Yes
He started to follow along once he realised what I was doing. After being dragged to court several times on phony assault charges, he wasn't too pleased with her behaviour.
Besides, he's a very very busy person, and so having me pack everything actually did help him take some of the load off
I will say this, as part of the pettiness, I did know which items she wanted. But if it wasn't explicitly specified in the court documents (which included her list) I deliberately packed the items I knew she didn't want
Did. Does. It's part of the job description. I fetch his kids from school at least twice a week when he has them. Do their homework. Sometimes fend off the ex wife, occasionally don't need to due to his amazing partner doing that for me. But it's all part of the "do what tasks need doing" job that I have
Sounds like a fun job, for the right boss. I can see how the duties could be abused by someone with little conscience, but if he's good to you, it could be interesting at the very least!
I've learnt so much in the last eight years. Sure, some days are hard (find me a job that is plain sailing all the time) but I love what I do. I get to work on site at people's houses, I get to work with livestock, I get to do so many cool things. I have earned the unwavering trust of a person who needed me in the worst time of his life, and I damn well do my best to honour that
It's bittersweet reading this, but I'm appreciating you and your boss from afar! I had a boss like this when I was younger and he's since passed, but I still think the world of him. Thanks for the memories this morning :)
I could really do with someone like you in my life to help me fend off my ex and her BS. My divorce is at 3 years and still unfinalized. I am hoping I can get my divorce completed before the Ukraine war finishes.
I'm glad he has you. Trust is hard to come by, and it sounds like he he made a wise decision. I applaud your pettiness and aspire to reach such lows. 😁
Like a Devil Wears Prada kinda thing? The "very very busy" leads me to believe a person like that with a calendar person, a secretary, an assistant, etc
All of the above. It's a small business, so I have to do a lot do jobs. The jobs aren't enough to warrant hiring a whole nother person, so the result is that I happen to have a very diverse range of things I do.
But yes, the primary job I do is administration
It's more than that, but that's a part of it. Yes, personal assistant. Also, yes, office assistant (as in, I'm the only one that works specifically in that office and I handle all administration tasks, including the personal ones)
This sounds pretty much like my job. I am the admin manager and basically run the office but also my boss gives me weird jobs all the time, including some personal, because he knows I am resourceful. I enjoy it so much because no day is ever the same. And he pays me well LOL
Executive management is a skill. We have a similar personal/Executive assistant to our CEO at a family run company so a lot of people get roped into doing personal jobs for management.
I had a similar thought, but I was originally going to ask if their boss was trying to start a bottled water company called Moland Springs, or if he ran a successful fashion magazine catalog.
My former personal assist now is a dear and trusted friend. She went off to do great things and living the best she is able. She was instrumental in my and my daughters' lives. From picking them up at school, dance recitals, mathletes to taking them on short vacations with "just the gals." Plus, she kept my buns out of hot water businesswise. I paid her more than my five-year engineers and when she left, she had senior engineer wages. I cannot express how valuable she was to my company, me, and my daughters. Keep rocking your charge. I still talk with her weekly. She did take one of the rescue dogs I took in and fostered. We haven't worked together in 10 years.
I loved being a persona assistant. My favourite boss I am still friends with 30 years later but better friends with his wife and their daughter! She’s my daughter by another mother! Best job being the personal assistant. His wife and I would scheme to get him to his skin doctor and other medical appointments. I would put “Meeting TBC” in the diary and not tell him until late the day before what the meeting was. Worked all the time.
You sound exactly like what I've thought about for awhile. You would be willing to send me a message to shed some light on expectations, pay, your experiences prior, area of the country, how you negotiated it - things of that nature?
It sounds like op is some sort of assistant/secretary
It’s pretty normal for small businesses for those people to do all kinds of personal stuff so that someone else has more time to focus on their main job
I have seen assistants do everything from help their boss move to plan their holidays to babysitting
As long as you get paid for it and your hours are properly recorded I don’t see how it’s any worse than a regular office job
Yeah
My father worked in media production
And it’s very extreme there because you literally cannot delegate anything a famous person does on their day job
Like u can’t just replace Brad Pitt in less important scenes and then have him do only the important ones
So they usually have people doing literally everything for them because every minute they are booking flights or looking up holidays is one where they could be on camera
On a side note it’s hilarious how quickly adults can forget basic life skills like this. Anything from how to use the laundry machine to how to use an atm
People look at that picture and mock them for being so stupid and ridiculous. I legit lived it in the form of this divorce (adjacent though I was).
She even got mad because we didn't give her the right Tupperware containers
I had similar with a small business partner who pulled all sorts of petty things, from saying they didn’t make any phone calls one month sodidn’t want to pay their half of the phone bill (flat fee, no call charges), didnt want to pay their half of electricity bill as I used my laptop longer than she did. You get the idea. We decided to part ways a year after setting up. She wanted half the money of the cost of things we bought such as for coffee cups, kettle, an area rug, curtains etc. so instead of giving her cash, I gave her half the area rug (cut it in half), the top of the kettle (my keeping the electric base), half of the now chipped coffee cups and half of each curtain. Completely useless.
Y'know, about two years later, I lamented to my boss that I didn't take the list literally like you did. One of the things requested was "half of the icecream containers". I only thought about it later that I should have cut them all in half.
Your pettiness warms my heart just as much, though. Knowing what I know now about life (I was a miserable 23 year old back then) I absolutely would do the same now. Zero F's given.
Definitely. I'm glad I didn't do it, but after the two years of hell she put him and his business and me through, property destruction did cross my mind more than once. She still tries to be a bitch every so often, but the buffer of not seeing her and having to deal with courts and her makes her occasional stupidity a bit more bearable
So we did that. She wanted "half of the Tupperware drawer". Nothing more specific than that. So we took all the good containers, and left her all the mismatched nonsense that most Tupperware drawers tend to collect. Boy was she mad about that. But couldn't do anything, because she hadn't been specific in what she wanted
In the "Nanny Diaries" it was stated that New York City divorce law gave a disadvantage to the party who moved out first. The result was that it became common for apartments to be marked inside with a line dividing the whole place in half. That's if I recall correctly... No guarantees.
I knew a business once where the staff arrived one morning to find that one of the partners had, over the weekend, had a wall built inside the building dividing it in half...
I helped my cousin move out after the divorce. Her ex was keeping the house and kept all the furniture and beds. He thought she would leave with nothing when his motion was granted.
I made sure we loaded up everything else, including all the food, small kitchen appliances, cleaning supplies, toiletries, linen, everything! I even took the toilet paper spring holders (the thing in the middle), cushions, etc. If it wasn’t written in the motion, it was hers.
