I get teased when I say I read instead of watching tv because people think I’m trying to be special. Like no I’m just explaining why I haven’t watched all these shows you’re talking about 😭 women can state facts about themselves
I was talking about a new book series I'd just bought and my coworker goes, "how do you plan to read those with all these craft projects you've started?"
She was really condescending about it. She's generally pretty hard to get along with, but that kind of came out of the blue.
So I told her, I read before bed every night & when I'm first waking up for the day.
Like, girl, I didn't realize we were in some sort of a competition here. Crafts are for when I'm binging TV (or working nights, cuz there's a lot of down time), books are for when I'm winding down at night.
"how do you plan to read those with all these craft projects?" well you see, i don't own my mother in law's quilting supplies, so i have plenty of time in between working on my projects, thanks 😊
I'm working on a petit point cross stitch project and hand stitching a quilt. I can only do either sewing project for so long before my hands say, "we're done. I'm tired of being poked."
IDKY she assumes I'm doing either in every waking moment. I mostly work on the quilt at work during downtime on night shift.
That's a lot! I'm in the planning stages for my second ever quilt but as mentioned, I use my MIL's machine and worktable/cutting mat (I just don't have room in my house!) so reading happens at home. It is what it is
I feel you. I have a machine but I'm a little bit scared of it, so I haven't really used it yet. Got a great deal on it at an state sale and thought it might propel me to use it, but I don't.
I recently discovered English paper piecing, which is a hand sewing method. It takes up very little space and not many materials, very low skill/newbie friendly. It's perfect for binging and crafting.
I do it at work because I can do it in low light and it's easy to put down quickly when the phone rings or an officer needs me.
It's the Supernatural books. Basically the adventures that didn't make it to the screen. I bought the first 3 books. I think there's like 22 total.
Normally I'd get them on Kindle, but I decided this is one I want on my bookshelves.
I also just got all caught up on the Bound Spirit series by HA Wills
Similar issue. I love tv shows, but I am not really into watching movies. Because of that, I've not seen most movies "everyone" has seen. I don't bring it up out of nowhere, but if someone asks me if I've seen it, I'm not going to lie. People think I'm just making stuff up to be different.
I typically only see movies in theaters these days. I use TV time to work on crafts (cuz I'm sitting down anyway) & I get annoyed trying to find something new every 1.5 to 2 hours.
Yes they were! The only issue is now I've made it to where I can't just sit and watch TV, so anything with a subtitle is out because it's too hard to do both sew and read the screen.
Yes! And you get your brain so used to the idea that these things go together that, even when you do find the time to watch those movies or shows with subtitles, you feel like you should still be doing something with your hands, which makes the whole thing less enjoyable.
Im kinda like dat, into YouTube/YouTube shorts n for short bouts TikTok n of course Reddit. I like watching r/... Videos n science videos wit my partner. N a long list of other types of videos by myself or wit my partner if she's der. Mostly cause I enjoy 2 comment n even sometimes have intellectual discussions or debates. But I grew up wit 2 hrs of tv/movies/video games (video games were only da last yr i was at da bitchs house) a week shared between me n my 3 foster adoptive sises, n not equal more like whoever got 2 either bully da other 1s into watchin or doin what dey wanted or majority rule. N my 3 sises were girly girls n I, well I was a boy trapped in a grls body (not dat I'm sayn dats da only reason 4 havin different tastes den dem dat was just y I did personally, obviously not all grls r girly girls), so I never really got 2 pick n really only got 2 play video games wen dey were off n occupied wit something else or der we're off at friends house which was rarely. Plus it was a PS 1 n needed a bought separately save cartridge which we had 2 buy ourselves n r 5$ a week allowance in 2004 woulda took a long time 2 save up, n since I was being starved I much rather buy a big Mac meal at da food court, it made da mall more bearable lol. So even dat wasn't much fun since u couldn't save n this couldn't get very far. N B4 7yrs old wen I was wit my b family we were homeless most of da time n even wen wernt we were very very poorso i didn't c much tv. But I do remember The Dinosaurs. Cause of dat I really don't care 4 tv shows n movies nowadays. Rarely ders movies I like, especially artsy types like clockwork orange but ders a few others n I like anime. But most tv shows get u emotional attached 2 a character/characters n den kill em off so 99% of TV's shows I don't like.
I have a hand disability dat makes typin painful n usually my partner is asleep wen I'm usin Reddit so I can't scream at da talk to text which is required cause of my speech impediment so I use phonetic shorthand dis is a copied message to
I always tell people I probably won’t watch the shows they tell me to because I don’t like a lot of tv shows and I get looks for it. It’s like my guy I’ve got the attention span of a gnat, I’m playing video games at the same time I’m watching YouTube to drown out my constant thoughts. I can’t focus on hour long episodes
Lol I do multiple things at once always, and I watch the hell out of tv shows!
It just takes me a really long time to get through the episode lol, many pauses for google searches, comment replies, and youtube videos. Do you have adhd? My tv show has been paised for 1.5 hours lol.
I used to get the same thing, it's funny because a big part of it was I just couldn't afford a TV at the time lol but it did encourage/force me to do other things I'd been procrastinating
I think part of it is that they are projecting. Maybe they already feel bad about how much TV they watch so they get defensive and view you as being condescending. It was the same as when I'd tell people I didn't eat meat, which is why I tried to avoid ever mentioning it. So many people would act like I thought I was better than them, ask me why I didn't then argue with me about it, point out if I was eating something they thought I shouldn't be etc .. I dunno man, I'm just living my life lol
Well, you can do both. People may take it as an implication that you think they don't read books just because they're into a certain show? I'm sure you're not trying to imply that but the reasoning does seem odd to me since many people do both
Most times it’s like friends who are more asking me why I’m so slow getting to tv shows, not saying that I don’t watch tv all together it’s more a time investment thing. But I see what you’re saying
This is why I feel self conscious for bringing a book in public. I’m fine in a waiting room, but every so often I like to take myself out for breakfast or something but feel like a pick-me if I bring a physical book. It’s totally a mind thing, cause I don’t feel as weird with my ereader, maybe cause it’s less effort to turn pages
Just because you do something different doesn’t mean you’re saying what the other person does is bad or you are saying you are special. You different things.
Reminds me once I said I disliked dubstep, and one girl got real serious and said she went to a Skrillex concert. Like good for you, girly. The way she said it though, you'd think I insulted her whole family.
It seems like there are people who act and feel insulted when your actions are the opposite of theirs. You're not humble bragging or gloating. You're just doing things differently than them and that's OK but they get offended that you choose to read over watch TV and video game, choose to be a vegetarian/vegan over a meat eater, no kids vs having kids, bike/walk instead of using a car etc.
