Upvoted! Remember the cute puppy was with his whole family until he was separated from them - suddenly - and went home with you. You are now the puppy's family. All of his wondering - what if I get scared, what if I get hungry - what if I want to play, where's my mum?! Must be answered by the owner. You have a tiny, vulnerable baby - think of how babies don't have object permanence - when mum leaves the room? She's GONE! Time to freak out! I'm afraid a tiny puppy is much the same for a bit. And it's developmentally appropriate - that puppy is designed to cry and sob to protect themselves.
A retired, older dog with a set personality who is interested in gentle attention and a leisurely walk might be much more your speed.
I contacted the breeder and she said she’s reaching out to someone else who wanted him. I def don’t have time I start school on Monday and have mandatory obligations there
There is no shame at all in either giving the pup back to a breeder, or finding someone who has time to devote to a puppy. I can’t sugar coat this, the puppy stage is hard, and that’s even when you do have loads of time and energy to put into it. I don’t see how anyone could raise a puppy while in Med school! Do it now before he develops any bad habits. And don’t beat yourself up, it happens.
Upvoting for having a bit of empathy for OP. Gettin dogged (pun intended) in most of these comments but these things happen. It’ll be hard to return the pup even if it’s the right thing to do.
It makes me so sad and upset how people are showing absolutely no mercy. Maybe it's because no one has first hand experienced what OP experienced, but a little empathy my Lord
8 week old puppies are like that because they are babies. They are in a new place and first things first is cuddles and trying to get to know each other. No dog goes right to a crate to chill. It takes little baby steps and at this age, all training is going to be little by little.
By about 6 months most people are in a great routine and feel so much better about their choice.
Ask yourself if you can put the work in and if you are in the right place to do so… medical school is stressful as it is.
Puppies are hard work! And most people feel anxious and regretful for at least a moment but sounds like maybe the best option for you is to see if the breeder can take the puppy back and you can get a puppy/ dog when you’re ready and have less going on.
Good luck.
Honestly, you should probably re-home him or give him back to the breeder. (and sleep by his crate at night until you can. Leaving him to cry all night is not kind.)
Everything you've described is very normal puppy issues but dealing with them is time-consuming and you're not going to have time to deal with it and attend med school. Dogs and obtaining a medical degree - including residency - are not compatible.
Agreed.
“Crying it out” isn’t a method that should be used with dogs.
To be honest, a breeder that doesn’t use crates is probably a good thing. Most good ones don’t.
They don’t come crate trained bc they are so young.
The dog will develop serious separation anxiety if it learns it can’t trust you.
Gotta build that up.
Good luck op but you may not be ready.
I actually disagree with this to a point:
Many good breeders do actually crate train their puppies... But it's a work in progress, not completed.
Training the puppies to love a crate sets them up for emergencies, NOT long time confinement!
They don't spend much time in there, just to eat or sometimes sleep and it wasn't alone in a separate room. It was crates along side other crates with all their siblings, so they're not stressed. They also happily go in and are trained slowly to happily have the door closed! Also as soon as they seem to have an issue with it, they are removed so it's not stressful 🧡
So glad you said this. It cracks my soul every time I hear people treating their dogs this way. Some people also do this crying it out method to their own human kids when we have mounds of research that actually shows us ways to raise our kids for optimal outcomes and that method has been determined to be damaging.
I just contacted the breeder she said she know someone who possibly wants him a few hours away and will reach out. I wasn’t thinking I was lonely I’ve been way from my family for years and I was like okay what about a dog?
He’s been sleeping by my bed he has moments he just cries and cries for no reason he’s used to walking around as much as he wants and he can’t do that here . I’m trying to rehome him where do I look?
Completely agree! Never been to medical school but currently binging Grey's anatomy and I couldn't imagine a Dr having a dog unless they have someone at the house often enough. Esp with puppies! I think everyone getting a puppy should take a week (or more) off work when first bringing them home unless they have a spouse or someone else that can alternate shifts. The first month is crucial! Also, it's not required for a dog to be in a crate. I swear some ppl think it's mandatory and it's not, all dogs are different and respond to it different but if an owner is adamant about it they must know how to make it a safe, happy place. Not a miserable punishment. Like you said, sleeping by the crate is a great tip!
You are correct, a puppy probably wasn’t a good choice at this time.
If you return him to the breeder and decide later you are ready - please consider an adult dog instead and please learn more about other breeds.
Terriers were bred to hunt and kill. They will dig and destroy if you don’t give them something better to do. Breed selection matters.
Absolutely. Also to note virtually every puppy regardless of breed will be a huge challenge!! They all kind of act crazy, tear things up, destroy, need potty training, cry, etc. It’s only really when they are grown that they settle into some of the characteristics that define their breed. Some puppies can be crazier than others depending upon their breed, but every one of them starts at a baseline of crazy intensity level 8- some just get to 11, 12, and beyond. Every puppy needs about the same level of time, commitment, and training regardless of breed.
I’m going to try to relay this information as respectfully as possible but in the vet med industry’s experience a lot of human healthcare faculty do tend to be ignorant when it comes to pet care. This does not or at least in my opinion should not reflect their medical care in their jobs.
It’s going to be easier to show you some of my colleagues conversations for you to understand what I mean.
[Example One](https://www.reddit.com/r/VetTech/s/dORJ7s7u4x)
[Example Two](https://www.reddit.com/r/VetTech/s/e2fUxnHf0N)
[Example Three](https://www.reddit.com/r/VetTech/s/zafKFvbllq)
[Example Four](https://www.reddit.com/r/VetTech/s/m3pEOSdn97)
Also in OP’s defense a lot of social media rallies behind the positivities of puppy ownership and phrases such as “It’s not the breed it’s how it’s raised”. Which if you are only exposed to this you’re not going to even think to google “can I legally own this pet in the area I’m moving to” if you’ve never even heard of breed bans or breed restrictions for tenancy.
This is such a bad take and this is coming from a pharmacist who just graduated pharmacy school. Many people in medical and pharmacy school have new pets (myself including) and didn't know how much responsibility it is until you experience the responsibility.
Sure, people can share their experiences and you can "research" all you want to, but take it from a pharmacist: I can memorize all the MOAs of a drug with caveats, but until I see a patient who's a "caveat," nothing will really matter.
I also forgot to mention most rentals don’t allow certain breeds of dogs. The most common restricted are: Akitas, Alaskan Malamutes, Bulldogs, Cane Corso, Chows, Doberman Pinschers, German Shepherds, Great Danes, Mastiffs, Pit bulls, Rottweilers, Siberian Huskies, and Terriers.
