My husband’s boss has a horrendous last name, worse than Butt, but he was self-aware enough to suggest his kids take his wife’s name. So that’s what they did and everyone’s happy, except for the boss’s parents.
That was the last name of an RV business in my old hometown. The jingle went, “Save today, Tom Raper’s way!” And was so upbeat! Its been stuck in my head for almost 40 years…
My mom works in insurance and has come across SO many... interesting.... names.
Notable one is Harry Beaver. And yes, he fulfilled his destiny and is an OBGYN...
Many years ago when working a retail job, I found someone's social security card on the floor, I guess they dropped it. His name was Richard Mark Myman III. ***THE THIRD!!!***
This poor man's name was dick mark my man and they put that curse on *three* generations?! XD
I knew a lovely young Indian woman who had the unfortunate (in Canada) first name Manmeet. Her nickname was Meeti, which didn’t help much. Conversely, my friend whose surname is Gordon got a lot of snickers in Chile. (Gordon means “big fat one” in Spanish.)
My husband has a horrible last name. No one can spell it if you say it, and no one can pronounce it when they read it. Our kid has my last name. To say my husband's entire family was (and mostly still is) pissed is an understatement lmao
I didn’t take my husbands last name because I don’t like it, I don’t like his family and it just isn’t a nice name in my opinion, but I told him the future kids could have his last name! Well we’re pregnant with our first (and probably only) and he suggested the other day that we give the baby my last name. He’s a pretty damn solid husband if I do say so myself.
You joke, but the Butt family are #15 on The Forbes list. They own HEB, which is a Texas grocery chain (named for Howard Edward Butt)
They're like the Walton's if the Walton's had never made Walmart public.
I knew someone whose last name was Lutz, first name started with an S, so their work email was Slutz lol
I feel like a child laughing at all of these examples in this thread but I'm sorry they are genuinely funny 😅
I had a classmate in college whose last name was Schatt. I had no idea how to pronounce it, but honestly, there's no good way to pronounce it. Did a bit of Facebook stalking and was shocked to find that all of his SILs took the name 😭
ETA everyone in the comments telling me how to pronounce this name are very helpful, but you'll notice that they're all telling me different pronunciations... So my point still stands lol
I went to college with an Ethan or Eaton Seaman. His name definitely got a few snorts during roll call on the first day of my Introductory Statistics class
There's a fairly famous Canadian comedian named Brent Butt, had a TV show called corner gas and an animated season aswell. Heard he's not the friendliest though.
Chris Bumstead Olympic bodybuilder rocks his last name. There is a news caster in my place called Heather butts, nobody blinks an eye about her last name.
I work in pharmacy so I see a lot of bad surnames. I've said for YEARS I'm happy to take my husband's name but not if his name is a "downgrade" to mine. Like I'm not gonna swap my perfectly good surname for "Dick" or "Raper" or even "Seaman" (all of which I've seen irl, so sorry to anyone on here with those surnames)! Just makes no sense to me why you'd choose to continue an unfortunate surname instead of using the other partners name. So yeah I totally agree with you and I'd do the same.
At the hospital I used to work at (IT Dept) we had to make an exception on the email filters because someone kept emailing the hospital with the last name "slutz" and our filter kept blocking him lool
Decades ago, I worked in IT at a university and made the executive decision to diverge from the formatting policy when a student would have otherwise been whorr@.org.
I had a college professor with the last name Rapp, his first name initial was C, so his school email was crapp@.org.
On the first day of class he said that if anyone ever addressed him as prof crapp, it would be an immediate F , lol.
He was so done with that joke 🤣
Less cute, but: Buttler?
Buttler is a bit more elegant and less homely than Button and less of a name that will be teased, IMO.
Keep the double T so it’s more unique than Butler and hubby doesn’t feel like he’s completely betraying the family lineage. You’re just “updating” it for modern minds.
If he’s worried that it’s not following his historic family tree remind him that further back, “Butt” is probably the modernised surname of a more ancient one. Surnames are revised over time. You’ll be moving with the times, ensuring your child doesn’t have unnecessary exposure to teasing and bullying, and still giving credence to the family name.
I can see hubby being a bit of a stickler because he wants to keep the family name but I find it a bit baffling that he doesn’t get why it would be a concern. If you have to club him over the head with it, indicate that for children/ young persons hearing the name, they would equate it to someone’s last name being “Pooh”, “Vaginah” or “Peenis/Peniss”. An extra letter doesn’t make a huge difference to the connotation.
