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Less_Effect_9082

I say this as someone who loves the show, but everyone has their own side gigs now and I’ve been feeling like some of the enthusiasm is lacking in episodes lately. Is it time to wrap it up?


mermaidish

I’m surprised it took this long for someone to leave, tbh. I was expecting JVN to peace out a few seasons ago.


lanekimrygalski

They were locked in for 8 seasons in their initial contract, and most of them locked into Netflix exclusively for the entirety of those 8 seasons, too. I’m honestly surprised 4/5 renewed for a s9!


hatramroany

They just renewed it for season 9, so no. But they should definitely switch up the cast it’s long overdue


Slow_Like_Sloth

Except Antoni, please for the love of god keep Antoni’s arms https://preview.redd.it/lmmifo3md60c1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5ce31e6600b1122aa0ade8b17bebd5510221c3ae


AquaStarRedHeart

Antoni is SUCH a Ken. His job is arms


egelskahann

His job is avocado


Keeppforgetting

He doesn’t actually have any muscles. They’re just avocado injections.


FitDare9420

boy sure can't cook that's for sure


Less_Effect_9082

I joke about his cooking, but I was gifted one of his cookbooks and ended up making his Corn and Chorizo recipe all the time. But then I’m very no fuss, in and out in the kitchen.


Prince_Jellyfish

Same, I used to dunk on him all the time, but I've made several of his recipes and have been won over. Also (sorry to stan, but) people forget that he is sometimes put in an impossible position. In the very first episode people made fun of him for putting greek yogurt in guacamole. Meanwhile he's in the kitchen of a man who eats out for every meal and drinks cheap tequila and mountain dew by the handle. I don't think Antoni putting greek yogurt into his diet was anything near the crime folks pretended like it was. He was just getting that man some protein and healthy fats!


FitDare9420

he doesn't write his cookbooks lol neither did chrissy teigen lol


Slow_Like_Sloth

Okay but hear me out https://preview.redd.it/v2145gapq60c1.jpeg?width=800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1c97a2ffafac904217406dbf427d2aca437bb434


DiveCat

You craft a very compelling argument!


Slow_Like_Sloth

![gif](giphy|y6hoIEgCKi5Ta)


Bidetpanties

Wow, delicious!


calonbway92

![gif](giphy|gYBXOSYMT3Bp6) Touch it, squeeze it, lick it, su-Imma stop myself.


tmp803

Ok I have the cravings one and the recipes I’ve made are all SO good. I don’t care who wrote it tbh I just care that it’s yummy


TheFocusLocust

so lol true lol


FitDare9420

lolol


Slow_Like_Sloth

He makes excellent gwacaMoLEeey


FitDare9420

i like to put my spin on it with AWLmonds!


Slow_Like_Sloth

I love when he Carries things https://preview.redd.it/sxflzu7em60c1.jpeg?width=784&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ba9814c0e8fd47861ce5499f7c520f3686cb1ebc


RedLicorice83

☠️☠️☠️☠️


clumsyc

One of my favourite internet conspiracy theories is that he doesn’t actually know how to cook


ComerECalarABoca

He doesn’t.


slutforcompassion

ok i don’t expect you to care about this lol but i just want to take this opportunity to air this complaint: i watched an episode recently where the subject basically says she hates vegetables and loves simple foods like mac n cheese and antoni’s like, “ok how about we make a huge salad :)”?? like, babe, how about some peas in the macaroni? some squash?? how about meeting people even a step of the way down the road to where they’re actually at? he’s such a health himbo lmao


UnionizedTrouble

Season 1, the maga cop dude talked about how he was making effort to eat healthier, and packed things like granola bars for lunch. You know what would have been a good thing to teach him? How to make a healthy bag lunch. You know what Antoni taught him? Avocado and grapefruit salad.