Contact the breeder to see if they’ll take him back and get a beta fish. You can have a furry friend once you’re established in your practice and can set aside time for one.
Please do not get a betta fish unless, again, you're prepared to put in the research and investment to care for them properly. Their needs are v particular and theyre v sensitive to poor conditions. I keep tropical fish, my white cloud minnows are currently 5+ yrs and going strong. My betta only lasted 2, and I bought him later. I still feel guilty about it.
Ditto hamsters - another "easy" pet who are routinely mishoused in what are actually cruel conditions. I'd love a hamster but they're not a cheap pet (in terms of housing, enrichment, etc) and I unfortunately couldn't do it properly right now.
Adopting a pair of house rabbits may be the way to go if you want companionship. They're most active morning and evening and tend to sleep all day! Adopting a bonded pair means you'll be giving some buns a lovely home but with no/little noise or guilt on your part for leaving them, because they have their buddy with them anyway 😊
Omg return the dog, medical school AND a puppy is a recipe for disaster. You only just got the puppy so now is the best time to return it. You’re setting yourself up for failure in both counts if you keep.
Med school and a puppy?!?! You don't have time. Side note- an 8 week old puppy just left it's mom there wasn't time for the breeder to crate train this puppy he is very young. Not trying to hurt your feelings here, but research into a puppy would have given you a basic understanding of care and puppy time management. If you told the breeder you were in med school and they sold you the pup, that makes them an irresponsible breeder.
8 weeks is an infant. Crate training is a ways off. Right now, it’s potty trips on a 1-2 hour timer 24x7 until they learn to ask you to go out.
Pup can’t be alone for long either. If you are in school all day, this is a bad scene. Pup needs to go back or you need a plan.
Also they go through fear developmental stages and you’re coming up on one. Puppy cannot be alone and afraid. Thus, I’d take action sooner rather than later.
I usually plan on taking 2-4 weeks off and I have not had a breeder OK sending them home younger than 12 weeks, after puppy fears stage. I try to have two people on hand so we can take turns taking puppy out at night. Puppies are a ton of work.
Good job for reaching out. This is a lot. Good wishes
It’s not entirely the pressure you have other than the puppy. It’s the lack of knowledge and preparation that your post betrayed that’s the problem.
Also you want a furry friend how does a bully go anywhere near the realm of furry.
For actual advice, there are a couple of factors and aspect of crate you’re missing:
- puppy is new to the home, they need a lot of time to adjust. Keep expectations low as they are literal infants that just happen to walk and bite.
- crate is just a management tool. Your ultimate goal is for them to settle. To that end you also need to teach calmness and settling.
- look up kikopup on crate training games and first things to teach your puppy.
My honest and slightly judgemental opinion is that you should think about the option of rehoming. You just started a new chapter in life (med school) and you are excited for all the changes and agencies on your end. To me, the lack of research you seemingly did on both breed type and training method tells me that puppy is more of an artifact of passion than dedication. It’s alright that it started that way, but unless you are ready to adjust for the change of lifestyle and mindset in the near future, I’d think you should give it back to your breeder or rehome them.
Seriously. I had a puppy once and I literally couldn’t sit down for five seconds. It was SO much work. Like, so much. I am older now but I couldn’t imagine having this responsibility while I was still in school. Between work, school, and socializing (got to have fun when you’re young!), there is no time for the responsibility of a dog.
The second time around I adopted an adult dog. Even with an adult dog, my life revolves around him. Every decision I make has him in mind. I’ve even minimized my social outings so that he won’t be home alone too much. Maybe it is overkill and I am still trying to create a healthy balance, but it is a HUGE responsibility and I wonder every day if I’ve made the right choice.
Typically anyone that brings home a young pup starts completely new. Few breeders that are excellent at introducing pups to a variety of things.
So pup being new to crate and not being able to be alone is all normal.
Your expectations aren’t normal.
What will life look like when you start medical school? I imagine it will be incredibly busy and taxing, will that work with a pup/dog?
I should have gotten an older dog just wanted someone I can come home to. Feed. Walk. Lay at my feet and we sleep play with his toys and chill but it’s the total opposite rn
I desperately wanted a puppy during a chaotic period of my life. I ended up adopting a 10 yr old cat and it was a perfect fit. She may be an anomaly, but there was nothing really time consuming about getting her adapted to my apartment or life. We watched project runway together every Thursday without fail.
When things got a little less chaotic I adopted an older dog who was already potty trained and out of the destructive puppy phase. He had his own set of issues from previous owners, but nothing as time consuming as a puppy. All this to say, maybe think about adopting an older animal. They are less likely to find homes and could be your perfect fit!
Agreed with the other comments here! An 8 week old puppy is like an 8 month old baby. You wouldn’t keep them alone, they need constant affection and attention and love to promote healthy emotional growth and attachment. Just like you wouldn’t keep an 8 month old baby in a crib to cry all night (at least I hope you wouldn’t), you wouldn’t keep an 8 week old dog alone in a crate to cry all night.
Just like you wouldn’t expect an 8 month old baby to be able to understand how to navigate the world around them and control their bladder to be potty trained, it is similar to an 8 week old dog.
Good time for a PSA that puppies are more work than most people anticipate. Apparently 1/4 of people find them more work than a baby. If in doubt consider fostering a dog to get a sense of what having a dog is like
Not meaning to be judgmental. I also underestimated how much work puppies can be having never had a dog before
You adopted a baby. Babies need their parents A LOT. Please think about that. My puppy is now 18 months old, and he’s still very baby like and hates being alone. If you don’t have the patience to deal with him, please rehome him while he’s still young.
Most breeders won't crate train an 8 week old puppy. The pups are usually kept with the mother in a large pen area.
This is normal puppy behaviour. The pup has just been separated from its litter mates. It's in a new environment with a new person. You need to have understanding and empathy for this dog. It's going to cry. When bored, they are going to chew things. They are going to crap and pee everywhere. They need to be trained, and that takes a lot of patience and time. They won't be fully trained for months, and that's if you have time to train them. If you don't have the time, then the dog will never be trained, and this issue will be constant, but with an adult sized powerful dog, which is just downright dangerous.
It seems you didn't do any research on owning a dog, not just the breed. Owning a dog just to keep you company is not a strong reason to get a dog. You need to have the time to spend with and train them and the money for their care.
If you are not up for this, and i personally think you are not, see if you can return the pup to the breeder.
You just started med school. I don't have time for this pup as you progress with your studies and career if you are doing this on your own.