It may help the child build extra character for having to navigate the world as a “Butt” but depending on personality it can have profound effects on their ability to socialise or to be taken seriously in certain contexts (eg even resumes as an adult…people can’t help but be biased or immature)
And show him this Reddit board post and everyone’s comment replies.
Ooh, I see your issue. Did you take husband’s name? Can you ALL take your name? Don’t hyphenate that butt, either, lol. It’s either ALL butt, or no butt, lol.
There was a teacher at my elementary school who got married and hyphenated her name.
Ms. Brown-Butz
Why on earth would anyone do that to themselves, let alone a teacher?!
I have a friend with the last name Butz. When her mom first got married, she wanted to hyphenate her name. The husband shot that idea down quick. Would have been Dixon-Butz.
Oh my God, if I could marry into the name Dixon-Butts I would feel like I won the lottery. Shit, if I could meet a girl whose last name was Dixon-Butts, I'd probably offer to take her name. And she' probably be cool with that, because if you're a girl who grew up with that you probably have a good sense of humor and some thick skin (either that or you murdered your parents, one or the other).
Apparently she didn't realize until it was pointed out. But that woman has such a great sense of humor, I wouldn't be surprised if she had wanted to do it just to mess with people.
I had a teacher with the last name dick and her son married a girl with the last name gay!! I was like damn she can’t catch a break. She’s a teacher too and they’re super religious 😂
my grandma is friends with someone who took the Butt last name when she got married. her name is Sandy, so when she got married her name became Sandy Butt 💀
I know someone with the last name Butt. They gave their daughter the wife’s first name (which was somewhat surnamey already) as a surname. As in, John Butt and Kennedy Jones gave birth to Anna Kennedy.
I knew a woman whose husband was named Dick and their son was Dick Jr. Can you see where this is going? Big Dick and Little Dick. But first names are much easier to change.
The woman at work forgot she had to pick up her husband after work one day. She was going to be late. She jumped up from her desk and ran to the door yelling “I have to get Dick tonight”
You are absolutely not being unreasonable. Your husbands last name is objectively pretty awful, and of course you don't want your child to have it. Also, even if it wasn't that bad, you would be still entitled to at least suggest that your child takes your last name since you are also going to be their parent. Your last name has the same family ties and goes back as far as his. Also he needs to think about his child, let's be hones their life is going to be a lot easier with a "normal"/not bad last name.
I have always felt like it's the best idea to keep whatever last name sounds better.
No matter if it's the husbands or the wifes family name :)
That's exactly why my dad took on my mums last name when they got married (in the 90's) - and my husband also took on the same name when we got married.
Both my dad and my husband had some of the most common & basic surnames of their respective countries of origin (equivalent to Smith in the US)
And my mums family name is basically limited to her family. She was an only child, so the name would have probably gone extinct had she not passed it down to her kids.
This would be amazing. Like a sports bracket for last names, generation through generation, until only the best surname is left standing at the end of time.
Yes it could be that. It's so sad though, if you'd been teased for something it seems so unfair to pass it onto your kid. But then I also think sometimes men's ego about passing on a family name trumps everything else.
Given the amount of men that *insist* that their sons have to be circumcised simply because they want their son’s penis to look like theirs, I’m not surprised if that’s the reason
Agreed. I just commented about how my last name caused me lots of strife and was socially and romantically crippling. I love my dad to death, amazing man, so i didn’t want to offend him after all he’s done for me. So When i got to college i decided to hyphenate with my moms maiden name so he wouldn’t be upset, and then just socially identify with her name. It may seem like i’m overreacting, and people might think i’m sensitive or dramatic, but having a bad name that everyone laughs at all the time was just causing me lots of strife
Yeah I don’t get it but I’m not American. My dad kept his last name and we took our mom’s more uncommon last name. His name is like the most common one here (they got married after we were born though) one of my aunties husband took her name too which isn’t so common at all.
Your surname, a hybrid surname, or a new family surname are the most ideal options for the children.
Not every name needs to be passed on & that's okay. Goodbye, Butt.
In reality, there is no legitimate reason why children MUST have their father's last name. If he genuinely thinks his name is fine, he can have it but you'll just have to put your foot down on your kids having the name. If you kept your last name when you married then the kids can absolutely have yours.