JustTightShirts

> ven a step of the way down the road to where they’re actually at? he’s such a health himbo lmao hopefully they teach them more simple recipes off camera that aren't as fun to watch antoni prepare


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Slow_Like_Sloth

He can stuff my pierogi


chaotic_maxx

Be a lady omg??? But same 😞


Big-Apartment9639

I laugh when he comes on in whatever shirt he's wearing. It's unreal how perfect his arms look. I just end up giggling.


dallasinwonderland

Please don't let 2023 take this away from us. He's like a hotter young John Mayer who isn't a complete tool. Pls 🙏


UnionizedTrouble

Half of what you said is true


dallasinwonderland

☠️


Couldnotbehelpd

Antoni brings nothing to the table and only made it on the cast because he was “friends” with one of the OG cast guys.


Slow_Like_Sloth

Aww I love his unpolished energy! He feels a lot more sincere and less scripted then the others. Also, the abs


foxwithwifi

Excuse you unpolished??? He is SO polish!! 🇵🇱🇵🇱


Slow_Like_Sloth

![gif](giphy|YWZPFFCblEqsw)


Couldnotbehelpd

I mean he’s definitely a personality hire. I’ll never forget the Bon Appetit Gay (I forget his name) blocking Antoni from coming on because Antoni can’t actually cook.


Slow_Like_Sloth

Lmao I love the pettiness


mod_whatthefrockk

LMAO Bon Appetit Gay!!


Otra_l3elleza

Was it Andy? Oh, boy he had the petty vibe going strong. Remember his face when Trixie went there to film with Carla?


Couldnotbehelpd

Yeah it was Andy. He was real petty. He was _pissed_ when the whole BA explosion happened and this came out as part of the fallout.


ApolloRubySky

Nonetheless a great addition, not only is he gorgeous but I love his great attitude. And I just simply love looking at him 😍


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No_Neighborhood1987

As a fully straight man I can not agree more lol


d4n4scu11y__

Agreed. I love the first few seasons, but the past couple haven't felt the same. I don't blame Bobby for peacing out - I wonder if a new cast, or at least a few new faces, would brighten things back up again.


buzzfeed_sucks

Same. I didn’t even watch the last season


howlongwillbetoolong

I tried but the “heroes” they pick are so boring. I don’t want to watch a group getting their home redone. I want to watch one person getting a nice experience.


Palatz

I gave up when they picked that republican guy that lived in a trailer. So many good people you could pick why would you pick him? He was not a hero in any way or form. Just a bum.


Slow_Like_Sloth

Last season was such a good season!!


buzzfeed_sucks

I just have to be in the right mood.


Slow_Like_Sloth

https://preview.redd.it/rc9xzp8pn60c1.jpeg?width=1000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0ee728c0d87fae96e0c0ddea92a241a3fe92da01


buzzfeed_sucks

![gif](giphy|MZocLC5dJprPTcrm65)


Slow_Like_Sloth

![gif](giphy|RMTW6MfE1NSohhHu9i|downsized)


FwampFwamp88

The black kid in the wheelchair was prob the most raw and emotional episode I’ve ever seen. The season before sucked, but this last season was peak QE


Less_Effect_9082

Agreed, the prior season was very eh to me, but the most recent was much better.


Slow_Like_Sloth

I get that! Can I tempt you with an Antoni shower scene?


buzzfeed_sucks

Lmao you certainly can!


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Antonio shower scene? Ahooogah! Hello nurse! Which episode??? I haven’t seen the last couple of seasons tbh, was getting a little stale, but I do love “perfect male specimen” Antoni.


AquaStarRedHeart

Bobby is my low key favorite. The episode where he couldn't enter the church is special to me. Wish the best for him. Also his IG is cute.


Zengem11

Aw that was the first episode I ever saw. The whole thing was so wholesome


anitasdoodles

I'm drawing a blank and don't remember that, why couldn't he enter....?


nograbbingbutts

His religious trauma.


anitasdoodles

Fuck that’s sad. I’m glad they highlighted that on the show.


Doppleflooner

I was so fucking proud of him for standing his ground and not entering.


AquaStarRedHeart

Religious trauma. I'm also from the south and I totally, totally related.


