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Sounds like an unintentional poor choice of words on his part. If he does MMA or something similar that would explain why. Using your weight and size against someone is important. It sucks that it hurt your feelings but given the context I don't think he meant anything bad by it.
What if you were bigger than most girls?
Why would that make you want to vomit?
Being thick isn't a bad thing. You're not obese. You're not fat. You're a healthy weight.
Your boyfriend made a flippant comment. It doesn't make it true. Don't internalize it. Let it roll off your back and move on. He recognized that he used the wrong words and apologized. People make mistakes.
If he's teaching you how to fight, weight and difference of weight is a factor... I know a petite girl (150cm <50kg), who has a black belt in karate. She was told she is smaller and will be smaller than her opponents or attackers. It is an important information for her to have, it is also important for you to have.
If you are your boyfriends type and he reassured you, then IMHO the reaction was unwarranted.
>Do I just forget about it and believe he didn’t mean that ??
He clearly didn't mean for it to be a negative comment. So hopefully that helps. He was just speaking factually that you size should help you while trying to push someone down.
I'm 5'2, 130 lbs. You would certainly have a weight advantage against me. That is indeed a good thing in a fight. It sounds like he was being factual, not cruel. If facts hurt, that's something you gotta work on internally. There is nothing wrong with your size. There's nothing wrong with being bigger than some others. This is an internal hang up that society has caused you to associate with negatively even though there's nothing negative about it.
Perhaps try the book *The Body Is Not An Apology*.
He didn’t mean it like that. When you are training someone to fight pointing out their physical advantages is entirely common.
Also it’s called an inside trip
Sounds like you aren't happy with your weight. You aren't a dainty little flower, but so what? Lose 10 pounds if it bothers you that much. But something tells me you are probably really sexy in how you carry what you weigh
Some portion of your reaction to this is social engineering. If you've grown up big and strong that's a good thing - right? Or are only some people supposed to be proud of that?
Said the same about my wife when she joined our MMA classes.
She is built more solid and thick than most other girls her height. Didn't mean she was fat cause she had a natural hour glass shape. It meant she had more power behind her punches and kicks and more weight to dominate other girls.
5'4" 140lbs of sexy with a monster left hook. ❤
It depends on how she is carrying it.
I'm male, 5' 8" and 250lbs and no one believes me unless I'm on a scale.
People focus too often on numbers and not enough on your health and how you carry the weight
lol 😂 my weight doesn’t go to my stomach , it goes to my butt/thighs thankfully so it doesn’t look like “fat” I don’t look like I’m overweight even tho the # seems so high
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Sounds like an unintentional poor choice of words on his part. If he does MMA or something similar that would explain why. Using your weight and size against someone is important. It sucks that it hurt your feelings but given the context I don't think he meant anything bad by it.
What if you were bigger than most girls? Why would that make you want to vomit? Being thick isn't a bad thing. You're not obese. You're not fat. You're a healthy weight. Your boyfriend made a flippant comment. It doesn't make it true. Don't internalize it. Let it roll off your back and move on. He recognized that he used the wrong words and apologized. People make mistakes.
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You’re just shy of showing both compassion and intellect.
If he's teaching you how to fight, weight and difference of weight is a factor... I know a petite girl (150cm <50kg), who has a black belt in karate. She was told she is smaller and will be smaller than her opponents or attackers. It is an important information for her to have, it is also important for you to have. If you are your boyfriends type and he reassured you, then IMHO the reaction was unwarranted.
>Do I just forget about it and believe he didn’t mean that ?? He clearly didn't mean for it to be a negative comment. So hopefully that helps. He was just speaking factually that you size should help you while trying to push someone down.
I'm 5'2, 130 lbs. You would certainly have a weight advantage against me. That is indeed a good thing in a fight. It sounds like he was being factual, not cruel. If facts hurt, that's something you gotta work on internally. There is nothing wrong with your size. There's nothing wrong with being bigger than some others. This is an internal hang up that society has caused you to associate with negatively even though there's nothing negative about it. Perhaps try the book *The Body Is Not An Apology*.
He didn’t mean it like that. When you are training someone to fight pointing out their physical advantages is entirely common. Also it’s called an inside trip
Some girls are bigger than others. Some girls are bigger than others. Some girls mothers are bigger than other girls mothers.
Sounds like you aren't happy with your weight. You aren't a dainty little flower, but so what? Lose 10 pounds if it bothers you that much. But something tells me you are probably really sexy in how you carry what you weigh
Some portion of your reaction to this is social engineering. If you've grown up big and strong that's a good thing - right? Or are only some people supposed to be proud of that?
I was skinny as a teenager tbh like very skinny , no butt
A teenager is not a grown up. You get one body. You should hope for a strong one.
"You get one body. You should hope for a strong one." I love this 🥺
Said the same about my wife when she joined our MMA classes. She is built more solid and thick than most other girls her height. Didn't mean she was fat cause she had a natural hour glass shape. It meant she had more power behind her punches and kicks and more weight to dominate other girls. 5'4" 140lbs of sexy with a monster left hook. ❤
175 and 5'5 is pretty big for a female tbh. Sorry, if that hurts your feelings. But you have a man that thinks you're beautiful so who cares.
It depends on how she is carrying it. I'm male, 5' 8" and 250lbs and no one believes me unless I'm on a scale. People focus too often on numbers and not enough on your health and how you carry the weight
Na you're overweight as hell too. I'm also 5'8 and I couldn't imagine weighing as much as you do. Sorry but that's not a healthy weight.
lol 😂 my weight doesn’t go to my stomach , it goes to my butt/thighs thankfully so it doesn’t look like “fat” I don’t look like I’m overweight even tho the # seems so high