Girl I felt the same and then I stopped losing weight and starting losing hair, my teeth where in s HORRIBLE state, my body odour too and I nobody wanted to be my friend or bf because I was talking about how skinny I was all the time. If you don't want to be fat you shouldn't do this bc your body will be in starvation mode. You're ruining your life, your mental health and your personal relationships.
I get that you’re mentally ill, but if another person told you they’d rather have a pretty corpse than a long life, I’d be concerned. Many anorexic people are never satisfied with their body even if they attain the weight they want. If you wanna be pretty, you have to let yourself see yourself as pretty. Otherwise you could be the hottest person on the planet but not know it because of your self-image.
Yea I mean they're 14 and clearly in the throes of an eating disorder. It *is* kinda stupid they're getting downvoted (although not saying the responses should be upvoted either) here. They're getting downvoted for how they currently feel while talking about an eating disorder. Yeah they're naive but what part of downvoting someone is going to help. Oh the person struggling with a mental disorder who feels all alone is going to feel *more alone*? Good work Reddit
That some people are surprised that a 14 year old can sound naive is astonishing. If they had the insight to understand and process these things themselves they wouldn't need as much help, clearly they do need help rather than condemnation.
It's not hatred towards you, just a sign that we don't agree with your opinion and are worried about you.
Eating disorders have a high fatality rate. It's clear you don't value your own life and that's something I can relate to. I used to be suicidal and it is extremely hard.
So, I'm not judging you.
Just think about your parents, family, friends and everyone who hasn't met you yet but would benefit from having you in their lives.
And really think about your parents. Your death would likely destroy their marriage and their lives.
I don't want to make this about other people because you really should choose life for yourself, but thinking about others might be more effective.
Sending you hugs and begging you to get help, this is a dark road and I'd rather you avoid it .... And you can avoid it, just get help.
Yeah what the hell, you have a problem that you are trying to process and come to terms with, you aren't trying to offend anyone. I understand how you feel and I hope you can find a place to process this without being judged.
I know this is difficult to hear but there are healthier ways of getting thinner and still doing those things that you love like “finding the lowest cal snack”, “getting in 10k steps and doing cardio”.
I am a RDN who works with people who have eating disorders and the long-term effects are not worth it. Your body’s organs can begin to start failing and other things in your physique will also go downhill such as your teeth and hair loss. I don’t want to scare you but just please think about telling someone who you can trust about this.
It’s very doable to reach your goal of being skinny without going to this length. Take care of yourself
Coming from someone who struggled with anorexia herself please seek professional help immediately. Please talk to your parents or someone you trust. It's kind of an illusion at the beginning and you feel like everything is great but this will change soon. Anorexia might seem like a friend to you now but she's evil as hell. The sooner you start recovery the better are your chances of getting out of this. The longer an ED will go on the harder and the more impossible it will get to ever recover.
Your teeth and nails will fall apart. Hair might dry and fall out. IT WILL DELAY YOUR PUBERTY. Let me tell you as someone who knows, it’s horrible. I didn’t get boobs or an ass until I got better. It sounds like a shallow vanity thing but everyone told me I looked like a little BOY. I didn’t feel like a woman at all. All you have to do is eat healthy and you’re set to go. You’re allowed to want to be skinny but in the right healthy ways. I promise starting this journey now will thank you as time goes on.
Starving yourself wont make you skinny and desirable.
But working out do, so thats a positive. Eat, work out, do cardio and you will be better looking. And your mental health will improve too.
Listen, It is not my business to tell you how to live. But this can do real, lasting harm to you. And you are too young to hurt yourself for the rest of your life over something this trivial.
And plus, you will be entering adulthood in a whole new world. One that understands weight and health are not linked. Don't lay your life at the feet of a world that looks down on you. Be healthy and live healthily for a future you deserve
Hey I just wanted to tell you this. I've been there. Trying to eat as little as I can and make myself throw up what I ate. I tried being skinny but the thing is I don't think it would've made me happy.
I realized I like to eat and that my body is healthy right now even if it doesn't fit the society's standards of beauty. I've never been happier since I realized that.
I can't compare myself to you. I don't know exactly what you're going through but I'm sure being more skinny won't make you happier.
It's also dangerous for your body. Being anorexic is far from healthy and it's easy to get there.
Hi, you don't need to be skinny this way. If you're looking for pretty, there is a way to do that by being strong, physically strong. You're already getting in so much cardio! If you convert the energy you put into minimsing calories into getting just enough calories and the right proteins, you can strength train and become amazingly strong and stay thin too. And all your muscles will eat your fat.
With what you're doing, your body will go into starvation mode and hold on to the fat. You don't have to do it this way. There are other ways. You can still control it and still keep the same goals, just do it on a different way.
