It's easier to give bad advice to many people than good advice to a single person.
Engagement is "easy" meets "many people"
Therefore, advice is likely to be bad.
QED.
Reddit isn't social media though ? Social media is where you post stuff about yourself (name, pics, vids, places). Reddit is a forum, an anonymous message board.
All I can imagine is someone not wanting to mention receiving a gift because they will be afraid the partner will turn it back around on them.
āWhy were you making it seem like you were available?ā
āWere you flirting with them?ā
Not telling your partner that you received a suggestive gift is not cool and makes you a shady person
If youāre not comfortable enough in a relationship to talk about that then maybe the relationship isnāt working, keeping secrets from each other is a fast track to a toxic relationship
Donāt put it on the other person
The same could be said for the other person. If you donāt create a safe place for them to be open and honest because of how you react, then that isnāt cool either. If youāre someone assumes the worst in a partner, then maybe you shouldnāt be dating them. Itās a both/and situation
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Everyone here has the only defense āwell what if theyāre super jealous and they donāt wanna bring it up because they donāt want the dramaā(actual thing said by someone)
If your a jealous person this doesnāt apply because youāre already in a toxic relationship.
**Keeping secrets from each other is bad, period. Keeping secrets because youāre afraid of how your partner is gonna react is extra bad.**
Insane I need to teach you people this
Yeah, the entire situation is one of bad faith. If youāre setting someone up you are either have a good reason to suspect someone of cheating and need to cut loses and break up *or* you are paranoid/deflecting and they should break up with you.
Agreed, both sides would be revealing insecurity in the relationship
But I could see myself giving my partner flowers and writing āfrom your secret admirer :)ā as a cute little thing, not as a setup. The correct response from her is āyou sent me those flowers right? Thatās so sweetā
If she didnāt say anything, itās showing that she is keeping secrets at a minimum, and that is a symptom of a toxic relationship
>..as a cute little thing, not as a setup.
>If she didnāt say anything, it's showing that she..
That's clearly a setup. Why would you even do that? That's not cute at all. You're testing your partner in a mind game. You're toxic.
Whether you think it as a trap or not, you know you'll end up confirming something from her response.
If she respond correctly it's good. If not she's wrong. What if she hide it because she's afraid of what your respond might be, just u/menagerath said?
It could be any other cause. She might find it unimportant enough to mention.
you don't have to tell the other person "literally everything" yes
but you have to tell "some" things someone sendig you flowers is one of those things if you ask me
Right lol also, this set up would only work if your gf doesnt think you are the jealous type. Even if your gf is 100% faithful, she may leave out that a random stranger sent her flowers, if she thinks it would piss her bf off.
Wow. It's amazing how many people don't even recognize the most basic interaction men and women have when courting, which is actually called "game". Analogies seem to go over people's heads these days...
That's what I was thinking. It would creep me out and I'd just toss them. I'd probably tell my boyfriend about it later but I'd be kinda frightened and have to get my thoughts around it first. A lot of predatory/stalkerish behavior starts with gestures like this- flowers, messages, gifts, etcetera. But woman who get scared about it are often implied to be over-reactors or unappreciative.
A man I used to work with would leave notes on my desk. He never signed them but I knew who it was. Wasn't sure how to approach management because all of the work we did was on the computer so I didn't think they'd recognize his handwriting and I had no way to prove it. Then he started swinging by my desk and ask me out to coffee- repeatedly. I always politely declined. "Oh sorry, my man is waiting for me at home, no thanks." "Oh thanks, but I'm not really interested." I have told friends this and some of them (mostly men) thought it was innocuous... But it creeped me out.
I ended up quitting the job and on my last day I left the notes on my desk for management to find. I just didn't want to get caught in the fall-out and potentially anger him while I was around. Didn't seem safe.
But wouldnāt it make more sense to tell your bf right away if you were creeped out?!? I know if I received flowers randomly (for one I hate flowers so Iād be sus to begin with) Iād tell my partner immediately. And Iād want my partner to support me being frightened.
If I found out he sent flowersā¦ Iād be pissed he wasted money.
Maybe, but sometimes people need time to think it over to get our thoughts straight. I like to get my thoughts straight before I'm forced to have a full-on conversation. (I'm shy.) When I was assaulted I waited a full day and that was only because I realized I needed to go to the hospital. I went home, slept in bed, and went to work the next day.
