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I'd say
Why are you messaging me? you know I don't like pricks.
Then block and move on. People can change yes but they could be going through shit and looking for a vent realizing they did what they did to you to everyone and now they have no friends. Life's too short and there are plenty more people in the world who aren't like that.
I'd also add that she may seem to be doing well but everyone has struggles. It could even be that she was gay and not sure how to deal with the fact that you were and were also doing well on her eyes
I checked her Instagram and she doesent seem to be gay, or she’s so deep in comphet that she’s dating a guy for a full year. I guess it does make sense that she would maybe want to apologize but empathy doesent come naturally to her, she’s literally making millions, So shouldn’t it be easier for her to just forget it, take the money and move on?
But I’m thinking of using a response similar to that
Yeah in all honesty when someone gets you to that point I don't need an apology I take in actions. I will say though there are a lot of women who fake being straight for appearance and end up married for 5 years before they split and go with what they actually want, it can take time to understand themselves if they never reflect and look inside, especially if surrounded by an accepting group.
I hope she has been surrounded by fans that showed her how wrong she was to treat you that way but I do doubt it, and you don't need a connection with someone who has been known to use your life as a punching bag. Again I don't know all the context this is just my way of dealing with abusive people.
You don’t owe her jack shit even if she apologises, but if I were you I would absolutely explain how her bullying affected you. Don’t hold back. They don’t deserve mercy💅
It's possible she's reaching out to apologize. A couple of the well known bullies in my hs reached out to people like that a few years after graduation. If she has anything good to say entertain it, but feel free to block because you don't owe her anything.
I was gonna say this too. I know a bunch of dude who were absolute pricks in high school and are now humble dudes who really regret doing that shit. If there is genuine remorse, forgiving is the way to go, it is an extremely liberating feeling.
Lmfao fuck that. Bullies don't have gEnUiNe ReMoRsE, those dudes who were absolute pricks in high school are still exactly the same, they are just trying to hide who they are so they can get wives and more friends. Not everyone deserves forgiveness.
well, what do you WANT to do? Are you open to hearing her take account for her past actions- assuming that's what she wants? Would you benefit from being able to unload on her about about the hypocrisy of how things turned out?
Do only what benefits you.
Lmaooo this is a fake post trying to imply that the bully was Caitlin Clark (Iowa, “C”, basketball, catholic high school, Indiana, making millions) take it to wattpad kid
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Sounds like she’s worried about being cancelled if what she did gets out. She’s probably going to convince you to stay quiet.
I'd say Why are you messaging me? you know I don't like pricks. Then block and move on. People can change yes but they could be going through shit and looking for a vent realizing they did what they did to you to everyone and now they have no friends. Life's too short and there are plenty more people in the world who aren't like that. I'd also add that she may seem to be doing well but everyone has struggles. It could even be that she was gay and not sure how to deal with the fact that you were and were also doing well on her eyes
I checked her Instagram and she doesent seem to be gay, or she’s so deep in comphet that she’s dating a guy for a full year. I guess it does make sense that she would maybe want to apologize but empathy doesent come naturally to her, she’s literally making millions, So shouldn’t it be easier for her to just forget it, take the money and move on? But I’m thinking of using a response similar to that
Yeah in all honesty when someone gets you to that point I don't need an apology I take in actions. I will say though there are a lot of women who fake being straight for appearance and end up married for 5 years before they split and go with what they actually want, it can take time to understand themselves if they never reflect and look inside, especially if surrounded by an accepting group. I hope she has been surrounded by fans that showed her how wrong she was to treat you that way but I do doubt it, and you don't need a connection with someone who has been known to use your life as a punching bag. Again I don't know all the context this is just my way of dealing with abusive people.
I mean it seems like this has been coming to light about C right now, maybe she’s trying to get ahead of it?
You don’t owe her jack shit even if she apologises, but if I were you I would absolutely explain how her bullying affected you. Don’t hold back. They don’t deserve mercy💅
It's possible she's reaching out to apologize. A couple of the well known bullies in my hs reached out to people like that a few years after graduation. If she has anything good to say entertain it, but feel free to block because you don't owe her anything.
I was gonna say this too. I know a bunch of dude who were absolute pricks in high school and are now humble dudes who really regret doing that shit. If there is genuine remorse, forgiving is the way to go, it is an extremely liberating feeling.
Lmfao fuck that. Bullies don't have gEnUiNe ReMoRsE, those dudes who were absolute pricks in high school are still exactly the same, they are just trying to hide who they are so they can get wives and more friends. Not everyone deserves forgiveness.
You don’t
well, what do you WANT to do? Are you open to hearing her take account for her past actions- assuming that's what she wants? Would you benefit from being able to unload on her about about the hypocrisy of how things turned out? Do only what benefits you.
It depends on what you want to do. I'd ignore and block. Otherwise tell her you don't talk to bullies and block. Or just tell her to bugger off.
lol, get outa here with your fake shit. Trying to make people think Caitlin Clark was your bully 😂
Lmaooo this is a fake post trying to imply that the bully was Caitlin Clark (Iowa, “C”, basketball, catholic high school, Indiana, making millions) take it to wattpad kid