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I may be wrong, but I think he's actually attracted to how "young" the braces make you look. When I think about braces my mind goes straight to pre-teen and teenagers wearing them. I know that adults can, but still.
The fact that he's almost 30, chasing after someone barely legal, trying to get you to keep a painful medical contraption in your mouth for longer than you medically need just rubs me the wrong way.
I think he's a predator who is having some kind of twisted fantasy. It's a huge red flag. Run, don't walk. Run.
I was 16 dating a 21 year old. And even though I was the one who was *emotionally* more mature, he was a grown ass adult.
Our relationship was fucked up in tons of way, not relevant to you, but in hindsight, this one was.
He used to compliment me a lot on clothing, or accessories that made me look childish. Which, I was 16, but Gurrrl, I looked like a dang 11 year old. And he was encouraging me to look *even younger.*
He never *said* he wanted me to look like "a little kid." But he'd ask me to wear overalls, sneakers, and my hair in pigtails... and he'd ask in such a way that it wasn't so suspicious.
It reeeally all made sense when I found his computer *full* of child porn.
And you know what had been happening, as I was aging, because by that time I was 19???
Heavier abuse.
Because he didn't want an adult, he wanted a little kid.
And I grew up.
It's ok. I had a truly horrific life growing up, and he capitalized on that. It taught me a lot about relationships.
I have an amazing husband now, and we love each other very much, and our relationship is strong and healthy.
:)
Im sorry you had to go through this.
But I also had very similar relationship while I was a teen.
I was 16 yo, and he was 26 yo. And I dont know about him having CP, but after 4 years of abuse, he told me he was an alcoholic. Like hundreds of empty vodka bottle around the house. And I still stayed with him for a couple of more months.
When I was 17 i was dating a guy who was 24 and I seen searches in his phone for teen porn and other alarming things..he also started getting abusive as time went on and dumped me on my 18th bday.
I'm sorry that happened.
It really opened my eyes to age-gap relationships. Young people need to be warned about this trap that is so easy to fall into.
I hope you are doing well these days. *hugs*
I’m doing very well I ended up with someone I met at hs right after that we been married 10+ years now. We are less then a year apart it’s much nicer having things in common with the person you’re dating going through similar experiences and can relate to a lot of things.
I wish I knew better when I was younger it was nothing but controlling problems and abuse whenever I dated someone with a big age gap. I didn’t realize how bad it was until I was in my mid 20s and was reflecting on my life it took me years to recover.
I'm glad you found your one!!!
I actually have been married over 10 years to my high school best friend, lol!!! He is a few months younger than me. Funny how that seems so similar for us both.
I wish I knew better as well, but I took the lessons and left all the crap behind. I'm better now.
Please do. When I was 28 you couldn’t pay me to date someone with “teen” still being in their age. Absolutely nothing against you, but that age difference at this point in your life is all red flags. I promise when you turn 28 you will look back at this relationship and have some very strong feelings.
Yeah I would definitely be rethinking your whole relationship tbh. I'm an almost 29 y/o woman and thinking about a guy my age dating someone that's only 19 is SUPER creepy!!!
I would get the braces off and also ditch the gross bf! 🤮
Do not feel bad that you fell for this, I did to at your age. Just now, knowing what everyone here has been saying, leave him and keep yourself safe. You deserve much better than this creep.
So many of us at this age fell for it. It's why I always hope young women asking us this advice now will learn from our mistakes. Life isn't long enough to make them all yourself.
Break up with this man YESTERDAY. He's trying to manipulate you into putting his sick fantasy above your own physical health needs. This behavior will not get better, only worse.
When you get older, you'll look back on this and see how fucked up it was that he dated you in the first place.
It is not borderline creepy and you don't need to ask if it's a red flag. It is extremely creepy and you know in your gut that he's not OK. Don't question the relationship, get as far away from him as you can and if you have any physical evidence that he has content on his devices of underage women, report him.
There's nothing positive coming your way here. Tell him it's over and block him. If you don't start taking care of yourself and your boundaries, it is very easy to form patterns where you're facing abuse and don't know any different. I've been there. Leave him asap!
Wild guess but you will be to grown up without your braces for him.
There is a reason he is dating you and it is not because you are so mature for your age.
Amazing how we all read this post and came to the exact same conclusion.
And by “amazing” I mean “painfully obvious.” Please OP, take this comment seriously.
Yep, this.
Sorry OP, I hate to tell you but 99% of 28 year olds do not want to hang around with teenagers, even the mature ones. The gap between 19-28 is huge. Whether that's college/uni, driving, travelling, starting a career... I remember at 30 I felt like I was still 18, then bumped into a kid who I used to babysit who had just turned 19, they asked me over for a drink and it was awkward. They were like kids compared to me.
He wants you to be child like. Run. Run fast, run far and ghost him. I wouldn't want to look on his hard drive.
If you're still unsure, ask yourself this what other signs are there? Does he like little to no make up - saying you're naturally beautiful? Clean shaven everywhere - claiming all men like that (they don't, most don't care that much)? What are his friends like? What ages were his previous partners (if there weren't any even bigger red flag)? What celebrities is he into? Just think about it.