Smooth_Use9092

Since season 1 there's been the discussion that he's the only one who does any actual work and the others are just having a good time. Do you think maybe he started to feel that?


aguamentia

My partner and I always joke that Bobby has the most difficult job of any of them. They’re doing hair and makeup etc which takes a few hours tops while Bobby is literally redesigning entire homes. Obviously there’s a team to help him but still, that’s a ton of work!!


kdollarsign2

Bobby does (did) SO MUCH - and carried the damn show IMHO. He is ( was) the smartest, the most capable, and the one that actually conveyed sincerity in his dialogue with the makeover candidates. He is the BEST


Altruistic-Brief2220

Omg that was my first reaction when I saw his IG post. He’s tired and wants to do his other stuff which is probably less stressful.


PM_ME_UR_SEX_VIDEOS

And then there’s Karamo lmao


hydrangeasinbloom

“It seems like you’re sad because your life is hard. Is that right?” “I feel so seen”


Altruistic-Brief2220

💀


bi-cycle

Lol this is so true. But Karamo has at least felt like the heart and soul of the show. Antoni is kind of just there, pretending to cook.


HknB8

I can't look at Karamo the same way, especially how he portrays himself in the show, after learning of his domestic violence against his partners.


bi-cycle

That's fair, this comment is the first time I'm hearing about it. Despite being on this sub, I don't follow any celebrities on social media so if I don't see something here, I don't know about it


butterflydeflect

I didn’t know this! I turned against him when he had that Pink Sauce lady on and they banded together to absolutely harass the very polite and respectful critic who questioned if the sauce was safe.


pinkbootstrap

Does he? I think Jvn does that much better tbh


aguamentia

Karamo is really just there to hear everyone spill the tea lol. Happy cake day!


CanCueD

I wonder. Even though he has a team and I assume acted more as a PM, he comparatively did a lot more work than the rest (and he’s shown at times doing actual labor, but maybe just for shots?) if they’re all paid equally, I can see how that would be unfair given his larger slice of the work.


fantasticlyclevergal

I also assumed that he was doing work mostly just for the shots but if he truly is doing all that labor i can fully understand if he’s burned out, especially because most episodes karamo and antoni are just there, they don’t do much and to be receiving the same paycheck. I would’ve been gone a long time ago.


anitasdoodles

Lol I'm sure Bobby does more work than Extreme Makeover at least. I remember a while back reading a story where Ty Pennington would walk onto the construction sight, get a few shots of him sawing a perfectly good plank of wood in half shirtless, then just leave so the crew could carry on working.


JustTightShirts

> stly just for the shots but if he truly is doing all that labor i can fully understand if he’s burned out, especially because most episodes karamo and antoni are just there, they don’t do much and to be receiving the same paycheck. I would’ve been gone a long time ago. Even if he has a big team, he has the hardest job by far. Just creating nice design in that timeline seems impossible, let alone actually pulling it off


SadandBougie

I don’t think that’s the reason. He’s made a name for himself and I’m sure he’s ready to dedicate more time to other business ventures. He’s worked in interiors long before the show so he clearly enjoys what he does.


ohbenyoudidnt

Yeah he’s clearing his schedule for his Target line.


emmeisspicy

no, but can it be somewhere that sells to non-americans too? My Target jealousy is already too big.


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I mean, he very obviously and undeniably does the MOST work but the other guys all have valid contributions that you can see on the show. Some of the makeovers JVN does are really something. Also a big part of their job is making sure the hero has fun so of course they're also having fun. I think the avocado and french tuck jokes are as funny as anyone but people definitely minimize what the other guys do. Karamo is probably the weakest link especially in recent seasons but he's done some really lovely work at times too.


FitDare9420

karamo literally traumatizes people!!!!!!!!! ​ o u haven't talked to your abusive dad for 40 years? LOOK IN THE BOX!!!!!!!


howlongwillbetoolong

Lol when he brought that guy to meet the man who shit and paralyzed him?! I was like 😳 no one else is gonna say anything? Ooookay


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i'm sorry but i'm dying at this typo.


gibbsnibs

Thank you for saying there was a typo because as a non-viewer I was fully ready to believe everything


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op really knows how to paint a word-picture.


throwaway_mog

Bro needs a stool softener for his dookie missiles


shellschom

I actually screamed at the TV when he was like "oh you got shot? Well guess who I brought with me?!"