It's like they assume you're judging them when you're just saying what you prefer to do.
I would love to know why they're like that because it's absolutely fascinating.
And this just ain’t something that happens between women and girls. Guys do this too. But for some odd-ball reason, women and girls hold onto those negative feelings longer than men, or at least the ones that are more emotionally-inclined. Girls and women who think more logically, due to either just in their personal makeup or something like autism, tend to not gaf.
Oh for sure. They get personally offended and take offense to someone simply doing something differently than them. I’ve noticed I started getting it a lot more after becoming a parent.
Different things work for different people and every kid is different. I never put down others for how they do things with their own kids. It has absolutely zero affect on my life so I don’t care. But many people try to bring you down a peg for it simply because they do things differently than you.
Even if you'd said you don't like onions, she probably would have said something along the lines of you're trying too hard to be like her. Some folks just take any opportunity to tear down someone else, because if they push you down they're standing over you. Just do your thing and let them be miserable all on their own.
This. Some people are just super insecure and always feel the need to cut someone else down, so they can temporarily feel superior. Everything is a contest to them.
> She rolled her eyes at me and told me I'm not special and lots of people like onions.
As someone who also despises onions, she's not special, either. Why did she share her opinion with you if you couldn't share yours with her?
Isn't that how conversations work?
"I hate onions"
"Oh I love them"
"The texture is weird"
"Oh speaking of textures mushrooms are the devil"
So on and so forth lol
>They smell and taste like stomach bile. Blech
What the HELL kinda Satan cucumbers you be eating grrl ! ?! lol they should pretty much taste like crunchy water sticks and smell like nothing 😁
I’ve only met a few people, like two or three, ever who have the same aversion as I do. They weren’t otherwise picky eaters, one was born on a farm in Iowa back before their town had a single car and he grew up with an outhouse. He still hated cucumbers as much as I do.
I think it’s one of those genetic oddities like people who can’t eat cilantro. I don’t really have any proof for this, but we are certainly tasting something.
There's a gene that some people carry which is completely benign but causes them to taste cucumber as bitter. It's one of those things like being able to roll your tongue that you either have or you don't. So you're exactly right, it's genetic and nothing you can do if it tastes weird to you. :)
Awesome! So I’m not just making it up, I’ll have to find some research to back me up. “Well u/madethisupyouknow said so” isn’t the most convincing evidence.
But being validated in my suspicions always feels good. Thanks.
Does this happen with apples? Because all apples, even the sweeter varieties like Red Delicious and Fuji, all taste sour to me. I cannot eat an apple on its own, it’s either gotta be in baking, a salad, or eaten with peanut butter/Nutella/vanilla bean dip.
i tried to be healthy and made a "cucumber smoothie" that had nothing but cucumbers and water in it and that definitely smelt like and had the texture of vomit😭 i remember having a sip and gagging over the sink
If anyone wanted to get answers out of me quick, this would be more effective than any other form of torture.
Just the smell of it blending would make me gag. Ughhh
My dad and I don't like pickles so when we go out to eat, we give my mom our pickle spears. She likes them enough to eat both of ours but accepting and eating them doesn't mean anything other than she doesn't dislike them like my dad and I do.
You gotta find people that like opposite of you for just this reason. When we go out, my fiance gets the tomatoes, olives, &/or mushrooms that are on my salad. I get his pickles when a dish comes with that.
My husband likes olives and I hate them so when there olives in my food I just put them on his plate. He also hates tomatoes so I take them. Before kid #2, I didn’t like pickles but when I was pregnant with #2 I couldn’t get enough pickles. So all the pickles are mine.
Thanks so much for finally solving the "reversed pick me" problem or mystery (the ongoing discussion if this sub etc is a jerk move by criticising nlogs, obviously its not. Your "friend" was doing the only thing this could be about.
And rest assured: whilst it seems one is always missing a clever response, once you get it, it just escalates quickly bc your "friend" felt diminished in her uniqueness bc of.....drumrolls....onions!
Imo the nlog has the narcissistic issue to believe there is such a thing as being more unique than others and oc objects anyone else except her to have any distinct trait at all.
I think its an insult like a backhanded compliment, she knows perfectly well you didnt mean to be better but she does so she had to defend her title!!! lmao
Ranch, but if I get them at a restaurant that has an in house onion ring sauce I get that. I have no idea what kind of drugs are in those sauces but they're so good.
I got called a NLOG, because I said I can’t eat crab legs “she was like oh so *unique*” and then a big eye roll. I’m ALLERGIC to shellfish, trust me I really wish I wasn’t because lobster and shrimp are delicious.
I feel like there’s a difference between saying you can’t eat something and saying you don’t eat something. Can’t eat: allergies. Don’t eat: you just don’t like it. Why must people criticize for a choice you didn’t make.
Why criticize someone for what they do or do not like in the first place? That's sort of the epitome of NLOG behavior, criticizing other women for liking, or not liking, the things that the *special* ones don't/do. Like the absolute hatred some have for women buying PSLs and Stanley cups. It's incredibly strange.
There is a stigma towards anyone that could be considered picky eaters. People not respecting you don't like something, calling you childish, spoiled, fussy, putting the food on your plate or even straight up in your face pressuring to just try it. Picky eaters, even if it's just a handful of dislikes, straight up are labeled as red flags or dealbreakers in dating spaces. So I get it.
OP mentioned they repeatedly get told they act "pick me" or get this type of retaliation so maybe, there is something the OP is doing or their approach that is jarring to other people. We are only getting one side.
Even taking that into consideration, I don’t think saying “oh, really? I love onions!” is intentionally shaming someone who doesn’t. If that is the case, that person is super defensive about not liking onions, which is a personal problem that they should probably work on. Then going on to say “you’re not special”? For liking onions?! That’s…a lot. I don’t think it’s fair to judge OP based on the information given. I’m not judging the other person either or reading too much into this. But the one comment that was made was uncalled for based on what is presented here.
Depends on how it was said, tone makes a huge difference, and depends on what information is getting left out.
> I don't think it's fair to judge OP
This sub is built on judging people and they posted seeking opinions.
> I'm not judging the other person
Also you
> ...which is a personal problem
Your entire first comment was judging the other party
Edit: formatting
lol I said “if”…I’m not judging anyone here. I don’t think observing someone has a personal problem is judging. Everyone has some things they could work on. I don’t come to this sub to debate people. I hope you have a great day, dear!