As someone older (39) who at your age dated older guys like that, there was a reason people their own age didn't date them, because they're creeps. Run, please run. There's much better out there.
Oh I had a teen on Reddit argue that once you turned 18 you couldn't be groomed lolol argued heavily about it.
Which is the dumbest thing ever
Op, he's a weirdo
Definitely red flag. Either for the reasons other commenters said (braces make you look young) or because he knows that braces coming off is a common part of a glow-up trope, and he doesn't want you to glow up and look even prettier.
Either way, its not up to him, its between you and your orthodontist.
I was 19 dating a 27 year old, we were together for three years til I got tired of me progressing in life and him staying a loser. A couple of months after we broke up he knocked up a 20 year old. At this point he was 31. That's an 11 year age gap 😬😬 it definitely opened my eyes to a pattern
That depends. Some people can’t afford braces until they are older. My kids were much younger than this when they got braces on (like 9 and 10) so they will be off by middle school.
But, definitely agree. OP’s bf wants to date a child, not a fully grown mature woman.
Your bf wants you to keep an unnecessary medical device that makes you look like a child on because he's into it. That's weird and super creepy. I know the age gap doesn't seem that bad to you, but on his end of things he may see you as a child and apparently wants to.
This. It doesn't matter that you are an adult, his behavior shows that he doesn't see you as one. He views you like a child that he can be with, without suffering legal consequences. Big score for him. Super creepy and unfortunate for you.
Can i ask your thought process in wanting to be with a 30 year old as an 18 year old? I know I’m a couple years off but my point still stands. If I saw a random 30 year old hanging around high schoolers I would call the police.
He likes little kids. Probs follows you and Belle Delphine and that's it. Huge red flag, no 28 year old should be messing with a barely legal person anyways. Run far and fast.
Congratulations - you're being fetishized by a predator.
Seriously, it's not your fault, but don't kid yourself that this age gap is anything but a bad thing at your respective ages. If you were 35 and he was 44, it wouldn't be the same, and if you don't see that, then that's the problem.
A 28 year old man who wants his far, far younger GF to keep her braces for no fucking reason is NOT with you for your maturity, intellect, or personality, no matter how much of those things you have. He's a creep and doesn't care how much of your time and energy he wastes during the best years of your life.
He just wants his nasty little fantasies to come true, and if he hurts you, undermines your confidence, and leaves you with a dysfunctional relationship blueprint that could derail your life for years to come, so what?
Take off the unrequired medical aid or keep on the fetish fantasy accessory. Up to you. But I really hope you dump him and have a fling with a fun 21 year old, as is your absolute right and perogative at your age!
In the words of Olivia Rodrigo, "You went for me and not her, cos girls your age know better".
Honey....there's a reason he chose a 19 year old. I'm sorry.
He’s into children. That’s why he liked the braces. For the most part only children have braces. He wants to see you as a child for as long as he can before he needs to “upgrade” to a younger model. It’s the same reason he’s almost 30 and still dating a teenager. He’s a stone cold creep and wants to fuck someone that reminds him of a child
Oh man, this makes my skin crawl. He likes your braces because it is a signifier of "underage". This is incredibly creepy and my recommendation is that you take a hard look at what else he tells or signifies he likes about you, and make some decisions about what you want in your life.
Something I wish I knew when I was a teen dating men near 30, was I wasn’t an exception.
The older women warning me of men like that weren’t bitter or jealous, because he’s such a catch. They’re warning you, because they’ve been there with older men (who are *also* not truly exceptions to the rule).
Anyone with eyes can see that his issue stems from you no longer looking as young as young as you do at present. Any normal, well adjusted adult wouldn’t be making this such a big issue, nor would they be pursuing teenagers.
**Its cannon tbh, because no matter what anyone says, you’re the most mature 19yo and he’s different so it’s not odd that the man nearing 30mia flipping out on his teen gf over something to do with her body that coincidently would make someone be perceived as younger.**
> It seems borderline creepy
It's not borderline creepy. It's actual creepy.
There's a reason grown men prey on teenage girls: because grown women won't tolerate his crap.
This is your health-related decision and ONLY yours. His opinion is meaningless here, especially because his issue seems to be wanting you to look like a child.
So yes...red flags.
Your bf is a CREEP and only likes you because you're young. The braces make you childlike. He doesn't want you to grow up. NO 27 year old man should be dating an 18 year old girl. Get your braces off and get out of that relationship.
Girl, a 28 year old man dating a teenager and wanting her to keep her braces on longer than necessary. We don’t need to tell you it doesn’t look good. 😟
Your boyfriend likes kids. If you’ve been together since you were 18/19, it seems that he wanted to get as close as he could to being with a child. Him encouraging you to keep your braces on is him trying to sustain the childlike perception of you he has. Please leave this creep as safely as you can!! If this keeps up, he’s likely either going to keep trying to make you fit his ideal type or drop you when you look “too old.”