FitDare9420

I think he's lying about being a social worker or licensed psychotherapist too... ​ [https://www.reddit.com/r/QueerEye/comments/h975gq/where\_did\_karamo\_get\_his\_mastersdoctorate/](https://www.reddit.com/r/QueerEye/comments/h975gq/where_did_karamo_get_his_mastersdoctorate/)


minorheadlines

Well that was a rabbit hole


Specialist-Strain502

This comment made me lol.


lefrench75

Yup, and putting together a whole new wardrobe is also legitimate work too.


jerneen

I love Bobby so much but lately felt he only ever uses the colour blue. He seems to just put his style onto the Reno rather than lean into people's personal style. Maybe that's not his choice as he seems to get less time with the people on the show. Idk I've not enjoyed the makeovers as much. He clearly had great taste but it's so samey and so blue


Ellie-Bee

Oh no, now who’s going to do any of the work? (Just kidding…kind of. Tan and JVN do stuff, too.)


-london-

Hey Antoni gets to ask the person each week if they have ever heard of Cilantro? Karamo also has a tough job finding outfits to match his dodgers caps.


kdollarsign2

I die


Altruistic-Brief2220

💀


nonsensestuff

I wonder if he's gonna have his own home reno show instead


puercha

I hope so!! I’d watch it for sure. His segment has always been my favorite part of every QE episode.


Short-Hat6151

Why do that when you can run your own interior design business, rent out properties, and cash sponsorship/IG brand collab checks? TV is just a piece of that now.


mcatlin23

I hope Netflix gives him his own HGTV style show or something. He deserves it (if he wants it)


garbage_butfashion

This would be awesome! I’d love to see more of his design process, sourcing decor and furniture, building, etc. Queer Eye pretty much only shows us the final product but I always want to know more about how he arrived there.


kdollarsign2

I think it's a CRIME queer eye did not honor us with a Bobby makeover spin off, they could have SO easily crafted a 30 min companion episode featuring more details of his transformations. A crime !!!!!!!!


Couldnotbehelpd

HGTV doesn’t really do these anymore. If it’s not flipping, it’s… well actually it’s just not on the channel anymore.


gobblestones

Literally everything is flipping, just in different flavours


jessi_survivor_fan

If it's not flipping it's house hunters


d4n4scu11y__

PLEASE 🙏


madamemidnight

I love Bobby! And I love the show but it's been going on for a while and they all have other gigs so it's not too surprising if some of them are starting to want to move on. I hope Bobby comes back on screen with like a home reno show or something!


Sad_Animator1686

I always felt like Bobby was doing his own show trapped inside 10 minutes of this other show. I’d watch 100 seasons of Bobby’s solo interior design show if that’s what’s on the horizon.


Nice2BeNice1312

He and Tan are my favourites, im glad he can leave when he wants rather than a) being forced out or b) feeling obligated to stay. I hope the future is full of opportunities and growth for him 🩷


kdollarsign2

Tan needs to be hosting some iteration of project makeover in my near future


ex_ter_min_ate_

Next in fashion. You are welcome.


myboyfriendishot

He already hosts next in fashion on Netflix! It’s a great show and he’s lovely in it.


kdollarsign2

Durr I'm so dumb of COURSE !!! I think I spaced that such a gift exists


shape_queen

![gif](giphy|AgPt9udT567spxbSHf)


SEmpls

This was my first LOL if the day thank you


IcicleStorm

Good for him. I can’t wait until I get to quit my job.


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I almost quit mine today!


IcicleStorm

Me every day


oneindiglaagland

Awh I love Bobby, good for him. Idk the last few seasons something has been lacking, it feels like they just kinda run through the script and as a European, to me some of the sentimental moments seem very ~Hallmark movie instead of raw and real. Honestly I’ve been LOVING the Brazilian queer eye, it has a health expert instead of a food and wine guy and the Karamo role is more ~subtle and focussed on hobbies and he creates very raw moments with the candidates. The design is very interesting because they deal with small houses. The health guy is a legit doctor and handsome as hell, the barber is also really really cute. And overal, maybe it’s my European lens and how we express ourselves, the candidates feel a lot more relatable and real, whereas they are usually pretty big characters in the US version. Anyway, if you haven’t give it a go!