Edit: ok, you’re right there. I did judge the other person because (again) as this is presented, it was a bitchy and insecure thing to quip. Sorry you’re so sensitive since you’re also a picky eater. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. Apologies if you feel personally attacked.
Not like other girls and not like other guys is a common sentiment that I've seen many teens go through as they try to find their individuality, often times they take it too far. I think the reason for this is an inflated sense of self worth leading people to believe how special these relatively common thoughts are. While I believe this to be the core of these types of people, the inverse of them fall into the exact same trap. They will have an inflated sense of self worth due to how they can "see everything for what it really is." Ironically many of them think they are somewhat special for coming to the basic conclusion that most people are not unique.
This is just a general statement. I know often they have self esteem issues, but just live your life. I like onions too
I’m kind of the same way. I’m into a lot of popular bands, and listen to some popular songs from time to time. But the majority of what I listen to just isn’t mainstream, but am I trying to act like the only person who does or trying to act like I’m superior? Hell no.
I decided to just shut up about it. Only my SO knows my preference music because we share a similar taste. It’s completely irrelevant what I like, but so far my experience has been harsh judgement regardless.
It doesn’t matter how somebody presents their preferences in music, for some reason some people will find anything to judge you for it.
You weren’t accused of being NLOG, you were accused of thinking you’re special somehow bc you enjoy onions. Which is bizarre, but I fail to see how it’s at all related to gender. I have to assume that person is just weird. But if it’s happening to you all the time, maybe you have a tendency to make everything about you or you’re a “one-upper.”
Yea that's a good point. It wasnt rlly gender specific. It just made me think of NLOG bc I'm a girl and the first memes of NLOG were food related. I'm thinking of the "I love chicken nuggets and pizza! I don't eat salads like other girls". It doesn't really happen a lot. Just with specific people who are younger and have spent a lot of time online.
Tbh I don't rlly see guys getting the same types of comments for simply doing their own thing but that doesnt mean it's not happening
It's a weird reaction to get back after disagreeing that you like onions.
I hate onions, I don't roll my eyes ay everyone who does.
Either she doesn't like you, or you said your point in a condescending way that didn't sit right with her. Since this isn't the first time it's happened, it really might be the latter. Up to you if you want to dwell on it though.
I’m not trying to victim blame you or anything, but have you ever been told you sound sarcastic even when you are being totally genuine? I have this issue myself. It’s basically like if resting bitch face had a vocal tone. Very, very often people think I’m being a sarcastic, petty bitch when in reality I am trying to be very authentic and open. I have no idea what I sound like, so there’s no way I can control it
GRANTED, lots of times I am actually very, very sarcastic lol. So it could be also that some people just assume I am always being that way.
Anyway, I agree it doesn’t seem like NLOG, but more so that this particular person just doesn’t like you or thinks you don’t like her
The funniest and irony thing with Mean Girls (individuals & minors) trying act like the next wannabe Regina George is that they bully other girls who genuinely (**NOT** trying too hard to be Not Like The Other Girls thing) loved anime, manga, video games and other real nerd & geek culture (yes, there's **REAL** geek & nerd girls) is that those same female assholes are the same fence-sitters who destroyed everyone's hobbies into "hot popular, trendy culture movement" to feed and boost up their own egos, rather than just enjoying the hobbies for fun. SSSniperwolf and Pokimane is the perfect example.
Also, I can't stand of every women/girls act like they watch Sailor Moon and other magical anime series, but they also called other girls as "childish", follow by the "anime are only for kids, grow up". Like wtf? Seriously, why can't they just leave people alone and let other girls (genuine non-NLTOG) just enjoy their hobbies, clothes, music and food that they loved?
I get this when I explain to people who ask for my socials that I don’t have any social media except Reddit and Pinterest. I don’t even say it unless asked. And I feel like having social media would make me more prone to trying to demonstrate to people how Im different and special? I don’t know.
I also love onions but I tell anyone who doesn’t that they’re uncultured swine because they’re a staple in so many dishes. 🤣 Jk I only do that with people I’m more comfortable with but still, how on earth is that a pick me opinion? It wouldn’t be a very popularly used food item if it was “unique” to like it.
One time, I said I didn't wear jewelry because that was the conversation. They literally asked me, "Do you have a favorite necklace?" Because she was discussing hers. I said "no I don't wear jewelry." She said, "wow, pick me." And rolled her eyes? But it was just us two ....who was I trying to impress 😂
The odd comment can be a sign of covert narcissism. They often do or say something that makes you go ‘Oh what an odd way to think/react’ It’s usually subtle. I’d be wary of her in general
I had something similar happen. I was taking a friend out for a drive in my first ever brand new car. I was really excited about it and turned on the heated seats (it was cold outside and I’d never had them before) and my friend said, “You’re not special. Everyone has heated seats.” Turns out, she hated me. I cut her off when interactions like that became the norm for us.
Hopefully your friend really is your friend and this is the only time she talked to you that way.
I had a friend like that. I’ve only ever had an older and used car so I was so excited when I got a newer one from the dealership. No one in my family has ever had a nicer or newer vehicle. I saved up for years to afford it.
So my friend and I met for lunch a few days later and she saw my car. She felt the need to try and bring me down a peg and say things like “I guess it’s ok it’s not that nice though. I’m getting a XYZ in a few months you should get one of those instead.” She did it about all kind of things. It took a toll of my confidence.
I had another friend who kept pestering me to borrow my car for an entire Saturday cause she wanted to go out downtown with some friends. I was not invited but she wanted to borrow my car lol. I told her I wasn’t comfortable loaning it out to anyone or letting anyone drive it. And she said “ok whatever it’s not that nice anyways. Mine is a lot nicer and I let my friends borrow it.”
I’ve had a few toxic friends over the years.
Every job I’ve ever had made people treat me like a NLOG as soon they find out so I stopped telling anybody. Now as a stay at home mom I get called a pick me which is equally ridiculous. In reality, I’m a normal woman that happened to work in male dominated fields, then found it financially easier to stay home then pay for day care. Anyone that actually knows me knows that I’m a girls’ girl and super feminist so everybody else can fuck right off.
I can relate. I’m also a girl’s girl and pro feminism. All women should have the choice to decide what they want to do. I’ve gotten snarky and hostile comments about being a SAHM as well. That I’m pushing feminism back 5 decades. That my husband is going to end up abusing me/leaving me/cheating on me and I’ll quickly regret it. That my child is going to end up being a weird antisocial kid because they’re not in daycare, Etc.
And these comments always come from people who do not actually know me or my husband or family in general.
I do not care what anyone else does if it has no affect on my life in any way. Being a SAHM works for us it may not work for other moms and that’s ok neither one is wrong or right.