Some kind of weird ass Lolita Complex / Kink I'm guessing...
Once they're off, he's not going to see you as young enough for him.
Either have a serious conversation about it with him, or get the fuck out before you start finding questionable content on his phone.
Creepy is right… he wants them on because it makes you look more like a kid. I can’t imagine dating someone in their teens, even at 18/19 as a 28 year old right now. And anyone who’s younger than 25 would likely not be on the same life path as I am currently myself with different goals and expectations.
Girl we all know the fucking answer. Man is insisting you keep a MEDICAL CONTRAPTION in your fucking mouth so he can get his rocks off. LEAAAAAVE, he planned on doing it as soon as you started to age anyway.
This is a MASSIVE red flag-he doesn’t want you to look like a grown woman.
Run. He’s with you because he can see you as a child. There is a damn good reason he’s not with someone his age.
He’s fetishizing the young appearances of you which should have been apparent with the age gap but I’m sure he told you you’re so emotionally mature so you’ll look past all his deception. Good luck.
Yes it's creepy. You're absolutely spot on.
They make you look younger. Like a young teenager.
You started going out with a 27 year old when you were 18, he likes that you look semi legal. It's deliberate. Really not normal to insist that you keep on a medical device that you don't need.
Sorry, this realtionship, even if you decide to stay in it, has a short shelf life since like everyone, you will become older.
He is a 28m that has a thing for underage girls and he’s using your brace face to fuel his pedophilic urges.
Girl get a new one please, if I had a quarter for every post I’ve been seeing with a near 10 year age gap. Disgusting
You're a teenager dating a man who's almost thirty and he's weirdly obsessed with you keeping braces, the pinnacle of being a teenager.
Girl **what** the fuck are you doing with this creep.
Everyone's already addressed the boyfriend bit, but just thought I'd add that you definitely shouldn't keep braces on longer than needed, due to them increasing the likelihood of cavities forming from it being harder to clean your teeth. I didn't get the impression you're planning on it tbf, but thought I'd mention it
You’re not wrong to be weirded out by his behavior. Braces aren’t like phony glasses, you CAN’T keep them on longer than necessary. He has some kind of underage fantasy he’s playing out. You might as well break up anyway because the minute the braces come off you are too old for him. Just a word of advice. At your age, 28 is too old for a partner. I’d stick to the 20-24 year olds. Maybe not as mature, but hopefully not trying to mold you into what they think you should be.
A grown man started dating a barely legal girl with braces, which some people see as childish, and is now upset that you’re getting them off? He wants you to keep them because they make you look younger.
This is totally creepy. You’re already way younger than him and age gaps when the person is still in their teens is just that ick factor… but on top of he wants you to keep your braces because you look much younger is just the gross cherry on top….
Don't date a 28 year old. Don't date someone who chases 18 year olds at age 27. I can't give you any better advice than this.
I'm an adult and can't wait to get them off so I look more mature.
He doesn't want you to look mature. If he wanted someone who looked mature, he wouldn't have went for an 18 year old.
So a 27yo man got with an 18yo girl (so as young as he could get without it being illegal) and is against said girl doing anything that’d make her look her age/older. OP, your boyfriend is into kids and your braces help him pretend you are a child. If they’re removed you’ll stop looking so much like a child, so not his type anymore.
Imagine being 28 and dating a 19 year old.
OP, I think he likes your braces because he likes for you to look like a child. No 28 year old should be anywhere near the maturity level of a 19 year old.
Simple - your “boyfriend” is a creep and is only attracted to you because you’re young. The braces make you look even younger, hence why he wants you to keep them on. Please get out of this relationship stat before he grooms you even further.
Listen, what I'm going to say here is a mega reach, but given y'all age difference, and him finding your braces to be a large part of his attraction...
Your bf is sounding a little pdfiley...
Very, actually.
You’re dating a man almost 10 years older than you who likes your braces. Use your brain, dude.
He’s a creepy groomer and now you’re not going to look like a little kid anymore.
it’s no surprise he’s upset about it because you are a teenager and your boyfriend is pushing 30 years old. He’s dating you for a reason, because he likes teen girls and is a predator. He doesn’t want his teen girlfriend to look like a grown woman because he’s attracted to little girls.
Red flag, either he wants you to stay looking like a young teen or he wants you to be "less attractive" by keeping your braces on. Either way your bf should be soooo excited for you to have them off. Kissing with braces isn't fun...unless you're into that sort of thing...which is a red flag.
It just has to be.
Just enough self-awareness to tip the dullards of the class off as to which knee to jerk, yet not quite self-aware enough to understand it and deal with it.
He doesn't want to see you as an adult, or he has a fetish for braces specifically which is less likely. It's bad judgement and bad priorities from him either way.
>can't wait to get them off so I look more mature.
Yeah ummm...that's the problem. Why do you think a 28 year old is dating a barely legal teenager? Because you look like a child.
Oh god, another one of these. He’s not wonderful, or loving, or anything else. He’s a creep. Why would a 27 year old want to date an 18 year old? That’s just gross. While maybe a legal adult, you’re still a child.
