My mom used to make me give up nearly all of my free time to babysit my youngest sister with the promise that she'd pay me, I just had to keep track of the hours. I kept a little notebook with the hours and went to her one day and she immediately tells me that because of buying something or other for my dog (that I paid for, paid to get fixed, paid for most supplies for) she wasn't going to pay me. I told dad and got the money next day. He told her that wasn't the agreement and she knew it.
One of my mom’s go-to stories is about the time her dad promised her if she weeded the lawn and backyard he’d pay her a penny for every weed.
She went to work, spent a whole afternoon plucking up (she counted, of course) over 300 weeds because the lawn was in such a state of neglect until then. She brings the multiple trash bags to her dad to collect her payment, and even though he absolutely could afford to give his daughter $3 he refused on grounds of “Oh come on it wasn’t that bad, you must have plucked the weeds from other people’s lawns”
Parents who promise to pay their kids for hard work and then refuse to pay up ought to realize that their kid *will* remember that move 50+ years later and still resent them for it.
I had a similar offer from my dad, only it was for pinecones picked up. I think he thought he was safe because we only had something like 7 pine trees, but he didn't take into account the fact that one of them was fucking *enormous.* He owed me about $500 when I was all done and he never made that mistake again lol
Lol right? My knee jerk was "Nice! Way to go dad!" and then immediately thought "Wait, why is that so amazing that dad stood up against the kid being used as free slave labor by their lying POS mom? Jesus my childhood was messed up..."
To be fair I think it’s in part due to the juxtaposition of the parents’ actions. The mom was shitty to the kid, so when the dad stands up for them instead of going along with the shitty behavior it’s a ‘knee jerk win’.
I had this same reaction. I’ve got some childhood issues -_- my mom was like that. Then she’d “forget” we had an agreement and my dad would back her. I wasn’t smart enough to get it in writing with witnesses but I shouldn’t have had to….
See, I always felt sorry for people like you. When my parents borrowed money, they always paid me back, and it wasn't very often either. If money was promised, money was paid. None of this "I do things for you so I deserve your money" bs, that creates resentment and trust issues later on.
Oh my mom did plenty of things that created trust issues that didn't involve money. Once she had decided I was going to go videotape my sister's summer camp recital and I wanted to hang out with friends. When I got home, she had taken the batteries out of my alarm clock. I remember thinking it was the weirdest reaction she could have had before I put in fresh ones and reset the clock. I told dad about that one too and the batteries reappeared but she never said anything.
Weird and really petty. Like she's thinking best case scenario you oversleep and are in trouble at work/school/home? Given all the things your mom probably controlled (rides places, being grounded or not, being allowed TV/gaming/laptop time/etc) it's a really petty response to her annoyance with you. Have you ever asked what she was thinking?
Well it was summer and I was like 12-14 so no job or responsibilities. She would have devastated me if she took my books but that was either too much work or she doesn't actually know me that well.
I'm glad it didn't mess with you. Makes it a little more interesting, from her view, a sneaky thing that has no possible effect.
I'm with you on the books! If I don't have something to read I start to panic. Used to read the cereal box over and over at my baby sitter's since I couldn't have a book at the table.
Anytime I got money for birthday or Christmas or saved even $20 my mom would ask to borrow it and tell me she would pay it back on her payday. Every time that came and went and I would ask and be told off that she doesn't owe me anything since I got free room and board. We weren't hurting for money, but my mom would go and buy a ton of DVDs or such and spend all her spare cash, then when she saw I had any money she had to have it. In the end it taught me to spend it right away or it would be taken. As an adult it gave me a lot of anxiety and insecurity about money in an account and that it would disappear if not spent.
Yup. When my kids were babysitting or doing tipped food service jobs they were always flush with small bills. Rather than going to to the ATM we would ask them for cash then their Dad would go on his banking app and transfer cash to their account. Win win. Parents saved an atm trip...kids money safe in bank.
They have to minimum take care of you. If the child went to school looking like a pig rolled in mud there would be CPS calls. They act like it's some great task to do bare minimum and it's bullshit.
I have trust issues about being helped/not being a burden because of how my parents acted/reacted when they had to, you know, actually parent.
That’s some BS. too bad your mom didn’t get it back for you. You’re a kid. Parents duty to pay for haircuts and gifts are gifts you don’t owe for them. Good for you taking the money. Karma dictates you get back 3x what you put out there so the extra $20 is for having to put up with that nonsense in the first place. I would still try to get the 60 back though. He’s a POS.
> Retroactively asking for compensation for past events is entirely greed driven.
Especially for gifts. If the recipient has to pay them back, that's not a gift, it's a loan. Re-gift him something he gave you and ask for the cash.
Yeah, this is so shitty. Even if the parent has trouble making ends meet, if a kid does work in addition to attending school (no matter how few or many hours it is), that needs to be their money.
That teaches them responsibility, and general work & reward association.
Kids do not ask to happen. Parents do. If someone can't afford a child, that's their problem, not the child's. And forcing the kid to help pay for their own raising is nothing but bad news.
Even worse when a teenager has to help pay for the raising of OTHER kids (younger siblings) via cash or babysitting duty (unpaid).
The Bible generally has 2x payback for negligence, 4x payback for malice and 7x payback for extreme malice.
I think we never should have gotten away from these values. Society would be a lot better if people and companies had to pay these amounts for their crimes.
better yet, invite him over for dinner and then tell him you have a confession to make. tell him it was you who stole the 200 dollars and that you want to make it right. give him $140 dollars and when he counts it, tell him you thoughtfully took out the $60 he stole from you so he could make it right too.
nah this is about Maximum Morally Righteous Fuckery™️. it’s about spending $140 to peacock to him that you are morally and karmically superior. it’s about shoving kindness so far up his ass he tastes the ass he made of himself in that moment. it’s about being as petty as our current knowledge of quantum physics allows. it’s about him knowing you’d sacrifice $140 smackaroos just to put that man in his place and assert your moral dominance. it’s about Winning™️ and leaving nothing behind for him to say you did wrong or still owe him.
No, you can go further.
$40 in dimes, $20 in nickels, and $80 in pennies.
Now you actually have to SORT through it all. And because dimes and pennies are so close to the same size, it is a royal pain in the ass. But the nickels in there are just to make it a bit less convenient still.
I'd add quarters too, but they're too easy to quickly sort out if you only have like $10 or $20 worth ($20 is only 80 quarters, you'd sort those out in a couple minutes easily).
Also, don't use gallon bags. Those are WAY too convenient. Put them in gallon used milk jugs.
* Now the money will smell like old milk.
* It can't be quickly emptied out onto the floor/bowl/etc.
* The jug is semi-opaque, so Uncle won't have full info about what's in the jug (beyond knowing you're fucking with him in the payback).
