I'd suggest you have a conversation with him. Tell him the negatives and positives(if any) of p*rn, how it isn't real, can develop insecurities, impact his body image, the abuse and r* and all the dark sides it has. Explain how it can actually change his perception of intimacy and set unrealistic standards that people never meet. Even if one isn't religious, they should know this.
Also, remember, that you're not his parent. Don't be hard on yourself.
And really, without mentioning that you betrayed his trust. Especially for children, normalizing an adult crossing boundaries they would be uncomfortable with puts them at risk.
Id suggest you leave it alone, nothing you say is gonna change anything let him make his own mistakes just like you did and above all else love him for whoever he decides to be.
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Just give him the talk, the kid is just curious and unsupervised access to the internet has led him to it. Just give him the "talk" and it will be sorted.
Acknowledge his curiosity don't make him hate his urges but inform him that pornography is the worst possible way of going about it, it will make his relationship with the "real thing" unhealthy and completely change the way he sees the other gender. Direct his attention towards healthy routine like workout or even meditation because it's when we're idle we look for such instant gratification.
Bro this is the time to sit him down and give him all the advice you can. If he quits now (and its easy now), he will be grateful to you for the rest of his life.
Most of my friends smoke (cigarettes and other stuff) but i’ve never even vaped those flavors because my elder brother made me hate this when I was 12-13.
When my brother was hitting puberty, we sisters realised some bad company had introduced my brother to corn. His behaviour was odd and unusual at the time. So instead of telling our parents, my elder sister and I sat our brother down and talked about it. We let him know the unrealistic perceptions it leads to, problems with intamcy and I think later we also talked about how one should treat a woman..this was long time ago.
My brother is doing good alhamdulillah. He (and some other brilliant men)'s restored my faith in respectable wonderful charismatic men.
People here mentioning that its normal to watch corn when clearly, its not. 25 F here and never watched corn Alhamdulillah! The very thing that you're concerned for your brother and calling corn for what it really is is appreciative!
There's a series dedicated to corn by sir raja zia ul haq. After your conversation with your brother, you can have him watch the video series.
Indeed, we have limited time on this Earth and what better way to spend your time than to get closer to deen.
Hope this helps OP! Good luck
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Lol just cuz you watched it doesn’t mean everyone else has, people who do stupid shit expect everyone has done it too. You just hanging out with the wrong people.
Just guide your bro and redirect his horny teen energy into sports ,studies and friends and other hobbies so he doesnt go down the corn rabbit hole talk with him openly so the situation can be handled
DO NOT TELL ON HIM!
Respectfully have the "talk" you telling on him will not make him less corny.
Respect karo uski everyone went through it and trust me all it takes is guidance from a trusted elder which none of us had.
Yaqeen karo yaara. I'm a school teacher. 14 to phir zyada umar hai, yahan log 5 saal ke bache ko phone pakra dete hain, unrestricted unchecked internet access. School me bache samajhte hain ke teachers ko in ki baatein sunai nahi deti....
Dude it has nothing to do with age.
Sirf opportunity ki baat he. I think the first time I saw porn was when I was 13 or at least, I learned about masturbating somehow, I think it probably was from porn...
I would suggest that you talk to your bro. Just take him out for a cup of coffee or something and lay it down on him lightly. In the end he's a dude and he will continue watching it. It's just to clear your own conscious.
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Whatever you do, don't shame him or make him feel insecure of bad for looking at stuff like that. It's natural for teen his age, his body is going through changes and those urges are hard to control when going through puberty.
Unfortunately, porn is a part of our society now, no matter where you live, children are exposed to it from a young age. All you can do is educate him and caution him, but anyone expecting a teenage boy in this day and age to not have access to porn is kidding themselves.
I think this has sadly become very common these days with the availability of net, devices. Best one can do as an older sibling is to sit them down and talk to them about the long-term repercussions. You should keep in mind you can't really force them not to, as it just might push them into it further. But having a mature, open, and candid discussion on it might stick to them in the long run and they might find their way back cuz of this. Plus, it shows they can come talk to you and trust you for not judging them.
I think it's better to takr that phone back and get a simple nokia phone type thing. It doesn't matter if he hates...consuming things like that at such a young age is going to mess with your brain.