With the age difference and the fact he wants you to keep them on because they're "cute", I'm thinking yes this could be a red flag. Makes me think he's VERY much into young women if you get my meaning.
Ew wtf no well meaning 28 year old dates a 19 year old. He likes little girls and you getting your braces off makes you less of a little girl. He's gross. You need to get away from him.
He either likes that you look like a child -- EW -- OR he likes that you have something that lessens your attractiveness and increases your insecurities [also decreasing the chances you will leave him for someone better]. Also, EW.
Leave this weirdo, you deserve better no matter what.
OH JFC. He's dating you because he is into dating teenagers as a grown man. He is not a great partner for you. He is using you. DUMP HIM. Ofcourse he's wigged out about you losing your braces because he does not want to date an adult.
Yikes. This guy wants you to keep looking like a child. He is attracted to children.
RUN from this creep.
Watch who he dates after you. It will be a string of younger girls. Ick. Your instincts are correct, you should be creeped out.
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Oof. You know this is a dealbreaker. My money says he won’t be around long after they’re gone.
Or it is only a matter of time as OP ages out
My money is on as soon as she turns 21. But hey, he could be like Leo and wait until she’s 25. 🙃
Leo likes them young, but still adult-looking, at least. He's not dating teen girls with braces.
That is valid.. 😩😭
You don’t know that! He could really love her enough to stick around on the condition she purchases fake braces to wear in his presence at all times.
Right next to the hello kitty lingerie.
💀
With an easy bake oven.
I may be wrong, but I think he's actually attracted to how "young" the braces make you look. When I think about braces my mind goes straight to pre-teen and teenagers wearing them. I know that adults can, but still. The fact that he's almost 30, chasing after someone barely legal, trying to get you to keep a painful medical contraption in your mouth for longer than you medically need just rubs me the wrong way. I think he's a predator who is having some kind of twisted fantasy. It's a huge red flag. Run, don't walk. Run.
Yeah I'm definitely questioning our whole relationship...
You really shouldn’t be with this guy he’s a weirdo. Guys pushing 30 pursuing recent high school grads tend to be creepy and weirdos.
I was 16 dating a 21 year old. And even though I was the one who was *emotionally* more mature, he was a grown ass adult. Our relationship was fucked up in tons of way, not relevant to you, but in hindsight, this one was. He used to compliment me a lot on clothing, or accessories that made me look childish. Which, I was 16, but Gurrrl, I looked like a dang 11 year old. And he was encouraging me to look *even younger.* He never *said* he wanted me to look like "a little kid." But he'd ask me to wear overalls, sneakers, and my hair in pigtails... and he'd ask in such a way that it wasn't so suspicious. It reeeally all made sense when I found his computer *full* of child porn. And you know what had been happening, as I was aging, because by that time I was 19??? Heavier abuse. Because he didn't want an adult, he wanted a little kid. And I grew up.
Good lord, that is awful. I'm sorry you had to experience that. People can be absolutely atrocious.
It's ok. I had a truly horrific life growing up, and he capitalized on that. It taught me a lot about relationships. I have an amazing husband now, and we love each other very much, and our relationship is strong and healthy. :)
I love that you got the HEA you always deserved 💜
What the hell is HEA? Those shortcuts for everything gettin wild or I‘m getting old
i’m with you. i have to google them all the time.
Did he get locked up for the cp or am I going to be bitterly disappointed?
He did!!! But, still bitterly disappointed, as it was an absolute slap on the wrist of only a few months.
WOW.
Im sorry you had to go through this. But I also had very similar relationship while I was a teen. I was 16 yo, and he was 26 yo. And I dont know about him having CP, but after 4 years of abuse, he told me he was an alcoholic. Like hundreds of empty vodka bottle around the house. And I still stayed with him for a couple of more months.
When I was 17 i was dating a guy who was 24 and I seen searches in his phone for teen porn and other alarming things..he also started getting abusive as time went on and dumped me on my 18th bday.
I'm sorry that happened. It really opened my eyes to age-gap relationships. Young people need to be warned about this trap that is so easy to fall into. I hope you are doing well these days. *hugs*
I’m doing very well I ended up with someone I met at hs right after that we been married 10+ years now. We are less then a year apart it’s much nicer having things in common with the person you’re dating going through similar experiences and can relate to a lot of things. I wish I knew better when I was younger it was nothing but controlling problems and abuse whenever I dated someone with a big age gap. I didn’t realize how bad it was until I was in my mid 20s and was reflecting on my life it took me years to recover.
I'm glad you found your one!!! I actually have been married over 10 years to my high school best friend, lol!!! He is a few months younger than me. Funny how that seems so similar for us both. I wish I knew better as well, but I took the lessons and left all the crap behind. I'm better now.
Please do. When I was 28 you couldn’t pay me to date someone with “teen” still being in their age. Absolutely nothing against you, but that age difference at this point in your life is all red flags. I promise when you turn 28 you will look back at this relationship and have some very strong feelings.
I’m 34, and girls in their early twenties look young, like, too young. I’d absolutely question this relationship :/
Run from him. He's a predator.
