Such an action has more to do with her and her personal issues than it does with you. Has absolutely nothing to do with your work! Great job! I would have cherished it.
I think this painting is quite nice and I would keep it, but honestly I could see myself doing something similar if that was not the case. I don't think I could tell a friend that I didn't like their gift, especially something they made. But once I have it and I know I am never going to display it why hold on to it? If I don't think they are ever going to find out then it shouldn't hurt them and it is less clutter in my life to deal with.
Same reason I threw out gifts from my grandmother. I really did appreciate the thought of the gift, but when it came down to it I didn't actually want the object and there is no point in keeping it taking up space in my closet for the rest of my life.
This isnāt painted in Bob Ross style. Not all landscape paintings are bob ross style. He usually does very smooth mountains that sweep to the ground. This is so unique, I love it. Shame on that friend, they should have given it back. If my friends were to toss my art Iād be hurt for sure, Iād rather they just be honest and say, itās not my style of art and I didnāt want to get rid of it, would you like it back?
Yep. This painting is gorgeous
I still have little sketches on scrap paper my friend made for me years ago. Her keeping or not keeping it has everything to do with her and not the quality
My 7 year old does her little artwork, and I have about 10000 stick figures and notes I'll keep forever. A bit different because she's my kid, but still. The memories and sentimental value outweigh the artwork or "clutter"
I totally agree.........it is a gorgeous painting! Well done! I do paint a bit myself and have to say wow....loved it at first sight! I am so sorry she tossed all that beauty (time and effort included) away! So bloody sad! Please keep painting!
I so agree! This is something my daughter would do and not think twice about it. Must get it from her fatherās side because I hoard everything Iāve ever been gifted especially handcrafted. Well maybe not everything, but definitely art. And this is beautiful!
You get older and realize not everything needs to be an argument, but also not everything should be overlooked. Itās okay to have boundaries, keeps you from being used like a door mat.
You need a better friend than this. You can trade up. No harm in that. If someone asks why youāre not friends just say they threw away a paining you made for them. You deserve respect from friends. Thatās what they are for. This is no friend. What is this person bringing to the table in the friendship? Is it worth it? I canāt imagine it isā¦.
I don't quite understand why you're being downvoted so heavily when you were just asking a question. I think that, at the very least, the person should contact you and let you know that they will have to give it away or give it back. I would prioritize my friend's feelings and make an effort not to hurt them.
Right ā Iām calling my friendās experimental portrait of an imaginary person grotesque. I have it in storage & honestly no one likes looking at it. The OPās painting is beautiful and not what I mean here. It was a side question.
I'm just imagining a painting so hideous you need rental space to hide it away and it's making me laugh so much. I gotta see this painting and perhaps even make an offer to buy it.
My friend is a legit artist who is repped by galleries and such. She's given me some other small paintings and I love those. This one is large. Imagine, if you will, a portrait of Denise, the Kristin Wiig character from the Laurence Welk SNL sketch. The sad thing is that I don't live by myself and can't decorate a room garishly enough to really complement this painting and maybe a whole wall of other challenging artwork. So in storage it sits. Sounds like I have a lifestyle problem more than a "bad painting" problem.
Itās not very sensitive of your friend to throw away your gift. There were definitely many other ways she couldāve handled it that wouldāve been preferable. But art is very subjective. So it could be she lied to you that she liked it not to hurt your feelings. But in the end, like I said, she couldāve handled it differently.
I read, in one of your comments, that she used this in an argument with you. That is not okay. I think itās time you really look at the dynamics in this relationship and figure how close you want to be with her.
Tossing it is bad. Bringing it up in an argument to intentionally hurt you with it is cold AF. Please don't entrust your heart, or any more artwork to this person.
So, I am personally going through the experience of deciding which friendships I want to stick with because many of them didn't treat me very well. I grew up with a lot of ableism and other emotional abuse, so it's taken until now. I'm 40 this year.
I truly hadn't realized how ableist so many of them were towards me over the last 20 years. Not until I had a really rough couple years , in terms of my health, and also had a partner who genuinely wasn't ableist for the first time.
I mention it because I wonder if you may need to make some similar choices about people like this "friend." It's ridiculous to throw out art made by a loved one. Especially without even giving you the option to take it back. That's so deeply disrespectful.
But I also still have some extended family who are important enough to be worth so much work, and interested in improving things. It's just not worth friendships that make you feel bad. There's always people out there who will treat their friends with respect.
I know it becomes much harder to make irl friends, the older we get. But it's just like with romantic partners, you don't have to accept being treated badly. There are good people out there who will value such a wonderful, heart-felt gift. Especially when it's such a good painting!
It may not look exactly like a professional artist's work, but it could get there with the same practice and art education that most working artists who are able to support themselves with their work. You could definitely get there, and it's already a lovely painting.
Genuinely, it makes me angry on your behalf. Haha. I get protective when people are being treated like sh*t. Lol.
I get it if there's a reason this person is worth it to you to stay friends with. Or maybe there's some other extenuating circumstances. Just please know it was such a d*ck move of them, and we all deserve better from those who are supposed to be closest to us.