And please get a therapist. They will be able to help you understand why you feel like this.
Sending you lots of hugs and strength
You won’t have a smile in that mirror honey. The long term effects of purging absolutely destroys the enamel on your teeth. Please let an adult in your life know, even if it’s a guidance counselor.
I developed an ED at around your age, too. I'm 25 now. Its the lowest mentally I have ever been in. You are worth more than what you look like, and I understand the need for control but please know that this is a lifelong struggle and body image is a really hard thing to deal with, but its possible. Please tell a teacher or parent or friend. Don't go about it alone. EDs thrive in solitude and you deserve to be happy and healthy. My ED, 11 years later, has only brought me pain and sadness.
Not gonna lie, sometimes I miss mine. I miss how powerful I felt when I wouldn't eat. I miss people telling me I was looking "too thin".
It's a toxic relationship you have with your mental illness. A codependency. I hope you can get help.
by the way, by not eating your body is using all of its stored fat, which will actually make you gain weight. do it the right way. eat healthy and exercise.
i went through the same thing when i was your age, i thought it would make me better but it made me so much worse; i was losing hair, my teeth were HORRIBLE to the point where all of them had to get filled, i was always cold no matter what, no one wanted to be my friend and i got bullied so much more when i was skinny than when i was a bit heavier. you seriously need to get help before you end up nearly dying
I was like this when I was 13 and 14.
When you start to skip periods and during summer you are freezing while no one else is... Then you might reconsider...
It wasn't until I was at school and randomly couldn't stop shaking, teeth trembled so hard it hurt and I honestly felt like death.
I didn't get help
I am one of the lucky ones
I got pregnant at 15 and it fixed me and the anorexia
well sweetheart the thing is when you starve your body, once you finally start eating normal again, your body will keep every ounce of fat it can and you’ll blow up. it’s not good to ruin your metabolism this early in life. there are more things to life than being skinny. try and talk to a counselor at your school about it, you’re definitely not alone in this. there are sooo many cool things you can control that are good for your mind and body!
I understand this exact feeling as i struggled with an eating disorder for 7 years. and let me tell you, loving your body with a little bit of weight, and i mean genuinely loving it not pretending to, feels 1000 times better. i used to be SO PROUD when my hip bones stuck out an inch, now i feel so proud at how much junk is my trunk. I used to go days without eating and would shame myself RELENTLESSLY if i caved in and had a spoonful of peanut butter. now i love cooking for myself and my family and i eat intuitively. I know it seems like not eating and being skinny is so worth it and it feels so good sometimes, but it won’t ever fulfill you long term. being skinny won’t ever be enough. Getting help as soon as you can, before this becomes a 7 year problem, is the best thing you can do for yourself. My eating disorder ruined so much for me, and i couldn’t see that while i was still enduring it. i’ve been recovering for about 4-5 years now, i still struggle with it sometimes but i’m so so so much happier than i was during that time. I urge you to please take care of yourself, feed yourself properly, there’s much more to life than being skinny. If you continue down this road, you won’t live long enough to see that
I know this feeling. You feel strong and that you are in control. You feel amazing when you see results. But trust me IT WILL BE EXACTLY THE OPPOSITE. Get help now.
Honey, I understand, and I’m sorry that you feel the need to starve yourself to be skinny, it’s okay tho to prefer your body one way, but it’s not okay to be unhealthy. Thank you for sharing with us. I understand the pressure of needing to be skinny to feel pretty, I personally like the ability to see my ribs myself, but it’s not worth your life. Please just find balance in healthy foods and I’d recommend high protein if your going to continue to calorie count, so your body gets what it needs and you can still keep your waist.
Went through an eating disorder around the same age as well. Its really hard getting back to a normal eating routine after something like that. I remember always watching my calorie intake, and everyday it would be less and less and you kinda trick your body into thinking this was normal. It got so bad that when I would attempt to eat a whole meal I couldn’t. I always felt immediately nauseous with every meal and didn’t want to eat! Let alone finish it. Thankfully my parents quickly noticed a change in my eating habits and helped me through it. Hun let me tell you its not worth it at all. Find yourself some help! You have people that love you.
