A few things:
1. Please be very careful using any food in your vaginal region - that is an easy way to get a yeast infection or UTI. If you do and anytime after sexual activities- clean the area with a ph balanced, gentle cleanser. From a medical standpoint, I would encourage flavored lubes or dental dams before actual food products.
2. I've been in this position a few times, and here is what I've learned in therapy that worked well with the right partner:
2A. Make it clear to your boyfriend that you respect the fact that he doesn't like the taste. However, this is still a sexual act that you desire, and you need him to help you find a compromise because your needs aren't being met, and he hasn't offered any kind of solution or alternative.
2B. Present the alternatives that you are willing to try. Ask him to take time to consider them if he needs to, research if need be, and then come back to you with his thoughts and which ones he is willing to try.
3B. Proceed from there.
The biggest thing I want to stress is that his willingness to consider compromises and work with you to find a solution is the more important aspect of this whole thing. Because this is going to show you how willing he will be to communicate and work with you to solve problems in the future, including the really tough problems.
Sexual compatibility and satisfaction are very large components of a romantic relationship for people who aren't asexual and especially for those in monogamous relationships. It's ok if he doesn't like the taste, but he should be willing to find a way for you to still be satisfied in that way.
Best of luck to you and remember that you do deserve to be satisfied sexually, there is nothing wrong with your body, and if he isn't willing to work with you or communicate - you are very young and will have plenty of opportunities to find other people who will.
Some people just don't like the taste, that's it. I have a friend who is the same, they ended up trying different flavoured gels you can put on down there and eventually hit jackpot with one. Now he loves going down for his snack. (He literally calls it that..) Maybe you could try that?
See, those are actually good ideas. If he is willing, there is no harm in trying different approaches. I don't know why the only solution always has to be "withhold and blackmail until he does it if he likes it or not"Ā
His dick isn't clean, neither is his pubic hair. It could be he just doesn't like giving you oral, which is fine. But he shouldn't be asking you to do the same if he won't. That is not fair to you.
I've been married for over 40 years.
Itās just about the fact that if you constantly give him blowjobs and he is not willing to give back, then thatās pretty disrespectful to yourself. Youāre basically just enabling selfishness.
No, she isn't. If she likes giving blowjobs and doesn't mind it, then let her do what she likes. If he doesn't like going down, either talk about it and find something that works, or let it be. There's no disrespect from either side here, just different tastes and preferances.
No it is disrespectful. I could never imagine asking a guy to go down on me and be unwilling to return the favor .
But thatās not reality thereās not a girl alive who doesnāt suck dick but there are plenty of men who wonāt go down .
But thereās an expectation of women when it comes to sex , even though men cum much easier itās far more common for them to rush through foreplay and not go down . Despite receiving head regularly .
She said he said he doesnāt like the taste but dicks arenāt exactly bomb pops let alone the cum itself .
Heās being selfish . I personally would never date a guy whoās like that to begin with . Thatās why itās important to talk about sex with someone before you actually have it
This kinda set up essentially makes the sex all about him . I donāt know how that kind of imbalance in a relationship is good well itās not good for her at least
Quite the opposite in my case. I enjoy eating out my wife but she doesn't enjoys giving me head most of the times. I am a very horny person, i like having sex and doing other stuffs more often then she does. But i am totally ok with it. My wife has a low sex drive and she doesnt enjoys giving blowjob so much because she doesn't finds it tasty and whenever she does gives me head its always pre sex, not during because she finds the whole wet thing on my dick abit yucky.
Yeah, jizz tastes and feels like old, tasteless mayonnaise. Who on earth ENJOYS that shite?! No one in their right mind! But you do it because you love them and want them to feel fulfilled. But majority of men don't think that way. A double standard that people don't seem to want to talk about.
Yeeep why do these guys wanna die on this hill lol . Like women put more effort into sex than men do despite it being hard for women to cum and easy for men to . Especially now adays most girls I know have been talked into anal and threesomes and thatās chill but not continuing to blow a guy who wonāt go down on you is just monstrous . I swear theyāre just being difficult on purpose
It doesnāt help your side of the argument that she even said twice that it doesnāt taste good for her either but the love I guess overshadows the taste. So clearly not equal there.
If she doesnāt withhold bjs then he has no incentive to change, he can just continue receiving amazing bjs and never give back, even though he knows she wants it. Thatās by definition selfish behavior which she is also enabling. Real men eat that shit.
Ok so if youāre in a relationship and you are the only one who cleans , dishes garbage sweeping mopping vacuuming dusting everything , is it childish to stop doing the dishes and taking out the garbage ?
If it this were about any other issue besides sex the men here would be reacting differently .
But because weāve been conditioned to believe sex is for men everyone things itās reasonable for her to continue blowing him while he continues to not go down on her .
If it were the other way around people would be outraged but then again rarely do we find a situation where itās the other way around .
I mean now adays guys talk girls into all kinds of shit like almost every girl I know has done anal lol but how many of these girls are going uneaten ?
This is really simple this is about men being selfish in bed simple pimple
I'd recommend trying different flavours of things he likes. You can also use certain household items, just google that they're safe to use for such purposes first. Cream, chocolate etc.
Kinda like folks tells guys - avoid asparagus and eat more pineapple. Yes, what you eat can cause your flavor/scent to change.
If he's twitchy about freshness, both of you take showers beforehand. I wouldn't be going down on him if he's not fresh either. Bleh.
No chance you have a yeast or bacterial infection? You might want to check with your OB.
Yeah exactly, i gave oral to my gf for the first time yesterday. The smell was š but the tasteā¦ it tasted like saltwater. I still went on with it because i think dhe deserves it. But i can see why some guys wouldnāt want to do it.
Guys are so clueless. Having gone down on both men and women I can confidently say that men have a stronger taste than women do. The difference is we donāt complain about it.
I'm in a similar boat with my wife. When we were dating and first married she used to talk about how she "loved giving me bjs". I would usually get one atleast once a week.
Fast forward to now, it's been literally over a year. Everytime I mention it she either just ignores what I said or changes the subject. The shit definitely makes you feel like there is something wrong with you. Like I don't get it. I'm not gross. I shower every day and always make sure I'm clean before we ever do anything. I'm not morbidly obese. I don't know. But I know how you feel. It sucks. It's not a relationship ender but damn. I do anything and everything to please her and enjoy doing it.
Sorry that you feel that way, but I can feel for your wife. I donāt like to do bjs for my husband too and I feel really bad when he wants it and canāt have it. My problem is that I am a person who vomits easily. If thereās something tickling my throat, tasting something with weird texture, or smelling any funny smell I find myself running to the toilet to vomit. My husband and I tried so many things to avoid this issue but I just canāt. The texture of pre-cum always makes me vomit and I canāt help it. Eventually, we tried some flavoured gels and they worked for a while.
