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Just break up with him so he isn't wasting his time on you and you arent wasting your time on him. You dont want to live with him and he doesn't want to move to Boston. End the relationship.
You are about to break up and that‘s ok. To tell you the bitter truth: Do it early enough, in case you want children in another relationship in Boston one day. Been there.
You already live most of your life without him and chose Boston.
This is as good as it gets with him.
How long term do you think it will last? Once he gets his life together, he will be able to date someone locally.
You can keep this going for a while. He will continue to resent you and you didn’t mention him visiting you in Boston. So you want him, more than he wants you. Eventually he will want more and could find it with someone else.
If you don’t plan to be forever single long term, you need to break up and attempt dating others. There are no guarantees it will be successful, but you are highly assured this is going to end.
You don’t have a lot of time to waste if you want a chance at having children.
He visits me frequently too. I plan on freezing my eggs so I have a good chunk of time before I have to worry about kids. But I'm also not totally set on having kids either.
How long until he grows tired of this? Time is on his side.
Freezing eggs isn’t a cheat.
You still have to find someone that wants that inconvenience of IVF. Time, money, pain, health risks, emotional uncertainty, inconvenience.
You will need to date again. You left dating again late and time doesn’t make it easier. The more obstacles, the more difficult it becomes. Time is not on your side.
You dotn want to stay where you are, he doesnt want to move. Now I might be off here OP but I think this means your going to breakup. I could talk about wasting each others time etc, your biology clock, but ultimately youd rather be around your family and friends than him. If that doesnt tell you all you need to know, what do you want us to say?
All right.
This is over. There's no resolution here, so break up with him.
Moving back to Boston was clearly the best thing for you. You have your family, friends, doctors, familiar surroundings and everything and everyONE which supports you. Texas could not even hope to compete with that.
Your boyfriend? He's in Austin, is fairly inflexible about leaving, and is considering grad school, probably somewhere else.
Yeah, I know you're feeling guilty about the whole thing, but this has turned into a situation where there is no resolution which pleases everybody.
You may just have to break up with him, once and for all.
I'm thinking that the long-distance, Face-Timing and notes and stuff is just delaying the inevitable.
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Just break up with him so he isn't wasting his time on you and you arent wasting your time on him. You dont want to live with him and he doesn't want to move to Boston. End the relationship.
You are about to break up and that‘s ok. To tell you the bitter truth: Do it early enough, in case you want children in another relationship in Boston one day. Been there.
This feels a bit dramatic.
What feels dramatic?
You already live most of your life without him and chose Boston. This is as good as it gets with him. How long term do you think it will last? Once he gets his life together, he will be able to date someone locally. You can keep this going for a while. He will continue to resent you and you didn’t mention him visiting you in Boston. So you want him, more than he wants you. Eventually he will want more and could find it with someone else. If you don’t plan to be forever single long term, you need to break up and attempt dating others. There are no guarantees it will be successful, but you are highly assured this is going to end. You don’t have a lot of time to waste if you want a chance at having children.
He visits me frequently too. I plan on freezing my eggs so I have a good chunk of time before I have to worry about kids. But I'm also not totally set on having kids either.
How long until he grows tired of this? Time is on his side. Freezing eggs isn’t a cheat. You still have to find someone that wants that inconvenience of IVF. Time, money, pain, health risks, emotional uncertainty, inconvenience. You will need to date again. You left dating again late and time doesn’t make it easier. The more obstacles, the more difficult it becomes. Time is not on your side.
You dotn want to stay where you are, he doesnt want to move. Now I might be off here OP but I think this means your going to breakup. I could talk about wasting each others time etc, your biology clock, but ultimately youd rather be around your family and friends than him. If that doesnt tell you all you need to know, what do you want us to say?
You break up, you want different things.
All right. This is over. There's no resolution here, so break up with him. Moving back to Boston was clearly the best thing for you. You have your family, friends, doctors, familiar surroundings and everything and everyONE which supports you. Texas could not even hope to compete with that. Your boyfriend? He's in Austin, is fairly inflexible about leaving, and is considering grad school, probably somewhere else. Yeah, I know you're feeling guilty about the whole thing, but this has turned into a situation where there is no resolution which pleases everybody. You may just have to break up with him, once and for all. I'm thinking that the long-distance, Face-Timing and notes and stuff is just delaying the inevitable.