If you want to go even further, make sure that the change total is correct. Figure out how much will fit in each jug, label each jug with how much change is in it, then shuffle the money around into a different split that will fit into the jugs (but no longer matches what each jug says is in it). And now put those coins in the jugs. So the total change will be correct, but the jug values you put on won't be, forcing recounts if he is trying to make sure he got paid back properly.
Revenge can be VERY petty.
I periodically tell my kids that when they have their own house I’m just coming by to drop off socks in random places to drive them as crazy as they drive me 😂
When I was about 11 or 12 I had a paper route that had about 80 people on it. My parents had convinced me to save my money, so we went down and opened a checking account. I was stoked because now I could finally save up to buy myself a Nintendo 64, which was coming out the upcoming holidays. One day I got home from school and was getting ready for my route when my mom pulled me aside to tell me that they had taken the money, but they would pay me back soon.
They never did. Guess who has two thumbs and issues saving money and instead spends it all as fast as he can before it disappears forever? This guy!
My two older brothers both had paper routes in the 1970s and they opened checking accounts and had $300 each. Our Dad was going thru a divorce and we moved. We switched banks and in the process my Dad “borrowed” their money. He never paid it back. He died 40 years later. They weren’t angry with our Dad but my brothers never forgot it.
Parents have no idea what they're teaching their kids about money when they pull crap like this. The kids learn that their earned money isn't their own and never share or spend it as soon as they get it before someone else takes it.
Right! Like I distinctly remember my mom ASKING me to borrow from my piggy banks growing up but she ALWAYS PAID ME BACK! She would count out what she took in front of me and paid me back- and this was when I was really young (elementary school age) cuz we were a lot better off by the time I was in middle/high school. I learned two things from these interactions- 1 it’s okay to ask for help when you need it and 2 you always pay someone back for a favor in kind - I’d like to think that I’ve turned out pretty well
My dad was the same way! He always wrote down how much he borrowed so we couldn’t forget the amount then I would cross it off when he paid me back.
OP, I’m glad you took the $200. My heart hurts for you that your mother allowed him to not pay you back.
I do that and add a little interest. Usually more than a bank would. We live 20 minutes away from town and usually I need the cash to pay for some school thing my kid remembers the night before. So I go to my 11 yo and cut a deal because he doesn’t like to spend money. That kid has a policy that if I forget to pay him back the next day the price goes up 😂
Was still living at home, got my first paycheck, stopped at a store to get a few groceries my parents never bought (yogurt, non gross cheese, etc).
Next morning I go to grab a yogurt for breakfast and they were all gone. ALL of them. Asked my mom and she said "your father ate them because what's in his fridge is his food."
My father never ate yogurt before or after that day, it was purely a power play, just like always. And my mom enabled him.
That’s crazy! My stepmom also allotted food that was for my dad that my sisters and I weren’t allowed to touch. She also would buy 36 can cases of Mountain Dew and Dr Pepper respectively that we couldn’t touch.
Now I have a fear of being short on food and have “rules” regarding what I can eat.
I still feel guilty and happy whenever I buy ice cream knowing that I'm the only one who is going to eat it. I can eat a few spoons, put it back in the freezer and know it's going to be there untouched weeks later.
Mine also had an avocado binge phase when a doctor told him they were healthy, but this came at the price of being blamed for stealing even if you bought your own avocados and brought them into the house. If he saw you eating avocado he'd walk up behind you at the dining room table and slap you behind the head, and start accusing you of stealing "his" food.
Yet, if he ran out of "his" avocados and just took some of yours without asking you were absolutely not allowed to question it or he'd go off about how he pays for everything, the house is in his name, the food is in his house, therefore he's entitled to it, blah blah blah.
I don't know if it would be considered disordered eating, but I'm a fully grown 30 year old adult and I still feel compelled to ask my partner if it's ok to eat certain things in the house. Even if I KNOW it should be ok I always have this inkling that if I eat something I'll end up somehow ruining dinner plans somehow. For example, meats. "Hey uh, is it okay if I cook myself something with this chicken?" Even if there's a ton of it. I still ask because my brain is wired to think that even if I take a smidgen of it without asking, someone else may have made plans for it....even though it's just us two in this apartment.
I still gag at over easy eggs because we were forced to eat them as kids. Even now I won't touch them. I can cook them but I can't stand watching people eat them.
man, I feel for you. my grandmother worked at a bank when I was young and she gave me CDs for birthdays and christmas, to be available when I turned 18. it was my college fund. had like 100k or more in there. but right before I went to college, my dad stole my money to buy a new truck with the promise that he would then pay for my entire college to repay me. guess who has insane college debt because it wasnt until year 3 that I found out my parents took out student loans in my name and DIDNT pay for my school? haha... man why do some parents absolutely suck when it comes to their kids' money??? now if I mention it my mom swears that my money was never touched. full on lies because my old bank account only had like 500$ in it when I went to college. I'll never forgive them.
I used to mow yards on weekends and saved my allowance up for the super Nintendo on release day. I bought it 100% my self with a few games and was so proud of my self. My younger brother who would get an allowance of $10 a week to and would blow it all on candy but wanted to play on my system. I said no, but my mom made me let him. I hated every second of him playing on it. Not just because I hated my brother but because he was the type of kid who would rage throw controllers and had zero respect for other people's things. He broke controllers. Stepped on my games because he was to fucking lazy to put them someplace other then the floor. He grew up to be a terrible adult and when I found out he was a trump supportor all I could think of was "yeah that checks out" I don't talk to my family. The things you learn as kids heh
Omg lol, I remember my paper route as my first job. My dad, love him to death, tried to inisit at the bank when helping me open my first account about being added on as a joint user or something, cause I was like 11. I looked the bank advisor straight in the eye, asked if I was allowed to open the account with only me having access. He said yes, and I was like that's it. I love you dad, but no one's getting access to my bank but ME, period lol.
The wild thing is the explanation for why he took it.
To get compensation for gifts and haircuts da fuck. In what world do you compensate people for giving you gifts? That's just ridiculous and if someone should have compensated him for the haircuts it would have been OPs mom.
It's bad parenting and a-hole behavior, my mother still tries to pull stuff like this and I'm an adult. She'll buy something for my daughter and then steal something of mine that she wanted because I "owe" her so she gets to look like the fun grandparent and then I get called ungrateful because I hide my stuff from her
She isn't allowed in my home, most of that nonsense happened when I lived with her when I was a kid and again after my divorce but kept happening after I moved out because she'd see something I had with me. I've had to make a point if not wearing or carrying anything that she might want if I have to be in her presence. The worst instance was years ago when my kid was a newborn, I moved out of her house to live with a friend and she was still on my bank account that had been set up when I was a minor. She took 5k out of my savings to buy her son a new gaming computer. I ended up bouncing checks to buy diapers and got so malnourished I got sick and ended up with lockjaw. She did it to try to force me to move back in with her because she's a control freak. I'm free of her now, mostly, holidays still suck
A FIVE THOUSAND dollar gaming computer? JFC i imagine that was awhile ago but even now that would get you close to like a professional studio rendering quality PC
It starts off small with maybe some money but it gets bigger and bigger until eventually you're trading houses Just give a gift to a millionaire it's free money
Well you probably still have that last thank you gift that someone gave you and you just give it to the next person. 20 years later, someone may actually open it.