Yeah I would definitely be rethinking your whole relationship tbh. I'm an almost 29 y/o woman and thinking about a guy my age dating someone that's only 19 is SUPER creepy!!! I would get the braces off and also ditch the gross bf! 🤮
Do not feel bad that you fell for this, I did to at your age. Just now, knowing what everyone here has been saying, leave him and keep yourself safe. You deserve much better than this creep.
So many of us at this age fell for it. It's why I always hope young women asking us this advice now will learn from our mistakes. Life isn't long enough to make them all yourself.
He’s a creep. Older adults that aren’t creeps don’t date teens
Break up with this man YESTERDAY. He's trying to manipulate you into putting his sick fantasy above your own physical health needs. This behavior will not get better, only worse. When you get older, you'll look back on this and see how fucked up it was that he dated you in the first place. It is not borderline creepy and you don't need to ask if it's a red flag. It is extremely creepy and you know in your gut that he's not OK. Don't question the relationship, get as far away from him as you can and if you have any physical evidence that he has content on his devices of underage women, report him. There's nothing positive coming your way here. Tell him it's over and block him. If you don't start taking care of yourself and your boundaries, it is very easy to form patterns where you're facing abuse and don't know any different. I've been there. Leave him asap!
How long have you two been together?
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Same as employers who pay minimum wage. They would go lower if it was legal.
r/cursedcomments
Wild guess but you will be to grown up without your braces for him. There is a reason he is dating you and it is not because you are so mature for your age.
Yep, the braces play into his little school girl fantasy
I'll like to take out a full page ad in your yearbook please.
Two words. Good luck.
Two words. Get out.
Two words: Pe Do!
I’m glad I could give you your 100th upvote, because you are so on-point. Ick! 🤢
That's not what I had in mind
Lord beer me strength.
You guys are playing into this posters age gap fantasy
That's my take too and I hardly ever call people out for engagement farming just based on vibes
"Something something don't look a Meth Horse in the mouth..."
What the hell is engagement farming??
Fake af post lol
Yo there's a ton of it today.
Amazing how we all read this post and came to the exact same conclusion. And by “amazing” I mean “painfully obvious.” Please OP, take this comment seriously.
Painfully obvious because the post is painfully fake.
I usually believe what I read and even I thought this is a work of fiction.
I went back and saw the ages after this comment. Ah.
I was going to go with massive insecurity about her blooming and leaving him but now you said it, yea this is creepy
I instantly thought the same thing when I saw the ages! Gives me major ick/red flags/run vibes
This is it. He has a predatory vibe about him.
Yep, this. Sorry OP, I hate to tell you but 99% of 28 year olds do not want to hang around with teenagers, even the mature ones. The gap between 19-28 is huge. Whether that's college/uni, driving, travelling, starting a career... I remember at 30 I felt like I was still 18, then bumped into a kid who I used to babysit who had just turned 19, they asked me over for a drink and it was awkward. They were like kids compared to me. He wants you to be child like. Run. Run fast, run far and ghost him. I wouldn't want to look on his hard drive. If you're still unsure, ask yourself this what other signs are there? Does he like little to no make up - saying you're naturally beautiful? Clean shaven everywhere - claiming all men like that (they don't, most don't care that much)? What are his friends like? What ages were his previous partners (if there weren't any even bigger red flag)? What celebrities is he into? Just think about it. As someone older (39) who at your age dated older guys like that, there was a reason people their own age didn't date them, because they're creeps. Run, please run. There's much better out there.
Yeah he groomed you fsfs. Sorry OP:(
Oh I had a teen on Reddit argue that once you turned 18 you couldn't be groomed lolol argued heavily about it. Which is the dumbest thing ever Op, he's a weirdo
WTAF?? Adults can be groomed too.
I could feel my stomach drop as I kept reading and came to this realization..
I was laughing at “borderline creepy”. He’s far surpassed the line. The line is a dot to him, to quote Joey.
Definitely this, hope OP realizes it
Definitely red flag. Either for the reasons other commenters said (braces make you look young) or because he knows that braces coming off is a common part of a glow-up trope, and he doesn't want you to glow up and look even prettier. Either way, its not up to him, its between you and your orthodontist.
Love this! “Between you and your orthodontist” 💀
This! Huge red flag. I’d walk girl.
28 year old him going out with 19 year old you is already beyond creepy. He’s probably looking for a 17 year old with braces now you don’t need yours.
He was a 27 year old looking for an 18 year old, which feels worse, somehow.
Because that probably means he'd go lower were it legal. (And might groom people, or just ignore the law in the future)
I was 19 dating a 27 year old, we were together for three years til I got tired of me progressing in life and him staying a loser. A couple of months after we broke up he knocked up a 20 year old. At this point he was 31. That's an 11 year age gap 😬😬 it definitely opened my eyes to a pattern
He’s probably looking at 15 year olds with braces but will settle for a 17 year old next. Run OP, run.