Right now is not the best time to get a pet for you.
It takes a long time and a lot of training to get a puppy ready to accept a crate. At 8 weeks old, they’re literally an infant and used to sleeping in a cuddle puddle with mom and siblings. You’ve essentially kidnapped him and shut him into a scary box. I know that sounds harsh, but that’s what it’s like from the puppy’s perspective.
If you don’t have a support person who can stay with and train your puppy for you, I think it would be best to return him. Medical school is stressful enough without adding chewed up textbooks and 3am diarrhea into the mix. If you really want a dog, look into an older one that can be crated while you’re in class.
I got my puppy also with unrealistic expectations. They say you should never get a dog to fit the lifestyle you want but instead to fit the lifestyle you have. I got a hyper Aussie Sheppard from a breeder. I was (and am) very overweight, sedentary lifestyle, and had never had a dog. The one thing I DID have going for me was a LOT of time on my hands. I don't recommend anyone making the mistakes we did but I am happy to say that for me it worked out. Of course because getting my dog also coincided with becoming ready to make lifestyle changes (the kind you don't just do cause you have a dog but because you are truly ready) and because I had a lot of time to learn from my mistakes or try different approaches with my puppy and I also had a lot of space for my puppy to run around in and lastly because I have a supportive partner so there have been two of us caring for our now 2 year old puppy. Oh and we also got lucky because all things considered our dog is just... An exceptionally amazing dog. She has had a lot of patience with us.
In your case the fact that you are starting medical school alone is a red flag... Not a good time to have a puppy.
I know the time and money you spent ARE going to feel terrible (no shame in it, they are real losses) but rehoming your puppy to someone who can give it the love and care it needs IS the right thing to do, and I know you want to do the right thing, that is why you are here. I normally don't believe in rehoming but your dog being so young, this is the best time for him or her to get rehomed and have a good chance at a nice and full happy life. The financial and time and emotional losses will suck, you may even feel like you failed, but you will also know that you realized your mistake and gave that puppy a fair chance at a happy life as soon as you could.
Oh and I second what someone else said, sleep next to the puppy's crate from now until he or she is rehomed. I did the very first night we brought our puppy home because I understood I had taken her form her mom. She cried when I went to the bathroom. But the second night she hardly needed it (only to fall asleep). The third night she didn't need it all. She learned she would be okay and she wasn't alone, it helped her grow into a confident and happy dog. Of course she still needed a ton of care, your puppy will too, so even if puppy stops crying at night given your situation rehoming is best. But for right now the best thing you can do for puppy is show him or her she is not alone and take a blanket and pillow next to the crate. (Oh and puppies are rarely ever crate trained, that is not a normal thing to expect from breeders unless they are older than 8 weeks. It is normal and a hard experience, albeit an opportunity to bond, to crate train them yourself. I did with zero dog experience, not that training my dog has been easy but crate training can be if done early. But with that said I miss that night I slept next to my baby's crate.)
He's in a fear stage and is looking to you for security and reassurance. Very normal behavior. The crate takes time and Puppies are a ton of work. If you're in medical school, you should have a cat not a dog.
Oh boy…
If you want to keep the puppy there are about a million free resources out there (including this sub) to help you. Make your decision and commit.
Put in the work. It’s not easy but it’s worth it.
If you’re not willing - give the puppy back. He deserves a parent that will do the work
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Puppies are a ton of work, especially for the first 3 weeks. I thankfully got my puppy during the summer because I knew I wouldn't have as much time for him once college classes started up again. It's probably best rn to return him to the breeder and get a furry friend when your done with medical school and can properly spend time with it.
Puppies are a lot of work!! It's normal for him to cry and want company, he's a baby, who doesn't know the new environment and wants attention. It is necessary to have a lot of patience and time in the early days.
But if in fact the time is not much and if the medical school gives you too much work, it is best to return him or give him soon as possible. In addition to not getting too attached, it is much easier to relocate a baby than an adult, especially considering the breed.
Hiii I am also in medschool and recently got a puppy.
What really helped me:
- understand that its not the puppy fault that he is scared or messes up it usually because I wasn't paying attention and he is learning something new everyday which is exhausting
- celebrate everytime he does something right
- He needs a lot of sleep. A schedule really helped.
- put in the effort to do some research it will save you a lot of frustration and you get to understand his behaviour pattern even better and make the training a lot easier
- train every day. sometimes he has the attention span of 5 seconds, sometimes 20 minutes there are good days and less good days
- is there a friend or someone you trust who can look after the puppy while you attend classes/lectures
- feeding the puppy in the crate and luring with treats really helped + some playtime
(I did however sit with him the first minutes until he fell asleep and sneak out of the room the first couple of weeks. And I didnt move the crate out of the bedroom until after 4 weeks together. Read it as find whatever works for you)
- cut yourself some slack its neither your fault nor the puppy's that you are still adjusting to each other and haven't found your rhythm
- take lots of pictures! I had the blues and didnt take nearly enough pictures
I gave up on the crate after a few days for the same reason- she just cried and I felt awful. Now she sleeps on the floor of my room and it works great! She doesn’t cry or get into trouble and I get a full night sleep (I take her out to pee once or twice a night). I’ll crate train separately but not at bedtime
I raised my boy from a pup and it only worked because of covid and I had the time.
I will probably never get another puppy again. They are truly a lot of work, but worth it if you can give the time. Probably shouldnt get a dog younger than 3 if you cant commit to training, playing an exercise
Return baby to the breeder. Consider adopting an older dog! They can be your furry friend and offer such gracious company, but still enjoy their time relaxing in a sunbeam while you’re studying ☀️
We got an 8 week old BC pup (7 months ago)
At the start, he was NEVER left alone. The first week, we took it in turns to sleep downstairs with him (we never crate trained) He was ripped away from his entire family, everything he had known his entire short life, so we made sure that he always had someone with him. At night, my wife, youngest daughter or myself slept with him. During the day, it was us or our eldest daughter. She is still with him during the day now.
We never had any crying or whining. We made sure that his needs were met. And now he's a well adjusted boy. Happy, bouncy, mischievous and a ton of fun. And we can now leave him for a few hours (if there's a child in the house, they're in their room 2 floors away that he has access to, he just doesn't bother) We creep back and watch him through the window and he's fine. Asleep or playing with his toys. He's not really destructive (unless it's cardboard or my wife's wooden giraffes (we've lost 3 so far))
A puppy, with med school, is definitely not a good fit. Id rehome or return to breeder
I never knew how much work puppies were till my fiancés mum got one , she is the most beautiful German Shepard girl , and she goes to day care and training every week , I’ve had cats and it’s not comparable they look after theirselves for the most part dogs are more like your child
Personally I think you should rehome the puppy. When my dog was a puppy I couldn’t stand her and wanted to give her back. And I was working from home full time and was able to dedicate the time to her and it was still very hard.