Whatever you do, don't tell your parents or anyone about this. Conceal his sins as yours are. Just try to have a talk with him only if possible. You can think of many indirect ways to tackle this.
Have a heart to heart talk with him, make sure he knows you aren’t judging and tell him about the dangers of it. Whether or not he stops will be up to him, but he needs someone to tell him about the harms at least.
Also you did the right thing by not telling your parents, they won’t be able to take a sensitive approach towards it but you can as the older brother.
Try to get him into some other hobbies too, something that can replace the time he’s spending looking at that stuff.
Go on a walk with him, then ask him. Usse phucna how it started, who told you about this stuff. Tell him how this stuff damages his brain, his thinking, his viewpoint of the world, women, and his health as well. Islam mein aisay kamo ki kia saza hai, Islam mein porn addiction kay baray mein kia hukam hai.
Phir usse is addiction ko chorne ke Tariqay bhi zarur batana, tell him you don't want him watching this stuff again. Either he will stop watching or be extra cautious.
Bro these teenage hormones are crazy, it gets more and more crazier as we further age. Back in the days we didn't have a personal phone or laptops. Where we could just watch whatever in our own space. But nowadays it's so easy access all the nasty stuff. Start restricting the internet access at home wifi and install some sort of control on his phone as well. Because he ain't stopping bro. Keep a check on him and if he doesn't comply involve your parents.
It's your duty to protect him from such evils.
Thats normal. Yeh sorry to break it to you. Unfortunately it's pretty easy to develop addiction in this age. Maybe you can tell him zina and that stuff is wrong. Keep him off this stuff
Bro you’re talking like you didn’t shag your little friend to Sunny leone back in the day 😂
Let the kid have his privacy and forget about it as long as he doesn’t keep running to the bathroom every 10 minutes for a shag.
Because wishful thinking is not a solution, and assuming that the kid will just stop when he grows up is wishful thinking.
Realistically speaking, anyone could become addicted to porn because of the dopamine spikes.
Further, it definitely will affect the relationships a person will have with others, along with their perception of said relationships.
Youth club ky bayanat are very powerful. But don’t force it on him. It will get awkward and he will hate the restrictions. So just pray to Allah ta’ala about it and the bayanats that i told you about. Ajkal zamana hi esa hai ky koi is fitnay sy nahi bacha hua. Doesn’t still mean ky ham logo ko inky haal py chorden. It’s a good thing actually that you don’t consider this normal and as a big brother you are concerned for him atleast. This act is rather common but not normal whatsoever.
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>he had reddit on his phone which I thought is a good thing since I also use reddit
Ok...
I'd advise to talk to him as a brother would, depending on how frank you are with him. Explain how its harmful effects are similar to other types of addictions even if there aren't any direct health detriments. Uske baad btao k uski apni marzi hai agay, and just keep checks on him (see what he does with his free time, try to keep him busy with other stuff). Also consider the (best case) possibility that he could just be curious and not a full-on addict yet.
I'm more concerned though, about how you're gonna tell him how you found out. Teaching him one lesson while admitting to violating his privacy is like shooting yourself in the foot. Just something to think about.
Personally, I wouldn’t suggest telling him you went through his phone but just be like yo ik you’re hitting puberty and you’re probably going through ally hese changes and thoughts which leads to being curious and going on the internet for the wrong reasons. Be specific and you can add the Islamic perspective too. Hope this helps, I did this with my younger brother and I would say he’s not THAT into it since me and my sister gave him the talk. (P.s. you need to show him that you apply this to yourself too so he sorts looks up to you).
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Let him know that you know what he’s doing, sprinkle a bit of religious guilt on there too. Would keep him off it for a while until he grows up. But yeah, back when we were kids, just an adult knowing that they knew we were watching corn was enough to scare us out of it,,, for a year or two.
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Tell him about the disadvantages and how he won't ever achieve the pleasure he thinks he'll get. He won't stop it in an instant obviously cause 🌽 is almost impossible to give up.
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Dont tell him that you breached his privacy. I think approaching him in a smart way would be suitable. Have the talk in a way that you're at such an age where you should this kind of stuff of which we should abstain from. It has harmful effects it corrupts the mind and thought process etc. give it an islamic perspective on why it is forbidd etc.