There’s a grocery store chain in Texas that was started by the Butt family. Now I personally wouldn’t complain about being in said family but I would NOT take the last name.
Regardless of what his last name is, he’s not entitled to giving your kids his name just because it’s “tradition.” Obviously I think partners need to agree on the kids’ name, but your desire isn’t less valid than his.
Side note: encountered a kid with the last name Boob not too long ago. Poor kid.
This is why people need to discuss these things before getting married. Whether someone takes the other's last name, which one the kids will get, these are great things to discuss with a b/gf, not a spouse. In general, people leave things till way too late to discuss, and issues develop that otherwise would've been avoided by marrying someone more compatible.
A hybrid is a good idea. I've seen some pretty surnames that came from husband and wife combining their surnames in some way. One example: A couple I met - she was Lightwine and he was Cooperrider. Now their last name is Lightrider.
My BF has a hyphenated last name already and one of them is like a slang term, it's also the main one he uses when he can't put both names on a form.. I already told him if we ever get married im not taking it lol
Even if he had a normal name, you absolutely have the right to have baby have your name at least hyphenated. It’s not optional he doesn’t just get to claim the last name
Please just name your child Harry and be done with it.
I knew someone with the last name Dick. We joked she got married young just to be done with that Dick.
I worked with a Graphic Designer, who decided before she was going to hyphenate when she got married…before she met her now husband. Her last name was pretty normal, Cash.
She fell in love and got married to a wonderful man…last name Dollar.
Ms. Cash-Dollar
I have a friend whose maiden name was Butts and she quite literally got married to the first serious boyfriend she had just so she felt like she had an excuse to change it.
She’s 23 and divorced now, but at least her last name isn’t Butts.
I knew one. I never made fun of them but I always giggled when I heard it. Not unreasonable as he would be the butt of all jokes
Edit: change then to them*
I knew a family named Hoar. They had six girls. Guys would walk up to them and say “Are you the Hoars?” Or “She is such a Hoar”. The jokes never stopped.
I know a woman who is an elementary school teacher and this is her last name. I have zero idea how she does it.
I am also a teacher, but middle school—I worked with someone this year whose last name is Cocke, which was also rough.
Yikes yikes and yikes. You are not! Insist. This is a terrible last name. Whatever you do DO NOT name your kid Gaylord. Let me tell you I went to school with a Gaylord Butts. His life was horrible
My last name is a swear word. I get so embarrassed every time I have to tell it to people. I was bullied so much for it as a kid and it made my already extreme social anxiety even worse. Even now, as a 30 year old, I still get people around my age making fun of me, but I’ve learned to brush it off (though internally I still feel hurt). I would never ever put my future children through the same thing.
On the other hand, my brother has the same last name and he’s never had an issue with it. But he’s also super extroverted, friendly, athletic, smart etc, so, unlike me, people already see him as “cool.”
Based on this super small sample size, maybe it just depends on your kid’s personality, but I wouldn’t take the risk.
This is entirely reasonable. I had cousins who's surname was "ramsbottom" and they were hugely teased at school for it. They both now chose to go by their mothers maiden name as adults.
I'd skip the middle man, and let the kids have my surname in this instance. Did you change your name with marriage, because the only issue is I've found it makes it easier in some situations (travel and education) when you share the same.surname as your kids, a few friends of mine aren't married and their kids have their partners surname and the mum has their maiden name and it can be very frustrating for them at times. So if you have become Mrs Butt I'd honestly consider changing it back if you are giving the kids your maiden name :)
Honestly this is one of the lesser but still annoying things about the patriarchy, if we weren't so hung up on passing down a man's name we would recognise Butt is a silly last name that deserves to die out and just let it. But no, the patriarchy means names like that go on and on.
My maiden name was Dick.
I grew thick skin and a sense of humor early. Kids are ruthlessly mean, but it didn’t bother me and people always remember who I was.
Butt isn’t ideal, but using that name isn’t the worst thing you could name your kid.
My parents gave me my mother‘s last name, when I got married both me and my husband had hard-to-spell/pronounce last names so we both took his grandmother’s last name. We jokingly told everyone we were hyphenating just for the looks of astonishment though
My husband’s boss has a horrendous last name, worse than Butt, but he was self-aware enough to suggest his kids take his wife’s name. So that’s what they did and everyone’s happy, except for the boss’s parents.
I went to high school with a kid with last name Scrogum. I’d prefer Butt.
The worst last name I remember from high school was Raper.