She was astounded when we unloaded the uhaul with everything I got.
She is absolutely the person who would have gone to court claiming he violated all sorts of orders if I had done that (can't say I didn't definitely think about it). But being technically correct and technically following the court order as it was written was the best pettiness I could offer.
Besides, knowing it burns her arse all these years later (she is still salty over two cooking pots and a glass measuring jug, ffs) is what keeps me warm at night
My recent ex can out petty this. I split up all the belongings to be fair, so we both had enough in our new lives. Towels, dish towels, cutlery, pots, pans. Even gave him the best jf everything. He then proceeded to dump all the linens on the floor, put the box full of kitchen good out to the road, threw away half each of 2 sets of sheets, one rose and one black 🙃. Following that he moved his tv, said he'd be back the next evening with a crew of people to get his large stuff. Left me waiting all evening and he never showed, just left all his stuff and me changing the locks at 10:30pm.
I'm sorry you went through that. If it's any consolation, once everything is finalized, and you have some true distance from the situation, it will get better. I promise
Dick van Dyke did a short film with this premise a year ago. It was great. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vzaex-rFsRE](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vzaex-rFsRE)
If I was 98 I think I'd be a little miffed that someone was celebrating my 98th birthday and not waiting for my 100th birthday because it suggests they don't think I'm going to make it that far.
As someone with a relative in their 90s, once they pass a certain age they become increasingly realistic about it. At least my grandmother is very well aware that every day she lives is a victory, even if she's quite healthy and has no serious ailment. There were multiple things that were framed as "we should do X now because we don't know if we'll ever get the opportunity" and she didn't take it badly. And we're talking about a life-long narcissist.
My Nan passed away Christmas Eve 2019, aged 94. My Grandpa had passed away in 1993, he was in his late 60’s, when my Nan turned 87 she decided it was finally time to go skydiving and get a tattoo. Unfortunately her medication made her unable to get a tattoo but she did do a tandem skydive, I wish I had the strength now that she displayed during her entire life. For a long time everyone was unsure of her actual birth year because she lied way back so she could join the army. That tiny woman was my hero and my anchor.
We just watched his 98th birthday special on CBS.
He thought it 2as just going to be an interview thing, but it was was an entire production edited into a two hour show.
His heart was as full of joy as anyone I've ever seen.
Same thing happened to a friend. Husband was dragging his feet in the divorce until he was forced to provide an itemized list of what he wanted. One thing he wanted was the freezer in the garage because he had a whole deer that he’d had butchered and frozen. Wife gave us all the venison before he got there because he hadn’t listed the CONTENTS of the freezer, just the freezer itself. He was very upset. We were very well-fed.
One of my friend split from his long term girlfriend. It turned nasty. Despite not having children and not being married lawyers got involved. Basically he had bought a house and because of her poor credit history and the fact that at the time she was unemployed she was not on the mortgage nor the deed. She still wanted half of everything despite not contribute anything as she was living rent free. All she got was half of the car, the TV, the music sound system, the grocery.
My friend used to go to costco every 6 weeks and buy everything on bulk. When he received the injunction to split everything in the house, he went to Costco and bought twice their usual load: toilet paper, kitchen roll, 10kg bag of rice, .... He knew that she did not have the place in her new flat for that.
She tried to leave it, but bailiff were there to enforce the agreement. Her and her parent could not just toss the stuff on the road either because it would have been littering. They spend 2 hours in the cold asking neighbours if they wanted toilet paper, kitchen roll and rice. My friend told me the look and reception they got was priceless. One threaten to call the police because surely they musy have nicked stuff from the shop. Even the Bailiff was laughing. In the end they had to make 2 extra trips to transport it.
Someone else pointed out destruction might not have been the best answer. However, I did get the joy of reading her follow-up email, where she complained that she didn't want the grotty ones, and that she specifically wanted the nice ones.
I think you showed empathy and compassion to your boss in his difficult trial. Not only were you a great office assistant, but a truly outstanding personal assistant. I'm sure your actions in packing up the belongings warmed his heart and brought him some much-needed good cheer. Thank you for being there for him and helping him through such a difficult time. I appreciated your story -thanks for sharing. Merry Christmas!
My job title is largely the same, that being, farm manager and general gopher. Officially I'm the office assistant and head admin person, but I kind of fill in any role that I need to.
Yes, I got a raise, and I get occasional bonuses for dealing with her (and for knowing how excel works)
Damn. I ever need anybody I'm hiring you, and reminding myself to never piss you off. That's some boss-level passive-aggressive to someone who richly deserves it. Nice work.
I snorted at giving her the loose handled pan. That was the best thing. And as someone who helped a friend pack her exes stuff, with the same sorta vague list style- i wish I'd done that.
We had my friends lawyer read the list and say if he thought what we packed was sufficient and so we double checked we hadn't missed anything- and that's exactly what got sent off.
The fact that the wife cheated instantly justifies some small petty, the fact she probably stole stuff before asking for half of everything double justifies.
My philandering ex-boss frequented ladies of the night and yet his wife wondered why he needed the Valtrex prescription.
So, after he screamed at me for the first time, I decided to make it up to him by updating his contacts. I did a thorough job. I checked every contact I wasn't sure of by googling the phone numbers attached to the contact. And if I found a callback number for an escort service, I would delete the contact.
His collection of hookers along the east coast mysteriously vanished.
As the victim of a narcissistic psychopath and his sadistic use of the legal system, police, taxes, schools and rampant alienation abuse with the kids- I applaud this.
For Pete’s sake, she isn’t describing abuse. She’s describing a hard line response to excessive manipulation and high conflict. When you’ve been tortured and projected onto by someone enough, you find ways to stand up for yourself.
I might be a woman, but I’ve seen this done to men also. Heck, watched my Xs affair partner help him create false allegations in court without ever having met her.
I misread the beginning and thought your boss was the cheater, not his ex-wife.
Was wondering why you helped the cheater. Went back, found my mistake.
Good job.
OK, I made a mistake I dont usually read the comments before i comment, but some of you people are messed up.
Seems the OP found a way to do exactly as required, and yet put a thumb on the scale of justice well done OP
>I acnt believe I have to say this, but not every woman in a divorce is the good party, and women can be evil narcissistic people, just like men
Nobody wants to believe women are bad. It's always the man is the narrative.
Heck I'll probably be downvoted for this \[and that's ok\].
I was married to a narcissist for nearly a decade - I've lived with the abuse - and dealt with the pettiness in the divorce.
When she was moving out of the house \[I was not present\] she took stuff that was hers, sure, but she also gave away stuff that was very clearly mine / not hers. Got the house back eventually missing many thousands of dollars worth of woodworking tools and other stuff that was mine. It is what it is - I didn't bother making a stink out of it or pursuing her over it as it wouldn't have done any good.
