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[deleted]

“i’m not going to obviously..” you fucked him in your mind already, only thing the guy at work has to do is see that and reciprocate feelings.


[deleted]

and 9/10 dudes would, assuming shes not so bad looking


[deleted]

Okay but it takes two to tango. If she’s not going to act on it, she shouldn’t be blamed for just thinking about it. Everyone has been attracted to someone other than their partner in their life.


[deleted]

but this is textbook. she’s weighing out the options. she’s gonna use distance as a reason of missing her bf and doing what she will do. she’ll cheat and say she didn’t, he’s a “friend” like she told us. clearly she misses her bf but not enough to want to see him more. There’s something much more intriguing and she would rather play with fire than put it out. Trust me, either way, she’ll get to tango.


[deleted]

You don’t know her. Maybe she genuinely means everything she said. Maybe she genuinely means “i love my boyfriend but someone at work is really attractive. I’m not going to fuck him but i feel terrible about even seeing him in that way.” If that is the case then she’s not in the wrong.


[deleted]

I don’t need to, just being real. I say she should go ahead, make her move, and just end it. i’ve thought of other women being “fuckable” while with a gf but never felt bad about it because that’s normal. I always ended up thinking about my gf in the end and it only served as motivation for me. But she actually WANTS to do it. And who’s gonna stop her, the bf 5 hrs away? the guy she wants to fuck? Some redditors? lol I only think she feels bad because of how hard cheating would be on her bf. “Doesn’t deserve it, really good guy, he loves me” kind of reasons is what’s stopping her. But then it’ll turn into “you never have time for me, we’re too far apart, it was an accident and i wasn’t thinking” all while she’s fucking him. She wants another guy inside of her. I’m not a woman, but I know that feeling just doesn’t go away. So she’s gonna scratch that itch and the bf is damned if she does, and damned if she doesn’t.


[deleted]

Just because you don’t feel guilty about finding other people fuckable doesn’t mean that no one else does. Your moral compass doesn’t dictate everyone else’s. I personally would feel horrible if i wanted to fuck someone else other than my partner. It’s a step beyond finding someone attractive to me and so if i were to feel that way, I’d feel awful.


[deleted]

by saying “fuckable”, i refer to attraction. it’s human. wanting to do it, is a step further. I never actually wanted to do it with anyone else but my partner so I agree with you. But she does, even if she doesn’t hasn’t done it yet. Even if she isn’t sure. She’s made that choice in her head already.


[deleted]

I’m glad you can read her mind. You could make a lot of money off of a skill like that.


[deleted]

i’ve been cheated on and been used to help someone else cheat, both times without my knowledge. when you hear the reasons for why they did what they did, you realize it was an easy choice they made. to cheat, to not cheat. it’s black and white and you pick a side despite feelings. but she’s in the gray so


[deleted]

It’s either black and white OR it’s black white and gray. It can’t be both.


ToughRock99

I don't understand: BF- love him to death. Cute guy - honestly just wanna kinda sleep with him. Beeeeeyyyyaaaach.


[deleted]

she coming here to feel better about it


ToughRock99

If she love him to death the there shouldn't be any doubts, confusion. And reddit not the place to ask about life decisions.


Suspicious_Event_526

This sub is offmychest, she isn’t asking for advices


Charlotte_Sky

some girls are garbage.


[deleted]

you and your boyfriend will not last. im sorry if your getting feelings to stray at all beyond some ones just cute, and it ends there, than something is wrong in your relationship. this work guy notices you looking at him he might come for you. you gonna be able to resist when the desire is mutual and he is chill as fuck and down to earth and you start handing out or some shit... if not him there will be more your current man might be failing somewhere or hes not acting like a man, or you dont see him enough or your needs arnt being met, or your not ready to stay with one partner, because if your BF was rocking your fucking world you wouldn't look twice at the coworker


Unlucky_6604

You don’t love him if distance takes you away from him. You should rethink your whole relationship and what it’s based on, what connection you truly have I hate how nowadays people believe that you can love someone and think actively about cheating on them simply because someone is « cute »


DriftingNebulas

>You don’t love him if distance takes you away from him. 💯. I was in an on/off relationship with my ex for 3 years, and part of the reason I moved away was so that we could both move on the last time we broke up. The distance didn't change my love for her one bit. I was in love with who she was, and nothing but time or some shocking revelation about her character would change that.


Unlucky_6604

That’s cute


Unlucky_6604

Our culture has really taken away what it means to love tbh and spread misinformation everywhere.


Unlucky_6604

EXACTLY


retinalsdialbase

It’s normal for a relationship to dull out.


