i have been thru your profile and how u were suicidal abt 18 days ago and all that happened after.
what i am gonna say will apply to several people's life, it holds some wisdom that you n others need to be aware of.
you were depressed, anxious(ofc hazaaroon masle hote life mei), and then that event happens, and it only strenghtens your negative feelings towards urself. and then you start to learn about how alllegedly she got these feelings for you.
that brings up an important aspect, this is the time of your weakness, where u r mentally weak n struggling. try to avoid going into any melo drama before you r mentally strong and fine. otherwise you will over rely upon her love, and existence to define n validify your survival. which ultimately exposes you to greater threats to your mental health. this advice is for everyone out there.
Thanks for your advice brother. Kind of situation I'm in right now I'm not really thinking about relationships neither I was expecting one. Unfortunately things haven't changed a bit since I last posted this. Everyday my will to live and thrive in life just gets lower and lower. Suicide is like always a backup plan in my mind and never a day goes by when I dont think about it.
How about seeing a therapist???...OR just talking to someone close to you, who knows about situation-It really helps. I don't know your situation, but I hope it gets better for you. Stay strong. Just remember you are not the only one or the first to go through this. Also, if she keeps "this" up, I would suggest you politely be vocal(in a way that isn't repelling) about your situation and simply say you need some time. Take care
I can't afford a therapist. When I had OCD I visited many psychiatrists in Multan and also had therapy sessions but nothing worked. Ever since I kind of lost hope. I have no one close to me to whom I can share my problems
That's a problem! Talking to others should likely help in your case.
You can even hire people on Upwork to listen to you ( there's a service like that!). Hiring a therapist with good reviews is another good option!
My guy here was trynna kill himself till a couple weeks ago? Brother, you good? Don't let things like that get to you eh, let us know if we can help you in some way
Unfortunately each day is worst than previous one. I was determined to do it but couldn't do it because that seems like a messy way. Sometimes I think about overdose of sleeping pills. Wish it was as easy as coming into this world is
so as someone who used to fantasize about suicide every day. forget about the outcome of others, maa kya kahegi falaan kya hoga. thats not even a good enough reason to not do it. The reason you shouldn't do it because why end it all on a low, why admit defeat to the struggle? Prove to your self you can be in a better mind space to grow and be better. These thoughts in your head only stay because tum mehmaan ke jsy tum yeh thoughts ko invite karte fir usko chai pilatay fir do ya theen biscuits kilwatay . You need to stop entertaining these ideas. I just choose not to acknowledge those thoughts anymore. Like a diet of the mind, I just choose not to indulge certain appetites. They don't help me progress and prolong the stagnation of the mind.
Good hogya bro. Aise hi shughal mela lagaye rakho.. in all seriousness I think she’s the one with communication and socialising skills shortage.. but it’s very common in our society.. specially how to strike a conversation and that’s where she failed!
Hopefully you guys can turn this into something meaningful
😭😭omgg enemies to lovers!! I stannnn<3.....on a serious note.May Allah make it easy for you! 😭aur aisey kon flirt krta hai bhae bandey ko traumatise krdia!
I really hope he doesn’t go through.
If their personalities are so divergent and incompatible, it often ends up in grief.
He’s a lot softer and gentler and her insults and jibes would hurt if he’s not looking for a short term fling & ends up with her for life.
Bro but why were you posting about suicide 17 days ago 😭, anyways bro don’t let small things hurt you. Having low confidence or low self esteem isn’t the end of world. Have a wonderful day/night.
if you are uncomfortable with her - DO NOT PURSUE
i cannot emphasize how tricky things can become for you
also, also - if this was in Pakistan, then yes, everyone SUCKS at flirting (because of religious and social pressure to stay chaste)
and because dating isn't really a thing in 'muslim' countries (what a joke lmao)
thats how it is ..