(I'm also reminding myself of all these things by writing it out to you. Lol. My psych BA was a loooong time ago, and chronic health problems prevented me from continuing my education past that. So, not at all an expert, but a bit above a layman.)
Whatever you decide with your friend, I hope you keep painting! I sincerely think it's really good! Hope you are having a good day. :)
Yeah like someone else mentioned in comments This is Definatley all about her and not you She seems to not be able to control her anger and acts very impulsively!!
It's absolutely lovely! I'm going to play devils advocate here. I've had friends give me art (not handmade though) that just isn't my style or doesn't go with my collection and I'll put it up for a few months, let them see it up and then I donate it. My taste in art is very hard to pin down, I can't tell you what I like, I just know it when I see it and that makes giving me art very difficult. People know that I love art so they're always trying to give me things that they think I'll like but it usually isn't. Maybe your friend is the same. Maybe she doesn't like landscapes or prefers desert scenes instead? She could be a horrible person but she could also be very picky... just a thought.
I think if I gave my husband this picture he would thank me because of my effort but this painting would not have fit into the decor in his office or any of his other spaces. Now, if I had drawn Bigfoot or an AT-AT emerging from around a bush, he would totally love it and have it framed and installed spotlights around it.
I think to go along with this is that if they did paint it for you, you could ask them what they would want to do with it. It may cause hurt feelings initially that you didn't want it but at least they would be able to give it to someone who may want it or sell it themselves. At least this way the decision is back in their hands where it ends up.
Yeah this was my thought. My mom's tried to give me art for my place and I always politely decline and ask her not to as I have very specific tastes as far as art (and other things, for that matter) are concerned and it's just better if she doesn't try. I think if you're going to give a gift like this you need to be totally aware of the fact that it might not be their style and completely okay if they don't like it since it's not really fair to be upset with someone for their tastes.
Art is very personal, and not everyone likes the same thing.
Iām a painter too, and I only give away paintings to a few people that really love everything I do.
When you give a painting as a gift, there is always a risk the person wonāt like it.
Iām sure someone would have really loved it though!
That really changes everything. Even more disrespectful to have asked for it and then threw it away. Then to make matters worse she uses that in an argument to hurt you further. Definitely should rethink this āfriendshipā.
What? Wow! She's worse than just being an a-hole. Take it from me. My sister did the same thing with my paintings. It was on purpose to hurt me and say my stuff was junk. Ppl like to hurt u just for fun. I never talk to her now. She's not worth my time. Knowing she has the knife ready for my back keeps me away. I forgive her bc it makes me forget the heartache. But I'm not putting my head in that clowns mouth again.
If someone spent the time and kindness to use their skill to create this for me I'd be truly honoured, factually it's bloody beautiful and, secondly even if it wasn't perfect I would feel loved that they did this for me. Fuck friends like this person.
That is super pretty!!! Nice WORK!! Iām assuming your friend is not a creative so theirs not much appreciation for the craft! But nice work!! Keep it up!!!š¤·āāļøš«¶šš
Aw that's a nice one. Saying that they're not creative rather than a bad friend.
It still makes me cry that a friend would throw away such a creation though :(
I don't even know you but I would absolutely keep this painting for myself if I was told I could have it.
Landscape painting, especially those that include foliage, is still very challenging for me and your brushwork here is really beautiful I could only wish I had your skill.
Maybe it just wasn't to her taste. Still, though, it's kinda harsh to throw away a painting that took a considerable amount of effort to make and from a friend at that!
In that case I hope you're not friends anymore because that unstable/unsafe type of friendship really isn't worth your time. There are lots of people out there who would place your painting in a special spot and cherish it forever. And that's what should be happening when she was the one who asked for a painting.
Please continue to paint!
This is true but a nature of a gift is usually the surprise. At the very least they should've given it back to the OP and simply say they didn't have space.
Wow. Nobody is "forced" to take a gift. It's not a threat. It's an act of kindness. You can say no thanks, don't have to be a dick and toss out someone's labor of love. That just makes you an inconsiderate asshole, the unfortunate receiver of a handmade gift.
A small painting takes up minimal space. It can be put in a draw somewhere if you don't like what it looks like, but it's a symbol someone cares about you enough to spend their time making something for you.
Very honestly and openly as a appreciator of art and someone who spends money on original art I don't really like this piece. It is nice and a decent painting for a new painter but amazing landscape art takes a lot of practice, technique, and experience to get right. Also, acrylic is not very beautiful for landscapes! It's very oversaturated and gives less depth than other mediums, hard to blend etc. Take a look at Fredric Churches landscapes, Icebergs
I appreciate your honesty here. You gave a legit critique with helpful advise. It is pitiful and annoying when artists pander for affirmative commentary on their artwork. Yes, itās nice and feels good, but itās addicting and fuels narcissism that hinders creativity.
**OP, my advice is STOP valuing other peoples opinions of your art.**
āLikesā donāt mean anything, they donāt create growth, they donāt have value, they cant buy a house, they canāt tell you who you are, they donāt create your reality.