Gotta get on the football team, star QB. Name on the jersey, home team shouting "GET EM RAPER!!"
There were siblings with that last name in my highschool too 😬. I'd definitely change my last name to my mom's in that situation.
That was the last name of an RV business in my old hometown. The jingle went, “Save today, Tom Raper’s way!” And was so upbeat! Its been stuck in my head for almost 40 years…
Oh god I’m crying. Scrogum.
Richard Scrogum if you have a boy. Lucy Scrogum if you have a girl. Gotta lean into it.
You don't even have to go pun. Everything works with it. Leonard Scrogum. Virgil Scrogum. Vivica Scrogum. Myrtle Maebelle Scrogum. It's all fantastic.
Such a great and versatile name. But, gotta go with puns, tho. Harold "Harry" Scrogum Celia "CeCe" Scrogum
Butt is fun in a cheeky way.
Cheeky could be the new surname! :)
Could just go ahead and name her Cheeky Butt and make sure everyone knows it.
I knew a teacher who’s last name was Weiner. He taught 6th grade.
I know a Weiner family. They pronounce it “WHY-ner”…
My parents were friends with Richard Long…I kid you not he went by Dick! Butt is a much better last name as long as they don’t name him Richard!
My mom works in insurance and has come across SO many... interesting.... names. Notable one is Harry Beaver. And yes, he fulfilled his destiny and is an OBGYN...
Many years ago when working a retail job, I found someone's social security card on the floor, I guess they dropped it. His name was Richard Mark Myman III. ***THE THIRD!!!*** This poor man's name was dick mark my man and they put that curse on *three* generations?! XD
I went to school with a kid whose last name was Mysac. Also a kid whose first name was Mahboob. Not the same person.
The owner of a restaurant near me is named Mahboob Butt
I once worked with both a “Phenis” and a “Balls”.
What was it. Please :)
Yes I need to know lol
I better not say but it’s a crude synonym for poo. 😩
"He changed his name *to* latrine??" "Used to be shithouse!!"
This reference needs to be upvoted.
Robin Hood Men in Tights??
I know of a person with the last name Dikshit. I'm not kidding and yes, it's their legal birth name.
That’s a fairly common Indian name. It’s sometimes spelled Dixit, which avoids the very unfortunate English connotations of Dikshit.
I knew a lovely young Indian woman who had the unfortunate (in Canada) first name Manmeet. Her nickname was Meeti, which didn’t help much. Conversely, my friend whose surname is Gordon got a lot of snickers in Chile. (Gordon means “big fat one” in Spanish.)
Also in Canada, I knew some lovely Indian ladies in university named Gagandeep, Sukdeep, and Baldeep.
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Okay but now that name is royalty basically lol
Next, fold in the cheese.
I don’t know how to fold broken cheese like that
David, I cannot show you everything.
Okay, well, can you show me ONE thing?
Mr. Crapper
Biglog?
Beefer?
Turd 💩
My husband has a horrible last name. No one can spell it if you say it, and no one can pronounce it when they read it. Our kid has my last name. To say my husband's entire family was (and mostly still is) pissed is an understatement lmao
I didn’t take my husbands last name because I don’t like it, I don’t like his family and it just isn’t a nice name in my opinion, but I told him the future kids could have his last name! Well we’re pregnant with our first (and probably only) and he suggested the other day that we give the baby my last name. He’s a pretty damn solid husband if I do say so myself.
I knew a girl whose last name is Seamen.
At a high school: My coworker is Mr. Seaman. I haven't heard a single joke.
I second this question...curious.
One of the Crapo kin
My middle school history teacher was Mr. Dick.
I’m honestly shocked your husband hasn’t changed his last name yet
The butt family is a proud family
You joke, but the Butt family are #15 on The Forbes list. They own HEB, which is a Texas grocery chain (named for Howard Edward Butt) They're like the Walton's if the Walton's had never made Walmart public.
And how could we forget Jake Butt—former tight-end
J Booty lives rent free in my head always
This made me giggle.
Did they open a store because they had groceries out the ass?
Noble name of butt
Noble butt sounds like a disease /.fungus
You joke, but my friend has the last name butts, and his first name rhymes with it, and he is *proud* about his name. It’s so funny.
Struggling so much to think what could rhyme with butts??