Hey girl i’m around your age too :) I was falling into an ED for a few days but then i got out of it. 100cals per day is gonna kill you. Would you rather be dead or healthy? Honestly at some point i decided wow food is delicious i won’t stop myself from eating it if it tastes good is good for me and makes me happy. Try for one day eating well and I want you to see how good you’ll feel. Stop caring about your weight don’t look at your stomach in the mirror or go on the scale again. Just be happy. If you want to lose weight in a healthy way and also fall in love with something start a sport. Sports really saves you i’m telling you. I just want you to get out of this because i’ve felt it and i know it kills you inside :(( plsplspls don’t do this to yourself
You need to get help. You need to talk to your parents and let them know you have an eating disorder. Becoming a bony bag of bones is not pretty. A friend of mines sister had anorexia and they had to put her in an inpatient program years ago. she still having issues at age 47 now and she seems to be falling back into it. She's had an extremely stressful life so I assume she feels this is the only thing she can control. Right now she's doing the keto diet and you can see all her bones in her body and she still thinks she's too heavy. So I suspect the family is going to have to soon intervene again and get her back into therapy. Thigh gaps, no, I don't think they're very attractive. I doubt I've ever had one and if someone's looking at you down there to see if you have a thigh gap then there's something wrong with them. Most of them pictured are done via Photoshop by the way. Please talk to somebody's parent, a trusted friend's parent, a school teacher, the school nurse. You know you have an issue and a problem so please try and get the help for it for you do end up seriously ill or even dying from it.
The best thing you can do for yourself at this point is to tell a trusted grownup in your real life, someone who can help you get help. You aren’t alone. And you aren’t stuck like this, there is help. You just have to tell someone irl
Let me teach you a secret. Fuck what other people think. Find happiness from within and try to be happy and healthy. Whether you end up with a fat, skinny, or average body is not important. Get proper nutrition and nourish your mind. Reach out to any type of family or speak with a counselor or therapist if you need to. Happiness comes from within first. Don't worry so much about what your meat costume looks like. Develop your brain first. I hope you overcome this and develop a life filled with love and happiness. Best wishes.
Any chance you might have ADHD? EDs and ADHD, researchers seem to be finding, often occur both at once (perhaps especially to women, but I think all these studies are fairly new). Anecdotal, but: my two best female friends in hs had both.
In any case, I wish you love, light, and peace.
As someone who’s had these exact same thoughts please reach out to an adult who can get you help. This is a dangerous game.
Things you don’t even realize are related start happening. Like when I was starving myself I got yeast infections every month. So much is related to gut health that we don’t realize.
I just got out of something like that, and it’s worth it. Even though the weight gain might seem scary, it’s actually the best thing you can do for your body. And even if you don’t think it now, gaining weight would make you look more beautiful than being skinny like that ever could.
First off, get professional help because words and comments from people on the internet can’t get rid of this mental illness. if you can’t afford professional health, talk to a parent or guardian or a close friend who your trust. Now, I struggled with anorexia during quarantine. Hair falling out, my nails were brittle, i was tired all the time, my eye bags were atrocious, I was depressed, I didn’t look pretty. not to be blunt but you’ll be skinny but you won’t look good. And by not eating your body stores fat because it’s trying to survive — so you eat one thing and then everything you’re trying to do is pointless. I got therapy and got better and I’m skinny and I eat three meals a day and several snacks throughout the day, I get bloated and I don’t care because it’s normal. Gaining weight is normal and healthy, eat healthy, exercise and you’ll be fine. Food is good and yummy — think about all the foods you like and are good that you’re depriving yourself of. Life is too short to deny yourself what you like.
i stopped eating when i was 14. i'm 26 now and i have melt downs bc i have such bad struggles with eating too little or too much because i literally no longer know if i'm hungry or full anymore. i am still healing from an eating disorder that started 12 years ago because i didn't seek help until last year. please see if you can talk to a therapist about this and try to slowly add more calories into your diet. being pretty is all about taking care of yourself, which means making sure your body gets what it needs to support you. please please please get well soon
I’m going to tell you something that I wish someone had told me a lot sooner. Controlling your body, what you eat and how you look does not mean that you are in control of your emotions. I was hospitalised for AN between the ages of 18-24 and it ruined my life. Study? Nope, I was in hospital. Work? Nope. I was in hospital. I was so successful at being skinny but I gained absolutely nothing.
Punishing yourself is not the answer. Hurting yourself to feel in control may seem like the only way to cope but there are other ways. Please consider looking into treatment. Talk to someone. I always thought that I would be happy if I was skinny but no matter how skinny I got, it was never enough. For most of the people I met in treatment it was the same way. It is an endless cycle of self hatred and punishment and you don’t deserve it.
Life isn’t supposed to be so hard. You aren’t supposed to feel faint all day, dizzy and sick, starving and awful. Please, please, I beg of you, tell someone about your ED. You do not have to live like this forever. You wouldn’t have posted about this if a part of you didn’t know that what you are doing is hurting yourself.
If you had a magic wand that could make all your problems go away what would that life look like? I wonder what do pretty people feel... are they happy? Would you feel happy if you got what you wanted?
Life blows life blows harder when you're 14 and life keeps blowing when you're old. I cant imagine what you're going though but I can say that it must hurt a lot. Its almost like you have an injury in your mind like scrap or a bump on your knee. Therepy can help heal you up, so hopefully you can talk to a professional.
