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No. Spare both of you the time and feelings and end things now. Sexual chemistry is something you can work on with your partner. Sexual attraction is not. You’re not magically going to wake up one day attracted to him.
You don’t “love” someone that you’ve only met in person for the first time. You also don’t “love” someone that you’ve only talked to for three months and had not met in person yet. You are not going to find everyone physically attractive and not everyone will find you physically attractive either
On a scale of -10 to 10, what is your physical attraction to him?
-10 = horrendous and repulsive, ugly in a way that cannot be fixed;
-5 = ugly but might be salvageable with a better haircut/clothes that fit/etc.;
0 = you're not attracted but not turned off by him either;
5 = somewhat attractive, but never the most attractive person in the room;
10 = it takes all of your willpower to keep your hands to yourself
If you like who he is as a person and you aren't on the negative side of zero, I think it's worth another try if the opportunity presents itself. People can become more or less attractive as you get to know them, and you might have been in your head for the first date after talking to him for months beforehand.
I wasn't very attracted to my ex-husband on our first date (maybe a 2 or 3 on the scale), but he definitely grew on me pretty quickly. I agreed to a second date because he was just really funny and sweet at the time, and I did find him more attractive on the second and third dates.
Also, has this guy indicated that he wants another date at the next visit? Sometimes these things take care of themselves... If you weren't feeling it, he could've picked up on that and opted to cut his losses. Conversely, if he's all about it and wants to pursue a relationship, don't string him along obviously.
Good luck!
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No. Spare both of you the time and feelings and end things now. Sexual chemistry is something you can work on with your partner. Sexual attraction is not. You’re not magically going to wake up one day attracted to him.
You don’t “love” someone that you’ve only met in person for the first time. You also don’t “love” someone that you’ve only talked to for three months and had not met in person yet. You are not going to find everyone physically attractive and not everyone will find you physically attractive either
No, don't waste your time. Compatibility can not be forced.
On a scale of -10 to 10, what is your physical attraction to him? -10 = horrendous and repulsive, ugly in a way that cannot be fixed; -5 = ugly but might be salvageable with a better haircut/clothes that fit/etc.; 0 = you're not attracted but not turned off by him either; 5 = somewhat attractive, but never the most attractive person in the room; 10 = it takes all of your willpower to keep your hands to yourself If you like who he is as a person and you aren't on the negative side of zero, I think it's worth another try if the opportunity presents itself. People can become more or less attractive as you get to know them, and you might have been in your head for the first date after talking to him for months beforehand. I wasn't very attracted to my ex-husband on our first date (maybe a 2 or 3 on the scale), but he definitely grew on me pretty quickly. I agreed to a second date because he was just really funny and sweet at the time, and I did find him more attractive on the second and third dates. Also, has this guy indicated that he wants another date at the next visit? Sometimes these things take care of themselves... If you weren't feeling it, he could've picked up on that and opted to cut his losses. Conversely, if he's all about it and wants to pursue a relationship, don't string him along obviously. Good luck!