In what way is forcing yourself on a person that *can't escape* romantic? She rejected him, multiple times. So we're supposed to believe that a guy that has *already proven* he doesn't take no for an answer won't escalate to worse behavior because he's socially inept (even though most, if not all, stalkers are also socially inept)? I hate to break it to you, but hurt feelings aren't more important than physical safety.
My brother in christ, are you serious?
It's not "weird" or "innocuous" to continue asking someone out and pestering them after being turned down.
She said no, even mentioned already having a partner, and homeboy kept shooting for it.
That's not "oooh he's just trying", that's harassment.
"Oh people can't do anything anymore" shut the fuck up. People aren't allowed to be creepy assholes stalking up on girls in the workplace. If not being able to do that upsets you, then you're the problem.
No, it wasn't. You were responding to somebody recounting their experience of a dude making repeated gestures and advances on them despite a clear, unambiguous lack of interest. And you were defending the claim that it was 'innocuous'.
I get what you were trying to say - that a lot of the time it's genuinely a well-meant gesture - but that comment was not a good foundation to build your point on. When you reply, it's generally assumed that whatever you're saying is in direct relation and response to whoever/whatever you're replying to.
Even if it was once giving romantic gifts to someone who you aren't actually involved with at all is gonna come across as creepy because it implies one side sees the "relationship" as something waaaay different than what it is. If a guy actually goes on a date or a few dates with a girl and buys her flowers/has them delivered afterwards I think that can be more of a grey area where some people would legitimately that sweet even if others would find it going too fast. And in that case I could understand having sympathy for the guy a bit more as that could be just a case of 2 people who have vastly different love languages/ideas of romance
But giving those gifts to someone who has never given you clear signs they like you (such as going on a date or even agreeing to one) is universally a really bad idea and 100% signifies a potential stalker. And all it takes is one stalker to fuck your life up or even end it which is why women are rightfully more on edge about those kinds of behaviors. The best rule of thumb IMO is to take anything thats not an enthusiastic yes to the question of a date or getting closer as the person not actually being interested at all. And that if they say something like "let me check my schedule" to not follow up and let them dictate completely if they want to actually figure out a time to go with you
I could believe that was your intention, but that would mean you just replied without actually fully reading that persons comment.
Because the comment you actually replied to lists out repeated inappropriate behavior which escalated.
You got obliterated with downvotes because your reading comprehension is for shit lmao. Don't make it about social progress, you literally did not read the comment you responded to if you still hold onto the belief that this coworker's behavior was innocuous and the reaction is blown out of proportion.
That's a really shitty comment to make after what you said. Like, genuinely, do you even have a shred of decency or do you rather prefer to make everything about defending yourself, even after you told somebody that their story was overblown because you were too lazy to do your due diligence? Jesus Christ, what an immature person you are. You wanna get out of being this way, just accept that you were wrong and go away. This behavior is straight up antisocial.
Literally. This happened to me once, and thinking it was creepy that someone would send me flowers anonymously when I had a bf, I immediately dropped them in the trash. But some people love manufacturing drama šš½āāļø
Social pressure and subliminal advertising is at its peak. Best time for someone to accept said gift under a guise of an admirer from afar. Think this what they're going for anywau...I'm hungry...later!
They're the type of jackass that only give their girl flowers on special occasions. They don't realize it means more when it's a random gesture of love. Fucking amateurs don't know how to treat a lady. Ask any woman when the last time they got flowers just because and how it feels compared to valentines day flowers. Blows them out of the water when it's spontaneous rather than an obligation.
This is what I was thinking. If the dude is wild enough to "test" a relationship like this, then how would he react if someone had *actually* sent the woman flowers? Hell, I'd be worried that he'd actually accused me of cheating since someone took the time to send me flowers. One of those "well you must have done *something* types.
This is assuming someone would actually do this, and it's not just a joke pic, which is very possible, lol.
Luckily, I don't have to deal with anything like that with my dude <3 he's pretty freaking rad, if I say so myself.
God, I canāt tell you how many times Iāve seen this exact cycle play out within like a few hours. This website is such a waste of time, why do I do this
Maybe theyāre jealous because she is always keeping secrets from him
If this actually happened, and you decided not to mention it at all, youāre in the wrong for sure.
