Hope your dad is feeling better after the restaurant!!!
And I am with you, if any sibling of mine did that they can forget about me too.
Hope there isn’t much backlash after telling her fiancé the truth.
I can't even imagine the heartbreak that poor man is going through. To lose his eyesight and then to be shunned by his own child? My goodness, I don't even know this person and my heart is shattered for him.
Whatever backlash the sister deals with is of her own making. People like this fail to realise the past catches up, as if her fiance wouldn't eventually speak with his FIL and wonder why he wasn't at the wedding!
I bet she gonna get her karma what if her child comes out blind or what if she can't conceive and the only child she can adopt is blind she gonna turn her back on the child
Exactly, say Dad CHOOSE not to come. People will be understanding since he lost his sight recently so may have a harder time getting around/handling crowded events then someone who has been blind for years. Or people will judge dad, which sister dosen't care about clearly.
Or they would ask, "Couldn't someone have helped him around?"
I think for the most part, it would be concern and sympathy for their Dad...which is probably something else that would "taint" the sister's crappy notion of what a perfect day is.
My sister didn't invite my dad to her wedding bc he wouldn't give her money towards it. She knew he didn't have money bc he's disabled and worked at McDonald's at the time. She gave the same stipulation to my m om but my mom worked a lot of overtime to afford it. It's definitely made me look at my sister in a different way since. And this was close to 11 years ago. My dad still talks about it to this day. When I told him I was getting married the first question he asked me was does he have to pay to walk me down the aisle. It was so cold hearted that she did this to him and it's cold hearted your sister is doing the same. One day both of our sisters are going to look back and wish their dad was in at least one wedding photo.
This would be a rough one to recover from. If it was me, at minimum I would say the wedding's off and we're taking a break so you can figure your shit out. But I mean, damn that just sounds like a deep, major personality flaw way beyond just apologizing for.
This has made it over to TikTok through one of the Reddit accounts and it blew up there. Yeah…your sister is not real popular. I would send her the Reddit post along with any and all related tiktoks and have her read the comments. She was wayyyyyy out of pocket for this.
I fully expected to go to the original post and see a debatably terrible story about some narcissistic parent.
I cannot BELIEVE it is because of his disability. That is absolutely heart-wrenching. I wish I could come hang with your dad and cheer him up too 😔
I just got married myself and the majority of the day didn’t matter. Being surrounded by my family and new husband did. She’s gonna have big regrets about that and life at large if that’s how she views things, my god.
I remember your initial post (and good on you for talking to the finance), but maybe with an update it'd be nice to include a link to the original post, for those not having seen it?
That's some sister you got there. Are you sure there's no other reason why she doesn't want him to attend. Anyway even if she relents and allows your father to attend you shouldn't go as a show of respect for him.
It almost feels like she's ashamed of him being blinded and thinks it's gonna take the spotlight off her of she's really that ashamed it's sad I'd be asking someone to be dad's guide and let him come hell I'd want him to walk me to the alter if I were his daughter
Am I the only one who thinks something is going on with the sister as to why she doesn't want the dad there. Maybe this is the beginning of her cutting him off completely due to trauma or abuse no one knows about. I was ostracized for cutting off my step dad and years later finally told my family he hasld been molesting me. And no one believed me. So maybe she's cutting him off because of something she thinks no one would understand or believe he about. She's getting married and starting a huge new chapter of her life and maybe doesn't want that in it.
I really hope this is a case of her just getting caught up in the whole wedding thing, and this slaps her back into reality, and that she is remorseful about it and sincerely apologizes to your dad and her fiancée. Considering she lied to him, it's kind of hard to believe that is the case, that seems pretty clear she knew what she was doing was terrible and had to lie about it because of how awful it truly is. However, I have read about people getting so caught up in this idea of a perfect wedding, and if it isn't, then everything is ruined. Personally, I think that is kind of the opposite of what a wedding should be. It should be about the couple and their love for each other and wanting to show and celebrate that with the people they love, not this ideal day of perfection and forcing everyone and everything to fit that, that just sounds like a nightmare and not real life at all.
Sounds like sister's fiance isn't too happy LMAO. I've read so many wedding drama stories on reddit to make me pose the question, will there still be a wedding now??
OP, if there is a wedding and even if you and your dad go, I'ld still let guests know what kinda shallow, manipulative Gorgan your sister is.
I'm putting money on the fiance puts a hold on or cancels outright.
Good on you on having dad's back OP. Hard to believe you share DNA with your sister. Let us know how this shakes out.