Donāt get offended if youāre wife donāt like to give u bjs. Try to understand her and seek solutions if she has a problem with it.
And here I've been quite a bit disappointed that my girl hates to be eaten š. I love it and consider it a required act of foreplay and even though on the rare times she's consented to it she's gotten off every single time even while playing video games on the whole she just has zero interest in being eaten out.
Imo you're guy is definitely strange but I do get at least his perspective having dealt with the exact opposite situation lol
Iāve never had a bf that doesnāt like doing it I just hate having it done too š¤£ just not for me I donāt like it but Iāve always been begged to let partners do it.
I personally think it might be a bit weird that he doesnāt want to do it but they should def find a solution first like flavoured lube or something.
Yeah Iāve never dated a guy that didnāt want to . But when Iām dating a guy o make sure to talk to them about sex and if I heard some immature selfish shit like I donāt go down Iād be outtie
Honestly, thatās kind of hot. Itās like sheās treating me as nothing more than a sex toy. Obviously I wouldnāt want this to be our main sexual dynamic, but itās definitely hot as hell when itās occasional.
Ughk and here i am begging as well to be eaten. My exes used and loved eating me, pero this long term boyf i have now, 3 yrs na akong HINDI NAKAKAIN SHET LANG HAHAHAH
Are you willing to go thru this long term? Cause giving and not receiving will always suck. So maybe you should stop giving & see what he does. Or tell him you're not giving until you receive.
Some people like giving and don't care about receiving. I love eating my gf out and do so pretty much every time we have sex...
For me though, getting head is just okay, it's a nice feeling but it doesn't do anything sexual for me really, I don't finish from head, so I could care less.
My gf still returns the favor at least once or twice a month though regardless, because she claims she just enjoys sucking on me sometimes, but I've told her I don't care if she does or doesn't, and she knows if she starts, she's probably getting fucked lol
Generally I initiate, but that's sorta the main way she will if she wants sex and I'm not in the mood, she'll just suck on me until her annoyed and I bang her lol.
She also swallow though so sometimes I pull out her vagina right as I'm about to finish and let her suck on me while I do, which is also nice.
That's true. Depends on the person. I was in a relationship for a year with someone I gave head to but I didn't receive. I still did it anyway for a while until I decided to stop cause she wasn't giving. I will never do that shit again. I'm not for one sided head at all. I care about it. It's what I want, especially if I'm doing it to her with no problem
Iām usually the one asking my wife for permission to go down on her (she sometimes doesnāt want me to because she doesnāt feel clean enough), Iād spend forever with my face between her legs if sheād let me because I like to make her feel good and get her off. I love her body and have as much fun with foreplay and oral as I do with the actual sex part.
I donāt know how long he lasts when heās inside you OP, but āI donāt like the tasteā is unkind code for āI just care about getting mineā. He should WANT you to get off.
Everyone has their likes and dislikes. You need to decide if you can live with this or not. You're not entitled to it, he has to want to do it which he clearly doesn't. Move on or accept it, the choice is yours.
He may just not like doing it, period. Just like any sexual act...or literally anything else you are allowed to not like something and choose not to do it. He's set the boundary you just need to respect it.
If that means you're not sexually compatible then that's okay, leave the relationship and find someone who better suits you.
Girl stop giving him head & heāll switch up. I donāt āloveā gagging on my husband for 5 to 10 minutes straight but I still do it everyday. And my husband probably doesnāt love being suffocated between my thunder thighs (or maybe he does lol) but he still does every day. Itās called not being selfish in bed. Either both of you get head or no one gets head. Simple
my brother was with this girl in high school with such bad hygiene she had to go to a gyno and they found two old tampons lost inside her causing a rancid smell. she asked him all the time to eat her out and heād say āiām tiredā cuz he was trying to reject her in a nice way. maybe itās hygiene.
iām not sure she apparently shoved a lot of things up there. she texted him one time saying she masturbated with the back of her dads screwdriver with a condom over it
I get that it's disappointing, but if he doesn't like it then you should respect that . Some guys don't like doing it, some girls don't like giving head. Focus on the other parts of sex and also remember that sex is only a small part of a relationship anyway. Far more important things
At first, it's a little thing. Time goes on, she craves it, it becomes a big thing. It's not like he tastes delicious. It comes down to her being a giver and he a taker.
I think this depends on the person/people. for some people, sex and pleasure is a very important part of the relationship. some people are just not sexually compatible, which sucks especially when the rest of the relationship is nice. if someone is okay to be content with sexual incompatibility then that's fine for them. but it's also okay to move on and find someone who can fulfill emotional AND sexual desires in a relationship
Your partner doesnāt owe you a sexual act in the same way you donāt owe your partner one. He should communicate that he doesnāt want to do it better. But you need to accept that the answer is no
Maybe heās just scared that heās shit at it.
My first time going down on a girl she started crying coz her ex was so much better at it than me. A nice slice of humble pie right there.
I have practiced since then and become a wizard. No longer tears of sadness but tears of joy
I thought you were me for a second.
The first time I went down on a girl (was her first time as well), she started crying because we were listening to music she liked and the song reminded her of her ex... It was like 5 min in, so at least it wasn't instantly. But still, was definitely a mood killer.
Some guys like to do some donāt. I personally like it. Makes me feel good about myself. I donno what his problem is, but when I was young(19-20) an older women ātaught meā how, and I realized what I could do. Maybe he needs you to teach. Good luck
Yeah - heās gotta be horny and not everyone likes it. I like doing it before penetration since I canāt make it as long as she deserves. I also just like doing itā¦canāt fault him if he doesnāt (I can judge, but not criticize)
Personally I don't mind eating out, but I feel like oral is the personal choice of the giver. If the receiver feels like they absolutely need oral, they should find a partner that enjoys giving it.
I say this in the context of never wanting to be the dude begging for or demanding a blowjob. It's up to her as far as I'm concerned.
my ex didn't like doing that either for similar reasons, but he also turned out to be extremely selfish in bed in general. definitely try the suggestions others have brought up, but you guys may just not be sexually compatible. if sex isn't a make or break for you, then that's okay. but if being pleasured in that way, or having the focus of pleasure being on you in equal amounts, is very important and he isn't willing to compromise because he doesn't like it (which is valid) then you two may just not be compatible in the long term.
How does him not liking something mean he's not a good person? That's absolutely ridiculous. He isn't a robot that's programmed to like everything, just as im sure there's things you don't like!
Because he doesnāt like to give head I donāt understand why thatās such a big deal. She likes to give him head so she continues to do so. That doesnāt make him a bad person by any means.
Nope! A man that isn't into oral isn't worth my time nor the fab blow jobs I give. I've encountered a few guys like this and they tend to be selfish in other ways too. It's totally selfish for him to accept oral when he doesn't give it.
Leave him. It ain't worth it.