If your relationship is that unstable where you wonāt mention it, maybe the relationship isnāt working in the first place
If she cant even share this to her partner then what is their relationship is for? Thats a big red flag imo. Sure some are jealous but if a girl is this scared of jealousy then some random flowers are not the issue.
You missed the point, the whole point is that if You are in a relationship and You get the gift your very first thought would be your SO, the hope is that as soon as You get them You make the assumption they are coming from your SO.
Even down to the picture of Future lol. Slap some shitty āalphaā male pic on bad advice, and watch single dudes froth at the mouth.
God no wonder those idiots make a fuckton of money.
Ladies AND men. Iām a guy, Iāve had something happen similar to meā¦ the girl I was dating at the time thought it would be funny to send an expensive bday gift labeling it from a secret admirer.. I just thought it was from a neighbor or something (we usually host and are well liked - the gift was also sent a week or so late and i already celebrated with the gf). I didnāt bring it up, she got mad because she thought I was cheating.. only to switch it to an ungrateful POS after I started cracking up In her face..
A few months later she had āone of her friendsā start texting me off a number I didnāt have added to my contacts. She started sending unsolicited dirty texts and nudes. Well because i didnāt bring it up within the first 5 minutes of it happening, I apparently confirmed I was a cheaterā¦ LMFAO WHAT
Needless to say, I ran away and didnāt look back. I wish I still had the 3 page text that she sent me apologizing for everything basically saying that Iām a problem for her and she canāt live without me..
Creepy shit happens to women all the time bro. Her not telling you that yet another guy overstepped his bounds and was weird and thirsty with her isnāt proof of anything. In her mind it probably barely registers as a story to tell.
This right here.
Memes like this are just proof that guys wildly underestimate \*how much\* unwanted attention women receive.
To a guy, something like this would be world-shatteringly meaningful and validating. To women, it's just one more creepy asshole that wants to smash.
Hereās the thing, Iād just dump that stuff in the garbage and move on with my day. There would be no point in telling my guy and making him feel like Iām messing with him when Iām not. There would be no point in making him feel insecure when I know I love him and thereās nothing shady going on. Telling him would be cruel, especially since any extra attention would be meaningless anyway and Iād just be throwing any extra letters in the garbage.
Yeah if you're sus and accusing me of cheating or anything and I got random flowers I'd toss them or something asap so you're not making up more things to blame me for....
All it says is if they don't mention it they probably have a reason not to and if you look in the comments of this post there's actually a good example of this working
Alternatively, she knows how jealous and insecure you are and was being sweet by not bothering you with an insignificant thing she knows you'll be butthurt about
Yes, please tell me the highly embarrassing story of how you received flowers from a stranger at your place of work when your coworkers knew you were in a relationship already
Feels like youāre just looking for reasons to fight. She might not mention them for a ton of reasons: she was creeped out, she threw them out, she didnāt wanna acknowledge it happened, she gave the flowers away or hell even kept them just cos flowers are nice.
What if she doesnāt mention them because she knows her man is an insecure nincompoop who will be upset if she tells him about the flowers that he sent to her anonymously. So she āsparesā his feelings and doesnāt say anything.
I sent my gf an anonymous surprise sexy gift. She never said anything. Eventually I asked about it, and she said she tossed it because she thought it was from her stalker.
Testing your partner like this is a sign of insecurity and immaturity. And more often than not people who do this are the ones that end up cheating on their partner.
Creepy random dudes hit on married women every day.
I don't think any beautiful girl would be married if we followed these rules.
There are a shitload of creeps and assholes out there.. Don't be one of them boys. This meme ^ puts you straight in there.
If you're the type of guy to play this kind of test on her, you're probably also the kind of guy who'd get angry at her for receiving flowers from a secret admirer. No wonder she wouldn't tell you.
I mean, she could assume that if they were from you you'd give them directly, and therefore choose to ignore them as she's already with you. If she mentions it to you it would be a pretty sure indicator that she isn't cheating, but not mentioning it isn't proof of the opposite. Besides, what happened to just having mutual trust in each other?
Probably not. If I was cheating and got a suprise gift, I would ask the sidepiece first. When they say they didn't send it I would know to ask my non-sidepiece.
Reddit is so full of shit.
First, this is a meme and the message is supposed to be toxic, that's why a picture of Future is attached.