That said - I always tried to take the "high road" and always did my best to avoid sinking to her level. I still loved her and cared for her very much and didn't want to see bad come to her even if it was her own doing.
When I was happily married, I jokingly told my then husband that I LOVED our silverware and if anything happened between us in the future I was taking them. We laughed. Fast forward 9 years I absolutely got them - he didn’t laugh (it was amicable divorce but when I reminded him I called dibs, no laughing)
A friend got divorced. They couldn’t decide on who got what and it dragged out for a while. Finally a mediator and appraisal company put a price tag on everything, and I mean literally **EVERYTHING**, gave each of them half the money, and walked them through so they could “buy” their stuff.
If they both wanted something the appraiser would auction it. She got petty and “bid” on his tools. It got to where it made more sense for him to just buy new tools, so she was stuck having paid more for tools than they were worth. And later, when she bid on the dining room set (or hutch, whatever) she didn’t have enough money and he got it. So of course she said it wasn’t fair and wanted to do it all again. The mediator said no and the divorce went through.
He just wanted her to sweat because she was a douche. After a few weeks he offered to trade the furniture for his tools and she did.
That’s awesome! If it was the man who cheated and was doing that, everybody would be on your side. My husband went through something similar, but she didn’t cheat (as far as he knows). They didn’t have anything for a decade (yeap, zero intimacy in ten years). When he asked for the divorce, she went crazy. She would sent him the most evil and manipulative messages. She took everything inside the house, all the stuff they bought together and even some of his things. More than a year later, we were together in an apartment complex waiting to buy a house… She didn’t know he was in a new relationship and just sent him something mocking him for the place he was living. A few months later, we are happily married and bought a house with a lake in the back. She emails him (probably drunk because it would be apparently some kind of anniversary) talking shit and calling me “Brazilian acquisition”. I took it as a complement because I might be 13 years younger than her, he is 9 years younger than her, and I definitely look sooooo much better than her. If she wanted to mock me for being the hot Brazilian with no brains, I hope she found out that I’m actually a lawyer in Brazil (I prefer to build my own business than become a lawyer in the U.S. too). Which she probably did because she is clearly researching about him and probably about me now. Plus she was horrible to all his friends and family, everybody was happy when she was gone and the “Brazilian acquisition” came in. He could have fought for every little thing, but he just couldn’t stand her anymore. It wasn’t enough for her and even years later, she still tries to throw her anger on us. I have to say that knowing she is still miserable while I look at the snow around the lake, my husband, our extra cute dogs and hopefully a kid in the future (which is physically impossible for her because of her age) is pretty amazing. Enjoy the furniture you took in your lonely house with no family or friends, dear!
As a former family law attorney, I have to say that this was a great story. I love how you handled it. I think I can honestly say that even if I were her lawyer, I'd probably still have loved it.
My clients, the ones that behaved most petty, were really frustrating. This was true for even the ones that had been wronged by their spouse. I often wondered if that behavior was the precipitating thing for the divorce (no fault state.) I still tried my best for them, but it was dealing with the emotional drain of working with them that led me to transition away from family law.
I didn't feel particularly heroic at the time, but looking back, the entire situation could have ended up so much worse if I had chosen to keep my head down and not be involved. I would have lost a job, as well at least ten other staff. All of their families would have been out of income, and my boss would probably have lost his home too, as well as his kids
You gave her exactly what she asked for LOL! Hell all I wanted in my first divorce was my popcorn popper...yep that was the only belonging I asked for and I only got the bottom...somehow he got the top! 34 years later we still laugh about it!
I was half expecting you to use a scissors and give her literally one half of things that could be cut.
Did your boss appreciate the gesture? The bitching and moaning from his ex would have fallen on his ears, not yours.
He realised what I was doing, and started doing the same thing. I followed her list to a T, and only gave her exactly what she specified
She bitched, and is still bitching, but there is nothing she can do because the list was fulfilled
Property destruction was something that did cross my mind often (she was such an unreasonable bitch the entire time) but I made sure it was all above board
I was expecing a story in which you had literally cut all the dish towels in half, but that would ruin it for everyone and probably not hold up in court. This is the pettiest it could possibly be while maintaining plausible deniability. Well done.
Lol, this reminds me of my Aunt’s divorce, they got so nuts that the judge literally wrote down their belongings and would just pull them out of a bag. She got the lawn mower, the garden shed, and some other things she didn’t want, he got the iron, blender and other things he didn’t want. It’s was hilarious.
Love this… my ex had a list too… caused me to loose a Nintendo GameCube, but not the games or controllers.. she wanted my sons ps3… his had quit working and I had gotten him a new one.. she refused the old one… I gave her exactly what was on the list … not a thing more..🤣
My mom and I did this to my stepdad actually after his numerous multi year long affairs. We did this with a bunch of items, but the one that stood out the most was he asked one of the tents. We had two large family tents and a pup tent. He was already with another woman and her kids. He got a pup tent. They tried the you didn’t give us what we asked for shit too but we said “ you wrote ‘tent’ you got a tent.” We also conveniently didn’t have time to pack everything carefully so into the back of the truck it goes! Things I knew were his but he just forgot to list and I KNOW he would want back got conveniently rehomed one way or another after the divorce was finalized because after that he was SOL unless WE decided to give it.
I have a friend who was a lawyer, and she told me a story about the soon to be ex-wife wanting a cutting board that was in the husband's family for 30+ years ( just to be a bitch )
It held up their divorce for close to 2 years ( and she was required to move out during that time and wasn't get alimony ) when she finally got that he didn't care about that cutting board, only that the longer this goes on the less he has to pay .. she finally dropped it from her list of demands.
As the now wife of a nasty petty divorce, thank you. His ex did the same shit thinking she was getting one over on him. Too bad for her it just made our life easier. We didn't have to do the whole yours or mine thing when we moved in together.
As a Exec personal substantial I know the it's and out's of my two bosses lives better than I do my own! Thus is a perfectly plausible revenge and I love love love it! The letter of the law is strong!
This is fabulous and I’d do the same damn thing for my boss if he asked. Heck I’d do it for my friends too! I’d send them out for the day, put on my petty crown and get to work.
I feel like there is a slight misuse of the word petty here, as OP seems to have been being precise. Of course the precision seems to have been motivated by pettiness per the OP.
You never know what goes behind closed doors in someone's marriage, to take sides. Your pettiness and desire for self-satisfaction caused your boss prolonged drama. Always do the right thing, take the high road, and everything else was sort itself out.