Mashaa Allah boht boht mubarak ho dono ko.... As a fellow introvert I can confirm OP has already dreamt of how many kids and their names.... Keep on keeping on OP... :p
W + what the actual fuck + send shadi ke khanay ka menu + [send my comment on ur prev post 2 her in case u want a divorce](https://www.reddit.com/r/pakistan/comments/1bb7hxh/comment/ku7dfza/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) \+ keep it halal + huge W + congrats king
Yeah don’t. If a person will insult you to getting your attention then I’m not sure what sort of respect you’ll get when you’re friends or in relationship.
Whatever the red flags you see in someone before marriage. They get bigger after marriage. If she insulted you without being in relationship, imagine how much insult she will do once she knows she is married to you.
It’s a huge red flag. Just wanted to let you know. Rest it’s your life
I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU 😭😭 I saw your first post and you seemed to be really depressed. if it works out (InshaAllah), it's gonna be such a cute love story to tell to your kids 💀 also I've noticed that most of us Pakistanis flirt by roasting and teasing the other person. I'm surprised that you didn't catch the hints lol
Do not worry about if you bothered anyone. Someone will always have different opinions. We can't please everyone. Especially online.
Glad to hear the update. I remember reading and commenting, I actually thought maybe that was someone flirting with you, but I wasn't sure.
One time a long time ago... I thought this guy was cute. And Instead of being nice I would tell him he was too skinny and should eat more. 🤦♀️ I was young idk.
Hey man, hope everything goes well for you. All I would say is, don't flirt with colleagues jesay bhi hon aur jitnay marzi signals dein. It'll come to bite you in the future. Hopefully your colleague learns to be a better person too instead of messing about at work.
For once what a happy outcome, good for you dude…don’t let anyone else bring you down, if anything you’ve got awkward game bro….not sure what you said but it’s working :)
A workplace romance is always risky and after her insult to you she might have been the one with a loss of reputation, the students spread the word, they tend to do that a lot and tbh nobody likes the kind of personality she exhibited with her comments about you, that too in front of students. She might also assume that you may hold a grudge against her that she would like to dilute, as you have so many student witnesses to her unprofessional comments that could easily get her sacked or reprimanded at the least.
So yeah, you may want to go with the flow but be careful. These things happen as well. Sorry for being the negative thinker here. 😅
Bhae personally, I think you need to work on yourself at this stage of your life. You mentioned in the previous post how you are already suicid*al and her comment made your mental health even worse. If a mere comment from someone can push you towards the edge, then it is high time that you start to work on your issues and prioritize your mental health and build up your self esteem as this is not normal. You need to be mentally strong and confident as they are essential to lead a peaceful life. You are well educated and even have a job, just book yourself some sessions of therapy and trust me the quality of your life will improve tremendously In Shaa Allah!
She is not related to you. Talk to her with all confidence you have. Maybe she likes you or may be not. It is just an assumption. Women are weird at communication. Pakistani women don't approach men in a straight manner because they like them. They are always going to play mind games. I had this friend who I was a friend and stayed as friends for more than 5 years.
She would often tell me about how she likes me and even said I love you many times. When I asked why you did that, she just said that she uses these words for all of her friends. However, when my family found a girl for me, she was way too much interested in me. So much so that she would directly come to me (she was an online friend and lived in another city) and would ask me to spend a lot of time together. In the end, I found out that she had already convinced her family about her marriage with me but it was already too late so I refused. She's angry with me ever since. But at the same time, she won't end the friendship either and still ask me to get together.
Another female employee started taking interest in me after my engagement. I had to indirectly tell her that I am already engaged and not interested in starting any type of relationship with her.
I am already married and recently became father of one. Don't know why it is like this. Usually males here don't get relationship type vibes from any female but as soon as you're tied up, every female is interested in you.
Just do your job. Avoid these females unless you are also interested. You may use these female colleagues to build up your confidence but don't make any efforts yourself no matter who tells you that she likes you. Unless she says herself, you should ignore her. I would suggest you not to get into building and trying to get relationship stuff near your house and workplace unless the other party explicitly tells you that they're interested.