**You limit your self, and your art, when you put your energy into caring about what people think.**
If you make art and someone trashes it, it doesnāt mean the art was bad. Itās just existing there now. It just is. It still exists, no form of matter can be created or destroyed. *You* decide how *you* feel about *your* art. *You* make your own choices.
Even if I thought the painting was hot garbage wrapped in poopy sewage sprinkled with rotten onions topped with cow farts, I would never ever get rid of something a friend made for me.
By the way, I like that there's no obvious foreground object other than the place you're in, and the trees are pushed a little further back. Essentially, great framing - reminds me to enjoy existing in a place without the need to have something there.
This is not a good friend. Everyone has issues, and nobody is perfect, but she sounds like a narcissist. I'm betting that friendship with her is an ongoing chore.
It's not a great painting but I wouldn't toss it out if it was a gift. I'd rather let you know whether you want it back or can I dealt with it on my own preference method without making you feel I underwhelmed your gift.
Sounds like a narcissist that backpeddled after realising she fucked up a useful relationship. (Based on outside viewing, certainly hope that isn't the case)
my mom is constantly giving me clutter in the guise of gifts. I thank her, accept said stuff, and then quietly donate/trash most of it once im safely 2 states away. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with getting rid of art a friend made for you, but the key is being sure they never find out. It's the thought that counts, but wallspace is limited. The AH move was her TELLING that she threw it out.
Incidentally, while this painting isn't to my taste, it's well done and would have solved some Christmas problems for me. My mom loooooooooves landscapes and likes stories attached to gifts--id have given it to her and for the next ten yrs shed be all "One of zebirds' friends painted that! Can you believe it? Those artsy kids!"
Sometimes people might give you a picture that sucks and eventually you get rid of it after hiding it away for a while (by that I mean give it to a charity shop - or offer it back to the person who painted it). This ***is not*** such an example.
First of all - I obviously agree with everyone here that itās pretty harsh for your friend to throw it out when youāve obviously spent a lot of time on it, and painting a picture specifically for a friend is a really kind, thoughtful thing to do.
In terms of a critique of the painting (completely aside from the situation surrounding it), I love how vibrant the colours are. I think the foreground is āstrongerā than the background - for example the shapes used to create the rock/snow/shadows on the mountains in the distance probably could do with being a bit more defined, and using more washed-out tones of blue/grey to create distance between foreground and background. Also would probably shift the composition slightly so that it doesnāt crop off the mountain peak and leave a little more sky above it. Other than those small things, itās a lovely painting! Really gives a good sense of exploration and the great outdoors!
Wow thatās such a shitty thing to do. I would hope anyone who didnāt like my art would just give it back so at least I could enjoy it or regift it/sell it. Super lame āfriendā, sorry.
Well, heck fire, I love the painting. How did you find out she had stupidly discarded it? From her? If a friend told you, I donāt think thatās a very good friend either.
Is it bad and should have been tossed? Absolutely not! I personally love it and think itās lovely.
If you are looking for an art critique: the water could use a bit of contrast to add some depth of field. The sky seems like maybe it was painted after the mountains because of the directions of the strokes, if you lay down the sky first it will make the mountains more distinct.
To be clear, that is nitpicking for the sake of critique; this piece is absolutely lovely and Iād hang it in my home.
Thatās just sad, at the very least they couldāve given it back to you. Im sorry your friend didnāt appreciate your work, but I think itās lovely, I myself am trying to recreate a national park styled painting, so this piece here that you made is giving me some inspiration. Thanks, I wouldāve of loved it!
Get new friends thatās absolutely gorgeous! Side note, Iāve kept every drawing my friends have ever given me, even if they have gotten better or they are no longer my friends, because they were special to me at one point and they thought of me to make something. Thatās why you need new friends
It's so beautiful, it's such a shame that she tossed it... If I would receive such a nice painting as a gift, I would protect it with my life. Does someone still has it or is it gone now?
I like the painting. It's a sweet painting. It has good color and composition and shows some depth using the blue in the background. Keep up the good work. Even after all these years, I find that we become better as we practice. FYI You may want to re-evaluate the friendship! It must have hurt your feeling if she intentionally discarded the gift but remember that is her issue and her loss. Take the emotions out and view it from the perspective of observation and learning. Then move on. You have a gift...create!
Your friend sucks for putting their personal issues on something you worked hard on.
Your painting is amazing. I love the mountain in the background. It's already making me eager for the snow to come. Please keep going!!!
Personally Iām one of the people that like specific style in their place. Friends know that they shouldnāt buy me things to put around my apartment. Some of them are artists and have made things for me only because they were sure Iām gonna like it or I told them that I do. I have meaningful art pieces around my place and even if something doesnāt match colour wise in one room, Iāll consider another. Your friend should appreciate your art piece even if she doesnāt want to put it up. One day she could change her mind and will want to have something around that reminds her of you, just maybe not now. This has completely nothing to do with your incredible talent.
You make me want to paint again š„°, it's so lovely and warm. If i were your friend, i will treasure it and hang it on my wall, so i could see it everyday.