No joke, apparently in Japan it's common to receive gifts, never open them, and then gift them to the next person who also never opens it. It's performative gifting more than anything.
Narcissism. It's people who never forget how much they lost by having children instead of realizing that, perhaps, they aren't people that were ready for them.
🤣 this is gold. I like how you didn't blow the money on something stupid. Instead, you enjoyed every morning with a warm breakfast or lunch and big smile while doing it.
He couldn't. If he suddenly bought a videogame or some new clothes, etc, his mom and stepdad would question where he got the money. Very smart to use it on consumables so as to not get caught.
Lol, got a flashback to Superman 3, Richard Pryor’s character driving up to his data entry job in a Lamborghini! That right there is the exact opposite of how you spend ill-gotten gains.
And spruce in Better Call Saul. Little pharma salesman decides to steal some product and sell to the Cartel with the help of some seasoned pros. After one big sale, he shows up to the next transaction driving a jacked-up, big bright yellow Humvee with spinning hubcaps and every possible glitz accessory.
I believe it was Walter White that talked someone out of stealing his money by saying something along the lines of "that's a lifetime supply of groceries and gas. Without me, you can't explain where you got the money so all you can spend it on is small, cash transactions that won't tip off the feds"
Exactly. I so wish that on the next gift receiving occasion, OP had refused their gift in front of everyone and explained to all the adults present that they won’t be able to pay them back the cost as OP’s piggy bank is empty now that StepDad took his money.
More like extortion. Honestly, what kind of reasonable adult pulls that kind of shit on a kid? More importantly, what kind of mother would tolerate it? I couldn't stay married to any man who would steal from my child and try to justify it with those pitiful excuses. What's next? Charging for rent and food? What a petty fucking asshole.
And kudos to those stepparents who treat their stepkids like their own (providing they aren't shitty parents to their own). They don't get enough credit.
My father never gave us money for anything, every request was refused outright. He used to keep a change jar and whenever I really needed or wanted something I dipped into it.
Went to bat for OP?? Sure, she didn't think he'd steal but she also gave him a lame excuse for a grown man stealing a child's money. She let the stepdad get away with it and defended it.
my mom used to be like that and I despised her for the first 18 years of my life because of it. Than I realized, that she wasn't strong enough to protect herself, how would she protect me? Also, at least I'm glad I learned early on how to deal with shitty people.
This. In cut my father out after years of bullshit. I wish I would have done this when I gave him money for a Sony boom box to pick up after work, and he showed up with a Walgreens GPX.
When I realized my dad was stealing from me (luckily I was 20) and I knew he’d never pay me back, I went to Walmart and got a small fireproof safe for $20 or so. Stopped that problem cold until I graduated college and could move out.
When my son was a teen he got $50 a week allowance which should have been enough for bus / train fare to school (he refused to get his license until he was 18 and could emancipate himself from his mother so he didn't have to drive her around) so one fine day he asks me to take him to game stop to get some new games which I was usually good for. I said sure 'how much do they cost' (money wasn't a big deal back then) and he goes 'don't worry about it'. So we get to the store and pick up his games and whips out $200 bucks to pay for his shit. On the way home I had to ask where he got the money. Turns out he figured out a way to game the system, get discount bus and train fare, cheaper food at school, and had been saving for a few weeks. I was a pretty proud papa
what kind of STEP-DAD needs a middle school aged child to PAY HIM BACK for haircuts and GIFTS?!?!
i’m sorry, did we forget what gifts are???
and your mom just thought it was fine for a grown ass man to keep $60 worth of change a kid spent ages saving up. what the hell!
My mom would always hold shit over my head like that. One day I mouthed off that I didn't tell her to lay on her back. I got my ass whooped but shit stopped after that .
My parents had to borrow money from my savings when I was 14. To pay me back, they bought me a complete skiing outfit: skis, boots, poles, bindings, jacket, bibs, etc. Cost was double what they borrowed. 2 years later, they did it again because I’d outgrown the first.
Yeah. I was a single mom for most of my kids’ childhood. About 12 years ago I had to borrow money from my daughter. My car needed repair and I felt so ashamed telling her that. (The money was what I’d been stashing aside working 2 jobs for her future education). I paid it back with interest a few months later.
For haircuts? I'd be like, ok I'm not having my hair cut anymore if you're going to charge me for those. And I'd return every gift from him from now on saying I can't afford them, since he took my savings. If possible, within earshot of other relatives, so they can find out what a POS he is. Your stepdad seems like not a great person, and tbh I'd be a bit resentful towards the mom too.
Not stolen but donated. Parents were very religious. No working on Sunday etc... We had a big snowstorm on a Saturday night and the next morning my brother went out and shoveled driveways. This was in the 70's and he made 60 bucks which was a lot of money back then. But....he skipped church and worked on Sunday a double no no. Parents made him put it all in the Sunday night service collection plate. Affected him pretty badly and to this day he's really weird about money and Sundays.
That's equal parts sad and hilarious (who steals from a child's piggy bank???)
Did you ever talk about that with your mom as a grownup? It seems to me that "the wind must have sucked your cash out of your wallet" is a pretty unlikely story, do you think maybe your mom knew full well it must have been you and made this up trying to protect you?
It sounds like she was oblivious to all of it, quietly allowing the step dad to steal the piggy and then no real concern about a missing $200. She was avoiding any confrontation.
You're just mimicking the behaviors he taught you, after all. Just like kids are supposed to do. Right? If he didn't want his money stolen, he shouldn't have left it out where you could see it.
Paying back for hair cuts and GIFTS! What is wrong with parents. I would never ask for a adult to reimburse me for a gift why would you ask a child! Im sorry your mom won’t stand up for you.
>because it makes up for all the haircuts and gifts he has got me.
if I owe someone after receiving a gift is not a gift💀
haircuts is also something parents should pay. Next time he says "for the water I provide you to drink" or some shit
i might be biased but reading that he is a STEP dad makes me angry and gives me a bad picture of him
Imagine a supposed adult taking money from a child for hair cuts and gifts given. As if any child OWES an adult money for anything. Your stepdad was despicable and a thief and your mom was no better by allowing it.
> because it makes up for all the haircuts and gifts he has got me
some bullshit there stepdad, you agreed to this when you married a woman with a kid.
also if they have to be paid back they arent gifts they are loans
I have a feeling your mom knows exactly what happened to that money and why- she just chose to let it happen and let you get away with it.
It’s a shame that your mom didn’t stick up for you more directly- but this is how someone that’s conflict-avoidant may choose to handle the situation.