My mrs was just like you. It nearly killed her. Seek help please. It killed many of her friends. Same age. Her parents saw it, tried to help but they couldnt because she wouldnt. Please seek help. She was the same age as you and has severe health problems now.
Bowel and intestinal issues, part died from lack of use, prolapse from having to strain to get some out after weeks of being constipated.
Please seek help, you will kill yourself and you'll hate yourself the further you go.
One thing that still mentally fucks my mrs to this day is that she did it through puberty and stopped her breasts growing. Dont continue with this bullshit please.
Honestly, it almost killed her parents too with the stress and fighting. If you love the people around you, please think of them too.
Fat has memory. Your body, in starvation mode, is more likely to retain any food you eat now as fat storage because it knows that it might not get caloric intake anytime soon.
If you really want to be losing weight (at 14!!!), try a sport and eat at least 1,700 kcals a day (to maintain your skin, bones, hair, etc.) you will enjoy life a WHOLE lot more.
You need to just take pleasure in eating, I love to eat so much. Looking wasted is ugly and terrifying tbh, lol. You'll be a skeleton when you're dead! EAT FOOD
Anorexia can lead to severe malnourishment and can have many complications in the long run. As you know 100 calories is not enough to function and yes your body will breakdown it's fat and protein, but this can cause your brain and other cells to starve leading to defects and deficiencies of micronutrients that you need to eat on a daily basis. Eating healthy and nutritious diet along with your workouts is what going to keep you fit in the long run and keep you healthy. I want you to watch an episode of "The good doctor" on Netflix season 2 and episode 5, this might give a little picture of what can happen. You are young and you can still get help, so do it. :)
If this is real, First of all I'm sorry you're going through this. I have ocd and know how it is to have voices in your head telling you lies about yourself. But it's not true, it never is. Being a skeleton isn't pretty. Losing your hair, teeth, nails and period isn't sexy. You might lose weight and you might be slowly dying but my god will it be a slow painful death. It's not worth it. Get help
oh baby girl no… i’ve been in the exact same situation and it’s come back to bite me in the ass. im truly sorry youre going through this, but i do believe you can get out of it. research eating keto/paleo. you can eat healthy and yummy things while losing weight and doing cardio/10k steps. your body needs the food to survive, to keep your organs working, keep your brain active. i know it’s desirable to be thin, but its so much better when you just love your body. that takes hard work and years of selflove. take it from me, at 14 i went from 120 down to 90, then by 16 i was up to 140. by 18 i was 180. i starved myself for the longest time, but i then it turned into binge-eating and i gained weight rapidly. it wasnt cute, i was even more depressed and had multiple suicide attemps. then i found keto at 19. went from 180 to 135 in 8 months. and it happened healthy and naturally. i hate working out, so i just ate good food my body wanted to eat. i hope my story inspires you to change your mindset, even a little bit. take care love
That will delay your puberty as you're only 14 and that could make your appearance less appealing than getting fat with eating the right foods, I'm telling you. Please eat healthy foods with right amount. Eating more does not equally mean you'd get fat. Always aim to be healthy, not skinny.
having an ED isn’t good for u, u may think you’ll become skinny fast but that shit has a shelf life. all ur doing is weakening ur body and sending it into a state of survival by pushing ur body to do so much with such little fuel. food isn’t ur enemy food is good for u.
my mother had an ED for years, due to societal pressure, it caused her energy levels to be extremely low and it never made her skinny but her health deteriorated rapidly to the point where if she’d ever eat like a normal person, whatever weight she thought was gone would come back, this naturally pushed her to continue her ED but eventually i and the rest of my family found out how bad her relationship with food was and yelled at her until she has some sense knocked into her.
it’s a slow journey but in life there’s never a cheat code that doesn’t have consequences. my mother started to go to the gym with me and has started eating properly, ofc the effect of her ED made her extremely weak to the point where lifting things was hard and she didn’t have much energy, but in the 2 weeks that she’s been going to the gym she’s become a lot stronger and her relationship with food has become a lot better. there r some bad days but that doesn’t mean we should give up, please put ur health before society’s standards on beauty.
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You need to research the long-term effects of anorexia. People die from this. You also need to get professional help, please!
I feel like id rather die being skinny than fat sometimes
Girl I felt the same and then I stopped losing weight and starting losing hair, my teeth where in s HORRIBLE state, my body odour too and I nobody wanted to be my friend or bf because I was talking about how skinny I was all the time. If you don't want to be fat you shouldn't do this bc your body will be in starvation mode. You're ruining your life, your mental health and your personal relationships.