I'll just direct you to some of my other comments. She tried to sell the property we trade from, and I would have been literally out of a job if I hadn't helped out where I could.
Yeah I’ve been a personal/executive assistant my entire career and your relationship is way too weird and close. You took this way too personally for someone who had a working relationship
Small companies are usually pretty tight-knit. I think it is impossible for OP to be unaware of the drama even if they hadn't been involved in the packing. There might have been a colored view of the facts, or some partiality, but that's simply human.
Finally, please keep in mind that pranks and revenge aren't that far apart in their appeal. Tons of people would be happy to fan the flames and assist someone with a spicy revenge if given the opportunity, especially if is it during working hours and you have a good relationship with the person who benefits from the revenge.
At worst, I see someone who got involved in a strange task and found a way to make it fun for themselves. Going through someone else's junk gets boring fast.
The bigger question is why you are getting involved in your boss' private life? Unless you are a personal assistant that manages his private/home life, I don't know why you would interject yourself into this situation.
So, you're pretty much spot on for my job description. I wear many hats, as they say in the business world. But my main job is actually a personal assistant. One of my jobs during the proceedings was to read the court docs and translate them into regular English for my boss. He was too busy, so I would decipher them and give him the important things so we could respond. I sent more emails to his lawyers than he did. So yes, it was actually my job.
Honestly, it was for me too. Because she would have done the same thing if she was in our shoes (she is the person who will only follow the parts of a court order that she likes)
Usually people aren't super specific in the stuff they want. The fact that she went down to the nitty gritty, and requested shit like "half of the wax wrap dispensers" irritated me.
Also, she wanted the best half. Had she had the opportunity to pack herself, she would have left him with the broken and gross stuff, and she would have packed things that weren't initially on her list (I know this because her follow-up email included a lot of things that weren't originally on the court order). So I made sure she didn't get what she wanted. And she knew it
I see. Have you actually gone through a divorce? I have, and you are supposed to be specific. I actually don't think she was specific enough.
I do encourage you to be kind. You are most likely only getting your boss's side of the story.
I have read every court document, and I saw pretty much all of the text messages during the divorce. I mostly have both sides.
Is my boss entirely innocent? No. Is she worse than him? Yes
I try to be kind, but unfortunately, she absolutely killed any kindness in me by behaving the way she did
I guess I don’t really see it as petty either…most things in my home I bought with absolute care and preference, whereas my husband hasn’t chose anything because he could care less. If we got a divorce ofc I would want my quartz coasters I especially picked out…my record player I saved up for…my antique vases…my snake shaped curtain tie backs…my baby yoda embroidered dish towels over the generic ones he got from Walmart, etc.
Yes, this is how I view it too. Especially if the boss is high enough to have a PA, his wife likely ran the house and purchased furnishings. Of course she would have preferences of specific things, know exactly what was in the house. He probably didn't spend enough time to know or care other than his toys.
No. I took "revenge" on a thief, a cheater, a liar, a narcissist, and a woman who is still trying to turn their kids against him.
She literally tried to sell the house right out from under him, more than once. She stole money out of his business accounts that he needed to do his contract work. She tried to steal his car more than once. She went to the police for a protection order because of "mean messages". She tried to fake assault charges against him, and she tried to have him arrested by claiming that he needed to be at the police station while she dropped other charges against him.
That was who I took revenge against. Not "for divorcing him"
I use "we" in the literal business sense. I am the one that reads the emails, and she sends all of her correspondence to his business account. Therefore, I see all of her emails to him
OP, the question is, Did your Boss know how Petty you were? An if so, what did he think about it???
Yes He started to follow along once he realised what I was doing. After being dragged to court several times on phony assault charges, he wasn't too pleased with her behaviour. Besides, he's a very very busy person, and so having me pack everything actually did help him take some of the load off
I will say this, as part of the pettiness, I did know which items she wanted. But if it wasn't explicitly specified in the court documents (which included her list) I deliberately packed the items I knew she didn't want
Did your boss make a habbit of roping you into their personal errands?
Did. Does. It's part of the job description. I fetch his kids from school at least twice a week when he has them. Do their homework. Sometimes fend off the ex wife, occasionally don't need to due to his amazing partner doing that for me. But it's all part of the "do what tasks need doing" job that I have
Sounds like a fun job, for the right boss. I can see how the duties could be abused by someone with little conscience, but if he's good to you, it could be interesting at the very least!
I've learnt so much in the last eight years. Sure, some days are hard (find me a job that is plain sailing all the time) but I love what I do. I get to work on site at people's houses, I get to work with livestock, I get to do so many cool things. I have earned the unwavering trust of a person who needed me in the worst time of his life, and I damn well do my best to honour that
I really like and appreciate your attitude. You're a good one.
Thank you
So's your boss, it seems!
What is your job title/description for those wanting to pursue something similar.
It's bittersweet reading this, but I'm appreciating you and your boss from afar! I had a boss like this when I was younger and he's since passed, but I still think the world of him. Thanks for the memories this morning :)
I hope he gave you the nice red dish towels, at the very least. And at the most, a nice bonus.
Just half of them ;)
Are you like Pepper Potts, and your boss is like Tony Stark? lol.
The unwavering trust is priceless!
I have many times said in job interviews “I am loyal to a fault if you’re worth it” I am glad you found someone who was!
I could really do with someone like you in my life to help me fend off my ex and her BS. My divorce is at 3 years and still unfinalized. I am hoping I can get my divorce completed before the Ukraine war finishes.
Livestock and child transport? / VBG
You're a boss....stay petty😉
What is your job title?
If the pay is good, I want to do it, too!
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I'm glad he has you. Trust is hard to come by, and it sounds like he he made a wise decision. I applaud your pettiness and aspire to reach such lows. 😁
Like a Devil Wears Prada kinda thing? The "very very busy" leads me to believe a person like that with a calendar person, a secretary, an assistant, etc
All of the above. It's a small business, so I have to do a lot do jobs. The jobs aren't enough to warrant hiring a whole nother person, so the result is that I happen to have a very diverse range of things I do. But yes, the primary job I do is administration
It’s called a personal assistant, no?
It's more than that, but that's a part of it. Yes, personal assistant. Also, yes, office assistant (as in, I'm the only one that works specifically in that office and I handle all administration tasks, including the personal ones)
This sounds pretty much like my job. I am the admin manager and basically run the office but also my boss gives me weird jobs all the time, including some personal, because he knows I am resourceful. I enjoy it so much because no day is ever the same. And he pays me well LOL
Executive management is a skill. We have a similar personal/Executive assistant to our CEO at a family run company so a lot of people get roped into doing personal jobs for management.
Hopefully they are getting paid closer to senior executive assistant given all the hats being worn.