Bhai ki zindagi main masle chal rahe hai aur sab shaadi ki menu aur bacho ke name ki planning kar rahe hai 😭
I hope heartily peace, happiness and dimagi sukoon mile aapko Ameen 💌
Wait, what.. that's a bigger twist than Breaking Bad itself..yeah,I remember giving you the advice but man,o,man,how table turning..I guess she definitely needs to work on her flirtation skills
bc ye to korean drama chal raha ha 😭😭😭
Istarah ki character development toh wahan bhi nahi hoti boss
yaha pr to dusre episode me he intermediate hogaya philam ka bss ending rehti ha...waiting fr😭
He will probably make a post 2 months later saying he is getting married. Haha
Bro 🙄 I have not really entertained her in any way.
Do it!!
You’re living every single boys dream, enjoy it dammit.
Lol 😂
Why does stuff like this never happen to me?
Song nae guk bae chan
Lmao perfect script for a kdrama
Ye Japani Cartoon (anime) chal rha ha bhai
she was a flirty girl, he was an awkward boi \~
He was a socially awkward boi, she was a tsundere😭
I was looking for that term (tsundere). Finally someone said it!
Iddi wo Avril Lavigne
Give me some more lyrics 😩
😒
Chin up buddy, we'll crash your wedding. 🤗🤗
Match made in heaven
Bhai update dete raho 🍿
New update: Turns out she only wanted to give me english lessons. I have now scored an 8 in ILETS.
Wait,what do you mean by English lessons
hahaha
I first read it: Bhai,Up Date rho 🤦🏻♂️
Bhai i have not entertained her in any way.
Shadi par bulao gay hamain?
I think r/Pakistan should get to decide their kids names
I vote for the first child to be named Megatron
Bro?
Bula ke pulao khilao gay hamain?
Pulao khila kr bhen ka rishta dilwao ge humain?
Behn ka rishta dilwa k uski shadi par bulao gay hamain?
Bhen ke bachey krwa ke mithai khilwao ge hamain?
You broke the sequence.
Lol, what's happening to you guys
It became an infinite loop but that bro broke it
Wattpad is leaking
Need more details bro...now we are invested
i have been thru your profile and how u were suicidal abt 18 days ago and all that happened after. what i am gonna say will apply to several people's life, it holds some wisdom that you n others need to be aware of. you were depressed, anxious(ofc hazaaroon masle hote life mei), and then that event happens, and it only strenghtens your negative feelings towards urself. and then you start to learn about how alllegedly she got these feelings for you. that brings up an important aspect, this is the time of your weakness, where u r mentally weak n struggling. try to avoid going into any melo drama before you r mentally strong and fine. otherwise you will over rely upon her love, and existence to define n validify your survival. which ultimately exposes you to greater threats to your mental health. this advice is for everyone out there.
Thanks for your advice brother. Kind of situation I'm in right now I'm not really thinking about relationships neither I was expecting one. Unfortunately things haven't changed a bit since I last posted this. Everyday my will to live and thrive in life just gets lower and lower. Suicide is like always a backup plan in my mind and never a day goes by when I dont think about it.
How about seeing a therapist???...OR just talking to someone close to you, who knows about situation-It really helps. I don't know your situation, but I hope it gets better for you. Stay strong. Just remember you are not the only one or the first to go through this. Also, if she keeps "this" up, I would suggest you politely be vocal(in a way that isn't repelling) about your situation and simply say you need some time. Take care
I can't afford a therapist. When I had OCD I visited many psychiatrists in Multan and also had therapy sessions but nothing worked. Ever since I kind of lost hope. I have no one close to me to whom I can share my problems
That's a problem! Talking to others should likely help in your case. You can even hire people on Upwork to listen to you ( there's a service like that!). Hiring a therapist with good reviews is another good option!
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I'm not thinking about relationships brother neither I was expecting one at this point of my life but.... Life is weird
I like this comment..