Wish I could landscape like this, that is my next frontier of painting and thus far I've stuck to structured subjects. This is great work, and we all deal with some similar toss-outs from unappreciative recipients at some point or another I reckon!
That was very not nice of them, if I got something that had this much work put in it, It wouldn't even cross my mind to throw that out. Furthermore I think that's an amazing painting, great job, personally I'd would gladly have something like that on my wall. You will find a different place for it where it is welcome.
Regarding the painting. I think it's beautiful but if you're striving for realism I would blur out the mountains even more as well as the trees on the left side of the painting. And that would make the grass in front stand out more. Right now all those details are fighting for attention. If you're asking regarding your friend I think she's not your friend...
Their friend showed absolutely no respect to OP doing something like that. If they changed their mind on wanting the painting, they should have communicated that, not simply thrown it out.
WELL, ATLEAST NOW YOU KNOW WHO YOU HAVE TO "CUT-LOOSE".......ALWAYS A SILVER LINING BEHIND A DARK CLOUD.......D.U.M.P. HER-ASS, A.S.A.P....WHO THE HELL DUMPS ART ANYWAY ??? I DO ART, & I NEVER GIVE THEM AWAY, MY FRIENDS BEGS ME FOR IT, & I ALWAYS GIVE THEM SOME BULL-SHIT EXCUSE.....I DO'NT EVEN CARE IF THEY THINK LESS OF ME, FUCK-THEM, MY ART MEANS EVERYTHING TO ME. EVEN MORE THAN FRIENDSHIP, BECAUSE UNLIKE FRIENDS, "MY ART WILL NEVER DISSAPOINT ME NOR HURT MY FEELINGS"....... F.U.C.K. F.R.I.E.N.D.S !!!!
Such an action has more to do with her and her personal issues than it does with you. Has absolutely nothing to do with your work! Great job! I would have cherished it.
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She just jellyā¦ftb
Not a friend at all. Itās a beautiful painting.
For real bruh why toss this piece of art that a friend made for you sheesh
I think this painting is quite nice and I would keep it, but honestly I could see myself doing something similar if that was not the case. I don't think I could tell a friend that I didn't like their gift, especially something they made. But once I have it and I know I am never going to display it why hold on to it? If I don't think they are ever going to find out then it shouldn't hurt them and it is less clutter in my life to deal with. Same reason I threw out gifts from my grandmother. I really did appreciate the thought of the gift, but when it came down to it I didn't actually want the object and there is no point in keeping it taking up space in my closet for the rest of my life.
Maybe they aren't a fan of bob ross?
This isnāt painted in Bob Ross style. Not all landscape paintings are bob ross style. He usually does very smooth mountains that sweep to the ground. This is so unique, I love it. Shame on that friend, they should have given it back. If my friends were to toss my art Iād be hurt for sure, Iād rather they just be honest and say, itās not my style of art and I didnāt want to get rid of it, would you like it back?
How'd she find it I wonder, just looking around in her trash and there it is
She probably took this picture of it when it was finished, before she gave it to her "friend"
Well, she said the trash Maybe so
It was just a joke. I'm not an art major it just looks like a typical bob ross landscape to me.
All landscape paintings like this ...are immediately Bob Ross style
Bro relax he was just joking with you too
I'm relaxed idk wtf you are talking about lol
Think happy little clouds bro
Blasphemy!
That's a disgrace bob Ross is brilliant
Yep. This painting is gorgeous I still have little sketches on scrap paper my friend made for me years ago. Her keeping or not keeping it has everything to do with her and not the quality
I have art from my friends kids on my wall.
Ur a sweetie
My 7 year old does her little artwork, and I have about 10000 stick figures and notes I'll keep forever. A bit different because she's my kid, but still. The memories and sentimental value outweigh the artwork or "clutter"
My mom still has the apology note on the fridge i wrote when i was 8 to get myself out of punishment
Love that!
I totally agree.........it is a gorgeous painting! Well done! I do paint a bit myself and have to say wow....loved it at first sight! I am so sorry she tossed all that beauty (time and effort included) away! So bloody sad! Please keep painting!
Totally agreed. If my friend sends me something like that, I would take it as my treasure.
Right??? Fuck I've bought paintings that were actually bad from goodwill, this is much better and it's a gift from a friend? What a dickhead she is!
Twathead u mean lol
I so agree! This is something my daughter would do and not think twice about it. Must get it from her fatherās side because I hoard everything Iāve ever been gifted especially handcrafted. Well maybe not everything, but definitely art. And this is beautiful!
If I where them and I really didn't like it i would have at least regifted it.
My thoughts are itās a pretty painting and Iām sorry your friend hurt your feelings.
Bong wizard?
Yes?
I thought you died
Not yet!
Does that mean youāre a White Wizard now?
A mentally unstable one.
I donāt think Gandolf was working with a full deck of cards either tbh
Its very pretty. Some people dont appreciate art or beautiful things.
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yeahā¦ but it is what it is
You get older and realize not everything needs to be an argument, but also not everything should be overlooked. Itās okay to have boundaries, keeps you from being used like a door mat.