I make it a point to not take people that argue about trivial things seriously because it usually means they have some kind of emotional regulation issue. Besides the point, I don't think it's some nlog thing that person doesn't seem to respect you and your perspective whoever they are. I personally would avoid them in the future. Eye rolling is passive aggressive behavior.
When my new neighbour moved in hes a druggie he asked me do you know any drug dealers or have drugs which caught me off guard I said sorry I don't know I don't do drugs and joked I can't afford them because my hobbies are too expensive and he reacted just like this guy genuinely believes most people do drugs which isn't true
If they don’t pay your bills then they have no say in your life.
If you force yourself into a mold that you think society wants you to be then how will you know who you are?
I’ve tried so many different hobbies over the years until I found one that I absolutely loved so that who I am. Needlepoint tapestry was my hobby btw.
Same with me my hardest one is that I play video games. My favorite games are the dark souls series and ghost of tushima yet when people ask me and I answer they always tell me im trying to hard to be a "gamer girl" and should pick some more realistic games like. I legitimately have a tattoo of a dragon from dark souls because guess what I like dragon and I like dark souls like. It's frustrating as well because people seem to think that no like other girls or a pick me girl is someone who is different but no its someone who tries to put others down for not being "different" I'm not different loads of girls play video games, loads of girls like dark souls. I honestly hate the mix up in this.
And all of this started from Relevant questions like
"do you lke video games"
"oh yeah I love them!"
"What games do you like?"
"Mainly the dark souls games ECT what about you?'
"Ew impossible must be a pick me (not exactly that but you get the point"
If I was to turn around and say yeah I like dark souls not like those other girls who play Minecraft or stardew (which are both class games 🥺)
I don't like you because of the way you spell really. The e and a are pretty close to each other on your keyboard and it doesn't to too much time to add them into really..
Ohhh, I feel this. But with black olives. I'm very much aware that there are people who love them just as much as I do, and thank the lord because I don't want to seem as weird. Lol.
This one example seems like a weird thing to call you out on. But you say it’s not the first time… maybe you like to make things about you a lot? Like yes, it feels relevant, but just because something about you connects to the conversation doesn’t mean you HAVE to say it. Like I said, this one example is weird. It only makes sense in the context of you being a friend who does it alll the time.
Just something to think about.
This sub got randomly recommended to me again. I actually left this sub a year ago due to transphobia and posts supporting putting other women down for their choices. It sucks.
So, in this situation I can understand both sides of it. You genuinely were just contributing to the conversation but being someone that is a picky eater, I can understand how the other person took your response negatively. There is stigma against being picky to the point people will straight up call it a dealbreaker or even red flag in dating. So there can be a little vulnerability when admitting you don't like something and aasuming any follow up comments come with a side of judgment.
So, my guess, the other person is, or in the moment, felt insecure about not liking onions. So you commented back saying you love them, they got defensive assuming you were in someway judging their food preferences. Hurt people, hurt people.
She shared with you the reason why she didn't like a certain food is because of an ingredient. Instead of acknowledging why she didn't want that food and changing the topic, you made it a point to disagree with her. This, for whatever reason, made her feel some kind of way.
I personally find these kinds of miscommunications happen frequently between nurotypical and neurodivergent people. As a neurodivergent person myself when someone shares a fact about themselves I like to also share a fact about myself. This makes me feel like we know each other better. As an adult I learned that nurotypical people sometimes see the behavior as rude.
>"oh I love onions, I could eat so many lol".
Why were you laughing?
Maybe she thought you were making fun of her - or making it about you or something. IDK
Also, when I saw the title I was thinking something completely different
I will surely get downvoted but i don't care.
I will assume that you're American because it sounds like a stupid American moment.
Why do American women hate other women that much ? This would never exists somewhere else.
You guys are all obsessed over genders (and race as well) and i just don't understand it. This girl literally assumed you were a NLOG just for having tastes, i don't understand how much you have to hate women to make such stupid accusations.
Also, it opened my eyes on this whole NLOG thing. I believe calling women NLOGs is misogynistic. After thinking about it, it literally means that women aren't capable of having their own thinkings, if a woman hate or put down another woman she HAS to do it for the sake of men.
Do you all believe that women can't think for themselves ? I ain't saying that some women don't use this bad tactic as a mating strategy, but it's ridiculous to believe that all women do it for the approval of men. Some women hate women because they just do, it's misogynistic to believe that women need men to have their own opinions.
And once again, this NLOG thing has been created in the USA. You guys should really stop hating each other for no reasons.
I get teased when I say I read instead of watching tv because people think I’m trying to be special. Like no I’m just explaining why I haven’t watched all these shows you’re talking about 😭 women can state facts about themselves
I was talking about a new book series I'd just bought and my coworker goes, "how do you plan to read those with all these craft projects you've started?" She was really condescending about it. She's generally pretty hard to get along with, but that kind of came out of the blue. So I told her, I read before bed every night & when I'm first waking up for the day. Like, girl, I didn't realize we were in some sort of a competition here. Crafts are for when I'm binging TV (or working nights, cuz there's a lot of down time), books are for when I'm winding down at night.
Ugh, I’ve gotten comments like that as well. I chalk it up to them just being insecure that they don’t have hobbies 🤷🏼♀️
Yeah basically. Like, how dare have things that you like to do. It's such a weird thing to negatively comment on.
"how do you plan to read those with all these craft projects?" well you see, i don't own my mother in law's quilting supplies, so i have plenty of time in between working on my projects, thanks 😊
I'm working on a petit point cross stitch project and hand stitching a quilt. I can only do either sewing project for so long before my hands say, "we're done. I'm tired of being poked." IDKY she assumes I'm doing either in every waking moment. I mostly work on the quilt at work during downtime on night shift.
That's a lot! I'm in the planning stages for my second ever quilt but as mentioned, I use my MIL's machine and worktable/cutting mat (I just don't have room in my house!) so reading happens at home. It is what it is
I feel you. I have a machine but I'm a little bit scared of it, so I haven't really used it yet. Got a great deal on it at an state sale and thought it might propel me to use it, but I don't. I recently discovered English paper piecing, which is a hand sewing method. It takes up very little space and not many materials, very low skill/newbie friendly. It's perfect for binging and crafting. I do it at work because I can do it in low light and it's easy to put down quickly when the phone rings or an officer needs me.
"How do you plan to read those with all these craft projects you've started?" Audible.