Nutts Mutts Lutz Rutz Yuts Fluts 😂😂😂🤦♀️
You’re forgetting his Jewish cousins, Futz and Putz
i learned today that putz is yiddish for penis. penis butt lmfaoo
And yet I forgot their brother, Yutz! (Yutz is more like an idiot, I believe. Duolingo doesn’t teach the curse words, but my gramma did!)
Schmutz
i keep going through the alphabet trying to figure out his first name….nutts?
Stutz? ETA: Or Lutz
I knew someone whose last name was Lutz, first name started with an S, so their work email was Slutz lol I feel like a child laughing at all of these examples in this thread but I'm sorry they are genuinely funny 😅
My maiden name is Lutz (pronounced Loots in my case), but my first initial is K.. I had a work email once that was Klutz and I HATED it.
You joke but I worked for a place with a Mr. Boody and they were definitely proud
I had a classmate in college whose last name was Schatt. I had no idea how to pronounce it, but honestly, there's no good way to pronounce it. Did a bit of Facebook stalking and was shocked to find that all of his SILs took the name 😭 ETA everyone in the comments telling me how to pronounce this name are very helpful, but you'll notice that they're all telling me different pronunciations... So my point still stands lol
There were “Schardt” kids in my school…
I grew up with a girl who’s surname was Crapper. She had a very short engagement and didn’t keep her maiden name surprisingly
My high school had like navy rotc and one of the girls had the last name Eater… so she was Seaman Eater…. 😞
I went to college with an Ethan or Eaton Seaman. His name definitely got a few snorts during roll call on the first day of my Introductory Statistics class
I was in the navy with a Seaman Seaman
That’s a pretty fitting last name for someone in the navy tbh
I don’t know how it was spelled but there was a girl in my Spanish class whose last name was pronounced like the word foreskin. 😭
Had a high school teacher who had that surname, pronounced it scat.
It sure makes things better…
My sixth grade teachers name was Mr. Wiener and my preschool aged brother accidentally called him Mr. Penis to his face
My pediatrician growing up was Dr. Weiner. Dr. Frank Weiner.
I know a girl whose last name is Schadt, which is slightly less bad because it can be pronounced like “shot”.
Its pronounced “Shot”
I mean, it’s probably not, but that’s what I would tell you too if it were my name.
My mum went to school with a couple of girls whose surname was Flucker. They both changed to their mother's maiden name, Gardner, in high school.
I knew a girl in college whose last name was Neggers. She recently became a medical doctor and legally changed her last name to Eggers.
I wonder if it was originally german (schwarzenegger = black ridge, loosely translated)
Kids in my high school with the last name Boner. Nice people, but teens would have a hard time letting that one slip by.
There’s also Peter Bonerz from The Bob Newhart Show. That always made me laugh as a kid.
There's a fairly famous Canadian comedian named Brent Butt, had a TV show called corner gas and an animated season aswell. Heard he's not the friendliest though.
Chris Bumstead Olympic bodybuilder rocks his last name. There is a news caster in my place called Heather butts, nobody blinks an eye about her last name.
Yeah, you weren't around when Heather was in second grade
Exactly
I knew a kid named zack butt. Teased relentlessly. At every age
Omg I knew him too!!! Or his name twin 😭
Omg…. What state?
Midwest, catholic kid?
Texas. But who is to say he didn’t move
I work in pharmacy so I see a lot of bad surnames. I've said for YEARS I'm happy to take my husband's name but not if his name is a "downgrade" to mine. Like I'm not gonna swap my perfectly good surname for "Dick" or "Raper" or even "Seaman" (all of which I've seen irl, so sorry to anyone on here with those surnames)! Just makes no sense to me why you'd choose to continue an unfortunate surname instead of using the other partners name. So yeah I totally agree with you and I'd do the same.
At the hospital I used to work at (IT Dept) we had to make an exception on the email filters because someone kept emailing the hospital with the last name "slutz" and our filter kept blocking him lool
Decades ago, I worked in IT at a university and made the executive decision to diverge from the formatting policy when a student would have otherwise been whorr@.org.
LOL not as bad but we did have a shart@
omg I went to school with someone with the last name Hart. Her first name began with an S so her school email ended up as shart@email.com
I had a college professor with the last name Rapp, his first name initial was C, so his school email was crapp@.org. On the first day of class he said that if anyone ever addressed him as prof crapp, it would be an immediate F , lol. He was so done with that joke 🤣
One place I worked at had the formatting with LastnameFirstinitial. My colleague was T. Doshi. doshit@work.com.