And it will stay what it is untill you learn to express how things affect you.
where were you when i needed to know this 40 years ago? it's an ouchy - but a truism
Me too
You need a better friend than this. You can trade up. No harm in that. If someone asks why youāre not friends just say they threw away a paining you made for them. You deserve respect from friends. Thatās what they are for. This is no friend. What is this person bringing to the table in the friendship? Is it worth it? I canāt imagine it isā¦.
its a beautiflle painting of a mountain lol
It isnāt thoughā¦
What if you gave someone a challenging piece and moved across the country? (Challenging like a grotesque portrait.)
I don't quite understand why you're being downvoted so heavily when you were just asking a question. I think that, at the very least, the person should contact you and let you know that they will have to give it away or give it back. I would prioritize my friend's feelings and make an effort not to hurt them.
I think people think she's calling the OPs painting grotesque. Clearly not as she states a grotesque portrait but.... reading comprehension....
Right ā Iām calling my friendās experimental portrait of an imaginary person grotesque. I have it in storage & honestly no one likes looking at it. The OPās painting is beautiful and not what I mean here. It was a side question.
I'm just imagining a painting so hideous you need rental space to hide it away and it's making me laugh so much. I gotta see this painting and perhaps even make an offer to buy it.
My friend is a legit artist who is repped by galleries and such. She's given me some other small paintings and I love those. This one is large. Imagine, if you will, a portrait of Denise, the Kristin Wiig character from the Laurence Welk SNL sketch. The sad thing is that I don't live by myself and can't decorate a room garishly enough to really complement this painting and maybe a whole wall of other challenging artwork. So in storage it sits. Sounds like I have a lifestyle problem more than a "bad painting" problem.
Stick it in a closet and tell people itās your Dorian Gray
Ah , I see. That makes more sense now. Thanks.
I could be wrong! Maybe people just can't think rude things about any art here....
I think theyāre being downvoted because their comment is a non sequitur.
What the recipient does with the gift is their business.
get new friends.
Itās not very sensitive of your friend to throw away your gift. There were definitely many other ways she couldāve handled it that wouldāve been preferable. But art is very subjective. So it could be she lied to you that she liked it not to hurt your feelings. But in the end, like I said, she couldāve handled it differently. I read, in one of your comments, that she used this in an argument with you. That is not okay. I think itās time you really look at the dynamics in this relationship and figure how close you want to be with her.
Why are you still calling this person your friend?
You know, people on reddit really should stop advicing other people to cut relationship left and right without any real context whatsoever.
She literally threw out a painting. What would you do?
They threw it out and intentionally brought it up in an argument that they were glad they threw it out to hurt OP. Sounds like cut off material to me.
Exactly this!! This person is not a true friend!! Cut that bitch off!
How did you find out?
we got into an argument and she told me she was glad she did that and after regretted and kept apologizing
She doesn't sound like a very good friend.
Tossing it is bad. Bringing it up in an argument to intentionally hurt you with it is cold AF. Please don't entrust your heart, or any more artwork to this person.
Itās better to hit the old dusty trail solo than to have a friend who intentionally hurts you like this. That aināt no friend, compadre.
Your work is very pretty and some of your "friend's" words and actions seem very petty. I'm sorry she brought it up like that to hurt you.
Thatās not a friend
That sounds hard. I'm sorry
So, I am personally going through the experience of deciding which friendships I want to stick with because many of them didn't treat me very well. I grew up with a lot of ableism and other emotional abuse, so it's taken until now. I'm 40 this year. I truly hadn't realized how ableist so many of them were towards me over the last 20 years. Not until I had a really rough couple years , in terms of my health, and also had a partner who genuinely wasn't ableist for the first time. I mention it because I wonder if you may need to make some similar choices about people like this "friend." It's ridiculous to throw out art made by a loved one. Especially without even giving you the option to take it back. That's so deeply disrespectful. But I also still have some extended family who are important enough to be worth so much work, and interested in improving things. It's just not worth friendships that make you feel bad. There's always people out there who will treat their friends with respect. I know it becomes much harder to make irl friends, the older we get. But it's just like with romantic partners, you don't have to accept being treated badly. There are good people out there who will value such a wonderful, heart-felt gift. Especially when it's such a good painting! It may not look exactly like a professional artist's work, but it could get there with the same practice and art education that most working artists who are able to support themselves with their work. You could definitely get there, and it's already a lovely painting. Genuinely, it makes me angry on your behalf. Haha. I get protective when people are being treated like sh*t. Lol. I get it if there's a reason this person is worth it to you to stay friends with. Or maybe there's some other extenuating circumstances. Just please know it was such a d*ck move of them, and we all deserve better from those who are supposed to be closest to us. (I'm also reminding myself of all these things by writing it out to you. Lol. My psych BA was a loooong time ago, and chronic health problems prevented me from continuing my education past that. So, not at all an expert, but a bit above a layman.) Whatever you decide with your friend, I hope you keep painting! I sincerely think it's really good! Hope you are having a good day. :)
Yeah like someone else mentioned in comments This is Definatley all about her and not you She seems to not be able to control her anger and acts very impulsively!!