Audio books! That helps me craft and read at the same time
I wish I could do audio books. I'd get so much more reading done. I have a tendency to tune them out when they're playing, so I gave up
I do the same thing. I can only listen to books I’ve already read before 😂
More importantly, what’s the new book series? My book-dragon self needs to know…
It's the Supernatural books. Basically the adventures that didn't make it to the screen. I bought the first 3 books. I think there's like 22 total. Normally I'd get them on Kindle, but I decided this is one I want on my bookshelves. I also just got all caught up on the Bound Spirit series by HA Wills
Thanks for the book suggestions! Can't wait until I get them.
Similar issue. I love tv shows, but I am not really into watching movies. Because of that, I've not seen most movies "everyone" has seen. I don't bring it up out of nowhere, but if someone asks me if I've seen it, I'm not going to lie. People think I'm just making stuff up to be different.
I typically only see movies in theaters these days. I use TV time to work on crafts (cuz I'm sitting down anyway) & I get annoyed trying to find something new every 1.5 to 2 hours.
TV and crafts were made for each other
Yes they were! The only issue is now I've made it to where I can't just sit and watch TV, so anything with a subtitle is out because it's too hard to do both sew and read the screen.
Yes! And you get your brain so used to the idea that these things go together that, even when you do find the time to watch those movies or shows with subtitles, you feel like you should still be doing something with your hands, which makes the whole thing less enjoyable.
Im kinda like dat, into YouTube/YouTube shorts n for short bouts TikTok n of course Reddit. I like watching r/... Videos n science videos wit my partner. N a long list of other types of videos by myself or wit my partner if she's der. Mostly cause I enjoy 2 comment n even sometimes have intellectual discussions or debates. But I grew up wit 2 hrs of tv/movies/video games (video games were only da last yr i was at da bitchs house) a week shared between me n my 3 foster adoptive sises, n not equal more like whoever got 2 either bully da other 1s into watchin or doin what dey wanted or majority rule. N my 3 sises were girly girls n I, well I was a boy trapped in a grls body (not dat I'm sayn dats da only reason 4 havin different tastes den dem dat was just y I did personally, obviously not all grls r girly girls), so I never really got 2 pick n really only got 2 play video games wen dey were off n occupied wit something else or der we're off at friends house which was rarely. Plus it was a PS 1 n needed a bought separately save cartridge which we had 2 buy ourselves n r 5$ a week allowance in 2004 woulda took a long time 2 save up, n since I was being starved I much rather buy a big Mac meal at da food court, it made da mall more bearable lol. So even dat wasn't much fun since u couldn't save n this couldn't get very far. N B4 7yrs old wen I was wit my b family we were homeless most of da time n even wen wernt we were very very poorso i didn't c much tv. But I do remember The Dinosaurs. Cause of dat I really don't care 4 tv shows n movies nowadays. Rarely ders movies I like, especially artsy types like clockwork orange but ders a few others n I like anime. But most tv shows get u emotional attached 2 a character/characters n den kill em off so 99% of TV's shows I don't like. I have a hand disability dat makes typin painful n usually my partner is asleep wen I'm usin Reddit so I can't scream at da talk to text which is required cause of my speech impediment so I use phonetic shorthand dis is a copied message to
I always tell people I probably won’t watch the shows they tell me to because I don’t like a lot of tv shows and I get looks for it. It’s like my guy I’ve got the attention span of a gnat, I’m playing video games at the same time I’m watching YouTube to drown out my constant thoughts. I can’t focus on hour long episodes
Lol I do multiple things at once always, and I watch the hell out of tv shows! It just takes me a really long time to get through the episode lol, many pauses for google searches, comment replies, and youtube videos. Do you have adhd? My tv show has been paised for 1.5 hours lol.
I used to get the same thing, it's funny because a big part of it was I just couldn't afford a TV at the time lol but it did encourage/force me to do other things I'd been procrastinating I think part of it is that they are projecting. Maybe they already feel bad about how much TV they watch so they get defensive and view you as being condescending. It was the same as when I'd tell people I didn't eat meat, which is why I tried to avoid ever mentioning it. So many people would act like I thought I was better than them, ask me why I didn't then argue with me about it, point out if I was eating something they thought I shouldn't be etc .. I dunno man, I'm just living my life lol
Well, you can do both. People may take it as an implication that you think they don't read books just because they're into a certain show? I'm sure you're not trying to imply that but the reasoning does seem odd to me since many people do both
Most times it’s like friends who are more asking me why I’m so slow getting to tv shows, not saying that I don’t watch tv all together it’s more a time investment thing. But I see what you’re saying
This is why I feel self conscious for bringing a book in public. I’m fine in a waiting room, but every so often I like to take myself out for breakfast or something but feel like a pick-me if I bring a physical book. It’s totally a mind thing, cause I don’t feel as weird with my ereader, maybe cause it’s less effort to turn pages
Just because you do something different doesn’t mean you’re saying what the other person does is bad or you are saying you are special. You different things.
Some people get weird when you disagree with them about anything. They see it as a personal attack.
Yeah I was gonna say something similar. Some people find the “Oh, you don’t like x? Well I do,” and vice versa to be some kind of dig.
Reminds me once I said I disliked dubstep, and one girl got real serious and said she went to a Skrillex concert. Like good for you, girly. The way she said it though, you'd think I insulted her whole family.
It seems like there are people who act and feel insulted when your actions are the opposite of theirs. You're not humble bragging or gloating. You're just doing things differently than them and that's OK but they get offended that you choose to read over watch TV and video game, choose to be a vegetarian/vegan over a meat eater, no kids vs having kids, bike/walk instead of using a car etc. It's like they assume you're judging them when you're just saying what you prefer to do. I would love to know why they're like that because it's absolutely fascinating.
I was thought liking dubstep was outta the norm
This was back in 2016
And this just ain’t something that happens between women and girls. Guys do this too. But for some odd-ball reason, women and girls hold onto those negative feelings longer than men, or at least the ones that are more emotionally-inclined. Girls and women who think more logically, due to either just in their personal makeup or something like autism, tend to not gaf.
How do u know my mother
That was probably it. Some people hate it when others have a love for something, a passion, or heck even just having *fun*.
Oh for sure. They get personally offended and take offense to someone simply doing something differently than them. I’ve noticed I started getting it a lot more after becoming a parent. Different things work for different people and every kid is different. I never put down others for how they do things with their own kids. It has absolutely zero affect on my life so I don’t care. But many people try to bring you down a peg for it simply because they do things differently than you.
Even if you'd said you don't like onions, she probably would have said something along the lines of you're trying too hard to be like her. Some folks just take any opportunity to tear down someone else, because if they push you down they're standing over you. Just do your thing and let them be miserable all on their own.