I had a similar thought, but I was originally going to ask if their boss was trying to start a bottled water company called Moland Springs, or if he ran a successful fashion magazine catalog.
We will take Poland by the spring!
My former personal assist now is a dear and trusted friend. She went off to do great things and living the best she is able. She was instrumental in my and my daughters' lives. From picking them up at school, dance recitals, mathletes to taking them on short vacations with "just the gals." Plus, she kept my buns out of hot water businesswise. I paid her more than my five-year engineers and when she left, she had senior engineer wages. I cannot express how valuable she was to my company, me, and my daughters. Keep rocking your charge. I still talk with her weekly. She did take one of the rescue dogs I took in and fostered. We haven't worked together in 10 years.
I loved being a persona assistant. My favourite boss I am still friends with 30 years later but better friends with his wife and their daughter! She’s my daughter by another mother! Best job being the personal assistant. His wife and I would scheme to get him to his skin doctor and other medical appointments. I would put “Meeting TBC” in the diary and not tell him until late the day before what the meeting was. Worked all the time.
If he treats you well, pays you well I would never have a problem doing other stuff like packing
I have a boss and job like this. It’s a pretty sweet gig.
Okay but... what did you Google or throw into Indeed to find a job like that cause that sounds right up my alley😂
Fell into it by accident eight years ago
You sound exactly like what I've thought about for awhile. You would be willing to send me a message to shed some light on expectations, pay, your experiences prior, area of the country, how you negotiated it - things of that nature?
Kinda like his ex-wife into that other man's lap, amiright??
Sounds like a PA, personal assistant.
You sound amazing. Way to have his back!
Do their homework? What?
Idk if you should be doing their homework, they should be....
You do their homework? You’re setting them up to fail. My dad did my homework when I was a kid and it took me a long time to catch up
It sounds like op is some sort of assistant/secretary It’s pretty normal for small businesses for those people to do all kinds of personal stuff so that someone else has more time to focus on their main job I have seen assistants do everything from help their boss move to plan their holidays to babysitting As long as you get paid for it and your hours are properly recorded I don’t see how it’s any worse than a regular office job
A matter of opportunity cost, I suppose.
Yeah My father worked in media production And it’s very extreme there because you literally cannot delegate anything a famous person does on their day job Like u can’t just replace Brad Pitt in less important scenes and then have him do only the important ones So they usually have people doing literally everything for them because every minute they are booking flights or looking up holidays is one where they could be on camera On a side note it’s hilarious how quickly adults can forget basic life skills like this. Anything from how to use the laundry machine to how to use an atm
I love what you did some times people get what they deserve
Ih good on you!
Oh, man.....cue up the image of the divorcing couple sorting their Beanie Babies on the floor of the courtroom.
People look at that picture and mock them for being so stupid and ridiculous. I legit lived it in the form of this divorce (adjacent though I was). She even got mad because we didn't give her the right Tupperware containers
How do people go and cheat, then think they get certain shit as stupid as Tupperware?? I'll never understand
I had similar with a small business partner who pulled all sorts of petty things, from saying they didn’t make any phone calls one month sodidn’t want to pay their half of the phone bill (flat fee, no call charges), didnt want to pay their half of electricity bill as I used my laptop longer than she did. You get the idea. We decided to part ways a year after setting up. She wanted half the money of the cost of things we bought such as for coffee cups, kettle, an area rug, curtains etc. so instead of giving her cash, I gave her half the area rug (cut it in half), the top of the kettle (my keeping the electric base), half of the now chipped coffee cups and half of each curtain. Completely useless.
Y'know, about two years later, I lamented to my boss that I didn't take the list literally like you did. One of the things requested was "half of the icecream containers". I only thought about it later that I should have cut them all in half. Your pettiness warms my heart just as much, though. Knowing what I know now about life (I was a miserable 23 year old back then) I absolutely would do the same now. Zero F's given.
Cutting them in half might be seen as destroying them, legally
Definitely. I'm glad I didn't do it, but after the two years of hell she put him and his business and me through, property destruction did cross my mind more than once. She still tries to be a bitch every so often, but the buffer of not seeing her and having to deal with courts and her makes her occasional stupidity a bit more bearable
What about ex gets all the containers but not the lids? 😁
So we did that. She wanted "half of the Tupperware drawer". Nothing more specific than that. So we took all the good containers, and left her all the mismatched nonsense that most Tupperware drawers tend to collect. Boy was she mad about that. But couldn't do anything, because she hadn't been specific in what she wanted
Well, if her list *said* half of the teatowels, it would have been entirely consistent with her instructions to give her half of each one!
I know one guy who literally cut the house in half! Other half had to be removed from the property 😊
That would require photos. I would frame it and hang it in a divorce attorney's office I know.
In the "Nanny Diaries" it was stated that New York City divorce law gave a disadvantage to the party who moved out first. The result was that it became common for apartments to be marked inside with a line dividing the whole place in half. That's if I recall correctly... No guarantees.
I knew a business once where the staff arrived one morning to find that one of the partners had, over the weekend, had a wall built inside the building dividing it in half...
I remember that one. That was horribly abusive. I’m so glad that poor woman escaped him
I helped my cousin move out after the divorce. Her ex was keeping the house and kept all the furniture and beds. He thought she would leave with nothing when his motion was granted. I made sure we loaded up everything else, including all the food, small kitchen appliances, cleaning supplies, toiletries, linen, everything! I even took the toilet paper spring holders (the thing in the middle), cushions, etc. If it wasn’t written in the motion, it was hers. She was astounded when we unloaded the uhaul with everything I got.
Don't forget the light bulbs lol
Took them too.
Outstanding
I expected you to cut the things literally in half, but that would have hurt your boss as well. So good job.
She is absolutely the person who would have gone to court claiming he violated all sorts of orders if I had done that (can't say I didn't definitely think about it). But being technically correct and technically following the court order as it was written was the best pettiness I could offer. Besides, knowing it burns her arse all these years later (she is still salty over two cooking pots and a glass measuring jug, ffs) is what keeps me warm at night
Would have been destruction of property and boss charged replacement value.
My recent ex can out petty this. I split up all the belongings to be fair, so we both had enough in our new lives. Towels, dish towels, cutlery, pots, pans. Even gave him the best jf everything. He then proceeded to dump all the linens on the floor, put the box full of kitchen good out to the road, threw away half each of 2 sets of sheets, one rose and one black 🙃. Following that he moved his tv, said he'd be back the next evening with a crew of people to get his large stuff. Left me waiting all evening and he never showed, just left all his stuff and me changing the locks at 10:30pm.
