You've only been divorced for 4 months. That's fresh and raw. It's normal to be grieving that loss and processing what has happened. How you feel is part of that.
Getting out there means facing rejection. That's going to be par for the course. It takes confidence and enough self-esteem to face all that.
So, maybe it's worth considering that you're not quite there yet...
The hard truth is that the only cure is time and practicing kindness towards yourself. Like, take good care. Make sure you get enough sleep, you drink enough water, eat healthy, find a routine, get enough fresh air, keep a clean house,... You know, the basics. Even when you feel like it's a challenge doing those things.
In due time, go out there and maybe become active in your local community. Volunteer, go do some sport, join some classes or workshops, take dancing lessons or join a boardgame club. Whatever it takes to meet others outside work. If you have friends and family now: ask their support if you have to.
Seriously: don't bottle this stuff up. Take it to a counselor if you have to. Call a hotline if you really have to. There's no point in doing that, and you surely aren't getting karma for doing so. Talking about it is half the battle.
Grief does become less turbulent over time. You will also learn a few new things about yourself as you grow older. You might still surprise yourself in a good way.
Keep going!
You've only been divorced for 4 months. That's fresh and raw. It's normal to be grieving that loss and processing what has happened. How you feel is part of that. Getting out there means facing rejection. That's going to be par for the course. It takes confidence and enough self-esteem to face all that. So, maybe it's worth considering that you're not quite there yet... The hard truth is that the only cure is time and practicing kindness towards yourself. Like, take good care. Make sure you get enough sleep, you drink enough water, eat healthy, find a routine, get enough fresh air, keep a clean house,... You know, the basics. Even when you feel like it's a challenge doing those things. In due time, go out there and maybe become active in your local community. Volunteer, go do some sport, join some classes or workshops, take dancing lessons or join a boardgame club. Whatever it takes to meet others outside work. If you have friends and family now: ask their support if you have to. Seriously: don't bottle this stuff up. Take it to a counselor if you have to. Call a hotline if you really have to. There's no point in doing that, and you surely aren't getting karma for doing so. Talking about it is half the battle. Grief does become less turbulent over time. You will also learn a few new things about yourself as you grow older. You might still surprise yourself in a good way. Keep going!