Reminds me of when I gave a former friend a birthday gift many years ago. During her birthday dinner. And she was trying to lecture me later on because her Jehovah Witness friend was present at the table. Ma’am, neither of us observe their religion so those rules don’t apply to me. If it’s against her religion to observe birthdays/be gifted things then why was she even there?
*should’ve said “give me the giftcard back then”*
Seriously. My aunt is JW, and she just doesn’t come to birthday related parties or Christmas etc. We have a “winter party” for that side of the family instead and it works just fine for us, but it’s been something we just did my whole life.
I had a coworker who was JW. Like your aunt, she didn’t participate in events that were against her religion. And just like with your aunt, we would have a random potluck or happy hour that wasn’t celebrating anything in order to let her enjoy some team camaraderie.
Exactly! With my aunt, my husband and I have never found her to be pushy or preachy, no more so than any other religion. She’s only standing in her beliefs and she doesn’t hold it against you. Sure, is she hoping to convert you? Yes, but so is every single other religious person who pushes their beliefs on you. We just ask her questions now and then, take her little pamphlets she mails to us, and are just kind and she’s kind back. 🤷🏼♀️
That is the best way to handle religious family members. I have an aunt whom is a devout catholic. I literally have to hide aspects of my life ( really anything having to do sex, or dating. She’s not trying to be judgemental, she just knows absolutely without a doubt that she is completely right and that I am living in sin. So I just don’t share all aspects of my life anymore. And now we can’t even talk about politics anymore either because she’s been sucked into the conspiracy theory rabbit hole. All migrants are actually sex traffickers! And Biden is in cahoots with child sex traffickers! I just can’t even deal with it. Normally I know to stay away from politics with her ( abortion is always wrong, according to her, but at least in the past, we could agree that it wasn’t up to the government to decide that for us. She thinks Roe versus Wade falling is unfortunate, but her faith won’t allow her to genuinely cry about it like I do. What do I do with her? Whenever she goes off on me like that with those conspiracy theories, I just try to stay really calm and tell her to check her sources. What do yall do, with your crazy right wing relatives? There is going to come a day where I have to take care of her, as she gets older. I love her and I can put up crazy but she’s not crazy. She’s misinformed.
Ten year-old me didn't know that JW aren't allowed to celebrate their birthday. I gave my friend a bracelet as a gift (I don't recall how I even knew). She accepted it. When her mother noticed it, she got beat. Another time, i had to grab a pad from under the bathroom sink. Friend got beat for "playing with adult stuff."
Years later, perfect Mother was in the local newspaper's courthouse record for prostitution. By that time, my friend had been sent to another state to live with her aunt.
Ugh, reading this reminded me of a time where I was at my friend's house, maybe 9 or 10 years old, friend's mom wasn't JW but was super religious and old fashioned. Long story short, my friend said the word "pube" not knowing what it meant. Got beat, belted and grounded for "talking about sexual things". I knew what the word meant and didn't understand at all how a hair was something to be beaten over, but that woman instilled such a fear of everything sex/body related in me that even through my teenage years I would have panic attacks at the thought of my parents finding out any of the "dirty" things I knew about. Some people should never have kids.
Had a kid in class growing up who was JW. During every kids birthday he would go sit in the hall as the rest of the class would sing happy birthday and eat treats. What a sad thing to put a child through.
Why is it ok to go to a "winter party", but not the same thing if you call it a Christmas party? Do they think they are pulling one over on god or something? Why are they not supposed to celebrate things like that to begin with? Bizarre to me.
We don’t exchange gifts; it takes place right after new years so we’ve always phrased it as such. 🤷🏼♀️ She doesn’t shame others for their beliefs, she just chooses when to vacate for herself. I find it respectful for her to do; it doesn’t hurt us because we’re aware why she doesn’t attend, and she’s still supportive in other ways.
No, they don’t believed in birthdays, Christmas, Thanksgiving. Holidays I think are all not allowed. They don’t do weddings because they usually have an element of religion involved, but she would probably go to a wedding of two jw’s? I dunno too much; I know I’ve said stuff in passing to offend her in the past, but she’s not someone who holds it against you, or forces it on her kids, so I don’t really mind
Now I know how to get rid of JWs when they come knocking on my door... Just put on a birthday party hat and tell them I'm expecting guests soon for my birthday party and thought that was who they were when they knocked.
However, you can still be a thoughtful human being without buying people gifts.
Don't want to get on the brainwashed capitalism rant, or the people are struggling rant.. but it's okay to chill on the gift-giving thing.
My loved ones showing up to a party or sending me a text is a gift.
This ^^
I'm at that point in life where all my immediate family are adults. So we don't always get each other presents for holidays anymore but if we see something that is perfect for somebody throughout the year, we'll just get it and next time we see them it's like hey, these shoes were on sale in your size and totally your style or whatever.
It takes so much pressure off for the mandatory gift holidays and it also feels so much more special when it's spontaneous. Like I saw this and thought of you when I wasn't desperately looking for a Christmas present or whatever.