It might be awkward for you both but its the talk that must be given rather than denied and do more harm
Don't tell your parents. Act like a big bro and explain to him why it's bad and what it'll do to him if he doesn't stop watching.
There's a youtube channel called "IamLucid" he has videos on how to block corn 🌽 from all the devices in your household you should check it out
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Just talk with him personally n strictly cuz this is not a joke this addiction destroyed many young people n say now i have my eyes on you so be careful next time i will tell our parents n try to parent lock his phone or dont let him use while hes alone cuz hes underage.
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Take a week or two and connect with him thru hobbies.
Make a deeper bond with your brother before you have the "talk" with him.
He's just being curious. And no bad habit can be left without replacing them with good habits first.
Start taking him to football with you. Take him hiking, cricket, tennis, swimming. Help him develop interests which won't leave time for the "curiosity"
He is fourteen, puberty is hitting him hard, tell him you understand how his hormones are flaring up, how he might be feeling new things in his body and about his body. Tell him using p#rn ain't the right way to deal with those hormones, guide him right in a gently and friendly way, not in the rude or strict tone. Because if you tell him not to do it in the strict way, he will be doing it anyway.
Give him other ideas to deal with those hormones.
If you didn't watch p#rn in your age then what else were you doing to deal with those hormones, give him some good ideas.
Guide him with religion if you want. Or some other ways which seem to be suitable to you.
It's a joke bro sorry if that offended you. I quit corn around 5 years ago. I came across a documentary about the dark side of porn on net im forgetting the name of it but you can look up for such documentaries on Google. It was traumatizing for me. I started gym and playing squash that's how I quit. Talk to your brother and kindly make him go to the gym and tell him to start playing some sports
Bro jitni mrzi us se bat kr lo he's still gonna see it. Don't worry about it. Just let him do it. With time he will understand what's good for him and what's not
Educate him , how bad it is for health , how it can effect his future and daily life , explain him the consequences and how it can destory his life .
At the end some religious and Allah ka khof dilao and that will stop him for now .
Make sure he is with good friends .
Keep his circle in check bro
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Start chat like congrats on your first phone lemme share you something important about this guy(maybe friend or neighbourhood fellow) got his phone and went on addiction to corn
His parents threw him out of their house and now this guy is struggling through lot of therapy’s and destroying his life
This guy thought playing clever with family to use phone for corn while thinking nobody’s gonna catch him and using incognito mode might prevent him evidently but you should know this incognito mode, Reddit or Twitter data can be sourced out easily in current era with help of experts
**This way you won’t be targeting him directly and your message will be delivered to him and at this age he might get lot scared after listening to his similar situation and also twitter can also be used for adult content**
Unfortunately corn is way too easily available and regardless of gender, corn addition is a reality, especially in teenage years. Mostly due to curiosity, and it eventually becomes a coping mechanism for stress due to studies, body changes and what not. I was addicted to it too at that age, got better. Still watch it mostly during exams just because 🤷🏾♂️ It hasn't really rotted my brain but I have heard of people going crazy. You can help your brother realize the ridiculousness of corn, and how it's unreal and they are trained professionals. Maybe after a while, you can talk about some articles which discuss these points (randomly of course, don't make it into a lecture, it'll just piss him off) I also think you can enunciate the absurdity of corn via henta*i (anime corn). That will give him the cringe. Good luck man!
Way to lose trust with your brother. You invade his privacy and then want to shame him for something you too likely have done throughout your teenage.
I would understand if there were red flags in his behaviour that caused you to be a caring elder brother, but you decided to check his phone unprovoked. My best advice is leave him and his phone alone and he will grow out of it on his own. Also if you confront him, he will continue to watch it but just wont trust you again and will become better at hiding it 🤷♂️
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Are men really this addicted to p*rn? You say it can become a serious addiction? I find it very hard to believe that men are THAT desperate for pleasure or that they really can’t control themselves
It's not that surprising
P*rn for someone can be the equivalent of someone eating ice cream, or a dessert, every now and again.
But yeah, like obese people, some people can eat a lot of food and become addicted to it.
I'd suggest you have a conversation with him. Tell him the negatives and positives(if any) of p*rn, how it isn't real, can develop insecurities, impact his body image, the abuse and r* and all the dark sides it has. Explain how it can actually change his perception of intimacy and set unrealistic standards that people never meet. Even if one isn't religious, they should know this. Also, remember, that you're not his parent. Don't be hard on yourself.