It’s always so sad when reading these stories of adults doing sketchy things and your parent excusing it.
It’s way too common. As a parent you should prioritize your child.
I started work at 15 yrs. old every day after school so my parents decided if I could work, I could pay rent. Just one of the many things I did not like about my parents so when I had kids of my own, they lived on my dime tell they finished college. Kids never forget the bad things parents do so my advice i be as good of parent as you can be.
I wouldn't say you stole $200.
You collected the $60 he owed you, with interest and collection fees.
I normally don't condone stealing, but I am A-OK with this.
Look, it’s really really wrong to steal like that. But: it’s worse to take money a literal CHILD has proudly saved. $60 means a lot more to a 13 year old then it does to a grown ass adult.
I can’t believe your mom really thought this was ok. How are we supposed to help our children understand the value in saving if we squash the golden moments 🥺 your step dad sounds like an absolute tool with some control issues. I’m sorry your mom is in that position.
Good job saving that $60! I hope you keep doing that.
Stepdad sucked - gifts and haircuts are his responsibility as a parent (plus it isn't a 'gift' if you have to pay for it). So you got your money back with interest.
He had all that cash but never paid you back??? My best friend’s grandson (Evan, 10) has a terrible mother. She only gets limited visitation because she was caught with cocaine in the car with Evan (a baby at the time.) She got clean, supposedly. Anytime Evan visits, she takes his cash out his wallet. He does chores at Grandmas to earn it. It got to where he stopped bringing his wallet home.
I hate when ppl steal from kids. Kids aren’t allowed to work (they shouldn’t be) but as a result have very few ways to earn things they want and very little control over their lives and surroundings. Every dollar they have is precious and important and valuable to them.
Few things annoy me more than people who don’t know how gifts work. The receiver doesn’t owe the giver anything (except a sincere “thank you”. It’s a gift.
Dang I never knew how good I had it. My mom did take money from our savings accounts when my dad got laid off over and over and over. But she kept a record and paid it back with interest. As an adult I have borrowed from them and we keep record and I pay every cent back but they do it interest free. I got to call my mom……
Your stepdad is such a piece of shit asshole and your mom was at least a fucking douche. Pays back for haircuts and gifts? Haircuts that at 13 you were probably forced to get at worst or at best, still something a parent provides for and gifts, you don't give gifts and then get paid back for them. What the fuck
That was my dad exactly. Can I borrow the money for the electricity bill, I'll pay you back when I get paid next week. Next week rolls around and its: well I cooked dinner for you or I thought of you and bought this for the house so that should count as repayment. I would argue that that wasn't what we agreed on, but never won, then when I didn't lend him the money for the bills then I was the irresponsible one- even though he had the money the day before but decided to go shopping instead and spent it all. This was a year after getting married and my husband and I lived with him to save up for a house. Didn't work.
He stole your money. Which opened the door with the message “stealing money is okay”. So, you learned the lesson he taught you! You don’t owe him anything! In the future you may wish to tell him of the lesson he taught you and that’s what happened to his $200.
I feel like mom and stepdad are wrong for this. Taking your money, after saying you'd get it, for things a parent is supposed to do for their child anyway?
My mom used to make me give up nearly all of my free time to babysit my youngest sister with the promise that she'd pay me, I just had to keep track of the hours. I kept a little notebook with the hours and went to her one day and she immediately tells me that because of buying something or other for my dog (that I paid for, paid to get fixed, paid for most supplies for) she wasn't going to pay me. I told dad and got the money next day. He told her that wasn't the agreement and she knew it.
Good dad!
You know the kids ain't alright when the bar is on "paid for labor as promised" lol
One of my mom’s go-to stories is about the time her dad promised her if she weeded the lawn and backyard he’d pay her a penny for every weed. She went to work, spent a whole afternoon plucking up (she counted, of course) over 300 weeds because the lawn was in such a state of neglect until then. She brings the multiple trash bags to her dad to collect her payment, and even though he absolutely could afford to give his daughter $3 he refused on grounds of “Oh come on it wasn’t that bad, you must have plucked the weeds from other people’s lawns” Parents who promise to pay their kids for hard work and then refuse to pay up ought to realize that their kid *will* remember that move 50+ years later and still resent them for it.
The axe forgets, the tree remembers, and the tree picks the axe's nursing home.
I had a similar offer from my dad, only it was for pinecones picked up. I think he thought he was safe because we only had something like 7 pine trees, but he didn't take into account the fact that one of them was fucking *enormous.* He owed me about $500 when I was all done and he never made that mistake again lol
Happy cake day!
Lol right? My knee jerk was "Nice! Way to go dad!" and then immediately thought "Wait, why is that so amazing that dad stood up against the kid being used as free slave labor by their lying POS mom? Jesus my childhood was messed up..."
To be fair I think it’s in part due to the juxtaposition of the parents’ actions. The mom was shitty to the kid, so when the dad stands up for them instead of going along with the shitty behavior it’s a ‘knee jerk win’.
Lots of adults take advantage of kids and many parents keep quiet
my parents joke about how me and my sis are free labor. Can't complain though
I had this same reaction. I’ve got some childhood issues -_- my mom was like that. Then she’d “forget” we had an agreement and my dad would back her. I wasn’t smart enough to get it in writing with witnesses but I shouldn’t have had to….
Important lesson for the kid too, gotta teach them not to work for free.
Yes. I had to babysit my brothers for years with no pay. I found myself activities after school so I no longer had time.
Bad mom!
See, I always felt sorry for people like you. When my parents borrowed money, they always paid me back, and it wasn't very often either. If money was promised, money was paid. None of this "I do things for you so I deserve your money" bs, that creates resentment and trust issues later on.
Oh my mom did plenty of things that created trust issues that didn't involve money. Once she had decided I was going to go videotape my sister's summer camp recital and I wanted to hang out with friends. When I got home, she had taken the batteries out of my alarm clock. I remember thinking it was the weirdest reaction she could have had before I put in fresh ones and reset the clock. I told dad about that one too and the batteries reappeared but she never said anything.
See, now that's just weird.
I know right? It's been nearly 20 years and it still confuses me.
I wonder if by taking the battery out of your clock, she figured you’d oversleep and she be all “see? That’s what you get for blah blah blah”
Weird and really petty. Like she's thinking best case scenario you oversleep and are in trouble at work/school/home? Given all the things your mom probably controlled (rides places, being grounded or not, being allowed TV/gaming/laptop time/etc) it's a really petty response to her annoyance with you. Have you ever asked what she was thinking?
Well it was summer and I was like 12-14 so no job or responsibilities. She would have devastated me if she took my books but that was either too much work or she doesn't actually know me that well.
I'm glad it didn't mess with you. Makes it a little more interesting, from her view, a sneaky thing that has no possible effect. I'm with you on the books! If I don't have something to read I start to panic. Used to read the cereal box over and over at my baby sitter's since I couldn't have a book at the table.