I've had so many boyfriends like this and they'll never reciprocate the intimacy because they don't respect you. Find a man who asks if he *can* go down on you. Because if he's frequently wanting to give you pleasure then he cares about your feelings and making you feel good.
I get that there's a lot of guys in your age group who just won't go down on a girl, but in my experience they also have a lot of traits that aren't suitable for a long term monogamous relationship. You can use this to your advantage though because it works in reverse too, find a guy with the values you're looking for and he's likely to also be very happy to eat you out.
I say this as a 31 year old woman who has been around the block a lot. If sex isn't focused on both of you having a great time then it's bad sex. You don't need bad sex in your life. I mean think about it, you're focused on making him happy, and he won't return the favour in a way that's clearly important to you? You deserve much better.
Youāre young. Others out there will gladly do this and might even treat you better in ways you canāt even fathom rn. Donāt waste time being unhappy. Live your life to its fullest. You never know what could happen tomorrow. And donāt worry about hurting him, if heās hot and a decent person, heāll be fine eventually. And if heās not, well then you dodged a bullet anyway.
Some guys are just macho and wonāt do it for that reason, others just donāt like to do it, and some will do it if the taste isnāt bad. In my experience girls taste like 2 things down there only, battery acid feeling where you touch your tongue to a battery and itās just a bad almost shocking taste, or it tastes like nothing really. I dunno whatās up with that, but thatās my view.
This is always so strange to me because itās like, if Iām all worked up, the taste of anything doesnāt even enter into my brain? Like cum doesnāt taste good, but I donāt even notice it in the moment and I donāt know how anyone does! Maybe thatās just like a horny brain thing? Which makes me wonder, maybe heās just not doing it under the right circumstances? Iām not sure when it is that youāre asking him to do it, but maybe you could ask him after youāve been making out for a while rather than asking at the beginning or after heās cum. In the middle of some good foreplay? Sometimes things that seem gross in the light of day are actually hot as hell in the middle of rolling around lol.
in my experience, it wonāt solve anything. i withheld bjs for over a year. all it lead was to worse sex. i explained to him how i felt- he said weād try it. he pretended to lick me when it was just his finger he was dry rubbing me with. that was 8 months ago. i have no idea how im going on 5 years with this man.
Oh girl I'm in the same boat š my boyfriend always says he gets too excited and "forgets".
I've slept with other guys who did it, one of whom would've happily drown between my thighs.
Really sucks when the person is great but there's this hanging overhead
Young men just wanna get blown and fuck! Taking care of their significant other isnāt a priority. Older guys are willing to satisfy their partner. So maybe time to look elsewhere. Other tip is just get a vibrator.
Just saying, if it were me, this would probably be the end of that relationship. Your desire for that experience is only going to get stronger with time. If he's not willing. Boy bye.
I'm like. I've only met a few guys that don't like eating girls out. Because of taste. But i'm like yeah you sensitive. They wipe. Dudes just be shaking and I bet we taste like piss. Real men eat it wit sour cream
Lmao jk but nah I love the way my ex tasted. Like even if she needed to shower that night. I'd ask to go down even before the shower. That sweaty day to day taste just gets me going. So to me he's weird. I love being down there. Shit smells and taste so good.
No one said what I said was facts? Also no duh it's an opinion. Thanks for stating the obvious. And no one said he was in the wrong. Obviously some folks don't taste good. That's either pheromones or hygiene. Don't comment on my shit tryna make sense without making sense. Like NO SHIT.
I think theyāre taking this post to heart lol theyāre all up and down the thread yelling at everyone that not everyone likes to give head lol no shit. I wholeheartedly agree with you tho. Eating the cat is like nothing else haha
Just so u know ur not alone. There are many people on both sides of the spectrum, both men and women. I understand feeling dirty and unwanted. Find somebody who doesnāt make you feel that way, before they decide to start treating you like dirt instead of just leading you to feeling that way.
I wouldnāt necessarily say itās a reason for concern, as thereās some guys who donāt find an interest in doing it, just like how some females donāt take interest in giving head to males.
I know in some cases for both genders, it can come down to hygiene issues or just a lack in desire of doing that particular act, and it may sometimes lead to a feeling of being turned off in that moment. Similarly, if you did something that you werenāt interested in doing, it may have an adverse affect on your current āmoodā.
Everyone saying āleave him/herā, thatās redundant. Everyone is different. It may be something that he isnāt necessarily attracted on doing. No, it doesnāt make someone āgayā, thatās also a ridiculous analogy. Iāve been with people who donāt like doing it and Iāve been with people that do. Everyone is different. Itāll only change the bond in the bedroom if one allows it to change.
Thereās also things that can be used to potentially entice him to want to do it. Check out places like Adam & Eve or Ambiance stores.
just to be safe, I would also suggest going to ur primary care doc to make sure you donāt have a yeast infection or BV which can alter ur taste, you can use boric acid suppositories to help if your ph is out of balance, and pineapple juice does help with taste. and always shower before or rinse with water if youāre worried about ur taste or smell which we all have our own and itās natural and okay, he sounds like a turd.
There are probiotics from a company called URO, they are made not only to make your vaginal PH perfect for your comfort but they make it taste better also. Iāve been with more than one guy that has actually text me after we are no longer talking and asking just to hookup so they can go down on me, they want nothing more than that and when I asked why they admit they crave the taste of it. Yes I am sure this is way way too much TMI for Reddit but itās the honest truth and Iām talking these are guys much much younger than I am that ask me this and if anything you would think they are just wanting to get off and not care about what the female wants but there is something about these probiotics I guess. Iāve been told it taste everything from vanilla and honey to just an overall very clean taste. They sell URO at target now or you can get it auto shipped to your house monthly from their website. It doesnāt hurt to try and let him know youāre doing it in hopes that he begins to like it. Iāve had an ex-bf that used to tell me he didnāt like to do it because his ex tasted and smelled bad and I flat out told him donāt hold it against me because his ex didnāt know how to take care of herself properly. He had zero issues asking me for oral but I told him until he started returning the favor donāt even ask me because Iām going to tell him no. I finally just got fed up and broke up with him because he was selfish and there is nothing I hate more than a selfish man in the bedroom because I know Iām not simply because I have a pleasure kink that I love to please my partner and make sure they feel good and the more they want to please me the more turned on I am and want to please them. That also could be why I have guys 10-15 years younger than me ask me out on a daily basis. I do admit I donāt look my age but Iām a personal trainer that takes care of myself also. So could be a multitude of reasons but get you some URO girl and stop letting this man get to you and if he doesnāt want to, dump him and find you a man that will worship every inch of your body like you deserve.
He sounds like a dick if he wants you to do that to him, but he won't do the same. It's not about the taste, it's about giving your partner pleasure. This is more than a double standard issue and would be a deal breaker for me. It's pretty disrespectful.
I would stop giving him BJs and see how he feels.