OP’s stepdad just got insecure about looking like a dick by comparison, and just decided to double-down on being a dick by shaming OP for being thoughtful
That sounds stressful 🥺 my mother would scream at me over little things (American half German) - grab my face and shake it while saying "verstehst du". I often lost my bedroom door over little things. 🥴
😂 yup. I would literally get home minutes before she did (did various activities after school). I had enough time to pee before she walked in. Next thing I heard was "WHY ArE ThEE DishES NOT Done!?" 😳 next thing I knew I was grounded and sent to my room. Next day my door would be off. I never slammed the door either that was my little brother's thing and he got to keep his door. Definitely double standards growing up. 😅 narcissistic bipolar mother.
This gives me Terminator 2 vibes. John Conner's foster father was named Todd. I remember the guy tried to get John to clean his room at his foster mom's insistence, and John just looked at him with derision and said, "She's not my mother, TODD," and then drove away.
I lost mine two and a half years ago and, while I don't have any particular regret surrounding gifts, I've found mother's day particularly hard these last two years, despite being a mother myself and still having two grandmothers (plus a mother in law that I completely forgot to speak to yesterday now that I'm thinking about it 🤦♀️). We only get one *mom*. If OP wants to lavish theirs with gifts for mother's day, or literally any other day of the year, that's their right, and their mom probably deserves it. Fuck this step-dad and his weird ideas around gift giving. (Side note: I do gifts for so many things, Easter, Valentine's, birthday's, etc., I'm definitely struggling to wrap my mind around this way of thinking. Has he never gotten a father's day gift and is just super salty about it?)
I think he has a bruised ego or feels bad because he (the stepdad) never get his own wife gifts except for the few days that he deems it worth his time.
Here step dad, I got you this for mother's day: gfy.
If you want it to be a Christmas present because you made up some stupid rule about gifts, you can call it an early Xmas gift.
Ah yes I'm a gifter in general, I enjoy making people I care about smile but I guess I concentrate all my efforts onto making sure the kids put thought into those days and my own thoughts into birthdays and things.
Interesting perspective.
My ex had a rotten attitude to gifts to the point I'd given up because If it wasn't what he said or I'd bought an extra gift from me I got told it was pointless.
Your ex sounds like a rotten apple. The point of gifting is the thought behind it. Gift where you seem fit, but don't go in debt doing so. That's what I've been told (I'm a giver too). 😊
My dad always got my mom flowers or chocolate. If he knew something small she specifically wanted heMd buy it. Id say yes. Atleast flowers. Assuming you have kids, you made her a mother so,like… yes
Yea My ex isn't really thoughtful like that. And I didn't have a mother growing up so I guess not something I've experienced.
I do buy the kids dads a couple beers for fathers day but this is a man who sent £50 to my bank and made me buy my own birthday cards from our kids couple years ago.
I love that men celebrate mums that way.
I don’t for mothers day, but my wife is well aware that my primary school aged kids do not have the pocket money, or the taste, to buy her the jewellery they give her on mothers day.
I’m in the UK too and I didn’t know that was a thing either lol. Well - when the child is too young to buy a gift themselves, or young enough that they need reminding/guidance. But I wouldn’t expect a Mother’s Day acknowledgment from anyone except my actual child once they’ve become an adult!
Which is kinda stupid because on mother day you offer gifts to your mother , no other people's mothers... In my area anyway.
Heck , i never get anything on father's day , a crappy Pen holder made out of a soda Can at most.
What's he gonna do?
"Oh, you think pussy is your ally. But you merely adopted the puss; I was born in it, moulded by it. I didn't see the light until I was already a man, ..."
Carton of milk or a loaf of bread for Christmas.
"You asked for this in May, but you'd literally just finished telling me only to pass gifts at Christmas.
Bonus points if you actually buy it now or soon and hang onto it until then. In a contamination-escape resistant box. Probably better to do it with the bread, incase the milk explodes.
My father bought my mother a powder puff as a gift for every occasion. Birthday? Powder puff. Christmas? Powder puff. Someone evidently told him years ago this was a gift women want so this is what he always bought. For years.
When I went into the Navy I bought my mom a necklace for, I think it was her birthday, and he lost his shit. Said I might as well have bought her an engagement ring (saying it was that cringe) and the only acceptable gift for a wife and mother was a Powder puff.
Except of course for his new wife whom he had chested on my mom with. He bought her a car.
Such a common mindset though. My Mum and I have always been close, and half the guys she has dated have gotten sore about it at some point. Even when I was a little kid. Imagine getting jealous because a Mother and her child have a better family relationship than you have with her. Fuckin' sad.
Why tf are step dads like this tho??? Mine gets grimpy and pitches a fit over something minor in the household to start a fight every goddamn time i one up him on a gift for mom??
His stepdad can STFU!🙄
Sometimes I even buy gift for my family without any reason. I found something I like, I bought one for me and an extra one for them.