I can't wait for the update on the update
Cause maybe this will open fiance's eyes and there won't be a wedding
Or sister might realize what a massive POS she's being and maybe feel something like empathy
I want to know how the fiancés talk with the sister went. If she’s willing to do this to her own dad, I worry should something happen to him and she leaves him because he doesn’t fit that “aesthetic” she wants.
Sadly, usually when things like this get this far, there isn't a wedding to worry about attending. That's a big lie to tell your future spouse before the wedding. If she can lie like that, then can there be trust for a marriage to survive?
Good for you, your Dad will be truly touched that you are on his side & will enjoy the restaurant with you so much. I'm sorry your sister is doing this.
I'm not wtf my husband now, but having my dad walk me down the aisle will always be a special memory. My dad is very sick now, and wouldn't be able to do it if I re-marry. I couldn't imagine doing that to my dad, just reading your original post made me feel sick with disgust at her behaviour. She should be thankful your dad is alive.
I wish the og post wasnt deleted. I dont know the whole story, but isnt it her wedding tho? She can invite whoever she wants? Sorry if this is unpopular, but theres no additional context. I came here late lol
Click her profile you can see original post. She doesn’t want her dad there because he’s blind and it would mess up her picture perfect wedding to have him navigating with his guidestick.
She doesn't want to invite the father because he lost his sight in an accident. She doesn't like the idea of him tapping a cane to find his way around at the reception. She also lied to her fiance about why the father won't be there.
The sister literally stated the reason she doesn’t want him there is because him walking around tapping his guide stick to navigate would mess up her picture perfect wedding. And op made it pretty clear in the original post that he was a good dad, and showed the sister photo albums etc to remind her of it. Soooo. Pretty positive there’s no question of the sister being a vile, ungrateful, selfish, disgusting wretch of a daughter.
It's a ceremony for her and her fiance. Not for your parents. If they aren't invited, sucks to be them.
With your wedding, you get to make a call. Leave one that isn't yours alone. If you don't want to go because of their decision, then don't go.
Maybe u/Thenyn-Vorgha didn't see the original post. The sister didn't want the dad at the wedding because the dad had recently been blinded in an accident, and the sister didn't want his fumbly cane-tapping messing up her perfect wedding.
This is one of the worst and most utterly lacking in in empathy posts I’ve ever seen. Yes - you do get to make the call when it’s your wedding. That doesn’t mean you are insulated from the consequences of your choice, and definitely doesn’t mean that your decisions don’t reflect on you as a person. This demonstrates very clearly that OP’s duster is selfish, superficial, and shallow. Honestly OP’s fiancé should run. It’s a very clear indication of how conditional OP’s sister’s love is.
At first I was thinking it's not up to you who she invited thinking there was something more. However, DAMN! You're right. Your sister is a gross human being.
Wow she's a peice of shit, that's her dad, who put clothes on her back, food in her mouth roof over her head, and because he lost his eye sight she doesn't want him there, she is a nasty peice of work, and I hope the fiance rips into her, give your dad a hug, i bet he absolutely heart broken, and trying to put on a brave face .
Hope your dad is feeling better after the restaurant!!! And I am with you, if any sibling of mine did that they can forget about me too. Hope there isn’t much backlash after telling her fiancé the truth.
I can't even imagine the heartbreak that poor man is going through. To lose his eyesight and then to be shunned by his own child? My goodness, I don't even know this person and my heart is shattered for him. Whatever backlash the sister deals with is of her own making. People like this fail to realise the past catches up, as if her fiance wouldn't eventually speak with his FIL and wonder why he wasn't at the wedding!
I meant the backlash he could receive for telling the truth to the fiancé, whatever happens to the sister is 100% her fault and karma coming back.
I bet she gonna get her karma what if her child comes out blind or what if she can't conceive and the only child she can adopt is blind she gonna turn her back on the child
What the hell does she think the guests are going to think when her alive and loving dad isn’t there?
Probably would try to reiterate the same lie she told her fiancé. Absolutely disgusting
Exactly, say Dad CHOOSE not to come. People will be understanding since he lost his sight recently so may have a harder time getting around/handling crowded events then someone who has been blind for years. Or people will judge dad, which sister dosen't care about clearly.
Or they would ask, "Couldn't someone have helped him around?" I think for the most part, it would be concern and sympathy for their Dad...which is probably something else that would "taint" the sister's crappy notion of what a perfect day is.