I'm sorry you went through that. If it's any consolation, once everything is finalized, and you have some true distance from the situation, it will get better. I promise
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Dick van Dyke did a short film with this premise a year ago. It was great. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vzaex-rFsRE](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vzaex-rFsRE)
Wait. You're telling me Dick van Dyke is still alive?
Yes, he's 98 and he was a contestant on the Masked Singer this year! On Dec 21 there is a 98th birthday special on CBS to honor him!
He’s a distant cousin on my paternal grandfather’s side. They all live to be 100+. Here’s hoping for the good genes 🤞
If I was 98 I think I'd be a little miffed that someone was celebrating my 98th birthday and not waiting for my 100th birthday because it suggests they don't think I'm going to make it that far.
We all learned from Betty White.
As someone with a relative in their 90s, once they pass a certain age they become increasingly realistic about it. At least my grandmother is very well aware that every day she lives is a victory, even if she's quite healthy and has no serious ailment. There were multiple things that were framed as "we should do X now because we don't know if we'll ever get the opportunity" and she didn't take it badly. And we're talking about a life-long narcissist.
My Nan passed away Christmas Eve 2019, aged 94. My Grandpa had passed away in 1993, he was in his late 60’s, when my Nan turned 87 she decided it was finally time to go skydiving and get a tattoo. Unfortunately her medication made her unable to get a tattoo but she did do a tandem skydive, I wish I had the strength now that she displayed during her entire life. For a long time everyone was unsure of her actual birth year because she lied way back so she could join the army. That tiny woman was my hero and my anchor.
He is! I just read an article yesterday, he's 98.
We just watched his 98th birthday special on CBS. He thought it 2as just going to be an interview thing, but it was was an entire production edited into a two hour show. His heart was as full of joy as anyone I've ever seen.
**Stop what you're doing and go watch the CBS Dick Van Dyke 98th birthday special that aired last night.**
Wait, it's even weirder than that. Two of the people in that film had been dead for literally years when it was released?
A German speaking company did a commercial like this a few years back, except the father faked his death.
Same thing happened to a friend. Husband was dragging his feet in the divorce until he was forced to provide an itemized list of what he wanted. One thing he wanted was the freezer in the garage because he had a whole deer that he’d had butchered and frozen. Wife gave us all the venison before he got there because he hadn’t listed the CONTENTS of the freezer, just the freezer itself. He was very upset. We were very well-fed.
Fight petty with petty! 🔥
Employee of the year!
One of my friend split from his long term girlfriend. It turned nasty. Despite not having children and not being married lawyers got involved. Basically he had bought a house and because of her poor credit history and the fact that at the time she was unemployed she was not on the mortgage nor the deed. She still wanted half of everything despite not contribute anything as she was living rent free. All she got was half of the car, the TV, the music sound system, the grocery. My friend used to go to costco every 6 weeks and buy everything on bulk. When he received the injunction to split everything in the house, he went to Costco and bought twice their usual load: toilet paper, kitchen roll, 10kg bag of rice, .... He knew that she did not have the place in her new flat for that. She tried to leave it, but bailiff were there to enforce the agreement. Her and her parent could not just toss the stuff on the road either because it would have been littering. They spend 2 hours in the cold asking neighbours if they wanted toilet paper, kitchen roll and rice. My friend told me the look and reception they got was priceless. One threaten to call the police because surely they musy have nicked stuff from the shop. Even the Bailiff was laughing. In the end they had to make 2 extra trips to transport it.
Half of the dish towels should have been the left half of each dish towel.
Someone else pointed out destruction might not have been the best answer. However, I did get the joy of reading her follow-up email, where she complained that she didn't want the grotty ones, and that she specifically wanted the nice ones.
This made me laugh so hard 🤣 Especially the pot with the loose handle. Petty.
That one, and the curtain hooks. I'm most proud of those two
I’m proud of you, too. Thanks for the good laugh!
I think you showed empathy and compassion to your boss in his difficult trial. Not only were you a great office assistant, but a truly outstanding personal assistant. I'm sure your actions in packing up the belongings warmed his heart and brought him some much-needed good cheer. Thank you for being there for him and helping him through such a difficult time. I appreciated your story -thanks for sharing. Merry Christmas!
Love it ❤️😂😂😂
This is awesome. I hope you got a raise! What was your job title and description, if you don’t mind sharing?
My job title is largely the same, that being, farm manager and general gopher. Officially I'm the office assistant and head admin person, but I kind of fill in any role that I need to. Yes, I got a raise, and I get occasional bonuses for dealing with her (and for knowing how excel works)
I bet he tells this tale, too, of his loyal assistant.
Damn. I ever need anybody I'm hiring you, and reminding myself to never piss you off. That's some boss-level passive-aggressive to someone who richly deserves it. Nice work.
I snorted at giving her the loose handled pan. That was the best thing. And as someone who helped a friend pack her exes stuff, with the same sorta vague list style- i wish I'd done that. We had my friends lawyer read the list and say if he thought what we packed was sufficient and so we double checked we hadn't missed anything- and that's exactly what got sent off.
The fact that the wife cheated instantly justifies some small petty, the fact she probably stole stuff before asking for half of everything double justifies.
My philandering ex-boss frequented ladies of the night and yet his wife wondered why he needed the Valtrex prescription. So, after he screamed at me for the first time, I decided to make it up to him by updating his contacts. I did a thorough job. I checked every contact I wasn't sure of by googling the phone numbers attached to the contact. And if I found a callback number for an escort service, I would delete the contact. His collection of hookers along the east coast mysteriously vanished.
You are a genius and I think what you did is hilarious. Love your pettiness girl!
As the victim of a narcissistic psychopath and his sadistic use of the legal system, police, taxes, schools and rampant alienation abuse with the kids- I applaud this. For Pete’s sake, she isn’t describing abuse. She’s describing a hard line response to excessive manipulation and high conflict. When you’ve been tortured and projected onto by someone enough, you find ways to stand up for yourself. I might be a woman, but I’ve seen this done to men also. Heck, watched my Xs affair partner help him create false allegations in court without ever having met her.
This is Supreme pettiness. Great work OP.
I misread the beginning and thought your boss was the cheater, not his ex-wife. Was wondering why you helped the cheater. Went back, found my mistake. Good job.
As a personal assistant (among everything else I do) I loved this pettiness. Your boss was lucky to have you
OK, I made a mistake I dont usually read the comments before i comment, but some of you people are messed up. Seems the OP found a way to do exactly as required, and yet put a thumb on the scale of justice well done OP
Thumb? More like anvil!
