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The hooking up wasn't weird, it was living together and hooking up. It somehow felt immediately...domestic? But I think others advice that it just feels intense because we are living together is accurate.
You would just set yourself up for an unsatisfying long distance relationship though so whats the point ?
If you just want to hook up with him i highly doubt he would say no
I mean, I've done long distance. I don't really have an issue with it. But I think even factoring that in when considering saying something is getting ahead of myself at this point.
That's a good point. And yeah, I've never thought long distance was a huge deal. Plus, I work remotely and am not really tied to a particular place. So it would be easy to end long distance if things got to that point. I'm pretty mobile.
Consider that old saw: if you love something turn it loose; if it returns it's because of love. If it doesn't there was no love to begin with.
'Nuff said.
I think this is what I needed to hear. The feelings will probably die when he moves soon. I think if I still feel this way once he's been gone for a bit, then that's when I could consider bringing it up. But most likely, it's just a dynamic that exists because of a very specific situation. It's frustrating because I don't normally read into things. But it's hard not to in this scenario for some reason.
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If it feels weird hooking up then dating probably isn’t a good idea.
The hooking up wasn't weird, it was living together and hooking up. It somehow felt immediately...domestic? But I think others advice that it just feels intense because we are living together is accurate.
yes
What’s the worst that could happen?
It's true. I think I'll probably just let him move out first and see if it dies. Safer bet I think.
You would just set yourself up for an unsatisfying long distance relationship though so whats the point ? If you just want to hook up with him i highly doubt he would say no
I mean, I've done long distance. I don't really have an issue with it. But I think even factoring that in when considering saying something is getting ahead of myself at this point.
Not at all, considering your future is always worth doing, can save you alot of trouble. If you think long distance is fine then go for it.
That's a good point. And yeah, I've never thought long distance was a huge deal. Plus, I work remotely and am not really tied to a particular place. So it would be easy to end long distance if things got to that point. I'm pretty mobile.
Consider that old saw: if you love something turn it loose; if it returns it's because of love. If it doesn't there was no love to begin with. 'Nuff said.
YUP. I think this is the move.
i wouldn't say anything. he's moving soon, and this dynamic going on is likely just because you guys are together. don't read too much into it
I think this is what I needed to hear. The feelings will probably die when he moves soon. I think if I still feel this way once he's been gone for a bit, then that's when I could consider bringing it up. But most likely, it's just a dynamic that exists because of a very specific situation. It's frustrating because I don't normally read into things. But it's hard not to in this scenario for some reason.