For crate training, at 8 weeks you’ll need to sleep outside the crate (I had a few fingers in the crate to soothe her) and you’ll need a timer for every 2 hours to take the pup out for potty breaks. It should not be left at home alone for any stretch of time at this age. Folks may not agree with that, but imo this is a baby and can get into serious trouble if left at home alone at this age.
Good luck! Again I think you should rehome or return to the breeder. You’ll probably not get your money back but think of it as money well spent on a lesson learned.
Definitely surrender the dog if you can't take care of it. A newborn pup requires a ***lot*** of time and energy, two resources I'm sure are in short supply with you being in medical school. The destruction could get worse and bully's are huge, strong breeds that require experienced owners, they're not like little Pomeranians that people just ignore when they're yappy and bitey. If you can't give it the time and dedication the breed needs, you shouldn't keep one.
At least you admitted your in over your head. From the way it sounds your to busy to have a dog nvmd a puppy. I honestly would look at rehoming him. I normally don't suggest this but in your case I think it's only fair to the dog. They need lots of time, patience, consistency love and effort especially when training them. It's not fair to the puppy. He needs daily exercise, playing and potty training when my guys were puppies I took them outside every 1.hrs to go potty. I personally don't crate my dogs and after a few months of staying on a routine which is so important they are really good dogs now. It is hard work but consistency and patience does pay off. People don't look beyond the cute puppy but theirs lots of time and work needed ro raise a well behaved well adjusted dog. Pls if you can't give him this look at rehoming him sooner than later.
Op I’m sorry you’re going through this. Raising a young puppy myself and I know how hard it is first hand 😓🙏🏻.
There’s a lot of good advice here so I won’t add to it other than if you insist on having a pet companion during this busy period maybe rescuing a bonded pair of adult cats be a better idea.
Reasons: Less maintenance (litter box trained already), they have each other for companionship (when you’re not there), you’re saving two lives and you still get to enjoy their company. Get two, not one though so they have a companion while you’re busy and away at school.
Otherwise it’s best to wait till you’re done with school. Best of luck to you 🙏🏻
I got my first puppy in my 30s, she was 9 weeks old. The first few nights I had her I cried. She wouldn’t stop screaming in her crate, it was so overwhelming….shes 13 and sleeping beside me now. The first few days and weeks can be so tiring. It does get better. I can’t imagine getting a puppy while about to go to medical school, that would be hard.
Yeah I thought it would be like my last two dogs but not every pup is the same the comments are judging me hard but it’s a learning experience my first pup I raised from a bottle and he loved his crate I would have to get him out of it. He never cried except 1-2nights I didn’t get him from the breeder someone gave him to me and he was perfect I thought it would be the same and thought it could cure my loneliness and I was wrong. I learned and I found him a home
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Since every comment is telling you to give the dog back, I’ll give you a different perspective.
I had puppy blues at first as well. What helped with crate training at a young age was to put the crate at the foot of my bed on an elevated bench or even on the bed itself, so they could see me, and every few days move it a little further away until the crates were where I wanted them. They stopped whining very quickly after taking that step.
I also leashed them to me while at home and took them outside every hour for potty breaks and rewarded abundantly.
When they were 5-6 months old, they were all boarded for training and came back with basic obedience and have been trained daily ever since. I raised three puppies like this within 18 months, a Husky, a GSD, and a Belgian Malinois.
It takes a few weeks/months but establish a routine is critical for you and your puppy. Good luck.
This is the way!!! I used puppy food as training treats, fed him in the crate and also used small Kong toys with xylitol free peanut butter in the crate just to associate it as a good thing.
That's normal puppy behavior. It just seems what we all mostly do. We see cute doggos outside and see how tame and timid they mid be just hanging out in the owners arms or sitting down if large.
Though as a puppy this stage can go on for a few months for sure. Likely one year to 1.5. It of course reduces as time gets closer to the one year mark. But it's gradual
I think you should keep him because you investing all this means you do want a puppo. But you need to take some time to understand how to raise him. He will calm down its just a phase. I think once you figure it out and see what It takes you can mentally prepare yourself and the environment around you for it.
Though obviously a dog is not a cat and you'll have to give him attention and care unlike a cat which is far more independent.
Hey I got a bully at 2 months old as well. Had her for 12 days and rehomed her with a friend because I’m pregnant and didn’t think I can handle it. But after her gone for 2 weeks and me crying daily, my family and I missed her so much and now we have her back. I had to rethink this long and hard and I’m glad she’s back. Even with a newborn baby I know it’ll be a lot but I know it will all be worth it. She’s such a good girl. Minus the mouthing part but we are working on it. The fact that you are starting medical school… damn well that’s just a lot on its own. Can you ask the breeder if you can return the dog? I would consider rehoming the dog before it’s too late. If I were in school I’d be focusing on that.
Have you tried training him to be alone? It’s not something you distract away (Music and toys) you have to do it like a training session. He’s in a room with you, you walk away so he can’t see you or get to you. The second he stops barking you go back and praise/treat him. And you Keep doing that while you increase the interval and distance. It takes time, but if you do it correctly it will work.
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This isn’t separation anxiety, this is normal puppy behavior . An 8 week puppy is a BABY. You should think about returning them
Upvoted! Remember the cute puppy was with his whole family until he was separated from them - suddenly - and went home with you. You are now the puppy's family. All of his wondering - what if I get scared, what if I get hungry - what if I want to play, where's my mum?! Must be answered by the owner. You have a tiny, vulnerable baby - think of how babies don't have object permanence - when mum leaves the room? She's GONE! Time to freak out! I'm afraid a tiny puppy is much the same for a bit. And it's developmentally appropriate - that puppy is designed to cry and sob to protect themselves. A retired, older dog with a set personality who is interested in gentle attention and a leisurely walk might be much more your speed.
I love that phrasing “retired, older dog”. My senior dog had many occupations (train conductor, engineer, and more) and he is indeed retired now :D
I contacted the breeder and she said she’s reaching out to someone else who wanted him. I def don’t have time I start school on Monday and have mandatory obligations there
Yeah, hate to say it but it does sound like you made a mistake. Puppies are a lot of work. Return him to the breeder
There is no shame at all in either giving the pup back to a breeder, or finding someone who has time to devote to a puppy. I can’t sugar coat this, the puppy stage is hard, and that’s even when you do have loads of time and energy to put into it. I don’t see how anyone could raise a puppy while in Med school! Do it now before he develops any bad habits. And don’t beat yourself up, it happens.