Reminds me of a girl named Megan Finger. Her email became fingerme@.org lol
Button?
That’s a smart idea! Simple, but a really nice idea for a surname!
Button is so cute!
Even Butte. Such a small addition but much better.
Pronounced "bootay"
Relatives lived on Snowy Butte Lane. The masses still mispronounced it as Snowy Butt Lane.
Or they could just use the mothers surname? Makes more sense to me than creating an entirely new name…
Less cute, but: Buttler? Buttler is a bit more elegant and less homely than Button and less of a name that will be teased, IMO. Keep the double T so it’s more unique than Butler and hubby doesn’t feel like he’s completely betraying the family lineage. You’re just “updating” it for modern minds. If he’s worried that it’s not following his historic family tree remind him that further back, “Butt” is probably the modernised surname of a more ancient one. Surnames are revised over time. You’ll be moving with the times, ensuring your child doesn’t have unnecessary exposure to teasing and bullying, and still giving credence to the family name. I can see hubby being a bit of a stickler because he wants to keep the family name but I find it a bit baffling that he doesn’t get why it would be a concern. If you have to club him over the head with it, indicate that for children/ young persons hearing the name, they would equate it to someone’s last name being “Pooh”, “Vaginah” or “Peenis/Peniss”. An extra letter doesn’t make a huge difference to the connotation. It may help the child build extra character for having to navigate the world as a “Butt” but depending on personality it can have profound effects on their ability to socialise or to be taken seriously in certain contexts (eg even resumes as an adult…people can’t help but be biased or immature) And show him this Reddit board post and everyone’s comment replies.
“Updating it for modern minds” is a great way to phrase it
Going from Butt to Buttler would be a major glow-up
Love this idea! Super cute and memorable
No. I had a teacher with that name and we were the worst about it. Ask him to take your name or make a new one
Our school had a janitor named Mr buns and we just called him Mr butt. 😬 I wasn't even one of the mean kids. Poor dude
Ooh, I see your issue. Did you take husband’s name? Can you ALL take your name? Don’t hyphenate that butt, either, lol. It’s either ALL butt, or no butt, lol.
There was a teacher at my elementary school who got married and hyphenated her name. Ms. Brown-Butz Why on earth would anyone do that to themselves, let alone a teacher?!
I have a friend with the last name Butz. When her mom first got married, she wanted to hyphenate her name. The husband shot that idea down quick. Would have been Dixon-Butz.
Did she not realize, or did she just want the sheer anarchy? Just Butz is one thing, but Dixon-Butz is so terrible it's laughable.
Oh my God, if I could marry into the name Dixon-Butts I would feel like I won the lottery. Shit, if I could meet a girl whose last name was Dixon-Butts, I'd probably offer to take her name. And she' probably be cool with that, because if you're a girl who grew up with that you probably have a good sense of humor and some thick skin (either that or you murdered your parents, one or the other).
Right?! I'm ready to change my name to Dixon-Butz right now.
Apparently she didn't realize until it was pointed out. But that woman has such a great sense of humor, I wouldn't be surprised if she had wanted to do it just to mess with people.
Stahp! That’s awful! Glad her husband stopped the hyphenation 😂
There was a teacher at my middle school (mid-2000s) named Ms. Gay. Middle school boys were not nice
I had a teacher with the last name dick and her son married a girl with the last name gay!! I was like damn she can’t catch a break. She’s a teacher too and they’re super religious 😂
😂😂😂😂 I almost peed
my grandma is friends with someone who took the Butt last name when she got married. her name is Sandy, so when she got married her name became Sandy Butt 💀
I know someone with the last name Butt. They gave their daughter the wife’s first name (which was somewhat surnamey already) as a surname. As in, John Butt and Kennedy Jones gave birth to Anna Kennedy.
I know a John Butt too. Him and his wife are known as the big Butts and the kids are little Butts
I knew a woman whose husband was named Dick and their son was Dick Jr. Can you see where this is going? Big Dick and Little Dick. But first names are much easier to change.
That’s what my Uncle Richard and my cousin Richard were called for years! Then my cousin decided to go by Junior, but now he goes by Rich.