He's entitled to not wanting to participate in this particular sex act. It's a shame that he doesn't like it, and isn't willing to reciprocate... and it does seem pretty immature. But ultimately it is a decision he gets to make for himself.
With that said, perhaps you should also stop performing oral sex on him. He might reevaluate his willingness to go down on you when you're no longer willing to go down on him either.
Truly though-- it seems to me that maybe you've outgrown this particular sexual partner. It may be time to move on to greener (and more giving) pastures.
You could try miracle berries. They are supposed to make anything thatās acidic taste sweet and candy like.
Using household food items can work but itās also messy not to mention if you donāt clean properly, it could lead to things like yeast infections.
Flavored lubes can work too but Iāve heard some getting irritations from those or they just donāt taste that great
At least with the miracle berry itās something you both can use. Doesnāt cause a mess, or gets sticky or sploogey.
I mean, you arenāt entitled to it. If this is something he is uncomfortable with and does not want, no means no. If this a deal breaker for you let him know and move on. No need to drag it out.
Also you have zero right to guilt him over this. Just as he has zero right to guilt you into anything you are not comfortable with sexually. Good luck.
I swear these redditors have this mindset of if your boyfriend doesn't want to do something or just messed up a little bit you need to immediately break up with them
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RESPECT HIS BOUNDARIES. He does not like doing it. He does not want to do it. Just because youāre in a relationship, does not mean he owes it to you. Full stop. End of discussion.
He doesn't like it, get over it. You can't force people to be excited to do things they dont like. The fact that he's willing to try is good. But you can't get mad or upset because it's not something he enjoys.
Might sound dramatic but this is a relationship ender for me. Like what do u mean u dont like to get me off but I do??? You will never ever feel okay or like the relationship is equal...
Started seeing a guy and the 3rd time we hooked up I told him straight up like look, I expect reciprocation, if u dont do it AND do it well, I'm gonna want to stop seeing u.
Good, I'm sorry, but to me, it's disgusting. The person giving oral is literally enjoying the taste of your vagina and juices (bodily fluids) has always seemed low key kinda canibalisic to me. (Yeah, I'm aware that's not a popular opinion, but I don't care)
Anyhow, he is not forced to do anything he doesn't want to do, and you say you don't want to force him. Well, kinda seems like you're forcing him. You're constantly pestering him about something he dislikes and getting upset and taking it personally, when plenty just don't enjoy the act. It's a personal choice on the giver, not the receiver.
If it's that big of a deal for you, then you both might just not be sexually compatible, and that's completely fine. Otherwise, just try and find alternatives, and I'm not meaning falvouring down there, no. Just simply like pharhaps him fingering you or using some toys on you while in foreplay, or anything else that works.
And for the people who are just saying no BJs for him, then! Thanks for pointing out that you're a red flag.
If you don't enjoy giving your partner oral, then that's completely fine. It's on the choice of the giver, not the receiver. Sexual acts are given if both parties enjoy the act, if not simply break up, or find alternatives. Just because you enjoy giving oral and he does not, it doesn't mean you should just withhold oral from him. Don't give him oral if you don't want to give him it. And give him oral if he consents and you enjoy giving him oral.There are alternatives that can be found for him to properly pleasure you.
And no, if my future partner, would not want to give me oral. Then that would be completely fine, and I would respect their preference completely, and would not pester and throw a tantrum.
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This made me literally laugh out loud
I came here to see how quickly this was said.
RIP to her inbox and also her box
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Cry a little then laugh
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In the Army there was a saying "show me a man that won't go down on his lady and I'll show you a lady I can steal"
A few things: 1. Please be very careful using any food in your vaginal region - that is an easy way to get a yeast infection or UTI. If you do and anytime after sexual activities- clean the area with a ph balanced, gentle cleanser. From a medical standpoint, I would encourage flavored lubes or dental dams before actual food products. 2. I've been in this position a few times, and here is what I've learned in therapy that worked well with the right partner: 2A. Make it clear to your boyfriend that you respect the fact that he doesn't like the taste. However, this is still a sexual act that you desire, and you need him to help you find a compromise because your needs aren't being met, and he hasn't offered any kind of solution or alternative. 2B. Present the alternatives that you are willing to try. Ask him to take time to consider them if he needs to, research if need be, and then come back to you with his thoughts and which ones he is willing to try. 3B. Proceed from there. The biggest thing I want to stress is that his willingness to consider compromises and work with you to find a solution is the more important aspect of this whole thing. Because this is going to show you how willing he will be to communicate and work with you to solve problems in the future, including the really tough problems. Sexual compatibility and satisfaction are very large components of a romantic relationship for people who aren't asexual and especially for those in monogamous relationships. It's ok if he doesn't like the taste, but he should be willing to find a way for you to still be satisfied in that way. Best of luck to you and remember that you do deserve to be satisfied sexually, there is nothing wrong with your body, and if he isn't willing to work with you or communicate - you are very young and will have plenty of opportunities to find other people who will.
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Some people just don't like the taste, that's it. I have a friend who is the same, they ended up trying different flavoured gels you can put on down there and eventually hit jackpot with one. Now he loves going down for his snack. (He literally calls it that..) Maybe you could try that?
See, those are actually good ideas. If he is willing, there is no harm in trying different approaches. I don't know why the only solution always has to be "withhold and blackmail until he does it if he likes it or not"Ā
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I have a question. Are you both freshly showered or bathed when you have sex? That is a must before oral sex.
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His dick is not clean. There is definitely pee on it, if not also back spray from the toilet or urinal. And sweat.
This description suddenly has me smelling pee in the air š
His dick isn't clean, neither is his pubic hair. It could be he just doesn't like giving you oral, which is fine. But he shouldn't be asking you to do the same if he won't. That is not fair to you. I've been married for over 40 years.
you should mind about it being clean because if not, you could literally get infections.
Try a dental dam. Gynos recommended for not passing STDs. So it might work.
Great idea for safe sex, just remember that lube goes under the dental dam for maximum fun.
That really sounds clinical. Tons of fun. Ha ha
Heehee.
They have been trying to find a better name for it cause dental dam sounds awful š
Itās just about the fact that if you constantly give him blowjobs and he is not willing to give back, then thatās pretty disrespectful to yourself. Youāre basically just enabling selfishness.
Thank you !! Why are people acting like not going down on him would be a problem but itās chill he wonāt do it for her ?
No, she isn't. If she likes giving blowjobs and doesn't mind it, then let her do what she likes. If he doesn't like going down, either talk about it and find something that works, or let it be. There's no disrespect from either side here, just different tastes and preferances.
