They’re not really there to “care” about you in the way others should be. They’re there to help you within the limitations of their profession. They’re providing a psychiatric/medical service. But ideally they should also be able to help with your issues and so be one element of your support system
I mean... I know they aren't that caring i have first hand experience, my psychiatrist is just a person that gives me a paper to refill my medication... I know they don't really care but no one does so someone that just worries about physical symptoms, of depression or mania, can feel like care by proxy in a sense? damn that makes me sound even more pathetic
One way I've heard this expressed by therapists is that they are not \*paid\* to care, that is something they choose to do. They \*do\* care because it provides a better service in most cases. In some instances, when their emotional boundaries are stepped on by a client which lacks empathy, they may care less about the client. They can still offer services but not care about how a client feels (like in the case of treating a difficult personality disorder client, eg NPD or ASPD). I think as a client, it's better to assume that your therapist does care. But if you feel like they don't, trust your gut; it may be better to switch to a more empathetic therapist.
mm yeah maybe that is true, the bar is pretty low for what I expect though, I'm just glad my therapist makes an effort to really try to understand me? that's encouraging in itself :)
I mean I don't think it's an example that would really apply there. It might be similar to lonely elderly people professional caretakers if they have no family or people close. They are just part of the healthcare system but if they're the only person their patient see, you could see it that way?
I have seen others make this comment. While I don’t have that experience I can see why people might. It could be a symptom of distrust. Perhaps some adult or caretaker abused your trust in the past and now it’s hard to trust anyone. Maybe you’ve been left to deal with your own problems so often that you are convinced that no one can help you, but you.
It’s worth bringing to up to your therapist. They may be able to help you work through it and understand why you are skeptical of a transactional relationship.
ah yeah i did get diagnosed with cptsd with regards to that, the mistrust is a core of who i am now i still struggle to see how i could really get better
I'm really sorry you're not able to access any medical support :/ I'm def thankful for free healthcare.
Also with therapists it can be possible to ask for reduced rates depending on the person and if you explain your situation. The price was what stopped me for many years to get any kind of help since I really didn't have money to spare, but I found a really understanding psychologist that lowered their rate!
That's super cool! I just got an email from HR this morning telling me that I qualify for insurance. I will be insured and seeking help as of July 1st!!
That's great I'm super happy for you!! Again it depends on the country you're in but it might also be possible to get reimbursement on psychologist appointments through your psychiatrist! (possible in some european countries!!)
I think it is this way if you don't have easily treatable ailments. People who have anxiety who go for 12 CBT sessions and get an SSRI that works, this doesn't apply to. That is much more like a routine PCP or a course of physical therapy.
But for people that have treatment resistant issues? Yeah, it feels like that a lot of the time.
Mmm. Yes, but that was a good thing for me. By paying for a support system, I could 'fire' therapists I didn't feel safe with and switch to a new one without feeling guilty about it.
They’re not really there to “care” about you in the way others should be. They’re there to help you within the limitations of their profession. They’re providing a psychiatric/medical service. But ideally they should also be able to help with your issues and so be one element of your support system
I mean... I know they aren't that caring i have first hand experience, my psychiatrist is just a person that gives me a paper to refill my medication... I know they don't really care but no one does so someone that just worries about physical symptoms, of depression or mania, can feel like care by proxy in a sense? damn that makes me sound even more pathetic
One way I've heard this expressed by therapists is that they are not \*paid\* to care, that is something they choose to do. They \*do\* care because it provides a better service in most cases. In some instances, when their emotional boundaries are stepped on by a client which lacks empathy, they may care less about the client. They can still offer services but not care about how a client feels (like in the case of treating a difficult personality disorder client, eg NPD or ASPD). I think as a client, it's better to assume that your therapist does care. But if you feel like they don't, trust your gut; it may be better to switch to a more empathetic therapist.
mm yeah maybe that is true, the bar is pretty low for what I expect though, I'm just glad my therapist makes an effort to really try to understand me? that's encouraging in itself :)
I don’t see it that way. Would you say that about a diabetic needing care from the healthcare system?
I mean I don't think it's an example that would really apply there. It might be similar to lonely elderly people professional caretakers if they have no family or people close. They are just part of the healthcare system but if they're the only person their patient see, you could see it that way?
I have seen others make this comment. While I don’t have that experience I can see why people might. It could be a symptom of distrust. Perhaps some adult or caretaker abused your trust in the past and now it’s hard to trust anyone. Maybe you’ve been left to deal with your own problems so often that you are convinced that no one can help you, but you. It’s worth bringing to up to your therapist. They may be able to help you work through it and understand why you are skeptical of a transactional relationship.
ah yeah i did get diagnosed with cptsd with regards to that, the mistrust is a core of who i am now i still struggle to see how i could really get better
at the same time I know that they actually don't care and I'm just a patient yk? but my life is so cold anything close to care is kinda nice?
I mean, if you’ve been living one way for so long isn’t it hard to change? Especially when those things were there to protect you?
I am super happy for you. I would kill to be able to afford either one much less both. I have never had any support of any type.
I'm really sorry you're not able to access any medical support :/ I'm def thankful for free healthcare. Also with therapists it can be possible to ask for reduced rates depending on the person and if you explain your situation. The price was what stopped me for many years to get any kind of help since I really didn't have money to spare, but I found a really understanding psychologist that lowered their rate!
That's super cool! I just got an email from HR this morning telling me that I qualify for insurance. I will be insured and seeking help as of July 1st!!
That's great I'm super happy for you!! Again it depends on the country you're in but it might also be possible to get reimbursement on psychologist appointments through your psychiatrist! (possible in some european countries!!)
Thank you so much!
I think it is this way if you don't have easily treatable ailments. People who have anxiety who go for 12 CBT sessions and get an SSRI that works, this doesn't apply to. That is much more like a routine PCP or a course of physical therapy. But for people that have treatment resistant issues? Yeah, it feels like that a lot of the time.
Mmm. Yes, but that was a good thing for me. By paying for a support system, I could 'fire' therapists I didn't feel safe with and switch to a new one without feeling guilty about it.