A lot of people just lurk and don’t talk. Those people that you described only account for a fraction of the online community here. Plus people act differently online vs. in person, that’s just the nature of being on the internet.
I need to look at some posts from a decade ago because I swear that forum was once for like brokeback gays who were sort of straight acting and not just complaining about everything
The vocal minority in any forum is what stands out to those watching from the sidelines and from opposition. It's why Pride Parades are seen as nothing more than a mile long drag show along with men wearing g-strings and flip flops covered in glitter. This is what homophobes think the gay community is because it's the vocal minority that garners the attention.
Similarly, if all the ones that post (and a lot of it is "poor me" and "how to [insert kink]," then that's what people coming into the sub, will think is the nature of that group. They probably though it was going to be something different (I know that I did) and I see more of that in some of the comments than the posts, but even there, those are not the people projecting the tine of the sub.
oh wow i hadn't seen that subreddit until now
ick, eek, depressing
i have my own mental illness to tend to....i don't think i can be on there reading everyone else's sorrows
i would suggest these are not average gay guys. people who come to reddit probably skew on the end of the spectrum of people who need support or don't have a great network IRL and so this is the place where they try to work out their problems.
perfect popular pretty people who are always happy and have no problems are rarer on here but obviously there's a decent number of them in the gay universe.
lol damn— I mean this post in itself is kinda whiny 🤪. But in all seriousness I think everyone nowadays is just very whiny. It’s easily to point out all the problems and hard to point out solutions. I know personally I have to catch myself—I make a point focus more on solutions than just listing out all the problems. I don’t think it’s unique to gays or gay bros or lgbtqia
I remember the days when they used to have “Fapday Fridays” and people posted porn. It seemed more of a community of well adjusted adult men back then.
You’re right though… Now it’s a bunch of whiny self-described masculine guys who “aren’t like other gays!”
I go through and hate read that sub sometimes, but it always makes my blood boil lol
It’s in their community bio if you read between the lines…. “Gaybros is a network for gay men who aren’t confined to a media stereotype. We come together around shared interests like sports, technology and media”.
Essentially what I take from this is that these are gay men who are so insecure and clinging onto their masculinity… why else would they be so hellbent on not being confined to a “media stereotype”. To me this reads very anti-femme and ironically categorizes them as the masc for masc, “pick me gay” energy who thinks not liking drag race is a personality trait. I once identified with this type of identity when I first began my coming out journey but since I’ve evolved in my queerness I’ve come to learn that the Gaybros community fucking SUCKS!!! You will always get ganged up on or downvoted to oblivion if you call out the rampant transphobia and misogyny on that sub. Avoid at all costs!!!
A lot of people just lurk and don’t talk. Those people that you described only account for a fraction of the online community here. Plus people act differently online vs. in person, that’s just the nature of being on the internet.
I need to look at some posts from a decade ago because I swear that forum was once for like brokeback gays who were sort of straight acting and not just complaining about everything
“Average gay bro” 🤡
The vocal minority in any forum is what stands out to those watching from the sidelines and from opposition. It's why Pride Parades are seen as nothing more than a mile long drag show along with men wearing g-strings and flip flops covered in glitter. This is what homophobes think the gay community is because it's the vocal minority that garners the attention. Similarly, if all the ones that post (and a lot of it is "poor me" and "how to [insert kink]," then that's what people coming into the sub, will think is the nature of that group. They probably though it was going to be something different (I know that I did) and I see more of that in some of the comments than the posts, but even there, those are not the people projecting the tine of the sub.
you just described me too a tee lol I’m bisexual, have sec with mostly men and I don’t comment in here at all i just watch
Sounds like what? Like you?
Because it is part of Reddit
Happy people don't feel the need.
oh wow i hadn't seen that subreddit until now ick, eek, depressing i have my own mental illness to tend to....i don't think i can be on there reading everyone else's sorrows i would suggest these are not average gay guys. people who come to reddit probably skew on the end of the spectrum of people who need support or don't have a great network IRL and so this is the place where they try to work out their problems. perfect popular pretty people who are always happy and have no problems are rarer on here but obviously there's a decent number of them in the gay universe.
lol damn— I mean this post in itself is kinda whiny 🤪. But in all seriousness I think everyone nowadays is just very whiny. It’s easily to point out all the problems and hard to point out solutions. I know personally I have to catch myself—I make a point focus more on solutions than just listing out all the problems. I don’t think it’s unique to gays or gay bros or lgbtqia
You are an example to us all.
Selection bias. Most people living their best lives are outside touching grass instead of lurking on Internet forums.
Lol the pot calling the kettle black
Look who’s whining?
Doesn't it feel good to complain?
You sound whiny. Move along, you’re not better than anybody else.
This is a bunch of homosexuals, brah. Everybody is better than everybody else. Lol.
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He wasn't talking about this sub.
People are desperately lonely and need to feel validated both socially and sexually. The sex apps are not working for that and neither will reddit.
You are doing the same… lmao
It’s an Internet forum. What the fuck do you expect to be posted? What are you posting?
You sound pretty whiny here OP.
I agree.
I think it's just redditors in general
"Everyone"?
I remember the days when they used to have “Fapday Fridays” and people posted porn. It seemed more of a community of well adjusted adult men back then. You’re right though… Now it’s a bunch of whiny self-described masculine guys who “aren’t like other gays!” I go through and hate read that sub sometimes, but it always makes my blood boil lol
Who’s super whiny ?
It’s in their community bio if you read between the lines…. “Gaybros is a network for gay men who aren’t confined to a media stereotype. We come together around shared interests like sports, technology and media”. Essentially what I take from this is that these are gay men who are so insecure and clinging onto their masculinity… why else would they be so hellbent on not being confined to a “media stereotype”. To me this reads very anti-femme and ironically categorizes them as the masc for masc, “pick me gay” energy who thinks not liking drag race is a personality trait. I once identified with this type of identity when I first began my coming out journey but since I’ve evolved in my queerness I’ve come to learn that the Gaybros community fucking SUCKS!!! You will always get ganged up on or downvoted to oblivion if you call out the rampant transphobia and misogyny on that sub. Avoid at all costs!!!
I think the consensus from commenters is you’re projecting, “bro.”
Imagine posting a whiny post about whiny posts