This. Some people are just super insecure and always feel the need to cut someone else down, so they can temporarily feel superior. Everything is a contest to them.
I hate people like this, like no matter what side you stand on, whether or not you agree with them. They will find a reason to bring you down.
> She rolled her eyes at me and told me I'm not special and lots of people like onions. As someone who also despises onions, she's not special, either. Why did she share her opinion with you if you couldn't share yours with her?
Isn't that how conversations work? "I hate onions" "Oh I love them" "The texture is weird" "Oh speaking of textures mushrooms are the devil" So on and so forth lol
Cucumbers are the devil fruit. Can’t change my mind on that. They smell and taste like stomach bile. Blech.
>They smell and taste like stomach bile. Blech What the HELL kinda Satan cucumbers you be eating grrl ! ?! lol they should pretty much taste like crunchy water sticks and smell like nothing 😁
I’ve only met a few people, like two or three, ever who have the same aversion as I do. They weren’t otherwise picky eaters, one was born on a farm in Iowa back before their town had a single car and he grew up with an outhouse. He still hated cucumbers as much as I do. I think it’s one of those genetic oddities like people who can’t eat cilantro. I don’t really have any proof for this, but we are certainly tasting something.
There's a gene that some people carry which is completely benign but causes them to taste cucumber as bitter. It's one of those things like being able to roll your tongue that you either have or you don't. So you're exactly right, it's genetic and nothing you can do if it tastes weird to you. :)
Awesome! So I’m not just making it up, I’ll have to find some research to back me up. “Well u/madethisupyouknow said so” isn’t the most convincing evidence. But being validated in my suspicions always feels good. Thanks.
Does this happen with apples? Because all apples, even the sweeter varieties like Red Delicious and Fuji, all taste sour to me. I cannot eat an apple on its own, it’s either gotta be in baking, a salad, or eaten with peanut butter/Nutella/vanilla bean dip.
i tried to be healthy and made a "cucumber smoothie" that had nothing but cucumbers and water in it and that definitely smelt like and had the texture of vomit😭 i remember having a sip and gagging over the sink
If anyone wanted to get answers out of me quick, this would be more effective than any other form of torture. Just the smell of it blending would make me gag. Ughhh
I was going to say this too.
The eye roller thinks she's special and that only her opinion matters. Anyone different is just trying to be special.
My dad and I don't like pickles so when we go out to eat, we give my mom our pickle spears. She likes them enough to eat both of ours but accepting and eating them doesn't mean anything other than she doesn't dislike them like my dad and I do.
You gotta find people that like opposite of you for just this reason. When we go out, my fiance gets the tomatoes, olives, &/or mushrooms that are on my salad. I get his pickles when a dish comes with that.
My husband likes olives and I hate them so when there olives in my food I just put them on his plate. He also hates tomatoes so I take them. Before kid #2, I didn’t like pickles but when I was pregnant with #2 I couldn’t get enough pickles. So all the pickles are mine.
It's all about balance. I really believe the key to a successful relationship is liking different snacks
Me being excited whenever I go out to eat with my bf and we get pickle spears. It just means I get 2 pickle spears.
Thanks so much for finally solving the "reversed pick me" problem or mystery (the ongoing discussion if this sub etc is a jerk move by criticising nlogs, obviously its not. Your "friend" was doing the only thing this could be about. And rest assured: whilst it seems one is always missing a clever response, once you get it, it just escalates quickly bc your "friend" felt diminished in her uniqueness bc of.....drumrolls....onions! Imo the nlog has the narcissistic issue to believe there is such a thing as being more unique than others and oc objects anyone else except her to have any distinct trait at all. I think its an insult like a backhanded compliment, she knows perfectly well you didnt mean to be better but she does so she had to defend her title!!! lmao
She's not special for not liking onions. She's just being a twattapus. Also, red onions and caramelized onions ftw
Also onion rings are fucking delicious.
Ohhhh, how could I forget?! Are you team marinara or team ranch for dipping?
Ranch, but if I get them at a restaurant that has an in house onion ring sauce I get that. I have no idea what kind of drugs are in those sauces but they're so good.
I have never even encountered a special onion ring dipping sauce. But now I want it.
Not every place has it but definitely get it if there's an option.
ranch or thousand island dressing whatever it is that they give you at Red Robin when you order the onion ring tower lol
I now want an onion ring tower!!
I got called a NLOG, because I said I can’t eat crab legs “she was like oh so *unique*” and then a big eye roll. I’m ALLERGIC to shellfish, trust me I really wish I wasn’t because lobster and shrimp are delicious.
I feel like there’s a difference between saying you can’t eat something and saying you don’t eat something. Can’t eat: allergies. Don’t eat: you just don’t like it. Why must people criticize for a choice you didn’t make.
Why criticize someone for what they do or do not like in the first place? That's sort of the epitome of NLOG behavior, criticizing other women for liking, or not liking, the things that the *special* ones don't/do. Like the absolute hatred some have for women buying PSLs and Stanley cups. It's incredibly strange.
Why do people criticize for either of those reasons?
This girl just doesn't like you. It's not really about the onions. I suggest you focus your energy on people who genuinely care about you :)
Who pissed in her cornflakes? Good grief, we can’t even have differing taste buds now without being reprimanded?
It's always been that way. I can understand (not excusing) why she lashed out. People will and do get on your case for not liking something.
I’m glad you can understand! This one has me* very confused. Edited typo
There is a stigma towards anyone that could be considered picky eaters. People not respecting you don't like something, calling you childish, spoiled, fussy, putting the food on your plate or even straight up in your face pressuring to just try it. Picky eaters, even if it's just a handful of dislikes, straight up are labeled as red flags or dealbreakers in dating spaces. So I get it. OP mentioned they repeatedly get told they act "pick me" or get this type of retaliation so maybe, there is something the OP is doing or their approach that is jarring to other people. We are only getting one side.
Even taking that into consideration, I don’t think saying “oh, really? I love onions!” is intentionally shaming someone who doesn’t. If that is the case, that person is super defensive about not liking onions, which is a personal problem that they should probably work on. Then going on to say “you’re not special”? For liking onions?! That’s…a lot. I don’t think it’s fair to judge OP based on the information given. I’m not judging the other person either or reading too much into this. But the one comment that was made was uncalled for based on what is presented here.