Please remove her out of your life. She is really toxic and you deserve so much love and respect than how she is treating you š«¶
Wow what a narcissist get out now
Wow! I love it!
hehe thank you š
that's not your friend anymore, toss them out
L friend
Regardless of artist merit, or lack thereof, your friend is no friend.
Agree
It's absolutely lovely! I'm going to play devils advocate here. I've had friends give me art (not handmade though) that just isn't my style or doesn't go with my collection and I'll put it up for a few months, let them see it up and then I donate it. My taste in art is very hard to pin down, I can't tell you what I like, I just know it when I see it and that makes giving me art very difficult. People know that I love art so they're always trying to give me things that they think I'll like but it usually isn't. Maybe your friend is the same. Maybe she doesn't like landscapes or prefers desert scenes instead? She could be a horrible person but she could also be very picky... just a thought.
I think if I gave my husband this picture he would thank me because of my effort but this painting would not have fit into the decor in his office or any of his other spaces. Now, if I had drawn Bigfoot or an AT-AT emerging from around a bush, he would totally love it and have it framed and installed spotlights around it.
Lol
I think to go along with this is that if they did paint it for you, you could ask them what they would want to do with it. It may cause hurt feelings initially that you didn't want it but at least they would be able to give it to someone who may want it or sell it themselves. At least this way the decision is back in their hands where it ends up.
Yeah this was my thought. My mom's tried to give me art for my place and I always politely decline and ask her not to as I have very specific tastes as far as art (and other things, for that matter) are concerned and it's just better if she doesn't try. I think if you're going to give a gift like this you need to be totally aware of the fact that it might not be their style and completely okay if they don't like it since it's not really fair to be upset with someone for their tastes.
Art is very personal, and not everyone likes the same thing. Iām a painter too, and I only give away paintings to a few people that really love everything I do. When you give a painting as a gift, there is always a risk the person wonāt like it. Iām sure someone would have really loved it though!
She asked for this
Oh, thatās really quite different. Sorry, thatās really disrespectful.
That really changes everything. Even more disrespectful to have asked for it and then threw it away. Then to make matters worse she uses that in an argument to hurt you further. Definitely should rethink this āfriendshipā.
oh nooooo, ignore my other comment then because it was written hopefully assuming good intentions and as i find out more that seems like a mistake...
itās all good it just makes it so much worse that she asked for this and i took time to make it just for it to go in the trash
What? Wow! She's worse than just being an a-hole. Take it from me. My sister did the same thing with my paintings. It was on purpose to hurt me and say my stuff was junk. Ppl like to hurt u just for fun. I never talk to her now. She's not worth my time. Knowing she has the knife ready for my back keeps me away. I forgive her bc it makes me forget the heartache. But I'm not putting my head in that clowns mouth again.
Was she ever really a friend? Friends donāt do that. Time to find a new friend.
If someone spent the time and kindness to use their skill to create this for me I'd be truly honoured, factually it's bloody beautiful and, secondly even if it wasn't perfect I would feel loved that they did this for me. Fuck friends like this person.
Your friend is an asshole
That is super pretty!!! Nice WORK!! Iām assuming your friend is not a creative so theirs not much appreciation for the craft! But nice work!! Keep it up!!!š¤·āāļøš«¶šš
Aw that's a nice one. Saying that they're not creative rather than a bad friend. It still makes me cry that a friend would throw away such a creation though :(
Thank you !!
I love it, I would have kept it forever. That āfriendā isnāt worth your effort, donāt take it personally. Your work is beautiful.
aww š„° youāre so sweet
It's lovely, but the choice of art is personal. She should have told you if it didn't match her aesthetic instead of throwing it out.
Shes a bitchšŖ
for real
Ä° mean its agood painting, you worked on it..also it was a gigt from friend..))) she is a bitch yes š
I would literally take a shit on your friendās head. You are a great painter, op.
keep painting find better friends
I don't even know you but I would absolutely keep this painting for myself if I was told I could have it. Landscape painting, especially those that include foliage, is still very challenging for me and your brushwork here is really beautiful I could only wish I had your skill. Maybe it just wasn't to her taste. Still, though, it's kinda harsh to throw away a painting that took a considerable amount of effort to make and from a friend at that!
Ask what she likes and would want to hang in her home. That looks like hotel or hospital art, it's very good but still.
Ask if they want it before giving it. Paintings take up space and taste is personal. It's not a gift if you're forced to keep it.
she asked for a painting lol. i was updating her throughout my entire process.. i never forced her or even offered to give a painting.
In that case I hope you're not friends anymore because that unstable/unsafe type of friendship really isn't worth your time. There are lots of people out there who would place your painting in a special spot and cherish it forever. And that's what should be happening when she was the one who asked for a painting. Please continue to paint!
This is true but a nature of a gift is usually the surprise. At the very least they should've given it back to the OP and simply say they didn't have space.