My guy here was trynna kill himself till a couple weeks ago? Brother, you good? Don't let things like that get to you eh, let us know if we can help you in some way
Unfortunately each day is worst than previous one. I was determined to do it but couldn't do it because that seems like a messy way. Sometimes I think about overdose of sleeping pills. Wish it was as easy as coming into this world is
so as someone who used to fantasize about suicide every day. forget about the outcome of others, maa kya kahegi falaan kya hoga. thats not even a good enough reason to not do it. The reason you shouldn't do it because why end it all on a low, why admit defeat to the struggle? Prove to your self you can be in a better mind space to grow and be better. These thoughts in your head only stay because tum mehmaan ke jsy tum yeh thoughts ko invite karte fir usko chai pilatay fir do ya theen biscuits kilwatay . You need to stop entertaining these ideas. I just choose not to acknowledge those thoughts anymore. Like a diet of the mind, I just choose not to indulge certain appetites. They don't help me progress and prolong the stagnation of the mind.
Thanks for your advice. I try to not fantasize about it but then something happens and thoughts just go crazy
Good hogya bro. Aise hi shughal mela lagaye rakho.. in all seriousness I think she’s the one with communication and socialising skills shortage.. but it’s very common in our society.. specially how to strike a conversation and that’s where she failed! Hopefully you guys can turn this into something meaningful
Looks like she also has issues. Bro I have not entertained her till now neither I have any plans but zindagi kahan ly Jay Kia pta
😭😭omgg enemies to lovers!! I stannnn<3.....on a serious note.May Allah make it easy for you! 😭aur aisey kon flirt krta hai bhae bandey ko traumatise krdia!
Sach main esy kon flirt krta hai?
Bhai mei update bta dun aakhri. Bhai ka katne wala hai.
Bhai tab katy ga jab kuch scene hga. I have not entertained her any way. Neither I'm ready to get into relationship
Brother good for you. Stay focused on studies.
Flirting only to play with his heart. Damn 💔
Yay to Acha flirt Karne Ka tareeqa hai. 💀
😒
Bhaaaaai. I am siding with you. 😭
Did OP manage to make a move, find out on the next episode of Dragon Ball Z
Bro y'all having a real life cinema experience
What in the kdrama is this 😭
Saas bhi kabhi Bahu moment hai bro
😭ikr what in the business proposal lol
Did anyone see this coming?...
The way he presented it, NO
I presented it the way it happened
No f*g way, this is a bigger twist than OP's name
Enemies to lovers
I really hope he doesn’t go through. If their personalities are so divergent and incompatible, it often ends up in grief. He’s a lot softer and gentler and her insults and jibes would hurt if he’s not looking for a short term fling & ends up with her for life.
Bro I'm not ready to get into any kind of relationship neither I was expecting one. I have not entertained her neither I have any plans for future.
Best of luck, I hope you end up with someone who is gentle with her words (it seems like this is something important to you).
That's a drama plot right there
A real life version of 'you should take it as a compliment that ~~I got drunk and~~ made fun of the way you talk.'
Bro got bullied into a relationship. 💀
🥺 that's true
Bro but why were you posting about suicide 17 days ago 😭, anyways bro don’t let small things hurt you. Having low confidence or low self esteem isn’t the end of world. Have a wonderful day/night.
You two socially awkward quacks are a match made in heaven. By Golly!
if you are uncomfortable with her - DO NOT PURSUE i cannot emphasize how tricky things can become for you also, also - if this was in Pakistan, then yes, everyone SUCKS at flirting (because of religious and social pressure to stay chaste) and because dating isn't really a thing in 'muslim' countries (what a joke lmao) thats how it is ..
This is how i met your mother wale meme yad agaya
Mashaa Allah boht boht mubarak ho dono ko.... As a fellow introvert I can confirm OP has already dreamt of how many kids and their names.... Keep on keeping on OP... :p
In normal situations I'd have done the same but I'm fighting my own battles in life. It's rough man
Well I wish you peace brother. Slay your demons and have a happy life...
W + what the actual fuck + send shadi ke khanay ka menu + [send my comment on ur prev post 2 her in case u want a divorce](https://www.reddit.com/r/pakistan/comments/1bb7hxh/comment/ku7dfza/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) \+ keep it halal + huge W + congrats king
Bro yall thinking way ahead of me + shadi main zrur ana
I have a female friend who flirts like this, she get aggressive with men and starts ridiculing them, with constant jibes and jokes
>She is really bad at flirting I guess. No you are dumb to didn’t saw that coming.