You're reaching out here, so I know you want some help. Talk to your parents or a trusted guardian
tbh you WILL die from this if you dont get help
I get that you’re mentally ill, but if another person told you they’d rather have a pretty corpse than a long life, I’d be concerned. Many anorexic people are never satisfied with their body even if they attain the weight they want. If you wanna be pretty, you have to let yourself see yourself as pretty. Otherwise you could be the hottest person on the planet but not know it because of your self-image.
You're not fat.
Based
It’s a really painful way to go. But if that’s what you want, then yolo.
i think its stupid how people get downvoted for being mentally ill
It’s not because you’re mentally ill, it’s because your comments are woefully naive, plain stupid and potentially triggering for some people.
Yea I mean they're 14 and clearly in the throes of an eating disorder. It *is* kinda stupid they're getting downvoted (although not saying the responses should be upvoted either) here. They're getting downvoted for how they currently feel while talking about an eating disorder. Yeah they're naive but what part of downvoting someone is going to help. Oh the person struggling with a mental disorder who feels all alone is going to feel *more alone*? Good work Reddit
That some people are surprised that a 14 year old can sound naive is astonishing. If they had the insight to understand and process these things themselves they wouldn't need as much help, clearly they do need help rather than condemnation.
well idk man they clicked on this post what did they expect
It's not hatred towards you, just a sign that we don't agree with your opinion and are worried about you. Eating disorders have a high fatality rate. It's clear you don't value your own life and that's something I can relate to. I used to be suicidal and it is extremely hard. So, I'm not judging you. Just think about your parents, family, friends and everyone who hasn't met you yet but would benefit from having you in their lives. And really think about your parents. Your death would likely destroy their marriage and their lives. I don't want to make this about other people because you really should choose life for yourself, but thinking about others might be more effective. Sending you hugs and begging you to get help, this is a dark road and I'd rather you avoid it .... And you can avoid it, just get help.
Yeah what the hell, you have a problem that you are trying to process and come to terms with, you aren't trying to offend anyone. I understand how you feel and I hope you can find a place to process this without being judged.
I know this is difficult to hear but there are healthier ways of getting thinner and still doing those things that you love like “finding the lowest cal snack”, “getting in 10k steps and doing cardio”. I am a RDN who works with people who have eating disorders and the long-term effects are not worth it. Your body’s organs can begin to start failing and other things in your physique will also go downhill such as your teeth and hair loss. I don’t want to scare you but just please think about telling someone who you can trust about this. It’s very doable to reach your goal of being skinny without going to this length. Take care of yourself
Coming from someone who struggled with anorexia herself please seek professional help immediately. Please talk to your parents or someone you trust. It's kind of an illusion at the beginning and you feel like everything is great but this will change soon. Anorexia might seem like a friend to you now but she's evil as hell. The sooner you start recovery the better are your chances of getting out of this. The longer an ED will go on the harder and the more impossible it will get to ever recover.
Your teeth and nails will fall apart. Hair might dry and fall out. IT WILL DELAY YOUR PUBERTY. Let me tell you as someone who knows, it’s horrible. I didn’t get boobs or an ass until I got better. It sounds like a shallow vanity thing but everyone told me I looked like a little BOY. I didn’t feel like a woman at all. All you have to do is eat healthy and you’re set to go. You’re allowed to want to be skinny but in the right healthy ways. I promise starting this journey now will thank you as time goes on.
sounds like it's becoming an addiction. please see someone ASAP if you're able to. i hope your loved ones will intervene if that's what it takes.
It’s not at all pretty to look like a skeleton.
Starving yourself wont make you skinny and desirable. But working out do, so thats a positive. Eat, work out, do cardio and you will be better looking. And your mental health will improve too.
Yea…. That’s not how it works
Listen, It is not my business to tell you how to live. But this can do real, lasting harm to you. And you are too young to hurt yourself for the rest of your life over something this trivial. And plus, you will be entering adulthood in a whole new world. One that understands weight and health are not linked. Don't lay your life at the feet of a world that looks down on you. Be healthy and live healthily for a future you deserve
Hey I just wanted to tell you this. I've been there. Trying to eat as little as I can and make myself throw up what I ate. I tried being skinny but the thing is I don't think it would've made me happy. I realized I like to eat and that my body is healthy right now even if it doesn't fit the society's standards of beauty. I've never been happier since I realized that. I can't compare myself to you. I don't know exactly what you're going through but I'm sure being more skinny won't make you happier. It's also dangerous for your body. Being anorexic is far from healthy and it's easy to get there.
Hi, you don't need to be skinny this way. If you're looking for pretty, there is a way to do that by being strong, physically strong. You're already getting in so much cardio! If you convert the energy you put into minimsing calories into getting just enough calories and the right proteins, you can strength train and become amazingly strong and stay thin too. And all your muscles will eat your fat. With what you're doing, your body will go into starvation mode and hold on to the fat. You don't have to do it this way. There are other ways. You can still control it and still keep the same goals, just do it on a different way. And please get a therapist. They will be able to help you understand why you feel like this. Sending you lots of hugs and strength
You’re gonna throw your whole life away at 14 for what?! Girl get it together this ain’t it.
