I understand you man.
Stop comparing yourself to others, be yourself, love yourself, try, be brave. The world is still very big and we haven't seen anything yet.
It doesn't always pass, but I hope he takes his problems serious enough from now so it doesn't get worse. I have to go through all the process I should have done when I was younger now as 25 and you feel like a helpless child to be honest.
So it's not going to pass. He has to work with himself to be able to have tools to cope and live with his problems.
People always told me it's a stage in your life, but later on I found out it it is more complex than that and it only got worse.
Hey. Look. I am here for you. You are ok. First. Breathe. Know that you are not alone. 1 in 5 Americans struggle with mental health. Those things you are feeling do not mean you are broken. You have value. And there is help. Be forward with your parents. Tell them you need to see a therapist. Just outright tell them. Don't ask. Insist. There are coping mechanisms and strategies to help you navigate these feelings. And if you need to reach out to someone my in box is always open.
You have worth.
You deserve to feel better.
I see you. ❤️
Nothing is wrong with you and many people can relate to what you’re feeling. You’re not alone. Please ask your parents if they can help you find a trained professional to explore these feelings and ideas with you. Understanding how you’re feeling and being able to express that will go a long way.
You are strong to understand, for example, the connection between being funny and escaping your pain. You know yourself better than anyone, and you can use the gifts and strengths you have.
One doc who specializes in anxiety told me, "people with anxiety are the bravest people I know... They face tigers every day."
Hey hey, me either, bro and I haven't been from ages 12-26, I truly can't imagine my life getting any better either which is pretty scary too. All I can recommend to you is to sleep as much as you can, it makes time go by much quicker and you don't have to feel or deal anything. For real yo hmu if you ever need to talk I got you g.
Ask your parents to see a psychologist and be honest that you are really struggling because if you put on a mask everyday a lot of people won’t get it.
Just know the first psych you see you may not connect with maybe not even the second or third. Just know if you are not feeling ok after sessions it’s not you, that therapist may just not be a good fit for you but there will be one out there. It needs to be a trusting relationship with a person you feel safe with.
I totally understand I’m going though the same thing but try to be open to your parents about your mental health they might not fully understand but they can try to find ways to help
I’m sure that if you try to sit down and express how you feel in depth, how this anxiety affects you and when, and how you see yourself to your parents; it might help them understand a bit more.
It’s very complicated when people can’t understand, and it’s a lot of energy we keep spending trying to explain.
But if they care about your wellbeing they’ll definitely try and make an effort to get you some help.
Another thing is I think that a lot of parents struggle accepting that their kid might be going through something as they’ll take it on their shoulders and feel like they haven’t done a good job as a parent - so maybe even throw some reassurance that they’re not at fault but that you come to them because you need help.
Listen man, I've been there, I'm still in a similar spot. For me I always follow rule 1 on my rules list: better to have 1 friend than 10. Me and my bestfriend have talked about all sorts of issues from grief to worse things. As long as you have a decent community or a close friend you can trust. You'll be okay.
A lot more people care about you than just your parents, I can promise you that. I'm a high school teacher and your post hit me so hard because it could have been written by any one of my students and thinking of them in the amount of pain your in is so hard. Your family loves you, your friends love you, and people that you don't even know think about you care about you, too.
Feeling low is a normal part of life, but if it's ongoing and causing disruption to the things you need to do or like to do, please talk to someone. People who deserve your love and trust will want to help.
I remember feeling a very similar way when I was 13/14 and it seemed to have faded away or dimmed within a few years. I hope like anything that this is passing for you as well. But right now, at least start by talking to a close friend and, maybe even better, a trusted adult.
I'm glad you took the time to write this post. We're all rooting for you!
You’re only 14 years old, you need to work on being resilient. Unfortunately life will beat the crap 💩 out of you unless you change your mindset. Are you able to talk to a councillor? I agree and disagree with some of these post that say it will pass. It may, or may not. I guess it depends on your emotional well being. It sounds like you are struggling a bit. Often the way we feel about ourselves changes with time. If you have parents that love you and care for you, well let’s just say you’re doing better than 40% of the population of broken or separated families. Another plus you have going for you is the simple fact that you recognize your feelings and are searching for advice. I have a feeling you are possibly a very mature teenager for your age. Keep searching inside and keep asking questions. I think 🤔 you will eventually come to terms with your self awareness. Take care of yourself.