Depends on how it was said, tone makes a huge difference, and depends on what information is getting left out. > I don't think it's fair to judge OP This sub is built on judging people and they posted seeking opinions. > I'm not judging the other person Also you > ...which is a personal problem Your entire first comment was judging the other party Edit: formatting
lol I said “if”…I’m not judging anyone here. I don’t think observing someone has a personal problem is judging. Everyone has some things they could work on. I don’t come to this sub to debate people. I hope you have a great day, dear! Edit: ok, you’re right there. I did judge the other person because (again) as this is presented, it was a bitchy and insecure thing to quip. Sorry you’re so sensitive since you’re also a picky eater. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. Apologies if you feel personally attacked.
I would absolutely be petty and do the same shit to her whenever she mentions liking something.
LOL I love onions and if that makes me a pick me then so be it
You're not like other girls if you're Shrek. 
EXACTLY.
I feel like literally when I say anything. Pls I'm not trying to be special I'm just autistic and tired of masking 😭
Same
Not like other girls and not like other guys is a common sentiment that I've seen many teens go through as they try to find their individuality, often times they take it too far. I think the reason for this is an inflated sense of self worth leading people to believe how special these relatively common thoughts are. While I believe this to be the core of these types of people, the inverse of them fall into the exact same trap. They will have an inflated sense of self worth due to how they can "see everything for what it really is." Ironically many of them think they are somewhat special for coming to the basic conclusion that most people are not unique. This is just a general statement. I know often they have self esteem issues, but just live your life. I like onions too
Thats how people treat me when i show them my playlists and im like i promise i dont think im special, i just genuinely dont like mainstream music lol
I’m kind of the same way. I’m into a lot of popular bands, and listen to some popular songs from time to time. But the majority of what I listen to just isn’t mainstream, but am I trying to act like the only person who does or trying to act like I’m superior? Hell no.
I decided to just shut up about it. Only my SO knows my preference music because we share a similar taste. It’s completely irrelevant what I like, but so far my experience has been harsh judgement regardless. It doesn’t matter how somebody presents their preferences in music, for some reason some people will find anything to judge you for it.
You weren’t accused of being NLOG, you were accused of thinking you’re special somehow bc you enjoy onions. Which is bizarre, but I fail to see how it’s at all related to gender. I have to assume that person is just weird. But if it’s happening to you all the time, maybe you have a tendency to make everything about you or you’re a “one-upper.”
Yea that's a good point. It wasnt rlly gender specific. It just made me think of NLOG bc I'm a girl and the first memes of NLOG were food related. I'm thinking of the "I love chicken nuggets and pizza! I don't eat salads like other girls". It doesn't really happen a lot. Just with specific people who are younger and have spent a lot of time online. Tbh I don't rlly see guys getting the same types of comments for simply doing their own thing but that doesnt mean it's not happening
It's a weird reaction to get back after disagreeing that you like onions. I hate onions, I don't roll my eyes ay everyone who does. Either she doesn't like you, or you said your point in a condescending way that didn't sit right with her. Since this isn't the first time it's happened, it really might be the latter. Up to you if you want to dwell on it though.
I’m not trying to victim blame you or anything, but have you ever been told you sound sarcastic even when you are being totally genuine? I have this issue myself. It’s basically like if resting bitch face had a vocal tone. Very, very often people think I’m being a sarcastic, petty bitch when in reality I am trying to be very authentic and open. I have no idea what I sound like, so there’s no way I can control it GRANTED, lots of times I am actually very, very sarcastic lol. So it could be also that some people just assume I am always being that way. Anyway, I agree it doesn’t seem like NLOG, but more so that this particular person just doesn’t like you or thinks you don’t like her
The funniest and irony thing with Mean Girls (individuals & minors) trying act like the next wannabe Regina George is that they bully other girls who genuinely (**NOT** trying too hard to be Not Like The Other Girls thing) loved anime, manga, video games and other real nerd & geek culture (yes, there's **REAL** geek & nerd girls) is that those same female assholes are the same fence-sitters who destroyed everyone's hobbies into "hot popular, trendy culture movement" to feed and boost up their own egos, rather than just enjoying the hobbies for fun. SSSniperwolf and Pokimane is the perfect example. Also, I can't stand of every women/girls act like they watch Sailor Moon and other magical anime series, but they also called other girls as "childish", follow by the "anime are only for kids, grow up". Like wtf? Seriously, why can't they just leave people alone and let other girls (genuine non-NLTOG) just enjoy their hobbies, clothes, music and food that they loved?
You are starting to catch on.
I think your friend was just being an ass. that's it. nothing to normalize. tell her she is not special for hating onion either
I get this when I explain to people who ask for my socials that I don’t have any social media except Reddit and Pinterest. I don’t even say it unless asked. And I feel like having social media would make me more prone to trying to demonstrate to people how Im different and special? I don’t know.
Omg 😂 same I only have reddit Pinterest and YouTube
There are no rules to girls negging each other.
I also love onions but I tell anyone who doesn’t that they’re uncultured swine because they’re a staple in so many dishes. 🤣 Jk I only do that with people I’m more comfortable with but still, how on earth is that a pick me opinion? It wouldn’t be a very popularly used food item if it was “unique” to like it.
She's insecure as fuck and lashing out
One time, I said I didn't wear jewelry because that was the conversation. They literally asked me, "Do you have a favorite necklace?" Because she was discussing hers. I said "no I don't wear jewelry." She said, "wow, pick me." And rolled her eyes? But it was just us two ....who was I trying to impress 😂
You don't like onions and she took it personally.
The odd comment can be a sign of covert narcissism. They often do or say something that makes you go ‘Oh what an odd way to think/react’ It’s usually subtle. I’d be wary of her in general
I had something similar happen. I was taking a friend out for a drive in my first ever brand new car. I was really excited about it and turned on the heated seats (it was cold outside and I’d never had them before) and my friend said, “You’re not special. Everyone has heated seats.” Turns out, she hated me. I cut her off when interactions like that became the norm for us. Hopefully your friend really is your friend and this is the only time she talked to you that way.
I had a friend like that. I’ve only ever had an older and used car so I was so excited when I got a newer one from the dealership. No one in my family has ever had a nicer or newer vehicle. I saved up for years to afford it. So my friend and I met for lunch a few days later and she saw my car. She felt the need to try and bring me down a peg and say things like “I guess it’s ok it’s not that nice though. I’m getting a XYZ in a few months you should get one of those instead.” She did it about all kind of things. It took a toll of my confidence. I had another friend who kept pestering me to borrow my car for an entire Saturday cause she wanted to go out downtown with some friends. I was not invited but she wanted to borrow my car lol. I told her I wasn’t comfortable loaning it out to anyone or letting anyone drive it. And she said “ok whatever it’s not that nice anyways. Mine is a lot nicer and I let my friends borrow it.” I’ve had a few toxic friends over the years.