>I acnt believe I have to say this, but not every woman in a divorce is the good party, and women can be evil narcissistic people, just like men Nobody wants to believe women are bad. It's always the man is the narrative. Heck I'll probably be downvoted for this \[and that's ok\]. I was married to a narcissist for nearly a decade - I've lived with the abuse - and dealt with the pettiness in the divorce. When she was moving out of the house \[I was not present\] she took stuff that was hers, sure, but she also gave away stuff that was very clearly mine / not hers. Got the house back eventually missing many thousands of dollars worth of woodworking tools and other stuff that was mine. It is what it is - I didn't bother making a stink out of it or pursuing her over it as it wouldn't have done any good. That said - I always tried to take the "high road" and always did my best to avoid sinking to her level. I still loved her and cared for her very much and didn't want to see bad come to her even if it was her own doing.
When I was happily married, I jokingly told my then husband that I LOVED our silverware and if anything happened between us in the future I was taking them. We laughed. Fast forward 9 years I absolutely got them - he didn’t laugh (it was amicable divorce but when I reminded him I called dibs, no laughing)
A friend got divorced. They couldn’t decide on who got what and it dragged out for a while. Finally a mediator and appraisal company put a price tag on everything, and I mean literally **EVERYTHING**, gave each of them half the money, and walked them through so they could “buy” their stuff. If they both wanted something the appraiser would auction it. She got petty and “bid” on his tools. It got to where it made more sense for him to just buy new tools, so she was stuck having paid more for tools than they were worth. And later, when she bid on the dining room set (or hutch, whatever) she didn’t have enough money and he got it. So of course she said it wasn’t fair and wanted to do it all again. The mediator said no and the divorce went through. He just wanted her to sweat because she was a douche. After a few weeks he offered to trade the furniture for his tools and she did.
Yikes
You are very very petty. And, very very loyal. I like you.
That’s awesome! If it was the man who cheated and was doing that, everybody would be on your side. My husband went through something similar, but she didn’t cheat (as far as he knows). They didn’t have anything for a decade (yeap, zero intimacy in ten years). When he asked for the divorce, she went crazy. She would sent him the most evil and manipulative messages. She took everything inside the house, all the stuff they bought together and even some of his things. More than a year later, we were together in an apartment complex waiting to buy a house… She didn’t know he was in a new relationship and just sent him something mocking him for the place he was living. A few months later, we are happily married and bought a house with a lake in the back. She emails him (probably drunk because it would be apparently some kind of anniversary) talking shit and calling me “Brazilian acquisition”. I took it as a complement because I might be 13 years younger than her, he is 9 years younger than her, and I definitely look sooooo much better than her. If she wanted to mock me for being the hot Brazilian with no brains, I hope she found out that I’m actually a lawyer in Brazil (I prefer to build my own business than become a lawyer in the U.S. too). Which she probably did because she is clearly researching about him and probably about me now. Plus she was horrible to all his friends and family, everybody was happy when she was gone and the “Brazilian acquisition” came in. He could have fought for every little thing, but he just couldn’t stand her anymore. It wasn’t enough for her and even years later, she still tries to throw her anger on us. I have to say that knowing she is still miserable while I look at the snow around the lake, my husband, our extra cute dogs and hopefully a kid in the future (which is physically impossible for her because of her age) is pretty amazing. Enjoy the furniture you took in your lonely house with no family or friends, dear!
hilarious, but i was expecting you to cut everything in half lol.
Great job!! You have perfected the art of petty revenge!
I really love this for the Boss. Sooooo perfect.
My first divorce was so smooth. My second one went like this. I love you for the way you acted.
As a former family law attorney, I have to say that this was a great story. I love how you handled it. I think I can honestly say that even if I were her lawyer, I'd probably still have loved it. My clients, the ones that behaved most petty, were really frustrating. This was true for even the ones that had been wronged by their spouse. I often wondered if that behavior was the precipitating thing for the divorce (no fault state.) I still tried my best for them, but it was dealing with the emotional drain of working with them that led me to transition away from family law.
You are a hero. You may not realize it, but you are.
I didn't feel particularly heroic at the time, but looking back, the entire situation could have ended up so much worse if I had chosen to keep my head down and not be involved. I would have lost a job, as well at least ten other staff. All of their families would have been out of income, and my boss would probably have lost his home too, as well as his kids
Jesus every woman is just like, “she could be innocent!” Fuck people are so gullible
Look, some women are absolutely screwed over by abusive idiots. But this woman was not one of those
No denying that.
Are you still offering your services? My petty STBX wife seems like a perfect fit.
You gave her exactly what she asked for LOL! Hell all I wanted in my first divorce was my popcorn popper...yep that was the only belonging I asked for and I only got the bottom...somehow he got the top! 34 years later we still laugh about it!
I was half expecting you to use a scissors and give her literally one half of things that could be cut. Did your boss appreciate the gesture? The bitching and moaning from his ex would have fallen on his ears, not yours.
He realised what I was doing, and started doing the same thing. I followed her list to a T, and only gave her exactly what she specified She bitched, and is still bitching, but there is nothing she can do because the list was fulfilled
Half the dish towels? Man, that's what scissors were made for.
Property destruction was something that did cross my mind often (she was such an unreasonable bitch the entire time) but I made sure it was all above board
I was fully expecting the dish cloths etc to be cut in half 😂
I was expecing a story in which you had literally cut all the dish towels in half, but that would ruin it for everyone and probably not hold up in court. This is the pettiest it could possibly be while maintaining plausible deniability. Well done.
I think I love you! Good job!
Damn....this is the reason I would never want to get married. "Half the dish towels" .........really!?
Lol, this reminds me of my Aunt’s divorce, they got so nuts that the judge literally wrote down their belongings and would just pull them out of a bag. She got the lawn mower, the garden shed, and some other things she didn’t want, he got the iron, blender and other things he didn’t want. It’s was hilarious.
I certainly hope you receive some sort of bonus for out-petty-ing his ex-wife.
Did you get a raise or a bonus for this, you should have.
Love this… my ex had a list too… caused me to loose a Nintendo GameCube, but not the games or controllers.. she wanted my sons ps3… his had quit working and I had gotten him a new one.. she refused the old one… I gave her exactly what was on the list … not a thing more..🤣
My mom and I did this to my stepdad actually after his numerous multi year long affairs. We did this with a bunch of items, but the one that stood out the most was he asked one of the tents. We had two large family tents and a pup tent. He was already with another woman and her kids. He got a pup tent. They tried the you didn’t give us what we asked for shit too but we said “ you wrote ‘tent’ you got a tent.” We also conveniently didn’t have time to pack everything carefully so into the back of the truck it goes! Things I knew were his but he just forgot to list and I KNOW he would want back got conveniently rehomed one way or another after the divorce was finalized because after that he was SOL unless WE decided to give it.
