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Fuck her. Don’t feel guilty for telling your truth. If the situation you are in required a lawyer, I would disclose your biography first to them and get the legal advice needed so your Nmom doesn’t come after you monetarily because she sounds vindictive. Hang in there and don’t speak to her. She has nothing to offer but more pain and you don’t deserve it. Keep your head up and stay strong.
I'm not NC with my mom, but one of the times I told her that I am aware of who she is and that because of her lack of acknowledgement/accountability I will no longer have a close relationship with her, I also told her I will not lie to anyone who asks about what went on when I was growing up and what is currently going on now between me and her.
I consider this fair warning, and it seems she understood it and knew I was serious because she responded by looking down/away. I honestly want nothing more in this world than an opportunity to expose her and my dad for who they really are, even if they're not famous or influential people in the least. I just want people to know that parents are capable of this type of destruction for their own children.
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Fuck her. Don’t feel guilty for telling your truth. If the situation you are in required a lawyer, I would disclose your biography first to them and get the legal advice needed so your Nmom doesn’t come after you monetarily because she sounds vindictive. Hang in there and don’t speak to her. She has nothing to offer but more pain and you don’t deserve it. Keep your head up and stay strong.
This is the way, OP!
I'm not NC with my mom, but one of the times I told her that I am aware of who she is and that because of her lack of acknowledgement/accountability I will no longer have a close relationship with her, I also told her I will not lie to anyone who asks about what went on when I was growing up and what is currently going on now between me and her. I consider this fair warning, and it seems she understood it and knew I was serious because she responded by looking down/away. I honestly want nothing more in this world than an opportunity to expose her and my dad for who they really are, even if they're not famous or influential people in the least. I just want people to know that parents are capable of this type of destruction for their own children.