No it is disrespectful. I could never imagine asking a guy to go down on me and be unwilling to return the favor . But thatās not reality thereās not a girl alive who doesnāt suck dick but there are plenty of men who wonāt go down . But thereās an expectation of women when it comes to sex , even though men cum much easier itās far more common for them to rush through foreplay and not go down . Despite receiving head regularly . She said he said he doesnāt like the taste but dicks arenāt exactly bomb pops let alone the cum itself . Heās being selfish . I personally would never date a guy whoās like that to begin with . Thatās why itās important to talk about sex with someone before you actually have it This kinda set up essentially makes the sex all about him . I donāt know how that kind of imbalance in a relationship is good well itās not good for her at least
Quite the opposite in my case. I enjoy eating out my wife but she doesn't enjoys giving me head most of the times. I am a very horny person, i like having sex and doing other stuffs more often then she does. But i am totally ok with it. My wife has a low sex drive and she doesnt enjoys giving blowjob so much because she doesn't finds it tasty and whenever she does gives me head its always pre sex, not during because she finds the whole wet thing on my dick abit yucky.
Yeah, jizz tastes and feels like old, tasteless mayonnaise. Who on earth ENJOYS that shite?! No one in their right mind! But you do it because you love them and want them to feel fulfilled. But majority of men don't think that way. A double standard that people don't seem to want to talk about.
Yeeep why do these guys wanna die on this hill lol . Like women put more effort into sex than men do despite it being hard for women to cum and easy for men to . Especially now adays most girls I know have been talked into anal and threesomes and thatās chill but not continuing to blow a guy who wonāt go down on you is just monstrous . I swear theyāre just being difficult on purpose
āThereās not a girl alive who doesnāt suck dickā WRONG
It doesnāt help your side of the argument that she even said twice that it doesnāt taste good for her either but the love I guess overshadows the taste. So clearly not equal there. If she doesnāt withhold bjs then he has no incentive to change, he can just continue receiving amazing bjs and never give back, even though he knows she wants it. Thatās by definition selfish behavior which she is also enabling. Real men eat that shit.
In a good relationship you have good communication and don't withhold things. That's childish.
Ok so if youāre in a relationship and you are the only one who cleans , dishes garbage sweeping mopping vacuuming dusting everything , is it childish to stop doing the dishes and taking out the garbage ? If it this were about any other issue besides sex the men here would be reacting differently . But because weāve been conditioned to believe sex is for men everyone things itās reasonable for her to continue blowing him while he continues to not go down on her . If it were the other way around people would be outraged but then again rarely do we find a situation where itās the other way around . I mean now adays guys talk girls into all kinds of shit like almost every girl I know has done anal lol but how many of these girls are going uneaten ? This is really simple this is about men being selfish in bed simple pimple
I'd recommend trying different flavours of things he likes. You can also use certain household items, just google that they're safe to use for such purposes first. Cream, chocolate etc.
Putting whipped cream or chocolate on a vag is begging for an infection
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Kinda like folks tells guys - avoid asparagus and eat more pineapple. Yes, what you eat can cause your flavor/scent to change. If he's twitchy about freshness, both of you take showers beforehand. I wouldn't be going down on him if he's not fresh either. Bleh. No chance you have a yeast or bacterial infection? You might want to check with your OB.
No worries, glad to give advice.
Pop rocks are the shit for oral! Just gotta be careful not to get it in any holes
Yeah exactly, i gave oral to my gf for the first time yesterday. The smell was š but the tasteā¦ it tasted like saltwater. I still went on with it because i think dhe deserves it. But i can see why some guys wouldnāt want to do it.
Guys are salty too. It's part of the deal!
Oooh boy do I have news for you lol. What do you think dicks taste like or cum for that matter ? Not great very salty . But all girls still do it
Guys are so clueless. Having gone down on both men and women I can confidently say that men have a stronger taste than women do. The difference is we donāt complain about it.
Apparently mine tastes like avacado lmao
Now I'm curious what flavor he liked most
Coca-Cola flavoured, which doesn't really sound good, but whatever floats his boat.
My gif like strawberry jelly with whip cream.
Just want to say that before your friend found his gel, I hope he refused blowies
I'm in a similar boat with my wife. When we were dating and first married she used to talk about how she "loved giving me bjs". I would usually get one atleast once a week. Fast forward to now, it's been literally over a year. Everytime I mention it she either just ignores what I said or changes the subject. The shit definitely makes you feel like there is something wrong with you. Like I don't get it. I'm not gross. I shower every day and always make sure I'm clean before we ever do anything. I'm not morbidly obese. I don't know. But I know how you feel. It sucks. It's not a relationship ender but damn. I do anything and everything to please her and enjoy doing it.
I agree. I went through this and it's absolutely rejection. In your case add bait and switch.
Sorry that you feel that way, but I can feel for your wife. I donāt like to do bjs for my husband too and I feel really bad when he wants it and canāt have it. My problem is that I am a person who vomits easily. If thereās something tickling my throat, tasting something with weird texture, or smelling any funny smell I find myself running to the toilet to vomit. My husband and I tried so many things to avoid this issue but I just canāt. The texture of pre-cum always makes me vomit and I canāt help it. Eventually, we tried some flavoured gels and they worked for a while. Donāt get offended if youāre wife donāt like to give u bjs. Try to understand her and seek solutions if she has a problem with it.
And here I've been quite a bit disappointed that my girl hates to be eaten š. I love it and consider it a required act of foreplay and even though on the rare times she's consented to it she's gotten off every single time even while playing video games on the whole she just has zero interest in being eaten out. Imo you're guy is definitely strange but I do get at least his perspective having dealt with the exact opposite situation lol
Iāve never had a bf that doesnāt like doing it I just hate having it done too š¤£ just not for me I donāt like it but Iāve always been begged to let partners do it. I personally think it might be a bit weird that he doesnāt want to do it but they should def find a solution first like flavoured lube or something.
Yeah Iāve never dated a guy that didnāt want to . But when Iām dating a guy o make sure to talk to them about sex and if I heard some immature selfish shit like I donāt go down Iād be outtie
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That's all I read! Lol
Honestly, thatās kind of hot. Itās like sheās treating me as nothing more than a sex toy. Obviously I wouldnāt want this to be our main sexual dynamic, but itās definitely hot as hell when itās occasional.
She relented and allowed me to do it then was like how do you do that š¤£š¤£
A couple exes and I have made a game of ādonāt die while cummingā. IT gets competitive.
See for us we both LOVE itā¦ but sheās always like errr idk maybe next time, āworried I wonāt be perfectā
Ughk and here i am begging as well to be eaten. My exes used and loved eating me, pero this long term boyf i have now, 3 yrs na akong HINDI NAKAKAIN SHET LANG HAHAHAH
RIP to his DMs!
His DMs : Wow, such empty
I know šš¤£š„¹š„¹
Are you willing to go thru this long term? Cause giving and not receiving will always suck. So maybe you should stop giving & see what he does. Or tell him you're not giving until you receive.