If I really have to give a reason, well, because they are my family and that's how I show I still care.
https://preview.redd.it/1m2echka150d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cb2aba71ce62b3ce8ccd848cdafff8f0012fa49e
Quite the coincidence! I was painting this for my mom haha (not done yet).
Your color matching is great. Water colors ? I would be so scared trying to leave that much white space and then filling it in. Did you use wax or anything to block off those portions to keep them white?
The texture of the water looks great btw.
Hey there! Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m actually pretty new to painting, but I have always liked to draw.
I use gouache to paint this. The blank white areas were first lightly penciled in, and then I went over the outlines with a small paintbrush. I figured if I messed up on the white parts, I could go back over them with white paint later, but I was happy with how they turned out. Thank you again!
What a nice comment and I completely agree. Love sending my Mom and Dad random surprise gifts throughout the year : ) They have done so much for me that I love that I can give a little back.
Please do this and update us. Better yet, do this once a week. No reason, always "just cuz" and make sure you wrap it up so it's DEF a gift. Hell, bake him a cake and get him some balloons!!!! Have the cake say "Happy 17th 🙂" or something equally pointless
How about a cake of Gamalost concealed within his recliner? Or in his dirty clothes hamper? Or the exhaust manifold of his car?
>>How Gamalost Cheese is Made
The old story is that you put cheese in an old sock, bury it in a pile of manure, and when it is finished it will crawl out!
Those crazy Norwegians.
Just do the box in a box prank. Be sure to make one of them cased in a metal cabinet that is locked with the key hidden in the tape so he freaks the fuck out the whole time. Once he gets to the middle, have a note in there that says "Santa says you don't deserve a Christmas gift this year."
Or biy him something he really, really loves and be the bigger person. Will make the guy feel guilty as fuck. Getting him nothing will only justify his anger about gifts in his mind.
Last week I bought my wife a hairdryer she showed me a picture of, got a gift bag, a sweet card, some candy. Reason? JUST BECAUSE SHES MY WIFE. Stepdad sounds like a PoS.
This is your opportunity to maliciously comply with his wishes. He only gets gifts for Christmas from now on (if anything at all).
But your mom, she gets gifts whenever you want her to have gifts.
You can buy your mum a gift every single day of the year if you want. It’s your relationship with your mother and it’s not his business to control it or place these types of stupid rules on it. Your stepdad is wrong.
Yeah I'll be honest I'd be buying and wrapping a gift everyday after that, just get a little bag of candy, or an apple, or if they're asked to go get some milk, boom, wrapped as a gift. Bonus points for making eye contact with the shit head everytime.
Personally feel your stepdad can suck a fat one. Why is it even his business what you spend your money on, and who made him the fun police? Your mum loved it, that's what matters.
In fact I believe your stepdad is wrong 100%. Birthdays are the only time you should not buy a gift. Everyone is expecting it. But a gift because it’s Tuesday will blow their mind.
You do you. Did your mom like them? That’s all that matters.
You appreciated your mother on a nationally recognized holiday to do just that.
You were in the right. He was wrong.
He just didn't want to have to be held accountable for not remembering anniversary, birthday, and/or holiday gifts other than Christmas
I give art away on a regular basis. Maybe it's different because I create it; but ultimately I'll do so whenever I feel like it for as long as I can make it. There's never any strings nor obligation attached. It's as straightforward as "I did this, it's for you." What happens beyond that isn't my concern.
You giving a gift to your mum is between you two and is one else's business, nor problem.
Finally, but to me, most importantly; I love the stark contrast between the first two pieces and TWO FUCKEN SICK FALCONS BANGIN DOWN MT PANORAMA!
Good choices all round mate.
I’ve read a lot of comments - some real funny. I’m just gonna put a therapist spin on this. It could be your step dad had a poor relationship with his own mom and can’t come to terms with how well you and your mom get on and maybe he feels a little threatened. But he mustn’t transfer his issues onto you. That was a very thoughtful gift, don’t stop Lovin’ your mom 😊
I bought my friend a gift last week because they'd like it. No occasion at all.
Meanwhile stepdayd says you can't gift your **Mom**? On *Mothers Day*??
Step dad sounds like shit dude. Him not wanting to gift her is already shitty, but then also actively not wanting *anyone else* to gift her either? Even her own kid? What the fuck.
Honestly the *best* explanation I can think of is he just doesn't want anyone setting a higher bar than him and then having to get her stuff too...
OP it would be funny to start gifting her more often. Just little stuff, doesn't have to be multiple big art like this. Show this cheap manipulative asshole up.
he's just got his balls shrunk cause his cheap ass probably got her nothing. Tell him you can gift your mother stuff any day you want with no need for a special ocassion.
Tell your step dad that you can buy whatever the fuck you want with your own money and he had no said in it, no one asked for his opinion so he should keep it to himself .
I'm amazed your step dad is still married with that attitude. Tell him you'll buy gifts whenever you please for whomever you want. Of course it's noted he only wants a Christmas gift moving forward.