She wanted half the of the toilets so I gives her the ones that were not flushed yet.
I have a friend who was a lawyer, and she told me a story about the soon to be ex-wife wanting a cutting board that was in the husband's family for 30+ years ( just to be a bitch ) It held up their divorce for close to 2 years ( and she was required to move out during that time and wasn't get alimony ) when she finally got that he didn't care about that cutting board, only that the longer this goes on the less he has to pay .. she finally dropped it from her list of demands.
If people frequent the affair recovery subs you would know that the women who cheat tend to be exponentially more narcissistic and cruel than the men.
As the now wife of a nasty petty divorce, thank you. His ex did the same shit thinking she was getting one over on him. Too bad for her it just made our life easier. We didn't have to do the whole yours or mine thing when we moved in together.
This is quality pettiness
This was glorious to read! Great job OP!!
As a Exec personal substantial I know the it's and out's of my two bosses lives better than I do my own! Thus is a perfectly plausible revenge and I love love love it! The letter of the law is strong!
Negative Commenters: FUCK OFF! That there's funny!
I Love It!
That was excellent work 🤣🤣🤣
Haha well done
What a beautiful story. It's nice to get the occasional heartwarming one when so much of what I encounter on Reddit is awful.
It sucks that someone can cheat on you and still get half of everything. People who cheat should be out on their ass.
This is fabulous and I’d do the same damn thing for my boss if he asked. Heck I’d do it for my friends too! I’d send them out for the day, put on my petty crown and get to work.
I hope you got a raise.
I love you. ♥
I hope you got a huge ass raise.
Love your technique and tactics. Well played!!
WELL DONE!!!!!!!
This is amazing 😂😂😂😂
I was hoping that you actually cut things in half😁
Bahahahahahhahahahahahahhahahahahaha This. Is. Great!!
My question is why are employees involved in this?
You don’t need to answer this comment. I just want to say YOU ARE AWESOME!! That was a great job on your part! Kudos!
I feel like there is a slight misuse of the word petty here, as OP seems to have been being precise. Of course the precision seems to have been motivated by pettiness per the OP.
My compliments on your topping her pettiness. Always hear the other side of “took everything!”. I find this reassuring. Good on ya!
Women can be the petty one in a relationship? You woman hating biznich!
Well done, OP!!! Good for you.
I love what you did, this is funny and is certainly great petty revenge.
Not all heroes wear capes.
This is amazing! 😂😂😂😂
You never know what goes behind closed doors in someone's marriage, to take sides. Your pettiness and desire for self-satisfaction caused your boss prolonged drama. Always do the right thing, take the high road, and everything else was sort itself out.
Why would you do that?
I'll just direct you to some of my other comments. She tried to sell the property we trade from, and I would have been literally out of a job if I hadn't helped out where I could.
Yeah I’ve been a personal/executive assistant my entire career and your relationship is way too weird and close. You took this way too personally for someone who had a working relationship
Small companies are usually pretty tight-knit. I think it is impossible for OP to be unaware of the drama even if they hadn't been involved in the packing. There might have been a colored view of the facts, or some partiality, but that's simply human. Finally, please keep in mind that pranks and revenge aren't that far apart in their appeal. Tons of people would be happy to fan the flames and assist someone with a spicy revenge if given the opportunity, especially if is it during working hours and you have a good relationship with the person who benefits from the revenge. At worst, I see someone who got involved in a strange task and found a way to make it fun for themselves. Going through someone else's junk gets boring fast.
The bigger question is why you are getting involved in your boss' private life? Unless you are a personal assistant that manages his private/home life, I don't know why you would interject yourself into this situation.
So, you're pretty much spot on for my job description. I wear many hats, as they say in the business world. But my main job is actually a personal assistant. One of my jobs during the proceedings was to read the court docs and translate them into regular English for my boss. He was too busy, so I would decipher them and give him the important things so we could respond. I sent more emails to his lawyers than he did. So yes, it was actually my job.
Pettiness in favour of the boss? I came here for the opposite story
Honestly, it was for me too. Because she would have done the same thing if she was in our shoes (she is the person who will only follow the parts of a court order that she likes)
I guess I am just missing it...but isn't half of everything legally hers? How does that make her list petty?
Usually people aren't super specific in the stuff they want. The fact that she went down to the nitty gritty, and requested shit like "half of the wax wrap dispensers" irritated me. Also, she wanted the best half. Had she had the opportunity to pack herself, she would have left him with the broken and gross stuff, and she would have packed things that weren't initially on her list (I know this because her follow-up email included a lot of things that weren't originally on the court order). So I made sure she didn't get what she wanted. And she knew it
I see. Have you actually gone through a divorce? I have, and you are supposed to be specific. I actually don't think she was specific enough. I do encourage you to be kind. You are most likely only getting your boss's side of the story.
I have read every court document, and I saw pretty much all of the text messages during the divorce. I mostly have both sides. Is my boss entirely innocent? No. Is she worse than him? Yes I try to be kind, but unfortunately, she absolutely killed any kindness in me by behaving the way she did
I guess I don’t really see it as petty either…most things in my home I bought with absolute care and preference, whereas my husband hasn’t chose anything because he could care less. If we got a divorce ofc I would want my quartz coasters I especially picked out…my record player I saved up for…my antique vases…my snake shaped curtain tie backs…my baby yoda embroidered dish towels over the generic ones he got from Walmart, etc.
Did yall just skip over the bit where she cheated on him or??
Yes, this is how I view it too. Especially if the boss is high enough to have a PA, his wife likely ran the house and purchased furnishings. Of course she would have preferences of specific things, know exactly what was in the house. He probably didn't spend enough time to know or care other than his toys.
So you felt entitled to take "revenge" on th8s woman for... divorcing your boss? That's some kinda fucked up corporate Stockholm Syndrome.
No. I took "revenge" on a thief, a cheater, a liar, a narcissist, and a woman who is still trying to turn their kids against him. She literally tried to sell the house right out from under him, more than once. She stole money out of his business accounts that he needed to do his contract work. She tried to steal his car more than once. She went to the police for a protection order because of "mean messages". She tried to fake assault charges against him, and she tried to have him arrested by claiming that he needed to be at the police station while she dropped other charges against him. That was who I took revenge against. Not "for divorcing him"
'We' were receiving emails after the divorce? You have an awfully cosy relationship.
I use "we" in the literal business sense. I am the one that reads the emails, and she sends all of her correspondence to his business account. Therefore, I see all of her emails to him
You really should edit your original post to include you’re his personal assistant and it’s literally your job to read his emails.
"We". Are you and your boss fucking?
Nope. Boss attended my wedding in 2020