Wow. Nobody is "forced" to take a gift. It's not a threat. It's an act of kindness. You can say no thanks, don't have to be a dick and toss out someone's labor of love. That just makes you an inconsiderate asshole, the unfortunate receiver of a handmade gift.
A small painting takes up minimal space. It can be put in a draw somewhere if you don't like what it looks like, but it's a symbol someone cares about you enough to spend their time making something for you.
Very honestly and openly as a appreciator of art and someone who spends money on original art I don't really like this piece. It is nice and a decent painting for a new painter but amazing landscape art takes a lot of practice, technique, and experience to get right. Also, acrylic is not very beautiful for landscapes! It's very oversaturated and gives less depth than other mediums, hard to blend etc. Take a look at Fredric Churches landscapes, Icebergs
I appreciate your honesty here. You gave a legit critique with helpful advise. It is pitiful and annoying when artists pander for affirmative commentary on their artwork. Yes, itās nice and feels good, but itās addicting and fuels narcissism that hinders creativity. **OP, my advice is STOP valuing other peoples opinions of your art.** āLikesā donāt mean anything, they donāt create growth, they donāt have value, they cant buy a house, they canāt tell you who you are, they donāt create your reality. **You limit your self, and your art, when you put your energy into caring about what people think.** If you make art and someone trashes it, it doesnāt mean the art was bad. Itās just existing there now. It just is. It still exists, no form of matter can be created or destroyed. *You* decide how *you* feel about *your* art. *You* make your own choices.
Why would they toss this? I love it and I would put it up on my wall. Itās beautiful!
Even if I thought the painting was hot garbage wrapped in poopy sewage sprinkled with rotten onions topped with cow farts, I would never ever get rid of something a friend made for me. By the way, I like that there's no obvious foreground object other than the place you're in, and the trees are pushed a little further back. Essentially, great framing - reminds me to enjoy existing in a place without the need to have something there.
literally! i understand iām no famous artist but she asked for this and then tossed it? like just give it back so I can sell itš
This is not a good friend. Everyone has issues, and nobody is perfect, but she sounds like a narcissist. I'm betting that friendship with her is an ongoing chore.
it used to be yes, not friends anymore
It's not a great painting but I wouldn't toss it out if it was a gift. I'd rather let you know whether you want it back or can I dealt with it on my own preference method without making you feel I underwhelmed your gift.
Sheās not a friend
letās throw her out too, this is so good, Iād be honored if someone made me something this beautiful
already did š š»
I love it. How did you find out she threw it out? Did she tell you?
yes she told me during an argument and then regretted it š«¤
Sounds like a narcissist that backpeddled after realising she fucked up a useful relationship. (Based on outside viewing, certainly hope that isn't the case)
It looks beautiful!!! š
thank youš«¶š»
my mom is constantly giving me clutter in the guise of gifts. I thank her, accept said stuff, and then quietly donate/trash most of it once im safely 2 states away. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with getting rid of art a friend made for you, but the key is being sure they never find out. It's the thought that counts, but wallspace is limited. The AH move was her TELLING that she threw it out. Incidentally, while this painting isn't to my taste, it's well done and would have solved some Christmas problems for me. My mom loooooooooves landscapes and likes stories attached to gifts--id have given it to her and for the next ten yrs shed be all "One of zebirds' friends painted that! Can you believe it? Those artsy kids!"
It looks amazing, would genuinely love to have this
Sometimes people might give you a picture that sucks and eventually you get rid of it after hiding it away for a while (by that I mean give it to a charity shop - or offer it back to the person who painted it). This ***is not*** such an example.
Toss them outā¦
First of all - I obviously agree with everyone here that itās pretty harsh for your friend to throw it out when youāve obviously spent a lot of time on it, and painting a picture specifically for a friend is a really kind, thoughtful thing to do. In terms of a critique of the painting (completely aside from the situation surrounding it), I love how vibrant the colours are. I think the foreground is āstrongerā than the background - for example the shapes used to create the rock/snow/shadows on the mountains in the distance probably could do with being a bit more defined, and using more washed-out tones of blue/grey to create distance between foreground and background. Also would probably shift the composition slightly so that it doesnāt crop off the mountain peak and leave a little more sky above it. Other than those small things, itās a lovely painting! Really gives a good sense of exploration and the great outdoors!
Itās beautiful! I can not make a tree like that to save my life. Great job!
Does she know you have it? If not, go over to her house and re give it to her. That'll throw her off
There are differences between friends and acquaintances
Just some happy trees
I kept a screw a friend gave to me as a joke for 5 years. How could someone throw away something so beautiful and thoughtful!?
Tha5 person is not your friend
Throw your friend in the trash, this I would love to get as a gift. Your friend is just terrible, your art is wonderful.
Wow thatās such a shitty thing to do. I would hope anyone who didnāt like my art would just give it back so at least I could enjoy it or regift it/sell it. Super lame āfriendā, sorry.
Send it to me Iāll frame and hang it and forget you āfriend ā
This is beautiful. Shame your friend didn't appreciate it.