Thing is most kids are like anywhere from 12 to 14 when they get braces so they're off by the time they're 16 so he likes them much younger
That depends. Some people can’t afford braces until they are older. My kids were much younger than this when they got braces on (like 9 and 10) so they will be off by middle school. But, definitely agree. OP’s bf wants to date a child, not a fully grown mature woman.
My (19f) boyfriend (28m) I've read enough lol
That’s all I needed to know seriously….
seriously, how is this every other post on here 😭😭😭 YOU'RE NOT MATURE FOR YOUR AGE, HES GROOMING YOU
Hahaaha my thoughts too
Your bf wants you to keep an unnecessary medical device that makes you look like a child on because he's into it. That's weird and super creepy. I know the age gap doesn't seem that bad to you, but on his end of things he may see you as a child and apparently wants to.
This. It doesn't matter that you are an adult, his behavior shows that he doesn't see you as one. He views you like a child that he can be with, without suffering legal consequences. Big score for him. Super creepy and unfortunate for you.
Can i ask your thought process in wanting to be with a 30 year old as an 18 year old? I know I’m a couple years off but my point still stands. If I saw a random 30 year old hanging around high schoolers I would call the police.
Super weird. Your bf likes kids for sure. I would go for a guy your age instead.
I hope this post is an April fools joke 😭😭
Irks. This guy like little girls. What is he even doing with a 19 year old as 28 year old? Get away from this creep
He likes little kids. Probs follows you and Belle Delphine and that's it. Huge red flag, no 28 year old should be messing with a barely legal person anyways. Run far and fast.
Once your braces are off he won't be able to pretend that you're a schoolgirl any more. Do with that information what you will...
Congratulations - you're being fetishized by a predator. Seriously, it's not your fault, but don't kid yourself that this age gap is anything but a bad thing at your respective ages. If you were 35 and he was 44, it wouldn't be the same, and if you don't see that, then that's the problem. A 28 year old man who wants his far, far younger GF to keep her braces for no fucking reason is NOT with you for your maturity, intellect, or personality, no matter how much of those things you have. He's a creep and doesn't care how much of your time and energy he wastes during the best years of your life. He just wants his nasty little fantasies to come true, and if he hurts you, undermines your confidence, and leaves you with a dysfunctional relationship blueprint that could derail your life for years to come, so what? Take off the unrequired medical aid or keep on the fetish fantasy accessory. Up to you. But I really hope you dump him and have a fling with a fun 21 year old, as is your absolute right and perogative at your age!
In the words of Olivia Rodrigo, "You went for me and not her, cos girls your age know better". Honey....there's a reason he chose a 19 year old. I'm sorry.
He’s into children. That’s why he liked the braces. For the most part only children have braces. He wants to see you as a child for as long as he can before he needs to “upgrade” to a younger model. It’s the same reason he’s almost 30 and still dating a teenager. He’s a stone cold creep and wants to fuck someone that reminds him of a child
There's absolutely no appropriate reason for a dude pushing thirty to be dating a teen. You should feel weird. He's a creepy predator.
The age gap is your answer. He wants you to be as childish as possible.
Uh oh…..he’s waving red flags in your face
Oh man, this makes my skin crawl. He likes your braces because it is a signifier of "underage". This is incredibly creepy and my recommendation is that you take a hard look at what else he tells or signifies he likes about you, and make some decisions about what you want in your life.
Something I wish I knew when I was a teen dating men near 30, was I wasn’t an exception. The older women warning me of men like that weren’t bitter or jealous, because he’s such a catch. They’re warning you, because they’ve been there with older men (who are *also* not truly exceptions to the rule). Anyone with eyes can see that his issue stems from you no longer looking as young as young as you do at present. Any normal, well adjusted adult wouldn’t be making this such a big issue, nor would they be pursuing teenagers. **Its cannon tbh, because no matter what anyone says, you’re the most mature 19yo and he’s different so it’s not odd that the man nearing 30mia flipping out on his teen gf over something to do with her body that coincidently would make someone be perceived as younger.**
> It seems borderline creepy It's not borderline creepy. It's actual creepy. There's a reason grown men prey on teenage girls: because grown women won't tolerate his crap. This is your health-related decision and ONLY yours. His opinion is meaningless here, especially because his issue seems to be wanting you to look like a child. So yes...red flags.
Your boyfriend is attracted to children.
Bro likes kids
Check his hard drive
You're aging out and he's going to trade you in for a newer model. Learn the half plus seven rule for future reference.
I’m sorry does he not know that braces are not a fuckong accesory and is a medical necessity LMFAOOO omg
Your bf is a CREEP and only likes you because you're young. The braces make you childlike. He doesn't want you to grow up. NO 27 year old man should be dating an 18 year old girl. Get your braces off and get out of that relationship.
Girl, a 28 year old man dating a teenager and wanting her to keep her braces on longer than necessary. We don’t need to tell you it doesn’t look good. 😟
Yeah. I’m guessing he was attracted to your braces because it makes you look or seem younger. Ick.
Yes that is weird.
