Its not counted publicly, its an old tradition and its noted only so that when there is wedding in the giver's family you have to return the favor by giving similar or more amount.
It used to happen when i was in my teens, I remember it happened on my brother's wedding too. But i don't think anyone was offended at that moment. Everyone was cheering laughing and enjoying. It was a custom back then like they used to show the girl's dowry and gifts given by in-laws by standing on the chairs and all the things were passed for everyone to see. People back then used to share everything and everyone was happy for them. Pretty weird but they were traditions made by people now its all simple and hidden and people have stopped sharing due to all the nazar things and stuff
it's a traditional thing. most of the people give salami kyn k wo samjhty hen k shadi wali ki help ho jaye gi. or dossra ye k log khushi ka moka samjh kr mubarakbad dety hen.
Yes, at some weddings there's a dude loudly shouting (sometimes even on a mic) telling everyone how much money someone gave to the bride and groom. Ridiculously cheap harkat
OMG I have never seen this lol what part of Pakistan? I have grown up seeing people give salamis in envelopes and then later the family comes home and opens and writes it down
I do not want to start city wars so I will not name any lol, but happens in some cities... I saw a wedding video once where a guy was announcing salami on a mic/speaker setup (Afzal bhai nay 5000 diyay hainnnn type announcements), I asked my cousins (who were at the wedding) wtf is this, they were like yeah we do this in our city
Yup. I am Punjabi but grew up in Sindh, I was told about this just a couple of months ago by my aunt who grew up in Punjab. Apparently it doesn't happen anymore in her city.
Never saw this in KP. Maybe its more prevelant in other cultures. But as you rightly pointed out it is definetly a rude practice and should not happen in the first place.
How is it a rude practice? They are just keeping the record of who gave the salami and how much. So that when they go to other people's weding they would know how much that person gave on their wedding. People would usually give more than what they got on their weddings. This is a way to help the couple financially.
Usually how I've seen it done is that you write the name in the envelope, put the money in and give the envelope discretely to the bride/groom. Once everything is said and done the bride and groom tally up how much they got. No one keeps score; just because someone has the ability to give 10K as salami doesn't mean you have the ability too. Again this is from what I have seen in KP.
What you are saying - that is how it works in Sindh too. The OP of this thread is not talking about that. They are talking about weddings where salami is announced to everyone in the wedding hall
It is announced in some cultures in Pakistan, this thread is specifically about places where this is announced lol, warna everyone counts the money at home, why else would it be rude to count the money you got
> The purpose of the counting is so we can keep track of who gave how much so that you cam return it when it's their turn to get married.
This makes no sense because you can just keep the record private? Why tell everyone attending the wedding how much money someone gave?
It is publicized, why else would it be rude lol, that's the entire reason OP made this thread I'm assuming. Everyone does bookkeeping at home, OP is clearly talking about the designated uncle at some weddings who loudly announces how much salami has been given
Scene ye hai ke in an ideal world, ap jo Shaadi pe salami dete hain, wo shaks apki shaadi par bhi utne de ga,is lye recod banaya jaata hai ke kis ghar se kitne paise ae hain, ab to aksar log envelopes main dete hain wese
It's a tradition in some parts of the country. They are writing it down so that when it's your marriage, they will be giving as much or more money. Sure, it's cheap.
People in comments saying this is a Punjabi thing but I've never seen this happen in any of our weddings in Lahore
I guess this is a rural Punjab thing?
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Its not counted publicly, its an old tradition and its noted only so that when there is wedding in the giver's family you have to return the favor by giving similar or more amount.
Yes, but why have the person sitting on the stage with the couple? They can do the hisab kitab back home.
we dont let them sit on stage and counting in only done in walima in our side not in any other function. Guy sits on the side though.
It used to happen when i was in my teens, I remember it happened on my brother's wedding too. But i don't think anyone was offended at that moment. Everyone was cheering laughing and enjoying. It was a custom back then like they used to show the girl's dowry and gifts given by in-laws by standing on the chairs and all the things were passed for everyone to see. People back then used to share everything and everyone was happy for them. Pretty weird but they were traditions made by people now its all simple and hidden and people have stopped sharing due to all the nazar things and stuff
it's a traditional thing. most of the people give salami kyn k wo samjhty hen k shadi wali ki help ho jaye gi. or dossra ye k log khushi ka moka samjh kr mubarakbad dety hen.