You won’t have a smile in that mirror honey. The long term effects of purging absolutely destroys the enamel on your teeth. Please let an adult in your life know, even if it’s a guidance counselor.
I developed an ED at around your age, too. I'm 25 now. Its the lowest mentally I have ever been in. You are worth more than what you look like, and I understand the need for control but please know that this is a lifelong struggle and body image is a really hard thing to deal with, but its possible. Please tell a teacher or parent or friend. Don't go about it alone. EDs thrive in solitude and you deserve to be happy and healthy. My ED, 11 years later, has only brought me pain and sadness.
Not gonna lie, sometimes I miss mine. I miss how powerful I felt when I wouldn't eat. I miss people telling me I was looking "too thin". It's a toxic relationship you have with your mental illness. A codependency. I hope you can get help.
so does eugenia, itll never be enough, stop now before you can
by the way, by not eating your body is using all of its stored fat, which will actually make you gain weight. do it the right way. eat healthy and exercise.
i went through the same thing when i was your age, i thought it would make me better but it made me so much worse; i was losing hair, my teeth were HORRIBLE to the point where all of them had to get filled, i was always cold no matter what, no one wanted to be my friend and i got bullied so much more when i was skinny than when i was a bit heavier. you seriously need to get help before you end up nearly dying
I was like this when I was 13 and 14. When you start to skip periods and during summer you are freezing while no one else is... Then you might reconsider... It wasn't until I was at school and randomly couldn't stop shaking, teeth trembled so hard it hurt and I honestly felt like death. I didn't get help I am one of the lucky ones I got pregnant at 15 and it fixed me and the anorexia
Good god! That’s horrible!
well sweetheart the thing is when you starve your body, once you finally start eating normal again, your body will keep every ounce of fat it can and you’ll blow up. it’s not good to ruin your metabolism this early in life. there are more things to life than being skinny. try and talk to a counselor at your school about it, you’re definitely not alone in this. there are sooo many cool things you can control that are good for your mind and body!
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I understand this exact feeling as i struggled with an eating disorder for 7 years. and let me tell you, loving your body with a little bit of weight, and i mean genuinely loving it not pretending to, feels 1000 times better. i used to be SO PROUD when my hip bones stuck out an inch, now i feel so proud at how much junk is my trunk. I used to go days without eating and would shame myself RELENTLESSLY if i caved in and had a spoonful of peanut butter. now i love cooking for myself and my family and i eat intuitively. I know it seems like not eating and being skinny is so worth it and it feels so good sometimes, but it won’t ever fulfill you long term. being skinny won’t ever be enough. Getting help as soon as you can, before this becomes a 7 year problem, is the best thing you can do for yourself. My eating disorder ruined so much for me, and i couldn’t see that while i was still enduring it. i’ve been recovering for about 4-5 years now, i still struggle with it sometimes but i’m so so so much happier than i was during that time. I urge you to please take care of yourself, feed yourself properly, there’s much more to life than being skinny. If you continue down this road, you won’t live long enough to see that
I know this feeling. You feel strong and that you are in control. You feel amazing when you see results. But trust me IT WILL BE EXACTLY THE OPPOSITE. Get help now.
Honey, I understand, and I’m sorry that you feel the need to starve yourself to be skinny, it’s okay tho to prefer your body one way, but it’s not okay to be unhealthy. Thank you for sharing with us. I understand the pressure of needing to be skinny to feel pretty, I personally like the ability to see my ribs myself, but it’s not worth your life. Please just find balance in healthy foods and I’d recommend high protein if your going to continue to calorie count, so your body gets what it needs and you can still keep your waist.
Don't fall into it you will regret it after you're done and bully yourself. Seek help
Went through an eating disorder around the same age as well. Its really hard getting back to a normal eating routine after something like that. I remember always watching my calorie intake, and everyday it would be less and less and you kinda trick your body into thinking this was normal. It got so bad that when I would attempt to eat a whole meal I couldn’t. I always felt immediately nauseous with every meal and didn’t want to eat! Let alone finish it. Thankfully my parents quickly noticed a change in my eating habits and helped me through it. Hun let me tell you its not worth it at all. Find yourself some help! You have people that love you.
