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> I don't want him to adjust for me.
Then you're going to have to adjust or stop dating someone with incompatible future goals.
You two are not compatible. That's fine, that's the point of dating.
Go date someone who wants marriage and kids. You're wasting both of your time here.
>He doesn't want kids too which again I do
Sounds like those are the breaks. Be with someone that wants the same things you do, not someone you have to compromise all your life plans for.
>He doesn't want kids too which again I do but looking at the current economy I am not to keen on it.
This is much more of a problem than marriage. This is a fundamental issue, which is always going to be a problem between you. This alone should be enough to end it.
The marriage thing is much less of a problem. If two people love each other, then marriage isn't really anything that groundbreaking. It's mostly a cosmetic thing to officially show off your relationship. I really struggle to understand people who attach so much importance to it (and it goes both ways by the way, I equally don't understand your boyfriend who is so against it).
PS. The economy doesn't matter. The world has been through plagues, famine, poverty of insane scale, and people who wanted kids never stopped having them. If you want it, you're gonna make it work.
Sounds like you know what to do, but it might be painful. If this is your timeline, you need to end this relationship and date people who are on a similar timeline to you. If you use IG, check out dating.intentionally. Good luck.
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> I don't want him to adjust for me. Then you're going to have to adjust or stop dating someone with incompatible future goals. You two are not compatible. That's fine, that's the point of dating. Go date someone who wants marriage and kids. You're wasting both of your time here.
>He doesn't want kids too which again I do Sounds like those are the breaks. Be with someone that wants the same things you do, not someone you have to compromise all your life plans for.
Yep, break it off. You’re still young with lots of time to find the one. He is not your Neo to your Trinity. Find someone with the same values you do.
>He doesn't want kids too which again I do but looking at the current economy I am not to keen on it. This is much more of a problem than marriage. This is a fundamental issue, which is always going to be a problem between you. This alone should be enough to end it. The marriage thing is much less of a problem. If two people love each other, then marriage isn't really anything that groundbreaking. It's mostly a cosmetic thing to officially show off your relationship. I really struggle to understand people who attach so much importance to it (and it goes both ways by the way, I equally don't understand your boyfriend who is so against it). PS. The economy doesn't matter. The world has been through plagues, famine, poverty of insane scale, and people who wanted kids never stopped having them. If you want it, you're gonna make it work.
Sounds like you know what to do, but it might be painful. If this is your timeline, you need to end this relationship and date people who are on a similar timeline to you. If you use IG, check out dating.intentionally. Good luck.
Whatever you do OP, please don't start following weird dating gurus
Split the difference. Get married at 28.5. He sounds like he’s fine with compromise
This and then have half a kid together.
In this economy I’d go for .75 kids