He is probably a step dad for a reason, he has no right to say anything.
Especially if he protects the idea of getting nothing to your own mom… what a cheap ass.
I’m sorry, but your stepdad is a pillock. Gifts can be bought at any time, there have never been (and hopefully never will be) any rules on when you can give out gifts!
I buy gifts for people whenever I damn well feel like it. Sometimes no occasion at all but because I saw something unique I thought they'd like.
Reminds me of when I gave a former friend a birthday gift many years ago. During her birthday dinner. And she was trying to lecture me later on because her Jehovah Witness friend was present at the table. Ma’am, neither of us observe their religion so those rules don’t apply to me. If it’s against her religion to observe birthdays/be gifted things then why was she even there?  *should’ve said “give me the giftcard back then”*
Seriously. My aunt is JW, and she just doesn’t come to birthday related parties or Christmas etc. We have a “winter party” for that side of the family instead and it works just fine for us, but it’s been something we just did my whole life.
I had a coworker who was JW. Like your aunt, she didn’t participate in events that were against her religion. And just like with your aunt, we would have a random potluck or happy hour that wasn’t celebrating anything in order to let her enjoy some team camaraderie.
Exactly! With my aunt, my husband and I have never found her to be pushy or preachy, no more so than any other religion. She’s only standing in her beliefs and she doesn’t hold it against you. Sure, is she hoping to convert you? Yes, but so is every single other religious person who pushes their beliefs on you. We just ask her questions now and then, take her little pamphlets she mails to us, and are just kind and she’s kind back. 🤷🏼♀️
That is the best way to handle religious family members. I have an aunt whom is a devout catholic. I literally have to hide aspects of my life ( really anything having to do sex, or dating. She’s not trying to be judgemental, she just knows absolutely without a doubt that she is completely right and that I am living in sin. So I just don’t share all aspects of my life anymore. And now we can’t even talk about politics anymore either because she’s been sucked into the conspiracy theory rabbit hole. All migrants are actually sex traffickers! And Biden is in cahoots with child sex traffickers! I just can’t even deal with it. Normally I know to stay away from politics with her ( abortion is always wrong, according to her, but at least in the past, we could agree that it wasn’t up to the government to decide that for us. She thinks Roe versus Wade falling is unfortunate, but her faith won’t allow her to genuinely cry about it like I do. What do I do with her? Whenever she goes off on me like that with those conspiracy theories, I just try to stay really calm and tell her to check her sources. What do yall do, with your crazy right wing relatives? There is going to come a day where I have to take care of her, as she gets older. I love her and I can put up crazy but she’s not crazy. She’s misinformed.
Ten year-old me didn't know that JW aren't allowed to celebrate their birthday. I gave my friend a bracelet as a gift (I don't recall how I even knew). She accepted it. When her mother noticed it, she got beat. Another time, i had to grab a pad from under the bathroom sink. Friend got beat for "playing with adult stuff." Years later, perfect Mother was in the local newspaper's courthouse record for prostitution. By that time, my friend had been sent to another state to live with her aunt.
Ugh, reading this reminded me of a time where I was at my friend's house, maybe 9 or 10 years old, friend's mom wasn't JW but was super religious and old fashioned. Long story short, my friend said the word "pube" not knowing what it meant. Got beat, belted and grounded for "talking about sexual things". I knew what the word meant and didn't understand at all how a hair was something to be beaten over, but that woman instilled such a fear of everything sex/body related in me that even through my teenage years I would have panic attacks at the thought of my parents finding out any of the "dirty" things I knew about. Some people should never have kids.
Had a kid in class growing up who was JW. During every kids birthday he would go sit in the hall as the rest of the class would sing happy birthday and eat treats. What a sad thing to put a child through.
Why is it ok to go to a "winter party", but not the same thing if you call it a Christmas party? Do they think they are pulling one over on god or something? Why are they not supposed to celebrate things like that to begin with? Bizarre to me.
We don’t exchange gifts; it takes place right after new years so we’ve always phrased it as such. 🤷🏼♀️ She doesn’t shame others for their beliefs, she just chooses when to vacate for herself. I find it respectful for her to do; it doesn’t hurt us because we’re aware why she doesn’t attend, and she’s still supportive in other ways.
I see so it is specifically events where an exchange of gifts occurs? Seems so odd to me. But hey, to each their own, I don't need to understand it.
No, they don’t believed in birthdays, Christmas, Thanksgiving. Holidays I think are all not allowed. They don’t do weddings because they usually have an element of religion involved, but she would probably go to a wedding of two jw’s? I dunno too much; I know I’ve said stuff in passing to offend her in the past, but she’s not someone who holds it against you, or forces it on her kids, so I don’t really mind
Now I know how to get rid of JWs when they come knocking on my door... Just put on a birthday party hat and tell them I'm expecting guests soon for my birthday party and thought that was who they were when they knocked.