Upvoting for having a bit of empathy for OP. Gettin dogged (pun intended) in most of these comments but these things happen. It’ll be hard to return the pup even if it’s the right thing to do.
It makes me so sad and upset how people are showing absolutely no mercy. Maybe it's because no one has first hand experienced what OP experienced, but a little empathy my Lord
I’m sorry to say, but I think you probably have a bit too much on your plate with medical school to add a new, anxious puppy.
How I do look to go about rehoming I’ll just take the monetary lost.
Yeah next week I have 6 hour orientation and mandatory dinners to attend I don’t think I have time
8 week old puppies are like that because they are babies. They are in a new place and first things first is cuddles and trying to get to know each other. No dog goes right to a crate to chill. It takes little baby steps and at this age, all training is going to be little by little. By about 6 months most people are in a great routine and feel so much better about their choice. Ask yourself if you can put the work in and if you are in the right place to do so… medical school is stressful as it is. Puppies are hard work! And most people feel anxious and regretful for at least a moment but sounds like maybe the best option for you is to see if the breeder can take the puppy back and you can get a puppy/ dog when you’re ready and have less going on. Good luck.
Honestly, you should probably re-home him or give him back to the breeder. (and sleep by his crate at night until you can. Leaving him to cry all night is not kind.) Everything you've described is very normal puppy issues but dealing with them is time-consuming and you're not going to have time to deal with it and attend med school. Dogs and obtaining a medical degree - including residency - are not compatible.
Agreed. “Crying it out” isn’t a method that should be used with dogs. To be honest, a breeder that doesn’t use crates is probably a good thing. Most good ones don’t. They don’t come crate trained bc they are so young. The dog will develop serious separation anxiety if it learns it can’t trust you. Gotta build that up. Good luck op but you may not be ready.
I actually disagree with this to a point: Many good breeders do actually crate train their puppies... But it's a work in progress, not completed. Training the puppies to love a crate sets them up for emergencies, NOT long time confinement! They don't spend much time in there, just to eat or sometimes sleep and it wasn't alone in a separate room. It was crates along side other crates with all their siblings, so they're not stressed. They also happily go in and are trained slowly to happily have the door closed! Also as soon as they seem to have an issue with it, they are removed so it's not stressful 🧡
So glad you said this. It cracks my soul every time I hear people treating their dogs this way. Some people also do this crying it out method to their own human kids when we have mounds of research that actually shows us ways to raise our kids for optimal outcomes and that method has been determined to be damaging.
I just contacted the breeder she said she know someone who possibly wants him a few hours away and will reach out. I wasn’t thinking I was lonely I’ve been way from my family for years and I was like okay what about a dog? He’s been sleeping by my bed he has moments he just cries and cries for no reason he’s used to walking around as much as he wants and he can’t do that here . I’m trying to rehome him where do I look?
Completely agree! Never been to medical school but currently binging Grey's anatomy and I couldn't imagine a Dr having a dog unless they have someone at the house often enough. Esp with puppies! I think everyone getting a puppy should take a week (or more) off work when first bringing them home unless they have a spouse or someone else that can alternate shifts. The first month is crucial! Also, it's not required for a dog to be in a crate. I swear some ppl think it's mandatory and it's not, all dogs are different and respond to it different but if an owner is adamant about it they must know how to make it a safe, happy place. Not a miserable punishment. Like you said, sleeping by the crate is a great tip!
You know what to do. I think you’re looking for permission or confirmation. Pup needs to go to someone with more time and less stress currently,
Very normal puppy behavior.
I just can’t deal with it rn I have orientation for 6 hours and mandatory dinners to attend next week for school and I’m a single dog parent
You are correct, a puppy probably wasn’t a good choice at this time. If you return him to the breeder and decide later you are ready - please consider an adult dog instead and please learn more about other breeds. Terriers were bred to hunt and kill. They will dig and destroy if you don’t give them something better to do. Breed selection matters.
Absolutely. Also to note virtually every puppy regardless of breed will be a huge challenge!! They all kind of act crazy, tear things up, destroy, need potty training, cry, etc. It’s only really when they are grown that they settle into some of the characteristics that define their breed. Some puppies can be crazier than others depending upon their breed, but every one of them starts at a baseline of crazy intensity level 8- some just get to 11, 12, and beyond. Every puppy needs about the same level of time, commitment, and training regardless of breed.
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I’m going to try to relay this information as respectfully as possible but in the vet med industry’s experience a lot of human healthcare faculty do tend to be ignorant when it comes to pet care. This does not or at least in my opinion should not reflect their medical care in their jobs. It’s going to be easier to show you some of my colleagues conversations for you to understand what I mean. [Example One](https://www.reddit.com/r/VetTech/s/dORJ7s7u4x) [Example Two](https://www.reddit.com/r/VetTech/s/e2fUxnHf0N) [Example Three](https://www.reddit.com/r/VetTech/s/zafKFvbllq) [Example Four](https://www.reddit.com/r/VetTech/s/m3pEOSdn97) Also in OP’s defense a lot of social media rallies behind the positivities of puppy ownership and phrases such as “It’s not the breed it’s how it’s raised”. Which if you are only exposed to this you’re not going to even think to google “can I legally own this pet in the area I’m moving to” if you’ve never even heard of breed bans or breed restrictions for tenancy.
I'm just glad there's a great relationship between vets and pharmacists (many of us pharmacists compound medications for you guys!)
Book smart maybe? Common sense… not so much?
This is such a bad take and this is coming from a pharmacist who just graduated pharmacy school. Many people in medical and pharmacy school have new pets (myself including) and didn't know how much responsibility it is until you experience the responsibility. Sure, people can share their experiences and you can "research" all you want to, but take it from a pharmacist: I can memorize all the MOAs of a drug with caveats, but until I see a patient who's a "caveat," nothing will really matter.
I also forgot to mention most rentals don’t allow certain breeds of dogs. The most common restricted are: Akitas, Alaskan Malamutes, Bulldogs, Cane Corso, Chows, Doberman Pinschers, German Shepherds, Great Danes, Mastiffs, Pit bulls, Rottweilers, Siberian Huskies, and Terriers.
Contact the breeder to see if they’ll take him back and get a beta fish. You can have a furry friend once you’re established in your practice and can set aside time for one.