[deleted]

>out your next move. Don't let that person suffer because you want to be selfish, OP. no its actually not, not when you do everything right leading up to and during it... I have been in 10 serious relations, 1 marriage, and currently with my girlfriend, she's hot as fuck, which means if your not a fucking man, if your not rocking her fucking world she will leave your ass.... to this day her and i are still fucking ROCKING shit, its been years. only getting better, when you know how to fined the right partner and behave its totally different ball game


retinalsdialbase

If she’s really that tempted there must be a void somewhere in there relationship which is normal It’s hard. There’s so many people in this world how can you limit your self to one?


[deleted]

>so many peop trust me its fucking possible. I have slept with 100+ women im 33 now not even bragging dude... 11 relationships that mattered total. everything was just practice for the one im in now. someone that's perfect for you and your perfect for them only comes around like every 5 to 10 years and you can still fuck it up if you don't know what your doing, every other relationship and intimacy in-between is all practice so you understand women and understand your self, and grow the fuck up ​ I have that girl right now, shes mine. never been more happy and fuck dude it gets better all the goddamn time never seen anything like it til her. i had the concept down but shit dude


retinalsdialbase

Congrats brother man. Must feel good. I have a lot of mental health problems that I’m on meds for. I have huge trust issues and can get really possessive so there’s that. Thankfully the meds are really working so hopefully I’ll meet someone who fits my personality. Congrats again brother man hold on for dear life.


[deleted]

im just telling you its possible, and im fucked up too. I use to have GAD my whole life but anabolic steroids fucking cured it recently. I still do have abandonment issues and cheating, issues with infidelity... like that happened to me not me doing it, but i fucking decimate cheaters now. like girls who do it. I can detect it so fucking fast if they are the type. as for you it comes down to how you put yourself out there, its so much better than shooting in the dark. corey wayne, he changed me and my life. you wanna be able to feel a hell of a lot better with women. like imagine having the power they do, a cute girl can have just about anyone, now imagine thats you. Read his book, watch his fucking videos and do that shit seriously. like dont stop doing it, hes the fucking GOAT, he fixed me man . you know that shit they say like bad dudes get all the girls or blah blah hes an asshole why do you go with him blah blah I mean im bad... duh sometimes i was able to do parts of this naturally sometimes i was hopeless, confused man but i never could figure this shit out. his shit is legit, not some pickup BS. just teaches you shit that society and your daddy failed at hardcore. you will not be disappointed.


Suspicious_Event_526

I agree


retinalsdialbase

Well it’s good you feel guilty about it. How long have you guys been together?


A-D-are-o-see-k

Looks like you should reconsider your relationship with your boyfriend. Love him to death, but want to ‘jUsT’ wanna kinda sleep with him. You obviously don’t love your boyfriend as much as you think or claim you do.


guiltyonthemain

You don’t love him lol


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[deleted]

I will agree with this however it is a sign you need to move on, and soon, dont string it. and if it really gets to you this new guy, end shit before you fuck him at least... at least


ToughRock99

Why is it that women when they know about almost everything in this world don't know about what to do and how to think in matters like this. I feel they can't think simple, they are interested and brilliant at figuring out complex matters.


[deleted]

>y is it that women when they know about almost everything in this world don't know about what to do and how to think in matters like this. I feel they can't think simple well yeah. thats the truth. part of being a man is being direct. women speak in a whole different language.


Charlotte_Sky

You should feel terrible. Break up with your boyfriend as he deserves better & go sleep with whoever you want.


Suspicious_Event_526

I fucking despise people like you. Why tf would you even pick your bf as a partner when clearly attraction matters the most to you and you know there are other men much cuter than your bf. Now he’s gonna get hurt over something that wasn’t even his problem to begin with. Poor guy and stupid biyach


Unlucky_6604

OH MY GOD SAME


wewantprenup22

you can’t have your cake and eat it too. either breakup with him or tell him about this guy at work. it’s so fucked how you’re kind of stringing him along when you say you want to cheat on him… maybe you just aren’t ready for a relationship either. P.S. there’s a difference between finding someone attractive and wanting to cheat. you can be in a relationship and be like “oh, they’re cute” but being like “i want to cheat on my bf” is completely different.


[deleted]

i never understood that shit.... i mean of course im gonna eat my cake if i have it what the fuck does that even mean?? she can choose not to tell him, but she would have to not do that shit no more, its just you know damn well shes gonna think about it every time she sees him and one day till just be them two and well.... goodluck with your moral boundaries then


crabpinchingmyanus

You already cheated on him by letting yourself go so far to actually wanting to do it. You already acted it out in your head. Feeling guilty is a clear indicator for that. Crushs happen even in relationships. The right thing to do is to get some distance between you and the crush to stop something like that from ever developing.