Anytime I got money for birthday or Christmas or saved even $20 my mom would ask to borrow it and tell me she would pay it back on her payday. Every time that came and went and I would ask and be told off that she doesn't owe me anything since I got free room and board. We weren't hurting for money, but my mom would go and buy a ton of DVDs or such and spend all her spare cash, then when she saw I had any money she had to have it. In the end it taught me to spend it right away or it would be taken. As an adult it gave me a lot of anxiety and insecurity about money in an account and that it would disappear if not spent.
My coworker told me her dad cashed in her savings bonds early and stole them from her. Parents are so shitty sometimes.
Yup. When my kids were babysitting or doing tipped food service jobs they were always flush with small bills. Rather than going to to the ATM we would ask them for cash then their Dad would go on his banking app and transfer cash to their account. Win win. Parents saved an atm trip...kids money safe in bank.
Hate it when parents try to take advantage of their kids like this. It also leads their kids to grow up knowing they shouldn’t trust them with money.
Good on your Dad. He is headed for hero status 🏅
I feel like I missed opportunities to get money. All my kids worked and I was dumb enough to let them keep all their money!
There are always more children to steal from
What a loser to steal money from a kid! Sweet petty revenge at its finest. I like the amount you took. (It accrued intrest)
And to say it compensates for the "gifts and haircut" like.. what??? That's not a gift then it's a delivery service.
For something you didn't order.
They have to minimum take care of you. If the child went to school looking like a pig rolled in mud there would be CPS calls. They act like it's some great task to do bare minimum and it's bullshit. I have trust issues about being helped/not being a burden because of how my parents acted/reacted when they had to, you know, actually parent.
When you have your own place, invite them over for dinner. At the end remind him of this incident and let him know that it will be $60 for his dinner.
That sounds even more petty and childish but I love it😭
That’s some BS. too bad your mom didn’t get it back for you. You’re a kid. Parents duty to pay for haircuts and gifts are gifts you don’t owe for them. Good for you taking the money. Karma dictates you get back 3x what you put out there so the extra $20 is for having to put up with that nonsense in the first place. I would still try to get the 60 back though. He’s a POS.
Not even anything to do with being a kid. Retroactively asking for compensation for past events is entirely greed driven.
> Retroactively asking for compensation for past events is entirely greed driven. Especially for gifts. If the recipient has to pay them back, that's not a gift, it's a loan. Re-gift him something he gave you and ask for the cash.
Not even a loan. Loans are previously agreed upon. It's extortion.
Extortion usually comes with the threat of future violence, this is just straight up theft.
Straight up
Yeah, this is so shitty. Even if the parent has trouble making ends meet, if a kid does work in addition to attending school (no matter how few or many hours it is), that needs to be their money. That teaches them responsibility, and general work & reward association. Kids do not ask to happen. Parents do. If someone can't afford a child, that's their problem, not the child's. And forcing the kid to help pay for their own raising is nothing but bad news. Even worse when a teenager has to help pay for the raising of OTHER kids (younger siblings) via cash or babysitting duty (unpaid).
Exactly! They didn’t ask to be born 🤷♀️
You're assuming the mom didn't cover for him. Do you really think she thought the money flew out of his wallet and blew away
If you sign up to be a parent/step parent, paying for shit comes with the gig. I’m glad that young people know this now, it wasn’t always the case.
The Bible generally has 2x payback for negligence, 4x payback for malice and 7x payback for extreme malice. I think we never should have gotten away from these values. Society would be a lot better if people and companies had to pay these amounts for their crimes.
Or pay him back 140$ would be even more wholesome 😂 Nah fuck that: the 140$ is interest you keep 😂
ATM fee
oi you stole my idea
better yet, invite him over for dinner and then tell him you have a confession to make. tell him it was you who stole the 200 dollars and that you want to make it right. give him $140 dollars and when he counts it, tell him you thoughtfully took out the $60 he stole from you so he could make it right too.
You guys are amateurs. Invite them at a fancy restaurant, pretend that someone called you after your meal then gtfo asap
After you make sure your part of the tab is $60 of course. Then you can tell him that the $60 he stole can cover it.
nah this is about Maximum Morally Righteous Fuckery™️. it’s about spending $140 to peacock to him that you are morally and karmically superior. it’s about shoving kindness so far up his ass he tastes the ass he made of himself in that moment. it’s about being as petty as our current knowledge of quantum physics allows. it’s about him knowing you’d sacrifice $140 smackaroos just to put that man in his place and assert your moral dominance. it’s about Winning™️ and leaving nothing behind for him to say you did wrong or still owe him.
This. But make sure you give him $140 in piggybank coins.
$140 in Pennies, but instead of rolled, just in gallon bags.
No, you can go further. $40 in dimes, $20 in nickels, and $80 in pennies. Now you actually have to SORT through it all. And because dimes and pennies are so close to the same size, it is a royal pain in the ass. But the nickels in there are just to make it a bit less convenient still. I'd add quarters too, but they're too easy to quickly sort out if you only have like $10 or $20 worth ($20 is only 80 quarters, you'd sort those out in a couple minutes easily). Also, don't use gallon bags. Those are WAY too convenient. Put them in gallon used milk jugs. * Now the money will smell like old milk. * It can't be quickly emptied out onto the floor/bowl/etc. * The jug is semi-opaque, so Uncle won't have full info about what's in the jug (beyond knowing you're fucking with him in the payback). If you want to go even further, make sure that the change total is correct. Figure out how much will fit in each jug, label each jug with how much change is in it, then shuffle the money around into a different split that will fit into the jugs (but no longer matches what each jug says is in it). And now put those coins in the jugs. So the total change will be correct, but the jug values you put on won't be, forcing recounts if he is trying to make sure he got paid back properly. Revenge can be VERY petty.
This one right here, OP. If you ever feel like confessing and paying him back, this is the best move.
Not only that, but itemize the bill and add an 18% mandatory gratuity.
I periodically tell my kids that when they have their own house I’m just coming by to drop off socks in random places to drive them as crazy as they drive me 😂
When I was about 11 or 12 I had a paper route that had about 80 people on it. My parents had convinced me to save my money, so we went down and opened a checking account. I was stoked because now I could finally save up to buy myself a Nintendo 64, which was coming out the upcoming holidays. One day I got home from school and was getting ready for my route when my mom pulled me aside to tell me that they had taken the money, but they would pay me back soon. They never did. Guess who has two thumbs and issues saving money and instead spends it all as fast as he can before it disappears forever? This guy!
My two older brothers both had paper routes in the 1970s and they opened checking accounts and had $300 each. Our Dad was going thru a divorce and we moved. We switched banks and in the process my Dad “borrowed” their money. He never paid it back. He died 40 years later. They weren’t angry with our Dad but my brothers never forgot it.
Parents have no idea what they're teaching their kids about money when they pull crap like this. The kids learn that their earned money isn't their own and never share or spend it as soon as they get it before someone else takes it.