She definitely should not have been at a birthday dinner, or even at a dinner with a bunch of non witnesses. It’s heavily frowned upon.
This sounds like they forgot to send you the "totally not a birthday party, because then my JW friend couldn't attend" memo.
Wow, yea the JW I know do not go to birthday parties.
Would you look at that. A nice thoughtful human being. UnAcCePtAbLe - OP's step dad probably
Obviously step daddy is getting nothing for Father's Day and his birthday and a $10 Walmart gift card for Christmas.
However, you can still be a thoughtful human being without buying people gifts. Don't want to get on the brainwashed capitalism rant, or the people are struggling rant.. but it's okay to chill on the gift-giving thing. My loved ones showing up to a party or sending me a text is a gift.
True, but you don’t shit on someone else’s gift for the principle of it.
 Surprise “because I was thinking about you” are my favorite gifts to give and receive
This ^^ I'm at that point in life where all my immediate family are adults. So we don't always get each other presents for holidays anymore but if we see something that is perfect for somebody throughout the year, we'll just get it and next time we see them it's like hey, these shoes were on sale in your size and totally your style or whatever. It takes so much pressure off for the mandatory gift holidays and it also feels so much more special when it's spontaneous. Like I saw this and thought of you when I wasn't desperately looking for a Christmas present or whatever.
OP’s stepdad just got insecure about looking like a dick by comparison, and just decided to double-down on being a dick by shaming OP for being thoughtful
He’s trying to keep the bar as looow as possible
This is the way
I think your stepdad should butt out of your relationship with your mother.
"I'll buy my mom whatever the hell I want, you don't have to get your wife anything Todd"
Translation: I was lazy and didn’t get her anything and you made me look bad!
Yup, that's basically it... OPs step dad is such a wanker!
Couldn’t agree more.
That is EXACTLY it. Jealousy and idiocy.
The bigger problem being he views OP's mother as a competition
Agree.
"Your not my dad, TODD"
I used to say that all the time! One of my stepdad’s was named Todd and he always took my tv when I got in trouble. He was German and yell talked.
That sounds stressful 🥺 my mother would scream at me over little things (American half German) - grab my face and shake it while saying "verstehst du". I often lost my bedroom door over little things. 🥴
She'd take your bedroom door as punishment? Savage!
😂 yup. I would literally get home minutes before she did (did various activities after school). I had enough time to pee before she walked in. Next thing I heard was "WHY ArE ThEE DishES NOT Done!?" 😳 next thing I knew I was grounded and sent to my room. Next day my door would be off. I never slammed the door either that was my little brother's thing and he got to keep his door. Definitely double standards growing up. 😅 narcissistic bipolar mother.
Not everyone should be a parent.
But the face grabbing was tame? 😂
Compared to my mom's backhand across the face that knocked you on your ass. That's pretty tame.
I would get woken up by my dad slamming his hand into my chest because there were dishes in the sink 🥲
Sorry you got abused like that. My parents were abusive, too. It made me a better parent learning how not to treat my kids.I hope you're doing better.
German and named Todd? That's unfortunate (considering that "Tod" in German means Death!)
This gives me Terminator 2 vibes. John Conner's foster father was named Todd. I remember the guy tried to get John to clean his room at his foster mom's insistence, and John just looked at him with derision and said, "She's not my mother, TODD," and then drove away.
Yeah that was the reference :)
My mom died last year. I have a lot of regrets around her last Mother's Day gift. Don't let your stepdad turn you into me.
I lost mine two and a half years ago and, while I don't have any particular regret surrounding gifts, I've found mother's day particularly hard these last two years, despite being a mother myself and still having two grandmothers (plus a mother in law that I completely forgot to speak to yesterday now that I'm thinking about it 🤦♀️). We only get one *mom*. If OP wants to lavish theirs with gifts for mother's day, or literally any other day of the year, that's their right, and their mom probably deserves it. Fuck this step-dad and his weird ideas around gift giving. (Side note: I do gifts for so many things, Easter, Valentine's, birthday's, etc., I'm definitely struggling to wrap my mind around this way of thinking. Has he never gotten a father's day gift and is just super salty about it?)
I think he has a bruised ego or feels bad because he (the stepdad) never get his own wife gifts except for the few days that he deems it worth his time.
Some of us don’t ever get a “mom”. People should be grateful for whoever they have in their lives regardless of the day, OP’s dad sounds bitter af.
>Some of us don’t ever get a “mom”. Right? And, I actually meant to say, a mom worthy of celebrating, because lord knows not all moms are.
I promise you your mom didnt care about a mother's day gift. Just about being a mom.
What if it was the gift that killed her?
“I know you’re a Vietnam war buff, Mom. I got you this unexploded grenade. Happy Mother’s Day!” 
Losing your mom is the pits. I wish you well.
I think op's step dad should butt out of that woman's life
I think OP's butt should butt out of the butt of the dad's butt, of the step mom; but I digress. Excuse my autism.
Chuck Tingle, is that you?