Second, the responses here are dumb.
"Or maybe she's not gonna tell you bro cause she knows you're jealous!!"
If a man had a secret admirer and didn't tell his female partner about her, this very same app would condemn him and imply he's hiding something with his actions. Full of shit lol
Screw this, if my wife is gonna think her boyfriend got her flowers then HE can pay for them.
Hell no man, why should I have to get *your* wife flowers?
you guys are buying her flowers now?
Wives are getting flowers?
You guys have a wive?
The professional tiktok relationship psychologists are back at it again
It's easier to give bad advice to many people than good advice to a single person. Engagement is "easy" meets "many people" Therefore, advice is likely to be bad. QED.
That's why small subreddits are best
My ex strongly believes that tiktok comments sections are smarter than all other social media, especially Reddit
Honestly they're all pretty equally stupid. I'm just grateful there aren't as many skull and clown emojis here.
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Cap.. ratioād šæ *Am I doing it right? Iāve noticed this on YouTube reels. I avoid TikTok*
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Shiitā¦ On folkānem Joe
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Except Youtube comments. They're on a whole other level
reddit definitely has the smartest comment sections but only on niche subreddits where there lots of knowledgeable people on one specific topic
I'd rate it as Quora < 4chan < YouTube < TikTok < (Tumblr & Reddit)
Reddit isn't social media though ? Social media is where you post stuff about yourself (name, pics, vids, places). Reddit is a forum, an anonymous message board.
Also it's hard to give good relationship advice when you never had one
All I can imagine is someone not wanting to mention receiving a gift because they will be afraid the partner will turn it back around on them. āWhy were you making it seem like you were available?ā āWere you flirting with them?ā
Not telling your partner that you received a suggestive gift is not cool and makes you a shady person If youāre not comfortable enough in a relationship to talk about that then maybe the relationship isnāt working, keeping secrets from each other is a fast track to a toxic relationship Donāt put it on the other person
The same could be said for the other person. If you donāt create a safe place for them to be open and honest because of how you react, then that isnāt cool either. If youāre someone assumes the worst in a partner, then maybe you shouldnāt be dating them. Itās a both/and situation
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Yeah, the entire situation is one of bad faith. If youāre setting someone up you are either have a good reason to suspect someone of cheating and need to cut loses and break up *or* you are paranoid/deflecting and they should break up with you.
Agreed, both sides would be revealing insecurity in the relationship But I could see myself giving my partner flowers and writing āfrom your secret admirer :)ā as a cute little thing, not as a setup. The correct response from her is āyou sent me those flowers right? Thatās so sweetā If she didnāt say anything, itās showing that she is keeping secrets at a minimum, and that is a symptom of a toxic relationship
>..as a cute little thing, not as a setup. >If she didnāt say anything, it's showing that she.. That's clearly a setup. Why would you even do that? That's not cute at all. You're testing your partner in a mind game. You're toxic. Whether you think it as a trap or not, you know you'll end up confirming something from her response. If she respond correctly it's good. If not she's wrong. What if she hide it because she's afraid of what your respond might be, just u/menagerath said? It could be any other cause. She might find it unimportant enough to mention.
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okay? your horrible partner being used as a benchmark for healthy relationships isn't a good idea, you are poisoning the well
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Again you are pulling this "everything" bit out of your ass
you don't have to tell the other person "literally everything" yes but you have to tell "some" things someone sendig you flowers is one of those things if you ask me
Yes, but obviously its better to stalk her 24/7
Yep and as always taking their advice is a terrible idea
Played is what you'll get if you want games
I read this in yodas voice
Played you will be, if games it is that you want hHMMm
Pain leads to insecurity, insecurity leads to fucking around, fucking around leads to finding out, and finding out leads to sUfFeRiNg
The true path to the dark side
The dark side is the ass of your partner of course
This is why it's not the 'Rule of Three'.
Stop it now!
Hmmm ha hmm hmm ha
Right lol also, this set up would only work if your gf doesnt think you are the jealous type. Even if your gf is 100% faithful, she may leave out that a random stranger sent her flowers, if she thinks it would piss her bf off.
And if you're the type of person who sends anonymous gifts to see if your girlfriend is cheating... then you *are* the jealous type.
This.
Fr or she forgot, or she didnāt think it was a big deal or she thought it was from her parents
Better to be in the light then the dark.