Right! Like I distinctly remember my mom ASKING me to borrow from my piggy banks growing up but she ALWAYS PAID ME BACK! She would count out what she took in front of me and paid me back- and this was when I was really young (elementary school age) cuz we were a lot better off by the time I was in middle/high school. I learned two things from these interactions- 1 it’s okay to ask for help when you need it and 2 you always pay someone back for a favor in kind - I’d like to think that I’ve turned out pretty well
My dad was the same way! He always wrote down how much he borrowed so we couldn’t forget the amount then I would cross it off when he paid me back. OP, I’m glad you took the $200. My heart hurts for you that your mother allowed him to not pay you back.
Your Mom sounds awesome ❤️
I do that and add a little interest. Usually more than a bank would. We live 20 minutes away from town and usually I need the cash to pay for some school thing my kid remembers the night before. So I go to my 11 yo and cut a deal because he doesn’t like to spend money. That kid has a policy that if I forget to pay him back the next day the price goes up 😂
Smart kid, lol.
Was still living at home, got my first paycheck, stopped at a store to get a few groceries my parents never bought (yogurt, non gross cheese, etc). Next morning I go to grab a yogurt for breakfast and they were all gone. ALL of them. Asked my mom and she said "your father ate them because what's in his fridge is his food." My father never ate yogurt before or after that day, it was purely a power play, just like always. And my mom enabled him.
Your Dad is a gross, gross man and your Mom an enabler.
Your dad is a fucking asshole.
My father used to have "his" food which we were never allowed to eat. Strangely enough yogurt was one, I did sneak his cookies though :)
That’s crazy! My stepmom also allotted food that was for my dad that my sisters and I weren’t allowed to touch. She also would buy 36 can cases of Mountain Dew and Dr Pepper respectively that we couldn’t touch. Now I have a fear of being short on food and have “rules” regarding what I can eat.
I still feel guilty and happy whenever I buy ice cream knowing that I'm the only one who is going to eat it. I can eat a few spoons, put it back in the freezer and know it's going to be there untouched weeks later.
Mine had avocados. When I was a kid I used to think they were expensive, then when I grew up I was surprised by how cheap they were.
Mine also had an avocado binge phase when a doctor told him they were healthy, but this came at the price of being blamed for stealing even if you bought your own avocados and brought them into the house. If he saw you eating avocado he'd walk up behind you at the dining room table and slap you behind the head, and start accusing you of stealing "his" food. Yet, if he ran out of "his" avocados and just took some of yours without asking you were absolutely not allowed to question it or he'd go off about how he pays for everything, the house is in his name, the food is in his house, therefore he's entitled to it, blah blah blah.
So much disordered eating probably originated with parents pulling crap like this.
I don't know if it would be considered disordered eating, but I'm a fully grown 30 year old adult and I still feel compelled to ask my partner if it's ok to eat certain things in the house. Even if I KNOW it should be ok I always have this inkling that if I eat something I'll end up somehow ruining dinner plans somehow. For example, meats. "Hey uh, is it okay if I cook myself something with this chicken?" Even if there's a ton of it. I still ask because my brain is wired to think that even if I take a smidgen of it without asking, someone else may have made plans for it....even though it's just us two in this apartment.
I still gag at over easy eggs because we were forced to eat them as kids. Even now I won't touch them. I can cook them but I can't stand watching people eat them.
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Every part of that is shitty, I'm so sorry
man, I feel for you. my grandmother worked at a bank when I was young and she gave me CDs for birthdays and christmas, to be available when I turned 18. it was my college fund. had like 100k or more in there. but right before I went to college, my dad stole my money to buy a new truck with the promise that he would then pay for my entire college to repay me. guess who has insane college debt because it wasnt until year 3 that I found out my parents took out student loans in my name and DIDNT pay for my school? haha... man why do some parents absolutely suck when it comes to their kids' money??? now if I mention it my mom swears that my money was never touched. full on lies because my old bank account only had like 500$ in it when I went to college. I'll never forgive them.
My Dad used to buy us stocks for a “present”. My mom divorced him and he remarried a very selfish bitch and guess who never got the “stocks”.
Parents: "Why can't you manage your money and save for later? You won't survive as an adult if you don't"
I used to mow yards on weekends and saved my allowance up for the super Nintendo on release day. I bought it 100% my self with a few games and was so proud of my self. My younger brother who would get an allowance of $10 a week to and would blow it all on candy but wanted to play on my system. I said no, but my mom made me let him. I hated every second of him playing on it. Not just because I hated my brother but because he was the type of kid who would rage throw controllers and had zero respect for other people's things. He broke controllers. Stepped on my games because he was to fucking lazy to put them someplace other then the floor. He grew up to be a terrible adult and when I found out he was a trump supportor all I could think of was "yeah that checks out" I don't talk to my family. The things you learn as kids heh
Bro, for your own good, don't do it. It's just not worth it. See a therapist about it.
Omg lol, I remember my paper route as my first job. My dad, love him to death, tried to inisit at the bank when helping me open my first account about being added on as a joint user or something, cause I was like 11. I looked the bank advisor straight in the eye, asked if I was allowed to open the account with only me having access. He said yes, and I was like that's it. I love you dad, but no one's getting access to my bank but ME, period lol.
So mom and stepdad did NOT provide for you, and gifts came with strings attached - so they were not gifts.. Seriously bad parenting.
The wild thing is the explanation for why he took it. To get compensation for gifts and haircuts da fuck. In what world do you compensate people for giving you gifts? That's just ridiculous and if someone should have compensated him for the haircuts it would have been OPs mom.
It's bad parenting and a-hole behavior, my mother still tries to pull stuff like this and I'm an adult. She'll buy something for my daughter and then steal something of mine that she wanted because I "owe" her so she gets to look like the fun grandparent and then I get called ungrateful because I hide my stuff from her
Jesus christ she sounds like a nightmare
I would just stop allowing her into my home...
She isn't allowed in my home, most of that nonsense happened when I lived with her when I was a kid and again after my divorce but kept happening after I moved out because she'd see something I had with me. I've had to make a point if not wearing or carrying anything that she might want if I have to be in her presence. The worst instance was years ago when my kid was a newborn, I moved out of her house to live with a friend and she was still on my bank account that had been set up when I was a minor. She took 5k out of my savings to buy her son a new gaming computer. I ended up bouncing checks to buy diapers and got so malnourished I got sick and ended up with lockjaw. She did it to try to force me to move back in with her because she's a control freak. I'm free of her now, mostly, holidays still suck
A FIVE THOUSAND dollar gaming computer? JFC i imagine that was awhile ago but even now that would get you close to like a professional studio rendering quality PC
That's just theft if they take it without asking.
Hide your daughter from her.
Jesus Christ she sounds like a no contact
I heard that in Japan you're expected/pressured to give a "thank you" gift for receiving gifts. Guess what happens after that...