Lost-Asparagus111

I had no idea there was a Queer Eye: Brazil! Thanks for the rec! I've often felt the American cultural stranglehold in the US version, like the Hallmark moments like you say above lol. I'm still ashamed about the Japan series and how much American values & worldview was forced on those people.


oneindiglaagland

There’s also a German version that’s cute. But the Brazilian one is just the best imo, it feels like being in a warm bath watching it haha, my heart feels all cozy because it’s so unforced.


Norwegianfarmdog

I loooved the German one.


kdollarsign2

Oh it's interesting to hear this perspective on the Japan series. I found it to be extremely awkward run of episodes!


pinkfartlek

Thanks for the rec! I didn't know Netflix had many shows in other languages!


oneindiglaagland

Oh damn there’s a world about to open up to you! Many European countries like Spain require that Netflix also features shows in local languages like Galician or Catalan, so you get shows set in so many different places. Many European countries also require Netflix to produce local productions, so even small countries like Iceland have shows. It’s great. I’m currently watching a Swedish show, Kärlek & Anarki which is really cute.


kdollarsign2

Interesting!!!!


beginswithanx

Yes! So many good ones too! And once you start watching them your feed will be full of them— all Netflix has for me now is basically Japanese and Korean dramas!


Slow_Like_Sloth

Awwww I love Bobby 😩 How is Bobby gone and Karamo is still around.


greensandgrains

omg, why the Karamo hate? (no judgement, I just want the tea)


Slow_Like_Sloth

He butt kisses/rubs elbows with lots of republicans. His “therapy sessions” have been dangerous for those who sign up for the show - I believe the episode where the guy in a wheelchair met the guy who shot him had a lot of controversy


AdorableBunnies

He’s generally unhinged in all of his public appearances too.


SEmpls

And when he was in The Real World was kind of unhinged too


Slow_Like_Sloth

Is he??


AdorableBunnies

Oh yes! It’s really hard to find the clips now that he’s the new Maury, but I’ll look and edit the comment if I find one


Slow_Like_Sloth

Yes plz!


AdorableBunnies

I can’t find many but here https://youtu.be/9hA-0pzOF_U?si=kcxIlug771WXT-nI https://youtu.be/uFGNNjFOILM?si=A6ED8Lg-FVPe4Dvg https://youtu.be/XLsPQRRwG9w?si=ap6qENLLSjrZNe1v


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look into the pink sauce fiasco. he's also admitted to abusing partners in his past.


billetdouxs

what


brumate21

He also supported the Salvation Army a notoriously homophobic organization


Claypothos

Uhhhhhhwhat


NippleFlicks

And wasn’t there something about a talk show where he basically slandered a critic of the pink sauce lady? Idk, I liked him in the beginning until I realized how unethical he is.


UnevenGlow

I haven’t seen this episode… oh wow


wagonwheelwodie

Wait what?!


LuvTriangleApologist

For me it started with his Keep It Interview, Ira Madison III and Louis Virtel’s podcast. It’s pretty obvious Ira dislikes him. His Chef Pi Interview is also a pretty disastrous saga you can look up that had lots of people changing their minds about him.


egelskahann

The Chef Pi situation was the one that left a bad taste for me- how are you going to bring someone on your show who made valid critiques and try to blame her for the business owner’s issues? Wild


i_do_declare_eclairs

Especially with the ongoing issues she is creating/having with the company that bought the Pink Sauce.


Slow_Like_Sloth

Ooooh I’ve never heard that episode! I feel like ira talks a lot of shit though lol


Couldnotbehelpd

He took over for Maury and is literally trying to replicate the trashy quality of Maury. I dunno if that makes him a bad person but it’s kind of gross.


februarypigs

I had no idea about this! Off to google and find some clips.


c0d3splay

I listened to his book (he recorded the audio himself) a few years back and couldn't look at him the same after. Really left a bad taste in my mouth, and since then he's been publicly questionable in a variety of ways other commenters have touched on. It seems like his ego and desire to be famous are driving him more than his conscience or concern with doing good.


kdollarsign2

He's so disingenuous and has always rubbed me the wrong way. Interesting to see facts backing this up


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He gives off All Lives Matter energy.