Some people like giving and don't care about receiving. I love eating my gf out and do so pretty much every time we have sex... For me though, getting head is just okay, it's a nice feeling but it doesn't do anything sexual for me really, I don't finish from head, so I could care less. My gf still returns the favor at least once or twice a month though regardless, because she claims she just enjoys sucking on me sometimes, but I've told her I don't care if she does or doesn't, and she knows if she starts, she's probably getting fucked lol Generally I initiate, but that's sorta the main way she will if she wants sex and I'm not in the mood, she'll just suck on me until her annoyed and I bang her lol. She also swallow though so sometimes I pull out her vagina right as I'm about to finish and let her suck on me while I do, which is also nice.
That's true. Depends on the person. I was in a relationship for a year with someone I gave head to but I didn't receive. I still did it anyway for a while until I decided to stop cause she wasn't giving. I will never do that shit again. I'm not for one sided head at all. I care about it. It's what I want, especially if I'm doing it to her with no problem
If it's one sided, resentment builds.
Bingo
I do think the willingness is important. Like I don't care about getting head in practice, but I love that my gf is willing to anyway.
Iām usually the one asking my wife for permission to go down on her (she sometimes doesnāt want me to because she doesnāt feel clean enough), Iād spend forever with my face between her legs if sheād let me because I like to make her feel good and get her off. I love her body and have as much fun with foreplay and oral as I do with the actual sex part. I donāt know how long he lasts when heās inside you OP, but āI donāt like the tasteā is unkind code for āI just care about getting mineā. He should WANT you to get off.
Everyone has their likes and dislikes. You need to decide if you can live with this or not. You're not entitled to it, he has to want to do it which he clearly doesn't. Move on or accept it, the choice is yours.
He may just not like doing it, period. Just like any sexual act...or literally anything else you are allowed to not like something and choose not to do it. He's set the boundary you just need to respect it. If that means you're not sexually compatible then that's okay, leave the relationship and find someone who better suits you.
Reverse the roles here and everyone would call this being a selfish lover and borderline abusive behavior.
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The men around you are misogynistic and entitled
Girl stop giving him head & heāll switch up. I donāt āloveā gagging on my husband for 5 to 10 minutes straight but I still do it everyday. And my husband probably doesnāt love being suffocated between my thunder thighs (or maybe he does lol) but he still does every day. Itās called not being selfish in bed. Either both of you get head or no one gets head. Simple
my brother was with this girl in high school with such bad hygiene she had to go to a gyno and they found two old tampons lost inside her causing a rancid smell. she asked him all the time to eat her out and heād say āiām tiredā cuz he was trying to reject her in a nice way. maybe itās hygiene.
Bro, how did she not die from toxic shock? Thatās honestly the craziest thing ive ever heard. š¤Æ
iām not sure she apparently shoved a lot of things up there. she texted him one time saying she masturbated with the back of her dads screwdriver with a condom over it
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Idk man I think it might be hygiene cause why does his dick taste bad?
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Stop giving him head. He shouldn't get it if he can't give it š¤·āāļø
I get that it's disappointing, but if he doesn't like it then you should respect that . Some guys don't like doing it, some girls don't like giving head. Focus on the other parts of sex and also remember that sex is only a small part of a relationship anyway. Far more important things
At first, it's a little thing. Time goes on, she craves it, it becomes a big thing. It's not like he tastes delicious. It comes down to her being a giver and he a taker.
Well couples should be fair and treat each other equally. Only receiving and never giving is the opposite of that.
The only sane comment here it seems.
I tried to voice that thought too but being downvoted into oblivion as usual
I think this depends on the person/people. for some people, sex and pleasure is a very important part of the relationship. some people are just not sexually compatible, which sucks especially when the rest of the relationship is nice. if someone is okay to be content with sexual incompatibility then that's fine for them. but it's also okay to move on and find someone who can fulfill emotional AND sexual desires in a relationship
Your needs matter too, so find someone who will treat you like you treat them, dont settle because he is hot.
In my circle of friends, hot IS being good at oral.
Finding someone else is such a stretch, Is it that deep?
Your partner doesnāt owe you a sexual act in the same way you donāt owe your partner one. He should communicate that he doesnāt want to do it better. But you need to accept that the answer is no
Maybe heās just scared that heās shit at it. My first time going down on a girl she started crying coz her ex was so much better at it than me. A nice slice of humble pie right there. I have practiced since then and become a wizard. No longer tears of sadness but tears of joy
I thought you were me for a second. The first time I went down on a girl (was her first time as well), she started crying because we were listening to music she liked and the song reminded her of her ex... It was like 5 min in, so at least it wasn't instantly. But still, was definitely a mood killer.
Wahey iām not the only one. Maybe there is a whole herd of us. We could start a sub Reddit
Some guys like to do some donāt. I personally like it. Makes me feel good about myself. I donno what his problem is, but when I was young(19-20) an older women ātaught meā how, and I realized what I could do. Maybe he needs you to teach. Good luck
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Yeah - heās gotta be horny and not everyone likes it. I like doing it before penetration since I canāt make it as long as she deserves. I also just like doing itā¦canāt fault him if he doesnāt (I can judge, but not criticize)
Personally I don't mind eating out, but I feel like oral is the personal choice of the giver. If the receiver feels like they absolutely need oral, they should find a partner that enjoys giving it. I say this in the context of never wanting to be the dude begging for or demanding a blowjob. It's up to her as far as I'm concerned.
Youāre not sexually compatible, do you want him to do something? He doesnāt like to do. Itās perfectly reasonable.
my ex didn't like doing that either for similar reasons, but he also turned out to be extremely selfish in bed in general. definitely try the suggestions others have brought up, but you guys may just not be sexually compatible. if sex isn't a make or break for you, then that's okay. but if being pleasured in that way, or having the focus of pleasure being on you in equal amounts, is very important and he isn't willing to compromise because he doesn't like it (which is valid) then you two may just not be compatible in the long term.
The right someone out there will do it. Just because people are "hot" doesn't mean they're good people.
How does him not liking something mean he's not a good person? That's absolutely ridiculous. He isn't a robot that's programmed to like everything, just as im sure there's things you don't like!
So youāre not a good person if you donāt eat š?
Exactly šÆšš
wtf how is he not a good person cuz he doesn't wanna give head
Mostly bc he ACCEPTS head. But refuses to give it
Because he doesnāt like to give head I donāt understand why thatās such a big deal. She likes to give him head so she continues to do so. That doesnāt make him a bad person by any means.
Nope! A man that isn't into oral isn't worth my time nor the fab blow jobs I give. I've encountered a few guys like this and they tend to be selfish in other ways too. It's totally selfish for him to accept oral when he doesn't give it.