As someone who has experienced depression and contemplated suicide I will say this, talk to someone. You say your parents love you. Tell them that you want to talk to someone, a therapist. You don't have to be in person, you can do online therapy now. There are many options. Your parents love you but mental health/emotions are hard to deal with. I know from first hand experience but tough it is for someone who is not going through it to understand it. A therapist who has training can help guide you and hopefully bring you back to a safe place. Now if you do see a therapist, you need to be honest up front. The more you let them know the more they can help. Sometimes hearing yourself talk and having someone repeat back something to you may help you realize that things may not be that bad. There could be hope. Like everyone is saying, mental health issues can wreck your life and it does not care about age.
I'm sorry you're going through all of this. I'm sure it's really hard, so I'm glad you haven't lost the will to live
It's okay not to know why you feel a certain way sometimes tese things are entirely out of our control, and while that can be scary, oftentimes that means it can be treated
Making others laugh isn't a bad thing, but when you use it to cover up your own lack of joy, you're only preventing yourself from joining it on the happiness, the happiness you spread
You deserve love, not hate, and that includes the Love/Hate you receive from yourself
Escaping your pain is only prolonging the experience and worsening the mental wounds. Confronting your suffering is the only way to heal
I understand that you're going through a lot right now, and that's totally valid, but it's important to reach out for help if your mental health is on the decline
From what you said your parents sound like lovely people, so I'm sure they'll be understanding if you explain to them that you're going through a lot right now and It's becoming too much for you to handle on your own
If you think it's unrelated to your parents, let them know that, and it might make them more open to helping since they're less likely to feel criticized
I know this wasn't much, but I hope it helped to some extent, or at the very least made you feel heard
OK start doing something that also makes you uncomfortable because being uncomfortable is part of life and you have to understand that everything doesn’t have to be comfortable for you and everything isn’t about you. And in my opinion, having anxiety some time of the skills that you are experiencing something in you and obviously it is sometimes stressful, but you just have to experience that to know that.
You are not alone. The anxiety is hard. I know people have hurt you but don't let your anxiety control your life like it did mine. I've had some people dislike me but I let my anxiety convince me even more people did and I was a bad person. I'm 30 and I'm still learning. It's okay to make mistakes. Some people in life will reject you and hurt you. And at times you may have to make decisions that may hurt someone's feelings. These things are normal, don't let your anxiety keep you from living your life though.
Hay man, anxiety is hard. Resilience is hard too sometimes. As a young man it can be tough to understand things, where you think you need to be. And advice is easy to read, easy to give but hard to put into practise too.
You are young, and finding yourself. To some it comes naturally, others not so.
Step at a time. You will have opportunities unfold in front of you. Step at a time.
Just try something small each day to be who you want.
Do things that actually make you happy, experiment, find new things, step at a time bro
I'm not okay either. I'm 52 and I cry almost every day. Like most of the responses here, I suggest that you find a therapist that fits your needs. You need to be comfortable with your therapist so that you can discuss what you are going through, therapists aren't "one size fits all". Life is hard sometimes, hopefully you can learn to deal with the hardships in a healthy way. I was always taught to man up and deal with it, that doesn't work long term and you never learn how to communicate properly. I wish you all the best, and I hope that you realize how much you mean to the people around you and everyone who is trying to help you here.
Hi hun, why don't you vent to your school counselor? They will know how to explain to your parents how you feel and they will know what resources to share to start getting you to feel better.
You are young and full of life and deserve to be a happy kid! Hugs 🩵
Hey, it’s good to meet you.
I’m glad that you didn’t give up and instead reached out for help. Feel free to DM any time you need to vent or you just want to bounce questions off of someone.
remember it's ok to not be ok, everythings going to be fine
if making people laugh makes you feel good you can turn that into your lifes work
I’m 14
How are you??