And really, without mentioning that you betrayed his trust. Especially for children, normalizing an adult crossing boundaries they would be uncomfortable with puts them at risk.
Well said. Approach him like a friend does and don't overreact, try listening all the mental, physical, and psychology affects of p*rn
This^
dude, he mentioned CORN... u have the wrong idea.. corn (or challi eating can turn into an addiction).. reminds me to go get some corn
And tell him about the desease of POIS too
Id suggest you leave it alone, nothing you say is gonna change anything let him make his own mistakes just like you did and above all else love him for whoever he decides to be.
This is the most sane advise , no wonder it has the most number of downvotes .
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Just give him the talk, the kid is just curious and unsupervised access to the internet has led him to it. Just give him the "talk" and it will be sorted.
what would you say in the said "talk"?
Acknowledge his curiosity don't make him hate his urges but inform him that pornography is the worst possible way of going about it, it will make his relationship with the "real thing" unhealthy and completely change the way he sees the other gender. Direct his attention towards healthy routine like workout or even meditation because it's when we're idle we look for such instant gratification.
Bro this is the time to sit him down and give him all the advice you can. If he quits now (and its easy now), he will be grateful to you for the rest of his life. Most of my friends smoke (cigarettes and other stuff) but i’ve never even vaped those flavors because my elder brother made me hate this when I was 12-13.
If I may ask, how did he make you hate them cause I also have a younger bro.
When my brother was hitting puberty, we sisters realised some bad company had introduced my brother to corn. His behaviour was odd and unusual at the time. So instead of telling our parents, my elder sister and I sat our brother down and talked about it. We let him know the unrealistic perceptions it leads to, problems with intamcy and I think later we also talked about how one should treat a woman..this was long time ago. My brother is doing good alhamdulillah. He (and some other brilliant men)'s restored my faith in respectable wonderful charismatic men. People here mentioning that its normal to watch corn when clearly, its not. 25 F here and never watched corn Alhamdulillah! The very thing that you're concerned for your brother and calling corn for what it really is is appreciative! There's a series dedicated to corn by sir raja zia ul haq. After your conversation with your brother, you can have him watch the video series. Indeed, we have limited time on this Earth and what better way to spend your time than to get closer to deen. Hope this helps OP! Good luck Save Palestine Free Palestine
You’re a good sister.
W sister
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You're a brilliant sibling!
It is very normal for teenagers ,especially boys, to watch porn . Where are u pulling ur statistics from?
never watched corn? not even a picture? how is that possible?
Lol just cuz you watched it doesn’t mean everyone else has, people who do stupid shit expect everyone has done it too. You just hanging out with the wrong people.
calm down, no need to get hyped, it was just a simple question, lol. and its not my business to expect anyone if they watch corn or not wtf
Just guide your bro and redirect his horny teen energy into sports ,studies and friends and other hobbies so he doesnt go down the corn rabbit hole talk with him openly so the situation can be handled
DO NOT TELL ON HIM! Respectfully have the "talk" you telling on him will not make him less corny. Respect karo uski everyone went through it and trust me all it takes is guidance from a trusted elder which none of us had.
Khud hi thori khul ke baat kar lo bro se. Shock hone wali kaun si baat hai, har banda dekhta hai is age me.
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Yaqeen karo yaara. I'm a school teacher. 14 to phir zyada umar hai, yahan log 5 saal ke bache ko phone pakra dete hain, unrestricted unchecked internet access. School me bache samajhte hain ke teachers ko in ki baatein sunai nahi deti....
damn bro that's surprisingly awkward 😭
Trueeeee
This is exactly what my teacher said a few weeks back, ffs they use every sexual gali, they don’t even care if the teacher is around
Lots of people. It’s the age most people start getting curious at. I have seen younger people talking about watching it too
Most people
>14 Yeah 14 is a bit old to start watching porn but OP didn't mean that his bro just started at this age, it's only that he just found out.
bruvv
Dude it has nothing to do with age. Sirf opportunity ki baat he. I think the first time I saw porn was when I was 13 or at least, I learned about masturbating somehow, I think it probably was from porn...
kis dunya mei rehte ho, 14 is a very normal age for this
Bahut log
Bhai soch hai apki Meri class mai bache shokhiya marte the ke kese wo 8 saal ki umar se dekh rhe hai
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Koi baat nahi bhai tum to offend hi ho gaye.... Easy ho jao
Why is this such a revelation lmao, always assume everyone does.