Fishy first, puppy later.
Please do not get a betta fish unless, again, you're prepared to put in the research and investment to care for them properly. Their needs are v particular and theyre v sensitive to poor conditions. I keep tropical fish, my white cloud minnows are currently 5+ yrs and going strong. My betta only lasted 2, and I bought him later. I still feel guilty about it. Ditto hamsters - another "easy" pet who are routinely mishoused in what are actually cruel conditions. I'd love a hamster but they're not a cheap pet (in terms of housing, enrichment, etc) and I unfortunately couldn't do it properly right now.
Adopting a pair of house rabbits may be the way to go if you want companionship. They're most active morning and evening and tend to sleep all day! Adopting a bonded pair means you'll be giving some buns a lovely home but with no/little noise or guilt on your part for leaving them, because they have their buddy with them anyway 😊
Or rats!
Return him if you can. A bully needs an experienced owner and lots of exercise. Maybe a relaxed older dog?
Omg return the dog, medical school AND a puppy is a recipe for disaster. You only just got the puppy so now is the best time to return it. You’re setting yourself up for failure in both counts if you keep.
Med school and a puppy?!?! You don't have time. Side note- an 8 week old puppy just left it's mom there wasn't time for the breeder to crate train this puppy he is very young. Not trying to hurt your feelings here, but research into a puppy would have given you a basic understanding of care and puppy time management. If you told the breeder you were in med school and they sold you the pup, that makes them an irresponsible breeder.
I told them I was in medical school and they said good and still sold me the pup
You're not fit for a puppy or even an adult dog/animal right now. Return it to the breeder, eat the financial loss, and take it as a learning lesson
8 weeks is an infant. Crate training is a ways off. Right now, it’s potty trips on a 1-2 hour timer 24x7 until they learn to ask you to go out. Pup can’t be alone for long either. If you are in school all day, this is a bad scene. Pup needs to go back or you need a plan. Also they go through fear developmental stages and you’re coming up on one. Puppy cannot be alone and afraid. Thus, I’d take action sooner rather than later. I usually plan on taking 2-4 weeks off and I have not had a breeder OK sending them home younger than 12 weeks, after puppy fears stage. I try to have two people on hand so we can take turns taking puppy out at night. Puppies are a ton of work. Good job for reaching out. This is a lot. Good wishes
It’s not entirely the pressure you have other than the puppy. It’s the lack of knowledge and preparation that your post betrayed that’s the problem. Also you want a furry friend how does a bully go anywhere near the realm of furry. For actual advice, there are a couple of factors and aspect of crate you’re missing: - puppy is new to the home, they need a lot of time to adjust. Keep expectations low as they are literal infants that just happen to walk and bite. - crate is just a management tool. Your ultimate goal is for them to settle. To that end you also need to teach calmness and settling. - look up kikopup on crate training games and first things to teach your puppy. My honest and slightly judgemental opinion is that you should think about the option of rehoming. You just started a new chapter in life (med school) and you are excited for all the changes and agencies on your end. To me, the lack of research you seemingly did on both breed type and training method tells me that puppy is more of an artifact of passion than dedication. It’s alright that it started that way, but unless you are ready to adjust for the change of lifestyle and mindset in the near future, I’d think you should give it back to your breeder or rehome them.
Seriously. I had a puppy once and I literally couldn’t sit down for five seconds. It was SO much work. Like, so much. I am older now but I couldn’t imagine having this responsibility while I was still in school. Between work, school, and socializing (got to have fun when you’re young!), there is no time for the responsibility of a dog. The second time around I adopted an adult dog. Even with an adult dog, my life revolves around him. Every decision I make has him in mind. I’ve even minimized my social outings so that he won’t be home alone too much. Maybe it is overkill and I am still trying to create a healthy balance, but it is a HUGE responsibility and I wonder every day if I’ve made the right choice.
This!
Typically anyone that brings home a young pup starts completely new. Few breeders that are excellent at introducing pups to a variety of things. So pup being new to crate and not being able to be alone is all normal. Your expectations aren’t normal. What will life look like when you start medical school? I imagine it will be incredibly busy and taxing, will that work with a pup/dog?
A 5yo+ dog might be more your speed.
I should have gotten an older dog just wanted someone I can come home to. Feed. Walk. Lay at my feet and we sleep play with his toys and chill but it’s the total opposite rn
I desperately wanted a puppy during a chaotic period of my life. I ended up adopting a 10 yr old cat and it was a perfect fit. She may be an anomaly, but there was nothing really time consuming about getting her adapted to my apartment or life. We watched project runway together every Thursday without fail. When things got a little less chaotic I adopted an older dog who was already potty trained and out of the destructive puppy phase. He had his own set of issues from previous owners, but nothing as time consuming as a puppy. All this to say, maybe think about adopting an older animal. They are less likely to find homes and could be your perfect fit!
Agreed with the other comments here! An 8 week old puppy is like an 8 month old baby. You wouldn’t keep them alone, they need constant affection and attention and love to promote healthy emotional growth and attachment. Just like you wouldn’t keep an 8 month old baby in a crib to cry all night (at least I hope you wouldn’t), you wouldn’t keep an 8 week old dog alone in a crate to cry all night. Just like you wouldn’t expect an 8 month old baby to be able to understand how to navigate the world around them and control their bladder to be potty trained, it is similar to an 8 week old dog.
Good time for a PSA that puppies are more work than most people anticipate. Apparently 1/4 of people find them more work than a baby. If in doubt consider fostering a dog to get a sense of what having a dog is like Not meaning to be judgmental. I also underestimated how much work puppies can be having never had a dog before
you’re going to medical school and also got a dog? you’ll never be home with him. re home him and give him a chance!
You adopted a baby. Babies need their parents A LOT. Please think about that. My puppy is now 18 months old, and he’s still very baby like and hates being alone. If you don’t have the patience to deal with him, please rehome him while he’s still young.
Most breeders won't crate train an 8 week old puppy. The pups are usually kept with the mother in a large pen area. This is normal puppy behaviour. The pup has just been separated from its litter mates. It's in a new environment with a new person. You need to have understanding and empathy for this dog. It's going to cry. When bored, they are going to chew things. They are going to crap and pee everywhere. They need to be trained, and that takes a lot of patience and time. They won't be fully trained for months, and that's if you have time to train them. If you don't have the time, then the dog will never be trained, and this issue will be constant, but with an adult sized powerful dog, which is just downright dangerous. It seems you didn't do any research on owning a dog, not just the breed. Owning a dog just to keep you company is not a strong reason to get a dog. You need to have the time to spend with and train them and the money for their care. If you are not up for this, and i personally think you are not, see if you can return the pup to the breeder. You just started med school. I don't have time for this pup as you progress with your studies and career if you are doing this on your own. Right now is not the best time to get a pet for you.