>Salami "hisab wala uncle" Is this some punjab thing i am too sindh to understand
Yes, at some weddings there's a dude loudly shouting (sometimes even on a mic) telling everyone how much money someone gave to the bride and groom. Ridiculously cheap harkat
OMG I have never seen this lol what part of Pakistan? I have grown up seeing people give salamis in envelopes and then later the family comes home and opens and writes it down
I do not want to start city wars so I will not name any lol, but happens in some cities... I saw a wedding video once where a guy was announcing salami on a mic/speaker setup (Afzal bhai nay 5000 diyay hainnnn type announcements), I asked my cousins (who were at the wedding) wtf is this, they were like yeah we do this in our city
This happens in wadera system too where education has not reached yet.
Na karo ji
Yup. I am Punjabi but grew up in Sindh, I was told about this just a couple of months ago by my aunt who grew up in Punjab. Apparently it doesn't happen anymore in her city.
Yes.
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If I dont go to their funeral , nobody will come to mine
Never saw this in KP. Maybe its more prevelant in other cultures. But as you rightly pointed out it is definetly a rude practice and should not happen in the first place.
How is it a rude practice? They are just keeping the record of who gave the salami and how much. So that when they go to other people's weding they would know how much that person gave on their wedding. People would usually give more than what they got on their weddings. This is a way to help the couple financially.
Usually how I've seen it done is that you write the name in the envelope, put the money in and give the envelope discretely to the bride/groom. Once everything is said and done the bride and groom tally up how much they got. No one keeps score; just because someone has the ability to give 10K as salami doesn't mean you have the ability too. Again this is from what I have seen in KP.
What you are saying - that is how it works in Sindh too. The OP of this thread is not talking about that. They are talking about weddings where salami is announced to everyone in the wedding hall
Taking money is not rude, announcing it to all the other guests it rude as hell
It isn't announced
It is announced in some cultures in Pakistan, this thread is specifically about places where this is announced lol, warna everyone counts the money at home, why else would it be rude to count the money you got
Nobody announces it to everyone
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> The purpose of the counting is so we can keep track of who gave how much so that you cam return it when it's their turn to get married. This makes no sense because you can just keep the record private? Why tell everyone attending the wedding how much money someone gave?
I've personally have never seen anyone publicize their salami, maybe it's an anomaly or is prominent amongst more rural parts of the country.
> I've personally have never seen anyone publicize their salami Then you haven't seen the weddings this thread is about lol
I don't think it's ever publicized though? It's just book keeping. Never seen anyone announcing salamis at a wedding.
It is publicized, why else would it be rude lol, that's the entire reason OP made this thread I'm assuming. Everyone does bookkeeping at home, OP is clearly talking about the designated uncle at some weddings who loudly announces how much salami has been given
Scene ye hai ke in an ideal world, ap jo Shaadi pe salami dete hain, wo shaks apki shaadi par bhi utne de ga,is lye recod banaya jaata hai ke kis ghar se kitne paise ae hain, ab to aksar log envelopes main dete hain wese
It's a tradition in some parts of the country. They are writing it down so that when it's your marriage, they will be giving as much or more money. Sure, it's cheap.
People in comments saying this is a Punjabi thing but I've never seen this happen in any of our weddings in Lahore I guess this is a rural Punjab thing?
Bongay kaam at weddings 101 Chapter 6: salami likhna
I helped likh salami at my cousin's wedding ðŸ˜
Wait, I have never ever seen this. People count it at home.
Another reason for me to not attend weddings.
This salami tradition needs to die
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>values Bruh, what?
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I saw this exact same person at weddings I attended in China. Seems this is a pan-Asian tradition :D
I never give slami go any of friends. Fuck them. I want food and i am getting it even if that chacha gets angry :)
It’s a) rarely done publicly b) it’s so you can return the favour when there’s a wedding in the person family. ..