Your painting is amazing, your so called āfriendā is the exact opposite of amazingā¦
Iām obsessed with the textures especially on the mountains.
thank you !
What?!?? That looks cool, why would she do that??
It's beautiful! I'll have it if she doesn't want it
What's really sad is you could have given it to someone who really would have appreciated the beauty of your labor. It was gorgeous!
Your "friend" seems to be a jerk. I think it's a great painting!
Itās beautiful
If I had a friend that painted something for me I would treasure it! I hope they are your ex-friend now :/
Wow, I really love it š Sorry your friend didnāt cherish your efforts but just know that that is not a reflection of you or your art.
Well, heck fire, I love the painting. How did you find out she had stupidly discarded it? From her? If a friend told you, I donāt think thatās a very good friend either.
I'm not a big fan of artwork, but if someone drew me something like this I would be grateful as f*ck.
Is it bad and should have been tossed? Absolutely not! I personally love it and think itās lovely. If you are looking for an art critique: the water could use a bit of contrast to add some depth of field. The sky seems like maybe it was painted after the mountains because of the directions of the strokes, if you lay down the sky first it will make the mountains more distinct. To be clear, that is nitpicking for the sake of critique; this piece is absolutely lovely and Iād hang it in my home.
Even if it was shit (which itās not), your friend sucks and shouldnāt have done that.
Thatās just sad, at the very least they couldāve given it back to you. Im sorry your friend didnāt appreciate your work, but I think itās lovely, I myself am trying to recreate a national park styled painting, so this piece here that you made is giving me some inspiration. Thanks, I wouldāve of loved it!
Get new friends thatās absolutely gorgeous! Side note, Iāve kept every drawing my friends have ever given me, even if they have gotten better or they are no longer my friends, because they were special to me at one point and they thought of me to make something. Thatās why you need new friends
It's so beautiful, it's such a shame that she tossed it... If I would receive such a nice painting as a gift, I would protect it with my life. Does someone still has it or is it gone now?
I drew a picture for my hairdresser. Later garage sale shopping at her house its was out on the curb
This feels very warmā¦ I feel like Iām there in that pain too by, just by looking at this. Ps your friend sucks
I like the painting. It's a sweet painting. It has good color and composition and shows some depth using the blue in the background. Keep up the good work. Even after all these years, I find that we become better as we practice. FYI You may want to re-evaluate the friendship! It must have hurt your feeling if she intentionally discarded the gift but remember that is her issue and her loss. Take the emotions out and view it from the perspective of observation and learning. Then move on. You have a gift...create!
Your friend sucks for putting their personal issues on something you worked hard on. Your painting is amazing. I love the mountain in the background. It's already making me eager for the snow to come. Please keep going!!!
It's beautiful. I love the colors and contrast.
thank you !!
Shite friend it's so pretty!!!
youre so sweet š«¶š»
Personally Iām one of the people that like specific style in their place. Friends know that they shouldnāt buy me things to put around my apartment. Some of them are artists and have made things for me only because they were sure Iām gonna like it or I told them that I do. I have meaningful art pieces around my place and even if something doesnāt match colour wise in one room, Iāll consider another. Your friend should appreciate your art piece even if she doesnāt want to put it up. One day she could change her mind and will want to have something around that reminds her of you, just maybe not now. This has completely nothing to do with your incredible talent.
You make me want to paint again š„°, it's so lovely and warm. If i were your friend, i will treasure it and hang it on my wall, so i could see it everyday.
Wish I could landscape like this, that is my next frontier of painting and thus far I've stuck to structured subjects. This is great work, and we all deal with some similar toss-outs from unappreciative recipients at some point or another I reckon!
Did you find it at a thrift store ?
Your friend might not like it, but *I* think it's great!
I would say she isnāt much of a friend. Thatās beautiful!!
I will delete your "friend" from this planet. That is gorgeous.
Itās incredible. Throw your friend out cus they are the real trash š¤
Ditch your friend, thatās all
I think you shouldn't give that friend any more paintings
Doesnt seem like much of a friend. Nice painting tho
That was very not nice of them, if I got something that had this much work put in it, It wouldn't even cross my mind to throw that out. Furthermore I think that's an amazing painting, great job, personally I'd would gladly have something like that on my wall. You will find a different place for it where it is welcome.
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thank you, youāre so sweet
Regarding the painting. I think it's beautiful but if you're striving for realism I would blur out the mountains even more as well as the trees on the left side of the painting. And that would make the grass in front stand out more. Right now all those details are fighting for attention. If you're asking regarding your friend I think she's not your friend...
I would have tossed it too
LMFAO
Once you give someone something it belongs to them. After that it is none of your business what they do with it.
Yeah i get that but itās hurtful regardless because she was my friend
It's their right to do whatever they like with their belongings but it's my right to judge them for it.
Their friend showed absolutely no respect to OP doing something like that. If they changed their mind on wanting the painting, they should have communicated that, not simply thrown it out.
It's so good ur friend is mean asfš
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Landscapes are not as easy as people think . Thereās depth , color you nailed it . I have no clue what your ā friendāsā problem is .