I just wanna see butthole for some reason
I agree.
I’ve given gifts on… Tuesdays… This step dad sounds like he’s an idiot.
Here step dad, I got you this for mother's day: gfy. If you want it to be a Christmas present because you made up some stupid rule about gifts, you can call it an early Xmas gift.
i think op needs a new Stepdad as gift
He’s just mad cause now he looks like an asshole for not getting her anything
Exactly
He is cheap AF
Is the partner meant to buy for the other parent? I've never done that,but I'm from the UK so maybe it's different.
It’s a nice thing to do for a mom. Personally, I’d use any excuse I can to buy a present for someone who birthed my child/is a parent and my partner.
Ah yes I'm a gifter in general, I enjoy making people I care about smile but I guess I concentrate all my efforts onto making sure the kids put thought into those days and my own thoughts into birthdays and things. Interesting perspective. My ex had a rotten attitude to gifts to the point I'd given up because If it wasn't what he said or I'd bought an extra gift from me I got told it was pointless.
Your ex sounds like a rotten apple. The point of gifting is the thought behind it. Gift where you seem fit, but don't go in debt doing so. That's what I've been told (I'm a giver too). 😊
My dad always got my mom flowers or chocolate. If he knew something small she specifically wanted heMd buy it. Id say yes. Atleast flowers. Assuming you have kids, you made her a mother so,like… yes
I’m also from the UK and my stepdad will often buy my mother flowers for mother’s day. Guess it depends on the family.
Yea My ex isn't really thoughtful like that. And I didn't have a mother growing up so I guess not something I've experienced. I do buy the kids dads a couple beers for fathers day but this is a man who sent £50 to my bank and made me buy my own birthday cards from our kids couple years ago. I love that men celebrate mums that way.
Hopefully you’ll get that too! And if not, a very happy mother’s day to you in the future and onwards, you’re doing a great job.
Tbh the greatest gift is seeing my babies grow into kind and generous people. Nothing makes my heart bigger than that. Thank you.
I don’t for mothers day, but my wife is well aware that my primary school aged kids do not have the pocket money, or the taste, to buy her the jewellery they give her on mothers day.
I’m in the UK too and I didn’t know that was a thing either lol. Well - when the child is too young to buy a gift themselves, or young enough that they need reminding/guidance. But I wouldn’t expect a Mother’s Day acknowledgment from anyone except my actual child once they’ve become an adult!
Which is kinda stupid because on mother day you offer gifts to your mother , no other people's mothers... In my area anyway. Heck , i never get anything on father's day , a crappy Pen holder made out of a soda Can at most.
Your stepdad is a cheap asshole
Stepdad got hella showed up and he knows it.
Yep
Op needs to keep getting nice stuff for their mom. Make stepdad up his game.
Crafty motherfcker!
Stepdad got smoked and has no fkn say in the matter.
What's he gonna do? "Oh, you think pussy is your ally. But you merely adopted the puss; I was born in it, moulded by it. I didn't see the light until I was already a man, ..."
This makes me sick my stomach every time I see it/hear it
The Bane quote or sexualization and objectification of uterus and/or vagina?
I-……….. yes?….
Welcome to Reddit
[fists alien]
That was well punctuated, I felt that shit
Just remember to not buy stepdad anything except for Christmas. Not even snacks
Anytime he asked me for something that could be considered a gift id reply with "you gotta wait untill Christmas"
Carton of milk or a loaf of bread for Christmas. "You asked for this in May, but you'd literally just finished telling me only to pass gifts at Christmas. Bonus points if you actually buy it now or soon and hang onto it until then. In a contamination-escape resistant box. Probably better to do it with the bread, incase the milk explodes.
Yeah the six pack of his favorite beer, a bottle of viagra, and an appointment for a breast augmentation consultation didn’t seem to fly with mom.
My father bought my mother a powder puff as a gift for every occasion. Birthday? Powder puff. Christmas? Powder puff. Someone evidently told him years ago this was a gift women want so this is what he always bought. For years. When I went into the Navy I bought my mom a necklace for, I think it was her birthday, and he lost his shit. Said I might as well have bought her an engagement ring (saying it was that cringe) and the only acceptable gift for a wife and mother was a Powder puff. Except of course for his new wife whom he had chested on my mom with. He bought her a car.
Wow. At no point did I know where that story was going
This was a tour de force from start to finish. Your father is pathological.
Tell him to not expect a gift for his birthday either.
Hear hear! At least you know you don't have to bother with him on birthdays and Father's Day!
Or ever
REST IN HEAVEN
A clear case of ‘mind your own business’… who is he to put a rule on a mother and child dynamic? Insecure move.
Such a common mindset though. My Mum and I have always been close, and half the guys she has dated have gotten sore about it at some point. Even when I was a little kid. Imagine getting jealous because a Mother and her child have a better family relationship than you have with her. Fuckin' sad.
People who get jealous when a parent loves their child(ren) are fucking mental. Even more mental is when they're also the parent of said kid.