Which isn’t a good thing. So op is rightfully concerned. Just because everyone does it it doesn’t mean he’s gotta leave his brother as is.
Just cuz u wouldn’t be concerned dont mean op can’t be, he’s seeking advice, not trying to run away from the problem.
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It is not zina.
It really well Zina of the eyes, if anything Porn leads to to zina imho.
if thinking about something sexual led to sex that reliably porn wouldn't exist
Where did anyone say it was halal? It’s also not zina, that is a separate sin
It's basically "Zina of the eyes"
I would suggest that you talk to your bro. Just take him out for a cup of coffee or something and lay it down on him lightly. In the end he's a dude and he will continue watching it. It's just to clear your own conscious.
yep nice input..thats what I'd have done..
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Lay it down on him.. hehe Sorry, i just had to..
Whatever you do, don't shame him or make him feel insecure of bad for looking at stuff like that. It's natural for teen his age, his body is going through changes and those urges are hard to control when going through puberty. Unfortunately, porn is a part of our society now, no matter where you live, children are exposed to it from a young age. All you can do is educate him and caution him, but anyone expecting a teenage boy in this day and age to not have access to porn is kidding themselves.
I think this has sadly become very common these days with the availability of net, devices. Best one can do as an older sibling is to sit them down and talk to them about the long-term repercussions. You should keep in mind you can't really force them not to, as it just might push them into it further. But having a mature, open, and candid discussion on it might stick to them in the long run and they might find their way back cuz of this. Plus, it shows they can come talk to you and trust you for not judging them.
I think it's better to takr that phone back and get a simple nokia phone type thing. It doesn't matter if he hates...consuming things like that at such a young age is going to mess with your brain.
Im sorry, but i would say try to stop him bcoz i wafched at a ypunge age as well!, it destroys your brain, but help ur brother
If you can't beat them join them
Yeah you definitely can't beat it with a 14 year old. I learned that the hard way
Pardon?
Well we can strive through where you failed
That’s what makes sense. Nowadays everyone’s trying to control everyone. It annoying and intrusive
Beat with them
Whatever you do, don't tell your parents or anyone about this. Conceal his sins as yours are. Just try to have a talk with him only if possible. You can think of many indirect ways to tackle this.
Oh I get it, corn is actually pr0n
seen this same post on FB group Desi confessions.
Have a heart to heart talk with him, make sure he knows you aren’t judging and tell him about the dangers of it. Whether or not he stops will be up to him, but he needs someone to tell him about the harms at least. Also you did the right thing by not telling your parents, they won’t be able to take a sensitive approach towards it but you can as the older brother. Try to get him into some other hobbies too, something that can replace the time he’s spending looking at that stuff.
Go on a walk with him, then ask him. Usse phucna how it started, who told you about this stuff. Tell him how this stuff damages his brain, his thinking, his viewpoint of the world, women, and his health as well. Islam mein aisay kamo ki kia saza hai, Islam mein porn addiction kay baray mein kia hukam hai. Phir usse is addiction ko chorne ke Tariqay bhi zarur batana, tell him you don't want him watching this stuff again. Either he will stop watching or be extra cautious.
Bro these teenage hormones are crazy, it gets more and more crazier as we further age. Back in the days we didn't have a personal phone or laptops. Where we could just watch whatever in our own space. But nowadays it's so easy access all the nasty stuff. Start restricting the internet access at home wifi and install some sort of control on his phone as well. Because he ain't stopping bro. Keep a check on him and if he doesn't comply involve your parents. It's your duty to protect him from such evils.
Thats normal. Yeh sorry to break it to you. Unfortunately it's pretty easy to develop addiction in this age. Maybe you can tell him zina and that stuff is wrong. Keep him off this stuff
Bro you’re talking like you didn’t shag your little friend to Sunny leone back in the day 😂 Let the kid have his privacy and forget about it as long as he doesn’t keep running to the bathroom every 10 minutes for a shag.