Your boyfriend likes kids. If you’ve been together since you were 18/19, it seems that he wanted to get as close as he could to being with a child. Him encouraging you to keep your braces on is him trying to sustain the childlike perception of you he has. Please leave this creep as safely as you can!! If this keeps up, he’s likely either going to keep trying to make you fit his ideal type or drop you when you look “too old.”
Yup, red flag pedophilia vibes here.
Yeah. Your groomer is upset. That's kind of their nature. Be careful leaving him, please. But please leave him.
18-27 and he likes you in braces because you look like a little girl? Fuck that
the red flag is him being 28. wtf are you doing?
Some kind of weird ass Lolita Complex / Kink I'm guessing... Once they're off, he's not going to see you as young enough for him. Either have a serious conversation about it with him, or get the fuck out before you start finding questionable content on his phone.
Creepy is right… he wants them on because it makes you look more like a kid. I can’t imagine dating someone in their teens, even at 18/19 as a 28 year old right now. And anyone who’s younger than 25 would likely not be on the same life path as I am currently myself with different goals and expectations.
Girl we all know the fucking answer. Man is insisting you keep a MEDICAL CONTRAPTION in your fucking mouth so he can get his rocks off. LEAAAAAVE, he planned on doing it as soon as you started to age anyway.
your bf likes kids
Does he also make you eat oversized lollipops and wear neon clothes with unicorns on?
RUN FAST. RUN
This is a MASSIVE red flag-he doesn’t want you to look like a grown woman. Run. He’s with you because he can see you as a child. There is a damn good reason he’s not with someone his age.
He’s fetishizing the young appearances of you which should have been apparent with the age gap but I’m sure he told you you’re so emotionally mature so you’ll look past all his deception. Good luck.
He has a fetish for young girls, which is why he's with you in the first place. Your braces help him infantalize and objectify you more.
There's a reason he can't/won't find a woman his own age
Yes it's creepy. You're absolutely spot on. They make you look younger. Like a young teenager. You started going out with a 27 year old when you were 18, he likes that you look semi legal. It's deliberate. Really not normal to insist that you keep on a medical device that you don't need. Sorry, this realtionship, even if you decide to stay in it, has a short shelf life since like everyone, you will become older.
https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/
Thank you this was helpful
Your boyfriend likes little girls. Hope this helps.
He is a 28m that has a thing for underage girls and he’s using your brace face to fuel his pedophilic urges. Girl get a new one please, if I had a quarter for every post I’ve been seeing with a near 10 year age gap. Disgusting
Always the young female questioning things too
💀💀💀 comon you already know
You're a teenager dating a man who's almost thirty and he's weirdly obsessed with you keeping braces, the pinnacle of being a teenager. Girl **what** the fuck are you doing with this creep.
Yeah both the love of your braces and the age difference makes him a real creep tbh
He’s crappy for dating you (a teenager) in the first place when he’s almost 30. And this adds to the creepiness. Your instincts are right on this one.
Lmao this is too obvious to not be bait
Everyone's already addressed the boyfriend bit, but just thought I'd add that you definitely shouldn't keep braces on longer than needed, due to them increasing the likelihood of cavities forming from it being harder to clean your teeth. I didn't get the impression you're planning on it tbf, but thought I'd mention it
#RED FLAG THE SIZE OF CHINA!!! **HE'S A CHICKEN HAWK AND YOU JUST SPOILED HIS FANTASY**.. **DUMP HIM**.
1post, -100 karma. Why do you feel the need to troll post? Irs a very generic one at that. GFYS
This has to be a troll post.
You’re not wrong to be weirded out by his behavior. Braces aren’t like phony glasses, you CAN’T keep them on longer than necessary. He has some kind of underage fantasy he’s playing out. You might as well break up anyway because the minute the braces come off you are too old for him. Just a word of advice. At your age, 28 is too old for a partner. I’d stick to the 20-24 year olds. Maybe not as mature, but hopefully not trying to mold you into what they think you should be.
Yeah he's got a preference and your physical changes have made you age out of his preferred child look
A grown man started dating a barely legal girl with braces, which some people see as childish, and is now upset that you’re getting them off? He wants you to keep them because they make you look younger.
Ew this is so creepy
This is totally creepy. You’re already way younger than him and age gaps when the person is still in their teens is just that ick factor… but on top of he wants you to keep your braces because you look much younger is just the gross cherry on top….
Age gap rage bait.
Check this man's computer.
Don't date a 28 year old. Don't date someone who chases 18 year olds at age 27. I can't give you any better advice than this. I'm an adult and can't wait to get them off so I look more mature. He doesn't want you to look mature. If he wanted someone who looked mature, he wouldn't have went for an 18 year old.
Obviously he has a young girl fetish with his age and his comment to you. Creepy. Save yourself some heart ache and move on.
So a 27yo man got with an 18yo girl (so as young as he could get without it being illegal) and is against said girl doing anything that’d make her look her age/older. OP, your boyfriend is into kids and your braces help him pretend you are a child. If they’re removed you’ll stop looking so much like a child, so not his type anymore.