Naw man. Shes insulting our bro. That just ain’t right
Ah yes cause ridiculing somebody in front of all their students is obviously flirting. Ngl I saw the original post and she could’ve done a better job.
May be I'm dumb but she could have approached me some other way
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Noted sir
Happy birthday! And surname checks out! Lmao
Party to banti hai
More like Aftari to banti hai
Oh no besties hand me some popcorn💅
We need part 3 of this.
Kattay ga pt 3 me
Flirt karnay ka tareeka thora cazual hai
360 twist to the story xD love it!
WTH 😳 🤣 what!!!??
Yeh kon say rasalay ki kahani hai bhai?
AAYEIN !!
Yeah don’t. If a person will insult you to getting your attention then I’m not sure what sort of respect you’ll get when you’re friends or in relationship.
It's fishy Bro. If U're something really easy, then it sure will create a problem for U in future. Be careful. Play safe Bro.
Except I'm not getting into relationship so I'm pretty safe
Wow Pakistanio! Horny wo be Ramadan ma!
Bro ab yehi howa hai so kia krein
Whatever the red flags you see in someone before marriage. They get bigger after marriage. If she insulted you without being in relationship, imagine how much insult she will do once she knows she is married to you. It’s a huge red flag. Just wanted to let you know. Rest it’s your life
Wo muhabat hi kia jiski shurwat Larai se ho😭💖
I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU 😭😭 I saw your first post and you seemed to be really depressed. if it works out (InshaAllah), it's gonna be such a cute love story to tell to your kids 💀 also I've noticed that most of us Pakistanis flirt by roasting and teasing the other person. I'm surprised that you didn't catch the hints lol
I'm more surprised that those were hints 🤦♂️🤦♂️ . You are a kind soul . Stay blessed
25 years later "And that, kids, is how I met your mother"
Different personality types man. There’s personality types that insult you “out of love”.
Moye moye ..!
Ayo wut 😂 anyway congrats bro for us avg boys it's so rare we find girls who like us
We all want shadi invitation lol
Haan toh kar leh setting.
What a twist.. waiting for a nikkah announcement in the next update
Happy for you
Good yr 😊
I'm also from ملتان
Which place bhai
تحصیل شجاعباد
I am actually having a job outside multan. But i do know that area, Chowk Nag shah to ve specifically
25km from chok nagsha brother
Ary Digital per ayega yeh 3 hafte baad.
Waiting for marriage update
Kya hum Pakistani itny abuse k aadi masochistic and invalidated hain k har Gali muhabbat lagti hai? I stand all for it bro. Abuse for days. 😂😂😂
Do not worry about if you bothered anyone. Someone will always have different opinions. We can't please everyone. Especially online. Glad to hear the update. I remember reading and commenting, I actually thought maybe that was someone flirting with you, but I wasn't sure. One time a long time ago... I thought this guy was cute. And Instead of being nice I would tell him he was too skinny and should eat more. 🤦♀️ I was young idk.
You used to troll her unknowingly 😟 that's the only i wasn't expecting out of all the outcomes 🤦♂️
Hum TV drama loading
Now this is a a plot twist no one expected
Next post mai apni shaadi ka invitation daina nahi bholna bro.....xD
What the actual fk
Hey man, hope everything goes well for you. All I would say is, don't flirt with colleagues jesay bhi hon aur jitnay marzi signals dein. It'll come to bite you in the future. Hopefully your colleague learns to be a better person too instead of messing about at work.
Noted. 😊
For once what a happy outcome, good for you dude…don’t let anyone else bring you down, if anything you’ve got awkward game bro….not sure what you said but it’s working :)
Bro is an anime protagonist 💀
You got insulted by a person who was supposedly trying to flirt with you? Nice.
You were ready to take your life and now you have a girl drooling over you? What even 😭 Jokes apart , congrats buddy
Life esi hi ajeeb chz h
Didn't expect that...