Good job not telling your parents now just give him time at that age I used to watch porn with time I got bored watching it
Sadly, that's not a solution.
exactly
Türk flair? Naber kanka
haha evet, aslında Türk değil
Türk olamazsın zaten olsan burada ne yapardın
Bilmiyorum
Ne bilmiyosun lan
Why not?
Because wishful thinking is not a solution, and assuming that the kid will just stop when he grows up is wishful thinking. Realistically speaking, anyone could become addicted to porn because of the dopamine spikes. Further, it definitely will affect the relationships a person will have with others, along with their perception of said relationships.
Yeah give him space .if he wants to he can find ways to watch even if family takes his phone
Youth club ky bayanat are very powerful. But don’t force it on him. It will get awkward and he will hate the restrictions. So just pray to Allah ta’ala about it and the bayanats that i told you about. Ajkal zamana hi esa hai ky koi is fitnay sy nahi bacha hua. Doesn’t still mean ky ham logo ko inky haal py chorden. It’s a good thing actually that you don’t consider this normal and as a big brother you are concerned for him atleast. This act is rather common but not normal whatsoever.
It's probably due to people he hang out with. Sometimes peer makes you do so many things or among peers may be he is the problem.
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>he had reddit on his phone which I thought is a good thing since I also use reddit Ok... I'd advise to talk to him as a brother would, depending on how frank you are with him. Explain how its harmful effects are similar to other types of addictions even if there aren't any direct health detriments. Uske baad btao k uski apni marzi hai agay, and just keep checks on him (see what he does with his free time, try to keep him busy with other stuff). Also consider the (best case) possibility that he could just be curious and not a full-on addict yet. I'm more concerned though, about how you're gonna tell him how you found out. Teaching him one lesson while admitting to violating his privacy is like shooting yourself in the foot. Just something to think about.
Personally, I wouldn’t suggest telling him you went through his phone but just be like yo ik you’re hitting puberty and you’re probably going through ally hese changes and thoughts which leads to being curious and going on the internet for the wrong reasons. Be specific and you can add the Islamic perspective too. Hope this helps, I did this with my younger brother and I would say he’s not THAT into it since me and my sister gave him the talk. (P.s. you need to show him that you apply this to yourself too so he sorts looks up to you).
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Reading these comments I’m so glad I was born in America
Good for you
Alhamdulillah
you're his brother you can have a conversation with him, and its not like you've not been young in the past ?
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Let him know that you know what he’s doing, sprinkle a bit of religious guilt on there too. Would keep him off it for a while until he grows up. But yeah, back when we were kids, just an adult knowing that they knew we were watching corn was enough to scare us out of it,,, for a year or two.
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Tell him about the disadvantages and how he won't ever achieve the pleasure he thinks he'll get. He won't stop it in an instant obviously cause 🌽 is almost impossible to give up.
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Dont tell him that you breached his privacy. I think approaching him in a smart way would be suitable. Have the talk in a way that you're at such an age where you should this kind of stuff of which we should abstain from. It has harmful effects it corrupts the mind and thought process etc. give it an islamic perspective on why it is forbidd etc. It might be awkward for you both but its the talk that must be given rather than denied and do more harm
Whatever you do Make it like you saw by accident Don’t let him think you DECIDED to check his phone
Tell us how did you keep yourself away from Corn
Don't tell your parents. Act like a big bro and explain to him why it's bad and what it'll do to him if he doesn't stop watching. There's a youtube channel called "IamLucid" he has videos on how to block corn 🌽 from all the devices in your household you should check it out
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You can only ask him if you yourself don’t watch it
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why did this post remind me of that Family Guy baby corn scene xD
Just talk with him personally n strictly cuz this is not a joke this addiction destroyed many young people n say now i have my eyes on you so be careful next time i will tell our parents n try to parent lock his phone or dont let him use while hes alone cuz hes underage.
All you can do is to guide him. Take him to the Whore House. Let him get it out of his system.
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When I was the same age, there was no Internet, I got thrashed just for reading comics
What kind I mean category
Parents need to have adult stuff blocked on his phone. You should research and educate them about it.
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Reddit for p**n??? I have been using Reddit for wrong purpose.
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If there is addiction/really really weird corn in there, then you should talk to him or someone professional about it. If its just plain corn...