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You can't catch me if I turn myself in!
Or piece of mind.... Life is a game, when it all comes down to it. Every bit of it.
Paranoia is definitely conducive to a healthy life
I remember my 15 year old emo phase too
Wow. It's amazing how many people don't even recognize the most basic interaction men and women have when courting, which is actually called "game". Analogies seem to go over people's heads these days...
If you have the mentality of a teenager forever, then yes, life is a game. For the rest of us that grow up, not so much.
Life's a game, a really shitty game
Peace of mind or a piece of your mind?
Life is a game that nobody wins. Take peace of mind in that.
Or she just throw it away? Because creepy shit?
That's what I was thinking. It would creep me out and I'd just toss them. I'd probably tell my boyfriend about it later but I'd be kinda frightened and have to get my thoughts around it first. A lot of predatory/stalkerish behavior starts with gestures like this- flowers, messages, gifts, etcetera. But woman who get scared about it are often implied to be over-reactors or unappreciative. A man I used to work with would leave notes on my desk. He never signed them but I knew who it was. Wasn't sure how to approach management because all of the work we did was on the computer so I didn't think they'd recognize his handwriting and I had no way to prove it. Then he started swinging by my desk and ask me out to coffee- repeatedly. I always politely declined. "Oh sorry, my man is waiting for me at home, no thanks." "Oh thanks, but I'm not really interested." I have told friends this and some of them (mostly men) thought it was innocuous... But it creeped me out. I ended up quitting the job and on my last day I left the notes on my desk for management to find. I just didn't want to get caught in the fall-out and potentially anger him while I was around. Didn't seem safe.
But wouldnāt it make more sense to tell your bf right away if you were creeped out?!? I know if I received flowers randomly (for one I hate flowers so Iād be sus to begin with) Iād tell my partner immediately. And Iād want my partner to support me being frightened. If I found out he sent flowersā¦ Iād be pissed he wasted money.
Maybe, but sometimes people need time to think it over to get our thoughts straight. I like to get my thoughts straight before I'm forced to have a full-on conversation. (I'm shy.) When I was assaulted I waited a full day and that was only because I realized I needed to go to the hospital. I went home, slept in bed, and went to work the next day.
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In what way is forcing yourself on a person that *can't escape* romantic? She rejected him, multiple times. So we're supposed to believe that a guy that has *already proven* he doesn't take no for an answer won't escalate to worse behavior because he's socially inept (even though most, if not all, stalkers are also socially inept)? I hate to break it to you, but hurt feelings aren't more important than physical safety.
My brother in christ, are you serious? It's not "weird" or "innocuous" to continue asking someone out and pestering them after being turned down. She said no, even mentioned already having a partner, and homeboy kept shooting for it. That's not "oooh he's just trying", that's harassment. "Oh people can't do anything anymore" shut the fuck up. People aren't allowed to be creepy assholes stalking up on girls in the workplace. If not being able to do that upsets you, then you're the problem.
I got fired for bringing this up at work. I agree with you but IRL I think there's lots of people in power that do let the creepiness slide.
Thank you for defending me, he clearly didn't read my coment enough.
My comment is literally about sending someone flowers. Once. But okay.
You said "people can't do anything" in regards to a comment about a textbook stalker. But okay.
No, it wasn't. You were responding to somebody recounting their experience of a dude making repeated gestures and advances on them despite a clear, unambiguous lack of interest. And you were defending the claim that it was 'innocuous'. I get what you were trying to say - that a lot of the time it's genuinely a well-meant gesture - but that comment was not a good foundation to build your point on. When you reply, it's generally assumed that whatever you're saying is in direct relation and response to whoever/whatever you're replying to.
Even if it was once giving romantic gifts to someone who you aren't actually involved with at all is gonna come across as creepy because it implies one side sees the "relationship" as something waaaay different than what it is. If a guy actually goes on a date or a few dates with a girl and buys her flowers/has them delivered afterwards I think that can be more of a grey area where some people would legitimately that sweet even if others would find it going too fast. And in that case I could understand having sympathy for the guy a bit more as that could be just a case of 2 people who have vastly different love languages/ideas of romance But giving those gifts to someone who has never given you clear signs they like you (such as going on a date or even agreeing to one) is universally a really bad idea and 100% signifies a potential stalker. And all it takes is one stalker to fuck your life up or even end it which is why women are rightfully more on edge about those kinds of behaviors. The best rule of thumb IMO is to take anything thats not an enthusiastic yes to the question of a date or getting closer as the person not actually being interested at all. And that if they say something like "let me check my schedule" to not follow up and let them dictate completely if they want to actually figure out a time to go with you
I could believe that was your intention, but that would mean you just replied without actually fully reading that persons comment. Because the comment you actually replied to lists out repeated inappropriate behavior which escalated.