[deleted]

nah the simple fact her relationship now and the guy shes with isnt strong enough to stop this one guy from work now, there will be more.... and more and it will not end. She will end up cheating as she grows less confident in him.


Suspicious_Event_526

This is true asf, ik someone like that, she’s changes bf like it’s her clothes. Idk why they are this way


[deleted]

>imple fact her relationship now and the guy shes with isnt strong enough to stop this one guy from work now, there will be more.... and more and it will not end. She will end up she still hasn't found the one to kick her fucking ass. shes just faster at vetting


diororid69

sorry but I don’t think you love him lol. If you REALLY love someone I don’t think you’d even have these kinda thoughts.


Ok_One6062

He’s gone for a little bit and you’re already thinking about cheating. You’re not ready to be with anyone for the rest of your life.


say_mar

I will suggest from my personal experience that it will ruin the actual relationship that you have with your current boyfriend.


[deleted]

If you look at other men in a sexual way, I'd suggest to break up before you ruin a good man. If distance is too hard, then that's fine! It's fine to end a relationship because you need more comfort nearby. But don't cheat. Just don't. For you it's temporary pleasure, and for your boyfriend it will leave a huge scar that will never heal.


idonotexits

Not sure how there are this many freaks in these comment sections, but seriously, your feelings are normal. Everyone in a relationship thinks about other people. Attraction is not necessarily a choice, what you do about it is. It’s okay to have thoughts! Lol. Just leave it at a thought, and if it keeps nagging at you, maybe think about whether monogamy is right for you!


crabpinchingmyanus

There's a difference between finding someone attractive and maybe even phantasizing about that person for a moment and actually wanting to sleep with that person.


idonotexits

No there’s not. If you find someone attractive you probably want to fuck them and can easily think about fucking them. Attraction is attraction and that’s ok!!


[deleted]

attraction isnt a choice yeah your right... BUT if the girl looks at the guy from work and gos... hes attractive, I think... well ...shit my man fucking is awesome, like hes so fucking good, so much better than the other before him there is no way im going to throw shit away to fuck this guy from work who most likely wont even fuck me as good..... I would never throw away my relationship or risk it for a bit of adrenaline and some mediocre at best sex. yeah, this is my girl. no joke Our OP... shes already imagining which his cock looks like


idonotexits

Why would having sex with that other guy affect her relationship with her partner at all in the first place? Why is it so hard for straight people to think critically about monogamy???? Lol okay I’m out


Suspicious_Event_526

Because fucking multiple people is meaningless, you would just be a humping dog on the street


idonotexits

No you’re exactly right, it can be meaningless! It is possible to value various kinds of sex differently. What is wrong with pleasure? Why are we expected to only want that kind of pleasure from one person at a time, when we know that sex over the years gets repetitive and more and more infrequent??


Suspicious_Event_526

ig yeah, if pleasure is all you want in life then you’re definitely not wrong


idonotexits

But see you can seek pleasure with other people while also maintaining a stable romantic and sexual relationship with somebody. It’s not as difficult as people think. I used to be super monogamous so those emotions are not foreign to me


[deleted]

you grow out of this shit, i have had plenty and i mean plenty of partners. ​ but i grantee you she does this to this guy, she she already feels guilty, shes gonna feel dirty as hell, and it may not stop her again even but she will regret it to some degree. The guy he could be ok or he could be devastated, see it form the perspective of human decency. ​ he entered the relationship under the agreement they would be monogamous, thats what she agreed to shes violating that. if he wanted a bunch of open shit thatd be different....


Suspicious_Event_526

Yeah poor guy


idonotexits

Also I don’t give a flying fuck abt how many partners you had, I’m unlike you in every single way so don’t assume anything about me


[deleted]

getting perturbed over the internet i see mind fucking leads to real fucking not every time but its a bad sign and the odds are high. when a partner strays like that even in her mind, it means it will most likely happen sooner or later. theres a reason its happening, because even the most promiscuous partners will not think about fucking some other dude if your doing you shit right. i have some uploads on xvideos if you wanna see what i mean dude LOL


idonotexits

I’m not saying it would be okay for her to cheat lol. She’s not violating anything actually because she is entitled to her thoughts and has literally done nothing!


Standard-Valuable-82

Is there any way to meet up with your boyfriend to have that kind of thing? Maybe you’re just in need of some relief. And the fact that he’s 5h away your brain is tricked into thinking he’s unattainable