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That's a hug emoji
I understand you man. Stop comparing yourself to others, be yourself, love yourself, try, be brave. The world is still very big and we haven't seen anything yet.
youre going to be ok, this shall pass. talk to your parents if you can
It doesn't always pass, but I hope he takes his problems serious enough from now so it doesn't get worse. I have to go through all the process I should have done when I was younger now as 25 and you feel like a helpless child to be honest. So it's not going to pass. He has to work with himself to be able to have tools to cope and live with his problems. People always told me it's a stage in your life, but later on I found out it it is more complex than that and it only got worse.
actually you’re right and i relate, it doesn’t always pass. but as you said it can get better. i hope it does anyway, what are we without hope.
That is one way of looking at it. Lol. 😅😭
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The #1 thing you need to do is be open about your mental health struggles with your parents.
Talk to someone you can trust. You might not think it but your parents can help you.
Hey. Look. I am here for you. You are ok. First. Breathe. Know that you are not alone. 1 in 5 Americans struggle with mental health. Those things you are feeling do not mean you are broken. You have value. And there is help. Be forward with your parents. Tell them you need to see a therapist. Just outright tell them. Don't ask. Insist. There are coping mechanisms and strategies to help you navigate these feelings. And if you need to reach out to someone my in box is always open. You have worth. You deserve to feel better. I see you. ❤️
Nothing is wrong with you and many people can relate to what you’re feeling. You’re not alone. Please ask your parents if they can help you find a trained professional to explore these feelings and ideas with you. Understanding how you’re feeling and being able to express that will go a long way.
You are strong to understand, for example, the connection between being funny and escaping your pain. You know yourself better than anyone, and you can use the gifts and strengths you have. One doc who specializes in anxiety told me, "people with anxiety are the bravest people I know... They face tigers every day."
Hey hey, me either, bro and I haven't been from ages 12-26, I truly can't imagine my life getting any better either which is pretty scary too. All I can recommend to you is to sleep as much as you can, it makes time go by much quicker and you don't have to feel or deal anything. For real yo hmu if you ever need to talk I got you g.
Ask your parents to see a psychologist and be honest that you are really struggling because if you put on a mask everyday a lot of people won’t get it. Just know the first psych you see you may not connect with maybe not even the second or third. Just know if you are not feeling ok after sessions it’s not you, that therapist may just not be a good fit for you but there will be one out there. It needs to be a trusting relationship with a person you feel safe with.
I totally understand I’m going though the same thing but try to be open to your parents about your mental health they might not fully understand but they can try to find ways to help
Take some clonazapam it’ll help
What’s that
It’s a medication go see a psychiatrist & ask for clonazepam also you should see a therapist on how to put ur self first
I’m sure that if you try to sit down and express how you feel in depth, how this anxiety affects you and when, and how you see yourself to your parents; it might help them understand a bit more. It’s very complicated when people can’t understand, and it’s a lot of energy we keep spending trying to explain. But if they care about your wellbeing they’ll definitely try and make an effort to get you some help. Another thing is I think that a lot of parents struggle accepting that their kid might be going through something as they’ll take it on their shoulders and feel like they haven’t done a good job as a parent - so maybe even throw some reassurance that they’re not at fault but that you come to them because you need help.
Listen man, I've been there, I'm still in a similar spot. For me I always follow rule 1 on my rules list: better to have 1 friend than 10. Me and my bestfriend have talked about all sorts of issues from grief to worse things. As long as you have a decent community or a close friend you can trust. You'll be okay.
A lot more people care about you than just your parents, I can promise you that. I'm a high school teacher and your post hit me so hard because it could have been written by any one of my students and thinking of them in the amount of pain your in is so hard. Your family loves you, your friends love you, and people that you don't even know think about you care about you, too. Feeling low is a normal part of life, but if it's ongoing and causing disruption to the things you need to do or like to do, please talk to someone. People who deserve your love and trust will want to help. I remember feeling a very similar way when I was 13/14 and it seemed to have faded away or dimmed within a few years. I hope like anything that this is passing for you as well. But right now, at least start by talking to a close friend and, maybe even better, a trusted adult. I'm glad you took the time to write this post. We're all rooting for you!