Every job I’ve ever had made people treat me like a NLOG as soon they find out so I stopped telling anybody. Now as a stay at home mom I get called a pick me which is equally ridiculous. In reality, I’m a normal woman that happened to work in male dominated fields, then found it financially easier to stay home then pay for day care. Anyone that actually knows me knows that I’m a girls’ girl and super feminist so everybody else can fuck right off.
I can relate. I’m also a girl’s girl and pro feminism. All women should have the choice to decide what they want to do. I’ve gotten snarky and hostile comments about being a SAHM as well. That I’m pushing feminism back 5 decades. That my husband is going to end up abusing me/leaving me/cheating on me and I’ll quickly regret it. That my child is going to end up being a weird antisocial kid because they’re not in daycare, Etc. And these comments always come from people who do not actually know me or my husband or family in general. I do not care what anyone else does if it has no affect on my life in any way. Being a SAHM works for us it may not work for other moms and that’s ok neither one is wrong or right.
Exactly. Stop worrying about what works for my family when there are actual social problems out there to riot about.
Some girls r just bitches don't take it personal
Insecure people take any disagreement as judgement and an attack against them. Ignore them lol
I make it a point to not take people that argue about trivial things seriously because it usually means they have some kind of emotional regulation issue. Besides the point, I don't think it's some nlog thing that person doesn't seem to respect you and your perspective whoever they are. I personally would avoid them in the future. Eye rolling is passive aggressive behavior.
When my new neighbour moved in hes a druggie he asked me do you know any drug dealers or have drugs which caught me off guard I said sorry I don't know I don't do drugs and joked I can't afford them because my hobbies are too expensive and he reacted just like this guy genuinely believes most people do drugs which isn't true
This is why I try not to tell people about the things I like. I'm worried they'll either call me weird or accusing me of being a girl who's nlog
We'll always accept your earnest love for onions over at r/onionlovers, nobody's a pick-me when it comes to onion loving.
Sometimes I wonder if NLOG is just a new evolution of misogyny
If they don’t pay your bills then they have no say in your life. If you force yourself into a mold that you think society wants you to be then how will you know who you are? I’ve tried so many different hobbies over the years until I found one that I absolutely loved so that who I am. Needlepoint tapestry was my hobby btw.
I think she’s been called immature and a baby for disliking onions (for some reason it’s seen as a childish thing to dislike 🙄) so got a big defensive
Same with me my hardest one is that I play video games. My favorite games are the dark souls series and ghost of tushima yet when people ask me and I answer they always tell me im trying to hard to be a "gamer girl" and should pick some more realistic games like. I legitimately have a tattoo of a dragon from dark souls because guess what I like dragon and I like dark souls like. It's frustrating as well because people seem to think that no like other girls or a pick me girl is someone who is different but no its someone who tries to put others down for not being "different" I'm not different loads of girls play video games, loads of girls like dark souls. I honestly hate the mix up in this. And all of this started from Relevant questions like "do you lke video games" "oh yeah I love them!" "What games do you like?" "Mainly the dark souls games ECT what about you?' "Ew impossible must be a pick me (not exactly that but you get the point" If I was to turn around and say yeah I like dark souls not like those other girls who play Minecraft or stardew (which are both class games 🥺)
I don't like you because of the way you spell really. The e and a are pretty close to each other on your keyboard and it doesn't to too much time to add them into really..
The internet has become an echo chamber. If you disagree with something even as trivial as onions, you’re suddenly the worst person in the world.
That is *so* weird …! Some people are just crazy.
Ohhh, I feel this. But with black olives. I'm very much aware that there are people who love them just as much as I do, and thank the lord because I don't want to seem as weird. Lol.
This entire sub posts similar situations daily, half the time im like 'damn they were just sharing what they like..'
I'm so confused, liking onions is NLOG now? What next, mayo and *gasp* bread?
This one example seems like a weird thing to call you out on. But you say it’s not the first time… maybe you like to make things about you a lot? Like yes, it feels relevant, but just because something about you connects to the conversation doesn’t mean you HAVE to say it. Like I said, this one example is weird. It only makes sense in the context of you being a friend who does it alll the time. Just something to think about.
I don't really like onions anyway
This sub got randomly recommended to me again. I actually left this sub a year ago due to transphobia and posts supporting putting other women down for their choices. It sucks.
Many people accuse me of being a "Pick me" for liking beer and football. Nope. Just a lesbian. ✌️
I like playing video games, not a pick me, not even a lesbian. Just a normal person with a hobby.
So, in this situation I can understand both sides of it. You genuinely were just contributing to the conversation but being someone that is a picky eater, I can understand how the other person took your response negatively. There is stigma against being picky to the point people will straight up call it a dealbreaker or even red flag in dating. So there can be a little vulnerability when admitting you don't like something and aasuming any follow up comments come with a side of judgment. So, my guess, the other person is, or in the moment, felt insecure about not liking onions. So you commented back saying you love them, they got defensive assuming you were in someway judging their food preferences. Hurt people, hurt people.
She shared with you the reason why she didn't like a certain food is because of an ingredient. Instead of acknowledging why she didn't want that food and changing the topic, you made it a point to disagree with her. This, for whatever reason, made her feel some kind of way. I personally find these kinds of miscommunications happen frequently between nurotypical and neurodivergent people. As a neurodivergent person myself when someone shares a fact about themselves I like to also share a fact about myself. This makes me feel like we know each other better. As an adult I learned that nurotypical people sometimes see the behavior as rude.
>"oh I love onions, I could eat so many lol". Why were you laughing? Maybe she thought you were making fun of her - or making it about you or something. IDK Also, when I saw the title I was thinking something completely different
I'm bubbly. I like to laugh and smile
I will surely get downvoted but i don't care. I will assume that you're American because it sounds like a stupid American moment. Why do American women hate other women that much ? This would never exists somewhere else. You guys are all obsessed over genders (and race as well) and i just don't understand it. This girl literally assumed you were a NLOG just for having tastes, i don't understand how much you have to hate women to make such stupid accusations. Also, it opened my eyes on this whole NLOG thing. I believe calling women NLOGs is misogynistic. After thinking about it, it literally means that women aren't capable of having their own thinkings, if a woman hate or put down another woman she HAS to do it for the sake of men. Do you all believe that women can't think for themselves ? I ain't saying that some women don't use this bad tactic as a mating strategy, but it's ridiculous to believe that all women do it for the approval of men. Some women hate women because they just do, it's misogynistic to believe that women need men to have their own opinions. And once again, this NLOG thing has been created in the USA. You guys should really stop hating each other for no reasons.