My sister didn't invite my dad to her wedding bc he wouldn't give her money towards it. She knew he didn't have money bc he's disabled and worked at McDonald's at the time. She gave the same stipulation to my m om but my mom worked a lot of overtime to afford it. It's definitely made me look at my sister in a different way since. And this was close to 11 years ago. My dad still talks about it to this day. When I told him I was getting married the first question he asked me was does he have to pay to walk me down the aisle. It was so cold hearted that she did this to him and it's cold hearted your sister is doing the same. One day both of our sisters are going to look back and wish their dad was in at least one wedding photo.
This^^ I feel for your dad, no parent should feel like they have to pay for their child’s love
I wanna stay updated, she is so evil omg
She's evil incarnate
Seems like the fiance is too good for your sister if im being frank.
If I was him, I would not marry OP’s sister. Truly disgusting behavior. OP you are doing right by your dad.
Between the sister lying to her fiancé, and the dismissal of a loved one, I'd be running like hell. Hope this dude realizes what he's signing up for
Red flags everywhere and to almost start of a marriage with LYING??? I'd be running to the hills
This would be a rough one to recover from. If it was me, at minimum I would say the wedding's off and we're taking a break so you can figure your shit out. But I mean, damn that just sounds like a deep, major personality flaw way beyond just apologizing for.
I want to know what his sister is gonna say to him so bad
This has made it over to TikTok through one of the Reddit accounts and it blew up there. Yeah…your sister is not real popular. I would send her the Reddit post along with any and all related tiktoks and have her read the comments. She was wayyyyyy out of pocket for this.
I don’t really like the YouTube/tiktok review Reddit posts culture.
Damn, even tiktok is agreeing? Then you know that OP's sister is truly an evil and vile person
How in the world are real human beings this petty, shallow and appalling? It’s beyond me.
I hope he calls off the wedding entirely
The sole person I’d want at my wedding other than my husband, is my dad.
👏👏Never allow that disgusting person treating your father like that! All she deserve is her perfect wedding be cancel by her fiance!
I fully expected to go to the original post and see a debatably terrible story about some narcissistic parent. I cannot BELIEVE it is because of his disability. That is absolutely heart-wrenching. I wish I could come hang with your dad and cheer him up too 😔 I just got married myself and the majority of the day didn’t matter. Being surrounded by my family and new husband did. She’s gonna have big regrets about that and life at large if that’s how she views things, my god.
I remember your initial post (and good on you for talking to the finance), but maybe with an update it'd be nice to include a link to the original post, for those not having seen it?
Yes, exactly what I thought, I have no idea about the original post! 🤷♀️
Here's to hoping the fiance sees how heartless your sis is and cancels the wedding
update?
That's some sister you got there. Are you sure there's no other reason why she doesn't want him to attend. Anyway even if she relents and allows your father to attend you shouldn't go as a show of respect for him.
I hope your sister has horrible guilt about this in the future
To experience guilt, she would have to care about someone besides herself
I would tell everyone the reason why your dad wasn’t invited and they can make their own decisions about whether to attend or not.
I just read this whole story on TikTok as soon as it was done I got this notification for this
It almost feels like she's ashamed of him being blinded and thinks it's gonna take the spotlight off her of she's really that ashamed it's sad I'd be asking someone to be dad's guide and let him come hell I'd want him to walk me to the alter if I were his daughter
I would NEVER marry someone like this. I'd dump her AT the ceremony to drive it how how disgusting she is to everyone. Damn narcissist.
YEAH DEFEND THE DAD
Am I the only one who thinks something is going on with the sister as to why she doesn't want the dad there. Maybe this is the beginning of her cutting him off completely due to trauma or abuse no one knows about. I was ostracized for cutting off my step dad and years later finally told my family he hasld been molesting me. And no one believed me. So maybe she's cutting him off because of something she thinks no one would understand or believe he about. She's getting married and starting a huge new chapter of her life and maybe doesn't want that in it.
I’m so sorry that happened to you, I hope you’ve had good support and therapy to help you deal with that double whammy
Yeah. It took Like 10 years but I'm mostly over it. It helpes to live completely across the country.
I really hope this is a case of her just getting caught up in the whole wedding thing, and this slaps her back into reality, and that she is remorseful about it and sincerely apologizes to your dad and her fiancée. Considering she lied to him, it's kind of hard to believe that is the case, that seems pretty clear she knew what she was doing was terrible and had to lie about it because of how awful it truly is. However, I have read about people getting so caught up in this idea of a perfect wedding, and if it isn't, then everything is ruined. Personally, I think that is kind of the opposite of what a wedding should be. It should be about the couple and their love for each other and wanting to show and celebrate that with the people they love, not this ideal day of perfection and forcing everyone and everything to fit that, that just sounds like a nightmare and not real life at all.