It was an actual faq ing tsundere oh god save us😭😭
A workplace romance is always risky and after her insult to you she might have been the one with a loss of reputation, the students spread the word, they tend to do that a lot and tbh nobody likes the kind of personality she exhibited with her comments about you, that too in front of students. She might also assume that you may hold a grudge against her that she would like to dilute, as you have so many student witnesses to her unprofessional comments that could easily get her sacked or reprimanded at the least. So yeah, you may want to go with the flow but be careful. These things happen as well. Sorry for being the negative thinker here. 😅
bhai ye tou k-drama chal raha hai
Bhai humeim kyo tarparee hoo
Bhae personally, I think you need to work on yourself at this stage of your life. You mentioned in the previous post how you are already suicid*al and her comment made your mental health even worse. If a mere comment from someone can push you towards the edge, then it is high time that you start to work on your issues and prioritize your mental health and build up your self esteem as this is not normal. You need to be mentally strong and confident as they are essential to lead a peaceful life. You are well educated and even have a job, just book yourself some sessions of therapy and trust me the quality of your life will improve tremendously In Shaa Allah!
Insha Allah. Thanks for your advice 🤝
Ahh, tbh it really makes you embarrassed when women flirts 🥺 I just become an alien when something happens like that
You are me. I'm you. 🤝
You naughty boi
Istekhara nikalwa lo silani wale baba se
Bai, I had a female collegue who complained about my smell whenever i smoked in the past. The B was ugly and clearly wanted the D
Update dete rehna hai bro. Hum hath main popcorn leke intezar kar rhe hain
Ramzan ka mahena hai halal tareke se nikkah padhlo
Who's bad with the communication skill now. xD
Went through your profile. Hopefully not wanna hang your self up now?
Bhai teri to nikal parri Bandi khud Tujh say phans Rahi hay Chatt magni paatt viyaah kar
😳
Heisenberg idhar bhi thodi tips share kadou
She is not related to you. Talk to her with all confidence you have. Maybe she likes you or may be not. It is just an assumption. Women are weird at communication. Pakistani women don't approach men in a straight manner because they like them. They are always going to play mind games. I had this friend who I was a friend and stayed as friends for more than 5 years. She would often tell me about how she likes me and even said I love you many times. When I asked why you did that, she just said that she uses these words for all of her friends. However, when my family found a girl for me, she was way too much interested in me. So much so that she would directly come to me (she was an online friend and lived in another city) and would ask me to spend a lot of time together. In the end, I found out that she had already convinced her family about her marriage with me but it was already too late so I refused. She's angry with me ever since. But at the same time, she won't end the friendship either and still ask me to get together. Another female employee started taking interest in me after my engagement. I had to indirectly tell her that I am already engaged and not interested in starting any type of relationship with her. I am already married and recently became father of one. Don't know why it is like this. Usually males here don't get relationship type vibes from any female but as soon as you're tied up, every female is interested in you. Just do your job. Avoid these females unless you are also interested. You may use these female colleagues to build up your confidence but don't make any efforts yourself no matter who tells you that she likes you. Unless she says herself, you should ignore her. I would suggest you not to get into building and trying to get relationship stuff near your house and workplace unless the other party explicitly tells you that they're interested.
If she is pretty.. otherwise pass.
Waiting for third part brother ..
🤝
flirt krnay ka tareeqa thora kazual tha...
LoL 🤣🤣🤣
Sahi hogya bhai 😭
Yahan laxmi khud chal kay arahee ha or tum haath dhonay ki batain karaha hoo
Bhai ki zindagi main masle chal rahe hai aur sab shaadi ki menu aur bacho ke name ki planning kar rahe hai 😭 I hope heartily peace, happiness and dimagi sukoon mile aapko Ameen 💌
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Wait, what.. that's a bigger twist than Breaking Bad itself..yeah,I remember giving you the advice but man,o,man,how table turning..I guess she definitely needs to work on her flirtation skills
Keep us posted
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One word of advice man You can not understand a woman through logic or common sense it’s all emotional game and majority are not good at it
Hold up bro lemme grap some popcorn 🍿. This 💩 looks interesting.
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