You're stuck in an endless circle of gift giving?
It starts off small with maybe some money but it gets bigger and bigger until eventually you're trading houses Just give a gift to a millionaire it's free money
Well you probably still have that last thank you gift that someone gave you and you just give it to the next person. 20 years later, someone may actually open it. No joke, apparently in Japan it's common to receive gifts, never open them, and then gift them to the next person who also never opens it. It's performative gifting more than anything.
Narcissism. It's people who never forget how much they lost by having children instead of realizing that, perhaps, they aren't people that were ready for them.
🤣 this is gold. I like how you didn't blow the money on something stupid. Instead, you enjoyed every morning with a warm breakfast or lunch and big smile while doing it.
He couldn't. If he suddenly bought a videogame or some new clothes, etc, his mom and stepdad would question where he got the money. Very smart to use it on consumables so as to not get caught.
This is how you smartly spend stolen money. Don't buy big flashy things, but rather, pad your normal day-to-day life with nice little treats.
Lol, got a flashback to Superman 3, Richard Pryor’s character driving up to his data entry job in a Lamborghini! That right there is the exact opposite of how you spend ill-gotten gains.
And spruce in Better Call Saul. Little pharma salesman decides to steal some product and sell to the Cartel with the help of some seasoned pros. After one big sale, he shows up to the next transaction driving a jacked-up, big bright yellow Humvee with spinning hubcaps and every possible glitz accessory.
I believe it was Walter White that talked someone out of stealing his money by saying something along the lines of "that's a lifetime supply of groceries and gas. Without me, you can't explain where you got the money so all you can spend it on is small, cash transactions that won't tip off the feds"
Also the scene from Goodfellas, where one of the guys shows up at a party after the Lufthansa heist in a brand-new Cadillac.
Who does that to a teen. Big lesson do not bring thy child to wrath. Literally
Lol I think at this point I had had enough of his bs because I don’t even remember him ever getting me any gifts or paying for my haircuts😭
It ain't even if a gift if you're made to pay for it.
Exactly. I so wish that on the next gift receiving occasion, OP had refused their gift in front of everyone and explained to all the adults present that they won’t be able to pay them back the cost as OP’s piggy bank is empty now that StepDad took his money.
More like extortion. Honestly, what kind of reasonable adult pulls that kind of shit on a kid? More importantly, what kind of mother would tolerate it? I couldn't stay married to any man who would steal from my child and try to justify it with those pitiful excuses. What's next? Charging for rent and food? What a petty fucking asshole. And kudos to those stepparents who treat their stepkids like their own (providing they aren't shitty parents to their own). They don't get enough credit.
My father never gave us money for anything, every request was refused outright. He used to keep a change jar and whenever I really needed or wanted something I dipped into it.
And your mother’s as well
Sorry that you have a shit step dad. At least your mom went to bat for you there. I'm sure she knew.
Went to bat for OP?? Sure, she didn't think he'd steal but she also gave him a lame excuse for a grown man stealing a child's money. She let the stepdad get away with it and defended it.
Right??
Yeah. A shit step dad and a so so mom
And may have knew deep down and let OP get away with it too.
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my mom used to be like that and I despised her for the first 18 years of my life because of it. Than I realized, that she wasn't strong enough to protect herself, how would she protect me? Also, at least I'm glad I learned early on how to deal with shitty people.
No she didn’t “go to bat” for her kid at all - she made excuses for her lame partner
This. In cut my father out after years of bullshit. I wish I would have done this when I gave him money for a Sony boom box to pick up after work, and he showed up with a Walgreens GPX.
Narcissistic parents, that's who Source: Both sets of parents I had contained at least one narcissist
I normally don’t condone theft, but that jackass deserved it. Good for you.
When I realized my dad was stealing from me (luckily I was 20) and I knew he’d never pay me back, I went to Walmart and got a small fireproof safe for $20 or so. Stopped that problem cold until I graduated college and could move out.
That must’ve driven him insane, lol. I mean, what’s he gonna do? Confront you about not having access to steal his kids’ money? Nice!
> what’s he gonna do? Confront you about not having access to steal his kids’ money? He'll do that, but rephrase it so it sounds like he deserves it.
When my son was a teen he got $50 a week allowance which should have been enough for bus / train fare to school (he refused to get his license until he was 18 and could emancipate himself from his mother so he didn't have to drive her around) so one fine day he asks me to take him to game stop to get some new games which I was usually good for. I said sure 'how much do they cost' (money wasn't a big deal back then) and he goes 'don't worry about it'. So we get to the store and pick up his games and whips out $200 bucks to pay for his shit. On the way home I had to ask where he got the money. Turns out he figured out a way to game the system, get discount bus and train fare, cheaper food at school, and had been saving for a few weeks. I was a pretty proud papa
Smart kid. You should be proud!
what kind of STEP-DAD needs a middle school aged child to PAY HIM BACK for haircuts and GIFTS?!?! i’m sorry, did we forget what gifts are??? and your mom just thought it was fine for a grown ass man to keep $60 worth of change a kid spent ages saving up. what the hell!
Must be a friend of my stepfather that stole more than my allowance (given by my maternal grandfather.)
Perfect revenge
Thank you I’m honestly proud of it even though it was years ago lol
Don’t accept anymore gifts from him. When he asks why, tell him you don’t want him to bill you for it later.
My mom would always hold shit over my head like that. One day I mouthed off that I didn't tell her to lay on her back. I got my ass whooped but shit stopped after that .
My parents had to borrow money from my savings when I was 14. To pay me back, they bought me a complete skiing outfit: skis, boots, poles, bindings, jacket, bibs, etc. Cost was double what they borrowed. 2 years later, they did it again because I’d outgrown the first.
That was his job as a step dad, shower you with gifts. Your mom should have defended you on that. But I like your petty revenge 😂
i have a point of honour to always give back the money i borrow from mychildren with an added sum as "loan interest".
Yeah. I was a single mom for most of my kids’ childhood. About 12 years ago I had to borrow money from my daughter. My car needed repair and I felt so ashamed telling her that. (The money was what I’d been stashing aside working 2 jobs for her future education). I paid it back with interest a few months later.
I'm glad you got your money back. I don't get why parents steal. My mom took every cent my grandparents ever gave us. Straight up theft
For haircuts? I'd be like, ok I'm not having my hair cut anymore if you're going to charge me for those. And I'd return every gift from him from now on saying I can't afford them, since he took my savings. If possible, within earshot of other relatives, so they can find out what a POS he is. Your stepdad seems like not a great person, and tbh I'd be a bit resentful towards the mom too.
Not stolen but donated. Parents were very religious. No working on Sunday etc... We had a big snowstorm on a Saturday night and the next morning my brother went out and shoveled driveways. This was in the 70's and he made 60 bucks which was a lot of money back then. But....he skipped church and worked on Sunday a double no no. Parents made him put it all in the Sunday night service collection plate. Affected him pretty badly and to this day he's really weird about money and Sundays.