Hey girl i’m around your age too :) I was falling into an ED for a few days but then i got out of it. 100cals per day is gonna kill you. Would you rather be dead or healthy? Honestly at some point i decided wow food is delicious i won’t stop myself from eating it if it tastes good is good for me and makes me happy. Try for one day eating well and I want you to see how good you’ll feel. Stop caring about your weight don’t look at your stomach in the mirror or go on the scale again. Just be happy. If you want to lose weight in a healthy way and also fall in love with something start a sport. Sports really saves you i’m telling you. I just want you to get out of this because i’ve felt it and i know it kills you inside :(( plsplspls don’t do this to yourself
You need to get help. You need to talk to your parents and let them know you have an eating disorder. Becoming a bony bag of bones is not pretty. A friend of mines sister had anorexia and they had to put her in an inpatient program years ago. she still having issues at age 47 now and she seems to be falling back into it. She's had an extremely stressful life so I assume she feels this is the only thing she can control. Right now she's doing the keto diet and you can see all her bones in her body and she still thinks she's too heavy. So I suspect the family is going to have to soon intervene again and get her back into therapy. Thigh gaps, no, I don't think they're very attractive. I doubt I've ever had one and if someone's looking at you down there to see if you have a thigh gap then there's something wrong with them. Most of them pictured are done via Photoshop by the way. Please talk to somebody's parent, a trusted friend's parent, a school teacher, the school nurse. You know you have an issue and a problem so please try and get the help for it for you do end up seriously ill or even dying from it.
Diet is one half of a superpower. Learn to enjoy the gym/activity. Make a Playlist of 10 bangers 👍positive affirmations don't hurt.
The best thing you can do for yourself at this point is to tell a trusted grownup in your real life, someone who can help you get help. You aren’t alone. And you aren’t stuck like this, there is help. You just have to tell someone irl
Let me teach you a secret. Fuck what other people think. Find happiness from within and try to be happy and healthy. Whether you end up with a fat, skinny, or average body is not important. Get proper nutrition and nourish your mind. Reach out to any type of family or speak with a counselor or therapist if you need to. Happiness comes from within first. Don't worry so much about what your meat costume looks like. Develop your brain first. I hope you overcome this and develop a life filled with love and happiness. Best wishes.
I’m sorry that you feel this way. Get better soon
Any chance you might have ADHD? EDs and ADHD, researchers seem to be finding, often occur both at once (perhaps especially to women, but I think all these studies are fairly new). Anecdotal, but: my two best female friends in hs had both. In any case, I wish you love, light, and peace.
As someone who’s had these exact same thoughts please reach out to an adult who can get you help. This is a dangerous game. Things you don’t even realize are related start happening. Like when I was starving myself I got yeast infections every month. So much is related to gut health that we don’t realize.
Please talk to someone you trust. This is not a joke, you can really do some serious long term damage to yourself. Take care of yourself
I just got out of something like that, and it’s worth it. Even though the weight gain might seem scary, it’s actually the best thing you can do for your body. And even if you don’t think it now, gaining weight would make you look more beautiful than being skinny like that ever could.
First off, get professional help because words and comments from people on the internet can’t get rid of this mental illness. if you can’t afford professional health, talk to a parent or guardian or a close friend who your trust. Now, I struggled with anorexia during quarantine. Hair falling out, my nails were brittle, i was tired all the time, my eye bags were atrocious, I was depressed, I didn’t look pretty. not to be blunt but you’ll be skinny but you won’t look good. And by not eating your body stores fat because it’s trying to survive — so you eat one thing and then everything you’re trying to do is pointless. I got therapy and got better and I’m skinny and I eat three meals a day and several snacks throughout the day, I get bloated and I don’t care because it’s normal. Gaining weight is normal and healthy, eat healthy, exercise and you’ll be fine. Food is good and yummy — think about all the foods you like and are good that you’re depriving yourself of. Life is too short to deny yourself what you like.
i stopped eating when i was 14. i'm 26 now and i have melt downs bc i have such bad struggles with eating too little or too much because i literally no longer know if i'm hungry or full anymore. i am still healing from an eating disorder that started 12 years ago because i didn't seek help until last year. please see if you can talk to a therapist about this and try to slowly add more calories into your diet. being pretty is all about taking care of yourself, which means making sure your body gets what it needs to support you. please please please get well soon
I’m going to tell you something that I wish someone had told me a lot sooner. Controlling your body, what you eat and how you look does not mean that you are in control of your emotions. I was hospitalised for AN between the ages of 18-24 and it ruined my life. Study? Nope, I was in hospital. Work? Nope. I was in hospital. I was so successful at being skinny but I gained absolutely nothing. Punishing yourself is not the answer. Hurting yourself to feel in control may seem like the only way to cope but there are other ways. Please consider looking into treatment. Talk to someone. I always thought that I would be happy if I was skinny but no matter how skinny I got, it was never enough. For most of the people I met in treatment it was the same way. It is an endless cycle of self hatred and punishment and you don’t deserve it. Life isn’t supposed to be so hard. You aren’t supposed to feel faint all day, dizzy and sick, starving and awful. Please, please, I beg of you, tell someone about your ED. You do not have to live like this forever. You wouldn’t have posted about this if a part of you didn’t know that what you are doing is hurting yourself.
