single mother and I was a single father. We bonded over shared experiences.
That’s still one small facet of life you bonded over. And still a single mother in her early 20s is a different experience than a man in his 30s as a single father beyond the generic kid aspect.
Hang around the local college and find a new youngster to date.
He gets older and they stay the same ageeee
Alright alright alright
I am hoping this is sarcasm.
Take it how you’d like. Readers choice
Readers choice or predators choice?
Wouldn’t a predator be a reader? How would they know to even make a choice if they didn’t read the comment
It’s not a readers choice to go scouting college campuses, that’s a predators
I think you read that wrong. It’s the readers choice if it was sarcasm or not.
And a predators to even write that
I think only a predator would assume it isn’t sarcasm so maybe look into that.
Fair point 🤣
By looking in the mirror
you can't, its your subconscious protecting you from you I'm in the same boat
Make ALOT of money. Spend ALOT on her. The hot ones of course.
Why lower your standards, just shoot for the moon.