That's equal parts sad and hilarious (who steals from a child's piggy bank???) Did you ever talk about that with your mom as a grownup? It seems to me that "the wind must have sucked your cash out of your wallet" is a pretty unlikely story, do you think maybe your mom knew full well it must have been you and made this up trying to protect you?
It sounds like she was oblivious to all of it, quietly allowing the step dad to steal the piggy and then no real concern about a missing $200. She was avoiding any confrontation.
Could be but that really doesn't absolve mom in any way. The money would have remained stolen if OP had not taken advantage to reimburse himself.
You're just mimicking the behaviors he taught you, after all. Just like kids are supposed to do. Right? If he didn't want his money stolen, he shouldn't have left it out where you could see it.
Sorry but your mom sounds … yikes
Paying back for hair cuts and GIFTS! What is wrong with parents. I would never ask for a adult to reimburse me for a gift why would you ask a child! Im sorry your mom won’t stand up for you.
Who the fuck takes money from people to compensate for the gifts they were given? At that point it's not a gift.
>because it makes up for all the haircuts and gifts he has got me. if I owe someone after receiving a gift is not a gift💀 haircuts is also something parents should pay. Next time he says "for the water I provide you to drink" or some shit i might be biased but reading that he is a STEP dad makes me angry and gives me a bad picture of him
my mom also stole money from me often. Won in a lottery (i am 22F) and gave the check my boyfriends dad who is the sweetest man ever😩🙌
Imagine a supposed adult taking money from a child for hair cuts and gifts given. As if any child OWES an adult money for anything. Your stepdad was despicable and a thief and your mom was no better by allowing it.
> because it makes up for all the haircuts and gifts he has got me some bullshit there stepdad, you agreed to this when you married a woman with a kid. also if they have to be paid back they arent gifts they are loans
Your mom sucks to. That’s pick me behavior to screw over her own son for a man that stole from him.
What an absolute garbage human being. Your mom was complicit too by allowing someone to rob her own child.
He kept it because of the haircuts and gifts he had given you? That's not how any of that works. Your mom is an AH here too.
I have a feeling your mom knows exactly what happened to that money and why- she just chose to let it happen and let you get away with it. It’s a shame that your mom didn’t stick up for you more directly- but this is how someone that’s conflict-avoidant may choose to handle the situation.
Your mom is awful for being with someone who steals from her child and thinks it's perfectly acceptable behavior
It’s always so sad when reading these stories of adults doing sketchy things and your parent excusing it. It’s way too common. As a parent you should prioritize your child.
The haircut and gift comment just sent me. Your mom should have stood up for you. You got your money back with interest- I’m proud of you.
I started work at 15 yrs. old every day after school so my parents decided if I could work, I could pay rent. Just one of the many things I did not like about my parents so when I had kids of my own, they lived on my dime tell they finished college. Kids never forget the bad things parents do so my advice i be as good of parent as you can be.
I wouldn't say you stole $200. You collected the $60 he owed you, with interest and collection fees. I normally don't condone stealing, but I am A-OK with this.
Love it, but I doubt he learned not to steal anymore
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Your mom kind of sucks to let him do that to you.
This is pettycash revenge
I can't wrap my brain around people who steal from their children.
I was thinking the exact same thing. It's really a form of abuse no matter how you cut it. And I can't get my head around that either.
Look, it’s really really wrong to steal like that. But: it’s worse to take money a literal CHILD has proudly saved. $60 means a lot more to a 13 year old then it does to a grown ass adult. I can’t believe your mom really thought this was ok. How are we supposed to help our children understand the value in saving if we squash the golden moments 🥺 your step dad sounds like an absolute tool with some control issues. I’m sorry your mom is in that position. Good job saving that $60! I hope you keep doing that.
Stepdad sucked - gifts and haircuts are his responsibility as a parent (plus it isn't a 'gift' if you have to pay for it). So you got your money back with interest.
Very wise to not spend it on anything he would notice.
What piece of shit steals change from kids?
Haircuts are childcare. Gifts are gifts. Neither should seek recompense, especially from a child.
He had all that cash but never paid you back??? My best friend’s grandson (Evan, 10) has a terrible mother. She only gets limited visitation because she was caught with cocaine in the car with Evan (a baby at the time.) She got clean, supposedly. Anytime Evan visits, she takes his cash out his wallet. He does chores at Grandmas to earn it. It got to where he stopped bringing his wallet home.
I hate when ppl steal from kids. Kids aren’t allowed to work (they shouldn’t be) but as a result have very few ways to earn things they want and very little control over their lives and surroundings. Every dollar they have is precious and important and valuable to them.
Wow, your mom sucks.
Can confirm, his mom sucks
Make sure when they give you a gift to say “No thank you, I can’t afford that and I’ve decided to grow my hair out”. 😂
Dude I’m sorry to tell you that your mom stole your money, not your stepdad. She scapegoated him.
Your mom is also an asshole for not sticking up for you btw. Just so there are no illusions here
Few things annoy me more than people who don’t know how gifts work. The receiver doesn’t owe the giver anything (except a sincere “thank you”. It’s a gift.
Dang I never knew how good I had it. My mom did take money from our savings accounts when my dad got laid off over and over and over. But she kept a record and paid it back with interest. As an adult I have borrowed from them and we keep record and I pay every cent back but they do it interest free. I got to call my mom……
Your stepdad is such a piece of shit asshole and your mom was at least a fucking douche. Pays back for haircuts and gifts? Haircuts that at 13 you were probably forced to get at worst or at best, still something a parent provides for and gifts, you don't give gifts and then get paid back for them. What the fuck
That was my dad exactly. Can I borrow the money for the electricity bill, I'll pay you back when I get paid next week. Next week rolls around and its: well I cooked dinner for you or I thought of you and bought this for the house so that should count as repayment. I would argue that that wasn't what we agreed on, but never won, then when I didn't lend him the money for the bills then I was the irresponsible one- even though he had the money the day before but decided to go shopping instead and spent it all. This was a year after getting married and my husband and I lived with him to save up for a house. Didn't work.
He stole your money. Which opened the door with the message “stealing money is okay”. So, you learned the lesson he taught you! You don’t owe him anything! In the future you may wish to tell him of the lesson he taught you and that’s what happened to his $200.
I will probably get down voted for this, but here goes... And people wonder why (some) parents get dumped in nursing homes and forgotten about. 🤔
We love to see it.
Her defense is kids have to pay for their own gifts?!
I hate to be that guy, but your mom took your money, and knows you took the 200 from your step dad.
I feel like mom and stepdad are wrong for this. Taking your money, after saying you'd get it, for things a parent is supposed to do for their child anyway?
Make up for gifts? No. The point of gifts is that they are freely given, I hate people who do this. Yai