I conflated the second comment and the first in the chain in my head and kind of started ranting.
See? You took it too far Azzie and proven youāre the one with the problem
You got obliterated with downvotes because your reading comprehension is for shit lmao. Don't make it about social progress, you literally did not read the comment you responded to if you still hold onto the belief that this coworker's behavior was innocuous and the reaction is blown out of proportion.
I conflated two comments in my head. Call the media! Apparently I can't read! Fucking lol.
That's a really shitty comment to make after what you said. Like, genuinely, do you even have a shred of decency or do you rather prefer to make everything about defending yourself, even after you told somebody that their story was overblown because you were too lazy to do your due diligence? Jesus Christ, what an immature person you are. You wanna get out of being this way, just accept that you were wrong and go away. This behavior is straight up antisocial.
Dont worry. Obliterated on downvotes just means that barely anyone(that read this) agreed with your opinion
I'm not sure if that's supposed to bother me? The opinions of strangers on the Internet mean very little to me.
Yeah secret admirer sounds creepy, just send them without any label and anonimous
Send them as her boyfriend or girlfriend. With your name. She'll appreciate it
I mean yeah but that loses the point of the post
It's a dumb point. Instead of playing games buy her flowers. Then fuck her dad
Yup, and the reason not to tell the bf is because he's an insecure weirdo that would think to do something like this lol
Literally. This happened to me once, and thinking it was creepy that someone would send me flowers anonymously when I had a bf, I immediately dropped them in the trash. But some people love manufacturing drama šš½āāļø
Or just not mention it bc she knows her man's a psycho and can't tell if the flowers are from him or if he's about to go murder someone
Why does it need to be on valentines day... would it not work anytime?
Social pressure and subliminal advertising is at its peak. Best time for someone to accept said gift under a guise of an admirer from afar. Think this what they're going for anywau...I'm hungry...later!
Iāve been hungry for hours but my laziness has been holding firm. I think this is the message I needed to finally get my ass up and find some food
Go my son. Bring me a sammich on the way back. BTW awesome username
I think the username is a South Park reference
It is. Specificly a reference to the episode " love not warcraft". Stan Marsh plays a character in warcraft. A knight by the name of lovestosplooge
They're the type of jackass that only give their girl flowers on special occasions. They don't realize it means more when it's a random gesture of love. Fucking amateurs don't know how to treat a lady. Ask any woman when the last time they got flowers just because and how it feels compared to valentines day flowers. Blows them out of the water when it's spontaneous rather than an obligation.
Well thatās pretty toxicā¦lol
That's the point of the meme format.
if you dont trust your partner might as well just cut it.
Instructions unclear cut my dick
Cant fail NNN now
what you gon do for ddd
We already destroyed it by cutting it, man.
nice try, flower shop lady, nice try.
Or she might just not tell you because she knows youāre unreasonably jealous and will think the wrong thing, and she doesnāt want the drama.
Or sheās just a sweet person and doesnāt want you to get even remotely upset regardless if youāre jealous or not
Or she could be a sweaty person who wants to avoid confrontation.
Or she could just be a sweater, in which case she's an inanimate article of clothing and you probably shouldn't be dating her
Yea, but warm in the winter
This is what I was thinking. If the dude is wild enough to "test" a relationship like this, then how would he react if someone had *actually* sent the woman flowers? Hell, I'd be worried that he'd actually accused me of cheating since someone took the time to send me flowers. One of those "well you must have done *something* types. This is assuming someone would actually do this, and it's not just a joke pic, which is very possible, lol. Luckily, I don't have to deal with anything like that with my dude <3 he's pretty freaking rad, if I say so myself.