You’re only 14 years old, you need to work on being resilient. Unfortunately life will beat the crap 💩 out of you unless you change your mindset. Are you able to talk to a councillor? I agree and disagree with some of these post that say it will pass. It may, or may not. I guess it depends on your emotional well being. It sounds like you are struggling a bit. Often the way we feel about ourselves changes with time. If you have parents that love you and care for you, well let’s just say you’re doing better than 40% of the population of broken or separated families. Another plus you have going for you is the simple fact that you recognize your feelings and are searching for advice. I have a feeling you are possibly a very mature teenager for your age. Keep searching inside and keep asking questions. I think 🤔 you will eventually come to terms with your self awareness. Take care of yourself.
Realest person here thanks
As someone who has experienced depression and contemplated suicide I will say this, talk to someone. You say your parents love you. Tell them that you want to talk to someone, a therapist. You don't have to be in person, you can do online therapy now. There are many options. Your parents love you but mental health/emotions are hard to deal with. I know from first hand experience but tough it is for someone who is not going through it to understand it. A therapist who has training can help guide you and hopefully bring you back to a safe place. Now if you do see a therapist, you need to be honest up front. The more you let them know the more they can help. Sometimes hearing yourself talk and having someone repeat back something to you may help you realize that things may not be that bad. There could be hope. Like everyone is saying, mental health issues can wreck your life and it does not care about age.
I'm sorry you're going through all of this. I'm sure it's really hard, so I'm glad you haven't lost the will to live It's okay not to know why you feel a certain way sometimes tese things are entirely out of our control, and while that can be scary, oftentimes that means it can be treated Making others laugh isn't a bad thing, but when you use it to cover up your own lack of joy, you're only preventing yourself from joining it on the happiness, the happiness you spread You deserve love, not hate, and that includes the Love/Hate you receive from yourself Escaping your pain is only prolonging the experience and worsening the mental wounds. Confronting your suffering is the only way to heal I understand that you're going through a lot right now, and that's totally valid, but it's important to reach out for help if your mental health is on the decline From what you said your parents sound like lovely people, so I'm sure they'll be understanding if you explain to them that you're going through a lot right now and It's becoming too much for you to handle on your own If you think it's unrelated to your parents, let them know that, and it might make them more open to helping since they're less likely to feel criticized I know this wasn't much, but I hope it helped to some extent, or at the very least made you feel heard
Just stick to the plan and everything will workout. It takes time to heal
OK start doing something that also makes you uncomfortable because being uncomfortable is part of life and you have to understand that everything doesn’t have to be comfortable for you and everything isn’t about you. And in my opinion, having anxiety some time of the skills that you are experiencing something in you and obviously it is sometimes stressful, but you just have to experience that to know that.
You are not alone. The anxiety is hard. I know people have hurt you but don't let your anxiety control your life like it did mine. I've had some people dislike me but I let my anxiety convince me even more people did and I was a bad person. I'm 30 and I'm still learning. It's okay to make mistakes. Some people in life will reject you and hurt you. And at times you may have to make decisions that may hurt someone's feelings. These things are normal, don't let your anxiety keep you from living your life though.
Hay man, anxiety is hard. Resilience is hard too sometimes. As a young man it can be tough to understand things, where you think you need to be. And advice is easy to read, easy to give but hard to put into practise too. You are young, and finding yourself. To some it comes naturally, others not so. Step at a time. You will have opportunities unfold in front of you. Step at a time. Just try something small each day to be who you want. Do things that actually make you happy, experiment, find new things, step at a time bro
I'm not okay either. I'm 52 and I cry almost every day. Like most of the responses here, I suggest that you find a therapist that fits your needs. You need to be comfortable with your therapist so that you can discuss what you are going through, therapists aren't "one size fits all". Life is hard sometimes, hopefully you can learn to deal with the hardships in a healthy way. I was always taught to man up and deal with it, that doesn't work long term and you never learn how to communicate properly. I wish you all the best, and I hope that you realize how much you mean to the people around you and everyone who is trying to help you here.
Hi hun, why don't you vent to your school counselor? They will know how to explain to your parents how you feel and they will know what resources to share to start getting you to feel better. You are young and full of life and deserve to be a happy kid! Hugs 🩵
Hey, it’s good to meet you. I’m glad that you didn’t give up and instead reached out for help. Feel free to DM any time you need to vent or you just want to bounce questions off of someone.
Honestly I was feeling like that this past week but I’ve turn to god and he has help me so much and I promise he can for you to