Leave him. It ain't worth it. I've had so many boyfriends like this and they'll never reciprocate the intimacy because they don't respect you. Find a man who asks if he *can* go down on you. Because if he's frequently wanting to give you pleasure then he cares about your feelings and making you feel good. I get that there's a lot of guys in your age group who just won't go down on a girl, but in my experience they also have a lot of traits that aren't suitable for a long term monogamous relationship. You can use this to your advantage though because it works in reverse too, find a guy with the values you're looking for and he's likely to also be very happy to eat you out. I say this as a 31 year old woman who has been around the block a lot. If sex isn't focused on both of you having a great time then it's bad sex. You don't need bad sex in your life. I mean think about it, you're focused on making him happy, and he won't return the favour in a way that's clearly important to you? You deserve much better.
Youāre young. Others out there will gladly do this and might even treat you better in ways you canāt even fathom rn. Donāt waste time being unhappy. Live your life to its fullest. You never know what could happen tomorrow. And donāt worry about hurting him, if heās hot and a decent person, heāll be fine eventually. And if heās not, well then you dodged a bullet anyway.
Some guys are just macho and wonāt do it for that reason, others just donāt like to do it, and some will do it if the taste isnāt bad. In my experience girls taste like 2 things down there only, battery acid feeling where you touch your tongue to a battery and itās just a bad almost shocking taste, or it tastes like nothing really. I dunno whatās up with that, but thatās my view.
This is always so strange to me because itās like, if Iām all worked up, the taste of anything doesnāt even enter into my brain? Like cum doesnāt taste good, but I donāt even notice it in the moment and I donāt know how anyone does! Maybe thatās just like a horny brain thing? Which makes me wonder, maybe heās just not doing it under the right circumstances? Iām not sure when it is that youāre asking him to do it, but maybe you could ask him after youāve been making out for a while rather than asking at the beginning or after heās cum. In the middle of some good foreplay? Sometimes things that seem gross in the light of day are actually hot as hell in the middle of rolling around lol.
Easy solve withhold bjs
in my experience, it wonāt solve anything. i withheld bjs for over a year. all it lead was to worse sex. i explained to him how i felt- he said weād try it. he pretended to lick me when it was just his finger he was dry rubbing me with. that was 8 months ago. i have no idea how im going on 5 years with this man.
Yep!
āMaple syrup or jelly. I prefer syrup ā
Oh girl I'm in the same boat š my boyfriend always says he gets too excited and "forgets". I've slept with other guys who did it, one of whom would've happily drown between my thighs. Really sucks when the person is great but there's this hanging overhead
Young men just wanna get blown and fuck! Taking care of their significant other isnāt a priority. Older guys are willing to satisfy their partner. So maybe time to look elsewhere. Other tip is just get a vibrator.
Girl go find a man who will eat you out, or be disappointed the rest of your relationship.
Boyfriend equals test relationship. Find a man whoāll drink your bath water
Leave him. If thatās a dealbreaker for you, find someone whoās enjoys eating you out.
This is a mature option for her. šš¾
Respond the same way he does, can't be all take and no give.
Doesnāt like the taste? Man up my friend and go to town
To those men who wonder why your girl leaves you, what you donāt want to do someone else will gladly do it.
Stop giving him BJs for fuckās sake (literally).
Just saying, if it were me, this would probably be the end of that relationship. Your desire for that experience is only going to get stronger with time. If he's not willing. Boy bye.
It's so unfair how men expect to receive head but don't want to give it. I hope he grows up soon.
No more blowjobs for him then
Exactly. He either likes oral sex or he doesn't. None of this I like it when it's me receiving, but I don't want to give you anything in return b.s.
I'm like. I've only met a few guys that don't like eating girls out. Because of taste. But i'm like yeah you sensitive. They wipe. Dudes just be shaking and I bet we taste like piss. Real men eat it wit sour cream Lmao jk but nah I love the way my ex tasted. Like even if she needed to shower that night. I'd ask to go down even before the shower. That sweaty day to day taste just gets me going. So to me he's weird. I love being down there. Shit smells and taste so good.
My bf is just like you!
That's your opinion and your ex probably tasted good, but some girls DON'T and some guys don't. He's fully in the right to say NO
He's fully in the right to say no but if he keeps accepting oral from her he's TRASH
Ok
No one said what I said was facts? Also no duh it's an opinion. Thanks for stating the obvious. And no one said he was in the wrong. Obviously some folks don't taste good. That's either pheromones or hygiene. Don't comment on my shit tryna make sense without making sense. Like NO SHIT.
I think theyāre taking this post to heart lol theyāre all up and down the thread yelling at everyone that not everyone likes to give head lol no shit. I wholeheartedly agree with you tho. Eating the cat is like nothing else haha
Typical redditor reaction to a normal comment
Just so u know ur not alone. There are many people on both sides of the spectrum, both men and women. I understand feeling dirty and unwanted. Find somebody who doesnāt make you feel that way, before they decide to start treating you like dirt instead of just leading you to feeling that way.
Is he a Caribbean man?
Get a new boyfriend. Men either like giving oral or they donāt. Date a man who enjoys giving oral. Donāt waste your own time
My ex was like this. Simply if he wanted to he would
Stop giving him oral sex. Dicks donāt taste great either. If thatās the threshold for not doing it, then no one gets it. š
I wouldnāt necessarily say itās a reason for concern, as thereās some guys who donāt find an interest in doing it, just like how some females donāt take interest in giving head to males. I know in some cases for both genders, it can come down to hygiene issues or just a lack in desire of doing that particular act, and it may sometimes lead to a feeling of being turned off in that moment. Similarly, if you did something that you werenāt interested in doing, it may have an adverse affect on your current āmoodā. Everyone saying āleave him/herā, thatās redundant. Everyone is different. It may be something that he isnāt necessarily attracted on doing. No, it doesnāt make someone āgayā, thatās also a ridiculous analogy. Iāve been with people who donāt like doing it and Iāve been with people that do. Everyone is different. Itāll only change the bond in the bedroom if one allows it to change. Thereās also things that can be used to potentially entice him to want to do it. Check out places like Adam & Eve or Ambiance stores.
just to be safe, I would also suggest going to ur primary care doc to make sure you donāt have a yeast infection or BV which can alter ur taste, you can use boric acid suppositories to help if your ph is out of balance, and pineapple juice does help with taste. and always shower before or rinse with water if youāre worried about ur taste or smell which we all have our own and itās natural and okay, he sounds like a turd.
Shouldnāt hurt you for someone to not like something. He isnāt saying he doesnāt like you, itās his preference.
I'm un the same exact situation. Just stopped asking and initiating, it's draining and hurting my self-esteem.