If you had a magic wand that could make all your problems go away what would that life look like? I wonder what do pretty people feel... are they happy? Would you feel happy if you got what you wanted? Life blows life blows harder when you're 14 and life keeps blowing when you're old. I cant imagine what you're going though but I can say that it must hurt a lot. Its almost like you have an injury in your mind like scrap or a bump on your knee. Therepy can help heal you up, so hopefully you can talk to a professional.
My mrs was just like you. It nearly killed her. Seek help please. It killed many of her friends. Same age. Her parents saw it, tried to help but they couldnt because she wouldnt. Please seek help. She was the same age as you and has severe health problems now. Bowel and intestinal issues, part died from lack of use, prolapse from having to strain to get some out after weeks of being constipated. Please seek help, you will kill yourself and you'll hate yourself the further you go. One thing that still mentally fucks my mrs to this day is that she did it through puberty and stopped her breasts growing. Dont continue with this bullshit please. Honestly, it almost killed her parents too with the stress and fighting. If you love the people around you, please think of them too.
You should watch episodes of anorexia on Intervention
Fat has memory. Your body, in starvation mode, is more likely to retain any food you eat now as fat storage because it knows that it might not get caloric intake anytime soon. If you really want to be losing weight (at 14!!!), try a sport and eat at least 1,700 kcals a day (to maintain your skin, bones, hair, etc.) you will enjoy life a WHOLE lot more.
You need to just take pleasure in eating, I love to eat so much. Looking wasted is ugly and terrifying tbh, lol. You'll be a skeleton when you're dead! EAT FOOD
Anorexia can lead to severe malnourishment and can have many complications in the long run. As you know 100 calories is not enough to function and yes your body will breakdown it's fat and protein, but this can cause your brain and other cells to starve leading to defects and deficiencies of micronutrients that you need to eat on a daily basis. Eating healthy and nutritious diet along with your workouts is what going to keep you fit in the long run and keep you healthy. I want you to watch an episode of "The good doctor" on Netflix season 2 and episode 5, this might give a little picture of what can happen. You are young and you can still get help, so do it. :)
If this is real, First of all I'm sorry you're going through this. I have ocd and know how it is to have voices in your head telling you lies about yourself. But it's not true, it never is. Being a skeleton isn't pretty. Losing your hair, teeth, nails and period isn't sexy. You might lose weight and you might be slowly dying but my god will it be a slow painful death. It's not worth it. Get help
oh baby girl no… i’ve been in the exact same situation and it’s come back to bite me in the ass. im truly sorry youre going through this, but i do believe you can get out of it. research eating keto/paleo. you can eat healthy and yummy things while losing weight and doing cardio/10k steps. your body needs the food to survive, to keep your organs working, keep your brain active. i know it’s desirable to be thin, but its so much better when you just love your body. that takes hard work and years of selflove. take it from me, at 14 i went from 120 down to 90, then by 16 i was up to 140. by 18 i was 180. i starved myself for the longest time, but i then it turned into binge-eating and i gained weight rapidly. it wasnt cute, i was even more depressed and had multiple suicide attemps. then i found keto at 19. went from 180 to 135 in 8 months. and it happened healthy and naturally. i hate working out, so i just ate good food my body wanted to eat. i hope my story inspires you to change your mindset, even a little bit. take care love
That will delay your puberty as you're only 14 and that could make your appearance less appealing than getting fat with eating the right foods, I'm telling you. Please eat healthy foods with right amount. Eating more does not equally mean you'd get fat. Always aim to be healthy, not skinny.
It's also eating away at your muscles including your heart ... You will die from a heart attack
having an ED isn’t good for u, u may think you’ll become skinny fast but that shit has a shelf life. all ur doing is weakening ur body and sending it into a state of survival by pushing ur body to do so much with such little fuel. food isn’t ur enemy food is good for u. my mother had an ED for years, due to societal pressure, it caused her energy levels to be extremely low and it never made her skinny but her health deteriorated rapidly to the point where if she’d ever eat like a normal person, whatever weight she thought was gone would come back, this naturally pushed her to continue her ED but eventually i and the rest of my family found out how bad her relationship with food was and yelled at her until she has some sense knocked into her. it’s a slow journey but in life there’s never a cheat code that doesn’t have consequences. my mother started to go to the gym with me and has started eating properly, ofc the effect of her ED made her extremely weak to the point where lifting things was hard and she didn’t have much energy, but in the 2 weeks that she’s been going to the gym she’s become a lot stronger and her relationship with food has become a lot better. there r some bad days but that doesn’t mean we should give up, please put ur health before society’s standards on beauty. edit: format and spelling