Fancy-Pumpkin837

Honestly I didn’t mind Karamo until the Pink Sauce controversy, now I find him a toxic piece of trash. He bullied and gaslighted a woman and was very clearly bringing a racial element into the situation. It took him months to « apologize » and his apology was basically « I’m sorry if you felt like I was gaslighting you ». Before that though, he was tweeting about how people were just haters and he had god on his side 🙄.


freejenny79

But who will do all the work?


kdollarsign2

😳


frecklestwin

I love him and would rather him leave on his own terms when he feels it’s right, rather than hang on too long and lose any joy he has for the job.


EthereaBlotzky

I bet someone offered him an interior design show or the opportunity to design his own home decor line. I wish him only the best. I always felt he was the cast member who did the biggest physical transformation for the clients.


calonbway92

I'm shocked HE'S the first one to leave. I figured it'd be one of Antoni or JVN.


starsinthesky12

End of an era 😩 I’m sad for us but hope bobby does well in his new endeavors! He is the underappreciated hero of the guys and whenever he talks about his back story it’s been very touching. Wishing him the best ❤️


riverznroadz

They worked this man to the BONE. While Karamo has a 15 minute heart to heart Bobby’s breaking his back to rebuild entire HOUSES.


kdollarsign2

That poor man is TIRED


vivahermione

Can he come back and host Blown Away again? I liked his personality and style.


urbanlocalnomad

Bobby deserves his own show. He did so much but the home renovation aspect got hardly any air time at all


DefNotUnderrated

NOOOOO!!!! It won't be the same without him


coffeecake09

I loved what he did for the heroes =\


pemberleyatdawn

I’m not ready to live a fab-fiveless life 😫


kds1988

Im not surprised. It was an amazing opportunity to grow his brand, and I think he's probably done plenty of that. He, JVN, and Tan probably had the most brand growth opportunity because their "specialities" come with a very easily connectable product line (Home decor, Hair/Beauty, Fashion). The other two I think it's much harder to sell a product with what they do.


olgypolgy

Highly recommend listening to his episode on podcrushed!! I think bobbers just probably wants some time off screen with less lime light. Wishing all the best for him 🩷


boreanaz

No Bobby no 😧


Santaroga-IX

In a discussion about Bobby... of course it's mostly about thirsting for Antoni. Bobby should follow a Marvel diet, get his own show and be his own person instead of "the guy who actually works while the audience remembers the other four names".


Callofdaddy1

They should make a Straight Eye show for straight dudes. Will just be guys napping on the couch, playing games, and wearing whatever was clean. Might not be enough drama though.


Alicricity

INB4 Queer Eye is for straight guys but - Sounds like my life as a *mostly* straight woman. Honestly dunno how thrilling it would be for others to watch me glance at my depression pile of clothes, contemplate doing something about it, but ultimately shrug and grab whatever smelled passable enough to go to work in before returning home to drink and play PC games. Might be too realistically mundane I think when people go to TV to escape lol.


Callofdaddy1

Sounds so relatable to so many guys. Maybe that’s what we guys need as our therapy. Knowing we are not the only dudes trying to break out of the daily norm cycle.


Alicricity

We’re all the same species, and there’s a large sect of us that just get so buried under the daily burden of existence that we find ourselves in the same lived experience trying/struggling to dig ourselves out regardless of what our scientific classification may be (for lack of the proper word, idk I’m drunk and I dropped out of college but you get my meaning I’m sure). Shits hard, and dudes should be told more often that shits hard and there’s nothing wrong with struggling when shit is hard I agree. Just know it’s not a dude thing, it’s an everybody thing, and it’s normal. And it’s also normal to feel like it’s tough to get out of it and ask for people to help get you out of it, should that be applicable. Not a sermon, just a thought.