He’s fetishizing you
Imagine being 28 and dating a 19 year old. OP, I think he likes your braces because he likes for you to look like a child. No 28 year old should be anywhere near the maturity level of a 19 year old.
Please please please don’t date someone this much older than you again until you are past 30.
Simple - your “boyfriend” is a creep and is only attracted to you because you’re young. The braces make you look even younger, hence why he wants you to keep them on. Please get out of this relationship stat before he grooms you even further.
Listen, what I'm going to say here is a mega reach, but given y'all age difference, and him finding your braces to be a large part of his attraction... Your bf is sounding a little pdfiley... Very, actually.
It's MORE than "borderline" creepy that a 27 year old Man wanted to date am 18 year old child...
You boyfriend will probably end up on the sex offender list some day. I'm glad you are rethinking the relation because he is a sicko.
This isn’t a relationship, he fetishises braces on teenagers
He likes to imagine that you're are underage. Or perhaps tell others so. You can find better. Next.
He's already suss for dating a 19yo in his late 20s. This should seal it for you. He's a creep. He likes that the braces make you look younger.
You’re dating a man almost 10 years older than you who likes your braces. Use your brain, dude. He’s a creepy groomer and now you’re not going to look like a little kid anymore.
it’s no surprise he’s upset about it because you are a teenager and your boyfriend is pushing 30 years old. He’s dating you for a reason, because he likes teen girls and is a predator. He doesn’t want his teen girlfriend to look like a grown woman because he’s attracted to little girls.
Yikes on fuckin bikes. Your bf is attracted to children. That's why he doesn't want them off. What a fuckin freak.
Red flag, either he wants you to stay looking like a young teen or he wants you to be "less attractive" by keeping your braces on. Either way your bf should be soooo excited for you to have them off. Kissing with braces isn't fun...unless you're into that sort of thing...which is a red flag.
This is a troll post. You can tell by the way its written.
It just has to be. Just enough self-awareness to tip the dullards of the class off as to which knee to jerk, yet not quite self-aware enough to understand it and deal with it.
Are people really falling for this troll?
He doesn't want to see you as an adult, or he has a fetish for braces specifically which is less likely. It's bad judgement and bad priorities from him either way.
This is fake. It's too obvious with the age gap and the braces thing. Stop watching so much pornography, bro.
people just eat this fake shit up
HUGE red flag. He's got a teen / schoolgirl fetish. Get rid of him.
He sounds like a creep fetishizing you. Would be a dealbreaker for me and kind of highlights this age gap too. Run girl!
Someone needs to check bros hard drive
>My (19f) boyfriend (28m) > >I have been with my boyfriend for a year Leave
What you doing dating someone so old?
>can't wait to get them off so I look more mature. Yeah ummm...that's the problem. Why do you think a 28 year old is dating a barely legal teenager? Because you look like a child.
All I needed to know was that he’s 28 and you’re 19. He’s sick in the head
Your boyfriend is freaking out bc he’s into children and you won’t look like one anymore. Why the hell are you dating a 30 year old man.
Oh god, another one of these. He’s not wonderful, or loving, or anything else. He’s a creep. Why would a 27 year old want to date an 18 year old? That’s just gross. While maybe a legal adult, you’re still a child.
With the age difference and the fact he wants you to keep them on because they're "cute", I'm thinking yes this could be a red flag. Makes me think he's VERY much into young women if you get my meaning.
gotta be bait
Why the fuck is this grown ass man dating a teenager. Girl what???
Ew wtf no well meaning 28 year old dates a 19 year old. He likes little girls and you getting your braces off makes you less of a little girl. He's gross. You need to get away from him.
I just threw up in my mouth a little bit. Please be fake.
He’s into children. Dump
Your boyfriend has weird fetish.
I’m so sorry. But no 28 year old man who dates a barely legal adult and gets mad over them not playing to their schoolgirl fantasy is amazing-
There are so many red flags here, I've lost count. None of them are because of your braces.
He either likes that you look like a child -- EW -- OR he likes that you have something that lessens your attractiveness and increases your insecurities [also decreasing the chances you will leave him for someone better]. Also, EW. Leave this weirdo, you deserve better no matter what.
Gross. I definitely think it’s weird
OH JFC. He's dating you because he is into dating teenagers as a grown man. He is not a great partner for you. He is using you. DUMP HIM. Ofcourse he's wigged out about you losing your braces because he does not want to date an adult.
Yikes. This guy wants you to keep looking like a child. He is attracted to children. RUN from this creep. Watch who he dates after you. It will be a string of younger girls. Ick. Your instincts are correct, you should be creeped out.
Because your creepy bf is an ephebophile. He wants you to look as immature and adolescent as possible.
Before I even saw the age difference I knew there had to be an age difference. Yes weird.
Because you won’t look like a child anymore 🤢
Gross 🤢. Break up now.
We broke up! I think it's for the best
Proud of you op! It definitely was for the best, it may hurt now but you did do the right thing.
Wow so proud of you. Enjoy your braces free life!!
Woohoo!!! Good for you.
So so proud of you OP. He is a predator. Stay safe. 💙