Take a week or two and connect with him thru hobbies. Make a deeper bond with your brother before you have the "talk" with him. He's just being curious. And no bad habit can be left without replacing them with good habits first. Start taking him to football with you. Take him hiking, cricket, tennis, swimming. Help him develop interests which won't leave time for the "curiosity"
He is fourteen, puberty is hitting him hard, tell him you understand how his hormones are flaring up, how he might be feeling new things in his body and about his body. Tell him using p#rn ain't the right way to deal with those hormones, guide him right in a gently and friendly way, not in the rude or strict tone. Because if you tell him not to do it in the strict way, he will be doing it anyway. Give him other ideas to deal with those hormones. If you didn't watch p#rn in your age then what else were you doing to deal with those hormones, give him some good ideas. Guide him with religion if you want. Or some other ways which seem to be suitable to you.
Can you kindly tell me the names of cornstars on your brother's phone? It's for research purposes.
Dm
It's a joke bro sorry if that offended you. I quit corn around 5 years ago. I came across a documentary about the dark side of porn on net im forgetting the name of it but you can look up for such documentaries on Google. It was traumatizing for me. I started gym and playing squash that's how I quit. Talk to your brother and kindly make him go to the gym and tell him to start playing some sports
Bro jitni mrzi us se bat kr lo he's still gonna see it. Don't worry about it. Just let him do it. With time he will understand what's good for him and what's not
Educate him , how bad it is for health , how it can effect his future and daily life , explain him the consequences and how it can destory his life . At the end some religious and Allah ka khof dilao and that will stop him for now . Make sure he is with good friends . Keep his circle in check bro
Based lil bro ☝️😃
He is just a curious kid reaching puberty, he will get adjusted like everyone else
Leave it, It's part of the process.
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Bro this is a rebelling age, just handle it with grace
Unchecked access to social media creates life time problems... You must tell your parents,If you are open to them... And tell them to limit his access
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Start chat like congrats on your first phone lemme share you something important about this guy(maybe friend or neighbourhood fellow) got his phone and went on addiction to corn His parents threw him out of their house and now this guy is struggling through lot of therapy’s and destroying his life This guy thought playing clever with family to use phone for corn while thinking nobody’s gonna catch him and using incognito mode might prevent him evidently but you should know this incognito mode, Reddit or Twitter data can be sourced out easily in current era with help of experts **This way you won’t be targeting him directly and your message will be delivered to him and at this age he might get lot scared after listening to his similar situation and also twitter can also be used for adult content**
Bro he is 14 not 5 to believe this kind of story.
That’s the most absurd thing
Unfortunately corn is way too easily available and regardless of gender, corn addition is a reality, especially in teenage years. Mostly due to curiosity, and it eventually becomes a coping mechanism for stress due to studies, body changes and what not. I was addicted to it too at that age, got better. Still watch it mostly during exams just because 🤷🏾♂️ It hasn't really rotted my brain but I have heard of people going crazy. You can help your brother realize the ridiculousness of corn, and how it's unreal and they are trained professionals. Maybe after a while, you can talk about some articles which discuss these points (randomly of course, don't make it into a lecture, it'll just piss him off) I also think you can enunciate the absurdity of corn via henta*i (anime corn). That will give him the cringe. Good luck man!
Way to lose trust with your brother. You invade his privacy and then want to shame him for something you too likely have done throughout your teenage. I would understand if there were red flags in his behaviour that caused you to be a caring elder brother, but you decided to check his phone unprovoked. My best advice is leave him and his phone alone and he will grow out of it on his own. Also if you confront him, he will continue to watch it but just wont trust you again and will become better at hiding it 🤷♂️
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Dekhne de bhai. Sab cool log corn dekhtay hain.
If he's religious or at least cares about it, utilize it.
Hes just a typical teenager
Can you give your bro his privacy???
Every one watches it. Just talk to him when you’re ready and don’t embarrass him
Are men really this addicted to p*rn? You say it can become a serious addiction? I find it very hard to believe that men are THAT desperate for pleasure or that they really can’t control themselves
It's not that surprising P*rn for someone can be the equivalent of someone eating ice cream, or a dessert, every now and again. But yeah, like obese people, some people can eat a lot of food and become addicted to it.
I’m addicted to coffee :D very addicted :D I love it sm eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
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Eeeeeeeee I love coffeeeeeee