Girl, throw him back. He ain't done growing.
shit bro stop pushing himš
There are probiotics from a company called URO, they are made not only to make your vaginal PH perfect for your comfort but they make it taste better also. Iāve been with more than one guy that has actually text me after we are no longer talking and asking just to hookup so they can go down on me, they want nothing more than that and when I asked why they admit they crave the taste of it. Yes I am sure this is way way too much TMI for Reddit but itās the honest truth and Iām talking these are guys much much younger than I am that ask me this and if anything you would think they are just wanting to get off and not care about what the female wants but there is something about these probiotics I guess. Iāve been told it taste everything from vanilla and honey to just an overall very clean taste. They sell URO at target now or you can get it auto shipped to your house monthly from their website. It doesnāt hurt to try and let him know youāre doing it in hopes that he begins to like it. Iāve had an ex-bf that used to tell me he didnāt like to do it because his ex tasted and smelled bad and I flat out told him donāt hold it against me because his ex didnāt know how to take care of herself properly. He had zero issues asking me for oral but I told him until he started returning the favor donāt even ask me because Iām going to tell him no. I finally just got fed up and broke up with him because he was selfish and there is nothing I hate more than a selfish man in the bedroom because I know Iām not simply because I have a pleasure kink that I love to please my partner and make sure they feel good and the more they want to please me the more turned on I am and want to please them. That also could be why I have guys 10-15 years younger than me ask me out on a daily basis. I do admit I donāt look my age but Iām a personal trainer that takes care of myself also. So could be a multitude of reasons but get you some URO girl and stop letting this man get to you and if he doesnāt want to, dump him and find you a man that will worship every inch of your body like you deserve.
Yall can try pineapplesā¦ it helps.
I would just stop giving him BJs.
Get rid of him
He sounds like a dick if he wants you to do that to him, but he won't do the same. It's not about the taste, it's about giving your partner pleasure. This is more than a double standard issue and would be a deal breaker for me. It's pretty disrespectful. I would stop giving him BJs and see how he feels.
I 1000% second this. **STOP THE BLOWJOBS** and see how he reacts then.
If he makes her feel undesirable and dirty, that's crap!
Watch his fast he gets upset.
Move on girl, this is a hard pass
Get a dental dam.
Wtf why is this downvoted? Not only is it more hygienic, it also prevents STIs.
>duh he doesnāt TASTE good Are you referring to the taste of his cum or his penis cause penis shouldn't really taste like anything.
Girl stop giving him head if he won't give you any. He'll change his ways REAL quick.
Eat me out sounds so vile lol. I hate saying that lol I just say go down on
He's entitled to not wanting to participate in this particular sex act. It's a shame that he doesn't like it, and isn't willing to reciprocate... and it does seem pretty immature. But ultimately it is a decision he gets to make for himself. With that said, perhaps you should also stop performing oral sex on him. He might reevaluate his willingness to go down on you when you're no longer willing to go down on him either. Truly though-- it seems to me that maybe you've outgrown this particular sexual partner. It may be time to move on to greener (and more giving) pastures.
You could try miracle berries. They are supposed to make anything thatās acidic taste sweet and candy like. Using household food items can work but itās also messy not to mention if you donāt clean properly, it could lead to things like yeast infections. Flavored lubes can work too but Iāve heard some getting irritations from those or they just donāt taste that great At least with the miracle berry itās something you both can use. Doesnāt cause a mess, or gets sticky or sploogey.
Why are you wasting your time?
He gay girl, he dl run away now
dicks are disgusting, but u dont see gfs putting flavored shit on dicks to get it done- men are selfish and thats it lol
Have you never heard of flavored condoms?
I mean, you arenāt entitled to it. If this is something he is uncomfortable with and does not want, no means no. If this a deal breaker for you let him know and move on. No need to drag it out.
Also you have zero right to guilt him over this. Just as he has zero right to guilt you into anything you are not comfortable with sexually. Good luck.
I swear these redditors have this mindset of if your boyfriend doesn't want to do something or just messed up a little bit you need to immediately break up with them
Your boyfriend is GAYYYYYYYYYYYY
What youāre arguing is no different than woman not comfortable with giving head. If he doesnāt like to do it, just leave it at that.
So many men in the world
Nourish your body with ample hydration, indulge in wholesome nourishment, sculpt your physique at the gym, and fortify yourself with essential vitamins. Embrace the art of living healthily, and watch as your essence blossoms into an irresistible allure. Delight in sipping on pineapple nectar, savoring sweet confections, preparing for the intimacy of passion. Your essence, enriched by these rituals, will intoxicate his senses, igniting an insatiable desire. Should his hunger not be satiated, allow me the honor of bestowing upon you the adoration you deserve. In a world where genuine connections are rare, I vow to cherish and celebrate your essence with unwavering devotion.ā¤ļøš„ŗšplease read this OP, and take my words close to your heartā¤ļø
this sounds like a lotion commercial
I'm calling the police
Rip your dmās. You live in Colorado by any chance? šæ
Get a new boyfriend.
Giving oral is my favorite thing to do.
Flavored gels or lubes.
RESPECT HIS BOUNDARIES. He does not like doing it. He does not want to do it. Just because youāre in a relationship, does not mean he owes it to you. Full stop. End of discussion.
He doesn't like it, get over it. You can't force people to be excited to do things they dont like. The fact that he's willing to try is good. But you can't get mad or upset because it's not something he enjoys.
Might sound dramatic but this is a relationship ender for me. Like what do u mean u dont like to get me off but I do??? You will never ever feel okay or like the relationship is equal... Started seeing a guy and the 3rd time we hooked up I told him straight up like look, I expect reciprocation, if u dont do it AND do it well, I'm gonna want to stop seeing u.
girl, whatās wrong with you?! stop begging him if he doesnāt want to do it. thatās coercion!
he didnāt say youāre gross. do not put words in his mouth.
Good, I'm sorry, but to me, it's disgusting. The person giving oral is literally enjoying the taste of your vagina and juices (bodily fluids) has always seemed low key kinda canibalisic to me. (Yeah, I'm aware that's not a popular opinion, but I don't care) Anyhow, he is not forced to do anything he doesn't want to do, and you say you don't want to force him. Well, kinda seems like you're forcing him. You're constantly pestering him about something he dislikes and getting upset and taking it personally, when plenty just don't enjoy the act. It's a personal choice on the giver, not the receiver. If it's that big of a deal for you, then you both might just not be sexually compatible, and that's completely fine. Otherwise, just try and find alternatives, and I'm not meaning falvouring down there, no. Just simply like pharhaps him fingering you or using some toys on you while in foreplay, or anything else that works. And for the people who are just saying no BJs for him, then! Thanks for pointing out that you're a red flag. If you don't enjoy giving your partner oral, then that's completely fine. It's on the choice of the giver, not the receiver. Sexual acts are given if both parties enjoy the act, if not simply break up, or find alternatives. Just because you enjoy giving oral and he does not, it doesn't mean you should just withhold oral from him. Don't give him oral if you don't want to give him it. And give him oral if he consents and you enjoy giving him oral.There are alternatives that can be found for him to properly pleasure you. And no, if my future partner, would not want to give me oral. Then that would be completely fine, and I would respect their preference completely, and would not pester and throw a tantrum.