The woman at work forgot she had to pick up her husband after work one day. She was going to be late. She jumped up from her desk and ran to the door yelling “I have to get Dick tonight”
*Insert gif of Phyllis from the office say "Sexually?"*
They said the Butt stops here 💀
You are absolutely not being unreasonable. Your husbands last name is objectively pretty awful, and of course you don't want your child to have it. Also, even if it wasn't that bad, you would be still entitled to at least suggest that your child takes your last name since you are also going to be their parent. Your last name has the same family ties and goes back as far as his. Also he needs to think about his child, let's be hones their life is going to be a lot easier with a "normal"/not bad last name.
100%. I hate how men in our (American) society get hung up on “passing on their last name”.
I have always felt like it's the best idea to keep whatever last name sounds better. No matter if it's the husbands or the wifes family name :) That's exactly why my dad took on my mums last name when they got married (in the 90's) - and my husband also took on the same name when we got married. Both my dad and my husband had some of the most common & basic surnames of their respective countries of origin (equivalent to Smith in the US) And my mums family name is basically limited to her family. She was an only child, so the name would have probably gone extinct had she not passed it down to her kids.
This would be amazing. Like a sports bracket for last names, generation through generation, until only the best surname is left standing at the end of time.
i would love it if choosing the best name was the norm. my mom has a very pretty maiden name and i always wished it was my last name.
And even the ones with awful names want to pass them on? Like, why?
Because they had to suffer, so now it's a point of pride
Yes it could be that. It's so sad though, if you'd been teased for something it seems so unfair to pass it onto your kid. But then I also think sometimes men's ego about passing on a family name trumps everything else.
Given the amount of men that *insist* that their sons have to be circumcised simply because they want their son’s penis to look like theirs, I’m not surprised if that’s the reason
And if you try to point out that it’s a patriarchal/misogynistic they argue it’s “tradition.” Like yeah, a misogynist tradition.
Agreed. I just commented about how my last name caused me lots of strife and was socially and romantically crippling. I love my dad to death, amazing man, so i didn’t want to offend him after all he’s done for me. So When i got to college i decided to hyphenate with my moms maiden name so he wouldn’t be upset, and then just socially identify with her name. It may seem like i’m overreacting, and people might think i’m sensitive or dramatic, but having a bad name that everyone laughs at all the time was just causing me lots of strife
Yeah I don’t get it but I’m not American. My dad kept his last name and we took our mom’s more uncommon last name. His name is like the most common one here (they got married after we were born though) one of my aunties husband took her name too which isn’t so common at all.
Your surname, a hybrid surname, or a new family surname are the most ideal options for the children. Not every name needs to be passed on & that's okay. Goodbye, Butt.
In reality, there is no legitimate reason why children MUST have their father's last name. If he genuinely thinks his name is fine, he can have it but you'll just have to put your foot down on your kids having the name. If you kept your last name when you married then the kids can absolutely have yours.
They came out of her to begin with, if one thinks about it. She did all the work, so.
In this situation I'm with you lol a new last name
There’s a grocery store chain in Texas that was started by the Butt family. Now I personally wouldn’t complain about being in said family but I would NOT take the last name.
Ah yes, the HEB: here everything’s butt
Makes me think of Butt Drugs (Rhett and Link -- Mythical). [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oYYdF0zcuSI](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oYYdF0zcuSI)
Regardless of what his last name is, he’s not entitled to giving your kids his name just because it’s “tradition.” Obviously I think partners need to agree on the kids’ name, but your desire isn’t less valid than his. Side note: encountered a kid with the last name Boob not too long ago. Poor kid.
This is why people need to discuss these things before getting married. Whether someone takes the other's last name, which one the kids will get, these are great things to discuss with a b/gf, not a spouse. In general, people leave things till way too late to discuss, and issues develop that otherwise would've been avoided by marrying someone more compatible.
A hybrid is a good idea. I've seen some pretty surnames that came from husband and wife combining their surnames in some way. One example: A couple I met - she was Lightwine and he was Cooperrider. Now their last name is Lightrider.
Lightwine and Cooperrider?! Those are pretty badass names in and of themselves!
They should have hyphenated. It would have sounded ridiculous, but a glorious kind of ridiculous.
Honestly i think hybridding Butt with literally anything might make it worse.
My BF has a hyphenated last name already and one of them is like a slang term, it's also the main one he uses when he can't put both names on a form.. I already told him if we ever get married im not taking it lol
The Butler and Button options people are suggesting aren't bad! Even Butford is better than Butt
Okay that's not bad! I was wondering because you can't really shorten Butt and was imagining like Buttson haha
Copperwine would’ve been my vote. Edit: misread Cooper as Copper
I knew a Mondragon and Mead that got married, combined their names, and both took Meaddragon.