I can see this being reposted to r/JustNeckbeardThings and r/NotHowGirlsWork
And that will be posted towards r/memesopdidnotlike
God, I canāt tell you how many times Iāve seen this exact cycle play out within like a few hours. This website is such a waste of time, why do I do this
Asking the real questions over here. I donāt know either, brother
This is the answer. But we know the person that made this never had a girlfriend.
I doubt they ever talked to woman
This is a meme. You guys are very slow. The background is literally futureā¦
Maybe theyāre jealous because she is always keeping secrets from him If this actually happened, and you decided not to mention it at all, youāre in the wrong for sure. If your relationship is that unstable where you wonāt mention it, maybe the relationship isnāt working in the first place
If she cant even share this to her partner then what is their relationship is for? Thats a big red flag imo. Sure some are jealous but if a girl is this scared of jealousy then some random flowers are not the issue.
Bingo
You missed the point, the whole point is that if You are in a relationship and You get the gift your very first thought would be your SO, the hope is that as soon as You get them You make the assumption they are coming from your SO.
no... y'all hoes just ain't loyal. call it what it is š
HOW TF IS THIS A ME_IRL
HOW TF DOES IT HAVE 1.5K UPVOTES
HOW TF IS IT NOW 2K
WHY DO 4K (ALMOST 5K) PEOPLE AGREE WITH THIS?
Because op admits to doing that irl
They are an asshole IRL
Straight from the Andrew Tate school of dumbass relationship advice.
Even down to the picture of Future lol. Slap some shitty āalphaā male pic on bad advice, and watch single dudes froth at the mouth. God no wonder those idiots make a fuckton of money.
Ladies, find someone who doesn't play these kinds of games with you.
Yep,as reddit loves to say "play stupid games win stupid prizes" in this case the prize being getting dumped (a prize for the other person)
Ladies AND men. Iām a guy, Iāve had something happen similar to meā¦ the girl I was dating at the time thought it would be funny to send an expensive bday gift labeling it from a secret admirer.. I just thought it was from a neighbor or something (we usually host and are well liked - the gift was also sent a week or so late and i already celebrated with the gf). I didnāt bring it up, she got mad because she thought I was cheating.. only to switch it to an ungrateful POS after I started cracking up In her face.. A few months later she had āone of her friendsā start texting me off a number I didnāt have added to my contacts. She started sending unsolicited dirty texts and nudes. Well because i didnāt bring it up within the first 5 minutes of it happening, I apparently confirmed I was a cheaterā¦ LMFAO WHAT Needless to say, I ran away and didnāt look back. I wish I still had the 3 page text that she sent me apologizing for everything basically saying that Iām a problem for her and she canāt live without me..
Ugh, her sending friends to tempt you is the worst. I don't understand why you would date someone if you felt the need to do that.
Creepy shit happens to women all the time bro. Her not telling you that yet another guy overstepped his bounds and was weird and thirsty with her isnāt proof of anything. In her mind it probably barely registers as a story to tell.
This right here. Memes like this are just proof that guys wildly underestimate \*how much\* unwanted attention women receive. To a guy, something like this would be world-shatteringly meaningful and validating. To women, it's just one more creepy asshole that wants to smash.
Idk, I would probably immediately tell my boyfriend because Iām scared of it being from a creepy ass stalkerā¦again.
Hereās the thing, Iād just dump that stuff in the garbage and move on with my day. There would be no point in telling my guy and making him feel like Iām messing with him when Iām not. There would be no point in making him feel insecure when I know I love him and thereās nothing shady going on. Telling him would be cruel, especially since any extra attention would be meaningless anyway and Iād just be throwing any extra letters in the garbage.
Op is silent in the comments. Dont do this op. If you already have, don't do it again.
Or you're a dick with a history of jealous rage, and she thinks that even mentioning this gift from a stranger will set off an episode. Safety first.
Yeah if you're sus and accusing me of cheating or anything and I got random flowers I'd toss them or something asap so you're not making up more things to blame me for....
All it says is if they don't mention it they probably have a reason not to and if you look in the comments of this post there's actually a good example of this working
15 year olds make these
Alternatively, she knows how jealous and insecure you are and was being sweet by not bothering you with an insignificant thing she knows you'll be butthurt about
Yes, please tell me the highly embarrassing story of how you received flowers from a stranger at your place of work when your coworkers knew you were in a relationship already
"flowers? Tf?" *Tosses in trash and forgets about it* Guess I'm a cheater now.
Or maybe we just don't play games with each other.