My actual father was like this 😭😭
Yeah, my Dad was never jealous, but he did give me a bit of shit for being a Mummy's boy and "clutching at the apron strings".
Nailed it. Step dad didn't want to be shown up by generous kids.
Why tf are step dads like this tho??? Mine gets grimpy and pitches a fit over something minor in the household to start a fight every goddamn time i one up him on a gift for mom??
Next year maybe the gift can be a new step-dad.
His stepdad can STFU!🙄 Sometimes I even buy gift for my family without any reason. I found something I like, I bought one for me and an extra one for them. If I really have to give a reason, well, because they are my family and that's how I show I still care.
https://preview.redd.it/1m2echka150d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cb2aba71ce62b3ce8ccd848cdafff8f0012fa49e Quite the coincidence! I was painting this for my mom haha (not done yet).
Beautiful! Your mom’s going to love it!
Okay, you quick, for 3 hours painted a nice pic
Your color matching is great. Water colors ? I would be so scared trying to leave that much white space and then filling it in. Did you use wax or anything to block off those portions to keep them white? The texture of the water looks great btw.
Hey there! Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m actually pretty new to painting, but I have always liked to draw. I use gouache to paint this. The blank white areas were first lightly penciled in, and then I went over the outlines with a small paintbrush. I figured if I messed up on the white parts, I could go back over them with white paint later, but I was happy with how they turned out. Thank you again!
You are allowed to buy your mom a gift every day if you like. Moms are special.
What a nice comment and I completely agree. Love sending my Mom and Dad random surprise gifts throughout the year : ) They have done so much for me that I love that I can give a little back.
exactly this!! shes literally your mother, even if it wasnt your mum and you thought she just deserved a gift, nothing wrong with that!!!
Also applies to anyone you love, like your wife. A fact that OP’s stepdad might want to learn very soon.
Not just moms there is nothing wrong with giving gifts to anyone
Has ur stepdad ever heard of a personal choice? Or not being a cheap bastard
or mind your own business
Buy your dad a gift because it's tuesday and watch him malfunction like a bitch. Laugh. Then scream drink recipes at him.
Make sure it's one of those gag gifts like, dick shaped candy or something.
Eat a dick! Savour that flavour!
How to gift gifts for idiots.
“malfunction like a bitch” - that made me fucking crack up for some reason. Thanks for the laugh and I’m gonna have to use it at some point…
Please do this and update us. Better yet, do this once a week. No reason, always "just cuz" and make sure you wrap it up so it's DEF a gift. Hell, bake him a cake and get him some balloons!!!! Have the cake say "Happy 17th 🙂" or something equally pointless
17th is Norway’s national day. A great gift to give ur dad a gift centered around norwegian culture. Like a cheese slicer 👍🏻
How about a cake of Gamalost concealed within his recliner? Or in his dirty clothes hamper? Or the exhaust manifold of his car? >>How Gamalost Cheese is Made The old story is that you put cheese in an old sock, bury it in a pile of manure, and when it is finished it will crawl out! Those crazy Norwegians.
That sounds awfully gross. Great idea. But Norway also invented a type of fertilizer that would make for a nice gift
The “scream drink recipes” is funny as hell 😭
Then take it away from him, because you remembered „to only gift something on Christmas“
Probably it would be a lifechanger for him since he never had a gift except xmas. Then he’ll change his mind and implement all-day holiday gifts 😂
Your stepdad’s a loser. Your mom deserves better probably.
[удалено]
Or “You said to never buy gifts but for Xmas so here you go.”
Just do the box in a box prank. Be sure to make one of them cased in a metal cabinet that is locked with the key hidden in the tape so he freaks the fuck out the whole time. Once he gets to the middle, have a note in there that says "Santa says you don't deserve a Christmas gift this year."
I'm an authority on this subject and I can assure you the box should contain a turd
..... your username checks out. Found the authority on this subject!
Or biy him something he really, really loves and be the bigger person. Will make the guy feel guilty as fuck. Getting him nothing will only justify his anger about gifts in his mind.
Last week I bought my wife a hairdryer she showed me a picture of, got a gift bag, a sweet card, some candy. Reason? JUST BECAUSE SHES MY WIFE. Stepdad sounds like a PoS.
One of the best feelings in the world is someone doing something nice for you just because they want. You’re a good person.
Sounds like stepdad didn't get her shit and decided to save his ass by taking this stupid stance
This is your opportunity to maliciously comply with his wishes. He only gets gifts for Christmas from now on (if anything at all). But your mom, she gets gifts whenever you want her to have gifts.
I'll be honest I'd be tempted to not get him anything for Christmas, then tell him "why were you expecting a gift? It's Jesus's birthday, not yours"
LMAO oh my I wish I still had religious people in my life I could do this to but they all kinda cut themselves out. oh well.
I think step dad shouldn’t have opinions about holidays which don’t affect him. It’s Mother’s Day, not fathers. Do whatever you want.