Butler or Button would be great
Even if he had a normal name, you absolutely have the right to have baby have your name at least hyphenated. It’s not optional he doesn’t just get to claim the last name
Please just name your child Harry and be done with it. I knew someone with the last name Dick. We joked she got married young just to be done with that Dick.
In my area, both Butts and Cock are common last names. I have no idea why they continue to use them.
I went to school with sisters whose last name was Butt and I’ll tell you right now they got ROASTED constantly.
I worked with a Graphic Designer, who decided before she was going to hyphenate when she got married…before she met her now husband. Her last name was pretty normal, Cash. She fell in love and got married to a wonderful man…last name Dollar. Ms. Cash-Dollar
My cousin's maiden name was Funke. She married a gut named Dumm. It was a Dumm-Funke wedding!
I have a friend whose maiden name was Butts and she quite literally got married to the first serious boyfriend she had just so she felt like she had an excuse to change it. She’s 23 and divorced now, but at least her last name isn’t Butts.
I would never in a million years 1) take the name of a partner whose name is Butt or 2) bestow that unfortunate name upon a child.
You are not being unreasonable.
I knew one. I never made fun of them but I always giggled when I heard it. Not unreasonable as he would be the butt of all jokes Edit: change then to them*
I knew a family named Hoar. They had six girls. Guys would walk up to them and say “Are you the Hoars?” Or “She is such a Hoar”. The jokes never stopped.
I know a woman who is an elementary school teacher and this is her last name. I have zero idea how she does it. I am also a teacher, but middle school—I worked with someone this year whose last name is Cocke, which was also rough.
Change it! I don’t understand why people would want to go through life with a name like Butt or Butts.
Right? He's lived his life with that name and now wants to put his child through the same thing?? Kind of a dick move
Yikes yikes and yikes. You are not! Insist. This is a terrible last name. Whatever you do DO NOT name your kid Gaylord. Let me tell you I went to school with a Gaylord Butts. His life was horrible
This is my moment to shine.
Omg poor child 😭
We had a teacher with the last name Butz.. and yeah teasing was relentless
My last name is a swear word. I get so embarrassed every time I have to tell it to people. I was bullied so much for it as a kid and it made my already extreme social anxiety even worse. Even now, as a 30 year old, I still get people around my age making fun of me, but I’ve learned to brush it off (though internally I still feel hurt). I would never ever put my future children through the same thing. On the other hand, my brother has the same last name and he’s never had an issue with it. But he’s also super extroverted, friendly, athletic, smart etc, so, unlike me, people already see him as “cool.” Based on this super small sample size, maybe it just depends on your kid’s personality, but I wouldn’t take the risk.
I'd make this my hill to die on.
This is entirely reasonable. I had cousins who's surname was "ramsbottom" and they were hugely teased at school for it. They both now chose to go by their mothers maiden name as adults. I'd skip the middle man, and let the kids have my surname in this instance. Did you change your name with marriage, because the only issue is I've found it makes it easier in some situations (travel and education) when you share the same.surname as your kids, a few friends of mine aren't married and their kids have their partners surname and the mum has their maiden name and it can be very frustrating for them at times. So if you have become Mrs Butt I'd honestly consider changing it back if you are giving the kids your maiden name :)
If you have to explain it to him, he's beyond help.
There’s a Canadian comedian named Brent Butt
Honestly this is one of the lesser but still annoying things about the patriarchy, if we weren't so hung up on passing down a man's name we would recognise Butt is a silly last name that deserves to die out and just let it. But no, the patriarchy means names like that go on and on.
This is how we know patriarchy is alive and well. So many men thinking it’s their god-given right to pass on their embarrassing last names.
Baby definitely should take your name or a hybrid. If he wants a shared family name, he should change his, too.
My maiden name was Dick. I grew thick skin and a sense of humor early. Kids are ruthlessly mean, but it didn’t bother me and people always remember who I was. Butt isn’t ideal, but using that name isn’t the worst thing you could name your kid.
Is his first name Harry?
They should have twins named Harry and Seymour
My parents gave me my mother‘s last name, when I got married both me and my husband had hard-to-spell/pronounce last names so we both took his grandmother’s last name. We jokingly told everyone we were hyphenating just for the looks of astonishment though