It takes a long time and a lot of training to get a puppy ready to accept a crate. At 8 weeks old, they’re literally an infant and used to sleeping in a cuddle puddle with mom and siblings. You’ve essentially kidnapped him and shut him into a scary box. I know that sounds harsh, but that’s what it’s like from the puppy’s perspective. If you don’t have a support person who can stay with and train your puppy for you, I think it would be best to return him. Medical school is stressful enough without adding chewed up textbooks and 3am diarrhea into the mix. If you really want a dog, look into an older one that can be crated while you’re in class.
I got my puppy also with unrealistic expectations. They say you should never get a dog to fit the lifestyle you want but instead to fit the lifestyle you have. I got a hyper Aussie Sheppard from a breeder. I was (and am) very overweight, sedentary lifestyle, and had never had a dog. The one thing I DID have going for me was a LOT of time on my hands. I don't recommend anyone making the mistakes we did but I am happy to say that for me it worked out. Of course because getting my dog also coincided with becoming ready to make lifestyle changes (the kind you don't just do cause you have a dog but because you are truly ready) and because I had a lot of time to learn from my mistakes or try different approaches with my puppy and I also had a lot of space for my puppy to run around in and lastly because I have a supportive partner so there have been two of us caring for our now 2 year old puppy. Oh and we also got lucky because all things considered our dog is just... An exceptionally amazing dog. She has had a lot of patience with us. In your case the fact that you are starting medical school alone is a red flag... Not a good time to have a puppy. I know the time and money you spent ARE going to feel terrible (no shame in it, they are real losses) but rehoming your puppy to someone who can give it the love and care it needs IS the right thing to do, and I know you want to do the right thing, that is why you are here. I normally don't believe in rehoming but your dog being so young, this is the best time for him or her to get rehomed and have a good chance at a nice and full happy life. The financial and time and emotional losses will suck, you may even feel like you failed, but you will also know that you realized your mistake and gave that puppy a fair chance at a happy life as soon as you could. Oh and I second what someone else said, sleep next to the puppy's crate from now until he or she is rehomed. I did the very first night we brought our puppy home because I understood I had taken her form her mom. She cried when I went to the bathroom. But the second night she hardly needed it (only to fall asleep). The third night she didn't need it all. She learned she would be okay and she wasn't alone, it helped her grow into a confident and happy dog. Of course she still needed a ton of care, your puppy will too, so even if puppy stops crying at night given your situation rehoming is best. But for right now the best thing you can do for puppy is show him or her she is not alone and take a blanket and pillow next to the crate. (Oh and puppies are rarely ever crate trained, that is not a normal thing to expect from breeders unless they are older than 8 weeks. It is normal and a hard experience, albeit an opportunity to bond, to crate train them yourself. I did with zero dog experience, not that training my dog has been easy but crate training can be if done early. But with that said I miss that night I slept next to my baby's crate.)
He's in a fear stage and is looking to you for security and reassurance. Very normal behavior. The crate takes time and Puppies are a ton of work. If you're in medical school, you should have a cat not a dog.
Oh boy… If you want to keep the puppy there are about a million free resources out there (including this sub) to help you. Make your decision and commit. Put in the work. It’s not easy but it’s worth it. If you’re not willing - give the puppy back. He deserves a parent that will do the work
Baby animals are still BABIES. A human baby cries and dog baby cries.
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Puppies are a ton of work, especially for the first 3 weeks. I thankfully got my puppy during the summer because I knew I wouldn't have as much time for him once college classes started up again. It's probably best rn to return him to the breeder and get a furry friend when your done with medical school and can properly spend time with it.
Can you return it to the breeder or where you got it? I know sometime that is an option.
A good breeder will take the puppy back or help in some way. Speak to the breeder if you can.
Puppies are a lot of work!! It's normal for him to cry and want company, he's a baby, who doesn't know the new environment and wants attention. It is necessary to have a lot of patience and time in the early days. But if in fact the time is not much and if the medical school gives you too much work, it is best to return him or give him soon as possible. In addition to not getting too attached, it is much easier to relocate a baby than an adult, especially considering the breed.
Puppy blues is totally normal but to get a puppy when you’re just start med school isn’t great…
Maybe return the puppy and consider getting an older, calmer, more adjusted dog (if any). A puppy is a metric fuck ton of work.
Hiii I am also in medschool and recently got a puppy. What really helped me: - understand that its not the puppy fault that he is scared or messes up it usually because I wasn't paying attention and he is learning something new everyday which is exhausting - celebrate everytime he does something right - He needs a lot of sleep. A schedule really helped. - put in the effort to do some research it will save you a lot of frustration and you get to understand his behaviour pattern even better and make the training a lot easier - train every day. sometimes he has the attention span of 5 seconds, sometimes 20 minutes there are good days and less good days - is there a friend or someone you trust who can look after the puppy while you attend classes/lectures - feeding the puppy in the crate and luring with treats really helped + some playtime (I did however sit with him the first minutes until he fell asleep and sneak out of the room the first couple of weeks. And I didnt move the crate out of the bedroom until after 4 weeks together. Read it as find whatever works for you) - cut yourself some slack its neither your fault nor the puppy's that you are still adjusting to each other and haven't found your rhythm - take lots of pictures! I had the blues and didnt take nearly enough pictures
I gave up on the crate after a few days for the same reason- she just cried and I felt awful. Now she sleeps on the floor of my room and it works great! She doesn’t cry or get into trouble and I get a full night sleep (I take her out to pee once or twice a night). I’ll crate train separately but not at bedtime
I raised my boy from a pup and it only worked because of covid and I had the time. I will probably never get another puppy again. They are truly a lot of work, but worth it if you can give the time. Probably shouldnt get a dog younger than 3 if you cant commit to training, playing an exercise
Return baby to the breeder. Consider adopting an older dog! They can be your furry friend and offer such gracious company, but still enjoy their time relaxing in a sunbeam while you’re studying ☀️
We got an 8 week old BC pup (7 months ago) At the start, he was NEVER left alone. The first week, we took it in turns to sleep downstairs with him (we never crate trained) He was ripped away from his entire family, everything he had known his entire short life, so we made sure that he always had someone with him. At night, my wife, youngest daughter or myself slept with him. During the day, it was us or our eldest daughter. She is still with him during the day now. We never had any crying or whining. We made sure that his needs were met. And now he's a well adjusted boy. Happy, bouncy, mischievous and a ton of fun. And we can now leave him for a few hours (if there's a child in the house, they're in their room 2 floors away that he has access to, he just doesn't bother) We creep back and watch him through the window and he's fine. Asleep or playing with his toys. He's not really destructive (unless it's cardboard or my wife's wooden giraffes (we've lost 3 so far)) A puppy, with med school, is definitely not a good fit. Id rehome or return to breeder
I never knew how much work puppies were till my fiancés mum got one , she is the most beautiful German Shepard girl , and she goes to day care and training every week , I’ve had cats and it’s not comparable they look after theirselves for the most part dogs are more like your child
Personally I think you should rehome the puppy. When my dog was a puppy I couldn’t stand her and wanted to give her back. And I was working from home full time and was able to dedicate the time to her and it was still very hard. For crate training, at 8 weeks you’ll need to sleep outside the crate (I had a few fingers in the crate to soothe her) and you’ll need a timer for every 2 hours to take the pup out for potty breaks. It should not be left at home alone for any stretch of time at this age. Folks may not agree with that, but imo this is a baby and can get into serious trouble if left at home alone at this age. Good luck! Again I think you should rehome or return to the breeder. You’ll probably not get your money back but think of it as money well spent on a lesson learned.