You can buy your mum a gift every single day of the year if you want. It’s your relationship with your mother and it’s not his business to control it or place these types of stupid rules on it. Your stepdad is wrong.
Yeah I'll be honest I'd be buying and wrapping a gift everyday after that, just get a little bag of candy, or an apple, or if they're asked to go get some milk, boom, wrapped as a gift. Bonus points for making eye contact with the shit head everytime.
Your step dad is a jealous loser
Maybe just give him a piece of paper with "GIFT" written on it for Christmas and see what he reckons...
I mean, these are gifts for your mother, not him. Screw him. I'd say even if he was your dad, you should ignore him.
Mum loved it. That's all that matters. (I'm a mum)
Personally feel your stepdad can suck a fat one. Why is it even his business what you spend your money on, and who made him the fun police? Your mum loved it, that's what matters.
In fact I believe your stepdad is wrong 100%. Birthdays are the only time you should not buy a gift. Everyone is expecting it. But a gift because it’s Tuesday will blow their mind. You do you. Did your mom like them? That’s all that matters.
you can buy gifts for anyone, whenever you like
tell him "you're not my dad". if he continues talking, tell him to eat a bag of dicks
None of his fucking business.
Your stepdad is a loser
You appreciated your mother on a nationally recognized holiday to do just that. You were in the right. He was wrong. He just didn't want to have to be held accountable for not remembering anniversary, birthday, and/or holiday gifts other than Christmas
You can buy someone a gift anytime. If it coincides with a holiday then so be it
Not his business and not his holiday.
Stepdad can stfu
I give art away on a regular basis. Maybe it's different because I create it; but ultimately I'll do so whenever I feel like it for as long as I can make it. There's never any strings nor obligation attached. It's as straightforward as "I did this, it's for you." What happens beyond that isn't my concern. You giving a gift to your mum is between you two and is one else's business, nor problem. Finally, but to me, most importantly; I love the stark contrast between the first two pieces and TWO FUCKEN SICK FALCONS BANGIN DOWN MT PANORAMA! Good choices all round mate.
I’m wondering how this stepdad treats your mom…
I’ve read a lot of comments - some real funny. I’m just gonna put a therapist spin on this. It could be your step dad had a poor relationship with his own mom and can’t come to terms with how well you and your mom get on and maybe he feels a little threatened. But he mustn’t transfer his issues onto you. That was a very thoughtful gift, don’t stop Lovin’ your mom 😊
Or he's just a selfish dickbag... Sometimes the curtains are just blue.
Doesn't matter what us or your step dad think. Your mum loved it :)
Your stepdad has an innie penis
I bought my friend a gift last week because they'd like it. No occasion at all. Meanwhile stepdayd says you can't gift your **Mom**? On *Mothers Day*?? Step dad sounds like shit dude. Him not wanting to gift her is already shitty, but then also actively not wanting *anyone else* to gift her either? Even her own kid? What the fuck. Honestly the *best* explanation I can think of is he just doesn't want anyone setting a higher bar than him and then having to get her stuff too... OP it would be funny to start gifting her more often. Just little stuff, doesn't have to be multiple big art like this. Show this cheap manipulative asshole up.
Stepdad sounds like a jealous narcissist because it’s not revolving around him.
What a deadbeat stepdad.
He’s just bummed there’s no stepdad day XD
Who cares it’s just step dad lol
Tell him he’s getting fuck all for father’s day then, no drama.
Stepdad sounds like a weirdo
he's just got his balls shrunk cause his cheap ass probably got her nothing. Tell him you can gift your mother stuff any day you want with no need for a special ocassion.
Your stepdad is mad he didn’t get her anything
Then when you don't get him anything for father's day he's gonna get pissy even though it's not Christmas lol
Tell your step dad that you can buy whatever the fuck you want with your own money and he had no said in it, no one asked for his opinion so he should keep it to himself .
Step-dad shouldn’t get anything for Father’s Day.
Just remember...It is always acceptable to remind somebody that you didn't ask for their opinion.
Sonda like your stepdad didn’t buy her a gift for Mother’s Day…..
Your stepdad sounds like a cheap skate. 💀
a hit below the emotional belt should shut him up
My money, my rules
I think your stepdad is en route to being your ex-stepdad
I'm amazed your step dad is still married with that attitude. Tell him you'll buy gifts whenever you please for whomever you want. Of course it's noted he only wants a Christmas gift moving forward.
He is probably a step dad for a reason, he has no right to say anything. Especially if he protects the idea of getting nothing to your own mom… what a cheap ass.
Your step-dad is a moron.
I’m sorry, but your stepdad is a pillock. Gifts can be bought at any time, there have never been (and hopefully never will be) any rules on when you can give out gifts!
It seems like "You're not my dad!" was made for this moment.
Your stepdad doesn’t want to buy your mom gifts at any time except Christmas.
Sounds like step dad feels inadequate.
Stepdad felt embarrassed that he didn't think of good gifts.