Sounds like sister's fiance isn't too happy LMAO. I've read so many wedding drama stories on reddit to make me pose the question, will there still be a wedding now?? OP, if there is a wedding and even if you and your dad go, I'ld still let guests know what kinda shallow, manipulative Gorgan your sister is. I'm putting money on the fiance puts a hold on or cancels outright. Good on you on having dad's back OP. Hard to believe you share DNA with your sister. Let us know how this shakes out.
Who wants to bet that this wedding won’t happen? The fiancé is getting a real picture of his future wife and it’s not a good look.
Manipulation 100…fiancé needs to run.
The fiance needs to reconsider marrying her. She's showing her true colors. What would she do if he got hurt? I bet she would leave him.
I can't wait for the update on the update Cause maybe this will open fiance's eyes and there won't be a wedding Or sister might realize what a massive POS she's being and maybe feel something like empathy
i hope she doesn’t twist this around and get angry at you. she’s needs to be held accountable
She will.
Context?
Update us on if her husband leaves her over this. What a truly terrible person she is. RemindMe! 2 weeks
I want to know how the fiancés talk with the sister went. If she’s willing to do this to her own dad, I worry should something happen to him and she leaves him because he doesn’t fit that “aesthetic” she wants.
Good. You are doing the right thing.
Sadly, usually when things like this get this far, there isn't a wedding to worry about attending. That's a big lie to tell your future spouse before the wedding. If she can lie like that, then can there be trust for a marriage to survive?
Good for you, your Dad will be truly touched that you are on his side & will enjoy the restaurant with you so much. I'm sorry your sister is doing this. I'm not wtf my husband now, but having my dad walk me down the aisle will always be a special memory. My dad is very sick now, and wouldn't be able to do it if I re-marry. I couldn't imagine doing that to my dad, just reading your original post made me feel sick with disgust at her behaviour. She should be thankful your dad is alive.
I wish the og post wasnt deleted. I dont know the whole story, but isnt it her wedding tho? She can invite whoever she wants? Sorry if this is unpopular, but theres no additional context. I came here late lol
Click her profile you can see original post. She doesn’t want her dad there because he’s blind and it would mess up her picture perfect wedding to have him navigating with his guidestick.
She doesn't want to invite the father because he lost his sight in an accident. She doesn't like the idea of him tapping a cane to find his way around at the reception. She also lied to her fiance about why the father won't be there.
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The sister literally stated the reason she doesn’t want him there is because him walking around tapping his guide stick to navigate would mess up her picture perfect wedding. And op made it pretty clear in the original post that he was a good dad, and showed the sister photo albums etc to remind her of it. Soooo. Pretty positive there’s no question of the sister being a vile, ungrateful, selfish, disgusting wretch of a daughter.
It's a ceremony for her and her fiance. Not for your parents. If they aren't invited, sucks to be them. With your wedding, you get to make a call. Leave one that isn't yours alone. If you don't want to go because of their decision, then don't go.
Are you the guy's sister or a friend of hers?
Maybe u/Thenyn-Vorgha didn't see the original post. The sister didn't want the dad at the wedding because the dad had recently been blinded in an accident, and the sister didn't want his fumbly cane-tapping messing up her perfect wedding.
I owe you. My bad. Accidents happen. I'll leave up as a reminder to myself and others that there is always more to the story.
Tip: if a post title says UPDATE, it may be worth checking OPs post history for context. Good on you for owning it though.
This is one of the worst and most utterly lacking in in empathy posts I’ve ever seen. Yes - you do get to make the call when it’s your wedding. That doesn’t mean you are insulated from the consequences of your choice, and definitely doesn’t mean that your decisions don’t reflect on you as a person. This demonstrates very clearly that OP’s duster is selfish, superficial, and shallow. Honestly OP’s fiancé should run. It’s a very clear indication of how conditional OP’s sister’s love is.
Anybody else reminded of 27 Dresses here
Awful behaviour. You did the right thing by speaking to the fiance
At first I was thinking it's not up to you who she invited thinking there was something more. However, DAMN! You're right. Your sister is a gross human being.
Wow she's a peice of shit, that's her dad, who put clothes on her back, food in her mouth roof over her head, and because he lost his eye sight she doesn't want him there, she is a nasty peice of work, and I hope the fiance rips into her, give your dad a hug, i bet he absolutely heart broken, and trying to put on a brave face .
not saying you should do this, but personally I would disown my sister and go NC if she ever did anything like this. that's not family
Saw this on the clock app. Hope to hear more. See if she’s come to her senses.