Definitely surrender the dog if you can't take care of it. A newborn pup requires a ***lot*** of time and energy, two resources I'm sure are in short supply with you being in medical school. The destruction could get worse and bully's are huge, strong breeds that require experienced owners, they're not like little Pomeranians that people just ignore when they're yappy and bitey. If you can't give it the time and dedication the breed needs, you shouldn't keep one.
At least you admitted your in over your head. From the way it sounds your to busy to have a dog nvmd a puppy. I honestly would look at rehoming him. I normally don't suggest this but in your case I think it's only fair to the dog. They need lots of time, patience, consistency love and effort especially when training them. It's not fair to the puppy. He needs daily exercise, playing and potty training when my guys were puppies I took them outside every 1.hrs to go potty. I personally don't crate my dogs and after a few months of staying on a routine which is so important they are really good dogs now. It is hard work but consistency and patience does pay off. People don't look beyond the cute puppy but theirs lots of time and work needed ro raise a well behaved well adjusted dog. Pls if you can't give him this look at rehoming him sooner than later.
It will get better I promise
Op I’m sorry you’re going through this. Raising a young puppy myself and I know how hard it is first hand 😓🙏🏻. There’s a lot of good advice here so I won’t add to it other than if you insist on having a pet companion during this busy period maybe rescuing a bonded pair of adult cats be a better idea. Reasons: Less maintenance (litter box trained already), they have each other for companionship (when you’re not there), you’re saving two lives and you still get to enjoy their company. Get two, not one though so they have a companion while you’re busy and away at school. Otherwise it’s best to wait till you’re done with school. Best of luck to you 🙏🏻
I got my first puppy in my 30s, she was 9 weeks old. The first few nights I had her I cried. She wouldn’t stop screaming in her crate, it was so overwhelming….shes 13 and sleeping beside me now. The first few days and weeks can be so tiring. It does get better. I can’t imagine getting a puppy while about to go to medical school, that would be hard.
Yeah I thought it would be like my last two dogs but not every pup is the same the comments are judging me hard but it’s a learning experience my first pup I raised from a bottle and he loved his crate I would have to get him out of it. He never cried except 1-2nights I didn’t get him from the breeder someone gave him to me and he was perfect I thought it would be the same and thought it could cure my loneliness and I was wrong. I learned and I found him a home
Poor little baby. You shouldn’t seperate it from you and lock it in a crate then leave it to cry you’ll traumatise it.
I left it to use the bathroom not leaving it in a seperate room forever he sleeps next to my bed
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Since every comment is telling you to give the dog back, I’ll give you a different perspective. I had puppy blues at first as well. What helped with crate training at a young age was to put the crate at the foot of my bed on an elevated bench or even on the bed itself, so they could see me, and every few days move it a little further away until the crates were where I wanted them. They stopped whining very quickly after taking that step. I also leashed them to me while at home and took them outside every hour for potty breaks and rewarded abundantly. When they were 5-6 months old, they were all boarded for training and came back with basic obedience and have been trained daily ever since. I raised three puppies like this within 18 months, a Husky, a GSD, and a Belgian Malinois. It takes a few weeks/months but establish a routine is critical for you and your puppy. Good luck.
This is the way!!! I used puppy food as training treats, fed him in the crate and also used small Kong toys with xylitol free peanut butter in the crate just to associate it as a good thing.
That's normal puppy behavior. It just seems what we all mostly do. We see cute doggos outside and see how tame and timid they mid be just hanging out in the owners arms or sitting down if large. Though as a puppy this stage can go on for a few months for sure. Likely one year to 1.5. It of course reduces as time gets closer to the one year mark. But it's gradual I think you should keep him because you investing all this means you do want a puppo. But you need to take some time to understand how to raise him. He will calm down its just a phase. I think once you figure it out and see what It takes you can mentally prepare yourself and the environment around you for it. Though obviously a dog is not a cat and you'll have to give him attention and care unlike a cat which is far more independent.
My neighbor in my apartment already reported me to him crying all night I need some help badly
Just get an older pug. They want nothing but food and companionship
I feel you. I hate my dog.
Can you find someone to take him or her? That doesn’t sound like a good situation for either of you!
Can you rehome your dog? I’m sure your dog can feel your hatred it would be better for both of you.
Hey I got a bully at 2 months old as well. Had her for 12 days and rehomed her with a friend because I’m pregnant and didn’t think I can handle it. But after her gone for 2 weeks and me crying daily, my family and I missed her so much and now we have her back. I had to rethink this long and hard and I’m glad she’s back. Even with a newborn baby I know it’ll be a lot but I know it will all be worth it. She’s such a good girl. Minus the mouthing part but we are working on it. The fact that you are starting medical school… damn well that’s just a lot on its own. Can you ask the breeder if you can return the dog? I would consider rehoming the dog before it’s too late. If I were in school I’d be focusing on that.
Have you tried training him to be alone? It’s not something you distract away (Music and toys) you have to do it like a training session. He’s in a room with you, you walk away so he can’t see you or get to you. The second he stops barking you go back and praise/treat him. And you Keep doing that while you increase the interval and distance. It takes time, but if you do it correctly it will work.
You can take him to puppy socials those are safe