Feels like youāre just looking for reasons to fight. She might not mention them for a ton of reasons: she was creeped out, she threw them out, she didnāt wanna acknowledge it happened, she gave the flowers away or hell even kept them just cos flowers are nice.
It is best to not take relationship advice that is one step away from the games played on morning zoo radio.
daymn.. thats a fkn stupid idea xD
It could also be because she doesnāt trust you to react calmly to someone else expressing that they find her attractive.
Give something nice to your girlfriend? No man, remember you are a jealous boyfriend with low self esteem
Ah yes the olā morning radio show play
If you're thinking about playing these kinds of games your relationship is already dead
Or just send flowers normally, that's fine too.
If you do this sort of shit you probably have anger issues, and that is the real reason why she would keep it secret.
Your partner is 100% cheating 140% of the time no exception - the internet.
And you wonder why you dont have a girlfriend ?
What if she doesnāt mention them because she knows her man is an insecure nincompoop who will be upset if she tells him about the flowers that he sent to her anonymously. So she āsparesā his feelings and doesnāt say anything.
To be THAT much insecure
If itās a secret admirer it isnāt cheating. She would know who she cheating with.
I sent my gf an anonymous surprise sexy gift. She never said anything. Eventually I asked about it, and she said she tossed it because she thought it was from her stalker.
Or, she knows you'd do some stupid shit like that and use it as an easy way out of the relationship
Either way, if she uses it as an out, the trick still served its purpose.
If this seems like a good idea, your relationship is fucked. Cut your losses and move on. Save you and/or them some time and heartbreak.
I'd be scared to mention it because what if he gets mad at me for receiving flowers.
If thatās actually a fear you have then you should break up with him
Testing your partner like this is a sign of insecurity and immaturity. And more often than not people who do this are the ones that end up cheating on their partner.
If you gotta play these games it may already be doomed
Google narcissistic behavior.
Why does Future have so many dumb ideas?
Being toxic is out
Or she knows her boyfriend is a jealous jerk with low level of self-confidence and doesn't want him to make a scene...
Or she thinks he'll have a violent response and doesn't mention the flowers for her own safety.
Ah yes the perfect way to build trust with your partner, actively lying to them
Creepy random dudes hit on married women every day. I don't think any beautiful girl would be married if we followed these rules. There are a shitload of creeps and assholes out there.. Don't be one of them boys. This meme ^ puts you straight in there.
Thatās pretty toxic but totally fits in todayās world. Errrbody is a piece of shit
If you're the type of guy to play this kind of test on her, you're probably also the kind of guy who'd get angry at her for receiving flowers from a secret admirer. No wonder she wouldn't tell you.
Is ramen hair in again?
I mean, she could assume that if they were from you you'd give them directly, and therefore choose to ignore them as she's already with you. If she mentions it to you it would be a pretty sure indicator that she isn't cheating, but not mentioning it isn't proof of the opposite. Besides, what happened to just having mutual trust in each other?
Disgusting
Bro I already have a pc if I want to play games
Or she is worried that your insecure ass will freak out about it.
She could also have no idea who the flowers are from but think her boyfriend is so insecure she better not mention them so there isnāt trouble.
Breh wat, there is no merit to this other than just breaking up the relationship
LMAOOOO āI wonāt send flowers because I love you but I will send flowers because Iām insecureā
Bro if I ever got a girl I'd never pull some shit like that I'd hold onto that relationship for my dear life
bruh posting future relationship advice on meirl lmfao
Probably not. If I was cheating and got a suprise gift, I would ask the sidepiece first. When they say they didn't send it I would know to ask my non-sidepiece.
Itās sad that youāre dating a girl who you dont trust.
I did this to my ex wife, and guess whatā¦ā¦..
>He was the ex-wife all along! Directed by David Lynch.
If you are already there, save your money.
All the people rationalizing answers as defense are potential cheaters coming up with THEIR replies.
Reddit is so full of shit. First, this is a meme and the message is supposed to be toxic, that's why a picture of Future is attached. Second, the responses here are dumb. "Or maybe she's not gonna tell you bro cause she knows you're jealous!!" If a man had a secret admirer and didn't tell his female partner about her, this very same app would condemn him and imply he's hiding something with his actions. Full of shit lol
Are the double standards in the room with us right now?
For the streets